Remember when aesthetics were just Pinterest boards? When they were only a collection of nice and curated images on the internet and not a direct route to financial ruin for only a few seconds of clout?
Even back then though it was still advertising for products. That’s all social media has become, regular regular people advertising for mega corporations for free, unless they are influencers and then maybe they get paid
To me is so good that in this era ,you wear all styles you wanna wear ,i wear ,baggy,skinny jeans,i wear ,low,high weist jeans,mob wife style ,old money style,hip hop style ,i love it all😂
I’m sorry but people who change closets every week are the people who you should be worried about!!! It’s ok not to be trendy, having a sense of style and being happy with it does!!
Yep dressing for your body type and dressing for the climate is so much more important than being trendy. Also if people are going to start wearing real fur I’m going to start throwing paint. Bet.
I thought aesthetics were about finding what truly fits your taste/personality and you just stick with it? I am a dark academia/cottagecore girl and i don't care if it's trendy or not because it's what i love.
It really is, but sadly trend vultures basically hijacked aesthetics for content and approval before dropping the instant it becomes "not trendy enough anymore" 😭😭😭😭😭
As a slavic girl who wore fur since i was a baby and got made fun for it like even 4 years ago because it looked “too fancy for everyday” this is ridiculous 😭
at this point honestly all of us were bullied for something that's trendy now...i say just roll with it... everyone complains about genz trends but honestly i find it so refreshing to see girls support each other & share trends with each other across all cultures. its the negative part we need to abandon.. the "throw out the old and accept this new" is lame. lets just keep accepting the new & support each other throughout past and present trends. you should have the right to wear your own culture with pride and you may even be surprised, you might start a new trend..
Seriously, do they think it's fun being married to someone who could be absolutely horrible and abusive but you're afraid to leave them because they can make your death look like an accident??
As a Sicilan with family members who were a part of that (they're all dead now) I was told to never speak of things you hear/see or ask questions. Yea it's not something that should be romanticized.
@@winniethepooht5776The alternative, being with a man who you love and respect and that reciprocates the same feelings. But you fear for yourself, him and the family everyday because he happens to be a mob boss or involved with the mob in some way ... Either scenario just sucks.
I grew up in Little Italy under Mafia control. People missed the point of the Sopranos, that they are absolute sociopaths. Those people and women they target, are their own communities. But unfortunately they made their own propaganda machine and people think they are "cool" and don't think beyond that. But it is literal fascism. Like the other commenter said, you have to live under secrecy, because one wrong statement will get you or your family in trouble.
I'm in my thirties (so in retirement home according to the internet) and I'm not on TikTok but I'm howling at these new aesthetics every time. They're so random and people are so invested in them it's amazing. Between life and work I don't have time to indulge in all of these but I watch this drama from afar and Im fascinated
I’m surprised some grown adults are going crazy over aesthetics on the internet. Most of these aesthetic people are young teens. It’s some crazy stuff.
i'm like 13 and i really like whimsical aesthetics like fairycore or goblin core but its more of a WOW THIS PICTURES IS PRETTY sorta way not a wow i want everything in my entire life to look like this you know? aesthetics are supposed to be fun not insane like these people @@vanillapinkfluff3477
Same here. It's like watching a train wreck, and I just can't look away from it. This shit is so ridiculous and fascinating. It's like watching Naruto all over again. They've got to all shout out the name of their secret technique so that everyone knows how unique they are in any given week. I think all these kids fighting over this stuff is the both the funniest and cringiest thing I've seen in such a long time.
Late 40s. Not on TikTok either. It’s bonkers. The only thing that I’ve looked at and thought was cute was the dirty martini makeup. Would I wear it every day? No. It’s just a pretty look here and there. Nothing about the trends are new. Clean girl + several others = minimalist makeup. For decades generations have rejected the trends of those before them. When I was a kid baby boomers went makeup crazy. Full glam, stage makeup, bright and neon colors. Everything could be seen from the cheap seats. Of course there were exceptions to this and there were subcultures that had different looks. Gen X largely rejected this and gravitated to minimalist makeup, neutral colors, messier makeup (aka “grunge”), etc… Again… you had subcultures like punk or goth that had different looks. There were also some more makeup/glam looks but they were neutral. Millennials spent a good chunk of their time doing stage makeup for the cheap seats. It’s what many of their moms did. My mom’s generation said no to more glam and colorful looks and went with more neutral and minimal makeup. Now there is some type of projectile trend vomit thing happening. It’s an 852 headed monster that is rotating through every look imaginable at warp speed.
