'Told My Wife Giving Cookies is Embarrassing' -- Reddit Story 

When you marry a Disney princess but you’re a Disney villain.

My grandpa was a bus driver and said he got baked goods/candy a lot at the start of the year, the holidays, and at the end of the year. The kids loved him and he loved them back.

If i had a wife like that id give her flowers man she is sweet. And how dare he make a shy cute woman feel bad. She is a good mother and a good human.

This woman deserves so much better. I feel like this story just incapsulates the quote from Harry Potter, “if you want to know what a man’s like, take a look at how he treats his inferiors not his equals.” Not that people in these jobs are inferior, but service workers are just under appreciated and can get treated so badly. Giving them cookies could literally make their day.

The fact that his friends and family apparently are uncomfortable with her generosity is pathetic. When he referred to bus drivers and waiters as “lower class” that sealed the deal. This man has no respect, decency, or empathy for anyone not within his league. His wife is beyond the field for him.

"if you need a devil's advocate, go to hell". That's never going to stop being funny lol!

Yeah, Sarah is absolutely right - his wife is something and he is nothing. I think that his ego can't handle how small it makes him feel, and he doesn't know how to name that feeling of existential angst, so he calls it embarrassment.

"if you wanna be the devil's advocate then go to hell" I want that on a t-shirt

I don't get how he sees his wife's actions as negative and embarrassing, unless he sees the drivers/workers as beneath him. Alright, the reply in the comments makes me feel like he and his family feel inferior to the wife. Weird.

He seems like he just wants to crush her joy, kindness, and shine

"yeah you are you mousey, unforgettable man." DEAD LMFAO

I literally watched this clip purely to hear Sarah say “you are the man who is the colour grey” all over again because it killed me😭😂😂

I had an ex-BF like this. For example, I gave my seat up to an old man on a train and he said, "You only did that to feel good about yourself." He was very, very concerned with himself and people's perception of him and into Neil Strauss and "The Game" and self-improvement and fantasies of success. He did mention feeling a lack of empathy for others and probably had some mild personality disorder. Maybe this gift-hating guy has a similar personality?

His mother was probably one of those mom's who made fun of the "extra" mom's putting an extra effort when he was growing up. How sad.

WHY IS THIS EMBARRASSING FOR HIM: Because he was raised around people who valued items people BUY not make. The end.

We handed out two cups of make-it-yourself hot cocoa and chocolate to people on Friday to mark the international mental health day, so that they could share it with someone, and when we gave to the bus drives, one of them almost cried because she had a bad week, and this meant the world to her… Those cookies could have made someones week!

How dare my wife be kind and considerate?!!

This is guaranteed not the only thing he is “embarrassed” about which is the saddest part. It’s also sad that his wife is shy and he keeps pushing her down instead of elevating her.

Idk who this new woman is but I absolutely love her energy

I work at a grocery store and the amount of kind women that offer me food or notice that I’m not feeling well and offer me like Advil while I’m checking out their groceries are so appreciated and I love them

I’m only a minute in and I’m literally ANGRY at this persons thought process… he is EMBARRASSING for thinking her being so sweet giving someone cookies is somehow wrong? The people around him are literally just as weird as him… what the fuck. Wait can i just add that it doesn’t seem like she’s “shy”? If she was why would she give them cookies…? Seems to me like he’s the one who’s shy not knowing how to show people he’s thankful for something, hence why he feels “embarrassed”

I work retail. And a customer brings me a $2 bill every Chinese New Year. It's not a holiday I observe, but I love her gift so much, I keep them and the little envelopes they come in. The fact she takes time to go to the bank and get a $2 bill just for me makes me feel so special.

i love this friend of yours she is so opinionated. your other friends often say very similar things to you or just agree but i really like this girl she is so serious about this lmao

We have a lot of food allergies in our family and probably wouldn’t be able to eat the cookies. However I would still appreciate the act of giving them to me. It was super nice of the wife

An interest/crush of mine in HS was like this, I gave him cookies for Valentine's Day and he laughed in my face, told all of his friends and they all laughed. Later he asked me out (6 months later) and I said no because he hurt my feelings. I didn't understand why he laughed. I liked him and knew he liked me. I still don't get it... Edit: I was very shy and this was the only way I knew how to show my feelings was gift giving too.

