@@eraldocoil2719 I read that as "I don't trust A man with the ability to move his hands in any capacity" and was torn between laughter and agreement. If a man got hands....he shady...,ladies....take his piano walkers right off. Now I KNOW you won't be texting.
The inability to reload is the least of problems in “game” attitude. More like don’t treat it as a game cos people aren’t freaking objects, toys or robots.
As a woman, one of the best things you can do as a man is just talk to us like we are actual human beings. If some guy comes up to me with the mindset of “omg! i’m talking to a female!!” it’s obvious, and it will instantly make the woman feel uncomfortable
Also they should lessen their expectations as we also do. When a gentleman whom I hold affection for displays kindness towards me, I do not immediately presume that I will have a romantic opportunity with him. Building a romantic relationship necessitates mutual attraction and can be best achieved through the friendship approach, allowing us to genuinely connect and determine if we are better suited as companions or romantic partners. So I encourage the same advice for men, lower the high expectations. We encountered a gentleman at work who had envisioned a romantic opportunity with his boss's daughter. He harbored lofty expectations, only to have them shattered upon discovering that she was already contentedly involved in a romantic relationship with someone else. It turns out that her professional demeanor towards him was simply a matter of maintaining a proper work dynamic, though he mistakenly interpreted it differently.
The title is absolutely correct. If any man approached me in this way, I would try to get away as fast as I could while calling someone so they know my location.
He sounds like an indian, but dont want to say something wrong since its in black and white. But if he is one, then the students are all scammed by him.
What do you recommend? A puppy? A warm smile? Feats of strength and agility? Approaching anyone for the first time is hard. I just try to be friendly and receptive and immediately take no for an answer, if that is the answer. And if it's not maybe I'll make a friend. :)
This sort of happened to me once. I’ve had the opener “you’re coming home with me tonight” (no question or anything) said to me before to which I left that bar with my friends so fast out of pure fear. He would not take no for an answer for like 5 mins though and his mates were getting involved too and surrounding me (I was in a queue initially for the bar but felt like I couldn’t leave after being surrounded). The bar queue was kind of like a huge mob normally so nobody really noticed that I was surrounded as it is normal for groups to be sprawled against the bar. My friend thankfully came looking for me and pulled me out after a concerning look I threw them and they said like “we need to leave the taxi is here”. One of the most scared I’ve ever been. Glad my friend found me but this also shouldn’t be a situation to begin with.
5:16 I'm absolutely wheezing imagining someone actually walking across the bar yelling this shit. People would be running away screaming as quick as if someone pulled a gun at the club if a creep of that level wandered into your space
Here's my genuine advice, talk to them like people. Go into every conversation looking for a friend. Even if it doesn't go beyond that you've gained a friend. I don't know why people feel that's a bad thing.
The problem is that those men are obsessed with the concept of 'sex with (many) women' as something that gives them worth as men, before other men. They don't see women as people or themselves as something with any value beyond this warped ideal of 'a man as something that gains power through sexual prowess'. I don't know if they're hopeless but they're definitely not okay enough to be socially adjusted. It reeks of self-hatred. People like that can't stand other people so they don't care about getting to know anyone, let alone making friends.
never a bad thing, a guy once made friends with me and stayed friends after I told him I wasn't interested in anything else. 10 years later and he's married to my sister and has 2 kids with her lol. you never know who you'll meet through women who are just your friends.
They don't see us as actual humans with thoughts and feelings. We are the side characters who only show up when they need something. Why put any work into the help?
I'm not a conspiracy theorist but I'm honestly starting to think these pickup artists are actually people working for the government to weed out men who need to be on a watch list.
"being normal" isn't working for most guys now because they don't know what normal is, they have severely warped views of how social interactions are supposed to go and when they try, it goes disastrously wrong. The *right* (not a con-artist/pick up artist) person can help them with that.
