Vlog 3 | OK the 75 Hard Challenge Broke Me 

Stuart, recovering from Trauma, is exhausting, you are actually rewiring your brain, rest is a huge part of it

The fact you didn’t give up on the challenge to me means you didn’t fail. You are trying your best and that’s a win!! By the way the inside of that church is beautiful!!!

Sharing your journey creates ripples that will ultimately transcend all of space and time thank you for your brave honesty and open vulnerability, and trusting us with your story.

Thank you for being you. Keep striving! Celebrating the progress and supporting the potential. Appreciate walking through this life with you.

Thank you for your openness in sharing your journey in this challenge. The impact ripples farther than you know. Excited to see this next phase 💖

Thank you, Stuart. Your openness and vulnerability helps others so much, and I'm in awe of your ability to do what you do with these vlogs and your courage. Please take the rest that you need, and continue to take the best care of yourself that you can. You mean an awful lot to a whole bunch of us out here in the world. 💜

Thank you so much for your transparency, it is very touching and helpful. I wish words could successfully transmite all the emotions I experienced watching this, but I'm not sure how to express properly. I just wanna tell you how much I respect and value you, send you lots of hugs. 🙌🏻✨️💖

Hi Stuart - It's hard to see the effects of your actions while you're in the middle of it all, but please, rest in the knowledge that your story, your content inspires. Thank you for sharing you with us 🫂 wishing you the very best all days and all ways always.

Great Vlog! A happy Stuart makes me happy. Thanks for taking us along this journey with you x

As a Mom to kids that you remind me of, I can only hope that you learn to lean into your support system and know you are WORTHY of it. You remind me of my oldest, so much, we lost him a couple of years ago now and how I wish he had realized the support he had at home. I don't know everything you are going through, but with a Mothers heart I am proud of how hard you are working, how you are growing (even if you don't see it) and how you push on (even when you feel you've failed), through it all. You are enough, you are amazing and you are...worthy.

This was transparent, raw, and honest. It is also greatly appreciated ❤

You've got this Stuart. I've been thinking about doing this 75 day hard challenge. Easiest part for me will be not drinking alcohol. The hardest will be a toss up between drinking a gallon of water.(That's a lot of water for me.)...and workout scheduling. My work schedule can be quite hectic. We've got this.🎧📓🗓️💪🏻🏋🏻‍♀️🤸🏻‍♀️🧎🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♀️

Hey sometimes you gotta break yourself down to build yourself back up. But use what you've learned and build yourself stronger and dont forget to have fun along the way! Proud of you man! and you should be proud of yourself !❤❤

You challenge yourself, so please, can you take pride in doing that and working toward your goal? I heard a quote that instead of praising the student who gets it right the first time, we should instead praise the student who tried 100 times before succeeding.

I am older than dirt.. well not all dirt just dirt that ages back to the younger Dryas... but for anyone reading have a wee bit of my navel gazing perspective of a lifetime of (clinically diagnosed, therapised, and treated) depression and anxiety. Completely acknowledging, airing and accepting is the first step- secrets (in this case from yourself) only have power until they aren't secrets anymore. When you stand up and metaphorically scream at the top of your lungs that your backpack (in my case it's filing cabinets) is fecking full means you've acknowledged the backpack and yep it sucks and it's hard but from there you can either wholesale dump it and pick through the shite (not the best plan but it's how I did it as well - I went on a rampage and ripped open all my mental filing cabinets) or carefully put your hand in and take out each rock (err file) and resolve them. -- That is standing up and admitting it to yourself. Now the big part... standing up and admitting it to the world... not everyone can do this - because of the bloody stupid stigma attached it can be really hard but if you can it reminds and comforts ALL of us that WE ARE NOT ALONE in this fight. That the bubble we have isolated ourselves in doesn't need to be made of one way glass we _can_ reach out and we can let other people reach in. Anyway feck it- if being open and honest about the utter crap that happens in our heads helps one person to reach out for help, helps one person realise they don't have to fight this alone then stepping on the soapbox is worth it. If you- the anyone you, not just Stuart cuz seriously 'tisn't likely, have read this far, know that you aren't alone, that you are seen, that you are appreciated, that you are loved and your presence on the planet makes it a hell of a better place.

Thank you for your openness!! And truly…you have helped more than you realize. So, again,thank you(I say that a lot)💜💜 and to answer your question…I am on a similar road as you…I’m on my own journey for my mental/physical health…recently have started seeing a new therapist and am on a new medication.

I've found "Happy" to be such a dangerous word when one struggles with low mental health. It's such an unhelpful goal or descriptor of a feeling. I've found that renaming positive feelings to be helpful. E.g., I woke up feeling content - it gives room for acceptance of the less positive whilst still being greatful for the smaller things. I've woken up. I had a bed last night. That was a fucking great cup of tea. And for this moment, right now, I am content with that. Nomenclature is powerful.

