Exactly, when their daughters become full adults and look back at these videos of their moms showing favoritism they probably won't be surprised.. These parents better hope their daughters still come visits them when they become independent, if not the sons they've been basically worshiping.
Yep. Even me & my sister noticed my mom showing favoritism to me growing up. It's made me guilty over the year even though she doesn't hold it against me.
And when dads so clearly favor their daughters over their sons, people just call it being Daddy's girl/princess. Has him around her finger. Nevermind so many of those girls grow up to be entitled women who can't handle being told no, put their fathers before their husbands, threaten harm to boyfriends via father, and believe men are obligated to not only pay for everything but then also come home and dote on her without doing much in return.
Children don’t naturally develop s*xual attraction to their family members. It’s ALWAYS the result of grooming and/or trauma. This is really sad and disgusting 🤢
@@repage_ well ppl give kids unsupervised access to the internet where they could discover really disgusting fetish stuffs and its so normal for them cuz they’ve seen it way too many times, well this is only most or some cases since it’s not all cases but this happens and COULD happen
These are the same people who are like “Why do my kids hate me? 😭” “Why do my kids not want to talk to me anymore?” “His/Her Girlfriend/Boyfriend are ruining my relationship with them 😭😭😭” No babe, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM
My husband is the eldest of 4 boys. 3 are divorced / seperated from the mothers of their children. She was ALWAYS interfering in our marriage, and even cancelled my Bachelorette party by telling everyone we called off the wedding because I'd cheated! ( Never happened) I only found out when no one showed up, and called one of my friends. It was so bad, my father in law divorced her because of the things she'd do to dry and break up my marriage! I put up with it for years, until I finally had enough! He never said anything to his mum about the horrible abuse she put me through, so I left after 12 years ( and 4 kids). He is 52 years old, and STILL lives with her!! Personally, I think he's got some weird Oedipus complex!! It's weird!
@@TwocanToucan like girls are meant to be raised as “good girls” and boys are loved and allowed to be whoever they want and do whatever they want aka “boys will be boys”.
Trust me, it's horrible being married to a man who has a boy mom. After we got married, she wouldn't let him move out of her house and was acting like he was her husband and not mine. And her passive aggressive behavior towards me was exhausting. If a guy you're dating is a mommas boy, I'd say run.
Ik what it’s like… I live with my bf who has a “boy mom“ and she acts like he’s hers… Still, why would I run? He couldn’t decide what his mom is like yk
@@user-pe2kz8li2wWhen people say run..they mean if the son can’t enforce any kind of boundaries and lets her constantly disrespect you while taking her side. If he’s not like that you definitely don’t have to run, especially if your needs are being met.
You couldn’t have timed this any better. Literally doing research on this rn. This type of “emotional covert incest” is going to completely F up these boys future marriages and relationships smh. Not to mention the personal struggles they will have all throughout. Literally destroying these kids mentality for life.
Thank you for using the term. I definitely dealt with this stuff, and didn't realize til like 2 years or so ago that it actually wasn't ok (im 25 now). People just have never heard of it, and the issue itself is definitely significant and impactful into adulthood.
My daughter is 5 and my son is 2. His car seat is behind the drivers seat so I was getting him out of the car first every time we parked. My daughter would ask if she could get out first but I would tell her “he’s just closer to me baby, I’ll get you out in just a second” thinking it was fine. One night she told me “you love brother more” and I was SHOCKED and told her absolutely not, I love you both so much and the same, but she said “but you always get him out of the car first.” THAT WAS ENOUGH to make her feel loved less. Now I make sure to take turns letting each of them go first for everything and these videos hurt me that much deeper.
❤ you so much for hearing her and fixing the behavior. I ❤ that you didn't waste time talking about how you didn't mean to send that message. You heard how she interpreted your actions and you changed them. ❤❤❤❤
something like this happened when I was younger too, I was always the last person to get my food at the table…the only difference is it didn’t matter where I sat 💀
My mom was raised by a boy mom, and even several decades later, she still remembers the (very obvious) favoritism. These daughters absolutely notice it, and are hurt by it.
@@nekomeow3161 And the dads who force their daughters into those "purity balls". And the ones who post pictures of themselves aiming their guns directly at their daughters' boyfriends. We just don't see it on TikTok as often.
Someone tell her it's not normal to be attracted to family members yet alone your OWN KIDS. If that was a Dad with his daughter everyone would be saying this is creepy. 🤢
Gurl....... favoring 1 child of yours or another child of yours simply because of their gender is weirdo behavior. Like, you should love and care for your children REGARDLESS of what gender they are. Favoritism is never the answer.
