That's like my son telling me a while back that he got a thumbs down from another driver while out instead of being flipped off. He said it hit so much worse than the finger, so now I give a thumbs down 😂
And a child that he desperately wants to get away from, too. Like my man was trying to get a hotel room to get away from his own son. Major bad vibes 💀
Exactly, thats usually one the first things people talk about when dating, is being a parent. Hes not even the "good single dad" creep stereotype, I can only imagine what other behavoirs he thinks are acceptable.
@@squirrelbugg99Just to play devil’s advocate; It is possible that he was making up wanting to get away from his kid as a convenient excuse to book a hotel room for the night.
Nah, a yellow flag maybe. Children can be a lot, sometimes parents need a little time to themselves. It doesn't mean they don't love their kid or don't take care of them. It varies from situation to situation
@KuLaydMahn I would have agreed with you if it was a very young kid, who can't sleep through the night, needs constant supervision, etc. But he said his kid was 13. My benefit of the doubt went out of the window when he said that.
And Charlie still hasn’t moved on from his failed relationship, so much so that he committed a whole year of his RU-vid career in a new meta. It’s probably a way for him to feel good about himself or something, seems like his ex DEFINITELY left him for someone else 😂
Yeah I think they’re inept at dealing with their emotions. When society calls everything but anger “emotional” an immature man or boy seems to shove it down. It’s not helping them at all when it comes to long term relos and just causes a limiting experience in life - or total instability. Wild
That is not an excuse nor is it true, the men that turn to anger and insults after rejection are the ones who are not ready for a relationship, if they cannot handle being told “no” in a healthy way then they should not be dating.
I wonder what these people do for a living. Like no way they could handle a sales or customer service job. “Would you like fries with that?” No just the burger “Look here slut you’ll eat the fries and you’ll like it!”
It's called negging, it's a pick up artist/incel meme where you try to undermine the other person's self confidence to make yourself look more desirable in comparison. It's complete pseudoscience nonsense but it especially doesn't work here when they do so by throwing a temper tantrum and making themselves look like a whiny piss baby.
Got rejected this past week by a girl I thought I was connecting with. Videos like these make me feel better that I just got sad and moved on with my life instead of having a meltdown
Same thing happened exactly to me too man, and to tell you the truth, the fact that she didn't see it that way or rejected you means that she's not worth it at all. I think connections are the best way to get into a relationship because most people normally date by looks, and relationships like these usually don't last. All I'm gonna say is, she's just like the rest of women. The fact that you can connect with somebody on such a high level and still not even go on a single date with them proves my point. I just wish some women would start dating men by their personality/connections rather than looks or status. I'm gonna tell you this brother: the girl that rejected you is probably dating an asshole and is gonna regret not coming back to you lmao.
Well to be fair I think it was the mention of a kid that put her off. She was looking for an excuse to get out once she heard that, but his awful attitude and awkward backpedaling gave her more than necessary.
I recently asked a girl to go for a movie and some dinner afterward. She rejected me, which hurt a lot, but I just said that it was okay and that i was glad to have an opportunity to speak to her. This makes me feel better. At least im not this guy.
That's a really nice and decent response. Rejection hurts, but it just means it wasn't meant to be. I'm sure you'll find a girl that likes you back :).
@@VinfromED true, those who cannot handle a ''no'' in the first place are abso fricking lutely not ready for a healthy relationship. You did good and you will undeniably find someone that likes you back bc the world ain't just one girl, you're a good guy vin.
It seems like this guy ruined his own chances by immediately proposing getting a hotel room and hooking up. It's presumptuous and creepy and sends nothing but red flags.
That's neither presumptuous nor creepy. In fact, most girls want a guy to take them to the hotel room and fulfill their fantasies; they just won't tell anybody other than really close friends because the truth would stigmatize their reputations.
I turned down a hot red head with blue eyes (fav combo) because he wouldn't quit trying to invite me over to his house at night without meeting in public first.