This woman is the sweetest. I’m not a bus driver, but I’ve been working in customer service since I was 14, so 6.5 years now and I’m only received one gift from a customer before, she gave me an entire slice after we had a long conversation in the drive thru when the line was held up. She made my day and it’s a fun story to tell. People like that woman’s husband are such Debby downers and just assholes. He doesn’t deserve his beautiful, kind wife in the slightest.

He probably never buys her flowers or does anything nice and selfless for her. I bet he expects her to do all the cooking, cleaning, household stuff, raising kids, grocery shopping etc, never thanks or even appreciates her for doing that. She is such a sweetheart and deserves so much better. I hope she divorces him and finds happiness.

My grandmother got divorced after years of physical and mental abuse and lost a lot of friends because "it was embarrassing to get divorced". Divorce literally saved her life.

I have never become attracted to someone as quickly as when Sarah started sharing her opinion! Such confidence ❤️

Not Sarah threatening to steal cookie mans wife🤣❤️ But really tho she needs to divorce that man!! Twisting her kindness into something it’s not is weak man energy

my mom used to do this to the guards in my school and they’re always so thankful about it so i dont get why would he embarrassed about his wife being appreciative of workers??? and the fact that he had the audacity to ask if he’s the asshole...

She sounds absolutely wonderful and incredibly generous. I sincerely hope she doesn’t swallow his piss poor behavior. His inability to appreciate her warmth and who she is says SO much about his character.

Every year when I order Girl Scout cookies, the young lady ALWAYS gives us a bag of homemade cookies and I will always remember her because of it. It’s a very sweet gesture and they are delicious!

"If you need a devil's advocate, go to hell." As an attorney, I am going to be adding this to my wheelhouse. Thank you so much for that gem of a phrase.

HOW IS THAT EMBARRASSING!?!?!? THAT'S THE CUTEST SWEETEST THING I'VE EVER HEARD!!! If you can't say, "This woman is adorable and needs to be protected at all cost." when thinking of this person. You doesn't deserve her in your life. Period. End of story.

I was a grocery store worker during the pandemic and my aunt took my cousins to my store so they could give me a card and thank me for doing a great job and I think I cried on my break because I was so touched

This man was clearly raised by people with some serious issues that were passed down to him and his sister.

My daughter had the same buss driver her last 2 or 3yrs in HS,he stared picking her up and dropping her off in front of our house so we weren't waiting for him in the dark at 6am. We exchanged Christmas cards and I gave him a giftcard for coffee for Christmas. We found out he shares the same birthday as her and I again gave him a card and giftcard. He went out of his way to make sure all the kids were safe while in his care. We last saw him March 2020 on their birthday. School was closed after that and went viral. He sent her a graduation gift and card!

I work in retail and there’s one man that will come in every once in a while and give all the workers a flower and it totally makes our day

'He asked others and they agreed with him.' What he meant to say was...he asked the people he knew would give him the answers he wanted, and they agreed with him - astounding!🙄

I genuinely think getting cookies would make my week. Like thank yous are nice but imagine getting a bag of cookies. She is so kind.

Also, if he told his parents and friends only his side and how he feels about it well yeah, they don’t see her intentions, because he hides them from his parents and friends and makes it about himself only. She ist so adorable! She cares so much and EVERY worker would be happy about selfmade cookies!!! When I was a selling Strawberries (little stand in Germany, cold summer) there were people buying me food and hot coffee and cocoa at the bakery next to my stand and I was SO THANKFUL! They made my days so much better ❤️

Reminds me of the time i was at Disney and this Women came up to me and gave me a Mickey rice crispy treat and it made my day. She just did it out of Kindness and it was so nice

The fact he says “she ‘tries’ to teach these things to our kids” makes me think he purposefully tells the kids not to do stuff like that, that their mother is idiotic etc and it will destroy their family.

My ex used to get uncomfortable whenever I thanked the bus driver. He would be like "you don't need to thank him, he's getting paid". He just stopped complaining because refused to stop thanking them, for me it is the polite thing to do

no uh uh this dude reminds me of my emotionally abusive ex that thought compliments were "cringe" she is way too good for that man.

I will be quoting Sarah from now until the day I die. "You are a man who is the color grey," just became my go-to rejection for every creep I ever encounter.

I'd be proud of my spouse... my husband complimented me on my kindness early on in our relationship, and that is the best compliment. I hope we can both instill that in our children. Kindness is sexy...

