That’s right ladies. Nothing is achieved with desperation for a relationship. I mean NOTHING. Ask me how I know… If he doesn’t want a relationship, marriage, abstinence until marriage, etc. keep it moving. If he tryna erode your boundaries, keep it moving. If he tryna control subtlety or aggressively, keep it moving. Live your life. You had purpose outside of a man before you were born. Brain, Brand, Body. Remember, you always have value. Don’t let the enemy tell you different.
I've been doing work for the past 3 years to heal myself from the mental wounds of pornography, the toxic ideology of the "red pill" nonsense, and getting back into prayer and studying the word deeply and applying it to my life. I wanted to undo all the damage that I had done to myself years prior. I found an amazing woman and I'm happy to say that I've made that woman my fiance. We're looking to buy land in North Carolina later next year and build a home there. All praises
So happy for you and your future wifey! God is so good, he gives us second chances, third, fourth, several, to return back to him. God bless you and your family 🙏
Tony is single-handedly shifting the culture. Every person online or doing a podcast it’s literally quoting Tony word for word. Regarding relationships love and marriage . 😮❤ a strong black man’s influence.!!!!!!!!
Sure Is but won't shift their podcasts dialogue to Bare Truth🙄 However, if they are listening in private the seed Is still being planted. I do Thank God for this 🙏🏽
As a woman, he's right, we need to stop being so desperate and settling for whoever. In a way settling for a man who isn't a man of God just shows how much we lack trust and faith in God. Psalm 37:4 "Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart."
if a man may say he wants marriage too but his actions tell you different women need to walk away. A woman should not spend the next 10-20 years of her life trying to convince a man that they should be married. Tony G once again teaching rhe truth with his words of wisdom 🙏🙏🙏
Since I've been saved and abstinent the past 10yrs, I've been told by a few men and women that no man my age(54) will wait until marriage to have sex. What they don't understand is that I serve an awesome God! He will bless me with a man who's after God's own heart, who'll understand and respect my decision! If God blessed Sarah with a baby at age 90, surely he'll bless little ole' me with my Boaz! I want to date with purpose. I want to date the marrying kind! If he's not the marrying kind, he needs to get out of the way so the marrying kind can approach me!
Girl I am in that same position 52 and single for a decade and I refuse to sleep with a man until I say I do, one person told me that it won’t happen but I serve a God who will make it happen
Ladies he's correct. In 2020 the guy I was with (for a year) left me because I wouldn't have sex with him. We caught up in 2023. He was single the entire time. For three years he went without sex but he refused to wait until we were married. Thank you Tony for your wisdom.
Sis I hate to break it to you but if he told you that he didn’t have sex for three years…..that man lied to you. Especially since he was trying to pressure you for sex.
There are lots of women willing to give it up. It’s nice to think that a man would wait for 3 years but realistically he probably won’t wait 3 weeks. Sorry but I would bet good money he lied to you.
I just curbed a man who came back in my inbox years back after ghosting me, STILL having the nerve to come at me sexually and disrespectfully. I curbed his pathetic ass and I’m so proud of myself. If a man spins back around wanting to “ hang out “… BLOCKEDT!
He's right. If he wants sex tell him he got to pay the down payment on child support. Whatever it costs to keep you paid for 9 months and costs of diapers etc for the total number of years you plan on being stay at home mother.
9:21 “..When the Lord want to burn something down he can come over there and burn that down, and the rest of us we’ll be fine..” lol!!😂 Tony is a natural comedian!!😂😂😂
Although I wasn’t in a relationship, a grown boy told me that “if we weren’t having sex then what were we doing” but then turn around and tell me that his next relationship God has to be the center of it.
Came here for some tough love, lol. I know I’m not the target demographic here, but told my dad I call Tony my pastor as he is one of the few we can count on to speak the truth out here 🫶
I was truly not ready for the “bust that thing wide open” comment. I was eating sunflower seeds and immediately spit them out before i choked from laughing.
Everything Tony saying is true and he's not the first person to say any of this. Women are very aware of the games being played however are mentally stuck in "if i just stay positive it can't happen to me mode" and the fellas are having a field day.
I needed this 16 yrs ago😢 but now my son is 16 and a virgin and we talk to him about keeping his purity for marriage ( which is obsolete) for today’s youth. Speak to the teens if you have a chance to make a video , please Tony. My son told me last night that he has a girl. His dad and I told him he is not to be alone ever with this young lady. And to treat her like a friend. They have been friends since the 9th grade.
