Would you rather have authenticity or affectation? If you ask me, a lot of young women these days need this kind of interaction in their lives. We need to teach girls better social skills because a lot of them don't know how to handle real world confrontation since their family and friends have given them the idea that they can hide from all of their problems.
@Zenigundam bro what? You think more young women need to deal with obsessed social-retards? No hate to the guy's texts in the vid but he definitely isn't normal, I think interacting with these people will change nothing.
the fact that guys have to worry about that now basically means dating is much harder than before. Not that creepy people shouldn't be exposed but everyone is awkward sometimes and tbh you can't control the other person's actions, so you can't predict if/when they'll screenshot your convo. I've seen dudes who aren't even creepy get screenshotted and posted online. Basically tryna say it's a pretty scumbag move to post someone you're talking to's private conversation online.
@@thekamotodragonlmao and if they get posted online while not being weird, then who cares? and the woman would seem crazy in that situation. the solution is to not be weird or creepy. awkward is different, and if a woman “exposes” you for being awkward, then she’s a bitch and move on. what’s your actual point? or are you preaching some incel shit?
I just got war flashbacks from saying I love you to a guy I met once because he wasn’t texting me back after writing essays and I got desperate. Still makes me gag till this day. So glad I gained some sanity and self respect.
You just reminded me I did something like that before. I think I also called him like 100 times all night? No clue why I did that, I had just dumped an abusive boyfriend. Glad I never did something like that again
"glad you disrespected me" She was anything BUT disrespectful. She had more patience than anyone else would've had (me definitely included) in that situation.
Woah, what were you gonna do? Punch the air because a known person that is drunk msged you too much?Don't be so sensitive person, it makes you look like you have no friends or can't make any.
@@shihabsharar7457 I have been under the influence many times and I have not texted someone that much or have been that creepy. When you are drunk you have no filter and whatever you hide gets leaked out depending on what it is. Unless it's an emergency there is no reason to text someone like that.
My initial reaction was “wow I can’t believe she didn’t tell him off sooner” And then I learned that all these messages were sent while she was in her one class.
Imagine rejecting a random dude in college just to find out years down the line, that he became one of the lead actors in the critically acclaimed mockingjay part 1
I like how Charlie has been in an actual role in a movie now, but it's still an undeniable fact that nothing can beat his critical cameo in Hunger games
Its not about if a human is better then the other You could be both good and the other one is better does that make any matter for you that as well is good? Alone that thinking of you show me that you proply are not the best human and more of a hypocrite.
@@MrJimmyTide Bro you really run around in your life and talk with people about : " Oh watch he was so much a better person, oh she is just a bad person " You know what that mean? That people also will talk about you the same way If you run around rating other people how good they are compared to other Live like that but i dont wanna befriend with somebody who is always rating whos better and who not lol Everyone has good and bad sites on them If you cant realize that Youre not an adult ;) Youre insult proof me that.
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He barely seems literate, I don't think he was on that level. He probably just thought, "I'll make a classic joke about fucking two old ladies from the bar. That's funny!". It wasn't all that funny, but that's the most likely scenario.
Weird. I had a normal comment here and it vanished. It was just saying that he may have thought he was making a funny joke. Oh yeah, I said "the F word" in the comment. I guess you can't curse in comments in RU-vid or your comments gets deleted.
Oh god. Those messages reminded me about how I used to act with my 1st online friend 😭 I would literally text him right when I woke up to the moment I went to sleep... He replied to me everytime but I still feel like i gave him mild ptsd
I have a few friends like this and I don't mind it. I enjoy the company. If he replied every time it shows he was enjoying it. Unless he told you specifically that it's annoying I wouldn't worry about it.
Thanks, Dr. Phil. I admit I do the same things when I see people being genuinely abusive and antisocial, but we don’t need a full psychoanalysis for a dude who got shitfaced and oversentimental.