Thank you for sharing your journey with us! Your transparency helps so many people. You are already incredibly strong and resillient because you are dealing with everything in life. You deserve to be proud of yourself.

I’ve heard it said, somewhere ‘round here, “that the only time we fail is when we stop trying.” Yes, we fall down and apart and dear god, does it hurt and that pain… that pain demands loudly that we feel. Thank you for sharing and showing us these pieces of a beautiful whole that is transforming for the better. 🦋✨ Sharing even a fraction of your journey takes gumption, grit and faith and I know that I (for one) am grateful you do.

The fact that I just started my mental health journey and then I find your vlog is truly mind blowing to me. You have laid it all out for what I'm going through as well. it's not easy but its comforting to know I'm not alone. My goal mentally is to be the ME there was, physically I want to fit to where people have to take a second look to make sure it's ME. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and thank you for being YOU. love you always

Thank you for sharing during an obviously very painful time for you Stuart. This vlog really hit for me, I just wanted to reach through the screen and give you a big hug! I hope things continue to get better for you and I'm cheering you on, look after yourself ❤

Thank you Stuart for showing us the realness of your life. The path to self improvement is not smooth and not without difficulty and you showed us just how painful it can be. Please do take some time to rest, and please take care of yourself as best you are able. You have a lot of people cheering for you, and we're here to help lift you up when you stumble.

Thank you for sharing your journey, Stuart. Your vulnerability and openness helps me and so many others. I wish you all the wonderful things life has to offer. I'm so proud of you.❤

I related to so much of this that I’m crying. Thank you for speaking about your experience. I’m so glad I found your content. Thank you for your honesty. I don’t feel anywhere as alone.

Once again you inspire and motivate me with your willingness to be vulnerable and share your journey. You are such a beautiful light in this world and I thank the universe for the day they placed you in my path 💖

🥹 thank you for being you Stuart and for being here with all of us. The community and space you have inspired to create is amazing and uplifting to so many. ❤

I couldn’t make it to 2 minutes without sobbing. You woke up happy and questioning whether you should be. Everything you said after that, I feel deeply, but instead, I wake up resentful and depressed. At least at this moment in my life. And I feel guilty and shameful for it. I am very blessed. I’ve had enough therapy to tap into that rational brain that’s saying “you’re just burnt out. You need a break. Your feelings are valid, you are not stuck here forever.” But my emotional (and fatigued) brain and nervous system don’t care. All of that from the only 2 minutes my kid’s will let me watch 😂 but I just want to say I’ve always admired your transparency and grit. We don’t walk the same path but I’ve watched you struggle, persevere, and grow and it gives me hope. I often am alone with just my two kids and all of my day, nearly every day, is focused on them. I’m also walking a tightrope and juggling too much, I often forget that I’m not struggling alone. I’d never wish the pain of mental health issues on anyone else but I’m so thankful for the people who feel and bare it to openly so others might believe it gets better.

I recently stumbled upon your channel and so far I have loved your content! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your struggles and milestones to show that the world is not always rainbows and butterflies but that we can work towards happiness through professional help through therapy and the support of family and friends! Keep being your amazing bisexual self! Can't wait to see more videos from you!

Thank you for been open to share your journey. Congratulation on doing 75 heart that’s an intense challenge. There is so much you learn mentally emotionally and physically while taking part in it.

By healing others, we heal ourselves. Kudos for learning that lesson at such a young age. Your best is yet to come!

Just you doing the challenge and coming away with new knowledge to better your mindset doesn’t at all mean to me that you “failed” in any way Stuart. For healing, I feel that, for myself, taking all the crushing words out of definitions helped me to live in a peaceful way, and not in a way that looks by a certain definition is really beating me up, now softly adjusting where we are to where we need to be. I’m so proud of you that you bought all those cool clothes for the gym. New clothes always make me feel wonderful. I saw those smiles on your face. Life is a struggle, and needs to be living with soft love and warmer embraces and a deep respect for every part of ourselves. You’re doing so good Stuart, and I’m so proud of you my friend. You’re such an inspiration to so many who watch your channel. Stay you, shine your beautiful soul out into the work for all the world to see. You are loved Stuart. Thank you for sharing your incredible journey with us. ❤❤❤

I have seen you on RU-vid Shorts for a really long time, but now I am actually listening to you as a person, instead of seeing you for a few minutes as a product of my scrolling entertainment. I really like your vlogs!