I love how Tony walks around his house and office, runs errands, and etc but still finds time to talk to us and get us in check. Like a close friend on FaceTime 😂. Thanks Tony 😊
Very well said. I wish I had a man sit me down and have this conversation a lot sooner. Ladies, he is not lying. The younger you are, the better it is for you to take heed to this advice
Tony I live my life like this. If the Lord has for me to have children and be married I’ll be so delighted! But I refuse to have sex prior to being married and I refuse to be a single mother. Trick is, this works when all/ most women OPT IN. Sad thing is my friends that have been having sex since 16 are still not married. So sex is not a determining factor to marriage . I went through all college + no sex. Now those same friends are celibate because at some point it doesn’t feel right to be giving your body away and not be in a covenant . At some point women who believe in GOD begin to feel convicted and change their ways. I got a friend that been dating a man for 10 years not married. I’m to fearful to live in sin like that and the man for me shouldn’t want me to! I won’t respect that type of leadership. If that were me, I would feel like He doesn’t think I’m worthy to marry yet in hindsight I’m willing to burn in hell over him! THAT SCARES ME. What men do is find someone who will have sex and not marry them either. Same thing with married men, if women were not willing to sleep with a married man they wouldn’t be able to move like that! I’m happy because I want my relationship with Christ to fulfill and sustain me. You know what’s actually making it easier, the red pill and current state of men. It’s so sad and actually scary that I will absolutely not get involved in the current state of affairs. If a man is not seeking TMH and living a life to please HIM he’s not a man I want to marry because I don’t want to marry to divorce and I don’t want his leadership- it’s not a match. Ive heard every excuse, blue balls, gotta test drive the car, sexual compatibility may not be there, I’ve been hearing this since high school. Notice a man doesn’t mention sexual compatibility to a virgin- he got all the patience to teach in the world. I’m okay and y’all will be aswell. I want to see our people come out of sin.
Tony, I truly thank the Lord for giving you the kind of Wisdom that we as women need for our protection. There are so many WOLVES IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING, who are trying to take down Women of God, and we need this type of insight to discern wicked Spirits.
You preached today!!! I dated a very handsome guy in his 40s who had never been married yet he had a child. It didn’t work out but i truly feel like he was DL.
Your content has been helping me, especially since I am exclusively dating. Dating without physical intimacy is amazing, you can really see him for who he is and vice versa.
I have learned a lot Tony since subscribing to your channel and take in your words of wisdom and knowledge! I'm proud to say, I've been abstinent for over 3 years and it's not easy, but to God be the glory gives me the strength to be patient until my husband arrives.
Agree 1000% although i thank God I am the guy who never had the girl looking at him in school didn’t break my virginity until 24 and I didn’t grow up in two parent household and really never had a relationship with my dad until like 2 years ago and I’m 30 years old but I’ve always desired marriage and a family I hate to see vulnerable women even on movies knowing it’s not real. Coming into the faith of holiness and understanding Gods perspective on marriage and how he don’t want us unequally yoked and hates divorce it has caused me to slow down and rationalize my seeking. I’m a single man in a courtship that I’ve been in over 6 months and I listen to you my brother keep it coming even though I believe myself to be a good man before listening to you.. also I agree no such thing as bad sex if you know what you’re doing just being real.. love this video and message my brother
Tony, I appreciate you letting God use you and for taking the time to explain these things to us ladies who are willing to listen. I’m 44 years old, and a lot of this information I could have really used when I was in my 20s. But I can’t think of any man who is patient and transparent enough to give us the game and tell it like it is. Older men in my family would throw hints about what you’re talking about, but never spelled it out like you do. I hope these ladies are listening and taking in what you’re saying, because this advice can help us avoid a lot of trouble and drama.
AN ISLAND😂😂😂NEAR COLORADO😅😂😂 smh ur funny Tony. I know ur not even trying to be funny but ur delivery is very funny! Ha Ty for ur msg🙏🏽much appreciated
You’ve really got to be strong to understand and listen without getting offended so you can learn. This should be motivation to do better. Thanks Tony!
