Understanding Trauma - Part 5 - Effects on the Nervous System 

This should be taught in schools, instead of some subjects we never use. This is so important. 🌍✌️

Decades of abuse and extreme stress has left me with all types of pain.

Many here are talking about growing up with narcissits. Please look into Emotionally Immature parents/people. Im serious, its been a massive breakthrough for me. Its destroyed my life and my body. There needs to be more awareness about Emotionally Immature parents and their impact on your mental and physical health. Ive been releasing trauma, panic attacks, sobbing endlessly. I cant sleep anymore, im developing insulin resistance, inflammation in the body, constsnt tension, hypervigilance, and currently a constant state of burnout on and off for nearly my whole life. Now my burnout is permanent and im currently still living with parents for financial reasons. The trauma keeps being applied every day. I feel healing isnt possible but im only at the beginning of my journey. This video really has restored some hope that healing is possible, that life isnt over. Much love to everyone, dont give up❤

I'm 63 years old and just now realizing that I've lived my entire life like this without a solution. I've been through multiple burnouts and never knew why, until now. Better late than never. Thank you.

I agree...when i completely surrendered to God...pursue Him daily through His word and prayer...i am transformed and a work in progress...ive been clean 35 yrs!✝️

I’m a mother of 5, my husband is always working and I have no family or help. This describes how I feel exactly. WOW.

I can't even count the number of traumas I have endured. I am now realizing that I have been freezing most of my life. I get the fear impulse, then I go frozen. It has been a battle to live any kind of life. I have been saying for about 15 years, the problem is the nervous system. I have been complaining of fatigue since my 20's and now I 59 and it is quite debilitating. I am so happy that we are learning more.

Having fibromyalgia for about 20 years now, I feel that our society requires people to constantly work, take care of family, ect. There is no way to fully recover. We have to work to survive. We can talk all we want but it's not possible to completely heal and take it easy. So we're stuck in this mode.

My husband had intense trauma as a child. I was not aware if his addictions. Listening to this makes so much sense. He thrive in the emotional highs of life. Was always on the go and then he would crash. He was physically abusive so I had to leave 4 yrs ago. Recently he took his life. I told our child looking back I think your dad was never not in pain.

Well excuse the hell out of me….you just described something I live with every day & struggle to put in words… perfectly said. I have been going to therapy now going on three-years , and I’m in school now to become a mental health counselor for reasons just like this… to let people know they’re not alone, to signify the importance of understanding mental health. Thank you.

51 years old and just now realizing all I’ve been through: came from a stressful childhood; married a man with his own issues who has stressed me out daily for 30 years; became a part of leadership in a high-stress ministry for 12 years; had 2 children who were diagnosed with on-going major medical issues. And I’ve been blaming myself and saying I’m just not good enough/smart enough/tough enough/organized enough to handle it all. Thank God for His mercy and grace covering me all these years.🙌🏻 But I don’t mind telling you…I’M TIRED!!

I felt like crying watching this.

There seems to be a special grace upon resting in the Sabbath day to get the body back into parasympathetic system. Just rest. ❤

Honestly..... tim's body of work should be part of school curriculum for all therapeutic professionals across all the various health . I happen to be Christian in my faith so it's not problematic to me that this comes from a religious based source. However, given our current state of "tolerance" for the intolerable..... if say there should be an opening to the quality and caliber of this content and less to the potentially religious association that might stop some people from hearing this. Thank you❤

This is by far one of the most comprehensive, simple to understand and deeply revealing wells of information for anyone who has been unknowingly operating in this manner such as myself and many I can think of. I can not sufficiently give my appropriation for this amazing body of work Mr. Tim Fletcher. You absolutely and single handedly helped me to put the puzzle pieces together like never before.