I miss the old days pre Covid when I could bring my chocolate chip banana bread to work. It brought me so much joy to see it disappear and folks happy. Baking is a joyful experience 💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️

I mentioned in casual conversation one time that I had a mild headache to a customer when i was working the register one time. She left and came back with a Starbucks coffee for me. This has to have been at least 5 years ago, and I still remember it and appreciate that lady. I don't understand how an act of kindness can be embarrassing.

She sounds like a kind, thoughtful person.. Maybe he needs to take on some of kindness

My mother was a bus driver in the last few years of her life! This woman is an blessing to anyone lucky enough to know.

My father is a bus driver. Some passengers bring him presents like fruit or bakery products, or other thoughtful ones like one time he was given a mini speaker for his in-between-route breaks when he cant use the radio. I am very grateful for this and I can see how he is when it happens. He has faced many hard and even dangerous situations in his job, so I am thankful that passengers know him and appreciate him. If someone thinks he doesn't deserve cookies or that his job is "lower", that someone can go f himself. Disgusting people.

Im a cake decorater and I once got an order for a "Divorce cake", it said "Newly UnWed" as by FAR my favorite cake Ive done

I am a school bus driver and I can tell you I love when the parents or kids give me handmade gifts like cookies or cards it shows me that they see my effort and caring for their kids and getting their kids to and from school safely this husband has no idea how to be a good husband or a good human I applaud that woman and that she is teaching her children to be wonderful humans

I kept hearing the first few seconds of your audio on TikTok and always wanted to hear the rest of the story! Finally found your podcast and my entire day got so much better.

The woman is shy too. This is amazing for her shyness, having to go out and give someone you barely know cookies?? That takes guts!

Are you kidding me?? Coming from a Latin family, my mom would always make fresh lemonade/juice for our family every morning and she would make an extra tumblr for my bus driver. My bus driver would give it back at the end of day and then the cycle would repeat. They loved it!

Oh gosh, this hit close at home. I really like to bake for my coworkers, boss and when I was studying to my teachers... My ex hated them, and told me I was trying to hard and even ask if i was flirting with coworkers, I stopped doing it because I was trying to please him. We broke off before COVID, and my dad passed away on January, and I learned what they say exactly, you leave behind in the people you cared its the little acts.

The divorce party idea is brilliant

My mom always treated my bus drivers with the most respect, I had the same one from kindergarten until 5th grade and we knew his favorite candy bar, what his favorite drink was and who his wife was. He actually went to the same church my great grandma did so we got even closer after he got a new route he wasn’t my driver anymore. His wife passed 3 years ago and he passed exactly a year after, they were AMAZING people. Even when I was a senior in highschool he would stop me whenever he saw me. One of the best relationships I’ve ever had my entire life was my bus driver so it makes me sad to hear that there’s people out in the world like this.

Is this man mad his wife is teaching their kids kindness and gratefullness? Is he mad she is a better person than him?

I just love how Sarah responded to it, because I was thinking through the story "yes, you're the AH", then she responded how I was feeling. 👏😂

I work in a daycare, and a child told me about cupcakes she had made with her mother over the weekend. I jokingly asked her if I could have one, trying to be funny for the child like saying “Can I wear your coat? It’s a lovely coat” with the child usually replying “No you’re too big!” But this child obviously told her mum that I would like a cupcake, and they brought one in for me the next day. It was so lovely and still remember it to this day.

At my moms house we had a mailman who was super kind but would get complaints because he likes to talk to the people and sometimes didn’t know when to stop but I really appreciated him so I made cookies for him and decorated them every Valentine’s Day we’d leave it in the mailbox with a note that read “To our mail carrier thank you.” He didn’t always work on Valentine’s Day but always left a note in our mailbox afterwards to say he appreciated it. (I made them cause I had to make valentines for others in my class growing up and because he was a good guy.)

that is one of the sweetest things to do :[ what’s wrong with that? she’s legit just being kind

I LOVE random gift-giving. Of course we buy gifts for people for birthdays or weddings or whatever, but when a person gives me a small gift for no reason, it means they just thought about me and wanted me to feel good. I think that's wonderful, and I like giving that to people.

Once when I was walking home from school a mom leaving a community center I was passing asked me if I wanted their leftover donuts. It’s been 5 years and I think about it often. I will never forget her kindness.

I love Sara so much.... bring her back more often!!! She's so amazing. I love how she just berates these a-holes up front.

1st- 6th grade my mom would make tamales for me to give my bus drivers. They were always really happy to receive them. This lady is an amazing person for giving them cookies!