Don't let them know you are afraid, just be brave in general since a ton of these creeps get off more when they know they creeped out someone or scared them. It's weird but you can check even online discussions held by such weirdos
I have this guy I work with who's 37 and can't get a relationship and he always talks like it's a game "if she doesn't reply for an hour I'll take an hour to respond I have to match her energy" I'm like bro that will only make her think she doesn't mean anything to you be confident funny driven and disciplined. those are traits that matter. there are no tactics tricks or games. get any tactics out of your head, work on yourself, build a better life for you that she wants to be apart of
You JUST said a tactic thou XD There IS NONE Just BE YOURSELF and do not work on your behavior to pleas eothers but yourself only and the rest will come together!
How is suddenly telling someone you want to engage in coitus with them supposed to generate attraction again? If they're not attracted to you already, they're going to be even less attracted to you when you suddenly come out of nowhere with that 💀
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Trying not to think about someone is like telling people "try not to think about polar bear in miniskirt". They are going to think about polar bear in miniskirt even if they never thought of either of those things. Human mind doesn't work like that. Keep busy, focus on yourself, don't ruminate at the beginning but don't run from the feelings, either. End of relationship brings up a chemical storm in your brain that is affecting the way you feel and think - read up about neuroscience of love to understand it more deeply. Getting insight into how neurotransmitters are affecting your behaviour will make you feel less hopeless and confused. Know that it will pass, like all things. When the chemical storm is over, you can analyse the past - preferably with someone you can trust,a good friend and therapist. And please don't get scammed by people preying on those with broken hearts.
what ever happened to just be yourself? what ever happened to only accepting those who accept you for you? your "charming" personality will define your relationship.
I will never understand why guys look for dating advice from other guys. I struggled for many years to find a relationship. After countless failures I changed my approach. Instead of taking advice from guys, I started asking women for advice and you know what happened? I immediately had success. It’s almost like women will tell you what they want and you just have to listen. But for some reason guys just refuse to change how they do things. I see it constantly in these comments sections. Women will say “don’t do this stuff, we think it’s creepy and no one will ever respond well to it” and guys respond saying “no, you’re a stupid woman. You don’t know what you want and you’re lucky that we even acknowledge your existence”. It’s absolutely insane to me how guys think a woman will want you if you harass her and act like a pervert. Smh
You see, people who get advice from pickup guys have the idea that ALL of women act certain way and it's a bit frustrating and sad to see. The answer is right next to you (just talk to them) but pickup artists will get you far away from actually talking to a woman like a normal person bc it keeps them insecure and with the idea that those people actually need their advice.
Not that this is bad advice, but I will say that men shouldn't assume this will up their chances of successful relationships, if not because they have to implicitly adapt to being an enjoyable person, but also because in my own experience of taking women's advice, doing exactly what they don't suggest has worked better for me. Women have this tendency to speak for all women and it will end up causing failure. It is why we still see women being objectified, as many do it to themselves and many others encourage men to do so whether they actually mean to or not. No demographic of people are all in the same page despite how hard they try to act like this is the case.
I have some actual advice incase someone is lonely here: Be casual and friendly, especially in clubs. Try to make subtle advances before talking to someone for example if you lock eyes with someone -> smile -> if you get a smile back -> slowly make your way over on the dance floor or at the bar -> start up a conversation and don't forget to ask her questions, don't let you be the only one talking. If she isn't engaging it's fine just say enjoy your night and go on, in most cases her body language will immediately let you know if she's interested or not. Don't be pushy. If she engages with you give it some time and roll with the conversation, then ask for a number or instagram if you feel comfortable. After that on the dance floor see how she reacts to light touch on arm or waist while talking, just a careful approach and be sure she is comfortable, if so and she seems into you, you can try leaning in for a kiss. There's no magic to this no retarded pick-up lines or creepy shit like whatever the fuck this guy is doing, this is just what I used to do. But listen one night stands are not what you should look for, sex isn't/should't be your main goal, it's not that fulfilling. Sure it's fun and feels great but that makes you happy for like a day and that's it, try to find someone you can fall in love with instead. I hope this helps, Charlie covered most of what you shouldn't do and here's some stuff of what you should do.✌🏻
Is there a way to approach a specific girl in a friend group? When I go to the bar girls are either with a guy or in a group. Seems rude to just jump in and take one girl’s attention away from her friends.
