The Evolution Of Modern Women's Preferences In Men - Eric Weinstein 

What mic stand is that?

You are right chris as you said Short answer: no. Modern women don't know what they want. It depends on their feelings. But their reptilian brain and reprpductive hormones tell them to follow hypergamy

Death ray incoming ... will post on the blockchain once live.

Would love to get my hands on LMNT, but no shipping to Australia. When will this be available?

The reason the current social trends contain so many seemingly self-defeating features is that they were designed by your society's geopolitical adversaries for the purpose of defeating you.

That's incredibly well put.

Facts 💯

This is very true.

Lovely to say, doesn't really work like that though does it

@@zzzzzz69 I think it would- and perhaps did for centuries- except that we live in an era when the personal has become political. Therefore, rather than becoming naturally smitten with someone many people worry about how mate selection might affect their perceived popularity among their so-called peers.

He's a fictional character

@@TogsintheWopWops-qb1ffNo, he is real. Middle-Earth is right next to Scotland. Did you not take geography bro? This is elementary school stuff.

@@TogsintheWopWops-qb1ff Being a fictionnal character doesn't make him less a masculine model for young men.

There is a massive difference between characters and reality. This is why women aren't satisfied with finding a man cause they can't tell the different between men and a character. Aragon is just a character, don't try to be him be yourself and if people don't like you it's their problem, let them deal with it.

@@kenmiles7409 I think the point is not trying to be someone else you are not, but finding inspiration in someone's virtues and good examples and trying to apply them in your own life.

We already know that

well said, my experience confirms it.

Yeah, unfortunately that's most women who don't deserve it. Showing masculine energy is tiring and a bit of a sacrifice. I'm hoping more women realise that and understand that a lot of men (me included) don't prefer to act 'masculine' all the time, we prefer to be ourselves which would include masculine energy, feminine energy and everything in between. Only if the woman is really good to me (shows me a lot of care, love, desire and is generous with it), will I put on the masculine act at the right times if she so desires me to. It's always a compromise at the end of the day.

Sensational

​@@drivethruabortion280if that was the case there would not be so many simps.

40s here too. Ignored all of that. Especially from my mum. Life is too short.

Guys aways seem 2 get better with age. 40 is like the beginning and then 50 is refinement and it just gets better. Graham Hancock, Clint Eastwood. Hot. Lol. Jordan Peterson, Eminem... hot. They weren't before. 🤷‍♂️ idk

Don't ask for people to get out of your way. Move them outta your way. You aren't asking for anything. You are acting.

100% i was coming here to say the same. Stay the course, improve yourself. The guy in the gym has a better selection of women than the guy sitting at home doing nothing to improve himself physically, additionally the guy with the European luxury car has a better selection of women than guy riding the public bus.

Absolute facts

Women are divorcing males left and right, so pay attention to that. Observe what their reasons are.

Great comment

@@OmegaSupremeWCheese If you live in central London the bus/tube/public transport makes much more sense than a car - driving a car would make you look like an idiot.

Cupcakes?

Been there, survived the experience - barely. I did learn a lot about women, in my mid 20s, however. Look at it this way: not only does your presence give women someone to blame, but more work gets done by your being there and working diligently.

@@drivethruabortion280 yes please, with icing!

@@tetedur377more work gets done with them at the home, not at work 🤣🤣. Ask Iceland when all their women went on strike how “detrimental” it was to the work force.

Psychologist Are you ?😅

I find it interesting that there can be so many different types of successful couplings. I guess we need to learn what we want for ourselves and from our partners and not just be impressionable in the age of extreme egalitarian views.

What makes you think other women are jealous?

@@wyleecoyotee4252they probably have to do the „so called“ man’s job in their relationship which causes hardship and long-Term undesirability towards their men and that’s why they could be feelings a little bit of jealousy seeing different dynamics that actual functioned throughout all human history !😂

@@KidRipable You think a woman looking after her own home would resent a tradwife? I don't see that happening.

@@wyleecoyotee4252 ask the majority of women in the world they might as well tell you that they not necessarily want to resent their own home for the rest of their lifetime instead of moving into men made home including „feminist biasism“.