I think maybe he should be texting into the void. Instead of at a real person. Just create a new account that noone uses, and let these dudes just message it ad infinitum
@@JLRPGS wait what, everyone was giving out this one number. It was a hotline? Like people on the other end listening or was it a recording like "you were given a fake number, sorry, they just didnt like you". I can imagine the former if it was like a pay-per-minute, it might've been quite lucrative!
My ex-boyfriend did this. He would spam me with text messages and calls every day, even when I told him I was busy and couldn't respond right away. I would call him out for it, then he'd apologize and say he'll never do it again, just to go back to texting me 50+ times a day. Over time, his messages progressively got worse, more threatening. To the point where he was threatening to hurt me if I didn't respond. When it comes to people like this, you need to be extremely cautious because they might seem harmless at first, only for them to reveal their true colors later on. I don't think this guy is bad or abusive in anyway, I think he was just too excited and desperate and didn't think about the repercussions of spamming someone with texts, he took the breakup like a champ and left her alone after that. But she hadn't been dating him for very long, so she didn't know him very well. She was most likely being nice because she didn't want to upset him out of fear of how he might react. The last thing you want to do is piss off someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, so it's best to stay on their good side just in case.
He's a dense guy that cant read the tone and spams. Hes literally texting like a guy thats never been in a relationship and never learned boundaries. its not like theyre dating, she has no obligation to treat him like some man-baby and teach him that what hes doing is wrong or annoying. its such basic fundamental communication, theres more to human communication that what is explicitly said. People are not obligated to date you, her not wanting to date someone for whatever reason is not a problem. "saying something bad" is not the only reason to not want to peruse a relationship with someone. spamming people is a very easy way to get them to nope out very quickly. Its pushy, desperate, and generally creepy af.
"nobody likes to be pestered" is the best way to put it. ive dropped friends over (including other things) their inability to stop spam texting or breaking stories up into sentence long messages. Genuinely so annoying when you don't know when a string of messages will end
i have pretty bad anxiety and when people dont respond i can overthink it quite easily. it led to me doing this to my boyfriend quite bit so when he realised that i was doing it because i was getting anxious he sat me down and suggested setting a limit to myself of 4 small messages or 2 big messages and if he doesnt respond then he is busy and i should try to distract myself. i do still slip up sometimes but its honestly been really helpful in reducing the anxiety about how he feels about me and its helped him too for obvious reasons. i did have to ask that he avoids reading the messages til he can respond so i dont panic about being left on read but overall its really helped me with my mental health and its strengthened our relationship a lot. im still working on it but its helped a lot so far.
Omg your boyfriend is a fckn stud hun ❤ the ability to communicate and deal with little issues like this in a caring and respectful way is HUGE! Wishing you guys the best man, that was fckn wholesome
yesssss but if you read through the texts apparently in the conversation before this, there was mention of keeping eachother updated... I think the dude just took it waaaay too litteral...
This is the reason why instead of immediately going to my friends when i have a lot on my mind, i like to write it down sometimes. I think a lot of people especially people like this should keep journals to externalize their thoughts. It really helps sometimes.
My word of advice: don’t text people you’re interested in when drunk. I’ve gotten so many texts like that and it genuinely feels like you’re virtually babysitting a 24 year old man. You feel like by not responding they may do something stupid, but by responding you’re enabling the behavior and it’s all around just uncomfortable.
Indeed…but i thought women liked that cavemanrizz…or the iamacompleteilliteratecheesecakewhodoesn’trespectothersrizz Edit: u lot think im serious…mate im just kidding
@@skorpian3490 The more time you spend thinking about women, the more you would be wrong. Thinking beyond what their feelings are at the time, is usually off the table. In any situation involving women, imagine the most convoluted emotional payoff that could be conceived and then watch as somehow, coincidentally, the woman makes every decision needed to build the emotion to a a fever pitch and then pop everything for that exact emotional explosion.