My home was run with a similar outlook on love and ultra-service. Us kids were dropped for most anything else the church community needed. My mom was a great cook and baker. We'd ask her, "Who's this for?", when she'd make a beautiful dish or dessert. We knew the one she made with care wasn't for us. For decades, I felt I was lazy if I had much energy before bedtime. Now, in burn out, I struggle with shame and frustration. This really helped me in ways I've been searching for. I appreciate this channel and the wonderful group of fellow healing path travelers. ❤️‍🔥

This is an outstanding channel; thank you for all the great work you do! I can totally relate to this vid. I have childhood PTSD. Had a very abusive dad, mom had health issues. I pretty much had to be the parent to my mother when I was a child. Because of the way I was raised, I became a perfectionist and people pleaser. I was always an outstanding employee and felt that I had to do everything perfectly or I would be punished. Now that I'm retired, I am finally able to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. I am an extreme introvert and love being alone. I think I'm making up for all those years where I did everything for others and neglected my own needs.

My nervous system went out of balance being married to a raging narcissist for 13 years. He would literally swing from one mood to the next and fly into rages and become very threatening. I became ill and couldn’t get diagnosed until 7 years later. They thought I had lupus but thank GOD it wasn’t full blown and I was diagnosed with symptoms of autoimmune disease. His mood swings was sending my nervous system into confusion and it was like it was short circuiting. I realized I grew up walking on egg shells from my father’s rages as well. I also suffered sibling abuse from a narcissistic older sister so it was all I knew. I’m healthy now, I’m divorced, my father passed (although I don’t hold anything against him. He was a black man dealing with racism and other oppression and back then, therapy was not an option). My sister has decided to estrange herself from me and my other 2 sisters and I’m ok with that although I do have unsettling dreams about her often.

I really love Tim's channel. It makes me feel human. 😮

He just perfectly described most of my life. Having bipolar disorder for most of my life makes a lot of sense as well. I was a pretty good student and was an avid athlete. I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop and my mom to scream at me for irrational reasons. My parents are classic boomers focused on themselves and not my brother and I. So, he turned to drugs and alcohol and ruined his life. I stuck with work and pushing myself harder and harder until I fell apart physically and emotionally. Now I am 57 and am struggling financially because my family and I have too much debt and I can’t put in the long hours anymore.

There’s a new layer when the stress is coming from living with a psychopath. My son has PTSD and I had anxiety and depression. I went to the hospital twice. Once I figured out who I was married to I figured out where all my friends and family went. So I had some symptoms mentioned but the psychopath was amazing. Nothing bothered him and aside from being unable to laugh, cry. His body was so regular and he could fall asleep on a dime. I laid awake unable to relax; because I was worried when the next crisis would come

Every single video of his I watch brings another level of understanding of my own self and the realization that my childhood has followed me into adulthood. It's maddening people asking why you do the things you do when you wish you knew the answer yourself.

Depression is the body’s way of coping with the need to address an overactive sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system stepping in to control the flow of energy. I never thought of that but it makes perfect sense‼️ 😮

I read the Psalms KJV till relaxation .

I've done years of psychotherapy, doctors, etc.. I really appreciate competent people. Thank you. 💫 This really synthesized the last 40 years in this skin suit. Mad respect! Blessed be. 💫

Tim you are phenomenal. Thank you for all you do.

Your hard work and your love of humanity, in order to help so many, is appreciated deeply!

I am so so so extremely grateful for this wonderful human. I have been in severe burnout for five years from my partner passing in front of me and the walls came down from severe childhood abuse and abandonment and am now on disability. I still can’t rest. I have also been sober for this five year period. Not a single drink. I am now not sure how I can stop from not sitting still . Due to discovering these videos and Mr Fletcher,s teaching I am learning how to deal with my diagnosis of CPTSD. My gratitude is enormous. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ I am bawling my eyes out as I write this because I have felt so alone the majority of my life because when you are on your own from age 15, you don’t learn how to deal with anything so you isolate and don’t let anyone in. When I realised that so many people go through this, first my heart broke, and now all I wanna do is help others because I’m an artist and I want to teach people that painting is so healing.

