It's power in letting go and freedom in moving on. You find power and strength by spending time with the Lord, once you realize your power, you will stay gone.
I had this happen before. I got pregnant. Big mistakes. I didn't give it enough time to see if he actually changed. I let him know it wasn't going to work but let him stay until the baby was born. I saved money and worked on healing and stopped sleeping with him. I learned so much the hard way. Now I help other women heal through my books and RU-vid channel.
Beautiful message and testimony! May I politely ask, how did you get started with your book? I have so much to say, that is so hurtful, while also delivering a message. Thank you in advance.
@ Love Yourself First with Krystle Thanks for sharing your expenses; These men have a lot of Gaul and don’t fee guilt I’m learning how to stop being a ppl pleaser and not letting my soon to be ex continue to walk over me
Ladies, when Tony say you gone go through something please don’t assume that something is cheating. A lot of times we try to take words and apply them to our broken situation. In the beginning of a relationship you may have to sort through some things with your partner, but you should NEVER have to go through the same thing with the same person consistently. At that point, they just don’t care.. choose you!
Not gonna lie I miss my soon to be ex husband But I don’t miss: The lying The asthma exacerbations The migraines The tears The chest pain The sleepless nights The panic of feeling obligation to keep sleeping w him to calm his mood and “keep” my marriage After leaving almost all of this has significantly been reduced or been eliminated altogether
I can’t do it. My life ain’t no 90s rap song or Soap Opera. We ain’t breaking up to make up and weaving a big old trauma bond. I’m tyed and many other women are too. Once it’s over it is finished.
Supported him thru 2 rehabs, helped him get his CDL and forgave the cheating and he still wouldn't do right! I changed the locks and divorced him that was 10yrs ago. God is great! He said let him go ! I have my degree and forgave him AND myself. I have moved past the pain and anger. Ladies do the work: self love, awareness leads to a deeper relationship with God! Butterflies are meant to fly not be controlled!
I'm choosing peace this year TG lol. If a man had to leave me.. it's best if he stays gone. Now if I had to leave him that may be different but still.. if I had to leave then I need to stay gone lol. We're getting older and have less time for foolishness and multiple chances. Humans only do what they're allowed to
Number one when a woman gets to a certain age, we ain't going back and forth on no bs. That's why you wait for a period of time before even sleeping with a man, just to make sure he's the right man. So there are no regrets in the end. I have been conversing and hanging out with a guy who older than me, but has had a player past. Which I don't and didn't judge , due to his honesty. But I'm 58 and he's 62. We work out together and have deep wonderful conversations, but I'm still just observing his behavior and conversations to make sure he stays honest. We all have a past, but when a man shares those things that he doesn't have to with you , that's a great sign of trust, so even when and if he messes up don't throw up his past. Just sit back and observe and if necessary, have the discussion., If it doesn't change just respectfully end the relationship.. Love the commentary ❤
Tony, you are always right on time. This just happened to me today. I’m so irritated with myself for even letting him come back. He only made it a week 🙃
@@OrganicallyYahs At least he held up longer than mine 😂 lol but I agree 🫶🏾 I’m learning to give myself grace. It’s never too late to start anew 🙌🏾 we got this!
Sometimes that female who is on the bad end of the deal doesn’t have the patience or strength to go another round. After losing oneself, being agreeable and looking to make “things” peaceful…..it’s just draining to re-visit the scene of the crime. 😔Fil- let mig on😂😂
Excellent advice!! Tony thank you for being here for us who have no male figures (my brother is dead and my father is too religious) to give us THE REAL OR THE WHAT TO DO in case of...! The last thing females should do is listen to other females sometimes.
I’m 22 years old. And I’m so happy I just learned early. Once it’s over it’s over. Doubling back will have you drained. Some people will never grow up at all. Most guys these days it’s literally just they character.
Thank you Tony I'm there now I had to leave he was an emotionally unavailable man would not change I had to leave. I really stayed to long trying to make it work like you said some men are to broken.
Great video....I think God has to be in the heart of the man who returns and he shows it with consistent words and actions....God can change any of us but all of us ain't living in accordance to God's will. If he returns, he must love and serve God more than this world and all its temptations.
Going thru it right now and trying to leave by this weekend. God give me strength. I needed to know it’s better for me to leave when he isn’t there, but was uncertain. God answered me thru you to tell me leave when he isn’t there. Stay blessed. Thank you.
