This Mindset Strengthens You to Overcome Childhood Trauma

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@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

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@yellowdayz1800 11 дней назад

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@stacyjaye6350 20 дней назад

For now, I am concentrating on the basics. I minimalized and organized. Everything is clean and in good repair. I shop and prepare healthy meals for myself. I got an electric bike to get out and get exercise which helps my mental health. I like to sit and read in the park that I rode my bike to. Just taking it one day at a time, making practical decision by practical decision, and not hurting anyone. When people ask me what I do, I say, "I take care of myself". It might not be much to them, but it is everything to me.

@tinydancer2544 20 дней назад

@stacyjaye6350 That's where I'm at now. Which is a miracle at 61 and years of pain and struggle. Until I found Anna. ❤

@stacyjaye6350 20 дней назад

@@tinydancer2544 I'm about to turn 68. So you are what's called a junior senior LOL. Enjoy these next coming years! I'm sending you strength, courage, and hugs from Tulsa. 💪⚔️🫂. 🤠😘

@martemacdougall1985 20 дней назад

I believe that we all know that we need to "take care of ourselves." I didn't know what that looked like. Survival is a powerful and most primal basic need. For me, I just kept revisiting the major wounds and decided that the repairs needed to begin there. MY HEALTH ! Because without that, no other healing would be effective. So I decided to walk the talk and stopped smoking and after many struggles as a result of that, began intermittent fasting and a ketogenic nutrition plan and exercise ( just more walking to start). It is now 6 months later and I have lost 19 pounds and feel better than I have in years. The confidence that has resulted is all pervasive and now I know I can thrive and say goodbye to anyone or anything that does not have my best interest at heart. My mood has changed too. My peace and stability is first. Starting points are surely different for everyone, and I hope everyone finds theirs . Thank you for helping us . Great video today. ❤

@tinydancer2544 20 дней назад

I was in that situation with my partner, whom I've decided to separate from. I used to scream and rant at him. I did start getting really worked up when we got into an argument the other day. Then I just went into my room and locked my door. Calmed down and spoke to him yesterday. I was very calm and told him it was over, but I'd need to stay until I got my own place. I told him he'd need to start figuring out life for himself. After I've carried him financially for a lot of our 35 years together. I nearly got dragged back into helping him sometimes with things he has never had to handle, like doing his washing. Then I stopped and said "No." Then I went back into my room and felt a sense of peace at the thought that I'm finally free of him. Thank you for giving me my power back, Anna ❤

@tinydancer2544 20 дней назад

@@stacyjaye6350😅Thank you so much. I'm sending it all right back at you from Scotland. UK ❤🎉🍀💯🌄

@londonmcknight6047 17 дней назад

AND CAN WE ALL JUST GIVE A SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE FLOWERS GROWING THROUGH CONCRETE!

@ethanmiller5487 20 дней назад

Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken ceramics with gold. The repairing makes the piece look even better than it did before. You get to see the original ceramics beauty, but now it has gold in it! We can choose to look at ourselves like that too.

@kamicausi 20 дней назад

Wabi-sabi -- the imperfect is better than the ideal

@katfayegarrett3872 20 дней назад

❤

@missbooshealinghomestead 20 дней назад

Thank you for posting this. You just changed the way I think about myself.

@catboxcleaner3532 20 дней назад

Like a vase which becomes more valuable as its fissures are strengthened with gold, I delight in the idea of healing ourselves into masterpieces with the Japanese art of kintsugi.

@mickeyoshea2035 14 дней назад

Thank you for this.

@ellenstone2753 20 дней назад

Dear Dear Fairy, I am a 70 yo recently retired mental health professional. While I have been working on myself for decades, never and I mean never have I realized what this video explains. My negative loop. Pressing on, enduring but never really healing, never believing I could. At a deep, deep level my pain has never been healed. Thank you so much. I am so using the next 70 years to move forward, gather tools and learn to smile again. God Bless you and all you are.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

Thank you so much. And thank you for modeling the tremendous potential to heal at any stage of life. Everyone needs to know this.

@GovilGirl 19 дней назад

I always get confused with what the c in cptsd stands for - complex, chronic, childhood, continuous, community, consequential C⁶?

@annarunkle9819 19 дней назад

@@GovilGirl Complex

@NikeeStarStuff 20 дней назад

You changed my whole life in a matter of 4 months. I AM eternally greatful. I am not kidding you when I say my WHOLE life either. Bless your every breath. ❤

@SKY-wt2pp 20 дней назад

I'm personally so happy for you. All the best for your bright future ❤.

@Jules-740 20 дней назад

What did you do?

@HomeFromFarAway 20 дней назад

ya, so much of this channel has impacted my life too. Amazing community, amazing Fairy ❤😂

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

That's so wonderful to hear, thank you for taking the time to share this :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@Jules-740 19 дней назад

@@NikeeStarStuff What did you do? I hope you have time to share what helped you

@WLSteer 16 дней назад

There's an old saying that "when the student is ready to teacher appears". Sometimes the teacher appears when the student thinks they're ready but they really aren't. This podcast really hit me over the head!!! Busy busting the wheel and being ready. Retiring rumination, dam the torpedoes...

@d.e.b.b5788 20 дней назад

Some of the damage is permanent. All we can do, is do our best to get our lives back, but the damage remains. I'm living it out, I'm 68. But it was a real stumbling block during my life.

@LauraB0421 20 дней назад

I agree.

@ethanmiller5487 20 дней назад

Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken ceramics with gold. The repaired ceramic ends up looking far more beautiful than the original. It's a beautiful art and one way we can look at ourselves too. Look it up! It's a really lovely art.

@chuck805 20 дней назад

I'm sorry for what happened along time ago, if you think it's permanent then for you you're right. I grew up with childhood abandonment issues, I'm nearly 68 and believe I can heal and move forward without looking back anymore. May you find your answer and finally put your issues behind you permanently. God bless you as you deserve it!

