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I feel the same!!! Married 8 years, about to have my 3rd baby! So exciting! My husband is so involved and honestly married life yes the lows are very low but the HIGHs are very HIGH! Alhamdulillah!
Love the companionship I have with my hubby but the lows can be pretty high. I’m 9 years married Alhamdillah. The early years were very different before having our kids.
What advice do you guys have for unmarried women. I am honestly turned off with all the nonsense I am seeing some men spew including these so called alpha male types( like Mahdi tadjani).
6:07 Dina’s honesty at it’s finest. Thats some seriously beautiful friendship between a husband and wife I have ever seen. May you both be saved from evil eye. My duas are always with you.
Wow - you guys are super honest, which I appreciate. Also appreciate the getting married later comment and the work damn hard in your 20's when you have the hunger and drive to achieve as much as possible! Btw it's never too late to take the adventures you want to, even with the kids in tow, or when you're in your 30's/40's/50's and beyond. Don't limit yourselves and don't think that you have to have a certain amoun of money in the bank to feel safe. Use it to give you the experiences you really want, and just live life to the fullest x
"When you do have kids, you don't want them"..... I think the thing to remember is those annoying little kids soon become adults. When they're adults they are great!!!! But occasionally (I mean often) they'll recall many things during their childhood when you've made mistakes in their upbringing. If I could turn the clock back I'd change those memories, especially things like being too strict with getting homework done!
I love this advice. When they become adults it changes so much. It pays off. Although I’m single and not married or have kids, the best thing to do is take your time there’s no rush
My fav type of videos 🤍 I love how honest you guys are. I’ve been following you guys from the beginning and I’ve been married for 12 yrs and I agree with you guys on it all. Hubs and I still love each other but I do suggest people don’t get married so early.. but then again I love that I had my kids young. I dk but no matter the age, marriage is still hard so make sure you’re marrying someone who you can be friends with ☺️
Live a life according to Islam esp if you are born Muslims sorry I have to put this out there because a few weeks ago I probably felt the same about some of the things you have been talking about but I have to say since getting closer to allah my relationships have been better alhamdulliah and barakah has entered , so guys please if your Muslim make sure you have a strong connection to Allah and everything becomes easier and clear in sha allah xxxxxxx
Married people are miserable question ... I find those who are miserable are the ones who got married too young, or the in laws meddled with the marriage and spoiled things for the couple. If you get married older, it's a whole different ballgame. You both know who you are and what you want, and have maturity and some wisdom to live a happy married life. I married my husband in my 30s, and life is so much easier sharing the responsibilities. And it's lovely having a companion. I would be miserable if I was alone. And no I didn't need to start self help and self love etc etc. I'd accomplished a lot in my 20s and it got unfulfilling chasing goals on my own, and I outgrew that phase of wanting to chill and travel with my friends. I wanted something more meaningful and more for the day to day. Marriage at the start takes some work, getting to know who you're now living with. Once that passes, and you're on the same page, married life is actually bliss Alhamdulillah. Oh also I find those who are miserable in marriage, didn't really know what married life was, and love was at the forefront. So when these young people get married, they learn the hard way that practical life is what needed a compatibility quiz, not love. When two people can't and don't communicate on practical life, it's a learning the hard way process that can often leave people bitter, resentful and just falling out of love. Practical things to ask include questions like who will wash the dishes *that's a huge one for arguments if you don't ask it! Who will pay the bills and who will raise the kids, how each person wants to feel appreciated for their part in the marriage, how would each deal with in law drama *don't be foolish to think it won't happen. InshaAllah it won't. But that's a minority! Ladies, ask it and give scenarios! I did! And we got tested with the monstor in laws from my husband side and guess what... he delivered in how he'd said he would before we got married! And today Alhamdulillah we're still together. Yes a person can lie before marriage. But we're not dumb. We have instincts. We know inside how truthful the man is being. Don't ignore any red flags. If you keep it real before lust and love, you'll find married life is actually a huge blessing. There's something special about sharing life with someone who's got your back and your theirs. It's a powerhouse! Lastly! Please don't have kids if you don't want the responsibility. I have yet to see parents who are happy! I love kids and want kids, but I know I loathe the responsibility that will come with it (which I know comes from having to raise my siblings when I was still a child myself) and the dependency, so I've made the decision to not have any. I've done me that favour. Kids are not a joke. Once they grow out of the cute factor, you're left with a human needing you and depending on you for the rest of your life! So think carefully before bringing life into the world. Too many couples lose the couple when parenthood starts. It's sad to see their misery and going through the motion of life without much excitement. I've always found parents to be depressed for the most part, tired and unhappy. It's not fair on the parents or the kids. It's sad that Dina and Sid can say married life isn't worth