The Stages of a Failed Relationship | Compilation 

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Happy Valentine's day 😂

00:00 ad teaser 00:12 intro 00:26 physical similarities attraction 04:39 36 q's and mutual openness 09:42 winter = cuffing season 15:18 ad segue: skill share *1st 1K dooblidoo link -> 1 mnth free* 15:54 the codependency problem 20:19 Valentine's Day break-ups 26:26 ghosting 30:53 good brain = ratio *+ emotio* 37:08 outro 37:24 ad trailer

I've been in a relationship for 18 years we where polar opposites. I'm a street kid blue collar hard working guy who doesn't believe in soul mates. Lost my family my sister died my brother ran away so did my dad. My mom turned into a depressed wreck (obviously and understandably).Then I unfortunately did bunch of drugs slept with a bunch of women just the worst. I end up isolating myself for years sobered up went celibate. Then I meant Harmony she never did drugs never had sex finished high school and went to college. We grew up in the same place and knew mostly the same people but lead different lives. We got to know each other and finally was intimate after 11 months. She got pregnant and had our first child then six years later had our second. We got married after that and three years later had our third and last. Today I'm a extreme shut in and don't use social media and she's the complete opposite using ever platform on the planet lol. But even to this day I'm still unsure of everything but being left and abandoned like I was I would never want my wife or my children to go through what I went through so I'm willing to go to distance not for me but for them. Have a great day peace.

Whoever wrote that ‘Jordan and Andy’ script was genius in avoiding gender issues.

Love should be freely given, never done out of obligation.

YAY for another fix of SciShow Psych! Even if we only get occasional videos or compilations, I'm super happy for any additional ones we can get

"Jordan and Andy's relationship didn't work out. But look, most relationships don't work out!": True words of comfort! 😂

Thankfully I've never had a failed relationship. I was smart enough to avoid getting in one in the first place.

I thought you guys were done posting to SciShow Psych? I'm grateful either way!!!!!

me being an aromantic: interesting... kinda personally wished there were more studies which would analyse how *not* feeling initial romantic attraction would affect relationship dynamics but I also know how difficult it would be to find enough open aromantic people for studies. at least without looking explicitly for them on subreddits like r/aromantic that is and asking them to participate in an online survey

On physical similarities attraction & genetically similar couples: Did the study account for ethnicity? People traditionally marry within their ethnicity, esp if they are from a small town or other side isolated community. That could explain all the study’s findings.

I got broken up on Valentine's Day. Thank you for this video, SciShow 🥺

i feel extremely called out for how that relationship formed/failed lmao and yes emotions are helpful if you listen to them! Like, if you're feeling stressed, that might mean balance in your life is out and you should look to make it more suitable/enjoyable for yourself, or your stress might just give you the adrenaline you need to finish writing an assignment due tomorrow - they aren't your enemy and don't be afraid to let yourselves feel :)

I appreciate you for your inclusion Hank. ❤️

i like it when they are informative/talking while there is a text and that they read/speak it with a good but to a certain degree bodylanguage and face expressions,,,,,,, i thank you and apreciate for the efforts for making those vids, cause it makes it easier to understand while multitasking on what is on the screen and listening to the narrators,,,,

Thanks for the NB names. It did not go unnoticed

*FRIENDLY REMINDER* | Don't make excuses for your failures; instead, improve upon them and seek recognition for your successes.

Haven't finished the video but I appreciate the unisex names lmao

PSYCH IS BACK!!! (For this video anyway)

I think valentines day is cursed for me, the last 2 years alone.. Arrested last year on the 14th because of a false report by my gf at the time.. This year, different girl, dumped.. today 🤣🤣

I missed this channel!

I think that the ability to discern correct from incorrect at a rational/logical level can itself be considered an emotion on which we can and do base decisions all the time. That 'makes sense' vs 'doesnt make sense' discernment is associated with brain regions such as the dACC, which is also involved in the experience of both physical and social pain.

That's why so many people I know in the donor-conceived community have near-miss stories where they almost dated someone who turned out to be their half-sibling. It's unnervingly common for us to be attracted to our half-siblings, so not great that we aren't able to know who they are, especially since most of us don't know that we're donor-conceived and should be wary.