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Yes the damage remains and it effects our life and we life. But some how we are much more than all the damage and the survival and we deserve to live our life and be average and boring and have a boring routine and still be truly worthy. That is thr bit I am still trying to learn. The boring humdrum of life for people especially when older those not traumatised just accept this in a kind of happy way because they know that it is fine not to be doing anything special. They are enough. Also boring humdrum is hard to for people with trauma because it is like the lull between the crazy and it unsettles us. This is an early form of imprinted keeping ourselves safe. I hope this helps. It is not easy xxx

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Lovely encouragement. It’s like also if you had your leg broken in a street assault years ago and you have a big scar where a pin and plate were inserted- they are big scars. People often see scars in an ugly way, and if they are ugly and you cannot afford plastic surgery and the best plastic surgery would still not fully remove it, you still have your scar. But you could say to yourself. Yes look I got back on my feet again after this and i keep going and do things I enjoy small things. I an glad i can and I do. But maybe first you had to be so angry with your assailant who was not reprimanded and curse him to hell. Just remember you are cursing him to hell because of righteous anger of what he did and you are for sure not going down to hell to curse him some more. You have a life to live- however small it feels you own it.

@AnnLi-lm2kd 19 дней назад

Teaching in a school was the breakthrough experience for me. The love, acceptance, understanding and encouragement of my students healed my shame and unworthiness forever. Praise God for my students.😃😍🥰

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Thank you teacher in your giving you have healed.

@annahappen7036 14 дней назад

That's so beautiful. I'm happy for you!

@caoillainn 20 дней назад

I'm in the middle; sometimes feeling stuck in negativity, sometimes more positive. Constantly flip-flopping. More negativity than positive, but at least now I see a light at the end of the tunnel.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Me too

@fremmer007 20 дней назад

And me.. the difference is now my darkest days I'm still hopeful and i know it's a phase i have to get through.

@joannecary9264 20 дней назад

Same and getting easier to move forward

@gregsthrottle 20 дней назад

Ditto! I'm proud of us for growing & evolving, slowly but surely!

@MsSade-rn3gz 20 дней назад

All of you guys are so sweet supporting each other. Count me in. It’s like that for me as well. 🙏🏾❤️‍🩹❤️❤️

@Natalia-ox4zn 19 дней назад

Dear Fairy, I have been with you since the beginning of your RU-vid video story. Thanks to you I realized what is my issue. After around 30 years, I finally managed to start healing! I started in March. During these first months I managed to: get rid of inadequate relationships, quit smoking and drinking, start running and run my first quarter marathon, start yoga, keep and focus on my job, get rid of my suicidal thoughts, improve my focus, sleep, create habits and I'm not going to stop! And also İ finally broke my limerence pattern, which I'm very proud about. İt is literally another reality. The most rewarding for me is this freedom feeling. Like no matter what will happen İ know I'll do my best, and no one is controlling or restraining me anymore. And the funniest thing is actually not that hard, we are making it hard in our head, but what is hard here is that it requires patience and compassion towards ourselves. Thank you for everything!

@Tricia-xo6fq 20 дней назад

Continuously focusing on pain and trauma is like focusing on a wound that is at first seductive to be picked at. Not allowing the pain to be healed brings more pain and trauma constantly reliving the abuse. Similar to drinking poison and expecting perpetrator to be affected. Allowing the space and freedom to live in moments to be kind to yourself.

@jesslovely5365 20 дней назад

I know some people may not be religious, but praying has helped me a lot. I get my free counseling during my confessions to the priest lol 😅 anything helps...

@HomeFromFarAway 20 дней назад

I think, if you got a good one, that might be the only good purpose of religion: a place to find someone who has been trained in compassion and who's heard it all

@pamjones7426 18 дней назад

@@HomeFromFarAway That's so true. I was a devout Christian for many years and I have never - not once - felt comfortable talking to ANY of the reverends or ministers at church, not even the youth pastor. Actually, the youth pastor was the worst, and was not at all approachable. I get so angry thinking back on it because I was a young teen and couldn't find ONE adult I could talk to and confide in, including the fricking youth pastor. I'm like, do you understand your position?! Why tf are you here, if not to help... the YOUTH???

@gigiatkins5923 18 дней назад

I’m glad that helps you 🙏

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Very good for the person who has a good priest. I also need to say in general that if you have a pastor/ priest who is a chameleon, this is a very dangerous thing. Wolf in sheep’s clothes. Unfortunately I have a very recent example from a “forward thinking” priest. The other area to be very careful with is spiritual direction. This is a delicate area and can give a manipulative person space to be subtly abusive.

@HomeFromFarAway 17 дней назад

@@melliecrann-gaoth4789 religions in general creqte a space that is ripe for abuse and cultic framing/gaslighting

@Dobermanmomma 20 дней назад

You are a life saver. I lost 75 pounds and it gave me a new life, but the depression came back. I needed this. So much of our perspective/reality is controlled by our thoughts. Radiate positive thoughts of love. Thank you.

@cynthiahoag2941 20 дней назад

It is only after I get regulated that I have the awareness to even notice my reactions. In one video, the Fairy talked about noticing her nose going numb in certain situations. I thought, "Wow, that's a high level of awareness." I have a long way to go to be at that point. I can't change what I am not aware of. Working on it.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

You are in the right place. Nika@TeamFairy

@HomeFromFarAway 20 дней назад

Fairy, this channel is magic, genuinely. Another one that has amazing healing properties is, weirdly, Midwest Magic Cleaning. The guy who runs it studied psychology and is incredibly trauma aware. He goes and cleans up homes for people and families who have such bad PTSD, ADHD or other disorders related to being stuck, hoarded, and lost. Strongly recommend him for quirky humour and raw, practical compassion ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

I'll check it out! Thanks.

@airingcupboard 20 дней назад

I was definitely in the stuck group. Now I'm in the trier group and good things are happening. I've been stuck in the wheel for years.

