trans memes be like 

Yesterday I was hanging out in VRchat (a social media in VR that acts like an mmo or something) and some dudes heard my voice and were like, "Yo, I can't tell if you're a boy or a girl-" and I laughed nervously cause I thought I was in danger. I was like, "Actually, I'm nonbinary." And instead of being harassed, the dudes were just like, "Ah, so they/them orr? Cool." I was so shocked but also really happy.

I’m a cis gay male but I watch creators like Ty because I’m curious about the trans experience and don’t want to bother my trans friends with questions. Also he’s hot af.

Ty: my ass had a beard before I did... Ty: now onto today's sponsor I don't know why I find this so funny

The monkey original I think is “reject humanity return to monke”. That said I love the idea that there is no reason why it’s an orangután giving you the hrt

can't wait for a plot twist type story like: You meet a girl, she seems standoffish. you mention somewhere in conversation that you're trans, and she just literally beams and says, "Oh, sweet, me too!" and you end up spending the rest of the interaction sharing experiences and having fun.

I was wearing boxers at age 14 because they were comfortable, damnit. Didn't really fully come out until last year at age 30. So, I wore boxers for 16 years before coming out lol

Me and my bf have both experienced women changing their attitudes towards us when we mention being queer. Which I probably do too. And I agree I'm torn! I love that women feel more safe and comfortable around me given my experience. But also it sometimes comes off like "oh thank goodness you're not a REAL man!"

Cis women have completely changed their attitude towards me, but I'm not trans, I'm just a gay guy. I have a few stories of cis women I knew who were kinda distant and cold when I talked to them until they found out I was gay and then instantly became super friendly. I'm not sure if it's because they found me being gay endearing or something, or if they feel they just cannot let their guard down around straight cis guys, but I wouldn't blame them if it's the latter.

Also, I started T three weeks ago at the age of 29 and I'm so chuffed. Woo!

„Don’t fixate on the fact that they’re trans” As a person with ADHD who has trans friends, thank you for that reminder. I tend to talk waaay too much about something if I find it interesting, without thinking how it affects other people

I’d be interested to see more opinions/discussion on the change of attitude from women who think a man is cis to when they realise that man is trans. I think cis women tend to feel more comfortable around trans men because trans men can sympathise/empathise with some experiences cis women have. Generally I find that transgender people of all identities tend to be more considerate of misogyny/sexist behaviour and actively work within themselves to not threaten women or hurt them in that way- not that cis men can’t/don’t do the same, though. Definitely something for me (AFAB and questioning my gender identity) to think about at least when treating men…

The monkey one is a riff on a n*zi meme (Reject Modernity, Embrace Tradition) which people started parodying by making the embrace tradition part a monkey or a caveman or that picture of the fish starting to walk on land. People also liked to parody it with gay and trans stuff because they think/know it would massively bother the people who came up with the slogan

F'ing gospel. Pre transition (mtf) the amount of times I had super negative interactions with women was mind blowing. Post transition feels like being a movie star, women are so nice it freaks me out a little.

I'm a cis lady, but I'm not The Cis (tm.) One of my adult kids is trans and on T. I started watching trans content to learn, so I could be a better ally and advocate. I'm definitely here on purpose! 😄 Ty, you're an impressive young man. Keep up the good work! 🙏💙💗🤍💗💙

I just came out to my brother as gay and genderfluid (if that makes any sense). He used to be EXTREMELY Anti-LGBTQIAP+ but he educated himself thoroughly and he is a really good ally now. He says he fully accepts me and I feel so happy.

11:18 - as a transwoman, I have been guilty of this, even initially with a coworker friend of mine whom I have the closest relationship with in my organization because we are both trans. I think it comes from a conditioned survival response for femmes to mistrust anyone with a predominantly masculine presentation (for obvious societal reasons) but then the permission/ability to let down one’s guard when they find out that the man across from them also comes from a place of marginalization, and having had shared similar experiences with them. Unfortunately, it’s hard to separate the, “oh you’re one of the fellow marginalized” response from the erasing, “oh, you’re one of the GRRLLZZ” and it doesn’t minimize the harm from being on the receiving end of that treatment.