6:48 It’s because some guys believe the most detrimental insult to a woman is to call them “fat.” Which is honestly the mindset a 14 year old guy would have.
thats why i dont call them "fat" i just say "jump scare" at their picture and let them mald at me in chat about what that could possibly mean while I say nothing
Dude I asked a girl at school for her number after we had a pretty enjoyable conversation a couple days prior and she told me the “Phone’s not working” lie. So I just said “Okay” and haven’t talked to her since. It’s not that complicated.
Fr, people can be so childish when it comes to getting rejected. I asked this girl at work for her number this past Valentine's Day and she said she was seeing someone; I apologized to her and that's all there is to it. I feel like guys who take non-issues extremely personally tend to resent themselves deep down and project it onto other people.
@@3More140I’m a chick and I asked a guy at work if he wanted to grab drinks sometime and he very gently told me he was seeing someone:) and same as you, I apologized and moved on. This was years ago, and since then we have managed to become really good work friends who trust and support each other a lot. And I’ve met his partner now and she is the sweetest person and cute as a button:) Someone rejecting you doesn’t have to mean you lose an awesome person unless you go scorched earth 🤷🏻♀️ I think some gentlemen see that as friendzoning though and it’s sad they look down on it.
Yeah it’s not complicated to accept rejection but it’s also immature to make up fake excuses instead of being direct since it’s unclear if it’s actually a rejection. I got told that and then ghosted before I ever got a “no” lmao some people suck at communicating
@@Ty1350 yeah. I wasn’t intending on dating her, I just wanted to be friends. It’s just that as a guy in hs it’s kind of difficult to interact with girls without having them think you like them so I think she thought it was that and rejected the request. It is a little confusing though because when we had to end the conversation on Monday because it was lunch and she had a friend group to hang out with, she said “I’ll see you around” and waved goodbye and then 4 days later turns around and goes “Nah”. Tf is that?
@@mr.coffee5220 yeah I get that many girls and women are overdefensive since a lot of guys pretend to be friends when they’re expecting more but it can make it difficult to make genuine friendships with them, which especially sucks since guys without girl friends are often viewed as misogynistic creeps. Sometimes it seems like respecting those boundaries can just dig the hole deeper lmao. As for your situation, I’d say it’s best to leave it. I’ve been in your position many times and it just wasn’t worth it. In a perfect world, people would say what they actually mean but unfortunately we don’t live in a perfect world. While there’s always the possibility of the excuse being true, it’s just not worth it to continue putting effort towards people who don’t deserve it. If it’s meant to be, they’ll come back to you
I have a brother and he talked about how surprisingly easy it is to date. He said all he had to do was be nice. I told him the sad reality is a lot of guys are unable to date because they act like this.
The bar truly is in hell when common human decency is what we all be looking for in a partner. 😭 Let's just be proud of your bro for not being a mouth breather.
@@rubn5515 sincerely, don't chase people not interested in you, be a good person always (not only in front of people you're interested sexually in), know what you're looking for and don't play games (if you want to hookup don't act like you want a relationship and vice versa), learn to handle rejection. Also make yourself look desirable, if you're not a looker it is twice more important to be confident in your appearance. Good luck!!
That's because they are talking behind a screen where they know they won't get slapped across the face or called out by anyone within earshot. That and some people I knpw with this mentality went to the Boomhaur school of picking up dates
No, this was insecurity. Confidence manifests as saying, "Let's go out," and leaving it at that because you trust yourself to get what you want out of it instead of having to beg for acceptance of your ideas like this guy did.