@elspethfougere9683 20 дней назад

I think what your describing is phase by phase. It depends so much on the combo and layers and timing of hurt, injury, personality, healing opportunities, fate, and all the rest.. I want to make sure nobody gets shamed for being so stuck. Flight, fight, freeze, appease, befriend, through to collapse is such a difficult spectrum. Being collapsed is a horrible feeling, and its not someones fault. And also, there are options. Some things just take time. Its horrible to have to surrender, and accept what is, as it is, and also it does help.. acceptance does help. When I look back at the most stuck patches, sometimes its been a necessary pause, before the push goes ahead again ❤ and its good to trust that, there is no rush, healing will happen if you keep going. The fact that any of us are still alive, means we are keeping going healing and somewhere deep within us we still have hope 🌞🙏

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

I still sometimes collapse. Even though i talked myself through the situation etc. physically i am wrecked for days etc.

@HomeFromFarAway 20 дней назад

yes. Grief is mandatory to letting go of what is done and gone. The term "collapsed" is really potent to describe what happens when too many traumas pile up for the mind to even process. Working through all that is valid and not something to be shamed at all. also, I am tired of feeling collapsed and I miss feeling joy. Joy is terrifying but also, kind of the whole point of healing. I am allowing joy in, even as I allow the pain to just exist. Most days now they alternate, which makes a nice change 😂

@nancythornton2947 20 дней назад

Still healing. Gonna continue to live my best life.😊

@saracroft21 19 дней назад

Bless you, fairy! I experience this shift in the same recurring situations. Out of a sudden there is this: I COULD endure this, but I don't NEED to. It's up to ME to leave the situation.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Great description thank you- i have gritted and endured, the not giving up- was good when i was a kid so that I could go to school and take care of my siblings. But now, yes remember I don’t have to endure. Snd just walk away without an internal microscopic search for what I am doing wrong.

@SurvivingOutHere 20 дней назад

The best thing about healing is not that you never experience pain again, but that you're better equipped to handle pain when it does happen. In the past year I've dealt with difficult situations that would have knocked me off my feet and sent me into a tailspin in the past and added more trauma to my life. But now? Just speed bumps that I drive over slowly with awareness and I keep on moving. It's wonderful.

@Psalm23bytheSea 20 дней назад

A relationship with a loving God brings strength and comfort. Gods word brings comfort to redirect your thoughts ❤ i have CPTSD.

@Consiouschoices 20 дней назад

❤🙏🕊

@HomeFromFarAway 20 дней назад

many people have religious trauma from religious abuse. be aware that your path and advice may trigger real pain in others ❤

@Psalm23bytheSea 20 дней назад

@HomeFromFarAway totally agree. Religion is not good. Its about power and control. There is a difference. Jesus actually condemned the religious leaders and called them hypocrites. Much love ❤️

@mrnobody3161 6 дней назад

Which God, out of the 45,000 iterations of Christianity? Which God out of the 4,500 other religions? Are they all marketing the same God? Perhaps it's your Own Human Spirit that should be accessed, nurtured, to "healing thyself". Did not the Holy Book say that the Spirit is within all of us? Meaning we can take ownership of our actions and future, be accountable and responsible for our healing; become the Spirit, not Pray to one, Be One.

@mrnobody3161 6 дней назад

@@HomeFromFarAway Freak'n beliebers....How oblivious can one be? 45,000 iterations of Christianity, and 4,500 other religions, doesn't seem like Concenus to me.

@kevinmasterson5733 20 дней назад

Thanks Anna. This video is great, and I really relate to it. I can say that I am pretty much always in group 1, but every once in a while, I fall into group 2. I think that's pretty normal. I don't think that for me, it's realistic to always feel optimistic. My mother died on August 4 after having had dementia for almost 9 years. For almost the past 3 years she did not speak. She had to be sedated because she screamed. She died two days after her 90th birthday. I decided to send her a card along with a letter thanking her for being my mother and telling her how much I loved her. I left nothing unsaid. Everything I said was loving and was from my heart. The caregiver who read her the letter said that she chuckled at something I said, so there was some recognition even though she could not express it verbally. When I wrote the letter, I did it for myself and I trusted that she would get the love in it. All resentment is gone. Just gratitude is left. The next day she had a "major event" and she died peacefully 5 days later. I spoke at her funeral and everything I shared were the funny stories, the good things. I spoke from my heart, and it really helped me recover a very deep, very powerful part of myself that had been unseen and repressed for so long. The good qualities & the good genes that I got from her are what are most valuable. Those are the things that I can take with me, that make me who I am. Not some piece of jewelry or an antique. Thanks again for all you do and the loving sanity that you offer on your channel.

@danim8524 19 дней назад

I’ll tell you what- you start to feel so much better once you begin the daily practice (the free course that is worth millions at least). But so easy to start being inconsistent because you feel better then fall back to the old ways. Learning that commitment is key, and going ALL the way I.e., like doing the writing part but then not meditating as I should. Courage and love 💕

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

Nothing like falling back into the old patterns to motive you to get back into the Daily Practice! Never necessary to beat yourself up for not doing it right.

@danim8524 19 дней назад

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you. I’m star struck 😊😊😊I appreciate you and your work so much! I can only dream of being someone who is so in their purpose, as I believe you are. More than an inspiration, you are a life changer! First time I felt validated, instead of as if I’m crazy and nothing making sense, was with the first time I watched one of your videos. Since then, I was able to get out of freeze mode but still lots of work to do. So happy for the increase self- awareness and little or much progress I’ve made. I’ve committed Tuesdays to listening to one of your videos and doing this work. I cannot tell you how thankful I am to feel supported in this way! I’ll write you a letter at some point.

@forgiven5919 18 дней назад

If a person can get away from the abuser, you can start to heal. Many people are still being abused and in survival mode.

@catherinekirby-smith53 18 дней назад

You were my ray of sunshine today. Thank you!