I remember I had a boyfriend, and I swear he was a clone of me. He had the exact same interests as me. If he just got into art and Nintendo, then he’d be just like me

Yay Scishow Psych!!!

I love this

I just had a shot of worcestershire sauce now i feel not good

hooking up with a partner who looks like yourself could be called the 'Hillbilly=Effect' for obvious reasons!

Bahahaha I’m autistic, doesn’t matter how much we have light conversation, if we don’t share core values, I will not want to partner with you 😂😂😂😂

That part with the combined images is creepy once you realize their kids will prolly look like that 😳🤨

Happy Valentine's Day.

5:20 that was a good way to deflect with bodylanguage and face expression that moves towards (im backing away from it) vibe to it while saying the right words after the about the death question(wasnt thinking of the text much but brought up for a short moment other things in my mind that i have seen and been thru), 5:12.. thanks :)

Idk?? about this because my sons dads do not look like me at all. However, sometimes this can happen. 😎 Thanks for the informative information.

Because of this video the next time i see captain marvel on the big screen I'll always have in mind "she taught me so much about failed relationships!"

Psych is the best

36:30 Wait how did they overlap those?!?

I love her wardrobe changes at least 5.

Me a virgin: hmmmm interesting

Happy Singles Awareness Day 😻

Happy halloween

I'm not an emotional person at all, I rarely, if ever, cry over life, but I do cry at movies. Even if they aren't too sad ... 🤔

Psychobabble galore! 😂

All I want for valentines days is the same thing i want for everyday, help with the house work and sometimes take over the cooking

I thought this channel was done with new videos???

Thank you so much for choosing gender neutral names, it made me so happy!

Is the diagram at 29:46 wrong or completely missleading? The diagram doesn't look like something is 63% more

Interesting statistics and studies. Also, it's cute that researchers gave a name for believers in "someone else should do the work"; _Destiny_

My ex asked for a divorce a week before valentine's day. It was a very bad Valentine's Day for me that year. And now I can hardly stand the thought of even dating again. I don't want to become so reliant on someone and then have them cast me aside. I also don't want to get my heart broken again. He asked for a divorce in 2016. I'm currently 36, guess by the time I recover, if I ever do, It'll be too late to have a family.

But i have always been attracted to people who look completely different from me (the opposites attract approach)-and I thought this was the norm!

A big issue here, tho: "Partner" -- that's a Big word. Just because you're seeing each other and excited, doesn't make you Partners [in life]. Utilizing the term too loosely may sound like splitting hairs -- but it can tend to lead things astray utilizing it, thus connecting dots to trends that really don't fit, thus, making you believe inaccurate conclusions. For instance: Ghosting [Life] Partners? No explanation, poof, gone? No. That's a rarity. Although on dating-conversation sites, you'll see the word "Partner" used too loosely, when it was someone they were merely dating and calling them a boyfriend or girlfriend wasn't so applicable -- thus, giving you the wrong idea that it happens a lot with [Life] Partners. To project the right idea, one will want to classify different 'categories' which bring different results. You can say this video does go into segments, but not really. See in the 1st segment -- you guessed it -- it was referring to "Partners" when it dealt with initial attraction.

Lol, expectations...... After 34 yrs This morning I said happy valentines day Husband said.... it is? Huh, Love you 😜 luv u too

I've never heard of "cupping season" but I automatically assumed it was because it was short for "coupling season" i.e. "coup'ing season".

Wonder if the microscopic world has failed relationships too ;)

I’m 21 and I never had a valentines

I am not attracted to people who look like me at all.

Just watching the first 1.5 minutes be like “SWEET HOME ALABAMA!!”

😢

my first gf ever i broke up with on V day lolol

I pity the poor women who looks like me.

I don't want to look like my man - How utterly absurd! I'm a lady, I do ladies' things!

Another factor to consider about people being attracted to other people who look like them is that people generally like better what is familiar, so it might not be about genetics at all, but what is familiar! (or more likely a combination of the two)

hank seems sad in this one

DSM book 5

Platonic ain’t it, I’m trying to sweat 😅

Hmm, I and one of my sisters were born in January.

