The fact that she overexplained at the start and apologized not once but twice told me everything I needed to know. This guy is an eggshell partner. He probably blows up over the smallest thing and hurls all kinds of abuse at her for non-issues. So glad this girl got out. Hope she has support
Yes, this is definitely far from the first time this has happened! It is inconceivable that after 3 tears the mask has only just fallen, he's probably been showing the red flags since the beginning but she lacked the confidence to do anything about it. Hopefully she learns that she is worth more than a second mom for an adult man 🙏
In this typa context ye ofc, but I know mad girls who got out of abusive relationships and over explain as a result even tho the bf may be sweet af. I been in a couple of those situations, I jus reassure the person dat it's okay and that they don't gotta explain. Being a good communicator and understanding how a person works emotionally is the n1 thing especially w people who come from abusive backgrounds or relationships
@@Luke_BrowerI hope I can provide context w personal experience: I am currently 17 and for the 1st 14/15ish yrs of my life my parents would get violent w me for random things (never snuck out, drank/did drugs, I have good grade, I’m a good child all in all) when I turned abt 7 I began apologizing/overexplaining all my actions in and outside my house in hopes of avoiding a violent interaction (I say 7 bc that’s when my teachers/guidance counselor noticed) I still exhibit that behavior today w my friends and I’ve avoided every romantic encounter bc I can’t handle conflict w/o getting fearful if I were to have a conflict in a romantic relationship I would behave exactly like how the girl in this context is (obviously I’m not saying he hit her it could b something in her past but he is explosive and volatile which can also contribute to those behaviors)
I honestly feel bad for victims like her. They don't understand that tiptoing around your partners emotions isn't normal. I really hope she finds better.
How do you feel bad for someone who can easily leave? She isn't getting beat, she was getting "emotionally" abused. If you stick around for that YOU ARE AN IDIOT. There's nothing keeping you there when someone is saying nasty words lmao. Damn it's rough for you little 15 year olds out here huh. I will never feel bad for women or men who keep themselves in emotionally abusive relationships. You're just stupid for letting words hurt you that much
@@scifiguy333 He seems emotionally abusive, so a victim of emotional abuse. No normal person would react like this. He clearly has anger issues, especially with the way she's constantly apologizing for something that wasn't her fault.
Well some ppl watch GAMBA for 8.5 hours straight and call that "entertainment" ... So a guy ending a 3 years relationship over pork chops isnt even that impressive anymore Humanity can no longer shock me
I’m willing to bet he does this all the time. Nobody just does shit like this one time. This is the type of guy who refuses to develop life skills because he thinks it’s his partners job to be his mom
The fact that she apologizes profusely at the start tells me he probably blows up over stuff like that often, so she starts apologizing right away because she’s scared he’s gonna blow up again. I’ve been that girl before, just apologizing for everything not to piss my partner off. He’s probably emotionally abusive regularly. Glad she got out
You can tell straightaway that she’s panicking over something that shouldn’t matter all that much and that he’s the reason when far from reassuring her and telling her to not worry about it, he goes cold on her. Very much doubt this is an isolated incident. Gives me emotionally abusive vibes too. He probably just discarded her to teach her a lesson, but hope she realised how toxic this relationship was with a little distance and perspective and hasn’t got back with him 🤞🏻
I dated girl like this back in the day. She was always over apologizing for the littlest things. She seemed to always be waiting for me to go off the handle everytime a very small argument or something happened. I finally sat her down and asked her why this was and she proceeded to tell me this horror story about her previous boyfriend and how she basically had to live life like she was walking on thin ice. She never had any answer for why she stayed for two full years. Ironically she could never break the mindset and that’s why we would eventually break up. It’s amazing the amount of psychological damage you can do to someone you’re supposed to care about. People need to relax and at least pretend to be nice, if to no one else at least to the ones you care about.