When he said the first thing you got to do is analyze what he did! And I feel like god and doing that has been keeping me on a straight narrow path. I realize all the disrespect that came from him soon as he think he about to get a response from blowing me up and contact my family. I tell them to block him and I keep it pushing literally. I don’t even remember the good times anymore because all I remember is the bad! That boy played in my face and I can’t believe it but I appreciate him for it cause if he didn’t I’ll be still stuck. I needed that Lesson & still wish him the best!
Thanks Tony. Am experiencing something to this matter as we speak and am remembering you saying one time how telling a man no can almost make his eye balls pop out his head🤦🏽♀️but it is what it is👍🏽
This is such great advice. This pausing thing would have saved me a lot of trouble in the past. Tony, thank you again for sharing your wisdom with us who still have a lot of growing to do. 🙌🏻❤
That's why i love this channel so much. You give sound realistic advice.. It's not that easy just to leave and be done..i think when the person gets fed up enough they'll leave.
Thank you Tony! 🙏🏽 This is the stuff fathers should be teaching daughters. It’s so imperative. A lot of women have been taught to leave at the drop of a hat. Learning to work through something is hard, but when you love someone, or think you do anyway, it happens. 🙏🏽
Tony will you please consider doing a video to advise women who are married to high earring and/or ambitions men like yourself? Maybe share tips on ways to best support them, other women testing/trying them, and remaining the prize? Thanks so much! 🙏🏽
Exactly what happened to me Had to get another order of protection after cancelling the one last year My grandmother keeps trying to convince me to fight for my marriage But my soon to be ex husband as HE filed for divorce not me is continuing to say it’s nothing he needs to change
WHAT WOMEN NEED - They don't care unless it is important They are immersed in self-discovery now They want to protect their sense of purpose from social influences They feel happier when alone Isolating empowers them Their brutal honesty can drive people away They want to be unbothered They function better alone They can't vibe with others anyway They can't live without inner peace
Preach Tony! They way you break stuff down have me 😂😂😂!!! ✔Thank you for keeping it all the way realsaying that it ain't that easy! ✔@Tony You're right! I've been an Educator since 2000. I am a contractor for a tutoring company as well. Last year I spent 2 appointments w/a Middle Eastern family. The mom wanted to get the son diagnosed so bad that something was wrong, & I was her last hope! Shw wanted to coerce me into saying something is wrong! I told her the only thing wrong with him is that he's bored & she had an age gap between the six yr old & the teen. She said he was her oops baby! Homegirl told the sgency for me to 🛑 tutoring her son b/c I told her ain't nothing wrong with her son other than he's bored! The ONLY UNFORTUNATE THING is that our Black aons are disproportionately misdiagnosed because we are so creative & animated & are Black men are bored! ✔You're right! With my ex-husband, my therapist helped me with an Exit Strategy!
Hi Tony, you talk sense many times over. Thank you for your education. What if you have blocked the guy for over a year but he pops up unexpectedly but you keep your goal of no contact and he still pops up through other people like another girl or your best friend who is 55 years old. And your best friend thinks you burdened her with the matter again and she blocks you a second time. And you know its not your fault, he keeps coming back. So, how to deal with a situation like that? Huh? It hurts to know your best friend blocks you coz of this matter. 😢😢
A leopard doesn’t change his spots. Some women are too desperate. Ladies, please get some hobbies or something. Focus on developing yourself. Ladies please focus on yourself and your job etc
I’m currently pregnant 🤰🏾 with his child & when I told him about it he told me that also his bm got pregnant the same time as me with is 3rd child so we both at the same time pregnant & we were not together the whole time just messing around , & he wants to be with me 🙄. I said no & he’s upset now , we are not talking right now at the moment & I just wanna terminate the pregnancy , He’s been stressing me out. 😩 and this is not where i wanna be in right now.
This is a lot. I pray you make the best decision for yourself. Go into this as if you are going to be raising your child by yourself. Thinking anything else may have you disappointed.
I left him over 2 month unblocked him had small talk He said he was nerves later said he was new improved.Should I believe him yes Im watching. today is day 4….Hmmm ❓
His actions will prove it, nothing more, nothing less. And if he shows those same signs, I would correct him right then. You don’t get that many chances