I think the problem with modern aesthetics is that people create characters out of themselves to go along with the way they’re dressing, rather than being authentically themselves. Yes, aesthetics have always had a connection to certain personality traits, because clothes are a form of self expression. But changing yourself so frequently to fit a new personality to go along with your aesthetic is an identity crisis waiting to happen. As early 2000s scene/emo kids would call it, they’re posers
I understand spending money on a aesthetic you like and giving it up but these just confuse me honestly. Why would you spend so much money on one of these trends that you can tell will not last?
@@glowingsky1076 you nailed it they have no personality outside of shopping and social media aesthetics. That’s why a whole bunch of people freaked out when they couldn’t go shopping in 2020 for a couple weeks, that was their whole entire personality. They literally couldn’t live their life if they couldn’t consume worthless products
You’re OK being who you are you don’t need trends. It’s a marketing ploy to get you to spend money. Don’t do it ,save your money and when you get old, you can look like old money because you will have some.
I’ve been made fun of dressing emo and punk and had people say to me “go back to (insert 2000s or early 2010s year here)!” It annoys me. On the other hand I also dress glam once in a blue moon(most days I wear t shirts, jeans, and converse or vans, I just swap the t shirt for a glam top and the vans for combat boots when I’m trying to dress glam), mainly for parties and bars and this one emo person I knew called me a “pretentious prep” for it, so I cut them off. Preps also make fun me of when I dress emo. WHY can’t I have both styles lmao. I also love wearing leather jackets with glam tops and a glittery jacket with a mostly punk outfit
I’m going to wear curvey skinny jeans for the rest of my life because they fit my body perfectly. I don’t care if people tell me to go back to the 80s or go back to the 2018s or whatever. I will not be wearing bellbottoms again. I fell for that low rise flare crap 20 years ago. Ick no.
@@missbelle13222 I don’t know where the word preppy came from, we used it a lot back in the 80s. I think it means “prep school kid” like a uniform for a private, boarding school? It was the polo shirt, boat shoes, khaki pants look. Think J.Crew type of clothing.
the only one I can somewhat defend is the christian girl autumn style, its kind of been a sort of meme/style for a while and isn't a micro trend, its commonly associated with like white girl fall family/friend photoshoots
it's not just fashion aesthetics and makeup, nail colours also have aesthetic for some reason like blueberry milk nails or some shit like that, it is annoying and frustrating to see some women let these ridiculous trends to determine their whole life like wtf is going on. dont even let me start on skincare aesthetics too
😂😂😂 I think this every time I go to get my nails done. I just get the color that I like and it changes every time to something more or less full sparkly. It has nothing to do with what is trending or popular at the time. The nail techs don’t care what you pick. They’re getting paid no matter what. But I just shake my head at the fifty somethings trying to look twenty by doing the “trendy” nail color of the week. It’s so rediculous.
This shit is wild. I remember being bullied back in high school for having an ever-changing “aesthetic” (ie wearing whatever I liked and felt comfortable in any given day). The popular A&F/Hollister kids made fun of me for wearing thrifted clothes and Tripp pants, then the very next day the handful of goths at my school who grew up to be Nazis shunned me and called me a poser for wearing flowy skirts and paisley. Now it seems like it’s a requirement to change your aesthetic every other week. I feel so sorry for girls and other feminine kids growing up nowadays.
i have a main aesthetic, but i change depending on what a feel. my main aesthetic is like grunge/punk, but some days i just wear what i like. i have an aesthetic cause it makes me happy, and i don't need to chase trends that make me unhappy
I'm Sicilian American and I would never aspire to become a mob wife. WTF is going on? God I hate Tik Tok. Plus, what real Italian would eat at Olive Garden?
guys welcome to my new aesthetic: beanie shoes alpha-woman, or better yet, feminine clown dog-core, perhaps even the small town granny with those strawberry candies girl
I have a new aesthetic, Mudcore. Be the quirky girl who has a waterfall dirt outfit, hair and makeup to beat the Minimalistic Kardashians or Winter Mob Wives.