@bbbbbennyandthejets 19 дней назад

I grew up sharing a bedroom with a borderline psycho older brother who nearly killed me when I was 3 years old. Then I went through a double-charged emotional wringer during my twenties. When I tangled with an overt narc and then a covert narc snuck onto the narcissistic abuse train as it was leaving the station on its way to the land of exiled loved ones. Where I lived happily ever after as an emotional linguist, fluent in the language of the heart. Skilled at finding light in the darkness because of a kinship of suffering. My channels of contact with others around me have always been charged with the language of the heart. Unfortunately, the lives of 15 people dear to me, the little ones, and their parents were thrown hopelessly off course after I made contact with two black-hearted individuals who significantly contributed to cutting short the lives of their grandparents.

@hectormayoral443 20 дней назад

Ever since I started doing your fears and resentments, life has gotten VERY interesting. 30 days. I want to pick up the habit again because it fell through the cracks after thirty days, but boy have things changed, and everything you describe here is kinda how it felt, but I wasn't even able to understand that the symptomps were abnormal, I just thought that's how people feel, but as the fog of depression starts to dissipate, and I'm able to just question my anxiety and ground myself, I'm able to see there are a lot of doors

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

That's amazing! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@wahabd84 20 дней назад

Ma’am, I’m glad you brought it up. I started doing your practice and worked wonders. Then on my way to drop off my kid to school, I panicked. As if it was a withdrawal from the anxiety. I was driving calmly and suddenly I panicked .. why am I not in a hurry? Why am I not panicking for every small thing in the future? Why is my heart not pacing like a tornado? I came home and decided to stop the meditation and the daily practice just so I can feel the rush. And I never went back. Do I like myself this way? Absolutely not. But the fact that daily practice can put you out of your misery n leave you calm was also an alarm. If you could help me with it, I would much appreciate it. I blindly followed every thing you say and it did work but it got scary

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

I encourage you to try the Daily Practice calls with Anna or other CFF coaches. You will have an opportunity to ask questions and learn more about the method. Nika@TeamFairy

@Lyrielonwind 19 дней назад

Ask yourself if there was a time when being calm was followed by a sudden storm. I say it because we can feel peace like a threat because it feels like the calm that precedes the storm. Also, we can be hooked to adrenaline and not being in hyper vigilance might feel threatening and we feel like being at peace is boring or something is off but it's just because it's not our auto pilot and it feels like we are not ourselves but, we don't know ourselves until we reach a level of healing because our coping mechanisms are not our traits.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Thanks Lynn this is very helpful and fits for me.

@fremmer007 20 дней назад

It comes in waves for me. Sometimes i struggle big time, sometimes i have a better handle on things. The important break through in my life was "agency". Knowing that my misery happens inside me.. its not an external force out to hurt me. I am the only one who can change it. I create it, I own it. Can't always control the big waves but sometimes I can ride them.

@jesslee7985 20 дней назад

This is so true! Up until recently, 10ish months or so, i was in a stuck place. Until I started taking action. Since making the mental shift, I started making a lot of progress. I had to cut off a "friend" who was very negative and draining. The peace of mind was worth it.

@rosalieroku3818 20 дней назад

I am working through your material and it speaks meaningfully to my struggles. In addition to relationships that don't work, trauma has caused a very problematic relationship with me and money. Could you please do a video on that? If you already have, I apologize and I will get there eventually. Money problems and insomnia both seem very connected to feeling unworthy. Thank you. ❤️

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

You may find these videos helpful: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ZE8QOMQ9L1I.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Tj_v6dYSGpo.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-vyTIxD9Lshk.html -Calista@TeamFairy

@msstarlite5912 20 дней назад

I'm so grateful I found your channel. My healing journey has always ( and yes I use this word purposefully) been a roller coaster and I couldn't understand why even happy occassions and successes in my life would zap my energy and cause me to retreat and freeze. I have done DBT in the past and have kept on an even keel for a number of years but still I keep falling off the wagon until I found your channel and when you spoke about dysregulation and the connection of the physical default response we have to a heighten situation, the light bulbs started flashing and everything started making sense. I now get why procrastination is my trauma response and am now going through the exercises recommended by you. My life recently has been imploding around but I'm treading water, looking for the safety line to pull myself out of this mental place I'm in. Thank you so much, for your content ❤ . May God bless you always for your light you bring to the world and the darkness many of us find ourselves in, through no fault of our own ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

What happy news that you are here! Thank you for your kind note, too.

@shaeholden1743 20 дней назад

Yes, very well said. I see the progress in my healing and am thinking about the source of my pain much less. In fact, if I find myself thinking too much about "what he did" - I catch myself and remind myself of what God is doing in me NOW towards healing. Thank you for your words of wisdom that help us so much. We are very appreciative. 😊

@jantorejensen 20 дней назад

I have a whole new life now. One years work on myself has paid off. Now I am a more generous, friendly person. And I have more to give. Less anger and resentment towards others and myself. I never dreamed I could be this person. Thank you for saving me, Anna!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

Wonderful! Keep up the great work! Nika@TeamFairy

@siennaprice1351 20 дней назад

I feel like I’m actively healing. I mean, I still have symptoms of my childhood trauma. Self blame. Self limitation. Masking. Being way too hard on myself, and not very compassionate with myself when I make a mistake or when I get this regulated. But, I have found some amazing coping skills that have really helped me along my journey. Music. Music is my most favorite coping skill. I’ve been into music ever since I was a little kid. My Favorite sensory items. Going out into nature with a hot beverage, and listening to one of my most favorite calming songs. I have so many coping skills, and I love them so much, and I utilized it way more than what I used to. I would also like to mention that I am completely blind, and on the autism spectrum, and I have complex PTSD. I love myself, even though I’m blind and autistic. I do my best to love myself, even though I have complex PTSD. I think the reason why it’s so hard to love myself even though I have childhood trauma, is because I have it in my mind that people have had it way worse than me. And they’re the ones who should have the trauma. The abuse that I went through, it could’ve been worse. I have overcame self doubt. Now, I need to overcome self, limitation, conditional, self-love, all or nothing thinking, self blame, and being hard on myself. But, I also need to remember, progress over perfection.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Thank you @siennaprice you are really encouraging amazing stuff listed here. A thing i do now that i did not do before. I talk to myself in a whisper or our out loud like I do to my daughter. For e.g when i find something i misplaced or i wash the pots when i don’t feel like it. I say good girl Mellie. I want up and down the kitchen slowly and notice i am moving and enjoy moving. I have something in my hand and hold it more lightly, like release the tight grip and just hold it. This really helps if i am at home walking to put things away.. I can feel the weight of the object up into my arm. It grounds me, it is sensory. At the weekend I picked up a little toy it sat in my hand really nicely, it was a unicorn covered in nice tight fabric and filled with sand. I put in down. And picked it up. I checked the price, it was €3. Like $ 3. I bought it for me and this time I will not be explaining myself to anyone. Take care xx

