TikTok's viral "boyfriend tests" BACKFIRE. They keep getting WORSE. 

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0:15 "Creative TikTok Users" ??? No! they are brain rot low life

Basically tests are an intentional way of personally choosing to identify if someone will give the answers and provide results that the tester deems correct....Hence not genuinely allowing for any genuine anything especially the genuine Truth✔️.. Revealing of those who hand out tests I'd say✔️Upgrade Better Living 💜➖🌐➖💜

not everyone gives a fek about birds omg

Truth

Depends on who you are watching. There are a couple of relationship coaches on here that give really solid advice. Such as not playing games with people and dealing with your trauma before jumping into a relationship. It’s common sense I know, but common sense isn’t so common.

There is also so much to learn to start dating because you may never expect what you have to do for them. I may be wanting some help from others on things im struggling with or having a hard time

@@derrickjuinor Then it is good to find out before making it more permanent.

tbh, i take advice from stangers on discord, but i dont take it to heart; i would go on vent channels and ask for advice or opinions about X topic that has been bothering me, could be romantic or mundane, the core thing that differentiates from mindless scrolling is critical thinking, does the opinion fit with your view? does the opinion resemble you reality? is is something you have considered before? etc etc

If you want to test somebody, you should test yourself

@@armtdawg99 Best answer ever! All people need to do that in this modern age. I test myself all the time because it helps me learned what I did wrong, grow from it, and evolved to be my better self. Everyone can benefit from it.

If my wife poured ketchup on the counter to test me it would stay there until it grows mold. Or I would clean it up and then pour ketchup on another piece of furniture.

Yeah, how many men "fail" because this is just one of so many "tests" and they know it and get sick of all the tests?

@@ugaladh Most men, these days, know that women SH*t test their partner. Meaning - if you act subserviant, she realizes she can get better. If she starts sh*t testing - do an instant bail ...if she comes crawling, you've taught her something. If she doesn't, you've dodged a "crazy".

I partially agree with you. If recording to shame and post on the internet later, definitely, but if it is to help point out sometime to help or even to show a cute and candid moment when they are in their element doing something, then no. remember context is key

@@saiyantwan that might be you... But personally... I don't want someone to record our cute moments as a stoic person... I am rarely open to others so if I'm being a cute 6 ft guy cooking for my gf. I don't want to see that on the internet 💀

Same, I value intimacy. What I do for you is for you, not others. If you record me without my consent or knowledge, to get clicks, that means your priority isn't to enjoy what I do for you, it's to get validation from others for it. In simpler terms, you are not appreciating what I am doing, you are appreciating people's reactions to it. A kind of social status flexing, similar to showing off your luxury bag, which is the sign of despicable shallowness, and that you really do not care for me. I'll be out the next second.

@@saiyantwan I did not consent to you showing others our cute moments. Do not record them without my express permission, and definitely do not show others our private moments.

​@@saiyantwanyou aren't the sole arbitrator of what people are and aren't okay with when it comes to filming. You're saying that it's okay if YOU think it's for that person's own good. You don't get to make that decision for them. Just because you and I don't mind things like that, doesn't mean other people have to be. And I'm saying this as someone who doesn't mind being filmed so long as it's not posted. But not everyone has to be like me.

Right!? What a bizarre behaviour of people filming and posting it.

Literally though, none of these are cutesy tests, it's just partner shaming.

Yes This is the way Any woman who does this has the maturity of a toddler and needs to be sent back to kindergarten

7:49 Dude is so tired of her TikTok antics Run, dude

13:25 The bid for connection is the opposite of the contemptuous look

If a person feels a constant need to test the relationship, that in itself is a failed test of them

This is exactly my feelings on this too. Why can't people just help other people?

Fr like at this point, its so hard to even have a relationship at this point

Communication is key Yet apparently everyone sees everyone as a rubiks cube

Note especially that last sentence

But at least they got the vieeeeews lololol🤪🤪

underrated truth

I go to tiktok to send cat memes and possum memes to my boss, of which I have like 30 minutes put into tiktok all of this month

I think there’s a few normal, healthy relationships on there, but for the majority of them, it’s absolutely true. A lot of them are “pranking my partner” but the pranks are pretty cruel or intentionally scaring their partner into thinking something bad happened to their partner/loved one(s) at least half the time which is so messed up.

I have one rule - if someone uses TikTok and wants to be my friend he/she will not be my friend. Only acquaintance.