I hope people read the last part of your comment. The hookup lifestyle is so glorified by young dudes while it's not fulfilling at all. Worst part is you only realize that after putting in all the effort
lowkey the best option, requires both rapport, and nonchalance. I started talking to a girl younger than me, who went to my highschool, and now lives in the same city as me. Don't be a freak, be chill, actually be interested too, they are people. If you treat a person how you want to be treated you will be fine. she didn't know me specifically, but she knew of me, and that was enough to kick off a conversation. Slow down, have income, and want things for YOURSELF. you got this kings.
I call my wife “buddy” “pal” and “dude” but I also call her names of affection and other things she likes that I cannot say on public forum. Your relationship is yours, and don’t worry about what other people think when it comes to it. Not supporting the loony toon in this video by any means but calling your S/O “buddy” ain’t no thang
Pick up artists have always baffled me. Like... it isn't that hard. I'm not saying I'm casanova over here, but like... just talk to women like human beings. Without drenching every interaction with the overtone of "I'm only speaking to you cause I want in your pants." Like, you know, conversation. And then you either hit it off, or you don't so it was never meant to be and you move on, cause you're not entitled to anyone. It really is that simple, fellas.
They think dating is about being tactical, as if the right move or line will always work, when it's all about being personal and respectful and meeting people on their level
@@theCommentDevil It's such an insane, creepy mindset to have. And dehumanizing too. Like that women aren't people. They're... like... a lockbox to open. Just find the right password and they'll swoon over you and that's such imaginary nonsense. They'd rather spend money to go to weird workshops full of incels than just have a personality.
Fr. There isn't a magic way to make things happen. Women are human beings and you can't control how they will feel about you. Just treat them like humans and respect them, and see what happens.
I am convinced many of these “coaches” are essentially just trying to gate keep relationships in the most stupid yet aggressive way possible. By playing the role of the serpent in the garden of eden and baiting desperate people into brutally and irreversibly fucking up their entire lives.
I agree. Dating and relationships are in a terrible state, but these grifters exist to make money off a segment of people who can't work from a worse scenario and move up from there.
These types of people treat women like deers you dont want to startle as you get closer because they dont see them as people with their own thoughts. "Oh, if you invade their space theyll be put off, so just inch closer and closer so they cant tell exactly when its "too much" for them until you are touching them wherever you want"
Hearing them saying the sentence "You need to be invading their space" with a straight face is really something else. They do know that the word invading has a negative connotation right?. It's not something people do unless it's with ill intent.
Pro tip: Just don't. Don't do anything. Just improve yourself and wait around. Either someone becomes interested or they don't. Because of pick-up "artists" like that, even approaching like a normal, sane individual is seen as bad and suspicious. So, just don't.
@@kadeemvaughn9 Approaching puts you at risk of false accusations, being shunned, and/or scorned, regardless of how it is done. The people who make these accusations face little punishment, too. There is little benifit in the U.S. when it comes to approaching, hell, even marriage (divorce courts are insanely biased). We're in a different world, friend.
@@just-linx8271 i am aware of all the issues with females and the legal system in the 🇺🇸 but in general woman don't approach you so if you want a girl you gotta risk it or be alone but waiting for a girl to just fall in your lap is unrealistic
Women are making it difficult to even have conversations these days. I had to smash a water cooler in the waiting room because she couldn't just have a normal conversation without harboring the assumptions that you just mentioned.
the real cheat code is to just genuinely think of women as people. just regular ass people the same way men are. some are attractive, some arent, some you get along and have shared interests with, some you don't. like deadass just approach us like normal ppl worthy of respect and with inherent value regardless of if we sleep with you, cuz you dont suddenly deem men worthless if you don't become best friends so why do women lose all value if we arent romantic partners?
Also having platonic women friends gets you laid. Women know other women. You being able to handle rejection and not be a creep will get u reccomendations lol.
No. Thinking women like they are the same as men is exactly how we got into this situation. Men and women are different. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging this.
One time I was waiting alone at a train station and a man came and sat down beside me and asked if he could sit. I said sure. Then he asked if he could have sex with me. I thought I misheard. He repeated himself. Uncomfortable does not begin to describe how I felt. It was immediate fear. I’m not even someone that usually feels unsafe when going around alone. I’ve lived downtown in a large city for 20 years. But it really shook me honestly. This is my long way of confirming - do not talk to women this way.