When my husband isn’t feeling well (like sick/really tired) he’s really quiet and it reminds me of how my dad would give me the silent treatment so he has to remind me that he’s not mad at me :/ I hate that I get anxious bc I know logically that he’s not mad just sick but it makes me feel that way all the same.
@@UtoobAreNotZs it’s likely they get a specific kind or only from a certain store. Where I live you can get pork chops anywhere but the only good ones are from a few specific stores. so if I realized our pork chops went bad near dinner time I couldn’t go to the store to get more bc the shop that sells quality ones would be closed.
The way she apologized so profusely like this just in this conversation alone makes me think this isn't the first time he's exploded over something so small, really I'm surprised this went on 3 years
its not suprising it went on for 3 years to me, it seems she really loves him and it also seems like he manipulates her into thinking everything is her fault, so she probably just wants to fix things instead of leaving if he makes her think hes the victim in every situation
@@vomitvalentineyeah, often the tactic is to subconsciously make the other person feel like they're not good enough for you so that when you stay with them they feel like you're a generous saint. It's really dirty manipulation
@@snule349 I guess I'm going to be labeled as "blame the victim" guy, but why didn't she leave? He may be manipulative, but she is a grown adult herself, and she stays with him with 3 years. Honestly I don't feel bad for her.
@@Dave_of_Mordor sometimes people are not aware that they are being manipulated, or they are the ones manipulating themselves into thinking that the other person will change and things will get better
That and also the fact he slept on it and woke up still seething and thinking he's in the right 100% points to some sort of mental issues. Hopefully dude realises what a dickhead he was to his gf and gets some help.
Makes me think it could be a seriously abusive relationship on his part. She seems scared, reminds me of how I acted when I was stuck in an abusive relationship for a while. I apologized so profusely at the smallest thing because I was terrified of what kind of reaction he could have
Oh, for sure! That’s sadly a normal response in a narcissistic relationship. Every aspect of that conversation was about control and attention. He has basically slowly conditioned/gaslit her to the point she already knew she was in the “wrong” the moment he sent a short message. I hope she is far away from the guy.
My wife promised me gumbo that my grandmother use to make, my mom gave her the recipe. Was to be made by the time I got off. She fell asleep and woke up super upset with herself. The biggest disappointment was I had to wait for my hello kiss 😂 I can't fathom this crap, there's always another day
@@jessdubscomics1698 right? Ma'am how am I supposed to know I'm home if you don't give me my kiss. Ooohhh but let me fall asleep without giving a good night kiss. Been 3 years and still haven't heard the end of it
@@SawerMeatFactory that is what she said. "I'll have it ready by the time you get home". I work 60+ hours a week, she doesn't. I clean the house, she doesn't. I do the laundry, yard work, clean, usually cook, rub her down with pain relief ointments, stretch her hips, some days I wash her hair because it's so painful reach. There are days where she just can't get out of bed. My wife has fibromialga and I took on most of the responsibilities because I want her to rest. It was my birthday and she was physically feeling pretty okay and wanted to do something special for me because I'm her wife. Don't pervert what the situation was with your little open ended indirect suggestive bull. She said. It would be done. And it wasn't. And it wasn't a big deal. She made it 2 weeks later for me. I love my wife. Don't do that. Runt.
@@SawerMeatFactoryI can understand the miscommunication given the incomplete sentence structure, but given the wholesome context of the story, I suggest reading this comment in a more positive light. To assume the worst off the bat even while reading the rest of the story, is quite the funky way to delve into that. Figuring his wife wanted to create him a dish he loves by his grandma - as a sweet gesture, in his own home (by a woman he loves so she reached out to his mother for the recipe), his wife had probably told him that he could expect his grandmother’s gumbo for the first time in a long time. Except the twist is that it’ll be cooked by his wife!! However, she unfortunately ended up falling asleep during that time, therefore not completing her promise of grandma’s gumbo by the time she had given, hence “was to be made by” = “told was a guarantee in this instance that it would be ready at this time, but that was not followed through due to accidental nap of guaranteer took through said time” Nothing wrong with that though!! Accidental naps are always so fun, but to miss a welcome kiss is quite a big bummer- never know when the last one is with your person, but you can always make grandma’s gumbo another day!