My god 13min in and my life has never been so accurately described 😭

Problem is there aren't enough healthy people left in this world (or at least in my area) to connect to, so many are damaged and broken, trust issues, etc etc., and so many refuse or are unable to seek help to fix these things. Then we latch onto unhealthy people that are even WORSE for us, just in an attempt to find/keep that connection and become reliant on them for these needs and they just take our efforts, kindness, love for granted sooner or later and it all breaks down, then the cycle coninues. I have almost ALL the signs of an imbalanced nervous system identified here even though I rest too much nowadays, and this video helps SO much to explain the what and why. Thank you so much for helping so many people Tim, you're truly sent by God.

This video is such a tremendous resource! Thank you for putting it out there for those of us who desperately need it 🤗

This is gold. Pure gold.

Tim's reference to Gabor Mate' really solidified his credibility. Gabor Mate' should be on EVERYONES bookshelf!

This is such a valuable set of knowledge, I have been suffering from this level of existence my whole adult life and only at 37 is it becoming more and more understandable how I got myself into the situation that I am in. Personally I have dealt with abandonment issues my whole life, first it was growing up where my parents thought I was deaf until I was about 4 when the doctor told them I was probably mimicking their absent behavior and ignoring them. They were always putting me in day cares, even on the weekend I got put in branch of islam's childrens care in the government projects where every kid there was either an orphan or was abandoned by their parents while they were there, and when I went to ask why my friends would disapear I always got shhhed. Growing up in my house I learned to be alone and quiet, because anything I presented to my father got dejected, and I was ignored a lot, and my mother would always threaten to send me to boarding school, or say things like "if the world ever runs out of food you'll be the first to die". This level of trauma as a kid caused me to make friends with other kids in similar non-parental oversight lives, we had a trauma bond, and the slipper slope started when the first self deleted was my friend's dad, and the way it was introduced to me was being invited over the day it happened but not told until we arrived back at his house from wandering the streets all day, after that I never saw him. Then through highschool and after all but one of my close friends self deleted themselves, and a girl I was friends with since middleschool, and was highschool sweethearts with broke up with me the day after we lost our virginity together, after being toghether for almost 3 years. Also I flunked highschool because my highschool counselor was a gay man who purposefully told my parents to ignore me and let me figure life out by myself, and was trying to groom me into coming to his property, something I dealt with long after I left highschool, as he had also done the same and was successful with a few other guys in my class. Not only that but my favorite middleschool teacher is in prison for the same reason, so all of my male rolemodels have been predators. Also I became a professional paintball player as a kid, where adrenaline and high performance workouts were something I was addicted to, to the point that I barely felt the effects of adrenaline, and kept becoming more and more extreme in my performance to achieve it. This is about the only therapy I get, writing comments to myself as a way of processing the impacts of what I've been through after learning new knowledge about how my body was implicated and caused me to make the decisions I have made. These days I've been farming for most of my adult life, which has been therapeutically great because being in tune with the cycles of seasons and crops, watching nothing turn into food that I sell to people who look forward to my hard work, has been addicting, as I've been doing it by myself for over a decade, and throughout my 20s I was essentially working 14-16 hours a week with no days off until I would burn out every year, then I would suffer massive depression all winter and by spring be overwhelmingly excited to start again. I've climbed as high as I can in my pursuit, I can grow anything from cantaloupe to mushrooms, to salad, and I perform at such high quality I have existed on million dollar horse farms owned by chinese hotel moguls, or tech business CEO's who want the best quality food for their kids. But at 37 I can no longer go nonstop, and have to relearn how to take time for myself, because the formula doesn't work anymore, and I don't make enough money to afford stability, so am stuck working for people who don't value my knowledge or technique and quality, but I also got a job managing dentist servers and IT support, but I know if I leave farm life I will become severely depressed because money can buy stability, but it cant afford the quality of variety of life I'm accustomed to. Thanks for posting the talk, I learned a lot about it, things I wish I knew when I was a kid.