@@wyleecoyotee4252 look at the kind of things women say to each other on content that promotes that lifestyle for women. some of them consider it a betrayal of the sisterhood to have a healthy relationship with a man. they'll say things like you're "setting us back 50 years" by cooking dinner and cleaning the house

I've noticed time and time again that the biggest thing that women want is to have what _OTHER_ women want.

@@johng3029I see, it's the hive mind. Good luck on not being stung by any of those "bees."

@tomsmith6513 I fortunately found a great girl but I agree women think in a very collectivist sort of way, men tend to value competition and independence more

Really? Since the beginning of time? References?

Or more importantly, tell men that they want nice, kind gentlemen to see who will comply and who are the ones who are the natural alphas who won't.

Mike? Their names are Chris and Eric. You are so arrogant! Lol. 😉

Outward brash ambition is not a good trait and people respond poorly to it. What people like is competent ambition but the line between them can be very fine and open to perception. To one group an ambitious person can be seen as a leader and to another group that person can be seen as a controller.

I was one of those until I realized I was just being jealous of someone's motivation that I didn't have at that moment... I started to seriously self reflect, read about stoicism which changed my entire outlook & now I am becoming the best version of myself while encouraging everyone I meet to read Marcus Aurelius "Meditations" the Gregory Hayes edition & "Outtwitting the Devil" by Napoleon Hill.... Your entire mind will shift...❤🙏 Life is beautiful now everywhere I go & road blocks are amazing lessons that I no longer dread... I feel everyone just needs to eat better, work out daily & read books that resonate, taking notes & journaling along with waking up daily & going to sleep, being grateful for everything in your life... Everything will start to change....🤗

Ambitious or ass kissers to the boss and snitch on everyone to earn brownie points?

Don't be beta why would you let weak people destroy your confidence? Be a man get in the gym, read your Bible, stop wasting you time on things that are stupid like video games, and when you go out in public walk with authority. Your life will change.

The new words just keep coming. I gotta remember these. 😄

I'm not sure if it's that specifically, I think it's more of a general status thing. No one wants to be low status, and being a stay at home mom is seen as low status. Being a mom is a lot of work done in the dark and only they and their families see the fruit of the labor. No one is going onto a podcast showing off the results of their great parenting skills. The other thing is, they don't want to have to rely on a man, but they want a man they can rely on. There's a difference of being dependent and choosing to depend on someone.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@cokebottles6919 Women want their cake and eat it too. What's new.

I don’t know any women around me that are afraid to say that.

I used to both bowl and play darts - like, league and tournament play. I was better at both for having played against some of the top names in those sports, and when I played in tournaments, I played at unbelievable levels, both in partnership and against major league players. I never was, and never will be at their level. That's not even a fantasy. But having those role models upped my game overall to where I could hold my own and often beat other non-elite bowlers and darters.

​@@tetedur377 Well said

@@tetedur377and that, my friend, is worth more than gold

I don’t agree because a lot of the things we consider elite are arbitrary. Like most sports, like acting, like music. It’s arbitrary and random luck that society decided to have a popular game of football instead of hockey. That’s why I don’t respect “elites”, their “skill” just happens to be valued in society arbitrarily. But being good at kicking a ball isn’t innately elite

The only problem I've ever seen with elitism is when an elite perceives their existence as common because their perception of reality becomes distorted. Other than that it's usually fine.

I hear you brother.

This is so much better than every other comment here. I fear that these kinds of podcasts are pressuring men into thinking that money equals happiness and women won’t love them without it. There is (thankfully) so much more to life.

@@maxhobbs5512 money does not equal happiness but you will never make it to happiness without it if you are growing up in the USA. Life is all about competition. Take any depressed man, give him a Ferrari, a hot girlfriend who adores him and a purpose - the “depression” will disappear instantly. Being a man is about keeping all parts of your life under check. Fitness, family, friends, wealth and intelligence. If you miss any one of those things you are a lesser man for it. You could take the most successful man in the world, but if he’s not fit, with a great friend group and happy family around him - he’s just another rich dork.

I live in Washington state and see this first hand with all the tech dorks here. Sure they are rich but they are still borderline women with how they act and hold themselves. I’m moving up the ranks and things are changing very quickly for me. I am fit, 6’5, friendly, smart, intelligent and also dangerous. 4 years ago I was nothing like this and just another dork. I’ve slowly leveled up in every part of life and the way people act towards me is noticeable. Just driving around a 6 figure car and getting out of it arouses mystery and interest. If you are a high tier man in this society you can make it very far and achieve things you couldn’t even imagine. It’s all about drive and putting in so much work people think you are crazy.