Oh my god I LOVE Morgan!! She put my emotions on this story into words perfectly!!

This man has literally nothing except ✨ the audacity ✨

I love Sarah! She's too funny

literally how could he not fall in love even more with her and appreciate how selfless and sweet she is ? how could he not find those qualities that she has so beautiful and amazing like dude, maybe you should be more like your wife 💀

I can't understand how he can view his wife kindness as something negative... He should be grateful and proud of her....

I used to work in customer service and I remember when this old woman came in my line and checked out and then gave me a butterfly that she crocheted. To this day I still have that butterfly on my desk to remember that some people are good. Although I did recently quit because of how badly I was being treated by most people, it still makes me smile thinking of that woman.

My sister is that considerate person who does this. People have told me so many times (often a little teary eyed) that no one ever thinks of them.

This new friend is HILLARIOUS! Please bring her on more often. Also we want to see more of dad. You have great family and friends.

Give people cookies. It's beyond sweet!! Love this wife so much!!!

my wife is trying to pass down kindness and love to my kids, she embarrasses me so much 🙄🥱

"My wife's behavior is too extreme, she makes cookies for the *LOWER CLASS* who care for *OUR CHILDREN* , and the children are *LEARNING FROM IT* !!!!!!!!"

I’m late, but where I live there’s bus driver shortage. It is a very stressful job. Most busses have to do THREE trips back to the school just to be able to drop off more kids to their homes. Kids are being picked up late and arriving late for school. They deserve more than cookies tbh BUT giving baked goods as a thank you could mean so much to them. Who doesn’t love some appreciation gift. Some bus drivers go above and beyond and maybe they don’t feel noticed by their employer. This man sucks and the wife deserves wayyyy more!

Best comment in the video: “If you think kindness is embarrassing, then you’re a f*cking loser” 👍🏻👏🏻

Sarah is amazing, great energy haha

I think the random gift giving is one of her love language. And when she loves someome Thats how she shows love and appreciation.

this woman is an angel, sincerely hope she’s with someone better or is riding solo

My parents don’t have the time to bake goods, and my family worries about allergies, but every year my mom gives every teacher, teacher’s assistant and bus driver Starbucks gift cards. This year target had ornaments of girls and bears in wheelchairs, so my mom bought them and also gave them to my sisters drivers and teachers.

Omg. Just because he is uncomfortable doesn't mean that he has the right to control her. It has nothing to do with him and does not impact him. No one is embarrassed by her kind and loving actions.

I really hope OP was trolling because I can’t fathom the idea that there are people out there who don’t realise the ridiculousness of their own statements.

he thinks like that bc that's why he and his parents give gifts. to make their "competition" feel insecure and less than them.

I crochet and would give my kids bus driver crocheted gifts for christmas. they often get forgotten when teachers are given gifts

Girl needs to set some standards, and if he can’t adhere she needs to RUN. Sidenote: This guy sounds so pretentious. I bet he’s the worst kind of customer.

I love receiving baked goods. I work at the post office and LOVE when I get baked goods at Christmas. I also love giving baked goods. I love to bake. My husband loves giving the baked goods too. He just makes sure he gets some of the things I bake. Lol

my husband LOVES that I love being kind to others! while he may not fully understand it, he would NEVER say that i’m embarrassing or uncomfortable. I feel so sorry for this woman.

I bought some candy to gas station workers that I saw were almost breaking down and super busy and late with their food orders. It was also covid and pretty late at night. I worked at a gas station (same chain, in a different city) the previous summer myself and could relate to it so much and just wanted to do something to acknowledge that and let them know it’s ok and they’re doing the best they can.

I honestly see his perspective. If I was that bus driver I would definitely feel that it was a condescending gift. I also wouldn’t accept something homemade from a stranger.

Uhhhh I've given coworkers, husband's coworkers, friends, the farriers, the plumber etc baked goods or food. Our photographer had a horrible couple weeks. When we paid her, we also have her enough halibut for her family to have dinner that night. Her whole face lit up. I also love to bake. Any time in college I was extremely stressed, I stress bake. My professors, friends, bosses all got cake and cookies. It's one of those things where I might not be able to always give someone 20 bucks just to make their day a little better but you can pretty much always afford it batch of cookies.

I can't even eat cookies and would still literally cry if someone took time out of their day to give them to me

I love Sarah! Lol she is not afraid to speak her mind and she says what others are thinking. Love that energy!

"you mousy, unforgettable man" I LOVE her.