Can you imagine certain parents making such an overly big deal out their childrens' gender assigned at birth to the point they treat their child different or better then their siblings cause of their gender?
Sadly this crap happened to me when I was a kid. However my father favored... Children that weren't his. He literally attempted to murder me when i was little. I still am with my father. He still wishes he had a boy instead of a girl.
This is triggering horrible memories with my mother in law. She hated how in love with me my husband is and even told me "I wanted him with brittany" (his first gf who would kiss her ass constantly and who my husband wasn't that interested in). We lived with her for 2 years and it was HELL! She did everything she could to make me leave him. While he was at work, she treated me like absolute shit then he would come home and she would talk to me in a baby voice and call me "emmy" like we were best friends. She would then talk bad about me in a group chat with her husband, my husband, and my brother in law. Saying, "She finally did the dishes, but I wanted to take a bath, so now there's no hot water," even though I always did the dishes. Or "maybe someone needs to teach Emmy how to mop better because there was still dog hair on the floor," but I can't stop the dogs from walking on the floor after I fuxking mop! She even screamed at me for 8 days because I CLOSED the lid to the salt shaker which meant I was directly disrespecting her because I was supposed to know to leave it open for her when she wanted to use it!?!?! Thank God she's out of our lives now, and my husband was able to see how narcissistic she is....
Oh my wordd....your mother in law has to understand that you are NOT her servant...if she wants one, she needs to hire one herself! Parents in law NEVER has a right to force their children in law to do ANYTHING for them, eventhough it is a good thing! You are there to be with your husband, NOT with his parents who you never even sign up for...
13:15 this clip actually broke my heart. I can’t believe they just shoved her on the floor like that and then she got up and put her hands up like “why did they just do that to me?” 💔
If a dad did ANY of these things with his daughters, he'd IMMEDIATELY (and rightfully) be arrested, or at least punished in some way. That same energy needs to extend to these moms. Because it's no different other than the genders being reversed.
Girl dad's are weird too :/ there was a girl complaining that her dad always hit her butt to wake her up from ages baby-around 10 or something was when she didn't start liking it. ....because it's weird when your dad is constantly grabbing your ass when you sleep... And she asked him to stop but it made him do it more as a 'you don't like it playful thing's but like around 14 or 15 she had to get the mother to make the father stop grabbing his own daughters ass.....
@@roxassora2706girl dads aren't this weird tbh ,they are just overprotective most of the times but boy moms are literally misogynistic and in love with their sons
Her daughters are gonna grow up, and hate both her and their brother because he was the only one with positive attention. Then that’ll mess up the son, what now?? She’ll lose her daughters and her son won’t understand why they hate him because of how spoiled he was. It’s not funny, it’s child neglect.
@@redroomstudi0don't reply to them. don't like the comment. don't do anything except report and move on. its a bot and any exposure you give it only feeds it.
I had to call child protective services on my ex bff because she was taking her boy mom love a bit too far. Posting photos of them cuddling in bed when he was 16 and kissing him on the lips on Facebook. Needless to say that ended our relationship (and there was more to it than that-- not cleaning up after animals and letting their pee soak through the floor).
Allowing a child to smack your ass and then play it off as a joke is not okay. That’s teaching them that’s it’s okay to do in general and second off why tf would you be down with that. It’s giving incest respectfully, a child should not be doing something a husband would do. There’s no boundaries in that household.
That's assuming her daughters ever let her near their future children and her son ever gets married considering how she's raising him to be wholly dependent on her
That's assuming their son ever gets married considering these boy moms are doing everything possible to ensure their sons never develop a social life outside of mom
I know boys who have danced in The Nutcracker though... and girls who like monster trucks. But genuine question, how do these boy moms react when their son comes out as gay???
the emeshment (emotional incest) that im seeing from these boy moms makes me rlly uncomfy, like why r u getting mad that your son is going out with another girl his range instead of his own mom
Raymond de Saussure, a student of the sexuality-obsessed Carl Jung, dubbed this "Jocasta Complex" (she was the incestuous mother of Oedipus). Per Wikipedia: "In psychoanalytic theory, the Jocasta complex is the incestuous sexual desire of a mother towards her son."
This just reminded me of a video from a wedding where the bride said to her groom “I love you and all of your faults…” and this mom just yells “MY SON HAS NO FLAWS” and just causes a whole mess at the wedding.