@@mayeramschelrothschild3126you forgot to add how humble you’ve become as well. 😂

A lot of men do nothing of the sort. Most may look back at the mistakes but they will absolutely view the success with rosy tinted glasses. Only a small fraction who went too far such as those with compulsive behaviours may have regret or men who had a catastrophic event or decision turn against them have regret. The men that have no family are the most likely to have regret.

As a man you don't need a family. You just need kids ​@@Art-is-craft

​@@Art-is-craftmost do when their death bed is by themselves because they don't have any relationships lol. Older men are always trying to buy back their youth what are you talking about.

No one lays on their deathbed and says "I wished I had spent more time at work"

@@seemlesslies those men who sacrificed everything for a successful career, will always have a leech or two trying to snatch that last pearl

This is actually a great comment. 100% true.

Bingo.

Only one addition: and all three of those things change constantly…throughout the month.

Don't watch the mouth, watch the hands -Peter B Parker (Spider verse)

@@kc6810 oh no, they definitely want the top 10%, if you arent one of those dudes you arent even human to them, just a thing to be exploited, and they wont think twice about doing it.

I'm curious, what did you write in your profile exactly? Just that you're a good mechanic, enjoy camping, know your way around a toolbox, etc?

lol! I also facepalmed

@@theunhedged Not so direct as that - I had pictures of my jeep (it has a built on hot outdoor shower for the beach and a bbq attached to the back, since replaced with a pizza oven) and just commented that I did all the work myself (my jeep is pretty awesome lol), pictures of what I like to do... pictures of me at the beach, surfing, on a farm, sculpting (which is one of my hobbies) and playing banjo. In the text I was very, very direct, one of the paragraphs reads "Let me lead with confidence, I enjoy positive masculinity in all things. I love organising events, picnics, cooking, being a strong and validating listener. I like to take charge both in life and when we're alone and intimate together. Let me be the secure embrace that empowers and recharges you." Edit: these things are all true by the way, I wasn't trying to scam anyone...I do like being the person my partner can lean on and all the other stuff :)

@@theunhedged I would also point out, I thin one of Chris's past videos talked about that a huge percentage of women seek a masculine and dominant guy but a far smaller percentage of men are comfortable in that role meaning those that are get very sought after.

​@aPeaceOfAdam you wrote you love ORGANISING picnics, COOKING, you're a good listener..... and you matched that with muscly looking pics when doing farm work, surfing and car work (your jeep). I don't think you realise this is VERY FAR from being the "average bloke" :D most guys, especially city ones, Don't have any idda how to fix a car, do not do farm work and..... mostly 99% of red pill will say "never in my life i'd touch the kitchen cause that's a woman's job" and "and she should shut up and give me peace, i don't need to hear about how hard her day was". So basically, you're a unicorn!

You have got to choose on the basis of character. Seeking men with achievements and who state their character traits and are open about them.

If you can't find one you're very likely not what a masculine man is looking for

"Women become the men they want"

​@jayc342009 And its gross

Yeah now u know what men are always expected to do, being the 'man' in a relationship does generally suck and leave you with the shorter end of the stick nowadays... As a man, I think I've only ever felt okay playing the 'mens' role a couple times within one of my relationships because I truly loved the girl and I was her first. Problems happened when I felt that she didn't show me enough care, love or desire so resentment built on my end which ruined the relationship. Honestly I'd wish I didn't have to play the 'men' role but in relationships where the woman deserves it, I'll do it for her to make her happy.

​@@kc6810 Serious question. That's just your opinion which I respect but how do you know what the majority of women today want all over the U.S?

NO I am not on the pill and I hate beards and body hair, yuck. But I like masculine men with big muscles, large shoulder, strong hands, large jaws and deep voice, and I like to look up at my man, meaning he's taller than me :)

@@kc6810Almost all women, including me, want to look up to their husbands. It’s the only way for us to respect and love them. Women who claim otherwise are too brainwashed by feminism and share one braincell with their like-minded friends.

​@kc6810 If you don't look up to your husband you don't look at your husband at all.

I never noticed a change whether my wife was on hormonal contraception or not; she likes me clean shaven either way.