Glad you got out of that toxic relationship bro. Stay strong out there.

Dodged a bullet.

Good job fellow king 👑

She was mental

Good for you! Seriously. One of my cousins had an ex GF like that and I'm so glad she's no longer in his life. You deserve better and I hope you found someone on your maturity level 😊😊😊

Exactly.

This.

I've been married 20 years. If my husband deliberately spilled ketchup on a counter in front of me and then asked for me to clean it up, I would assume he needed medical attention. Conversely, that sauce would stay there until we both died. I fail either way.

I don't know...I like doing the tests for fun. I guess it depends on the context. If you don't care about the results of the test and you aren't filming it it's probably fine 😅

@@VictoriouslyRandom😅

Exactly dude

And "Guess which irrational answer I want you to guess or else I'll be pouty."

That was my first thought with the guy that “failed” the dancing test. Dude looks STRAIGHT at the camera with an “ick” look. He probably hates cameras and social media almost as much as I do, no other reason. “After the recording he joined in” because he doesn’t want to be in the dang fishbowl for internet clicks

I'd say it is an "anti-test" Btw good iron rule to take into account. If you're so insecure you have to test me - don't expect I'll be for long with you.

Exactly.

Isn’t it crazy when you think about it? Testing your partner in & of itself is super insecure but couple it with narcissistic obsession with broadcasting your relationship on social media for other people’s approval? Bad news bears. Arguably, I think they care more about other peoples’ opinions of their partner over their own opinion. People are toxic.

It's what women do, all women. Tik tok didn't start this bs it just shows it to the world.

For real. If you’re constantly testing your partner then that’s a bad sign you don’t actually want to be with them

@@jgamer2228 Testing them for social validation from others is a black flag event, it implies if that others can determine your relationship trajectory by appearances, therefore I'd simply cut her loose to be with someone else who is okay enough to have another person in their polyamory relationship. Relationships should only be between man, woman, and GOD, no one else.

Especially after the dog test Is she not on all fours, wearing a collar and calling you master 24/7 then clearly she not wife material nor she worth being otherkin

100%, couldn't have said it better

They want a servant, not a partner. If anything, this is a litmus test for how mature your partner is.

Agree. I'm glad I grew up where there were those silly teen magazines but people could pose question to a column where a professional in behaviour science could respond that the girl (the person who asked) that her behaviour, expectation, attitude was unreasonable. A guy who say that he is not a husband may be concerned about whether the mind of the girl is not in the actual reality, which is a sound reaction.

21 years married and you said it perfectly.

Well said.

+1 reason why excessive cringe in combination with mind-numbing short videos are detrimental af.

I think if the test is for fun, and not a real judge of character then it's fine. Also, if you have been feeling off, then a test may also be appropriate. But these things should always be followed by a meaningful conversation. And letting your partner express how they feel afterwards.

Yeah they need to ban it already. But noooo government got spy on it's gullible short attention span having citizens.

Most men are not interested in being draw into a TikTok clip. Full stop

Right.

Yup for me I'd only that if it was genuine accident and/or their hand was injured prior hence the spill.

Yeah atp that's just manipulative and/or trying to have more 'power' over someone in a relationship

@@coki3_crumle670 Yeah it looks like a shady form of control and power. Than a way of testing a good relationship.

@@ShawnStafford-1978 Yea tbf I feel like after the "test", the person who did it would slowly start to do more of this sh-t, and then wonder why their partner leaves :/

She's the defendant in a lawsuit.

i would leave if my gf or wife test me just to satisfy other FemFAILS at social media, all for what? 5min. of fame or shame? ya, this is duimb as a rock. i WOULD leave and find a new girl. These women think relationship is a game, it's suppose to be partnership and also no one is perfect, if you want a perfect partner, fcuk off and be alone.

*weaponised.

@@Ace-ns9co color, colour. The word can have multiple spellings in different geographic locations.

@@fl4shi238 no, that english word is correct, weaponized.

I get doing them for fun and with cameras turned off because recording your partner secretly in their home is insane unless it’s a family home video and intended to stay that way until partner is showed the whole thing and consents to any post of any kind involving them. Doing silly internet trends with your partner can be fun and you can laugh together about it. Or it can raise some red flags early on before you get too emotionally invested. Just don’t put too light weight in it and don’t try to test them constantly to see if they still love you enough. If you feel like you constantly need to test your partner, you either need to go get some therapy (whether just for you or couples therapy, idk) or you should just break up with them because you can’t trust them/your relationship and need to work on yourself in feeling more secure, or realize your partner ain’t a good fit and move on.