Halfway through that conversation I would have picked the meat out of the garbage, and cooked it as is. Sure I'd tell him, "it's rotten, it's covered in trash, but it's what you wanted so desperately." and I would make a big show of doing what he wants. But of course, if he did try to eat it, I'd stop him. I have to believe he wouldn't be that stupid, but don't put it past him.
Her apologizing so much makes me think that his behavior isn't new or unusual, which then makes me think that he's been emotionally checked out for a while and this was, to him, as good excuse as any to finally break it off. Good for her, she deserves better.
thats good deduction. how do you see one set of texts and determine that? you're like a detective! it seems like you are VERY knowledgeable on his behavior like you've some how been there yourself. you a petty manipulative psycho too? without thinking exactly like him how else can you know exactly whats happened in their relationship outside of these texts?
She is absolutely a keeper. Se deserves a better man, and he should be alone for a very very long time so her can learn to value other people. Treat people with kindness and love!
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That poor girl. The way she felt so awful for such an innocent mistake and he just rode that low and made her feel worse. This is totally something my girlfriend would feel bad about doing and I can’t imagine doing anything but comfort her and cheer up or at the very least not making a big deal out of it. She seems so sweet and deserves way better
i seriously, seriously hope he’s wildly embarrassed. also charlie don’t ever stop with these videos. they’re my new favorite thing since the real series
I don't think people who end long term relationships over not getting pork chops have enough self-awareness capacity for embarrassment at their actions. The only thing that probably embarrasses this dude would be accidentally responding positively to his gf saying she loves him
She's the one who chose him. Also, men don't think the way you do. A woman's reputation is everything to her, but your average man will be able to shrug off anything. This guy strikes me as a basic jock she met at a bar who feels relieved that he doesn't have to deal with her anymore because now he can trick some other inebriated college girl into dating him.
Speaking of the real series, it annoys me that years ago Charlie made it clear that he “never stopped the real series, I just name the titles differently now” but hasn’t made a single video in the style of the real series for like 4 years now
I can DEFINITELY tell that this guy was horrible to her more than this one scenario. This screams emotionally abusive relationship to me. The way she is constantly apologizing and reiterating that she loves him. I hope she finds someone truly good after this.
Some people are spoiled or otherwise dysfunctional from weak parents. They are chronically that kid in the supermarket crying about not getting candy. Some people have weird food issues but are nice about it, so it's obviously not just a food thing - this guy is abusive/spoiled.
@terjehansen0101 so having a single parent makes you abusive and spoiled by that logic let me tell ya something you're absolutely wrong and you clearly don't know what you're talking about
I want to give her a hug, she seems so nice! :/ What a wonderful thing to do, cooking food for your boyfriend who she clearly did love on their 3 year anniversary to get treated like that :(
I think all kind-hearted people like that her need a hug, because I feel like sometimes people just need reassurance that they're actually a good person, not just be torn down repeatedly over and over day in and day out mentally by the person she was dating
@@thesonofmalice1999 Maybe not even just someone they're dating, but people in general, being arse holes to kind people. I think anyone who treats a kind person badly is awful, and the person deserves a lot of time and effort for being so kind in the first place
@@Mehiel-SanctoriaI mean if you cannot appreciate someone cooking for you, and treat it as a expectation, then it kinda sounds like it'd be shitty to date you lol I see every little thing my significant other does for me as wonderful, "basic" or not
okay but you referring to her as a delicate butterfly is the cutest thing i’ve ever seen lmao, makes me have more faith in humanity. i hope y’all stay happy together forever lol
@@shadowryth7308Stop wishing and start making steps towards finding her. If you don't put yourself out there a chance of meeting the right person is precisely 0.