RaccoonCore with a low-key gangster-hussy vibe aesthetic has already left feminine clown dog-core in the dust… been at least three hours, gutted too as I had only just got my rainbow leash. Smalltown Granny is obviously a keeper, especially if you fuse with some Screaming Mary Shade or 90s Moss-esque BubblePop Glow Bint.
I think aesthetic labels are good for easily finding other people with your ALREADY ESTABLISHED style that you can get inspiration from etc but not to create fast fashion trends and keep people from finding their own style because the previous one is OUT, the new one is IN and if you even like the old one obviously you're so not in and so not cool and trendy
Literally when will women be free 😭 as someone that uses pinterest but not tiktok and instagram, do they carefully curate their pinterest to be only one aesthetic forever? Isn't the whole point to find inspiration and have as many boards with wildly different themes as you wish? To me that's the whole point ig
fr 😭 i used to feel bad bc my pinterest wasn’t “aesthetic looking” but then i just realized it doesn’t matter because it’s things I like. i don’t need to perform an aesthetic on a freakin platform for people who do not care lol
@@marvelousmia not white, but Northern European. I'm an Indonesian living in Indonesia and i think applying that aesthetic is difficult and doesn't feel like Indonesia
I’m sorry but how TF did clean skin come from a certain race or where the hell ever. I’m pretty damn sure each and every race since the beginning of time wants clean and clear skin. ESP women . I’m getting tired of trends and tired of where a trend may or may not have came from and wether or not it’s racis** to wear . People ….
the way y’all are acting like they said “white” instead Northern European. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH RACE. Scandinavia has been known for its minimalism and clean sort of look!! What do y’all think Ikea, the most notable Scandinavian brand was inspired by? The type of minimalism common in the nordics!!! The way y’all immediately jumped to race makes me so depressed.
My 9 yr old with her "granny core" "green core/frog core" aesthetic. Can we just leave this whole aesthetic stuff to the kids and young people who genuinely want to have fun with their clothes?? I have got the money to be keeping up with this nonsense.
There are poor people and animals out there struggling.. and here we have these people being upset for aesthetics? This is one of the infinite reasons why people (who have the privilege to do so) should educate themselves and develop more empathy
As someone grown in a violent envirment wirh an ill mother, undiagnosed discalculia and 3 dioctries of astigmatism, with a ludopatic grandmother, this hits hard.
exactly… especially when these micro trends can involve fur farmed from real, innocent baby animals. please educate yourself on fur farming horrors before buying into “aesthetic trends” like this… 250 baby chinchillas are killed to make one single coat. so many animals and people are suffering everyday… animals are killed for fashion, children and poor people are overworked abused and underpaid for fashion. all for it to be dumped when the next trend comes along 💔
@@darknessinc.5360 I am truly sorry.. is there any way we can help? Ill be praying for you and your loved ones.. everything is going to get better, i promise!
@@alwayscommentrarelyreply you named it better than i ever could.. its so hurtful to see these people be so proud of their lifestyle when their lifestyle is actually destroying animals' and children's lives.. I hoped that many more people from Gen Z would actually care more about the environment, children, animals and overconsumption..
@@darknessinc.5360 I am truly sorry.. is there any way we can help? I will be praying for you and your family, please don't lose hope everything will get better! (Sorry for writing again i just saw that my comment disappeared)
I fell into the whole aesthetics thing back in 2020 during quarantine. I remember I would watch “find your aesthetic” quizzes on RU-vid for hours and stressing out because I couldn’t stick with one. Now I honestly don’t care and just wear whatever I want when I want and it’s honestly more fun not limiting yourself to just one aesthetic
Over consumerism being glamorized. Just wear the clothes you're comfortable of, don't be afraid of FOMO. You are already a trend if you dress for yourself !
I have a vintage faux fur coat that was given to me after my great aunt passed away, and I wear it in the winter. The fact that people have commented on it being "mob wife" absolutely kills me LMFAO like what do you even meeaaannnn?! Just lemme enjoy my big fluffy coat and leave me alone
Well, if I want a huge tacky fur, I can always drag out my mother’s gigantic and exceptionally heavy fur coat from the ‘70s. It even comes with its own residual mothball perfume. Also, I’m from New Jersey. The mob wife thing isn’t just a trend here. Right next to the state flower and the state bird, it might as well be the state aesthetic.