it. They've obviously been through the mill and found it hard. But they got married young. It's big for them to share their experience. But doesn't mean married life is miserable and everyone will regret it. Actually, same goes for parenting. There may be some happy parents. I've yet to see them lol but there may be 😅 I adore my husband and him me. And we've decided together from day dot, we will not have kids. Even when I get broody, I just have to see a screaming kid and distressed parents, and I know I'm happier in my couple bubble. We each work hard, and go on regular date nights and enjoy me time too. Don't get me wrong! Took some working and we almost got divorced a few times along the way. No new married couple doesn't think of divorce in the first year! That's normal. But when two people love each other and nailed the practical compatibility; you'll weather the storm and enjoy having a co pilot. Life is hard and lonely alone. Find yourself a partner in crime. It's worth the effort ❤️ Ps. All is not lost for those who feel marriage wasn't worth it. Start dating again. As we get older our needs change. Sometimes the spouse may not be on board with those changes. Communication is the strongest foundation of a fulfilling successful marriage and respect. Respect the needs of your spouse. I've seen too many older single people, and old single people. Life is definitely more miserable when done alone. Family and friends don't compare to coming home to someone special at the end of a hard days work and being comforted and getting affection, especially when you've had a rough day! The warmth, understanding and reassurance from a loving spouse is something worth taking a leap of faith for ❤️
Well worth the read this. Well said. Couldn't believe how similar we are in our thinking and even decisions. I too decided against having children- not easy within our culture and pressures. I actually made a few videos discussing the very points you made! Jazak
The problem is that even when you ask situations, they never do what they said they would. 😭 I still loved him and though and he lost that Good tip: woman will change after marriage, man will not😞
@@21972012145525 when men don't do right by the woman, the woman has to make a decision - to live in misery or to move on. Its not an easy decision. But then is resigning oneself to eternal misery easier? No.
I honestly dont think they even know how super helpful the advice was at the end…. I dont think they realise how cool their vibe is and i love how they are so open about things you never hear people talk about.
I’m married but I’d disagree with most of these answers. Almost everything in life is better when you have a partner to share the moment/experience with! The ups and downs of life will happen no matter what. Always better when you have a buddy to go through it with!
Reading everyone's comments on how marriage is hard but it is so worth it when you have the right person to work through those highs and lows. Honestly it is so refreshing to hear! Realistic but positive!!!
I loved this video you guys are so real! I deffo agree with the marriage stuff u talked about! dont rush yourself to get married girls, live ur life stress and responsibility free cos after marriage things will never be the same♥️
Yeah fully agree with start grinding and working hard when you're younger and grasp any opportunities. Save your money and look for ways to grow it. Then you can enjoy life younger instead of ending up in the misery of working your life away, retiring and living at 60.
I partially agree with the while ‘wait until you’re older to get married’ as I did just that. I was in my 30s when I married my best friend Alhamdulillah. We now have been married 6 years and have 3 lil kids too Alhamdulillah. Marriage is hard and you have to want to work hard it. The low parts can be painful or hard but the highs definitely counteract that. No relationship is perfect and you need to do what’s best for you and your partner ❤️
I don't agree because everyone's perspective and experience is different. I loved getting married young. I want to do everything together with my partner, travel and enjoy life together. It's much better than doing it single and alone (imo)
I really appreciate the time you put into these videos. Thanks for the advice at the end, I think it’s important to make the best of every season of your life. Whether its being single, having a kid, being married, or what ever. Theres good and bad to it all. I’m still single at 28 but I’m making the best of til the time come to be married and I’ll make an adventure out if that as well 💖
Really sad when you both said that marriage isn’t worth it. I wonder if working and living together has contributed to that feeling. The nature of what you do means it’s full on.
I really think if you don't get married and have kids you are living a half life. Marriage is not easy kids are not easy...its very difficult but I think its one of the best ways to mature and grow as person, grow spiritually. When you are 40 or 50 and the only thing you have is your career you will regret it.
I totally disagree on the being married sucks part. Of course at times being your married is difficult, for the reason being that you have to deal with someone else’s issue and needs. However, if you really love and care for your spouse, it will get easier with time. I am married for 5 years now. and let me tell you the first 2 years we’re a rollercoaster ride. And yet I am telling you that I wouldn’t want to change anything we have been through as couple. It made us as individuals a better human being and strengthen our bond as a couple. Therefore, don’t get scared about getting married. Nevertheless, they are right by pointing out that being to young could make things even more difficult. But again one shouldn’t generalise, because what might have workout for me won’t work out for you and vice versa . The most important thing is that you are happy with yourself and you are mentally at a place where your concept of happiness is not defined by somebody else.