I‘m actually gonna answer the questions in the video lmao. First: ass hair. If you don‘t care about it and it doesn’t bother you, don’t shave or even trim it. If it bothers you, trim or wax or even get it laser removed, don’t shave. Shaving is so dumb. I applaud anyone who does it regularly but imo it’s way too much effort and too uncomfortable except for the day you shave. Next: have I ever had an experience with a woman changing attitude when they know I’m trans. Yes, absolutely! I personally don’t fault them for it because a lot of trans guys share similar horror stories with women when it comes to cis men. Like, I was socialised as a girl meaning I am always cautious being out late at night etc. And I guess it makes sense that a woman would feel more comfortable around someone who knows how it feels to be in that role even if that person wasn’t the real me. I just hope we get to a point where men get their shit together so we can all be uncomfortable around each other equally :p

To answer the question about a sudden change in attitude; I (cis female) would definitely feel more relaxed and comfortable around a guy if I knew he was guy or trans or, to a lesser extent, in a committed relationship, because there's less risk of my behavior being interpreted as an invitation to hit on me or be overly familiar, which is something that Does make me very nervous. Also, parallel to that, I'd feel more comfortable being myself around a guy if I knew he was trans because I know how people who are socialized as male can go their whole lives without ever having to relate to a female human, so I would assume that a trans guy would be less likely to see me/ a female person as an object or weird subhuman like some guys definitely do. All that said, I definitely don't think people should be rude or demeaning to guys, especially when you don't even know then. I would understand distance or caution though- friendliness is often interpreted as flirting, which can put you in danger.

13:19 (Big comment about my thought on cis women relaxing once they find out I'm ftm) I've personally had two very different outcomes when (specifically) cis women find out I'm trans and I think it stems from how they contextualize "trans" as a whole. They either become more comfortable around me because they understand that for a majority of my life I've been socialized the same way they have and that we can have a unique mutual understanding even though I'm a guy. The other, shittier situation is when after hearing that I'm trans, women relax around me because I'm "basically one of them." These two reactions may even have the same reasoning at the end of the day, so I think what it must boil down to is their personal understanding of gender theory? ie. "This person was born female so they understand what it's like to live like I do and I don't have to be hyper aware just because I'm talking to a man right now" VS "This person was born female and because we've shared so many life experiences I can just think of them as a hairier, stinkier girl" You can really only tell which is which when one starts to misgender you because (whether they realize it or not) they've recontextualized you as "not really a man."

My favourite is when I’m told I’m mansplaining about things to do with my own reproductive health. Sometimes they switch when I say I’m trans, sometimes they double down and just show themselves up as a complete asshole. But yeah I have v mixed feelings because I don’t like being seen as a threat or as ‘that guy’, but I also don’t like being treated like I’m not just a guy. It’s a catch 22.

I've noticed that people are sometimes surprised to find out I'm trans. That's always kinda nice to the ego. Recently, someone I'm acquainted with and see regularly said that she thought I was trying to look like a girl, referring to how I dress. I have long hair, sometimes wear jewelry, shorts, pinks, etc. One instance where someone treated me differently after finding out I'm trans: TW: Mental Health, Abuse I was staying at the mental hospital for a little while. Considering the setting, I knew at some point I might be around someone who was wary of men. Sure enough, I met a non-binary individual who felt very uncomfortable around men, due to their personal history. They shared this with me after we had group, apologizing if they seemed standoffish or anything. It's not something they had to apologize about, but I appreciated that it's something they struggle with and were working on. I told them that I'm trans, if it at all helped them feel more at ease. They told me they had no idea and that it helped. There was a definite change in demeanor after that. Probably the most uncomfortably flattered I've felt about passing haha

i used to think you could only be trans if you were transhet - turns out i was wrong and i'm as queer as ever !!! 🏳️‍🌈 :D

Ty is one of the trans guys I look up to as a new positive model of modern masculinity.