I'm a daughter who grew up with my mother acting like this towards my brother. I'm 20 now and it certainly impacts a hell of a lot more than most people realise. In my case, it doesn't just mean my brother was prioritised over me at all times, leading to me feeling unloved for no reason. It also means my brother can do no wrong at all. He became incredibly violent and would break things when things wouldn't go his way (he's 18, I would sleep with a chair against my door because his rages were that intense), as my mum can't shield him forever from the world, he became an alcoholic and ran away from home because my parents wouldn't buy him a car after he crashed my mum's one and tried to hide it by super gluing things back together, I haven't seen him in a year. When trying to address things, my mum still doesn't think there's anything wrong, even though my brother called her every swear in the book and told her to delete herself, "he's just having a bad day" making endless excuses for his verbal, physical abuse, his stealing, his alcoholism. As my dad and I try and protect her and everyone else from getting hurt, we're the bad guys for going against my brother. So it's no wonder the tension resulted in my parents now splitting up. It destroys everything, and all for what? A weird obsesson over what your kid has in their pants for some reason? Go to therapy. Better yet, don't have kids.
Now I know it happens with other ppl too,something similar,my brother like he really young and saying these things and when he says something mostly she will laughs it off,or excuses it And God forgive if I say something at her face,when I'm not even cursing at her and she the one who cursed at me first 💀
@@user-zh2fw7ez7q Thank you, things have been pretty rough the past month but they're thankfully getting better. I hope you have an amazing rest of your day. :)
I'm currently doing a refresher course in Safeguarding children, and this video rang alarm bells. Favouritism is a "sign from the abuser" in the "emotional abuse" section of my coursework. If a parent openly favours one or more siblings, that is an indicator of emotional abuse. Obviously it's not the sole cause for concern, you need to keep an eye out for other signs. However, it is explicitly written that favouritism is something to keep an eye on.
...Dude this is literally reminding me of that one passage from Lolita about Humbert imagining going on to abuse his female grandchild. Also ppl NEED to talk about girl dads, bc it is WAY more common than ppl think. Speaking from experience, I love my dad but I've always noticed little weird things about him, and it's uncomfortable.
Hey, at least HH was on the hunt for little girls and thats why he became a stepfather. These women carried those babies on them and still think about them that way 😭😭😭
For one thing, like another commenter said, I'd say this is a case of emotional incest/molestation. In which an adult leans on a child for emotional needs that another adult would usually provide; like a spouse, other adult friend, or a therapist. It completely f-ks up a child's future relationships and how they interact with others. It can sometimes be accidental, or it can be purposeful (like in grooming). Not to mention the "boy moms" who have daughters and whose clear favoritism will mess them up too. This is all just very, very icky.
That's not even the problem, the problem is that they assume their son never wants to have his own life and will live with momma until hes old and gray.
That last video of the gender reveal absolutely disgusted me. The poor little girl got up by herself and gestured like, what did I do? The loom on her face was just completely heart breaking.
It makes me so sad to imagine how depressed and traumatised all these girls are gonna grow up to be. I genuinely can't get that poor little girl being knocked over out of my head.
I'm a mom of two boys and I'm just appalled. These mums are just completely toxic. My concern, as a mom of two children (I never cared if I was having boys or girls, I just wanted them to be born healthy), is that they become functional and well adjusted citizens, that will respect and help their future partners with house chores, kids if they decide to become parents, etc.. To educate them in a manner to be so attached to their mom's, so they will always come first, even before their partners, is soooo unhealthy! These boys will surely need a lot of therapy 😢
Totally agree. I have three boys and as a parent, it's my job to support and guide these boys. Not to be possessive about some future partner. It's just weird to me. All I want if for my boys to grow to be happy with what the future brings.
@@kellysouter4381u don’t even know them, many of these boys r probably their moms entire emotional support system. If that’s the case they’ll end up broken & need a lot of help but why would u frame that through any lens but their own. Imagine saying “that lady is depressed, I feel so bad for everyone who ever encounters her.” I’d assume u just didn’t think about how this impacts the boys negatively but if my assumption isn’t true than your comment lacks some humanity.
As a girl who has three brothers I have no idea why moms think that there “ superior” then everyone heck my mom was sick of having boys until I came and yes she loves all of us she doesn’t play favorites, and I’m glad cause I couldn’t imagine have a mom like that for anyone that does have a mom like that I hope you are doing ok
Imagine for just one second a father acting this way about his daughter. I’m not talking about being really happy and enthusiastic to have a daughter and spend time with her. I’m talking about weirdly sexualising their relationship and becoming jealous of any man that enters their daughter’s life (and also being jealous of any time their sons spend with their wives). It would be weird af.
Like that mom in the video exposing her butt crack dancing with her son like that should be in jail. If a father did this with the daughter, police will be call. Geez
right? people like to diminish the issue by diluting it in the comments from what I've seen. but just imagine that video where she grabbed her sons cheeks and was gonna kiss him, but with a man and his daughter..