As someone who's 30 - this has always existed but back in the 00s it was more prep vs goth or sk8er or punk. And people kind of just stuck to their people and no noise was made. Now? It's like a million trends and no one can just be happy with themselves.
"me when i find out we are no longer doing clean girl aesthetic" MEANWHILE: i've been doing that since 2018 when we used to call it "no makeup makeup" (and we were *actually* clean instead of having a greasy pulled back hair) and i still do it, so who's we? speak for yourself! i cannot wrap my head around why some ppl think you need the internet's approval to do a certain style, there's nothing weird about using a trend that has "died off" literally just do an aesthetic that you love & fits you babes 😭
I’ll get brutal here. When I came across the first aesthetics before the pandemic (Dark Academia and Cottagecore, the Seniors so to speak), I thought they were all nice and cute, until I started noticing a personal tendency to want to have everything coordinated in every aspect of my life. Mind you, this didn’t happen overnight, it was a slow process. Even though I never officially adopted an aesthetic by buying clothes, accessories or elements associated with it, in my mind there was the constant pressure of having everything on point, fitting a specific image I thought I had to live up to. While I didn’t lose money in the process, I lost my peace. Exposure to aesthetics changed the way my brain compartmentalized my interests, even though it didn’t make me want to fit into an existing one. Prior to the advent of the Seniors (I’ll call them like that, since they pretty much paved the way for all the following trends) I had absolutely no problem having uncoordinated elements, whether they were objects, books, hairstyles, school supplies, songs on my phone, you name it. I instinctively knew that I had many different interests, and that was fine with me. During - and after - the pandemic, my subconscious mind was _agonizing_ over all the different preferences that define my taste. That was because _I couldn’t choose one to stick to_ . As ridiculous as it sounds, that was some real mental anguish. It took me years to recover from this mess, which is nothing more than perfectionism brought to the extreme. I had to delete my Pinterest account, and take a solemn vow never to allow the internet to have such power over me ever again. My mind has rejuvenated like crazy since then. Liking fountain pens, cursive handwriting and classical music doesn’t make me Dark Academia. Dousing myself in a floral perfume doesn’t make me a Soft Girl, or a Vanilla Girl, or whatever. I am not either Lalala or Okokok. Listening to old 2000s songs from time to time doesn’t make me fall into the Y2K category. *I am me.* *_Reclaim your individuality!_*
I hate how everyone is now a trend expert. What happened to being yourself and not following "trends"? Those trends are not even trends. They are just random strands of words vaguely related to fictional happiness. Social media is really messing with everyone. People are living in their own little fantasy world based on brand image. This is just sad and so disconnected from our real needs. No wonder young girls and women's well-being only gets worse.
I have whats called the tired mom aesthetic. It's a super high trend where you wear maternity clothes bc you dont fit in any of your pre baby body clothes and your boys grow like weeds so any money you have goes to them so they can have clothes that fit. Ive been in this trend since 2018, super high class 😂. Even if i wanted to be a part of an aesthetic, i couldnt afford it, and i am just fine wearing whatever fits me.
Ok well thank you for reminding me why I erased TikTok from my phone…. This shiiiz isn’t healthy, following these trends messes up your head and if you feel like you can’t achieve it then there goes your self esteem. Nope I’m happy off tiktok minding my own business enjoying my books, my music, the chaos on RU-vid that keeps me entertained, and just enjoying being me in the fashion I enjoy (whatever the heck it maybe because I’m random as hell).
i found out about aesthetics and I tried experimenting with just about everything under the sun until I found a few that I fit and felt comfortable in: cottagecore, soft, fairy and mermaid. All in the light pastel airy kind of side, and I do not CARE if it’s trendy, I LOVE IT, so ima keep doing it ☺️
My question is who decides these aesthetics. Is there some kind of high council or tribunal that regularly convenes to decide the next aesthetic? Or is this some kind of ongoing war between factions vying for their aesthetic to become the next big thing.