I have complex trauma from child sexual abuse, neglect, bullying to name a few. I am dependent on drugs to cope with life. I am about to go into rehab tomorrow and follow up with trauma counselling. I am constantly in survival mode, I have major depression. This information is food for my soul. Thank you. 🙏

This explains a lot. I know them well: anxiety, depression, fear, panic, and burnout

This is so true. I always felt like I was bad if I didn't take care of everyone else, and never took care of me.

Wow I feel like you just hit me over the head with what I am going through. I had the same parents as you did in their work ethics, however they were also both alcoholics and the rules were always changing. My life has always been a Rollercoaster of strong work ethic then collapse. I am 61 and have been off work for over 3 years and so frustrated with myself. I eat healthy and feel like I am doing things right but my body keeps shutting down. Doctors only want to medicate but I refuse due to all the side effects. I don't smoke or drink and no drugs. From the outside I look like I have everything together and yet I always feel like the shoe is about to drop and everything will explode. Thank you for this video

How can we thank you for helping many of us Mr. Tim Fletcher ? Please accept my deepest and warmest thanks !

I told my gf tonight that cptsd causes frequent shame triggers, especially in public/in social contexts. That shame feeling is such a viscerally painful sensation, it's almost like my nervous system is being frozen. I feel heavy, like every cell is aching with a deep, burning, heavy coldness, and I feel like I'm moving through thick mud. It's so hard not to spiral downwards when that happens. I am nervous and curious about mitigating this effect so I can have a more enjoyable, productive, engaged life.

I’m sick of burning out. Just wanna relax like a normal human

Also, what a beautiful pace and tone of voice. Not once patronising (as some in the medical profession) but careful and confident in your delivery. A natural communicator. 🙏

This is so strange. They say that ADHDers also have paradoxical reactions to adrenaline, noradrenaline, etc., just like PTSD. There's a huge symptom overlap, too

Hi I’d just like to chime in with my fibromyalgia / chronic fatigue / ME experience. I have it too. I got it about 5 years ago almost overnight, after being an active gym goer 4-5 times a week (haven’t been able to go since). I got so bad at one point I couldn’t walk my dog down the road without my whole body going into unbelievable exhaustion (like I’d just ran 10 marathons and then run over by a bus) for the next 2 days. I’ve tried many medications, diet changes - everything. You name it, I’ve most likely tried it. Now I’d gradually got slightly better - enough to where I could do house chores and walk my dog - nothing too physically demanding like lifting weights. Well about a month ago I had a highly stressful experience and I plummeted - all life force drained from me. Well I had an epiphany. What if it wasn’t physical (I know it feels very much physical). What if it was some crossed wires in the brain. What if telling myself that I’m sick so much that my body is believing it. Well I thought f**k it. This is my last chance (I can’t handle a life of being bed bound. I wouldn’t endure that). And I’ve been trying my HARDEST to maintain positive thoughts. I’ve been telling myself every day, all day, that I am NOT sick. It’s just some silly miscommunication in my brain. The mind is an EXTREMELY POWERFUL thing. Fast forward now. Im doing 15 pushups every other day, walking my dog twice a day, going a little further each time. All while telling myself I’m NOT sick. I AM getting better and I WILL have my life back. I honestly cannot believe the progress I’ve made. Im exercising more than I have in 5 years all while going through the worst time in my life (that stressful event is ongoing, unfortunately). Sorry for the essay, but if this helps at least 1 person, then I’ll be ecstatic; I know how torturous this condition is. I’ve almost ended it a couple times. So glad I stumbled on this video - the algorithm is working for me because I’ve seen a couple others lately that supports everything I’ve said!!!! PLEASE try it. And please BELIEVE IT. It is true. But you have to KNOW it is.

