Trans woman: Why I don't talk about "The Surgery" 

You are both so adorable! My wife is trans and she and I find your content very helpful in these early transition stage. Also, I don't know if you're open to making this kind of content, but it would be so amazing if you guys did a "get ready with us". I love both of your styles!

Thank you!!! This video was able to sum up so many of the frustrations that my wife and I face in our lives. When people have asked me what's in my pants...i tend to respond by simply saying 'my legs' before walking away. Keep up the amazing work! You both are awesome!

Y'all can we talk about this room and that window? I'm in love 😍😍😍😍

Love this! You described it so well! I'm having GCS at the end of September, and have been starting to tell coworkers about my medical leave. I've had to stop a few before they ask that kind of question. I try to gently remind them that discussing such a surgery is very inappropriate in the workplace--not to mention how shitty it makes me feel to have someone ask me about my bits! You've got a new subscriber!

I feel a little bad that we are talking about serious topics, but the only thing I want to talk to Jackie about is how fabulous her hair and eyebrows and makeup and outfit look. Like omg. You look glorious.

I adore you both so much!!!!!! This video should have like a zillion views! You're both so lovely and I love your content AND I think if you keep making content eventually your mutual loveliness will be recognized by a wider audience :)) But if you don't get the attention you deserve I hope you keep making videos for your fanbase cause we love you :)

Hi thx for sharing this. For me as someone who's just realizing that I might be trans lesbian, I generally found it sort of frustrating that how 'few' of us are visible. Like, most of the trans women influencers I found on YT or elsewhere are almost all into MEN. Many have boyfriends and others have had a lot of experiences dating men, including those who're open to talk about things such as dating, hormones, surgery, etc. Which is something I don't think I'll ever be into. And I wished trans lesbians like you would share a little more because I won't be surprised if sexuality affects a trans women's preference on surgeries, especially the 'bottom' one. (And BTW as u might also know there're multiple options of the 'surgery', at least here in America, don't know what it's like in Europe, I heard certain options aren't available in certain European countries since the surgery is more or less covered by public health care and can thus get politicalized). Of course it's okay if that's not something you want to talk about. And I'm grateful that you're sharing all other things regarding being trans AND lesbian here, which increases our visibility. BTW data actually shows that we trans ppl have one of the most diverse sexualities compared to our cis counterparts. While the majority of the cis ppl are exclusively heterosexual (the lowest % I saw is about 80~85% heterosexual ONLY for cis population), for trans, we don't really have a 'majority' in terms of sexuality. And same data also shows that there's a plurality in bi/pan sexual usually, while pure homosexual and pure heterosexual are almost at the same level within trans people. Which btw, also means that we trans lesbians are more common than millionaires here in America (and most of the Western countries too I believe).

I’ll give you two a lot of credit, instead of doing what society wants you to do you’re sharing something that is unheard of on the Internet, you are sharing yourselves in a different perspective than everyone else. Ignorance means people don’t know, stupid means of course they know, but they’re gonna do it anyway. If they know they can get a rise out of you, they will continue. In today’s society not only do people hurt other people, they hurt other people to make themselves look and feel better. That’s very narcissistic, and petty, and sad, immature and just downright prideful, where no one else’s feelings matter other than their own. I’m sure this post will get some negative response from someone, I look at as it’s about the only purpose they have in life, that is negativity. And we know negativity breeds negativity, you two are doing great. You too are my sisters through Christ, I love you both. THANK YOU! Your Brother

I absolutely loved this!!!! It’s so true. The minute someone learns that I’m a trans woman they’re asking about the surgery.

This deserves to be the #1 #trending #youtube video for the next 10 years! OMG so true!

"Take that to the bank" holy crap y'all are wild funny 😂❤

omg that first line of the description bahahahaa

This was a lovely and insightful video 🤗

I agree it is a weird question I don’t mind answering these questions when asked to me within reason myself. But I totally get why you wouldn’t want to talk about it. Sometimes people have a awkward weird way of asking it

I’ve only had one person asking about whats between my legs. I was so annoyed and hurt - I am an extremely intelligent person (have a PhD) but they were only interested in what’s between my legs. Thank you for sending out a message that such questions are not okay.