Tiktok and reddit.

​@@LadyBernReddit is simply just a forum. How you can compare the two is beyond me.

@@Kenzinru same thing, i dont think ive ever read a sane take on reddit the user base is mental patients mostly

I would not seriously rely on you :/

@@VioletFlame-Ivy haha you're funny! I hope you have a great day.

It is indeed quite creepy to think about. Would that person really date you for you?

The majority of people need therapy and lots of healing.

Only if "people"=women

@@Lady_Cassandra what they need is to stop getting relationship advice from the internet, where a good amount of these same people have never been able to hold a relationship themselves.

Every woman ever: "BUT MUH V-PASS BRUH" "Paying for that on FortNite does not preclude getting it for free in real life."

Omg lol that’s genius

Nah that doesn't sound "trendy" enough

That's revolutionary!

That's not herd mentality enough. How can an average ape, especially a female one know, that they've made a correct choice, without getting confirmation from the rest of their tribe?

The partner who is being tested could be a narcissist too and pass the test exactly for that reason! He will peel the orange but later in the day he could gaslight and abuse the soul out of you.

Truth.

I agree on principle but I resent the fact that many people believe it's reasonable for a grown adult to be completely overwhelmed and powerless in the face of a ketchup stain.

THIS EXACTLY! Tbh, I wouldn't ever clean it or even talk about it until they realized it was still there, and if they didn't either and someone came by and ask, I'd say what happened

This pisses me off because we see videos of a guy getting something wrong and Weaponised Incompetence is assumed. We see videos of a girl openly engaging in Weaponised Incompetence and it's all "You go girl".

Condiments also tend to be notorious for spreading. Which makes it even more weaponized on the part of the tester and how big the mess is an even worse indicator.

​@@goawayleavemealone2880especially when they get the battery connections backward and set the car on fire 😂

I'm a girl and I too found that extremely manipulative.

Karens who have permanent attention-starvation

Someone looking to be single.

I would tell my wife to f*** off and walk away if she did that. 34yrs together.....

@@Okunniger_Volker Talked to mom about this. Showed her the clip. Her reaction: *"She's looking to start a war..."*

Anyone under 3 years old

A lot of women would actually call it a red flag and say they crossed their boundaries too

@@ermygurl Exactly! It's the same as those dreadful "will you marry me?" proposals in public.

Honestly yea, I'd be pretty freaked out too

​@ermygurl only if he's not a chad of course

People for some reason sleep on that point, that after brofist he said "Not yet." Then she attacked him. And then people start crying red flag...

Luckily, most of those are actually staged. The actual reality of destroying your partners things is categorized as a form of "domestic abuse without violence" as these things are usually done during anger. You probably remember the trend 5-8 years ago of the "Angry" boyfriend/girlfriend breaking gaming consoles or laptops owned by the person they are "mad" at for whatever reason. It's like: Congrats! You just now showed 1.5mil people that you are an abusive, psycho partner that nobody should ever be in a relationship with.

@@JaymeSplendid Half of these today are actually real. We think many of these are skits but then we see the aftermath and it ends up being real, over and over again.

Girls like that are the ones I'd be terrified to be in a relationship out of fear they might try to stab me if they ever get too mad over some nothing.

The initial one may be staged. The copycats? Doubt it.

The multiple copycats are not staged. Dudes have lost hundreds of hours, a few of whom make a living off this stuff, to women "pranking them" by... doing the thing they are threatening to do which is the opposite of a prank. The worst part is many of these women have no concept of how much time and effort goes into these things and how not everything can be backed up.

So cute

This ^^ I ask my bf to brush my hair sometimes because I like having someone else do it, and he gets so anxious and worried when he catches a snag in my hair and he think he's hurting me. I have very thick hair, so I get a lot of small knots, and no matter how often I tell him I'm fine and it doesn't hurt, he still stops every time the brush catches and apologizes.

What if he wasn't taught or has mental challenges, gosh you people are something.​@@JustAnotherMaryJane

​@AnotherMaryJane you couldn't even spell genius correctly. Why are you talking sh*t lol?

The most important part of this is that it wasn't test.

But you can. I would never record my partner (or anyone else) to upload to social media. And anyone who tests their relationship in these ways has an objectively bad relationship, otherwise they would just communicate with each other, the people who are actually in the relationship.