@siennaprice1351 20 дней назад

@@melliecrann-gaoth4789 oh my goodness! I love this! I actually have some crystals that are weighted. I hold them in my hand, or I carry them around in my pocket. I know crystals can be a very controversial thing. I do feel like it helps me. I love your ideas by the way.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Sienna- I’m so glad you saw my post. Crystals are part of the earth. They have wonderful shapes, weight, smoothness and tiny fissures. Don’t worry about anything people say- Like Anna says we know that nobody is coming to save us and we know that crystals are not coming to save us in any woo woo way! But they are very grounding. They belong to the ground. They are solid and beautiful and part of the earth that connects us to the earth and to the very moment we hold them. So that helps us feel alive. People can do this with stones or pebbles too, it’s about holding them. And also they have beautiful colours that those of us gifted with sight can see. Sienna, I don’t know about your vision if you have any partial or former vision. But I can tell you that your inner eye is seeing so well. I know about Autism too. And there is much creativity needed in Autism to hold yourself in good safe spaces and this you are doing. It’s a sad fact that you went through what you went through which means we don’t have soft landing cushions. But remember girl/ you are not alone- and here is a woman from far away sending you motherly love. Next crystal I see I will send lovely thoughts your way and give thanks to god for my eye sight. Sienna is the name for paints that are used to create the brown colours of landscape and originally was made from pigments in the rocks in Northern Italy, I think.

@euchiron 20 дней назад

Being able to integrate even a little bit of your daily exercises made all the subsequent steps that much easier. Naming my fears without needing an immediate solution helps me forgive myself first. ❤

@clws9673 18 дней назад

18 months of facing my disregulation has changed my life. implementing the practice, getting emotionally "sober", and seeing disregulation for what it really is (a neurological response!) because knowledge is power. i still occasionally/often fail but i am more in control of my life than i ever have been before. we are more than what happened to us and we can have a great life, thank you Anna ❤️

@CC-cw8wu 20 дней назад

The important factor for me was cutting out an abusive older sibling that was the cause of most of my childhood trauma. I dealt with him for years and felt responsible for him because everyone else had left him. Once I took that action, I started cutting out negative influences. I really think it’s important to be around people that don’t enable destructive behaviors as well. I had to leave a friend behind because she refused to give up her romantic obsession and got angry with me when I finally entered a healthy relationship instead of hoping for a toxic ex partner to come back with her.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Well done- abusive siblings do not change and sometimes the only abuse some people.

@cindyrhodes 20 дней назад

Thank you for this! Because of these issues and ongoing anxiety for decades, i developed gasto problems in my youth, migraines later on, and then heart problems that still persist and can not be fixed. Mentally, though, there is help here and from counselors over the years. I am so grateful for this. 🎉🎉🎉🎉

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Yes the physical stuff too.

@therealcoreyolin 19 дней назад

Never in my three years of therapy and seeking online coaches have I ever felt so seen and once again part of the world - thanks to your accepting, truly genuine self. You're leading survivors. We are eternally inspired by you 🌟

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 18 дней назад

So glad you are here! Nika@TeamFairy

@ebonyqueen6155 19 дней назад

Dear my crappy childhood fairy Anna, I want you to know that you have ABSOLUTELY CHANGED MY LIFE!!! You are incredibly beautiful and brave!!! Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share these tools!!! You are genuinely LOVED!!! ❤️❤️❤️

@branan6935 20 дней назад

I was listening to a conversation with Gabor Maté on another RU-vid channel today and at a certain point I realized that I still blame others a lot for what happened to me. They probably deserve the blame but I fell that I am focused on it to the point that it doesn't allow me to make any progress.

@bbbbbennyandthejets 19 дней назад

The consequences of one's actions in life always become evident. For my abuser, it was the heavy burden of guilt and shame and alienation by his children.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Yes- reality is- They never stop. Life keeps throwing stuff at you. So yes build up our agency one small thing. Also people can undermine us a lot… and if that is familiar we won’t even know because we are used to it.

@stitches513 20 дней назад

I agree with everything you said…so much of what we struggle with is our perspectives! You are giving us the tools to help us understand ourselves and better understand what our past traumas contributed…then you help us break out! This “breaking out” is also contingent on our efforts too! We can better do this by talking (texting/reading) with others that are in similiar situations…Thanx CCF & team! You are doing great work & contributing so much positivity here! ❤️‍🩹

@Rachel-tn2bn 18 дней назад

I love you, I love you. I am currently sitting at $16 in my bank account because (surprise surprise) I am horrible with my money. BUT! When I get paid, lol🙄🤭, I am 100% pre ordering your book - I'm already excited about that in itself - the fact that now I'll get access to your newest course makes it a huge blessing. Thank you for what you do. I thank God he put you in my life and on my screen.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 18 дней назад

We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@JK-em4ok 20 дней назад

Hey fairy!!! I just love you so much!! You helped me so much!! I healed the cptsd I had. I took lots of your advice, and I did 2 years of EMDR Therapy( like every Monday for 2 years) You rock Fairy!! My favorite human faery you are!! You guys got this!!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

Thanks for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@haveaniceday23 13 дней назад

I always felt that everything is gonna be okay and even on my darkest days I had faith. Resilience is a learned skill

@katfayegarrett3872 20 дней назад

Thank you Anna and the CFA team! Im jamming a stick in my wheel so hard right now!