@@RandomAhhCommentSpammer the way it works is it basically has two teachers, one that wants a formal/respectful answer and one that wants a creative and correct answer. it has to please both of these hypothetical teachers. TLDR: you are right, but you oversimplified it
I get overthinking and being paranoid, causing you to text someone a lot when they're not available. But THIRTY+ messages in an HOUR while he KNOWS she couldn't respond is so insane...
It's like a game of ping pong. If you keep "pinging" the ball towards someone and they never serve it back, you're not playing a game with them. You're just hitting balls. Conversations should be a back and forth like a ping pong game.
I'm reminded of that scene from Meet Joe Black, "That's not love. It's some aimless infatuation that you feel like indulging. It's missing everything that matters-trust, responsibility, taking the weight for your choices and feelings and spending the rest of your life living up to them, and above all _not hurting the object of your love."_
Hot Take: He probably already lost her interest before the thread of ranting and over sharing happened, just because I imagine that hanging with him in person is equally as bad, and she already seemed withdrawn since the very beginning. Was probably a highly one sided and energetic first date and she got burned out and annoyed pretty quick.
As there will always be one child prodigy way better than you at your lifelong passion, there will be always someone who is worse than you at your worst moment
"You are my kryptonite" is wild 💀 Edit: Blatantly I get he's trying to say she's his weakness, but given the ego he displayed in the text messages, I think he unironically view himself as Superman
Respect to Charlie for saving countless middle and high school students’ from committing cringe with his words of wisdom. Wish I heard his advice sooner
Me too! I wish I'd heard it sooner, also... forget cringe, its literally social-suicide and may result in legit suicide due to the amount of shame-in-having committed such cringe! I'd know from how many times I've done it, the amount of suicidal-ideation-inducing-shame that enters my system from having done it, and being painfully aware, but not knowing/having the vocabulary/understanding it enough, to figure out what I'm doing wrong that makes people barely want to talk to me in a normal manner outside of my family. Although even inside my family... TOO LONG DIDN'T READ!
I've unfortunately found myself in such a position and have done many things I wish that I could take back so on one hand I feel like I can understand it. It can be easy to hyperfixate on anything that makes you feel alive when you're not in a great place to begin with. You'll cling to any hint of relief when it feels like you're in agony. You might even try to blame them for it. Still as an adult one should really have better emotional regulation than that. Trying to pretend that you aren't making the other person uncomfortable is willful ignorance. It's obvious... you just don't care. You're only thinking of yourself.
It is said that the "cringe" feeling comes from a place of empathy, putting yourself in the place of the subject, and then feeling second-hand embarrassment from it. Learning from those who make cringe mistakes, is a great way to not repeat them. We should also respecting that they could have been us at some point, so don't be too hard on them or yourself for it.
It's a philosophical thing. A person who's never owned a cellphone or sent any text messages of any type would never feel cringe or 2nd hand embarassment from a text interaction.
Lol I did something like that to an old friend from school. When I was 14 I got a phone for the first time and I just started text vlogging my entire day to my friend for a few weeks before I realised she isn't responding anymore so I stopped and learnt all the unspoken rules of texting lingo. She is still my friend luckily.
i still kind of act like this, well not to this level, but i text my partner a lot and im horrible at social skills, he said hes okay with it but i still cringe and wonder why he stays lmao
oh my god i did this to my friend but with skype messages/emails, then she went to a different school and stopped talking to me altogether. i was so sad at the time but i get it now and i'm much better at communicating now, so i suppose this is just a lesson some people need to learn. i'm glad you were able to maintain your friendship, she sounds like a keeper lol
@@lemonmeatit's ok to do it if you two know each other lol. We do this with my bestie, since we live in different continents sometimes one is living the best life ever while the other one is snoozing, so we got used to just sharing our day even if the other one is not replying, and we're both ok with that and love it/find it funny. I think our record is like 50 messages (she goes crazy sometimes, I love it hehe)
I’m glad Charlie said he used to be like this as well because I know I’ve definitely been there too. It’s that nervous drunk energy where you’re first falling for someone but don’t know if they feel the same way so you’re sorta nervous but excited about it and it just takes a few drinks and then them not replying actually only leads to you spewing more. It’s like how it’s easier to say something embarrassing in person if the other person isn't looking at you.