I feel like the women changing their attitudes might make sense. I think, after growing afab, I definitely have a lot more fear of men than I should. Or maybe even slightly reasonable, given things I've experienced myself. Of course not every man is going to assault you, but it's still scary to think 'what if I made this man angry at me?' because you could end up paying a heavy price for it. With that in mind, sometimes the fear can make you act out a bit. Around trans men though, it's different. Not because they don't seem like men (they do and are) but with them, they understand what it's like to be afab. They understand being sexually harassed at young ages for having afab puberty, and they understand being talked down to in a certain way meant to shut women up. Because of their understanding, women are able to trust trans men more to not hurt them. Trans men are the safe heavens within masculinity. (I'm trans nonbinary, but did identify as a trans man for about a year, and most of my friends are afab like me.)

for the meme saying women treat you different when you tell them youre trans, i was having an argument with someone about something related to periods (i forget what exactly) but they said something along the lines of "oh, you must be a man" so i said that im a trans man (to show that i do still understand the matter quite well. much more than i even wish to.) and they replied again trying to somehow belittle me by saying that i act like such a cis guy... i dont think she realizes that THAT is all i want in this world. to be a freakin cis guy. going through social transition and having to wait and save up to go on hormones and to get very invasive surgeries arent my idea of fun hun. other people can use that money and time with an awesome gaming system or a car or whatever, but i gotta focus on making myself how i shouldve been born. its not fun. and in the meantime, im constantly stewing away in a constant pot of dysphoria. ya, comparing me to a cis guy is by far the best insult i could possibly get, so ty

Cis lesbian here, trans people are often the funniest people and often have the most interesting and open world views. (Not all the time, I know.) I just find comfort in trans creators in general since half of my friends are trans.

My heart exploded with joy when they started making boxers "for women" and I could get them without Mom asking questions

When I find out a man is trans, I'm like oh, you understand oppression, ok cool we live in the same reality. Aand you've probably experienced some form of harassment so hopefully you're less likely to make my next few minutes miserable. Fwiw 🤷‍♀️

Cis people reacting to me being enby is always interesting, depending on which end of the binary they assume I was before. It's either they go from hostile to friendly, friendly to hostile, or ambivalent to obsessive.

As a cis woman I just wanted to say something. Often if we become nicer after finding out a person is trans it is because we know what it's like to be judged and discriminated against (even if it is for different reasons) and don't want to treat others as badly as we've been treated. We also want you to feel safe because we know what it's like to not feel comfortable in certain company. I typically try to treat everyone kindly regardless but, admittedly, there have been times where I was having a bad day and was in a mood and only switched my behavior upon finding out a person that I was talking to was trans.

I never took selfies before i was out. when i was a teenager i always was like "Im not like other gurls i dont take selfies" but then i came out as non binary and started dressing more androgynous or masc and now ai take sooo many selfies. i love how andro me looks.

Not trans but a gay cis-male and I've definitely felt the "flip" before lol. Sometimes if I'm having a bad interaction with a woman I'll just casually mention my bf and the whole situation flips 180 instantly 🤣

"My adderall hasn't kicked in yet, sorry folks," sayeth Dudeliest Dude of The Most Relatable Feels. /adderall also has not kicked in yet

Regarding being treated different when people find out you're Trans; last year when JKR published her essay, I was engaging in a lot of stuff on Twitter where I was trying to be as respectful and informative as possible in defending Trans rights and debunking misinformation. I was getting a lot of rude responses from TERFs. In a few cases, it became obvious they thought I was AMAB, but when I would reveal I was actually AFAB, one person apologized and started following my Twitter, while others just "left the chat," as it were.

Dude if you are thinking of packing you could do a brand deal with axolom, they are a super good packer company and their logo is a really cute axolotl, they always giveaway packers to trans people thru Instagram as well and from what I've seen they are a super ethical company. Sorry if this is a weird comment, just thought I'd make the suggestion :)

I've had that experience (of cisgender women changing their demeanor towards me once they know I'm trans) quite often. I think it's because they feel safer around someone who's potentially experienced similar things to them & can empathise with them. To be fair, I do see why women might feel that way; I definitely use my experiences as an AFAB person to inform how I interact with others, and am very careful to be sure I don't make women uncomfortable. So personally, I don't mind that shift in attitude, as long as people don't try to label me as "one of the girls".

My sister does the "uwu protect soft boy" towards me and it drives me crazy but I try not to be too harsh about it because we didn't really get along growing up and I don't want to mess up us being friends as adults but I'm not really sure how to bring up that the way she treats me is kind of uncomfortable, especially since I'm older than she is and that was never the sort of dynamic we had when we were younger. How do you tell people politely to not treat you like a child?