@lydiagreene8670 20 дней назад

Youve been so helpful to me. I had a fre ppl jn my life but your advice and knowledge as i was goiing through a divorce with three children between the ages of 6 and 9 mos. My husband left me for my friend after she got pregnant. In hind sight i saw how much cptsd we all were grappling with. I get very discouraged with how slowly i feel like im healing but your video was a well timed reminder. ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

You got this! We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@stevec404 20 дней назад

Another good video. I have recently learned that the horribly deep depression I have left behind me from the past year had a name. Passive suicidal ideation. It helped me to undersand where I had been. Yup - I have broken my 'wheel'!

@helenmorgan1807 14 дней назад

Took me forever to stop getting angry for being criticized by family who made no attempt to understand. Guess what? That only hurts me. I had to learn no more damage at my own hand. I don't have to care enough to get angry. I did that yesterday. I decided to let go of the anger. I don't need to be understood. I need to take care of myself. I felt instant relief. Took me way to long to learn this.😊

@lucidity_world 20 дней назад

To hear someone say that you will get there gradually and you do have gifts to share with the rest of the world is quite something. That it's a given that you have something inside you that is good is everything to my ears. Not because i dont know it but to hear others say it, show their belief in me, is termendous. I feel i was until very recently, despite making a conscious effort to heal for the past 3 years, in the 2nd group of ranting about my hurts and abuse but have transitioned into the 1st group finally, the group that take actions to deal with their issues, keeps the focus on what they can do to change things, agency coming into the spotlight with a grounding yet assertive energy now. I feel like everything before was neccesary for me to get here though. Your daily practise is gold and brings peace when i cant do anything else. Its a go to now whenever my mind is buzzing with a violation of some sort. At least the written part. I also think what made the difference was knowing what is neccesary to say to the other person when conflict within me arrises due to something that arose in conjunction with them. Non Violent Communication in how to request change was the bridge for me. No matter what else i may want to say, its not been helpful to me (pretty much ever) outside of the nvc framework. Maybe someone else may find this helpful.

@lilyl5492 20 дней назад

I agree - Non Violent Communication is very helpful for framing both your words and your mind for clarity about your needs and what you would like from others. learning it can give you a greater sense of agency if no one ever taught you how to 'own yourself' or what that even looks like

@lucidity_world 19 дней назад

@@lilyl5492 yes, exactly this. When you have lived a boundryless life you don't even know that standing up for yourself is even a thing worth doing. Actually having a script that is tried and tested to work is a major comfort and is like a light guiding you in the darkness.

@melissazabower339 20 дней назад

For nearly 30 years, post trauma, I stayed stuck, wanting to get unstuck but not sure how. I was in and out of counseling, but still stuck. I started with a new counselor in 2022; she specializes in this kind of childhood trauma and I've made more progress in 2 and a half years than in all the years before. Obese, suffering with an autoimmune disease on top of the awful, painful mindset. At the end of 2022 I read Motivation Myth (I forget the author, I apologize) and I came away with what I call #10steps. I can't walk a mile, but I can walk 10 steps more today than yesterday. And 10 steps more tomorrow than today. Yesterday I walked 3.44 miles with a friend, sitting at benches along the way. 😊 Now, if you can teach me to be more compassionate for the other group, that would be great! Maybe the problem is that I'm still not compassionate with myself. 🤔 Thank you 💛😊

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Brilliant that at last you have a therapist with the right skills for the job. Well done you for sticking with it, deep down it’s like a part of you believes this can get better if even just a bit. That takes courage and self respect.

@koreighlee 20 дней назад

You are literally so intelligent and so insightful, and I can’t express how grateful I am that you exist! ✨ You’ve been so important and pivotal in my healing journey (and I’m sure in the journey of so many others!) - it’s so great to listen to videos like this after finding you in 2022 and relating so much more to the healed part of me now 🥲 couldn’t have done it without you (as parasocial as that sounds LOL) !!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

Wow, I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@vanessapetrea2490 20 дней назад

Thank you, Anna! This was so very helpful, considerate, and compassionate. 🙏🏽💜🙏🏽

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy

@WildManDanWMD 12 дней назад

At 5yo it happened and I'm 71. 5 therapists. 3 were harmful. 2 were useless. 1 was a drive by. 27 years in search of an effective nootropic fix that has been Russian roulette. You are the first person making sense, explaining, identifying, providing steps to make repairs. Thanks.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 11 дней назад

Glad you are here! Nika@TeamFairy

@burrliese3810 19 дней назад

I still have really horrible emotional flashbacks. But the way I know I've healed someehat despite the intense phases or dysregulation, is that even in the middle of them I'm thinking, "When I'm regulated, I won't feel this way, I know I won't. I know with almost 100% certainly that once I'm regulated, none of this will feel so painful and big and overwhelming." Small wins.

@Sunshine123x 17 дней назад

I'm so thankful for this channel .it's a constant struggle 😢.the injustice and lies fed as a child . birthdays are seriously triggering for me .I dread the build up and the day itself it's incredibly difficult.thankyou ive also got a friend whos just subscribed too you .🙏

@scottmoot2969 18 дней назад

You make me think. I describe art that way too. I push my trigger limits when it's safe. I can image a different better life. I can't remember or imagine a happy one.

@ZillasCoop 15 дней назад

Dang! I was following along, visualizing a better reaction ..when Boom! you said Im now in Group 1!! my psyche recoiled and hid under the bed in my brain... lol ... baby steps... Problem is... after 50+ yrs of doing fine with random bouts of deep regression, I now fear "normalcy" as it means a low point is lurking around the corner... each one is scarier than the last.