@@mydogeatspuke Bingo! The testers are too emotionally immature to be in an adult relationship.

You absolutely can! In fact you can do it in those very clips: namely the people that did the testing. All jokes aside, yes, there's so many other explanations I came up with while watching those very clips (aka in less than 20 seconds) that it's baffling.

Destroys entire house: "can you rebuild it for me?"

It's more like if they threw the remote across the room when you walked in and then asked for it. There wasn't a mess on the counter till the person with room temperature IQ made one.

In the 80’s, kids ARE the remote 🤣 And you better NOT have an attitude about it OR point out that the thing is right next to them. 👀They already know. Diabolical.

​​@@kingkaza i was hoping someone would make this point. idgaf if my man can properly clean a kitchen, bc he doesn't expect me to know how to fix our leaky roof or rebuild the engine in our car. and if i did know how, he wouldn't let me. we understand the values of gender roles in my home and it makes life so much easier.

​@jenn2894 ma'am this isn't about gender roles :/ everyone should learn how to clean, and at least one person in any relationship should know what to do about car problems the video is talking about people manipulating their partners, idk where you pulled gender from that

I’m going h worded g

+1 reason why tiktok is detrimental.

"Might be"?😅

You used too many words. Let me fix it for you: "If you're going to TikTok, you might be in the wrong place".

The funny thing about that is it seems like he knows her well enough that he finds it strange that she's all the sudden asking for an orange

​@@Whelp140 That's something that stood out to me too... All of the people doing these tests seem to assume that their delivery is perfect and there's no way that their partner might sense that they're not being genuine... And the fact is, they aren't being genuine... So, it's not actually a representation of reality... But the thing that's really strange about these tests is that the person testing their partner is putting themselves in a lose-lose situation... If the person doesn't pass the test, then they aren't a good partner... But if they do pass the test, then the tester isn't a good partner... So no matter the outcome of the test, the relationship should be over... Even if they pass the test, the partner would be completely justified if they're offended by being tested.... All these tests demonstrate is that, if your partner passes the test, then you don't deserve them...

​@@voodaiiExactly. By testing, you fail the Test Test

@@ibrahimjaved5574 What a strange game. The only way to win is by not playing.

nah same . id dump them imagine treatig them nice and loving them blindly and they pull this shi

Or maybe don't do any "test" whatsoever?

It isn't a program or game you should test to detect possible bugs. If foundation is loose, all house will collapse. These "relation tests" are loosing this foundation of trust.

She said "I'm craving an orange"😂😂

Right? He knows her preference and knows that this fruit desire is abnormal, and is concerned. That is a fail?!?

It's a good response but the "orange peel theory" is the condiment test in a different package?

@@Quandry1 I think it's more reasonable and respectful way to go about it. If someone poured ketchup and then asked me to clean it, that's a sh*t test, not a relationship test.

@@Xenozillex in the sense of the mess and such certainly. Less insulting in presentation as well.

Diabolical. I love it.

"I'd give her a reason" That doesn't sound violent at all. /s

@@AG-iu9lv it WOULD teach her to stop messing my place up. /s

​@@AG-iu9lvyoure responsible for your own interpretation

​@@AG-iu9lva simple thing. Don't start what you cannot finish

🤣 I just thought it was because of the majority of bad people problem?

Right?!

someone should touch grass

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What a good man! You guys were blessed to have each other xo

Being romantic is just wasting money on unneeded things these people never have a chance to stop renting and stuck in debt confuses me when people spend so much on a wedding that could have been used to buy a home to live in.

Most people today don't even understand what romance is, and equate it with having things being bought for them,. or being taken to expensive places. I once read about a couple who got married the day after they graduated from high school. From the day they were married until the day they died, they were never apart for more than four hours at a time. Every morning, she would drive him to work and then go back home and get the kids ready for school. After that, she would get lunch ready and pack it up so she could drive to his place of work so they could have lunch together. Once done, she would return home and do whatever cleaning needed to be done before going and picking up their kids from school, bringing them with when she went to get her husband from work. They were once interviewed and the interviewer noted that, throughout the entire discussion, they were in constant contact with one another, whether they were putting their arms around each other, holding hands, or just sitting so close they were touching. When asked how they made it work so well for so long, they answered that they didn't let the little things get to them, and treated every time they saw each other like it might be the last time they did. They died in a car crash in their late eighties and, when the rescue crew was finally able to reach their bodies, one of the things they noted was that they were still holding hands. That's romance.