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He tried really hard to antagonize a response from her that he could use against her, but was only met with affection and care that made him feel some sort of guilt and it made him angrier. The fact that it was over something as ridiculous as not getting pork chops has me betting he might have been having an affair and tried to grasp at anything to break up over. Seen a friend and my sis go through some wacky stuff like this with their exes and it turned out the dudes were having affairs and self destructed their relationships in the most confusing and stupid ways.
It is sadly typical for some males, cowards that they are, to try to sabotage a relationship when they see someone better instead of breaking it off respectfully. They want to leave their current partner for another, or just want out because it isn't working for them, AND they want to say that she broke off with him, "what a victim I am, she broke with me for a porkchop, pity me, bla bla bla" It's just pathetic manpulation tactics so he can escape his own guilt and create his own narrative.
the fact she immediately jumped to apologizing profusely for smth that's really not her fault def shows there were problems already what a dick, she deserves better
She's trying to starve him to death bro, she's the one being a dick. What, do you expect him to just eat mac and cheese with no pork chops? He deserves better; this is an abusive relationship.
@@citrosoda5370 it wasn't bad!! I was going to add on until Mr. Killjoy entered the chat. But for real, she definitely just told him she would make food just so he wouldn't feed himself, he's sick of being gaslit, and he finally snapped. Good for him. I bet she never even made the Mac!!
Dude this literally breaks my heart. I am someone who struggles really bad with bpd and I have a wife that has abandonment issues and really bad issues with exes who just straight up ignored her and stuff like that. I could not imagine being like this to her just because she messed up while cooking(or EVER at all!) It would freaking cut her down and it would probably really hurt her feelings.. Never in my life. She deserves much better.
I'm thankful for guys like these, whenever I'm feeling a bit down on myself they always manage to remind me that compared to them I'm a pretty good boyfriend. If my girlfriend went to make food for me and it didn't go to plan like with those pork chops she'd feel so horrible about it honestly so I can sympathize with this poor woman so much, hopefully she finds herself with a dude that genuinely loves Her
Not being happy with the relationship while not having enough balls to talk about it. Seems to me like this dude just took this small disappointment as an opportunity to blow up, get mad at her, and break up with her after he'd riled himself up. Smol behavior.
@@Coleslaw-P simply the fact that she was apologizing when he seemed more mildly annoyed than angry was telltale. One or two I get, but the fact that she kept apologizing as a response to "ok" just feels like a pre emptive way of trying to prevent him from blowing up
I dated someone like this, it’s genuinely so exhausting to be around these types of people. If a guy gets this mad and goes out of his way to make you feel terrible over pork chops of all things please run for the hills and don’t look back
You are forgiven. I'm glad that you actually acknowledged that you made poor decisions. Most women in your position would get defensive and justify their irrational decisions to no end, so this is very mature on your part. Just remember that when you date the wrong guy, it's very unlikely that the men you passed up on will still be interested in you. Next time, be patient.
Honestly I feel like when breakups like these happen the person throwing a fuss over something minor wanted to break up much longer ago but couldn't find an actual reason to
This screams "I was cheating on you or wanted to for so long and you're too much of a good person to end this off on something legitimate so here's one of the worse reasons to end it I can muster"
This guy acting like that when he has someone willing to cook for him is just mindblowing to me. I'm happy whenever my wife cooks for me, even if it's not my favorite dish. Honestly, if I were her I would have served his ass some moldy pork chops since he wanted them so bad.
You would have been arrested for attempted murder in that case. Read up on the case of that woman who poisoned her husband a few years ago. I believe the Law & Crime Network's RU-vid channel covered it extensively as well. Also, I hope you're not out there shooting deer. I absolutely abhor deer hunters. Criminals...