@evelynvolante9270 11 дней назад

Thank you so much for this opportunity to be part of your channel. I heal daily and the traumatic childhood is a thing of the past. Love and light you are an amazing lady ❤ 💕

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 10 дней назад

Your comment gives us a big smile! Keep up the great work on your healing! Nika@TeamFairy

@KarrieHiggins 16 дней назад

I was stuck and now I am in the trier group. The first things I tried were traumatizing (a psychologist shamed me and dehumanized me because of my dissociation), but I did not give up. Now I have a great therapist and I am doing the daily practice and my creative juices are coming back. Love this channel and I appreciate you so much! I have shared your channel with others in the same boat as me.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 16 дней назад

Wonderful! Keep up the great work and thank you for sharing Anna's videos with others! Nika@TeamFairy

@debbiev.1311 13 дней назад

At 63, I've just discovered & am putting into practice "self-compassion"...who knew!? 🤸🏼‍♀️💕🕊

@maja6206 6 дней назад

Thank you for your channel! I found it recently and it's such a safe space to figure out my patterns without feeling ashamed or judged. I feel like I'm more on the trying side but I do also fall into patterns of feeling very very sad still. When I get there it's easy to want to blame my parents. I do always fall back into hope though. There is so much goodness I just have to dare to receive. It's a rollercoaster I'm willing to ride. I believe in love...

@misspoofs 20 дней назад

This is me right now, I'm feeling this way right now because the meeting i had this morning, they're not allowing overtime for people who are not meeting the daily goal. I'm not meeting it and ive been written up for my attendance, I have a wfh and a two yr and I wont be able to pay for childcare if I get a different job. My work history has always been so rough like the most stressful thing in my life before becoming a single mother.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Very very tough for you. I send you compassion and hope thst things improve

@nikipolykandritou6679 19 дней назад

I love you fairy!!! You're one of the special people on youtube who helped me far more therapists and medicine

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

I'm so glad!

@leej-wp9ft 16 дней назад

Anna you're doing gods work on earth. You reminded me of AA when we 12th step new comers. They come in full of fear, rage, sadness, and without hope. Those who have gone through the steps reach out a hand to bring them over to were we are at. I love your channel and I love you.

@fredrikandreasson2253 12 дней назад

I am so happy I found your channel. The daily routine is really working. I think it is because it focus on my present life, and not what happened many years ago. You also have a true gift of explaining whats difficult in a simple way.

@dawndunn122 20 дней назад

Yes, Call that wheel 🛞 The Spin Cycle😂

@ajisenramen888 13 дней назад

The First step was finding you and not feeling so alone. Thank you. ❤

@tahlilgoureish6256 14 дней назад

I’m part of the 1st group and my friend belongs to the 2nd and unfortunately, just a couple of days ago, she ended our 5 years long friendship. Sent me a 4 page letter telling me I’ve changed. Told me I’ve stopped being vulnerable with her just because I was talking less about the past and my trauma and focused on healing. She on the other hand is still stuck in a loop of self-pity looking up diagnoses on TikTok. It hurt. I tried multiple times to guide her to the other side but she refused. I hope one day she heals, discovers her gifts and grows into her full potential.

@carolnahigian9518 20 дней назад

Gold in cracks; [ I gotta remember]!!!

@shellyhuff7845 18 дней назад

I think of the wheel like a hampster wheel we can step off of!

@giselalynch6449 19 дней назад

Just fantastic…Thank you ! I love how easy it ! Not healed yet, but on my way to a happy future

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy

@Smidgen-x4i 20 дней назад

Kept back in 2nd grade. Not sure if I really remember my reaction to this, but I think I felt confused, bewildered. All the kids I knew were going into a new classroom in the fall, but not me. What had happened? That was many decades ago. I still wonder if that experience influenced who I became, a self-conscious, socially anxious adult. And I often feel sad in situations where I feel left out. Rationally, it seems trivial, being kept back a grade.

@alealeoh 12 дней назад

Damn, Fairy, you knocked it out of the park this time. Slow clap. You have helped me so much I can't even tell you. Thank you!

@povertyXart 17 дней назад

Shoutout to everyone here, whether you fall in category A or B. The fact we’re here must signal to ourselves we matter, and I love that. It’s a beautiful community. 🤗

@helenehenderson7499 16 дней назад

I just resently became “unstuck” because someone finally heard my story. But I don’t feel the need to go into details. At least not until I’m convinced it’s necessary and I feel I’m in safe company

@cadenmichael_ 15 дней назад

Thank you so much for everything you do. I found your youtube channel only 4 days ago, I didn’t even know your name or that you had a program that existed but as soon as i saw one of your videos for the first time i immediately signed up for your course. I would pay any amount of money for someone to help me learn how to maintain regulation and get unstuck from the behaviors that are holding me back in the present that stem from my childhood ptsd. But i’m so ready to heal. I’ve been in therapy since 6th grade trying to “fix” myself but nothing has worked, i mean i think it’s worked in small increments and for that im grateful, but now I really need to DO THE WORK! And im so grateful because I prayed bc im on the end of my rope, im getting married soon yet im still not able to hold a job down very well due to my overwhelming emotions/dysregulation which leads to my escape behavior. And though im aware of this, i didn’t know what to do to solve it or feel more calm and able to handle stress better. I’m already into Part 3 of your initial course and my God it's already helping. Thank you so much for being who you are and sharing your healing journey! You are saving lives, and i know this because you have saved mine. Thank you so much! I will continue, I will get stronger, and I CAN do this!!! ❤️❤️ We all can! Let's heal my friends, it's time!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 15 дней назад

Wow, I'm so glad you found the channel! Welcome :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@user-do3qz7kt2m 20 дней назад

I can’t wait for your book to come have ordered it australia ❤❤❤

@MissyQ12345 15 дней назад

This is exactly what I needed today. Thank you. I am stuck, but this really spoke to me and gave me a glimmer of hope. 🙏

@MrBrunoUSA 20 дней назад

i have nade a lot of progress over the last four and a half years but there is still lots to do. it is like a war of attrition: you have to keep fighting it one day at a time. there are a couple addictions i am finally breaking free of thanks to some new things i have been trying. Slow steady relentless pressure beats sudden violent action every time.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 19 дней назад

Glad you are here! Nika@TeamFairy

@lilijastoppler377 18 дней назад

Thank you so much! Your way of talking to us, of explaining is so good, it makes me want to heal more.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 18 дней назад