YOU HAVE NOT FAILED! Everyone has different time lines for reaching their goal and getting stronger, learning lessons along the way. Take the time you need to not over stress yourself. Never be afraid to lean on your support net. Trust me, to those who love you, your reaching out is never a burden..it is a relief for those who see you struggling and want to be of help/comfort you. We all need to be cocooned sometimes and allowed to be the " little spoon" while healing. You have come a LONG way on your journey, you are an inspiration, and I am proud of you! I wish you ALL the success and happiness you so deserve! ♥ xo

Thank you for sharing your journey Stuart, you have no idea how many people you are helping with your content. It’s quite ironic but I wanted to share it anyway. I recognized that the way you talk about You only live once and how you gained insight (it might have been more than that but you know what I mean:)) by reading it is exactly how I gained insight by listening to your podcast and watching your videos. I can’t thank you enough for that because sometimes even the most basic things become hard but reflecting on the struggle has helped a ton. Sometimes life is rough but just by existing you are growing. You become stronger with every step you take. If you are tired, learn to rest and not to quit (just like you do with this 75 hard challenge:)). Again, thank you!

Thank you for sharing with honesty. It’s challenging to deal with up and down of émotions and old trauma. Each small ou big daily step is a succès as long as we can see and accept those positive moment in our Life. Take care of you dear Stuart, with sel compassion and love. 💝

Stuart you are doing awesome, as long as your safe and moving through it we are happy 💖 On another note the goals for this year are going up our baby Welsh mountain Pen-Y-Fan once a month and try one new thing every month. The rest is the daily staples like 3-4ltrs water, 6-8hrs sleep and 10k+ steps 😃

You inspired me to try the 75 soft challenge. You inspired me to take care of my mental and physical health. Thank you for all the help you’ve given me❤️ And you not giving up is a win. You only lose if you give up. Please, don’t give up. Keep doing your best🥰

I watched this whole video, and not only does the transparency of your content constantly inspire me, it helps validate my current experiences. My mental health journey lately has been acknowledging the backpack as you were saying, as well as developing new coping skills for my daily life as I make the transition into the new me. Something people don't talk about often is the work that comes after the work, that now with a lighter backpack or no backpack at all, it is indeed something you need to adjust to like you were saying. For me personally, I'm operating in an entirely new way for the first time ever - it's been extremely uncomfortable, but I know it's healthier, it's where I deserve to be, and it'll get easier. You have my support, and I wanted to say briefly that I'm also a RU-vidr that advocates for all kinds of well-being; if you ever wanted to have a chat together about mental health or lifestyle, that could be really cool! So much love to you, you're so strong ☀️

I completely understand what you're going through. trauma recovery is a long hard road, but it is worth doing. I have to kept reminding myself that I deserve to be treated like a human being and deserver happiness. I have so far lost almost 40 lbs., changed jobs, and next year I am finally buying my land to start my homesteading health journey. keep moving forward. You got this.

You DO deserve all good things. You DO. Keep reminding yourself, as you were. You are worthy of great days, a great life.❤

I’ve had this fear of letting happiness enter me for almost all my life, until i decided to do a scientific experiment and let the happiness take over, to feel it completely, even if i know this is only a flickering moment. i have realised that just embracing this joy when it comes in my life helps me regulate myself. (not saying it will work for you, we’re all different of course, just sharing my own experience). Wishing you the best on your journey towards equilibrium :)

Thank you Stuart, I’m going to try the 75 day soft challenge. You definitely motivated me.

Live in the moment. I have that feeling off and on throughout my life. No reason is the best.

I truly don't believe you have failed since you didn't give up, and gave you all, and best. I do think you are too hard on yourself love, and is easy too forget it is called 'Hard' for a reason. I am glad you have people around you who care and love you. I send my biggest hug to you. The way you are determined and well spoken tells me your mind is good and that is a blessing and a curse sometimes. You are allowed to not finish the challenge or pospone it as many times as you need because it teaches you to know your limits, and strengths. Does not mean you are not capable, it takes a lot of strength and awarenes to realice when to stop and acnoledge you needs. If is taking a brake or a thousand brakes then so be it. You are inspirong me and probable others to do better for themselves. To try new things and to think deep. That is awesome and you deserve to feel happy and Joy. "Progress is progress" as Sarah Loubrat sais (a novel author who blogs on youtube in case you may like to check it) who also encourages me to give it my best. You are doing good in this world. Don't forget it. ❤

Stuart, your friends, fans and family love you unconditionally. You have a lot of knowledge, self awareness, and are earnestly pursuing healing from past traumas. You sincerely practice gratitude, but Please allow yourself to feel grace. By definition, the word failure is innocuous and, to a degree, is a motivator to succeed. However, used repeatedly, the word sounds judgmental, and it can stir negativity and self defeating behaviors. Processing negative emotions hopefully yields positive outcomes. Continue to acknowledge your challenges and struggles but don’t be afraid to reframe your situation and redirect your efforts to live the wonderful life you deserve. You are doing a great job; we appreciate your transparency. Sharing your story is a gift to us all.