The thing is, if this exchange is even real (there's so many screenshots of fake text exchanges), a relationship isn't going to last 3 years and suddenly end on porkshops like this. We're only seeing a snippet. There was likely a lot of buildup, and this could have been the straw that broke the camel's back. For all we know, the girl could have been in the wrong in something huge recently, and he was letting her make up for it, maybe this was a common excuse she makes and he knows it's not true, maybe this was just the straw that broke the camel's back after a long series of letdowns. It's funny to think of it at face value in isolation, but the reality is that we're not getting the full picture.
This reminds me of the time my dad threw a hissy fit over my mom not browning some meat before throwing it in the crockpot and kept screaming "NO GREY MEAT!" except unfortunately he just had a hissy fit and didn't leave after.
Poor girl. I used to have tantrums like this and thankfully grew out of it by 25. It comes from not being able to deal with disappointment and holding others to completely unrealistic standards. Hopefully the girl gets out of this relationship and finds someone who doesn't treat her like crap.
Me too man, highschool was rough, I was looking for princess perfect but I never looked in the mirror and realised not only am I no prince myself, but there is no such thing as that fairytale bullshit, people are there own individuals and if you want someone who behaves, acts, and does exactly as you wish, then you don't want another person, you want property. Can you have a relationship with a piece of property? No, Not in any meaningful capacity anyway!
Congratulations on growing out of it, and truthfully I probably wouldn't have added what I said if you didn't, but I need to talk more about cause the older I get (only 21) the more I see these issues in my friends relationships and especially in my younger coworkers, I think some people never have that wake up call that what there looking for isn't realistic/healthy and their personalities solidify into that, I've seen lots of people grow out of it, but there's an equal amount that don't grow up, they just grow older, and that's a hard life for them, but it's also a hard life for those they have relationships with and any kids that come from said relationships, and honestly even friends ships suffer. I'm not saying you shouldn't have standards or certains goals for your relationship / others in general, but do it with grace and kindness, don't be brutish and forcefull. No one deserves abuse, whether your physically fighting or even just belittling in a calm voice, no one deserves that. If its ever coming close to that it's time to seperate, even if it's just for a few minutes to cool off. And always remember, nobody's perfect, and everybody's somebody, nobody's nobody, so Treat people like there somebody. (Confusing, but I hope you get the message)
He's an actual man-child lmao this woman deserves a medal or something just for dating him at all. I hope he's wildly embarassed and she finds someone better she actually deserves
Well some ppl watch GAMBA for 8.5 hours straight and call that "entertainment" ... So a guy ending a 3 years relationship over pork chops isnt even that impressive anymore Humanity can no longer shock me
My at the time 70+ year old GRANDMA pulled this shit on me. She asked for a plain cheeseburger, I was like 110% sure she said "hamburger" so I got her one, she claimed that's not what she wanted, so I apologized and offered she just eat my plain cheeseburger, what she says she wanted, and I'll just eat the hamburger. She started a whole scene about it and then refused to eat any of it.
this guy reminds me of one of my friend's exes, as well as her constantly apologizing reminding me of my same friend. truly hope that she finds someone who'll treat her right genuinely.
Earlier this year I was involved in this trial where we had to read these messages between a couple. They sounded exactly like this. He freaked out about anything, took every little thing as a slight against him. He was constantly coming and going and used anything like this as a reason to break up and then would guilt her into getting back together. He killed her 6 months later. I'm not saying every person who acts like this is a murderer, but if your partner treats you like this, leave. Don't give them second/third/or fourth chances. They don't respect you or your feelings. Find someone who won't treat you like this.
Exactly. Abusive behaviour _always_ escalates. Their standards and demands get continually more difficult while upping the mental and/or physical abuse because they know they can get away with it, and because they get off on the power trip.
@soberserotonin1850 like I said, I'm not saying every person who acts like this is a murderer. But they certainly don't have their partner's best interests in mind and most likely does not respect them at all.