Thank you so much for sharing!

We live in a time when people think they have the right to know anything they want to about you: They don't. Another great video you two -- thank you!

13 years wow. Congrats to you both. It is no ones business if you had any surgeries. As long as you 2 are happy that is all that matters. Good Luck to you both.

Oh very relatable. Came out to a friend and that was their first question, followed up by "a lot of people regret it". Like wowwwwwww, there are so many problems with that statement that I don't even know where to begin... ANYWAY probably don't need to be friends with that person. It still gets me amped up just thinking about it. But I did correct them and explain why their reaction was shitty, for the record.

I love the color of your kitchen

Honestly i think this is a very personal question an nobody elses buisness to know if someone has done bottom surgery or not or why. The important thing is the person.

We are about who we connect with, our hobbies and interest. What about what made us want to come out?

@wivesvsworld as a transwoman myself I have realized all trans-people are at different stages in their transition but at the end of the day the surgeries we want to get is our own personal choice for me I do plan on getting top and bottom surgery but that's my own personal choice

you are just wonderful

Exactly!….. Well said… Than You❣️

2nd of all Bob why did you ask? Bob here I didn’t. Hah! Ok I was curious and thanks for explaining. “Are you an inny or an out?” Too funny!

As long as you love and respect each other, sex should not take first preference.

Here in the USA when I came out in 2000 I was 42 had a real had time finding a doctors endocrinologist and a therapist to work with a trans woman is it difficult in that country for trans people to find care

Lovely couple!

In Denmark. I was wondering about Annya's accent.

I am trans and I agree why ask? that is as bad as asking what your dead name is.

Since I came out as transitioning, suddenly everyone is curious about my "junk" and what I am doing about it. My father is the worst so far. I got asked by him in a busy restaurant "So when are they cutting your balls off?" This was last week. Ironically he has said he is trans as well. Rude. With some it's mere curiousity and not meant to be offensive. Other times just so offensive and inappropipriate. There will be words with my therapist over this....grrrrrr...

How does anyone ever know that you are trans , there is no way anyone would know? But my question are you both from the same country? your accents are so different I love them both

The reason they’re asking is because you’re on the internet, in a public forum, talking about your transition.

I understand where you’re coming from, but I would be looking for advice on my situation: I am the non-op trans mtf half, and my wife of 56 years is the cis side, but unlike your situation, she is not a lesbian. I see myself as a lesbian, but we are intimate with me in minimal makeup, my hair to my chest, wearing nothing but a smile and she in a silk slip and full makeup. I still need a shot to make my thing stand at attention and we use it. If you two have a similar experience, I’d like to know whether it works in the long run. You two stay beautiful and lovely for each other. We envy your youth. I didn’t start my transition ‘til last year, even thought I knew I was trans from age 3.

I understand this, but as a cis woman I´ve talked to people who think they might be trans and their curiosity is not only based on how to judge trans people but to understand themselves better, from a psychological standpoint. For cisgender, the curiosity might be subjected to the fact that they are probably attracted to someone who is transgender, and might be curious about what to expect, what to ask, what to think... maybe they find in you someone who can guide them. Not everything is about judgment, and in psychology, since we´re kids and confronting the unknown, we do question our genitalia and the one´s around us... think of us as kids who might be confronting this reality for the first time.

Cos it's no one's business apart from your own . It's the most annoying and gross question I get too.

Sure but definitely when you are dating people in order to have sex with them you should tell them BEFOREHAND that you are trans , incase they don't notice.

But, I want to know about that!!...Its a Joke. Congratulations.

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Turn off the circus 🎪 music

Whrn you make your life public, when you earn your living based on "who" you are ... people will ask. I don't hate them for asking ...I don't hate you for refusing. But fact is, you're even making a video on the fact that they asked. This is how you earn your living. You made it so. No matter what the premise of youtubers' channels, it always surprises me when they get offended by questions on that very premise. If you don't want to answer certain questions, just say so and move on. RU-vidrs of al sorts LOVE to make "someone said a hurty word to me" videos. Lol. It brings in the views, for sure. But it's wildly intellectually dishonest.

12 minutes talking about what you do not want to talk.

You still a guy in gods eyes