These moms acting like they dating theirs sons. It's a seriously creepy obsession that fucks with men's development. These are not going to be well rounded kids sadly. itd always gonna be a competition. She's horrible so is any mother jealous of a teenager. Or their sons gf. True love?!?! She's seriously neglectful to their daughters and obsessed with her boy in an unhealthy way. She needs to head to therapy. Likely so will her kids. I feel sorry for the girls in these families. They clearly are obsessed. And see their boys as a future spouse not their kid.
Can you imagine what it would be like if dads were posting about their daughters like this? (I mean, they are, just not on TikTok... especially if those creepy "purity balls" and dads posting pictures aiming guns at their daughters' boyfriends are any indication)
Ever wonder how some moms become like this? Was it neglectfulness on their up bringing? Fear of loneliness? Absent fathers? Internalized misogyny? It’s just all weird and I’m surprised no one is talking about it.
@@ilikepancakes2368 Too many potential reasons. Sometimes it is internalized misogyny due to not growing out of notlikeothergirls or pickme. Sometimes they were raised similarly. Sometimes it's because they feel their husbands aren't doing enough for them.
The whole concept of boy moms and girl dads is just cringe. Love your kids equally, don't make it weird, and just call yourself a damn parent like a normal person.
Unless if you’re an only child has a single mom/dad then that I could understood, this is also different for me I’m an only child and my mom’s pretty abusive and my dad always defend me and actually loved me I’m mostly a dad’s girl I don’t even think my mom even cares if I’m gone tbh. So yeah in my opinion it just depends on the situation and context if it’s right to call it creepy or not
For a while, the daughter will try to win mom's approval through extravagant gifts and superb performances before being disappointed by how mom repeatedly dismisses her attempts in favor of her brother's halfhearted attempts. Will possibly blame her brother for "you are the reason why mom hates me". Though keep it up long enough, daughter will move out and cut contact with her family the moment she gets a taste of freedom
Im not a conspiracy theorist, but it's hard not to notice a link between the Chinese run app & all the toxicity its indoctrination the west with. If it doesn't give a person pause, it should
this kind of behavior has been a thing since way way way before tiktok sadly gross that we gotta see so much of it because tiktok for some reason gives people the confidence to boldly post it tho I agree
11:36 Then that typically means you are not meant to be a parent because you got no redeeming qualities for it. A decent parent would never say these kind of words. You should love your kid/kids equally irrespective of their gender, that's what's called parenting.
I’m flabbergasted that these “mothers” even THINK like this! I find it very creepy and disturbing cause this is predator behavior LIKE GROOMER LEVEL and the fact these GROWN WOMEN are mothers that are OPENLY POSTING these videos is just perpetuating this behavior and it’s terrifying!!!!
My mom wanted a boy and got 4 girls. She took us to the nutcracker play in San Francisco every year and we have an amazing relationship. I’m so grateful for my girl-mom 🥰
"Thank God! No little tart will ever replace me in his heart!" And I guarantee she thinks gay love isn't "as real", so it doesn't count as losing him. (Please know I do not think any of these things.)
8:41 so I've seen where toddlers have smacked their mom's bum because that's what they see their dad do it and think that's how you say "I love you" or "you're pretty" to mom. At that age it makes sense if they do that on a one off because they're still learning social cues, boundaries and you know life but that also that needs to be nipped in the bud as quickly as possible. Having teen and pre-teen kids smack their mom's bum is disturbing on so many level 🤢
This reminds me of the novel, “The Thorn Birds.” The mother “fee” had 5-6 children. She only had one daughter, “Meggie.” You get her perspective on how she prefers boys because they live on a farm and can help the family business. She treats her daughter poorly through most of the novel and when confronted with this by the priest “Ralph”, she says, “a daughter is a good for nothing. All they are is a reminder of youth you once had and no longer have anymore.” Throughout the book Meggie sees the favoritism her mother has for her siblings and it affects her young life to make many wrong decisions. I will say, Fee gets better later on but because her mother constantly ignored her daughter and treated the boys better, It affected Meggie for years which caused her to make terrible decisions. (The novel is such a good read) what I’m getting at is this, openly showing favoritism to one or more child in front of the none favored one will affect them.
Hayley being dressed up as the mum killed me. That's the quietest I've heard her speak. And with all those key chains and like 2 keys she stole from her mom for the bit. PS: Have you seen the video of the "boy mom" jumping into the arms of her son after a high school football win?! That was creepy! She had her leg wrapped around him like she was 16.
