What adolescents (or teenagers) need to thrive | Charisse Nixon | TEDxPSUErie 

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I thought that was common sense

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I can help you bc I’m bored lol 😂 and plus I like helping people

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Good for you for taking control of your life!

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"im good, son bad, i fix, son good, im hero".

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You don’t forgive your kids you accepts them

@@bryan_mancia2549 there are many times you accept, but when they take meths and stab someone... Something other than acceptance needs to kick in. You are striding hard on the road of enabling

@@bryan_mancia2549 The qualities listed are skills/traits adolescents need to LEARN and be taught, not what parents/adults necessarily do TO THEM.

This generations f*cked up cant even talk with my classmates because they are always depressed😞

@@mmapng sorry. I hope you have (acknowledging) non-parent adults in your 🌎. Maybe seek until found. Best to you on this journey lasting to brain age 25. Hang tight...does get better!

If you are here and you are fifteen, you will have a good life .

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Lisa Torkkola I agree - there’s no doubt she understands the cause-and-effect and she can identify characteristics and traits. But I was really waiting to hear specific examples rather than just emotional platitudes.

Yes, that would be very helpful. I get everything she's saying, but I don't always know how to put it into play.

Nano sounds like most of my problems.... sort of

Nano it means when that troubled adolescent sees an emotional response to them and it’s difficult for them to identify immediately go to anger and substitute that. For example, a troubled adolescent, Bill as a relationship with another adolescent named Matt. Bill and Matt I have a disagreement and Bill is made to feel that he’s let down Matt. But Bill can’t identify why Matt is disappointed so Bill assumes the maddest angry. And more than likely will assume that Matt is angry at him.

How is she now? My daughter is going through this too

Same. Single mom of 2 and my oldest has ASD, with anxiety and adhd surfacing in aggressive ways. I feel like I'm drowning just trying to keep her healthy. She is fighting me through the journey and I'm just as lost as she is

I might speak only for myself, but I don't need protecting by men. Throughout my life, I needed protecting from men, and their "masculinity". And not in the way you might think. So stop being so full of himself, and show some humility, and instead of "masculinity", strive for being human instead. Show up for people, not for "women and children". You have no idea how patronising it sounds. Women and children don't need protecting. They need opportunities to thrive, they need equal rights, they need wars to stop, they need to stop being controlled and they need to be happy. Have you ever seen a happy child? Truly happy child? That child does not need protection, because she has love.

I kinda disagree, my friend wants her man to be "masculine and protect her" but she is good at protecting herself, (as am I) so being protected is not am issue for some. I don't think it's that we need to grow up, I think we need to be responsible and those are 2 very different things. Being responsible means doing things to protect, have fun, connecting to others, being responsible is paying bills, laundry, getting outside for exercise/walks/fresh air. "Growing up" takes all the fun out of life and its supposed to be fun! You'll get more out of being alive if you connect and have more fun.

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Wow, that is surprisingly relatable and familiar, wonder where/what that is.

Lol that’s like school

Nailed it💖

That's what you are you get stuck in it

If it's fun or something they can possibly enjoy atleast for a moment that's the difference that they will always remember

Christi-Anne Is it? I feel like assuming EVERY adolescent struggles with perspective taking is rather unfair Edit: the needs part is good, but certain struggles cannot be applied to all, and it is impossible to claim that adolescents are only concerned with their phones based on some "sixth graders walking down a hallway on their phones"

Just ignore him. ☺

@@johnfortner357 That would be the vast majority of America. What Country do you live in? Also, the perspective taking is based on research...it's just the way the brain works. I refused to let my son get his driver's license at 16 because research has shown without a doubt their brains aren't developed enough to assess risk-taking behavior, etc at 16.

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Yes but we aren't learning socialising skills. It is much easier to say "I like you, Jack" over text than in real person. So they fray from the latter and go with the first option therefore not giving them the opportunity to learn and "use" confidence. I see your point. But that isn't real socializing. It is feeding an addiction. And no I'm not a 74 year old grandma that likes parenting her grand children by saying "tech = bad", no, I am a 14 year old girl who is living through it and even I know that none of this equates to real life. All this fabricated mess is making teens compare themselves to others and feel bad for any bad card they've been dealt, it is unhealthy and everyone is at fault for it.

@@xxwintermoonxx1528 Yeah, the body language parts of communication aren't learnt if you communicate by text, so whatever they could have benefitted from learning about body language when talking to someone IRL would be lost. My point was though, that this woman says they don't communicate at all. I say they do, allthough not with all parts of communication involved as you would normally assume there would be.

Dave Cullins I think what this Psychiatrist is suggesting is that young people see the Internet as a place of acceptance; self validation of their beauty, charm, popularity etc. etc. and kids crave this so much that it’s easier to go to the Internet than it is to a relationship to find this acceptance.

@@TrueBlueBoogie Yeah but this doesn't mean they don't talk to each other, like she said. My point is that they *do* talk to each other, but over the phone, and that she can't see that.

Dave Cullins good point you make. Her observation goes one level deeper. Her point is that Social Media is now winning as a good substitute for real authentic friendship. Kids can be their own ‘talent Agent’ on Snap and cast this huge aura of coolness sound themselves rather than just sit eye to eye, in front of a peer, without the flash of technology and just say, “hey this is the real me, flaws and all...what do you think?”

You can't teach it, you have to show it. If he has not been showing humility since grade school it's definitely a defense mechanism. Find out why he feels he needs to protect himself so strongly before forgiveness. Remember, these aren't personality traits he was born with, it's learned behavior from his environment influenced by his personality traits. Good luck. Light&love♥️♥️🌎☮☮

seeing someone forgive another..how often do children get directed to that process? saying sorry works when it adds in the Stand in their shoes Point of View. That is where it takes a lot of time. If parents do not talk about "Considering another" in any depth, children will just have no structure about Apologizing. We have to show apologies (be humble We made mistakes). Helps that the other person sees you Felt in order to amend your part, thus bringing the relationship back to The calm, happy state. Which is what i believe relationship Is about, you are not just doing it for temporary reasons. There was a great article about the genuine apology, taking the personality of another into account..saying more to ensure you Do not wish to repeat that sort of harm. AND (after thinking about it) speaking about how you will show more consideration. IE. I will put my wet laundry into the dryer after work/school..I will call you when I arrive at X. Purpose: the relationship between people requires updates, ways to keep them in the know, so things dont come as a surprise (WE HOPE). And of course more particular talking about Emotions, or how someone did not bring it into context (reasonably, because you both matter period). It is work, but helps to define how we can make Us sort out things, Like have health, forgive..know to add the new improved idea. That then aids in facing every day movement, planning ahead..We want it to work, RIGHT? Anyway, the apology that goes over how you want to add a Right action shows Ownership. Doing that shows the other You do that in yourself..a way to be in relationships..WIN WIN. They feel heard, responded to with plus vs minusses. Really appreciate Charisse's Overview here. Major Applause and Respect for Putting this into a Plan that is about Hope. Pscyh grad, mentor of children, survivors of traumatic brain injuries, learner about my son with a learning "differences", It takes heart and willingness to put my stuff on the side. Living with meaningful bonds is never just about ourselves...keep aiming to show You want understanding to be the Main Theme. Do the Hokey Pokey..we practised that. So Getting good at forgiving, being other oriented, not forgetting yourself, I wonder what WE Could DO!!??

Yes, I had to stop, too hard to watch. Maybe some other time...

Awesome indeed.Thank you.i soo needed to hear this

she probably had an accident.

She said she broke it so some sort of accident