Society is so celebrity driven. Even being a teacher or professor puts a person on display where others develop crushes on them. It appears where ever a person is put on display at a non threatening distance, enables another to access their attributes, possibly making them desirable. Women watching construction workers do their thing or a surgeon, etc will impress them. Many musicians have been asked, "why did you become a musician, or join a band?". Many answer the same, "to get the girls.". Many straight women like masculine men and many are looking for other types. As there are many different types of females and so on in today's society. Some aggressive and not so aggressive. If you want to meet someone with high standards then you must be aware of where you would find them. But very little is normal today. With the introduction of tvs with mega channels, home computers and other devices, people are more isolated and lonelier than ever. My heart goes out to anyone still searching for that someone special. As they say, 'many a mistake has been made in he wake of loneliness.''. And as the Chinese say, 'Life without love is a slow death'. The best to you all!

You shouldn’t need to prove all that to get a date. All you need to get the date is some balls. See a woman you like, start up a conversation with her then ask her out. Not hard if you don’t care about getting shot down. How do you do that? To answer a question with a question, why is it that you don’t experience “approach anxiety” when you start up a conversation with a man? Get it? Don’t start a conversation with a woman with the intention of getting a date. Start a conversation with a person that happens to be a woman just like if you start a conversation with a person that happens to be a man. The sex of the person should be unimportant otherwise it will come off as creepy, needy, validation seeking, etc. If you do this, instead of looking like you are seeking their approval and your self esteeem is based on you getting it or not (ie. weird and creepy) you can treat the interaction as a test of whether or not she is worthy of your time and continued persuit of a sexual encounter. But again, that is not the goal of starting the conversation just as it isn’t when you start a conversation with a guy you don’t know. If she engages you genuinely and facilitates the conversation in a jovial manner then she’s receptive. Any other reaction and she’s not. And if not then politely end the interaction. Now you can move on without feeling rejected because you weren’t seeking her approval. But you did find out something about her attitude and that disqualifies her to you. Win win. Now, if she did respond positively then keep it up. Continue the interaction the same way you would with a man. As long and the conversation is flowing in a positive direction then don’t derail it. But as soon and the conversation slows down, as it naturally should, or if there’s an awkward moment of silence, or if you just need to end it because you got your coffee and need to get back to band practice or whatever you are doing that’s more important, that’s when you need to pull the trigger. This is the point where it all changes and you no longer treat this like you would if it was a man you were taking with. You got to switch from a friendly conversation with another person to a masculine man in pursuit of, ultimately, further interaction with her of a sexual nature. Should be easy to get the first date now and she didn’t need to see you performing for her attention. And the fact that you have an artistic ambition will be something that naturally comes up next time you see her. Plus it will increase her attraction to you so you are practically guaranteed a second date. You don’t know how well set up you are my friend. Now all you got to do is find your balls. 😂 Good luck mate

Women are not interested in men’s personal hobbies or preferences. They are more focused on stability and character because it is much more impactful to their existence than a man’s love of music or arts.

I'm proud of you and your courage.

The social proof can only come from someone in her social circle, unless your an "super cool or important" person like a rocker/ celebrity/government official. Therefore the average guy needs to try to talk and make friends with other men or women who have friends that are single. Essentially a social network needs to be created for social proof.

💯

Bingo.

Less about women's wants and more about women's don'ts.

Woman are happier in their place and society thrives.

@@holysquire8989 Women are never happy. At best, they are less unhappy.

Facts.

yeah just don't be a loser

Not only every man, every woman too. If a woman wants to be a homemaker (raising kids) and a supportive wife, she should strive to constantly improve and do better at that. I don't think this is a gendered thing. As a man I'm also looking for women who put in their all in whatever they do and aren't sitting around not doing much.

@@adelb7897 You made a strong point there sir, couldn’t have worded it any better!

Don't give everything you have to any corporation. They will work you to death and just replace you. Hard work really just gets you a sore back, that's my experience. The promotion will go to somebody's niece or nephew. 😊

I agree a 100% but also his opinion is true for a lot of people.