As someone who mainly sticks to 3 different but cohesive aesthetics for years, i do not like it when people only get into an aesthetic or style just because it's a quick lil trend While its true the aesthetics i enjoy were trendy at one point, i never really dumped them becuse i know i genuinely like them and just stayed for the long haul instead. I only ever get rid of stuff bc i need the money or something i have gotten too small for me to use or wear. May have only sold off a collection once because I grown tired of it but thats only after years of enjoying then felt like moving on I always hate bandwagoners of aesthetics because they are far more wasteful and lowkey meaner than those who genuinely like an aesthetic or style for themselves
I honestly don't see much wrong with aesthetics. It's nice to be able to put words to looks and vibes you like especially now (at least in the USA) that sub cultures are largely gone. The issue comes with the over consumptions and intense gatekeeping of it all. That and the inherent sexism and racism a lot of these trends like to have sprinkled in the mix. But I feel this is more of a problem with how aesthetics are being handled and less with the base idea itself in my opinion.
I think the exact problem is that, there are no subcultures, there are no communities, everything is hyperindividualistic and a "vibe" is just gathering some pinterest board and put a name on that "aesthetic" and now you have to dress, act, and buy things that go with that aesthetic without having a personality. I see everyone trying to have an identity thats why these trends with aesthetics are popular, young people are really searching for an identity or a group to be part of. But on top of that companies are taking the oportunity and try to give on the overconsumption mania that this belonging need blooms. All of that just to be that at the end the people with the best skin do minimal to no skincare, the people who do cool makeup looks use drugstore products, and the people who dress cool and have a personal style buy everything second hand and do whatever.
But these trendy things are exactly why subcultures don't exist in America anymore. Also I would argue that they still exist they just are not following these trends
@@Gambit771 white people taking other culture’s traditions and turning them into a trend without disclosing the origin and history behind it, and that’s just one example
Can we take a minute to appreciate that the very same people who scream at us about using petroleum powered cars are engaging in what can only be described as mass mindless consumerism driven by dopamine addiction from Instagram likes and the items they consume are in large part mass produces plastic crap that they will toss out the second the trend ends.
I’m laughing at the women who called me a sheep because I’m unwilling to catch airborne aids in the grocery store so I wear a mask, the same ladies are going to go now buy a fur coat they wear for a week because of tik tok. But I’m the sheep because I don’t want to get sick? Sure Jan.
I mean this is nothing new, remember those stupid disgusting leggings with the horrible patterns that would rip as soon as people put them on? A lot of that was because it was a pyramid scheme so people definitely wanted other people to buy them because they personally made money from it. But that was this.
noticed a trend that these aesthetics are for people with no ethnic culture hence there for this revolving door of different identity's and that the marketing scheme behind this definitely knows who there target audience is. people are getting straight played into buying stuff they don't need its crazy the blind consumerism.
When you said it sounds like their in a cult I literally laughed that’s funny and so true It’s really sad everyone feels the need to box themselves into these made up labels
My mother will be so excited when I tell her she's on trend at 84yrs. Coastal Grandmother, lol I had to add that the video I watched after this used the Coastal grandma term, ahhhhhh
Aesthetics really started in relation to people wanting certain looks/styles/vibes inspired by things like grace & frankie, devil wears prada, euphoria, and y2k teen bop movies. It becomes easier for the masses to describe the fashion look they're going for, it helps search engines bring back more "related" results, and it helps other people visualize what you mean with little follow-up explanation. The names are getting out of hand now but originally they were pretty easy to imagine/search what someone meant
You are so right about this it is unreal. It's like a lost generation trying to find an identity. I am currently modelling the confused, mum of two teens and a tween aesthetic. It may come round soon and I might finally be on point.
Why do aesthetics even exist?😂 And why do people feel the need to change them so often? I sincerely hope these people can discover who they really are and gain some confidence. So they don’t let others and the world dictate their every move.
I was looking up aesthetics to base characters off of, just because I thought it would be fun, and I found a lot retaining to stuff like cow girls, and one called Vulture Culture and one called Bubble gum witch, both of them were fairly interesting and so I combined them with cottage core, just cuz I could. Not for any kind of trend, but just for a random character I wanted to make in the moment
AMEN Haley!! I’m so sick of the aesthetic trends!! 🤢 Love your videos, love your special take on current events! You’ve become my go to YT channel! Also Its been a joy watching the channel grow! I don’t know how you don’t have MORE followers! ♥️ Keep grinding!