I appreciate the fact that you don't show the memes in the LOWEST left area. I have a lot of issues with people putting the memes there because I have to turn the captions on and off like 600x in a video to be able to know what is being said and shown, but MOST of your memes, even when low to the left, are JUST above the caption area so I don't have to turn them on and off over and over and over 🥰

Welp, as a woman I'm usually on guard towards stranger men but only in public. I don't act overly friendly because usually they see that as an opening to hit on me and ask for my contact and urgh. If we could be friendly and leave it at that it would be great but experience has proven that not engaging is the best course of action. However in a work context or friendly gathering or whatever I treat men and women the same, because everyone has other reasons to engage then just cuz they think you're attractive. The makeup lady is probably a pain to everyone and changed her attitude because she felt bad for insinuating your life wasn't interesting. For any other women who become nicer to you once you say you're trans, they probably see you as less threatening because they think you have an understanding of the "female experience" from your past and thus would know better than to put them in a tough spot = ok to engage with.

Cis woman here having been here since very early in your transition. I remember something about you having saved up for top surgery, but then spending that on saving a dog you found on the side of the road... That hit me differently. Your energy is just something else, you're an amazing person! (my wife came out as trans 5 years ago as well, and has been on HRT ever since! We live in Arkansas as well, so... it's been a trip lol)

Personally I don’t want to be treated differently just because I’m trans. I don’t want ppl making a big deal out of it. I just want to be seen as a dude. Not as some wholesome small boi.

Cis woman here! I would personally feel more comfortable and worry less about my safety around trans men than cis men. For me, the toxic masculinity (or the power they think they have) is what makes some men intimidating. And men with trans experience, according to me, can recognize such toxic behaviors and avoid them more consciously. Both cis and trans men are 100% men, so it’s not a topic of “manhood”. Thank you for mentioning this important topic and making me question my actions, Ty! Just wanted to share my ideas on the issue x

I may never be able to get T due country shiz but these videos makes me feel like i'm right where i belong spiritually, An escapism from reality to be ignorantly happy for a bit. Thank you for existing! You bring so much joy to lil ol' struggly mcgee me and i aprecciate all the efforts you put into your videos and all the little comments during editing. Very relatable stuff. Sometimes your videos make me cry from laugher, i feel comforted. :)

I had a boss who would orient every single interaction we had about me being trans... it was extremely uncomfortable! I was 6 months on T, pre-op and I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK passes through people's heads when they ask about a trans person's SEX LIFE!?!? Had I been cis we would have never had this conversation, that's for sure. Like, bitch, you're my BOSS, are we seriously having this conversation? 🙃 smfh...

Omggg I was so happy to see Ty stumbling over his explanations and I was thinking "he isn't normally like this... right?? I love this" And then he mentioned adderall and it explained everything... MAN why do I only connect with ADHD peopleee

I'm cis male, so I find it very interesting to see how trans men experience things differently from before to after they transition. It's really cool to hear about. I've heard that trans men are taken more seriously after they transition. I've heard that women seemingly aren't taken as seriously as men, which is terrible. I don't think I treat women any less seriously than I treat men, or at least I hope I haven't come across as a jerk.

Dude all the time! When women find out I’m trans they act way different and I honestly don’t like it because they are now viewing me differently and don’t see me as totally male. It just makes me feel like they see femininity immediately and they see masculinity as bad.

the amount of confidence i gained once i started testosterone and hit around 6 months, was incredible and amazes me when i looked back. also i don’t have butt hair but so much stomach hair! oh my gosh i wish i could move it to my face

I have a sister in law who became a totally friendly, open, cool with me friend, the second she found out I was a trans woman. Before that she was guarded, cautious, tentative, judgmental! If only the world was that way more. Keep on doing the videos and don't lose the beard. You are so damn cute! (In a masculine, hot way! :) )

Ty: *trying to enjoy trans memes* Also Ty: mm, monke

Women have definitely changed their attitude after finding out I was trans but I once asked my friend what changed, and she said it was because she immediately felt safer. I only dislike it if they treat me like a girl after finding out. But I think it’s good I can make them feel safe or comfortable when they find out

Oh man, I had that change in attitude from a cis woman experience in the ER. For the first hour I was kind of put in a bed and ignored. When my nurse came to check on me she seemed annoyed that I was throwing up lol. She really didn’t seem to like me lol. To be fair it was the middle of the night. Little while later I had to have an ecq so they needed to put stickers on my chest. So I needed to undress. Took me a minute to get the words out but it turned out she reacted a lot differently than I was expecting. I mean, she instantly treated me differently. Weird facial expression change to watch, I saw the moment she connected the suicide attempt with the motivation and it was kinda sad lol. She let me keep my binder on and worked the stickers around it which made things a lot less uncomfortable. Started talking to me more directly and her body language changed.