I'm struggling to leave a relationship dynamic like this right now. Seeing this video really hit me like a truck because of how eerily similar it is to how he would message me. How did you find the strength to leave the relationship?
Had a rollercoaster like this for about 5 years (dated from 18 to 23), only instead of yelling it was just ignoring me for a day or two until I called him crying and apologizing 💀 In the end I just decided not to cause I did NOTHING wrong and he broke up with me after about 5 days of ignoring me through our common friend. What happened in my case and what might happen to her as well is that he realizes she won't run to him apologizing again. And then he'll crawl pathetically trying to start over. Hopefully she won't fall for it
@@User-yu8er The longer it lasts the harder it is to leave. I put up with that bullshit for over 5 years cause it was my first ever relationship, so I'm hardly qualified to advise. But what I did was taking some time for myself to think it all over and listen to my own feelings without that person manipulating me. But again, in my case it was just "silent treatment" and not yelling at me or angry texting me. I hope this video and the comments will give you the courage to do it. You don't deserve to be treated this way!
3 years and he dumps her over pork chops? Nah he was probably cheating or wanting to leave her way before. Glad that girl is out of that, hope she finds someone who actually treats her well.
Those multiple apologies and attempts to say “I love you” were filled with thoughts of “Please don’t leave me” I know those apologies all too well and I’m so glad that the trash took itself out with this one
honestly this behavior comes from people who are already cheating on their partner or have lost interest entirely and just want any “reason” to leave the relationship
@@roserkk I do not miss dating... I was gonna say 'someone like this' but it's more rare to find someone that isn't this insufferable. Giving me flashbacks lol
I never understood that at all. If I was uninterested in furthering a relationship I didn't. I don't understand people that wait to have the epic "we're over" argument. So juvenile
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There is no way this was the breaking point in their relationship. I find it hard to believe this dude loved and cared for her so much that he just said “fuck it” over some chops. He prolly has been wanting to leave for a while and he thought this would be the perfect time to do it while trying making her out to be the bad guy in all of this.
That’s what I was thinking, this sounds like he was waiting for any opportunity to blow up about something so he can victimize himself in the breakup, like some “she never treated me right, wouldn’t even cook me dinner” type shit.
Hit the nail on the head!! I'm sure this dude was already cheating and was looking for the quickest out clause to GTFO, and apparently pork chops was the fastest way out 😅
The way she keeps apologizing over and over again for something so small is very telling. I can only imagine all the bs he’s put her through beforehand
Women choose this. "Where have all the nice guys gone?" Under the bus, where you threw them... I have zero sympathy for women these days.. choose a loser, and what do you expect? Guarantee she was texting him 24/7 begging this guy to come back.... saving for that $100K house? Mmmhmm, I bet she chose a real winner.
I feel so bad for her, I couldn't imagine treating a partner like this. I couldn't imagine taking someone for granted to that extent, genuinely insane. And over a food as mid as porkchops? Jesus lmao
@@snooperlooperding ding ding. This whole text chain slammed me with memories of my first bf. First red flag should have been the fact that he was in his 30s and I was 19. But he acted exactly like this. I had a literal panic attack once because I went to the grocery store for garlic bread but they didn't have the brand he liked. I bought the 3 brands they did have and apologized several times on the way home because I didn't know if he would like them. Garlic bread dude. That's the most mild example of shit I had to apologize for in that relationship just to keep things from getting physical. He ended up cheating with a coworker which was my saving grace to get the fuck out without him trying to guilt me into staying. Some people just have so much mental shit they need to figure out before they ever take on the privledge of being in proximity of another human being.
@@snooperlooper just leaving sounds better than being a total asshole - so crazy how some people prefer to treat their partner like shit until they leave instead of leaving themselves when they feel the relationship has died
I've been in a relationship similar to this, my ex blew up at me for burning his peanut butter (context: he liked peanut butter and maple syrup on top of his pancakes. I put the peanut butter in the microwave too long and it came out smoking.) The amount of times she apologized really gives us an insight into their irl relationship. She's scared of him and I'm glad she's away from that now.