Be kind to yourself tiger pants. Things fall apart and come back together all the time. Even when you think ‘wow - I’ve actually made it/feeling great/ everything is finally on track’ life doesn’t usually stay that way. If it did you probably wouldn’t be learning much. For me, a good day is when I hit my limits and nothing goes smooth - but I remember to catch myself before I spin a million stories about it - pause and look at the stars/feel a breeze/touch the grass - be present. That’s the muscle I want to build: the one that brings me back to to now. Look at you - whatever the conditions you keep showing up -showing us it’s ok to be messily human. You may be tidal but you are here -it counts - it is helpful - well done.

You make those tiger print pants look amazing! I found out 4 weeks ago that I have diabetes, on top of a brain injury, congestive heart failure, thyroid issues and many many mental health issues. I spent yesterday crying as I had ptsd nightmares. I hid in my room so my mood didn't effect my mom as I have to live with her as I can't be left alone for long times as my memory is bad thanks to the brain injury. I am trying my best to hold it together and make many changes in the way I eat. I am a self sabotaging person as well, no one can hate on me like myself! You are a beautiful soul and those that love you do not think of your baggage as a burden! In my life I have and still carry baggage for those I love. So what I want to accomplish this year is losing weight and getting my A1C to normal levels as last tested I was double what its suppose to be. If you ever need a friend I am here.

It's ok to be happy😊❤ I'm worried about you. Im praying for you. 🙏

I wish a good huge you and i know how you feel but it is going to be oke❤️

I did the 75 hard under covid in the first go. I never thought Id be able to and the only reason that worked for me was because I didnt have anything else thanks to lockdown. I tried a second round in 2022 but fprgot the progress pic at day 65. Dont be hard on your self. Youre learning things about yourself and evolve.

This is life ,we fall learn and retry.

Find your path your way. Follow your instincts. Don't destroy yourself trying to meet other people's definition of health, mental or physical.

My goal this year is to be mentally and emotionally happier and physically stronger.

Don't be too hard on yourself ❤

F--- but I do love those tiger pants 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 absolutely

I struggle with the idea of “being seen/recognized/praised”… how do you overcome this? I see you also struggle with these things and you are so brave for putting yourself out there in all these forums and through social media. Any advice to help overcome these self-made barriers? I have a platform and a message to bring, I just lack the spine to put myself out there. Thanks for any input.

23:12 NOBODY is covering that beautiful face! 😂

Speaking of Tiiger King, I can see you and pip dressing up as Tiger King for Halloween

I was just thinking about parachute pants last night, but I'm old and it was the 80s, but I never wore them and I was wondering how they felt on and if they were inexpensive too make, you didn't fail, you stop n restarted that's not failure that's endurance and not giving up, some people do not even have that fortitude, give yourself a break, now at the end you said what do i wanna gain, more acknowledgement from myself, that I can help myself more, not that I can't but I have to try

6:04 are you okay Stuart that fall seem painful

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The book im reading right now is "The school of life" its actually quite good its about life and how we percieve the world and our emotion. How to control them and how the world and society effects us.

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At 10:15 “I don’t know my current directory. The setback has completely wrecked me.” Bars!!

I just really hope I can find a new job. Somewhere that let's me grow and pay my bills.

Is it to late to do this challenge cause I want to finish writing a chapter for my story while also finishing two books Grims Fairytales and Heartless

I’m moving to Ireland and finding a property for @jameshouse

Imma need a minute....😮‍💨

You. Have. Not. Failed.

That's quite a head of hair you have

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Hi everyone

🩵🩵🩵🍀✌️🇹🇩 România 🇹🇩

Your demographic goes both ways 🤣🤣🤣

Their journey is not your journey.

I wrote this a month ago and still think that what you're doing is not for everybody: For some people setting a certain goal or challenge may work. But after trying these things and being in my 50's now I find that this not the way for everybody. When you're in a bad state/place it's better to try to get out of that first and then start setting your goals. I of course do hope that you'll prove me a 100% wrong! Stay strong, you're a beautiful human who deserves just to be you, bad days included 😘🧡🤍💚

It's growth hunny I'm feeling it too we can do it we got this🫰🫂

Stu, darling, you need to get out of your head. Referencing day 29/75. 😢 I literally had an anxiety attack watching you. If you wake up and feel good and realize it, pause , acknowledge it, and continue on. 🫵🏻💪🏻💖💖

Obtain financial stability for my children and I and take to the soil, getting more down to earth. 👩‍🌾🫛🍅🚜