My life is healing now…. Because of you …thank you…

I’ve learned a lot about myself from watching Tim’s videos over the last couple of days, mostly that my refusal to go along with family dysfunction turned me into a problem child scapegoat, and how my oppositional ways are ruining my relationships now. Thank you for helping me gain insight 😘

I have a Garmin sports watch that tells me the state of my autonomic nervous system. I've been using breathing exercises and resting to get into the parasympathetic system. It works.

Thanks so much for putting this series online for free. I've learned so much.

This makes every bit of sense to me. I have long covid. But after a lifetime of complex trauma. No wonder my nervous system couldn’t cope. I wish the doctors at the long covid clinic would watch this. The therapists who have been helping me most are not doctors but psychologist, osteopath and occupational therapist and nutritionist who completely understand the nervous system and the damage undid to mine with past relationships, stresses, personality, coping mechanisms and cptsd. It’s a long road to healing. Slowing down has been the hardest but most critical part of it for me. I’m still working on fully accepting it, and gannet managed to get past the rollercoaster of feeling better then crashing…but this video renews my faith that it’s possible. The visibly you gave of the two systems working is really helpful for me.

Tim is excellent. At 63 I'm still in burnout and recovering has no lapse of memory. I process thousands of abuse, trauma, neglect, betrayal which has been the Trust is pain. I have the Divine Mercy Jesus, I trust in you, which has saved my mind, body and soul. Boundaries have eliminated any social life even new encounters are not love. I found no contact sucks with my family, they were my life even through working and professional career. They are all oblivious to my extreme CPTSD seeing they caused the final outcome of disability coping with triggers. Thank God I found healing and I still suffer new abuse and trauma regularly unless I am in adoration with Jesus

Fantastic video. So very helpful to understand how people with relatively happy childhoods can present with complex PTSD. It helps me understand people so much better. Thank you for all your amazing videos.

This is the best explanation i have heard of how trauma has affected me for most of my life (for the ladt 50yrs). I had all (& still have some) of the symptoms & sensations mentioned (without the drugs), & doctors over the years have not known what on earth is wrong sith me &have treatwd me like a parriah, even throwing me off their books - one telling me i was too ill for him to treat (& this from one who 'had a special interest' in trauma - which, by definition, surely means he had at least sone expertise in the field). I am thankful that i now have much more understanding of what is happening to my body & brain, & have some idea od how best to proceed with my healing journey, albeit late in the day. Also, most of those who caused all the stress & trauma have now passed away so i am no longer constantly in it. Thank you for sharing your knowledge & expertise with us - i, too, believe this sort of thing should be on the educational curriculum, & all those training in the medical profession should have this as part of their training, regardless of what field they choose in which to qualify. Thankbyou again.

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="856">14:16</a> the universe has a crazy way of showing me what I need to see when I need to see it. Wow.

You are the best at explaining the cycles that we go through

crap, I was raised the same way. I come from a family who all have that solid work ethic. They were the folks who literally built this country and they were darn proud of it and passed it down a few generations. So here I am living 60+ years in my parasympathetic system. Now that I've identified it I can bring about an adjustment. I must say that I am uncomfortable doing nothing - too much guilt involved. Looking to move forward. Thanks so much for this vid.

So illuminating, I'm going to need to watch your whole series!

I hear so much of myself in this. Painfully so.

This is why a lot of people turn to drugs and when they first use drugs and it gives them some kind of relaxation with some kind of piece of rest they dive into it and this is why people will complex trauma or any kind of trauma dive into drugs

Dozens times dozens of podcasts I’ve watched…why haven’t I heard this & why isn’t this taught to all, Takes a mighty lot to impress me. Starting with kids by the age of 13 yrs as a & prioritised school subject. 🤙

Amazing description of trauma and what happens to our nervous system.