100% what happened was he was trying to find a way to end the relationship already, and chose to use the pork chop fiasco to finalize a deluded reason to breakup with her. no way it was actually about pork chops, he just wanted to feel like he was done 'dirty' in any sort of way to then use it against her.
It’s clear it wasn’t about pork chops. It’s either 1 , like you say, he just needed an excuse Or 2, they had some kind of history of him feeling like she never came through, didn’t follow up on what she said, always let him down, etc., and this was just another small example of it that finally blew him over the edge
I've dated guys like this long ago, in my early 20s, and have several relatives who behave exactly like this. Im estranged from them. This guy dumping her over a pork chop saved her from a lot more emotional abuse. I hope she found someone much better
The way she profusely apologizes over not being able to feed him these porkchops is such a bad sign, you know she's been traumatized by this man in the past and its so sad. Poor girl. Edit: Thanks for the likes
The way he was only going ok made me able to picture what he looked like immediately. The classic pursed lips and huffing out of his nose silently in anger before he balls his fist and either hits the wall or her, the picture perfect definition of a wife beater.
@@charliehorse8401 sad part is you're right, and it's already happened. I keep seeing this Zenigundam guy everywhere whenever it's a video involving women and relationships. It's so weird, it's like seeing "Just Some Guy without a Mustache" except instead of making a witty quip or normal opinion, it's a spew of hate that always loops back to women being the problem and reeks of pure incel, discord mods, and redditors all in one package. It's hilariously depressing knowing someone is still this far gone today.
As someone who is incredibly lonely, the gf sending repeated "i love you" messages to him really made me sad. Dude has no idea what he has and ruined it for some fucking pork chops. What I wouldn't do for something like that. EDIT: My comment has attracted the incel crowd for some reason. I'm lonely yes but I do not blame women for my situation. Please keep your women-blaming out of the replies.
So codependent. Just live your life instead of thinking it will be better when you're in a relationship. You're miserable now you'll just be miserable in a relationship. If you can't love yourself, why would anyone else care to.
@@icebite9888 I love myself just fine. I just don't have anyone to confide in or turn to when i need support. Even the strongest people need support and I'm just a normal dude.
The worst part is that if he changed us mind and tried to get her back, I’m sure she would say yes. She seemed really sweet and like he had control over her emotions. It seemed really toxic.
No diss to her but she reminds me of myself and I’m codependent. She 100% would take him back but I think it’d be because of a significant problem with her coping and attachment mechanisms. He’s just the current abuser, but if I’m right she’d likely leave him and replace him with another abuser. The sad reality is this kind of stuff is cyclical unless real change is obtained.
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I was in a 5 year emotionally and physically abusive relationship. I can promise with just how she is constantly apologizing and saying ILY to him and hardly even defending herself that he is certainly abusive - at least mentally.
I feel bad for her that she put up with that much abuse without dumping him. Hopefully she gains some self worth and realizes that she doesn't deserve that treatment, and I hope her next boyfriend actually appreciates her.
@@joelmcknight9995no, I'm guessing they meant this as a "calling this abuse would be trivialising a big issue" but honestly it really does look like a small scene of a much larger and sadder story
hard disagree. The last line betrays that, as its clearly seeking to put the blame for the situation on HER. he downplays the abuse by calling it childish behavior, then pegs the responsibility of his behavior on the girl .@@tiagobelo4965. Keep in mind, the reason why its called 'devils advocate'.
as funny as this is I will admit. If this is what it took to break the relationship there was already a lot of stuff wrong with it in the first place it was just a pork chops that broke the camel's back lmfao
Every major fight I've had with my wife of 25 years has been over the stupidest, most inconsequential shit. We know it too...which strangely makes us both angrier at the time.