This is obviously not about social anxiety. If you both were like this too, than thats a problem of the way your communicating. Most of my friends have social anxiety but none of them would be a douchbag like this. I have social anxiety and i never did smth like that. The whole " I am such a good dude but this other looser said he could get more chicks! Paahhh" is not about social anxiety. It is more about a too big ego or maybe even narcism. Pls do not search excuses for behaviour like this. @@nocturnaliism
@@stevenhorstgeorg5728Dude he clearly said he’s glad he’s not like this anymore. Also people are young and have to learn things on their own, it’s not an excuse more of just saying that’s just young people learning, kind of like when a kid touches a hot stove and burns himself even though you told him no. He learned the hard way. Don’t be a dick.
I've had girls text me ten times over the course of about two or three hours (while I was working as case manager for HP which is a super demanding job) and then get super fucking mad when I didn't respond and tell me shit like "WELL I GUESS YOU JUST DON'T CARE THEN" Do don't this shit, it's annoying. It doesn't mean the guy/gal in question ain't interested, you'll know that if they just ignore you over the course of like a week.
I live in Wichita Falls, I so wish he showed the picture just so I could see if I’ve ever seen him. Also I could almost guarantee he is Air Force, from what girls tell me they are weird around here
I was in the AF at sheppard AFB for a while one of my best buddies Jimmy lives there. Some of the guys are awkward because they just got out of basic. Didn't really know how to handle or talk to ladies I never had any issues then again I don't like using my cell phone it's annoying feels like an anchor around my neck so I usually get the chicks I am dating who get furious because I don't text or call lol oh well 🤷♂🤣🤣
Reminds me of myself in high school 🥴 not this bad but I used to panic and keep texting when a girl wouldn’t respond. Many rejections/failed relationships later I learned that there’s nothing less attractive to a girl than a clingy guy, and I will physically stop myself from ever doing a double text or texting first, to the point that I’ve had girls think IM the one who’s disinterested.
I really respect you for being someone that a lot of young men (probably) legitimately look up to and mentioning you used to engage those cringy and undesirable texting habits, but became aware of it and stopped. I was like that too, but it's probably more effective for guys if it comes from the mouth of someone higher profile
I did this, I had a crush who I thought was into me, she gave me her insta so we could chat, and I sent a message every other day for half a year without a response, eventually had a epiphany that she wanted nothing to do with me, glad I woke up Edit: some people are thinking this is some random person I met so I'll give more context, I was 13-14 in my first year of Highschool, we where hanging out everyday for a while, so we decided to start messaging, but eventually she just stopped responding, but I kept messaging for months. DEFINITLY WEIRDO CREEP BEHAVIOUR
@@zanderwight872Over that long of a time yeah, but also how hard would it be to reply after like a week and just say your not into it. I think it's a bit pathetic not to say anything after so much time has passed. I get confrontation is uncomfortable and can be scary, but of you just avoid it all the time of course you're going to be scared of everyone and everything.
I think right from the get-go it's really weird how he wrote "Enjoy your time with them, please!" When she wrote she just got home with her son. It's not something I'd ever write.