I'm not masculine enough to have girls be salty at me for being a dude but I do get interesting reactions from cis dudes sometimes sharing that I'm trans. There's the belittling thing, but then there's some dudes that actually almost seem relieved and even interested in learning more about how we're similar and such. Like a switch, "ah, one of the bros, cool" moment.

Heteronormativity hit me so hard oml I felt like I had to like girls my whole life to be masculine but I’m gay and I realized that like 3 weeks ago and I’m still wrapping my head around it bc liking women has been a core part of who I am since I was little

That makeup artist story... I have no idea what I'd do / how I'd feel In that situation. I'm sure you handled it well though

This hasn't come up much in person, but it happens online a lot, when I'm using an account where I have my real face as my avatar. Ever since I transitioned, I get accused of 'mansplaining' or just get hostile pushback from women. If I decide to out myself and explain I'm trans, they backpedal hard and apologize profusely. It's funny but also annoying at times.

Me: *is a closeted mtf* Me watching this video: how do you do, fellow males?

I think cis women often change their behaviour when they find out someone is trans masc because like it or not in the majority of cases we have a shared life experience with them. Especially those of us who came out in adulthood and were "women" a huge chunk of our lives, most of the time we have had awful experiences at the hand of cis men, and I think they feel safer around someone who is very likely to have at least partial knowledge of what it feels like to be a woman in a very sexist world.

I have no idea if this is why Orangutan, but they are know as 'the little men of the forest'

You are my comfort character

Im a trans woman fairly early in my journey. My assigned gender at birth is still apparant especially if im not putting in effort to looking good that day. Women's reception towards me is usually distant until my transition is obvious (either by dressing up, or people noticing pins, or my transness gets mentioned) I dont blame them, men do be trashcans sometimes and everyone wants to stay safe. But still, I cant wait for the point where i dont have to explain my transness constantly to get people to treat me as a woman

I love that because I’m nonbinary I can say anyone who’s into me is gay, it really culls the toxic ones easily. I save myself a lot of time.

I was sitting on the bus on my way to camp and a girl in my class said to me “are you gonna have the surgery to become a man?” And I said “well, firstly I’m already a guy and secondly yes when I’m older.” And she goes “so when you get a dong… do they get it off a dead person?” I died right then and there.

The thing with how women react when they find out that you're trans might stem from the fear of cis men. I mean, if you're trans you're also marginalized and therefore more safe to be around than an unfamiliar cis man would be. I hope that made sense, just my take lol

When cis guys don't know I'm trans, they act different as well. I started going to a new school in 10th grade (so no one really new I was trans) And I've been slapped in the back of the head (and ass) by so many of my volley ball teammates that it's scary.

when I was like 8 before I realised I was trans I borrowed some of my cousins boxers at a sleepover and wanted some of my own cause they made me feel happyy! my mum bought me some 'girl boxers' that were shaped weird and pink and I got so secretly mad and upset n didnt know why lol.. guess now it makes sense :)

The comfort thing for me when I realize someone is trans (or really any part of the LGBTQ+), is not because I don't recognize you as a "real" man, woman, etc. For me personally, it has to do with being marginalized. Women are considered a marginalized group, as are LGBTQ+. So, I think there's a sense of like, this person might know how it feels to go through gender and/or sex based discrimination. Whereas with cishet men you might have to do some handholding through certain topics or go through a lot of unintentional sexism.

I don't want women to threatened by me but I hate them assuming that because I'm trans I understand everything. I really don't. I transitioned early, I didn't experience a lot of things being female. All I can talk about is menstruation. I was also an ugly girl so I was never hit on so I dont know what that's like. I just hate being seen as the "safe" version of a man. I understand why some people might be okay with it but it makes me extremely dysphoric to be treated differently than almost everyone else of my gender.