These pseudo Alpha motivational channels cause widespread humiliation and the erosion of dignity in most males. Most work hard but never get on. If we all got on society would collapse because no one would be valued by doing the drudgery jobs. Career and professional status are fed by the illusions of gaining happiness through consumption. Individualism above a functioning communal society, community. When our ‘advanced’ Western societies have provided the basics, at affordable prices, for their entire populations, we will deserve the term successful. For now that ideal is ridiculed by the bankrupt free market ideology which states that the trickle down of relative success will solve everything. All that’s accomplished is a middle where avarice thrives but virtual signalling altruism for its own images benefit evades that. That ethos places value on all these motivational channels encourages, success for the individual, with philanthropic capitalist altruism creating avaricious profits. Happiness isn’t by success as the only metric where it’s relative attainment is measured by materialistic consumption, buying things, or emotional consumption, buying experiences. You can’t buy happiness in either form. The sooner the silent majority revolt against the vociferous minority pushing that idiocy, the better.

Nope, he’s got a wife and kids.

​@@user-up3dj3dh5edo you have a family if you're working 60-80 hours a week and you spend no time with them? At the start of the postcast he called those men insane and then worships them in the same 15 mins. This makes no sense.

@@seemlesslies Eric is not interesting in the family aspect. He is talking about how American society is losing edge and is lacking the kind of people with insane ambition and unusual values/skills that propel us forward especially technologically. Although I personally think his perspective is flawed, as the improvement of technology is not always something that we need.

emotions and intelligence are two separate things.. Feminist lingo

@@spiff1 No it means being aware and intelligent enough to actually be able to read a another human beings emotions and know how to respond and temper your own behaviors to be considerate of them, as well as being self aware enough to know how your actions and emotions effect others... Intelligent person lingo...

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@@kc6810 Yep, imagine never having heard of "emotional intelligence''... A psych phrase, not exclusive to feminism.

@@kc6810 I know.

You can still do a trade if you are you enough. What field do you work in. It sounds like engineering.

@@Art-is-craft His post sounds like bs tbh.

@@sup1e no regular racism. the real racism that allways is against white people. wha t sounds bs to you is the concept of people working hard

Sadly, virtue and values are not required in a world where it is easier than ever to sleepwalk through life.

Shooting guns are for people that can't fight

That's real confidence.

Raw ambition doesn’t have to be

ambition in comunistic west bhahah

Nope. It shouldn't be suppressed though but that is a different thing.

Women who lived before the late 20th century didn't need to rely on themselves. Somehow the human race survived for thousands of years despite women not relying on themselves and men getting into trouble, screwing up, dying, going to jail, going bankrupt or not being around, etc. Things were worse then and yet, we got through it.

Women do not seek weak men that sit around talking about their inner feelings. Nor do they want psychopaths. Women seek men that have character and are stable.

I appreciate your thought-out tangent, it legitimately pinpoints some things that I need to think about in a better way. Trying to balance my individual wants and needs with the collective wants and needs of others has caused a great source of confusion in my life. I think a lack of love and affection has led me to seek out many things that I don't truly want or need.

@@meme6335 You ‘re welcome, just expressed my thoughts on these prevalent discussions. Best of luck with your life.

​@@Beesoyou can tell the entire talk is just elitist ranting without any real fore thought into the complexity of how society works. He calls the men that work extreme hours insane and then tells you to worship them. He says we need to build better men for a women acting like a man? What? This dude makes zero sense.

I agree, great comment.

learned helplessness is bad for both men and women

Timestamp? I missed it

9:05

The same goes for men... But in current times men need the feminine more than the feminine needs the masculine. Men are looking for the feminine in the outside world, but women insist on being masculine or just not being there at all for them. So men have to integrate the feminine inside themselves. Only way. With men integrating the feminine I don't mean "be gay" or "be trans" or whatever, but look for the feminine aspects of your consciousness and tap into that, while simultaneously retaining your basic masculinity.

Actually that's not true

It's not short term because the woman leaves the bad boy, it's because he leaves her. Women sure love writing about obsessed, possessive, aggressive bad boys that fall in love with them forever in their romance novels.

You typed a ton and said very little.

@@alexieyevcasanova7898 And you said absolutely nothing.

@@unapologeticanti-feminist3205 I think there's some nuance to your first point. Yes, it's typically the bad boy that leaves rather than the woman doing it. But I think the women who typically fall for the bad boys in the first place and actually try to be with them are broken. They are the ones who try to fix the bad boys. The healthy and stable women don't even go for the bad boys. Or when they do, they don't stay. Not to say the stable ones aren't attracted or tempted but they know better to not to stray into temptation. Much like how some men know better than to try for the crazy broken women. Some still do, but a lot don't.