The end of this video frustrates me because those of us with toxic family members do not experience connection and it's not that easy. When we have low energy ect to make new relationships. That's where I'm at I feel so completely alone and fighting daily mentally and physically and it's not getting better because I have no community I have no help I'm always alone. 😢

You just described me. I started getting sick at 27. Took Drs over 3 years to find out what was going on with me. I’ve had Fibromyalgia for 27 years now. I have osteoarthritis, Fatigue IBS, Diverticulitis, PTSD. severe insomnia due to so much pain and sickness. Also ai have other illnesses. I also have the Fear thing all the time. I went 2 weeks not sleeping a few times and that’s the scariest things ever because I have lost my mind. I’m 55 now and all these sicknesses get worse with age. I struggle so bad anymore. Since I got sick in the late 90s I was put through hell that Drs would say it’s all in your head and there was no such thing as Fibromyalgia. I even had an older Dr in her 60s that told me there’s no such thing as Fibromyalgia and she told me to go work in my garden and I would feel better. I was very pissed at adrs by the time I went to her. So now I was done with Drs. I went out bought me a computer and started my own Fibromyalgia research and I stopped going to Drs for Fibromyalgia. I helped myself and to this day I have a lot of knowledge to help myself the best still. Drs should never do what they did to me to anyone because we are already at our lowest trying to find relief of all the pain and sickness. We are seriously depressed because we no longer can work and struggle so hard to do anything. I’ve been on disability for 24 years now. I was 30 an got disability. No body wants this kind of life ever especially at my age. I got more depressed back then because I had 2 girls to support and now I could no longer work. Now living in chronic pain in my entire body for 27 years has made me use to it. I no longer allow it to control my life and I do what I can. If I can’t do much one day that’s perfectly ok. It may not be the life I wanted but it’s the life I was dealt with so I choose to be happy. Life is too short to allow chronic pain from illnesses to take your life away. So happy there is more knowledge about these illnesses.

I knew intuitively that I was cycling through burnouts and now I recognize the emotional and physical signs of my living in my activated sympathetic nervous system. I’ve been praying for the Lord to help me understand the real problem, because I didn’t believe I was really going crazy, and I remembered this video. I am like Tim; I love to be in my sympathetic nervous system, and it takes me hours to come down. I’m so glad to have terms and some understanding of what’s happening to me. Thank you, Tim. May Christ bless you and fill you and give you joy as you help so many of us!

Thanks for being the professional you are. This is very helpful for me. Having experienced many traumatic events, sometimes I feel paralyzed due to my sympathetic and parallel sympathetic nervous system is at war.

Finding this video, having someone describe my exact cycle and inform me that I am not alone is heartbreaking yet wonderful to know that I am not alone in this battle. I just want to heal.

He just compiled the information laid out by those before us. And for that, I thank him.

Wow this explanation is best of I’ve heard about the cycle I’ve been on and my addiction to work/success and productivity and the recurring depression and anxiety. I’m following and will study this entire catalog to help myself make the necessary changes. The feeling of boredom when not being on the go is well explained and makes sense to me now. I am ready to live healthy. Thank you!

Thank you !! I really cannot express my gratitude for how you explained my traumatic life with a narcicist!

Wild! Hes describing me to a T!!! I have had anxiety since i was 11, alcoholism for 30years, (over 5 years sober), chronic pain for at least 20, and PTSD from a gunshot wound 6years...insomnia is No Joke! I haven't slept in 6 years- only when i literally crash after about a week awake straight. Drs wont help me even sleep, its INSANE! Pain management isnt managing my pain so im in the constant ball of shit! I already know im gonna die in the next 10years- not cuz i want to,but cuz my body is gonna give up, or my mind is gonna Snap! Or both...Scary how he explained it All, this literally is my life!!!

One thing worse than feeling bad is feeling good. That’s when I start new projects that will soon make me feel bad 😅

This is so amazing! After giving birth to my daughter alone in the hospital I never been the same again! From then on I become very workaholic after pregnancy! Because I need my daughter and me to survive! I work for hours and hours! After I lost my job I lost my body as well I suddenly get sick and have no energy to even get out of the bed my mind total shutdown! I realize i was not able to face my emotions during that time I brushed it off and just work now my body is overwhelmed with stress and fear! Im on the way to recovery and meditation helps a lot

This series of talks explains why my life’s journey has been such a crazy ride despite enough counseling to straighten out a Slinky factory.