@@allamericanslacker2378 as cruel as it may sound, im glad they went out together. i don't think either one would have faired well apart. that is the type of love story i wish was shown more often in literature, and media. its much more stable than the rocky relationships... but i guess that doesn't make for good stories

Right! Not once do I ever hear them say about considerate and kind things they do for their partner and the cutesy stories that come with that. Poor partner is always on parade instead for views.

No one is "not good at cleaning" naturally. If someone is not good at cleaning as an adult it means they never bothered to learn and always expected someone else to do it for them. That's a basic life skill no one should be "bad" at, it's not optional. It depends on the age of course, if it's someone in their teens or early twenties it's understandable they are not that good at cleaning, if it's someone in their thirties and up however it's 100% not an accident and you can be certain it's weaponized incompetence. Nevertheless, it's unhealthy to put your partner on the spot on social media and exposing them to ridicule instead of taking to them.

@@melchiorlise2466 From what I've seen of the trend, the vast majority of the people being tested are on the younger side. I agree that by your 30s (arguably, mid 20s) you should be able to do these basics fairly efficiently, especially if you live outside of the home you grew up in. ...but I stand by what I said before. 'Intentionally causing a mess and expecting someone else to clean it up is toddler behavior.' If the girls are making the mess themselves, they should clean it up themselves. Especially if that's what they would expect of their partner. Also, agreed. Healthy communication is the way to go. (If they're not open or receptive to that, maybe rethink the relationship, imo.)

@@DEAntoninDolohov I think people would rather do anything than being vulnerable and honest with each other

@@melchiorlise2466 Intentionally making a mess and demanding the other clean it the ultimate weaponised incompetance.

As the worst human, I am offended. Please don't put me down there with tik tokers.

@@twowheeledanimal4805 😂

the bird test seems more for siblings to see if they're still as excited as they were when they were little

I guess I should explain this more, my dad or step mom will always point out birds or horses or rocks so its so creepy this is used for a "romantic" test

By tiktok logic Your the worst person ever as adhd isn't love materal

​@@noellefritz5678 this makes me think that a lot of these people doing the bird test or whatever come from deeply unhealthy families where their observations and hobbies were never validated during their childhood. Though not at all an excuse for messing with their partners, that may be the reason they crave this kind of interest in their observations. So messed up all around, I feel so bad for peole who rely on this stuff, and for their partners even more.

16:06 I think you should start a fight 😂😂😂😂😂❤ it! She’s great!

You made my heart happy as you didn't spell tik-tok correctly Which I see as you having a life and not caring about that trash... Ahh refreshing 🎉😂

It would bring the strikes up to four, in my book

@@iamalphalim Or 4 and a half!

@@iamalphalim that's why I made it a five strike policy to give them a handicap of sorts, it originally came from a generic 3 Strikes policy.

The only time I ever tested my man is by throwing him random questions about the subject he studied when his finals were coming up to help him pass, he never failed.🥰

@@rustyhowe3907oh yes that tests are helpful why can’t we do that and not toxic tests

@@K_idk It's because the modern world is far too involved in being clever for online social posturing than actually being smart.

@@rustyhowe3907 true

I wish were more people like you, you're the only people that are bringing hope to us

Gonna write this down

Respect is earned and no one can demand respect for you. Your way of interacting influences others. It’s a whole different situation if someone’s being rude to you for no reason and your partner steps in. And the other points are kinda nothing burgers? An actual relationship test is how you overcome hardships, arguments and disagreements together. There’s no actual testing. You’ll feel at peace no matter what you go through together.

@@Jesei1211 I disagree. A partner most cetainly can demand respect for you.

​​​@@Jesei1211 showing unbidden consideration in daily life like the dessert thing isn't a "nothing burger". it's worth more than any obligatory candy and roses on Valentine's or after arguments. and that kind of trust is worth more than diamond rings. that's what actual love looks like.

W lines. Golden lines. Well said. Did ask. I still need to grow up to comprehend these lines tho

As my dad used to say: 'Why, are your hands broken?".

Professional victim when it doesn't work, Disney Princess syndrome when it does. These people aren't living in reality, they're living a rehearsed script from a rom-com and getting shocked when reality doesn't work that way.

Most of all it's a form of deceptive insult. The real test is whether a woman tries any of these 'tests'... if she does, then time to breakup.

Yeah. I don't understand why people live their lives online.