We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@joebideb 19 дней назад

When I focus on myself, I start crying 😢

@bluecandymsp 16 дней назад

I do, too 😢 For me, I think it comes from my childhood when I didn't get kind, loving attention from mother, at all, ever, and when I start to take the time to listen to myself & what I need or want with self-compassion, I really feel the grief & sadness of what I didn't get (if that makes sense?) But tears are ok. Crying is ok. They're very healing. You're not alone ❤

@hipchicagal2111 20 дней назад

BAM!! Thank you sooo much for this message. I needed it badly. You give me great hope! ☮️💗✨️

@kre8504 19 дней назад

I’m presently in a class to heal trauma. It’s a free class & beneficial, however would @ some point like to your classes, as I’ve had a lifetime of living in an abusive home. I am growing in my trauma class & will be going to class today. I’m freeing myself from my past & growing from my past experiences.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Great news. Well done you. Your trauma class sounds like a good and valuable place.

@punyashloka4946 17 дней назад

Healing is possible. Thank you .

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 17 дней назад

You got this! Nika@TeamFairy

@azgalarizona9293 20 дней назад

Almost 75 years old so my biggest question is how do I pay for these programs when I'm dirt poor and live on 935 a month Social Security

@mariannemccarthy8677 20 дней назад

maybe start with all the free resources first....Anna has many free resources and so do other RU-vid channels...... sending hope....

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 20 дней назад

Only use free resource and the library and anything thst is free that is good for you.

@RachelF.Nichols-kl4om 20 дней назад

I’m in the same condition. I have used the free daily practice for about a year. People around me are starting to notice a difference. I feel so much better.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 20 дней назад

If you haven't already, you may want to try Anna's free course ‘The Daily Practice’. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Calista@TeamFairy

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 19 дней назад

Well done Rachel

@Joe-oy1nq 15 дней назад

I'm very stuck!!! 58 years old, got into recovery (12 step) at 27. I put a bandaid over the septum, in and out or recovery. I never gave up on myself. I recently started going to counseling and watching CPTSD videos and it has been quite an eye opener, emotional turbulence....... I'm so stuck in the unhealthy mind pattern and I realize this is the tape that has been ingrained deeply within the confines of my convoluted mind 🤬 😡

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 15 дней назад

You're in the right place and we're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@africanbrowny 17 дней назад

I'm definitely in the first group. Maybe because I'm also a curious person by nature, so I like trying new things.

@pampj8501 18 дней назад

My spouse has also suffered CPTSD. She is somewhat in denial and somewhat fallen into the trap of mistaking awareness as healing. We have been together for less than three years and married for less than a year. I feel like we are taking one step forward and two steps back. My mental health has deteriorated and it’s getting worse because she keeps saying she is fine and just waiting on me, which of course makes me feel like something is wrong with me. We get into these violent arguments yelling, calling names, using threats and shame. She says they are normal arguments but this is toxic. I can at least recognize that. I have asked for a divorce and she somehow keeps convincing herself that I am not serious and she can just wait me out, but when I reiterate that I want the divorce she acts all shocked and accuses me of playing with her emotions. I am not healing because I am stuck in an unhealthy marriage. Sorry I guess there was no real point to this other than to vent. I literally have no one other than my 21 year old niece to talk to. Well at least no one that understands.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789 17 дней назад

Hello, I really think you should look for a trauma therapist. Janina Fisher healing the living legacy of trauma workbook is something a person can use alone or with a therapist. It is good her wife now has awareness of her CPTSD. You describe a home life that has a lot of unresolved conflicts and fights- that is not a peaceful place to live. For your own quality of life I advise you find a good therapist you. Not a couples therapist. This is for your life to me more peaceful. It is interesting listen to Marsha Linehan on RU-vid she invented DBT and she had major heavy duty troubles in her young life. I am going to be very blunt here- your 21 year old niece does not need to hear this stuff. This is too big a burden on her. This was done in my family. So respect for your niece means you bring your troubles elsewhere- even to a confidential helpline.

@Sommyie 20 дней назад

I'll take 50% today, and 20% tomorrow.

@rosedevarel7098 15 дней назад

Thanks for the video! I'm imagining myself living without certain people, places, and loans . It is possible!

@lightitup33333 6 дней назад

I’m eliminating some of these words, just for me, based on an extensive review of my journals and past-the words “try, should, better, more, most” I am instead saying, “start” “today I am doing this when this”, etc. the guilt trips have not helped me. The specific action plans have.

@katthecat6657 11 дней назад

"Holding space is a practice of making space for somebody else's experience and centering them. To hold space, one must be fully present and create a safe environment. Once the circumstances are created, holding space fosters listening and empathizing." (Psychology Today, May 25, 2023). I do not know what this term means for the person who wrote you, Anna, but it is possible she wanted to hold herself back in order to make a safe space for him and not ruin things by being "too much" That's my take on it. I assume the meaning has different variations with each person.....

@drjanines3301 13 дней назад

I've learned soooo much in the last 6 years that I feel I "should" be further along! I'm not sure what to do. Where's the zoom call?! I'm still in a self defeating mode back & forth - exactly what your saying - the further upset I am, the harder it is to see solutions. I always help other ppl but don't see myself as being worthy of good things or ppl - i don't know why i can't make friends

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 12 дней назад

When you finish The Daily Practice (bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice) you are invited to the Daily Practice Zoom Calls where we practice together and learn more about the technique. Nika@TeamFairy

@drjanines3301 11 дней назад

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you so very much

@amossman66 17 дней назад

Oh my gosh thank you for this ... at times I feel and think some of the same things you've mentioned. Thank you for inspiration and hope❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 17 дней назад

We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@michaelvictoriareese 16 дней назад

I'm in double-depression that is severe. I'm struggling to functioning on the most basic levels. I'm hoping that I can get myself to watch enough of these videos to see if it helps.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 15 дней назад

Glad you are here! Good luck on your healing journey! Nika@TeamFairy