Omg I forgot for how many years I just felt “bored” when trying to heal-I don’t feel that way anymore

I thought I was adhd. Turns out I was with an abusive partner

I've never connected to anything more than this video.

Love listening to these teachings

Thank you. You are saving lives. You are a blessing for me. I know what is going on with me

Last year I found myself on a plane to visit my best friend in a foreign country for a month. It was either that or unalive myself because of how miserable I was. Thanks to these videos from you and others I'm starting to realize how I got into that state. Mom was a depressed alcoholic (she died from cancer 2 yrs ago) and dad is a narcissist. Mom would yell at me all day, then switch to dad when he got home. Sometimes he got so mad he hit her. Sometimes in the morning I'd find her blood on the floor. Despite all this I convinced myself they weren't bad parents because they never hit me and I never went hungry or homeless. It didn't help both of them made everyone think we had this amazing affluent life so they would hit me with harsh criticism when I didn't line up with this idealized image. With each year I found myself increasingly tired and depressed/anxious to the point that not even eating a nice meal made me feel better. Like even food I KNEW tasted good was flavorless to me. Any bit of drama or bad news would mess me up with panic attacks for days. That's why I decided to see my friend because if I was going to take myself out I wanted to see her in person at least once. Something about being on the other side of the world from all of that drama gave me the best sleep I've ever had. I was passing out the instant I laid down. Few times I woke up with a dead phone in one hand and the charging cable in the other because I fell asleep before I could even plug it in. Realized I felt safe and free for the first time surrounded by happy normal people. I didn't worry about dad calling me up to yell or give orders or complain about how he's tired of working (because he bought an airplane and sportscar instead of putting money into his retirement but blames his kids for his lack of wealth) It gave me hope because I realized it was possible for me to be normal. I started making changes in life, and hopefully the big one will put me 3000 miles away from my controlling narcissistic dad. A lot of the plan hinges on luck but I'm trying my best to keep my hopes up about it.

This dialogue relays my upbring and general personality to a letter, I thought I had self regulated free of any substances to “ cope” , have introduced a lot of prayer into my life, probably to the same affect of meditation. But will try ur methods to see if I improve my “darker” times. I am grateful to have found this video, and am grateful for you shedding light on possible answers to questions, that I didn’t know to ask. Thank you.

I remember reading an article in Psychology Today titled "Beyond Serotonin" which said that children exposed to trauma had changes in their nervous system, specifically the myelin sheath of the nerves which dissolved.

I understand what this means. Lord do we all need Gods help ❤

Recently I've been exploring the (possible) connection between PTSD and vestibular migraines/vestibular symptoms and POTS phenomena. I have all the above and noticed that when I'm triggered by something these symptoms will flare up. Its like a storm takes over my body, and of course my heart will also race/blood pressure will spike.

Thank you so much for this very informative video.

I’m 46 and was just awarded disability. My main complaint was PTSD. I applied in 2021. In early 2023, before I even had a disability hearing. I was almost killed in a car accident. My 4 year old and I were both almost killed. I missed my disability hearing because I was still wheelchair bound. I got a new lawyer and appealed. We finally had our hearing on 2/7. My judge was impressive. It’s been such a messed up decade for me. I’ve only had glimmers of happiness here and there. Hoping I can be the woman I was before my husband had affairs while I was pregnant.

My mother used to demand i go with her for 'Sunday visits to the Grandparents house" she didnt want to go, she told me so, but couldn't just say no to her mother...she said if she had to go, I had to too. Family Obs she called it. Gma would call everyone before holidays and say how excited so-and-so would be to see them, how we all HAD to come. Major guilt and shame. We all came. We all hated it. We did it for Gma because Gpa was so hard to deal with, we just performed 🎭 what BS

So many diff types of trauma

When I get into a mode of losing weight and eating healthy I get obsessive with it and push myself too much. Then when my parasympathetic kicks in, it feels like im walking through sludge. When that passes I go back into SNS and repeat the cycle. Very interesting, the fluctuations in anxiety and depression fueled by cortisol fluctuations.