They really need to do actual research into how harmful close relation relationships really are. Everything Ive seen is tainted by bias or the church.

Sus

There is no such thing as a failed relationship. I hate that word.

I broke up with an old ex of mine on Valentine's Day. He sucked lol.

FAILentines Day !

IS THAT MAMRIE HART???

Amogus

My partner is completely different to me, in age, culturally, ethnically

the term “cuffing season” is aave… not pop culture

Why not Psy Show?

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What a sad topic for Valentine’s Day smh

I was once ghosted by a gf. She behaved like a total psychopath and disappeared from one day to another and without any previous words of advice. Months later, after giving it a lot of thought and doing some research trying to understand why she left me in such an unhuman way, I realized she had been going out with another guy for a long time. She just changed partner without telling me! Now I am way more analytical and demanding when trying to find a new partner. I will die alone or else in the company of an extraordinary female.

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This may be difficult to prove in a homosexual relationship though? I don’t find people who look like me as attractive

I never knew the SciShow became the PseudoSciShow.

QUESTION:didn't you guys say you guys were NOT going to use this channel in 2022?

“Cuffing” is an AAVE term. “Cuffing season” is an AAVE phrase. This came from my dialect. Please properly cite the true source and honor the people you got your terms from. Thanks!

Are... Are the neurotypicals okay?

Andy is literally the first black host I've ever seen on any Scishow episode, and I had to wait 20 minutes to see him Like, wtf Hank. Do better

In short only date within your race and attractiveness level. Make sure you have similar goals and educational backgrounds and boom! Successful relationship. I agree with this honestly especially the part they did not say about sticking in your own race in a relationship.

Seems like this kind of stuff is the reason psychology is considered a 'soft science'. Glad I didn't waste my time studying it.

There’s nothing troubling about that song. Just in leftist’s minds

Poor taste in your timing, Scishow.

Still searching for an explanation of what happened in my recently failed relationship. Can’t get any answers from my ex, except to say that: A). She feels I ignored her “requests” (her word). I have combed back through WhatsApp to try and uncover what she means by these (she’s never sent me a letter, and I obviously can’t rely on my memory); all I can find is her asking me to “take the reins” and, when I made subsequent efforts to arrange time together, she never made herself available. B). Communication from her began to fizzle out. When finally responding to a direct appeal from me as to what had changed, what was going on, how she felt, she said she’d “run out of ways” to communicate with me - well she didn’t - she basically stopped. C). She said we don’t understand each other. True. Difference is, I kept wanting to try. D). Again, only after a direct appeal from me for an explanation from her, she came out with the bombshell piece of news, she’s dating again. This comes about a week after she sent a brief message apologising that she forgot my birthday three weeks earlier. E). All throughout our relationship, even before I moved cities to live nearby, I would be the one to initiate conversations and check in with her, seeing how her day / week was going and asking for news, arranging time to spend together. She asked me to move near her, after we’d spent months only seeing each other at weekends. I now live a few streets away, and for months it’s been nigh on impossible to get time with her even for a cup of tea. I think I have some sort of attachment issue that can account in part for how things have turned out. I am the flower-sending, cake-baking, gift-giving, cuddle-loving demonstrative type. I bonded quickly with my ex’s daughter, who I miss terribly. I’m also a pain in the arse. Fear has dogged my life for years, I work hard in a low-pay job during the day and yet have proven talents in performance that I haven’t fully been bold enough to work with and mould into a proper career. My family history involves nearly being made a ‘ward of court’ as an infant due to my parents’ struggles, the trauma of losing a sibling in an RTA (I witnessed it) as a small boy, behavioural problems and academic disappointments at school and later college, parents suffering clinical depression and bipolar and going through a messy, bitterly fought divorce. All the usual fun stuff. Perhaps I’ve allowed myself to operate on autopilot for too long, but I plan from hereon in to live life with my eyes open and in better awareness of whatever complications I and my assumptions/ programming can bring to situations, as far as I can. I’m going to try and embrace discomfort and fear, draw a line under the past and work on looking after myself better. Any future relationship can only benefit from the work I put in, even if I can do nothing to salvage or heal the one I’ve just been informed I have been cut adrift from.