The thing about most cringe rejections is that you can see that they are actually doing well at first but then proceed to fuck it all up with trying to sleep with them
@@KatieHuniI genuinely think they don’t understand that when a woman says no it means she does not want to and the last thing you SHOULD do is try to convince her. My current boyfriend of almost 3 who I met on tinder wanted to sleep with me, I said no let’s get to know each other better. He was respectful of that. It works! .. except for the one day I hadn’t texted him for a week and he randomly sent me an eggplant emoji. Not his finest hour. lol
are there any other girls out here with trauma who find it genuinely therapeutic to watch charlie, a super popular male youtuber with a mainly male fanbase, just look at weird creepy guys and ruthlessly make fun of them? idc how simple, repetitive, and silly these types of videos are they are so healing lol
Ego/insecurity. I've never blown up, but having been rejected before, I've gotten melancholic for a few days. I do struggle with insecurity. Confidence can take you a long way. Not arrogance--Confidence!
@@soupluvpersonally as a man i disagree just in every encounter i’ve had with men like this it’s not that they feel entitled for a women to give them their body it’s more so that they are incredibly foreign to the way you should treat and behave when interacting with someone you’re into. I can say personally with myself and all of my friends were never really taught anything in how to treat women. Women are taught a lot more because they need to be because of the dangers of guys such as the second one in this video. The thing is there isn’t many people that give good advice to young single males. It use to be through teachers and parents and now it’s gotten to influencers that give genuinely crappy advice such as men telling other men that a women should basically be their servant and on the other side women telling women their man should pay for their entire life while they do nothing. Personally i think it’s more due to naiveness and bad advice that men behave this way. I mean there’s literally a billion dollar industry that teaches young boys to objectify women and that women are nothing more than horny sluts that just want to have sex(Porn).
"Learning how to handle rejection is a necessary part of life." - Charles Christopher White Jr. I hate to admit it but I've never heard it put so plain. I've only thought of it as something to avoid!
Nah it’s not too much confidence it’s too much dumbass ignorant can’t take the hint thinking that he can get away with anything with insults it’s really sad but no empathy from me
People with low self esteem have really bad coping mechanisms. Not saying these people are inherently bad, but they need a lot of self awareness and character building to do.
In college I had an enormous crush on a girl in my major for weeks. I finally got to courage to ask her out. She rejected me. It hurt for like 5 minutes then I suddenly felt great. I stopped thinking about finally her and it felt like a weight was lifted off my mind and it made me realize that rejection is not that big of a deal. In life you win and sometime you dont
The amount of times that ive had to tell grown ass men that no doesn't mean convince me, is actually just sad. They then get upset "its not like that" then you throw in a well thats how its coming off. then ignore them after
@@jasonbrody8724 Aww did we hurt your feelings? Did you see yourself described here? Except women don't act this creepy this frequently. Charlie's addiction to DMs is entirely sustained by dudes, in case you haven't noticed. Men can learn and do better, but that would require introspection instead of the bruised ego you flaunt like a 12 years old.
From someone who handled rejection pretty badly because of a lack of social skills, here are a few tips: Thank them for being honest, and give yourself time to be sad about it. It’s not a fun experience and you’re allowed to be upset. While you’re grieving, keep contact with them to a minimum. Talking to them too much will give you too much opportunity to overshare and often ends in the person feeling on edge. If they seem uncomfortable around you, just give them space and the situation will improve with time. It hurts really badly to be looked at like a total creep, but it happens.
I would say if you still have strong feelings for someone who doesn’t like you back, I would suggest you don’t speak at all unless you have to (like at work). Do not interact with them online, no liking photos, watching their stories, DMing, etc. You need to put up that boundary for yourself to let go. The more time and energy you spend on that person, the harder it is to move on. Trying to be friends with someone you have feelings for is a disaster. I have never seen it end well. People try to convince themselves that they really just want to be friends, but deep down they’re holding onto hope that maybe the other person will change their mind. But they’ll never change their mind, and you will be tormenting yourself with false hope. It always ends in more drama and pain. Keep any necessary conversations civil and surface level. Don’t be rude ofc, they’ve done nothing wrong. You’re just protecting yourself with those boundaries to keep them off your mind. Focus on other things, then one day you’ll realize you don’t want to be with them either. (Psych major)
@@angelkat333 🤨 I'm concerned that you think it's normal to end a friendship over being denied more. It gives entitled energy, the all-or-nothing ultimatum that you didn't value the friendship if you can't have them, just truly isn't healthy. Big yikes.