Yeah, some people just need an excuse to let their anger out on someone they know will forgive them, I work with kids and this is literally toddler behavior, it’s so fascinating to see it in adults
As one experienced in being lured into toxic manipulative relationships, I can tell you right now that this relationship was VERY manipulative and toxic. He deliberately tried to make her feel bad and hurt her, and when he didn’t get a reaction he wanted he dumped her assuming she’d crawl back.
@@Cookiedible yeah cause manipulative people always have "i'm manipulative and toxic" in their tinder bio that's how they know they're manipulative and toxic good catch bro /s
@@maivaiva1412 exactly, you’re right! Why didn’t I just read their bio before dating them?! 🤦♂️ totally isn’t something they strategically and gradually implement into the relationship until they practically have you in the palm of their hand because you’re blinded by love
She kept responding with "I love you too." I don't know whether that's heartwarming or terrifying. Either she's willing to look past what she sees as flaws or perhaps mental illness, or she's genuinely blind to why this is an awful relationship.
she's also apologizing so much it's concerning. Unless they have like children or she has no means to support herself, I seriously think she needs to see a therapist cuz wtf. It would piss me off if I was her friend or something
I think it was a stress response. The amount of times that she apologized shows she was anxious and knew he would be angry. You can also see this in how she explains herself over and over.
I agree that she was poking the bear so to speak, but that’s the thing about these events it’s not just black and white. Relationships rarely fail all because of one side. This guy seems unhinged
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This is beat-for-beat what my ex was like. He would treat me exactly the same way over very trivial things. First the short responses, then the guilt-tripping about why what i did hurts him, then the insults and ending up in a fight, no matter what I did to try to appease him and apologize and correct myself. And it went on for 3 years for me too. I really hope (for her sake) that the relationship actually ended, because in my experience break up threats were just another form of emotional manipulation.
yep. i hope the reaction she got from sharing this online is something she can reality-check his behaviour against (and not another piece of ammo for him to use)
i was also in an emotionally abusive relationship and omg the break up threats are so real… it’s so hard to see manipulation when they are so subtle. like the first time i brought up not feeling safe or stable in our relationship he immediately started guilting me into staying by telling me he threw up and uncontrollably crying and hyperventilating. i’m so glad i’m out of that relationship and i hope anyone else who’s in a similar situation will see these signs because it’s the worst thing you can go through
I was in a similar situation when I was 15. My boyfriend was abusive and nasty, despite us both still being kids. I left him and now I’m engaged and I don’t have to worry about being berated for looking at another man for 0.5 seconds.
Honestly I see scenarios exactly like this every time I’m on the relationship advice subreddit. I once read a story where a woman basically said her husband of however many years almost killed her or became physically abusive if I’m not mistaken, simply because he was personally offended that she didn’t like mustard, but he did. It sounds fucking crazy, but abusive people aren’t rational so in a weird way their abuse is almost comical because of how absurd and stupid it is. Another similar story is that a boyfriend once told me I deserved to be beat by my parents because after he asked if I wanted ranch dressing for my pizza I said “sure I’ll get some later”, and for whatever reason that pissed him off lmao
It's never that it actually that they're angry about whatever it is they're throwing a tantrum about, it's all about power. Anything to show they have complete dominance over you and to whittle you down is what abuse is about, same goes for a certain r word I'm certain RU-vid will delete my comment over if I actually type it lol
@@kaitertot01 bc I was in the middle of putting pizza and wings on my plate and my hands were full, so I said I would get some later. If something like that is enough to piss you off then you have serious mental health issues that need to be looked at.
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Breaks my heart to see people treat "loved" ones like that. My wife had an ex that treated her exactly like this and it took a while for her to stop apologizing for every tiny mistake she made.
There had to be more to it than just pork chops. It sounds like they have been gradually falling apart for a while now but haven't been communicating with each other