"... My agent said this video would be good exposure even if the pay is shit, but what the actual fuck is this? Maybe if I stay completely still he won't see me and go away."
Rofl no joke, was looking for a comment like this, it does look just like that, similar to a certain film that was blamed for an uprising many years ago. Really does look like some type of interrogation technique/counter espionage tactic being used by the modern forces.
As a guy, it would even be weird/suspicious if a random woman approached me like this. I'd think she'd be setting me up or try to rob me in the worst case. The main problem would be that I'd feel like something to be used not as a genuine person. To be fair, I've had it sort of happen once although I had known her (amically) for a while and it wasnt the first thing she said to me that night.
The only place you should be straightforward about wanting sex is on a dating app. Most people would prefer to know up front that you're just looking to hook up rather than being led on, used for sex and then abandoned. And you do it in a polite way, like "hey, just so you know, I'm only interested in hooking up atm." But doing it in real life, that's a new level of stupidity.
What’s more infuriating is how women on dating apps will specifically say in their profile if they’re interested in hookups making it stupendously easy for men to find women who are actually interested in hooking up, all men have to do is be just as forthcoming in their own profile and start matching with people who are on tinder for the same purpose. If they don’t have success with the women who participate in hookup culture (as the selection criteria is often based entirely on high standards of physical attractiveness) they can always consider going to other websites to seek out a consensual hook up with a sex worker. As for IRL scenarios where it would be conceivable to consider a woman might be interested in hookups, there’s always certain night clubs that become known for a higher prevalence of that sort of thing, but even then-and this applies whether in person or online-men should NEVER obfuscate the fact they’re ONLY looking for a hookup, a man intentionally framing his interest as romantic in nature and love bombing a woman when a one night stand is all he’s after is an inexcusable manipulation tactic used to circumvent the fact most women are only interested in having sex under the belief there’s mutual romantic attraction and the subsequent belief this is the start of a relationship that will extend beyond that night. Men should just be honest about the type of relationship (or lack there of) they’re interested in and be respectful to any women who says they’re not interested. Also, the internet (especially the manosphere) continues to mislead men to think all women participate in hookup culture, but they shouldn’t be making that assumption about the women they meet, hookups are still predominantly unappealing to the majority of women and sex remains exclusive to their romantic relationships.
I feel like something that isn't talked about is that people (in this case, women) can very easily sense when the other person doesn't perceive them as a differentiated human being. As a woman I have met SO MANY men, generally the majority, who have no issue with relating to women, are able to have normal conversations with me and others, and are able to be mutually respectful. Even when their only interest is sex and even when I'm not receptive to their advances, they still manage to convey that they respect me as a human being. Then, these pick-artist, incel types walk around like women are an esoteric hivemind that need to be treated in a very specific way to produce to desired output, like a sex vending machine. It's crazy to me how this minority of men cannot even pretend to respect women as sentient beings. What makes dating and 'cold approaches' so difficult for these types of guys isn't due to the female hivemind being cold or unforgiving, it's because the majority of other men have shown that you can be respectful and inviting even in the pursuit of a sexual relationship. Why would anyone ever choose someone aggressive, blunt, and/or impersonal when there are a trillion other people who don't make you feel like an object?
men deal with this same stuff too, being objectified and touched when we dont like it. i couldnt tell you just how many times ive been helping family/friends move furniture or doing some outdoor labor and the women in the household feel fine just putting their hands on your back or patting your neck, or acting like their gonna hit you and playing it off as a joke, or constantly telling you "oh youre so tall, and your shoulders are so broad." theres even times when im out in public at an event, and i can feel women just staring into the back of my head as i walk buy, or walking right in front of me (we're talking inches from my belly) when theres way more space behind me to walk. i can tell you for a fact thats theres plenty of women out there who dont know how to actually talk to men they like and act weird around them (especially when you say something completely normal like "no i dont like concerts theyre too loud" and they laugh like its the funniest shit ever.) and we have to feel like an asshole for telling them "hey i dont like that" or "yeah i get that a lot." those experiences definitely give you an understanding of how women must feel from guys who do the same, but i just wish we were taken more seriously when we express our discomfort
That's a great point, however my life experience has been the opposite, unfortunately. I've met so many creeps ever since I was a little kid, and MOST men were gross and condescending. I'm glad that for you the majority were decent, but to me it still seems like most of them are awful.