It’s so great to be able to watch these from a position of not being able to relate anymore. I used to kind of do this spammy texting too, although probably a little lesser of an extent lmfao. After learning to be not chronically online and have normal human interactions and being normal over text allowed me to finally enter a committed serious relationship 🙏 if you’re still struggling out there dating, it gets better gentlemen. There is hope
This is something you have to learn even outside of dating. I had a friend I was pretty close with from middle school, and I would text them really often. Eventually, they started getting busier as high school rolled on, and we would talk less and less. I eventually started to pretty often bombard the chat with texts kinda like this: sending photos I took on trips or memes, RU-vid videos I thought they’d like, or just complaining about whatever in text, just biiiiig paragraphs about whatever dilemma I had. It would take a week or two for them to respond, and I somehow was able to go out with them for my birthday and it was fun to see them again. But, going out together and playing arcade games didn’t make responses faster, in fact they just stopped at some point. I should’ve just let it go sooner, I was trying to salvage a wilting friendship and I didn’t want to lose it. We had a lot of memories in and out of school, so I was panicking. But despite my feelings, I should’ve stopped bombarding chat and just let them breathe. I remember feeling like they were just busy for no reason, and I’m lucky I didn’t go off the edge and go full narcissist mode. Guys, if this happens to you just let your last text fester for a while. If they don’t respond? Don’t text until they text you back. Don’t try to reach them on other socials, just let them be because they might be going thru some shit.
If there's alcohol or other substances involved, put the phone on Airplane Mode, turn it off or make sure it's occupied with playing music, ANYTHING to keep this from happening. Also, if someone says that they're busy, then leave them to whatever they're doing, especially if there's family or schoolwork involved. Even if they're a friend or significant other, give them space and wait for them to finish up. Just be Chill!
Don't drink so much that you lose self control. I know most of us have been there but if you drink, you have to learn your limits and stay well within them.
Dis something similar while very drunk. Not as bad as this guy, but i sent an incomprehensible wall of text to an ex. Next morning I was really confused why I even did that. We broke up like 5 years prior and I also couldn't understand what I even wanted to say with that message.
It's funny how this basic advice that anyone without crippling autism would know is one of the top comments. Penguin has some creal creeps in his audience
I've very rarely double texted and it's been with good reasons. After two texts though, I leave it at that. And when someone tells you repeatedly they are busy, you let them be.
@WhiteCoc0 that's the biggest reason for my double texting. That and if I forgot to add something to the grocery list. Things that are always good reason. But I also only talk to a very select few people and my partner and I have a good relationship. He and I will sometimes forget something we meant to send or if one of us goes too long without responding (we're both epileptic) we send another text checking in on each other. Usually it's just me getting busy at work and forgetting he texted me and I was in the middle of responding to him lol.
Nah the cringe was manageable up until 6:35, after reading that i literally had to pause the video/put down my phone and go smoke some weed/take a walk and get some fresh air. That shit was way too stressful😭 set off all my panic receptors/fight or flight instincts. I never thought reading a text thread could make me feel like Mr. Krabs without his shell but Jesus Christ. Edit: coming back to the video to now learn it was all within the course of an hour and a half😭🤣💀💀I take back what i said, the cringe was never really manageable. The levels of "down bad" in this video are absolutely astronomical.
I appreciate your style of these videos - admitting our own past cringe offenses is a great way to help others without them feeling singled out or ostracized ❤
CHARLIE PLEASE NEVER STOP THIS SERIES, I’ve been listening to them every day on the way to school bc I commute for an hour. I just ran out and it was like a junkie running out of their last fix for the first time. I wasn’t the same. I clicked on this video as fast as I saw the notification for it. Please I’m begging keep making these.
I dont understand how people dont feel silly after sending so many texts in succession without a response when they KNOW they wont get a message back anytime soon
Desperation. Sometimes you feel like you have nothing to lose because its already lost, so might as well try and win it back with more. While I understand that in 99.99999999% of cases it only makes things worse, when you are desperate all you care about is the 0.00000001%
When I send random texts like this, it's usually stuff I found interesting and don't necessarily expect a response to. That being said, max I've ever sent is like 3 so idfk how you get this far.
This one sided conversion has the same energy as me dropping my phone, panicking and instead of just letting it fall on the carpet, just slapping it onto the wall.
This happened was me in 9th grade, I would constantly text this one guy I was into and everything I said was always a red flag. It’s been a couple years and I’m glad I developed social skills since then.