what? I don't think being in a friendship with someone you like and they don't like you back would feel nice, it hurts and is very awkward, setting boundaries for yourself is good and try to overcome those feelings, hell those feelings can interfere with being friends with them and not be on the same page, I've been in a 10 year old friendship and I've had feelings for that person for few years (back then didn't know how to deal with it nor what to do) and yeah doesn't feel that nice, we are seperated due to unforeseen circumstances but it's really not healthy to be in a relationship where ones has feelings and another doesn't.@@Adelaide_Cuthbert
One of the things I've learned in life is that how you handle rejection is extremely important skill. Example (my life); I was rejected from a job at my current company, but a few days afterwards they called me and were so pleased with my resume and my interview they had a job better suited for me that literally became available soon after. Turned out the job I applied for I was too qualified for and the position was laid off. So now I make more money, have a better fit, and I wasn't laid off. That rejection helped me out. As for dating, one of my friends broke up with an ex from high school. They met each other years later and now are engaged.
I too am living proof of this. I got terminated from my last job, but I took the firing so well my supervisor petitioned to get me another job within the same company. I’ve been with the company for 5 years now and have made lots of friends along the way. Never lose your cool.
Or just never get rejected like me. Never had a woman say no before. All you have to do is ask them out while on a cruise ship. They won't say no because of the implication...
Hey Charlie, 6:30 Therapist here: people tend to turn to insults when rejected mostly fall under the "Rationalization" psychological immature defense. Human brains have a hard time dealing with rejection, so if we never learned how to deal with it in a healthy way we create "Acceptable explanation" instead of the true and painful reality. Work with these folks is a focus on self esteem and then empathy 😊
Yeah. I was once like that. But I finally got over myself and finally learned how to be a real gentleman and not a phony one. It only reaffirms their decision and just makes you look pathetic. Sometimes the greatest thing that can happen is they say No. In the grand scheme of things that’s 18 years of child support you may not have to pay.
@@Theepicgaymer69 you... you know therapists are people too, right? people with interests in who they watch and what they do? like, can therapists not watch youtube?
@@Theepicgaymer69 therapists deal with internet poisoned brains and this video is about rejection, a topic therapists engage with a lot. if you thought you had something valuable to add to a discussion then you'd probably watch a video outside of your normal range of viewing, but you can't understand that because you haven't yet experienced the feeling of having something valuable to say
i used to scroll through r/niceguys when i was in high school all the time, really appreciate you doing the leg work of finding the best/worst of the best/worst
I really think we gotta start teaching kids about disappointment and start promoting learning coping mechanisms. Being let down is like 80% of life, success is worked for.
its a cultural problem we have now, people push success like its something everyone will have, not everyone is going to be successful in life. Also desire, a lot of people are taught that you can work for anything just to be told they'll never have something or someone ever, making them feel like there not good enough or have wasted time, making them angry. I think its a big reason a lot of dudes are going to other countries for girls when it comes to this situation, also going and getting escorts or prostitutes, as then you know what your getting and can get what you want. People do get tired after a while when they get rejected, especially when its all the time and when you've wasted tons of time.
Why is this such a common recourse for people after rejection? I always feel so bad about myself that I don't want to talk to anyone, much less the person who just rejected me. I'm on the other end where I blame myself, not the person who isnt interested, so I just spend the next few days reflecting and then the next few months building my courage back up.
@@vladimirgluten781 given how often i see it pop up, it makes me wonder how often it isn't publicized when it happens. There are people who want the awareness brought to this, and then there's some who just want it to be over with and in the past. Thankfully people do bring it to light though, there are some individuals out there who could gain some insight from these behaviors.