I can't help wondering if it's really the minority of men who can not (or at least don't) respect women as sentient beings. I REALLY hope that is the case.
There is no “correct definition” of what a woman should be. The only criteria is being an adult female, that’s literally it. Women can be whatever and whoever they want to be. The fact that you need “proof” to even consider that they aren’t some indecipherable homogenous singularity and are instead individuals with their own unique thoughts and experiences is as telling as it is worrying.
27 f i work nights in a gas station-open carry. A guy strait up interviewed me for 10 min on why I was married, why I wouldn't cheat with him. Clear I was married. He only stopped when another guy came in and saved me
Tho I do have a question. How do you guys with night shifts juggle the rest of your life? I'm genuinely interested cuz I don't know anyone who has a night shift. Especially sleep n relationships.
i love whenever they bring up the "female mind" like it's some sort of lovecraftian hivemind enigma and i'm just here, one of these so called female entities, not relating to a single thing they say. also it's hard to put into words but i find it most entertaining how they dissect the "female mind" like it's an alien concept and in that case, wtf is the "male mind" then? like they make so many literally normal run-of-the-mill responses and personality traits seem like elusive, female-only concepts and it's just hilarious to me like "ah yes, ofc, guys dont do this, only girls, they're like animals running on instinct or something" like i cant even be mad it's just funny
it is fr insane when men try to analyze women and talk like we all didn't evolve on the same earth from the same ancestors. they're wrong pretty much every time but the absolute conviction with which they believe what they're saying is remarkable. they literally all just talk like that one friend who minored in psychology and thinks they're a therapist or something
Ever notice how younger women, like in their teens and 20s, often get little crushes on their gay male friends? Why is that? The men are certainly not communicating any sexual "intentions" their way. It's because they will actually *look a woman in the eyes* and the friendship grows out of the fact *they just like each other as humans.* It's sad how REFRESHING that can feel as a teenage girl or young woman.
exactly. I find Queer men are just safer. they also listen and empathise with social issues I deal with as a woman and help out (for example calling out misogynistic 'jokes') instead of calling me sensitive etc
I had a girl saying “I always wanted a gay friend”. Reminds me of Trevor’s mom from GTA 5 “I always wanted a gay son” 😂 I honestly don’t understand the gay friend thing.
@@whitneyANDbunny I hope you realise the hilarity of this situation XD the irony of you standing in agreement with me, an Indian, while disrespecting my Indian brothers at the same time is just gold 😌 It's like you tried to be racist, but accidentally proved yourself all people of a race are not the same 💀
@@VivekYadav-ds8ozI think she was saying that because Indian men are one of the shortest in stature on average so therefore less threatening, or she is talking about how overtly horny most are towards women in general. Still racial bias, but not necessarily racist, it's not like she is saying she thinks indians are inferior.
@@VivekYadav-ds8oz It's not racism, it's xenophobia (a valid one, there's been a woman who got her insides pulled out as she was r-- in India like.. 2 weeks ago?) Indian isn't a race, not even ethnicity, it's a nationality.
No, please do this. Then women will know who the creeps are right away. Make sure to have the police on speed dial too, so you can call them to come pick you up afterwards. Go for it hero.
These insane dudes will take the most direct approach ever, come off creepy as hell, and then get hostile or even dangerous when they're rejected! To avoid this, I typically act puzzled and pretend I don't speak English. So far, none of the creeps I've used this tactic on have known Russian, but I'm inclined to learn more languages just in case
Based on the clips Charlie showed, the guy in the black shirt next to the pickup artist is either there under duress and just waiting for his moment to escape, or he's already dead and this is a Weekend at Bernie's situation. There's no way someone with _that_ facial expression is actually paying attention to what's being said, or is even there of their own free will. (What even _was_ the point of that other guy? He doesn't say anything or react at all. They could've just just filmed the pickup artist talking directly into the camera.)