I'm a mom of 3 boys and this shiz is so dang cringe. I just consigned for my okdest and girlfriend first apartment. My mom was one who smothered me and I promised that would never be me. I respect my boys and girlfriends because I won't be here forever and I don't want him alone and unhappy. Love you ❤ too funny😂 I raised my boys with serious disapline because I swore they wouldn't be that man! Now they are incredible men and kiddo!
The second mom, she only has two sons and two daughters one of them is transgender, but ever since the boy change into a girl, she’s been obsessing with her other son . Edit: and the only reason the dad spends more time with the girls is because the mom is too busy spending time with the son
Wow, I've actually seen more dads do this because of the moms being a boy mom. Like they try to balance things out by favoring the girl to boast her low self esteem which her mom plummetted.
Many years ago I briefly worked with a lady who had 5 sons and was pregnant with her 6th son. She said she and her husband were going to keep having kids until they got a girl. I was shocked. It seemed cruel to me. The girl would be the favorite and the others were just going to be there because they really wanted a girl. I don’t know what happened to her.
6:50 You can see how he doesn't want to be with his mom and pushes her away and decides to be with his wife. Toxic boy moms are terrible, there abusively protective behavior makes their "precious boys" want to escape because their moms are over the top crazy, he wants to have at least ONE moment with his wife in his moms presence but i guess his mom won't let him and his wife be. I cant imagen how hard is gonna be for him when he has children and his children have to deal with a grandma like that.
My mean parents had 4 girls in a row. We all knew dad wanted a son and would have been named after him. So we all dodged the Larry bullet. But at 13 they had number 5 girl. Years later mom was bitterly angry and said she always wanted a boy bc "Boys love their mothers but girls hate their mothers and leave!" It had nothing to do with none of us raised as the little prince would have been? No? 🙄
Lol it's ok. In the 80s, the smarmy used car salesman friend on Three's Company was Larry. My own dad is now having DNA kids come out of the woodwork lately, too. All girls. It isn't the kind of name honest characters get, so yeah, please laugh with relief for us. 😂 Were your parents trying for a boy?
I hate when parents have favorites, it's only noticeable to children but it's traumatizing to those who are put down, the "favorite child" is resented by their siblings and it all snowballs from there and it's not pretty!
11:53 Isn't folding your kid's clothes and doing that other stuff, like... a universal thing? She's acting like not all parents with young children have to do most of the chores for their kids or that their houses don't also have toys scattered about. Why doesn't she like the books her kids are reading or the toys they play with when a little girl could enjoy the exact same things? How would she react if one of her sons came up to her and said, "You know what? I think I actually do want a Barbie Malibu Dreamhouse."?
I have 4 girls.. always wondered what having a boy would be like.. but I bet he'd be just as much of a grubby, crazy, never ending eater and sweetie as all my girls 😂 I've had friends make comments about being a boy mum and how much "harder/crazier" it is, and I laugh in their faces. Also, my mum started sh*t with my brothers gf when he was like 17, to the point that the girl broke up with him.. so, pretty sure she was one of "those" boy mum's.
My mom had me(girl) and my brother. Thank goodness she was normal(because her mother was a boy mom but not severe one) she thought taking care of my brother because he's the eldest was crazy enough. But unfortunately I had ADHD and asperger combined and was just a wild ball of energy. She said that her daughter is the real reason that she stayed in shape during her 20s. Thou my brother was more calm and collected. Later in the years she showed by her actions that she loves us all equally and fair....and by fair I mean she'd also flip out on us equally if we messed up 😂
Minus the tik tok part of the title, I have one of these boy moms as a mother in law. My husband and I are working through ending the emotional incest. I literally have to use my womanly wiles to win my husband away from his mom. I should not have to compete with my mother in law for my husband's attention. It is sad that my husband doesn't wear the pants of the family, his mom does.
I might be wrong but I think the "that last little boy just hits different" mom (2nd mom?), has a trans daughter. Soo... I guess it's nice to see that she supports her transition and treats her the same as the other girls..?
they probably aren’t there and that’s why their mothers are weird asf… like my man’s mom is a boy mom she has no daughters but she has a husband so she don’t gotta be a possessive weirdo towards her sons
IF I was ever a mother with a daughter and a son, I would treat them equally. I wouldn’t have favorites because having children (I probably won’t have any but this is just a scenario) would be my favorite thing. I would teach the boy to ask before like hugging someone for example. Same for the girl, like teaching them about consent
This is sadly common and normal in Asia :/ totally due to patriarchal systems that favour men!!! My mum is well aware that her mum prefers the sons and treats them much better than daughters, it’s still hurts her to this day. Also it breeds boys who go on to date and marry women, but their partner will always be second to their mother. Down with the patriarchy!!!