You should cover that new documentary Netflix recently released "Pray Away" or check into it. Really disappointing to see some "ex-trans" advocate that we're basically mentally ill. Freedom March I believe this group is called. At the same time, I don't want to give them attention but everyone should be aware they exist. Transphobes are going to eat it up.

My friendships with cis women all got so much better and deeper after I transitioned so it’s definitely a real thing that men are kinda scary.

Currently pulling an all nighter and this video has me rolling

I've literally had exes tell me that they probably wouldn't have dated me if I wasn't Trans bc they, and I quote, "hate men"

i used to say i bought boxers to help with my thigh chafing

I'm amab and can present fairly masc at times and its wild how people react. I work with the public so I deal with strangers all day. Some cis women will completely change when they finally figure it out but the most frustrating/hilarious are how "manly man" cis dudes react. i feel like a lot of act like i pulled some magic trick on them and they are terrified that i somehow gave them queer

I didn't know asshair was a thing, and I was *very* unhappy and desperately uncomfortable when it grew in and all that. eugh. it was awful. that quote though, "my ass had a beard way before my face did" is so accurate for me, too x.x i've had loads of asshair since like 10 months on T. I couldn't grow a beard til 4 years on T 😂

If women get more comfortable around me when they find out I'm trans, I'd take that as a blessing since I live in a very rural place where it's honestly dangerous to come out. I usually just let people perceive me as whatever gender and whoever at this point because I feel it's more unsafe to be open about it, unfortunately.

Was hoping there'd be a DEEZ NUTZ punchline to the "nuts increasing testosterone' bit. Cis women do say that they can't let their guard down around cis hetero men, because any kind of friendliness usually gets taken as an opening for come-ons. That the big problem with being friendly is that cis het men for the most part, don't seem open to platonic friendliness from women, which is very sad.

Love me some trans memes. This came at the right time ☺️

Women usually like me more when they find out I'm trans, which I don't like. I'm not any different as a person or as a man just bc I'm trans. So they shouldn't treat me different or think differently about me. But then after a while they realise I'm a gross man, just like any gross man, and they're disappointed. Men often treat me different too after finding out, but in a different way

we love a weird threat right at the end of a video 💙

i'm so impressed by the body's ability to say "oop, i'm getting a new hormone, lemme yeet the characteristics given by the opposite hormone and A P P L Y N E W B O D Y C H A R A C T E R I S T I C S." noice.

i think a lot of women just tend to feel some level of uncomfortable around cishet men, so whenever they learn that someone they thought fell into that category isn't actually a cishet man, they become more comfortable around that person cus you become less of a threat in their eyes. as a queer person i've felt that way many times when finding someone else who's queer, like the change is immediate- i'll go from keeping a safe, polite distance with the other person to suddenly acting like we've been best friends for 10 years. i just feel a lot safer around other queer people lol.

I remember the first time I encountered a gay trans man. I remember having to take a minute to think it through. Had to walk myself through it. Like, you know straight people exist, you know gay people exist, you know trans people exist. Do you think trans men are just lesbians going the extra mile? Nope? Then this is a thing. Also, this person is right here telling you that's what's up, so there you go. Just learned something you already knew. Honestly embarrassed I had to walk through it at all, but even when you're not trying to be an asshole, you tend to walk around with a lot of idiot ideas until you're made to actually think about them.

i definitely have experienced women being more friendly and seemingly more comfortable once finding out i’m a trans guy, and like you, i feel torn about it. on the hand i can completely empathize with feeling uncomfortable or threatened by cis men, thats something i can relate to and i was only pretending to be a girl for a while, so i can only imagine what it’s like for women. so it makes me happy to see them visibly more comfortable, but it makes me now feel uncomfortable in a different way because it suggests that i’m not just like any other dude. so while i’m happy they’re not as uncomfortable as they had been, it DOES lowkey feel invalidating to my identity as a man that i’m clearly being categorized as differently than cis men. but it’s such a complicated thing right, like because i shouldn’t have to share such vulnerable personal info to make women comfortable, but at the same time i want to do whatever i can do help them feel not threatened by my presence in a situation like you mentioned where you have to interact. and i guess this is a male privilege, right? like, having to decide whether or not to offer up info you’re not obligated to in order to potentially put someone at ease, but in these situations i choose to do so. because while it might make me uncomfortable in gender ways, it doesn’t make me feel unsafe (in unsafe situations i do not offer up that i’m trans) and women often straight up feel unsafe in situations where they’re forced to interact with cis men (which is 100% understandable considering how poorly a lot of men treat women) so if there’s a chance that info can make her feel less unsafe, i offer it, because while my gender feelings are important, everyone feeling safe is more important. and you do still run the risk of facing transphobia once that info is offered up, so it is a bit of a sacrifice, but one worth making if the situation feels like it calls for it imo. like i said though it’s very complicated, and will vary from situation to situation