For all those for who this video resonates, may I recommend looking into breathwork. The way we breath after trauma changes and has an effect on our whole body, this is often without even realising how we are have picked up the habit of breathing incorrectly. Getting a better breathing pattern and using breathing practice can make a lot of difference to the nervous system.

Excellent Excellent Video and very informative 👍

I went through alot of narrist abuse for years, was in survival mode all the time. Came down with FM, was on many meds, I finally healed after years, and it went away and a divorce. Praise God. 🙏 But the meds caused problems and were recalled. So now Im dealing with nuropathy. I will get over this, with the help of God, vitamins, eating healthy, and exercise.

Sometimes, I just get "deer in the headlight" syndrome. 😞 I have so much anxiety, sadness, anger, and hurt. I can't get over the stuff that has happened the last 6 years of my life. Nowadays I work & sleep and that's about all I can do. Everything makes me tired and I sleep on my days off. Nothing gives me energy not even stimulants, and I never feel like I wake up rested and refreshed ready and excited for the new day and only sometimes at the end of the day and at work when I get in my flow of doing projects and helping people do I ever have energy and focus. I love those times, I'm told that's when I am someone else but I feel it's the only time I ever am myself ever. The moment I hit the front door I get drained instantly. I think I'm getting close to burn out from using the stimulants to just survive and stay numb. I'm getting ready to go to rehab And I feel like I will finally learn to heal and get balance between my nervous systems. I'm so excited to hear you say it's possible to heal from the trauma and be able to one day have a balance and feel better and have energy again, get excited again, feel refreshed one day. I feel like I'm close to so burn out. There was a couple of years where I could not even function at all normally day to day, so maybe I already experienced burn out. Anyways, thank you for this video, it helps me have hope and look forward to the future. I really want to grow and change and be a better person.

I greatly appreciate you sharing what I had yet to hear from a medical doctor, psychiatrist and therapist. I have mostly felt shame because many of the recommended treatments did not relieve the chronic symptoms. Unfortunately, my body is not recovering. It baffles me how some people recover and some people don't.

I AM DYING OF EMOTIONAL PAIN. THE GRIEF AND TERROR ARE ALL-CONSUMING. I desperately want to escape the pain that I'm in: debilitating paralyzing all-consuming hyperventilating panic and grief... the guy I called my best friend, ended up raping me. he violently brutally viciously maliciously raped my soul. abandoned and betrayed me. and now I don't breathe. last year he ruined christmas-time for me, and now he's ruined my winter and spring. I'm dying inside. desperately trying to remember this: ✨💖✨ I was created from all light, for I am light, I fear no darkness. for being light I can see beyond darkness 💫 and this: "What seems to us as bitter trials, are often blessings in disguise." - Oscar Wilde

Have you ever heard of what used to be called Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD) which is also known as Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS). Basically, it's dysfunction of your Sympathetic Nervous System and Parasympathetic Nervous System? I have this condition and you have explained how both get out of wack.

You're the man Tim! You're doing amazing work, and helping many people.

😢😢😢😢 everything he has said is literally what I've dealt with for years and still dealing with but I'm so fatigued I'm pushing through to keep up. Now I understand why I am the way I am. OMG. I need help.

Tim just described my whole entire life and personality. Thank you for showing me the light! Thank you is not enough but it’s all I got. Unless turning my life around as a result of this video counts. 😊

Thank you Tim this was very helpful in understanding my own childhood trauma 😢. Your work has given me lot of strength and hope in my healing process 🙏 so thank you.

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="930">15:30</a> unbelievably true. I’ve been to 10 treatment centers and nobody has ever been able to explain this to me.

My ex had affected me. Thank God for delivering me