Why do you feel like the first 2 years were hard? I’m so scared for This when I get married. I heard the first year is really tough and you’re learning abt them
Personally I think they gave bad advice on the marriage front, especially as Muslims, marriage is hard but if you marry someone who wants to build a life with you it’s one of the most beautiful things ever, I am married and have children so I’m speaking from experience. Marriage protects you from so much fitna, and it’s a very big sunnah too, I get from a non muslim perspective to say get married late but for Muslims it’s terrible advice because we are supposed to live our life with a greater purpose than having fun and ‘living our best lives’. I would personally never advise getting married late especially if you want children, if a person doesn’t find the right person that’s one thing but to choose to delay marriage for the sake of I want to live my life is misguided. social media and western thinking is placing importance on the less meaningful things in life and making the truly meaningful things in life seem less valuable.
I have to admit, I have missed this version of Dina and Sid! I think following from the beginning until now and going through the shifts from pregnancy to the babies growing etc. You learn to expect different out of content with the life changes but I definitely didn’t realize how bad we needed these random conversations! 💯
My husband and I resemble you guys so much in many ways. I was constantly annoyed by my husband's god awful hay fever, and this year it was me who got it worse. He's telling me the exact things I told him now or going "ewww". :D
I appreciate you being honest, but wow, kinda sad how you view marriage. I've been married for 5 years and (Mashallah) way happier than before! You're only miserable in marriage when it's the wrong person. I also believe that marriage is not a 'happy ending' but rather a work in progress, the more you work on it the happier it becomes.
Im the same. Im on insta but hardly post on it. I’m always on Twitter though. Marriage is worth if you find someone worthy. Marriage should be an upgrade from your current life, not a downgrade.
No. She wasn't gaslighting. Many times adults overreact in situations because the trigger in that situation brought back old memories (*almost always from childhood/earlier life) of things that happened to the person when they were vulnerable and unable to deal with it. Unhealed trauma is painful in a marriage, and difficult for the spouse.
@@sayithowitis7530 but Dina accuses him of gaslighting her when he simply questioned things, coz he makes her second guess it, if questioning things as people very normally do is considered gaslighting then this is definitely gaslighting too, atleast by her own logic
@watercongas I'm the same age as you & I feel the same sometimes. it's alright everyone has their own life path, timeline & journey. You might had your own legit reasons but even if you didn't you can't change the past & at least you had things to learn from . Be gentle to yourself , you can still work hard now & just focus on what you should do right now & give it your all. Just keep going. I wish you all the best. 😊
I do not understand what they mean with do what you want before marriage, what exactly do they refer to? I went to college and had my first job before marriage oke is that enough? What do they mean, it is not like i could travel by myself and date people or whatever as u muslim? I needed my husband to have a relationship and to have a travelbuddy, i am happy how it is. I wonder what they feel like they missed out on?
Love these videos 🥰 Also…so many items sold out on ilikeme (sad for me, happy for you guys) I really wanted the cream or orange-y set buT my size is gone hahaha. AAA it’s ok. Perhaps next spectrum colors 😂🥹
What do people mean when they say don’t get married young? So that you achieved everything you wanted to with other people in courtship department before getting stuck with one person for the rest of their lives? Lol
May Allah bless your marriage. I have been watching Dina’s channel since she was younger doing hijab tutorials ect. Love your honesty together and also how real you guys are. Please read your athkar, people are scary.
I got married at 26 n had 1st child at 28. Now at 38 I feel like I'm unable to keep up with my kids like I cud b4. B4 marriage I worked for 6 years n iv lived that life too so now bring a mum n having experienced working life n independence I wish I'd got married much younger n had my kids younger n experienced work n career after kids n been fit n healthy enough to really enjoy my kids.
Some of my bro’s Have been working since early teens now in there late 30,s they have to work harder. 2/3jobs Made money yet spent it wastefully. Now they decided to have unplanned pregnancies and choose to marry semi 20,s their live is a struggle.
that's really sad you both said its not worth it to get married...? do you not love eachother anymore? i love being married - you're just spending every day with your best friend and if you don't feel that way about the person you're with maybe theyre the wrong person...
I think they’re assuming that young people are in mixture and don’t know what they want which can def be true But there are also a lot of people who are glad they married young so I think it truly depends on the people