I'm pre-T and I think I take one selfie a year 🤣

LEGIIIIT the i'm so sorry to cis people for not knowing they're limited thing--i have a friend who thought she was a trans guy, and when she started getting results from t, she was so dysphoric and unhappy. she figured out that what she was coping with wasn't gender dysphoria at all, but anxiety and depression relating to being a woman! and now she's detransitioned and is sooooo happy--but she also feels More like a woman than ever, because it's something she's *choosing*. not only that, she's even more loudly supportive of her trans friends (like me!!) because she has been there, and did detransition, and is like 'y'all i was on t for THREE YEARS and it is reversible; please don't be awful to trans people!' i love her so much, and i wish more cis people could have the realizations she had regarding identifying as her AGAB (obviously without them having to transition; that was upsetting for her and i wish she'd had more support in the first place).

No cops at pride, just Ty with a sword

About the question: I honestly think your butt gets used to the shaving pretty fast, after about 3-4 times I did not have any issues with it. I personaly think a dry shave works best, dont get any cream or liquids near the area to avoid irritation from ingredients. Trimming works but then you have dark spots all over your bum + it itches aswell. Waxing if you feel comfortable getting it done. But honestly I feel like more and more people (especially male x male) are into hairy dudes now, compared to the 00s for example. So you might dont need to do anything about it. The wolf look is a win in my book.

Personally I don't mind when women treat me differently when they find out I'm trans. Mainly because I know that most of the time it's them being like "oh, he understands" and, well, I do. Funnily enough, I do care when other men treat me differently. Maybe it's just some weird need for validation -which I shouldn't need-, but yeah.

I really love your videos, literally the reason I decided to grow out my hair again, I just think yours looks cool af (I'm also a trans man and for a while it felt like growing my hair would make me look like a woman again ugh)

I am nonbinary but I know that a lot of the negative emotions that women show towards men is often out of distrust and sometimes even fear created by negative men a lot of them grew up around. The school system and this generations parents held a lot of beliefs that create it. I have learned ways to change my thinking so I don't show this negative reaction to cis men automatically. I don't feel as negative towards men/masculine people of the lgbt community because they are often more aware of struggles of others because they experience some shared struggles

"I draw my blade and prepare to strike" is probably my favorite quote of the video. XD

your videos are always so calming, they almost feel personal

First time I clicked on your videos I just figured you were a cis ally looking at trans memes. Then you mentioned period pains and I clicked lol. As an asexual lesbian I can empathise with having to explain yourself all the time, and I know the amount I have to explain pales in comparison to the trans community. It sucks. Only on the second video but subscribed so i hope you're good 😜😂

Some stand for the flag, I stand for your mullet.

I’ve definitely experienced the difference in receptiveness from women, but to be perfectly fair I’m much more comfortable around women as well. Because of what I’ve experienced, I’m incredibly cautious around cis men, and for good reasons. It genuinely feels safer knowing someone isn’t a cis man when you don’t know them at all.

New subscriber, loving your content. Had to throw my hat in on the "what you're just gonna be gay" meme - I find it really sad that a lot of (usually cis) people really do seem to identify themselves not so much as a gender that feels right, but as a "not-the-other-gender" or, even more in the time/region when I was growing up, "not-the-gender-I'm-attracted-to" - and just spending nearly no time figuring out what they themselves feel comfortable with.

Hope you're having a good day, mister ty. I'm so glad I found your channel. 💜

Needed this! Thank you again, Ty! 🥰🖤🤗

this channel is so chill i love it so much