God this video hurts me to my soul. I remember freshman year getting my first cellphone and I would text my crushes pretending I was drunk to be cool and/or pretending I accidentally texted them thinking it was someone else. 16 years later and those memories still haunt me.
I used to text people first, then I learned that double texting and trying to keep conversations going when the other person didn’t want to talk was a big no no and often made me look weird. Suffice to say I have no friends anymore.
I think a lot of us have been in that giddy over- messaging stage in our teenage years that we can look back on and cringe over, its just always concerning to see the lack of self-awareness when that bleeds over into people's twenties & beyond. And also this feels like a more extreme example, guy was lost in the sauce for sure
For anyone who didn't know that persistent texting like this is a problem, please know that even if YOU don't mean any harm by it, this is a red flag that can signal that a dude has those weird stalker/creeper/possesive tendencies, so for safety, you're just GOING to get yourself dumped. Don't worry! If she's into you, she WILL reply when she has time. Give it at least 24 hours and you can try sending a single reminder/try again, but if she blows you off again what are you even chasing her for? TL;DR: chasing is a red flag, makes you look dangerous. And for you, you deserve a relationship where you don't have to chase them.
So women play hard to get and want to be pursued but then when you do it makes you dangerous? Lol smh I swear with y'all. Sending texts isn't the same as showing up at your work or even calling it's a little fax message that can be read and replied to at your convenience the fact that that triggers you is a dAnGeRoUs ReD fLaG 😂
So women play hard to get and want to be pursued to know we care but then when we do we're dangerous stalkers? A text is a little fax message that you can read and reply to at your convenience it's not the same as showing up at your work or even calling..the fact that a text triggers a person is a "dangerous red flag" tbh
Women: I want a man who will think of my every need before I do, who will breathe for me and step in front of a bullet for me 😍😍 Also women: if you text me more than twice you're a creepy stalker 😂
Honestly seeing the guys you show in these sort of videos both make me feel better about myself and show I really have had a fair share of the same issues regarding proper communication glad to be learning and changing shifting away from that sort of behavior still kinda sucks to remember u have embarrassed yourself in such a manner 🤷♂️. Least it all happened when I was young and could learn from it how so many never do is baffling 🤔.
I always say there's a fork in the road with people where they have to decide that their behavior isn't working out for them so they change or they take the other path where they think they're doing it right but not being intense enough so they go balls to the wall.
One thing that I learned from my cringe years and proper texting etiquette is that send a maximum of two texts and if they don’t respond you wait til they do, no matter how long minutes, hours, days. If they want to talk to you they will, if they don’t then they won’t it’s that simple. People make time for the people they want to talk to
I swear Charlie never mistimed his uploads on the things I’m going through.. Few days ago I confessed to someone but unfortunately got ghosted by her, and the sense of having the urge to text her constantly to get her response is abysmal. Thankfully, I restrained. And this video helps me a lot by moving on with my life and thinking that I am not alone in this. Thanks, Charlie.
I'm sorry she ghosted you. She's allowed to do that, but its not technically the kinder choice. I'm sorry she didn't respond and at least give you the courtesy of acknowledging your feelings (even if it ends in rejection). I've totally been in your spot, and I feel u dude. You'll be okay 👍🏼
Hey man, you probably already know this, but I want to let you know that you didn't do anything wrong. Her actions don't reflect on how you should see yourself. People sometimes just have different tastes, and are in different paths in life.
As a once girl who had made it clear as I rejected a boy who confessed to me (we were classmates at secondary school - I thanked him for his sudden confession I didn't expect but appreciated it nonetheless) and also got ghosted by another boy - also a classmate who I confessed to (both happened in different times, but in the same middle school), I sympathised with you. Ghosting even when we're clearly in the same class and used to talk/befriend each other normally definitely traumatised me to this day and I grew up even more reclusive and unconfident due to that boy. The least they could do was to reject you directly just like when you confessed to them directly aka show the same courtesy.