Literally so happy i grew up with a father who wpuld always tell me "if everyone jumped off a cliff, would you just blindly follow them?" Tbh it made me think about trends differently from a young age. Wish more parents would teach their kids a balance between being an individual and interacting with a group. It reminds me of friend groups from elementary school....its really embarrassing to see grown ass adults doing this
I enjoy different aesthetics and im a casual goth. I enjoy goth music, culture, and especially fashion. I love black 🖤 On the opposite end I love my rainbow pastel colors and cute fluffy girly things. I bounce between both most of the time.
You are wise beyond your years my girl. I follow no trend and my teenage daughter doesn't either. She knows I couldn't afford to buy her the Bape sweatshirt or the $100 1ounce of the trendiest perfume. But will brag to her friends about me paying $5 for a grand new with the tags still on it PINK sweatshirt I at the local St Vincent De Paul store.
I have borderline personality disorder so my aesthetic changes about 12 times a day, every day 🤦🏻♀️ What TikTok considers a tren d, i consider the story of my life 😂 54 years of not knowing who the hell I am and letting the world tell me
I was doing "mob wife aesthetic" back in 2016 I'm not going back. I was actually cleaning my closet this year and came this close to throwing my fur coat away bc I got it at the thrift store. I'm past it. I'm over it.
i'm actually italian and I can confirm that 'tomato girl aesthetic' is just italian summer. imagine just opening tiktok and finding out that you've just been labeled as a tomato girl. like at least be more creative, not just a random vegetable pls... 😂😂
The only ones who win in all this, are retail stores with consumers buying stuff they don’t need to fit their new aesthetic. I was just thinking about how I need to spend less time on social media and dating sites because I’m wasting my time trying to fit into other people’s standards when there’s so many people in real life who I find attractive and find me attractive. I don’t need to go online to meet new people or to be told who I need to be or I’ll go crazy trying to fit into everyone’s ever changing standards… I think the secret to a happy life is to eat as healthy as you can, sleep well, work out and spend time outdoors, maintain and nurture relationships with people who care about you, don’t follow trends, just be the best version of yourself whatever that means for you and treat yourself to nice things once in a while because what’s the point of working so hard if you can’t treat yourself to something nice from time to time?
I honestly do not understand that when someone truly enjoys their current aesthetic and like has found their thing, they feel the need to go with the trends and like feel sad about the trend changing like huh??? If you love being a clean girl BE A CLEAN GIRL
This is my mum's aesthetic.... for the past 20 years lol....only unlike these girls, to my mum it isn't "Mob Wife Aesthetic"... it's just "how Valerie dresses" I'll tell her she's finally en vogue Edit: in all honesty, I do wish I was rich and privilleged enough to play pretend every 2 weeks. Cause I mean... at the end of the day, "embodying an aesthetic" is just playing pretend for adults. Especially when they mention how clean girl DOES xyz, mob wife LIKES xyz. It's play pretend.
Old woman here okay 43 so ancient. I have never done trends EVER! I never cared. I have been a Goth since I was able to choose how I wanted to look so like 12/13 (so maybe that is a trend) but I still am and its the only way I feel comfortable I own nothing but black nothing. I have never followed nor wanted what the "in thing" is I just don't care. So let me tell all the girls who are in a panic about "trends" if you want to be happy following "trends" is never going to make you happy because you are never being true to yourself EVER! Find what you love and what you are comfortable with embrace yourself, your style and enjoy your damn life. Go watch videos of people in their 70s and 80s who are asked one thing they learned to not worry about one is almost always "WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THOUGHT OF THEM!" Its not your business what other people think of you. Stop being so self obsessed and begging for your self worth to come from others. Find your self your own happiness screw what others think and guess what you will be so much happier and it will be a hell of a lot cheaper.
they need to have more asthetics that are DIFFRENT. i can’t find the name of mine but yet there are so many that look identical? i just call mine trashy y2k hot pink stuff
Something I learned that I think other people need to learn is you don't have to be beholden to one single aesthetic. You can do pop punk one day, clean girl the next, bubblegum goth the day after. It doesn't matter. You don't have to wrap your whole life around a single aesthetic. Especially with tik tok and all the micro trends. It's clothes, fashion, expression. Have fun with this!! Be dynamic!! Have range!! You can be multifaceted even with your aesthetics!!
People can't just live a normal life, there needs to be something tying everything together. And it needs to be visual, it's fascinating how social media changed our perspective. You know what ties every aspect of your life together? You. You do, that's enough.