I never really experienced rejection because I never had the courage to confess in the first place. still, if I got rejected, I would just sit and cry in my bathroom, not in their DMs.
1: Don't hype her up in your mind. Calm down son, it's just a woman. She's not that big of a deal. 2: You're going in with the goal of getting to know her and asking her out. Don't make it like this secret plan that she can't find out about. You're not "confessing" your love for her like a fantasy romance movie, you're just saying you have interest in her and want to take her out on a date. Ez. Worst case scenario she says no. 3: If she says no she says no. Getting worked up about it is just a waste of energy. Brush it off, respect her decision, and try again with someone else. Yes there will always be someone else. It's about as easy as talking to a friend.
I went through rough breakup a couple years ago, at first it was just a regular "This isn't working out, I think we should just end it and focus on ourselves" type of breakup. Then my ex attempts to get back with me, spams my number and social media, then at school hands me a suicide note, all happened during the same week. After I report it to the school in fear of their safety my ex just blames me for getting em in trouble, which was weird but it was whatever at that point. Another week goes by and I discover my ex cheated on me with 5 different people, 3 of which I knew and was friends with. Of course I had that pre-teen tantrum for a couple days but I decided to move on from it all up until my mother passed away due to suicide. Not even 2 weeks after the tragedy I heard rumors my ex was mocking and dancing on my mother's grave, and as much as I hoped it was fake, it turned out to be true. I wanted to retaliate so bad but there's really nothing that could've been done about it, so I forced myself to move on although I wish I did something about it till this day.
I'm glad you included that bc the "get ahold of yourself" response (what I imagine was also deadpan and just emotionless) cracked me up. Idk why I found that so hilarious 🤣
Regarding the "it always comes down to insults", this reminded me of a story:I had a Uni classmate that wasn't attractive, you could even say that she was ugly by today's standards. One dude thought that she would not reject him. Needless to say, she rejected him and of course he started insulting her, and when I asked him why he was trying to date her if he thought that she was ugly and stupid, he genuinely replied with "I thought I was doing her a favor since she is so ugly". So maybe this is also the case of the dude in the video:he is probably so delusional that he thinks he is doing this "fat, ugly woman" a favor by trying to date her. I wish I was joking, but things like these happen in real life
I’ve been rejected about 2-3 times in my life, 2 that I for sure will never forget but I didn’t have this kind of melt down, I took my L and moved on and learned. It is what it is, but after Highschool I got pretty good confidence and learned “how to read the room”, and it’s been good after that. Bring a positive vibe and confidence and it’ll get you far.
A lot of men think this sort of attention is flattering tbh. They're so attention starved and delusional that they think women getting deranged creeps in their DMs is flattering. It's mental.
A lot of dudes who don't take no for an answer usually at least try a different approach, this man went whole hawg and ramped up the approach that failed
I'd reply, "not anymore. I am officially undead, and I'm hungry for brains and blood. You're good on the blood, but I need to go somewhere else for brains."
I am usually a lurker when I go online, but this time I feel like sharing something. Charley has been one of the most positive influences that I have taken in. Which feels ridcules to say, but I really was verging on becoming one of these weirdoes in my younger days. This guy has been great entertainment and pretty good advise for a lot of people who were like me I imagine. I have become bored of most content on the internet but this is a channel that I keep coming back to. Keep up the good work :).
Last year I rejected somebody and it went worse than this, they spent a week insulting me, slandering my name, harrassing me, and etc. Thankfully, it fell back on top of them when people heard the full story and knew the truth. I don't understand how people can be so childish . . .
You can be sad about it, cry about it and be in general emotional pain etc but you must under all circumstances accept the no and keep to yourself after that out of respect for both the other person and yourself. I think this kind of behavior is due to bad parenting or the lack of parenting.
As someone who suffered from chronic loneliness and RSD, I was expecting secondhand embarrassment from this. Instead, I found myself scratching my head over this guy's texts. I've been socially awkward and mishandled rejection before, but never like this. I hope he gets help.