Bro. Tony you don't cut no slack!😂😂 You said: 😅Just get you an island and go cohabitat have sex and make babies!. You cutting them with the sword of the word. You didn't leave no one out! 64 divorced just living a righteous life of celibacy. It's been time to get right or get left. Single don't mean settle. Alone don't mean lonely. Divorced don't mean desperate! Praying for my people to get right! Keep speaking the truth you are living! Hebrews 4:12 [12]For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.❤
Create you a system - almost like a risk - assessment!!!!! Risk management, risk aversion , what does control indicate, what does smoking indicate, what does jealousy indicate!!! Tony you are a genius!!! MAJOR KEY alert ladies!!!! Do not sleep on this!!!😊
As soon as a man say something like I’m just going with the flow. I delete cus I ain’t for you. I’m a Christian and I want to be married. If that’s in Gods will for me.
I heard not one lie being told in this video!!! I used to be her…desparado😮💨I’m part of that 10% Tony so please keep the videos coming!!! God Bless You!!
Hi, Tony I just finished listening to your video. I love your directness when you are breaking down what needs to be said. I'm dating a guy who has all the grown man qualities that you desire in a future husband. Dec 3rd made a year that we have been dating. I do believe that dating longer is not a bad thing. But it gives you and the man you are dating the time you need to mature as a couple. God is the head of our lives, and family is very important to both of us. We both slipped up once. But we both also realized that we want the same thing, MARRIAGE. So we are keeping it 100. NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. Point Blank Periodod!! Tony, I'm % that listens to you. I appreciate you, and have a blessed Monday🙏🏽🙏🏽
Exactly 💯💥🔥. Take it from experience here. Then there is the fact that ppl shouldn't just judge a book by the cover. There are a lot of confused ppl out there indeed.
Thank you Tony. Just last week my boyfriend almost had me but I was remembering your talks and said no. He knows that he needs to get me the marriage certificate, the wedding ring, display his providing for me during dating and go the whole nine yards.
Learned the game from you Tony, years ago you had a video of how women need to keep their legs closed, I was so convicted but I was so thankful for a mature Unc to speak truth to the youth 🤗
Thank you Tony! I’m listening, I’m learning and I’m growing. I’ve grown so much as a woman, as a mom to a son and a child of God since finding your videos. Your work is needed and appreciated. God bless to you and your family!
As a man i don't agree with everyhing Tony says but he is on point right here. For the right woman a man will not want to sleep with her right away so that they get to know eachother, but if turns out she has more bodies than a morgue it will feel like he got duped. Men want a woman that is selective, if he finds out he is the sucker he is gonna leave.
@motorbreath22 and a good woman don’t want a player either. If I found out you had too many bodies it’s over ….it’s just as disgusting to a good woman for a man who is a womanizer. All men who’ve approached me was expecting sex right away and that was a turnoff…they didn’t even know me. I immediately told them I wasn’t interested because they expected sex without getting to knowing me. They can leave.. that saved me from future problems. I won’t compromise my standards for someone who’s intentions was never the same as mine. I’d rather be single
Fair enough, but for the most part a woman doesn't care about a man's past, no money no honey is always the name of the game with a lot of women. Men care about the past, we aren't the same so we have different standards for each other. Most women don't care about a man's past conquests. Keep up with your standards if they benefit you, may the odds be ever in your favor.
As women we want to love and give so we have sex with you because we know that is important to you, back then I did not know that men can sleep with women without loving her , now that I know better and learned more about men , if he does not wait he can leave I don't care how he feels or how much he needs it.
My God🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾Tony you dropped soooooo many gems💯💯💯You are so amazing & trust me we are listening! I thank God for where He brought me from because I was that person in the past who fornicated, not knowing my worth & value, being with people who I should have never been with in the 1st place thinking that I needed to sleep with that person for them to choose me🙄🙄I thank God for growth, doing the inner work & healing & also following Tony for years. I told God back 8n 2019 that I was rededicating my temple to Him & I am saving myself for my husband which means my wedding night & my NEXT will definitely have to be from Him because I am not giving myself to no one again that’s not my husband. It’s not worth the soul ties & all those spirits going inside of you. Thanks again Tony!!
Thank you Tony I have lived a life lost after my mother passed I was in my early twenties! Now I have been watching your videos and listening to become a better more aware woman and for marriage! You help me tremendously please keep up the good work God Bless you 😊Katie
ITS BEEN 15 plus years I have known my keepsake👑and 6 years apart from each other and I LLLOVE MY KEEPSAKE FOR HIM HIS SMILE, HIS CHARACTER, THE GOD IN HIM AND THERE IS MORE AND MY BRAIN😂IS IN LOVE WITH MY PRECIOUS SPOUSE TO.
