Understanding Our Inner Critic - Esther Perel & Dick Schwartz 

This is one of the best videos I have seen on the subject. All the other videos talk about accepting the voice or separating reality from Untruth. This is the only video that said that the voice was actually trying to help you.

This lady is smart and productive. She is helping thousands of people on a most personal basis. Who else can say this?

This is a different and pragmatic approach (than what I've previously been exposed to) to exploring more about how to deal with shame. I think I could greatly benefit from this approach.

Two of my favorite therapists! I absolutely love Dicks work (Internal Family Systems therapy) and I use it in my daily life for myself and with my partner. I also use it with all of my coaching clients and everyone finds it very helpful and illuminating. It's the one therapeutic modality across the board that I've seen work over and over again with pretty much anyone. Genius work!

Esther! I am so delighted that you met with Dick. Please meet with someone that teaches Nonviolent Communication, next!

Dick Schwartz is a blessing. Thank you so much for this!

I always love Esther and anything she produces soooo much . Thank god for you, Esther. You Beautiful Soul. : )

Two of my favorite people. 🙏🙏

This is wonderful! 🧡Thank you Dick Schwartz and Esther. I love you Esther! 🧡xx

Wow! So much clarity!

Been rockin with Esther. Can dig this guy too.

I appreciate everything Esther teaches. Thank you for posting.

I love your job, thanks for your lesson.

Wow.... one of the best insights I have ever had so far... happy to understand a bit more what is going on inside... it is a wonderful adventure.... Thank you Esther very much for all your work... I am your big fan ;)

My late dad was e tremly critical. 😔 I visualized talking to him telling him I'm a mature adult n I stand on my own now. He can rest n relax. He can tell me that he's proud of me .....I've been married for 45 year's and am retired. I chose a good person. Husband n I built a life for ourselves. RU-vid has hypnosis n meditation on this subject as well. I use it. ❤ Rose

This is a well of wisdom... Thank you so much.

It was veeeeery helpful to watch these only 5 minutes. I feel alleviated already and will try to practice this daily. Thank you!

Wonderful! My boyfriend is extremely critical of himself and puts himself down a lot. So thank you for the advice 😌

wow Dick Schwartz, Internal Family System ! Thank you !

I love my inner voice. It keeps me awear of things going on around me . Xxxx thank you inner voice

Thank you Both! 🤗

Thank you! Ask the other parts to step aside so you can better see the critic part and approach it with gentle curiosity. Got it! 💗

Great insight. What a great share.

Love IFS and Dick Schwartz (and the sources of his inspiration/method)

Yay for Gestalt Therapy leading the way for other modalities that explore parts of self!

That is insanely good thank you!!

Thank you very much

Esther, you are the best🙂

Love this

Love this video 👊💯😍😍😍

Amazing video. thank you :)

The 8 Cs are genius.

I know how to do this. I used to do this but I stopped. It's hard for you to stop because you think if you stopped that critical voice inside of your head you think something bad is going to happen. Like you think you're going to fail, fall short, whatever. And you're so terrified and anxious of that you just won't let that critical voice go. What you don't know is that you're wrong about that. You're scared because you don't know what will happen once that critical voice because that was the only way you know how to operate. You think something bad is going to happen once you stop that inner critical voice. You just have to take that leap of faith. Just risk that failure and risk that bad thing happening. That's how you stop that critical voice once and for all. Then you will realize that voice was actually only holding you back. If you're just wishy washy about it, like oh I wish...I would like it if it would stop..its a little inconvenient....you won't do it. You'll only do it when you're desperate and you feel like you'll die without doing it because the misery became so heavy that you can no longer handle it you will be pushed to take that leap of faith. Like death seems better than current way of life. Just take that risk and jump that's how you stop that critical internal voice forever

Hmmm. Interesting that the voice serves a protective means...I like that!

All class.

But ALSO I've come to realise That if you lack the self compassion and mildness to heal and neutralise the "radicalised helper", then it becomes harder to lend others the same compassion and mildness I mean to say, if you find yourself self critical, you can also project that criticism outwards, too

Great video... check out Paul Gilbert's Compassion Focused Therapy which is very helpful for self-critical voices.

For the literal secret of life listen to Andy Stanley’s Better decisions, Fewer Regrets series. AMAZING advice, even if you’re not religious.

It has to be hard to grow up without parents.

watching the thumbnail I thought it's Eckhart Tolle :D

My inner critic isn't another person in my head-- it's me...

Mine keeps telling me to off myself so...I don't think this applies so much

Awareness, Mindfulness, Reflection are great. His reframe that your inner critic is trying to help you doesn’t resonate with me. I find the construct of his IFS model confusing and unnecessarily complex. Check out chair work from Gestalt or how it’s conceptualized in EFT for what I feel is a more natural and flowing way to do inner child work.

I find this perspective to be a too narrow one. What about the inner critic being an internalized voice of an abuser? Being it dysfunctional parent, a person gaslighted and abused in a relationship etc. He didn’t address any of those options at all while those are the reasons when the inner critic can become a really destructive force. Moreover he claimed that the inner critic is there to protect you. I would most certainly disagree with that but even if this could be the case for some it certainly isn’t for all.

Pp

This is bull. I've wasted so much money on IFS. Parts don't talk back to you. I never heard a thing except money emptying out of my checking account. I have to say that this woman asked good questions though.