⁠Sure, the guy can leave too. Doesn’t really matter who leaves. The romance novels are also short term ‘bad boy’ attraction. They then become the ‘good guys’ the girls wanted to begin with. It’s a fantasy I guess. Not really my thing. Kinda like the fantasy of porn 🤷🏼‍♀️ Both a romanticized version.

Yes.

There are very few women in actual power. Any that do make it in government tend to have either competence or are put into power by a cohort of men.

You are.. just find a better system

​@@maitri98when men's shelters can be boycotted by feminist activists, it's fair to say that the system is rigged against men that need help.

@@robertstan9733absolutely . Whenever we get to this state of men just saying NO to anything ….that will be an absolutely scary time . Men not holding back . All laws would halt , society would change and men and women would know there roles very quickly

Because better men... will want better women naturally. That will take _significantly_ more work, especially in the era of "all women are perfect even if they're shy of meh".

@@robertstan9733 Okay.. I am not saying if the system is rigged or not as I do not live in the same system as u do. I am saying there are other systems in the world that exist. You all either need to get together n try to improve the one u have got or abandon the cycle of misery.

cos u dont understand how averages and generalisations work - youre an absolutist

This is true. I think it is more important to understand who is attracted to us as we currently are and ask ourselves if we like the result or if we want to do something to change the outcome. That's the only control we have over our own situation. Getting mad at the other gender for not being how we'd like doesn't get us anywhere.

@@spiff1 you see, none of these buff masculine men that advocate that really what women want is basically themself, I.e. buff masculine men, actually present any data for their “women want…”, “men think…” or “people are…” statements. No data from studies, no link to studies, how big sample sizes were and how strong of a correlation that was detected. A weak correlation will not help the majority of men and women trying to find a partner. The good old saying correlation does not imply causation is good to keep in mind here. And thank you for proving my point about labelling and filling each other into compartments based on our own biases!

Biology and instincts are central to male and female existence. Women judge men on character and stability, men judge women on feminine traits and agency. In hunter gather human tribes women required males to be good at hunting and capable of defending them, males judged females on the ability to gather food and to raise the family. Without these traits humans would not exist today. And those traits are still emanating from biology.

@@apatheliac It depends on how far you go back. Hunter gatherers would have been purely based on physicality. Remember we are not taking about fake steroid men but men who proved through their actions.

A society of utter success would be a total disaster. A society of mutual respect would be total heaven. It’s not everyone’s purpose to get on. For most it’s getting by. The biggest destroyers of masculinity are the successful. Enter the female success through equalling up and most males now have two humiliations to their core dignity, successful men and successful women. The best strategy is to pity those who must have it and do it all for they must be constantly filling an internal void that’s impossible for them to bear.

You haven’t been successful in putting yourself in other people’s shoes and or looking around at the world and wondering why it is so broken. Those two things would help you understand and are more important than 3 of the things you listed as being professional at:

@@shasmi93 and I’d humbly add the at I am a professional empath. That has brought me much pain and heartache over the years.

you are completely right about you're third point. you should read the book called women have better sex under socialism.

​@@anonanon7553I would just like to point out......that she used eastern and western germany as her study points......nothing else needs to be said. Imagine actually trusting a single publication coming from Eastern Germany about human well-being.

This is more important than it seems to most people, but here's a proof of how important good fathers are for children. You were raised with a good masculine model so you knew what to look for. On the flip side, I spend my 20s chasing women like my mother just to realize she was a selfish blackhole of victimhood. Now i flee those like the plague, but i lost a good chunk of my young adult life trying to build a castle on sand...

​@overtaker12 Possibly everything happened the way it needed to? You could now help teach younger men what not to chase, from what you went through with your experiences... There is always an upside to a downside... If you haven't found the one, just focus on you & she will appear.. There are still alot of good women out there... Someone told me stop fucking with peasants & wait for your king... Same as for anyone I believe vice versa... Just focus on becoming the best you with confidence & humbleness... Watch what happens...

​@@loveme77527 Ah yes, the "everything happens for a reason" mentality. Nice feeling, but very naive and main character syndrome kind of view of the world in my opinion. I would never DARE tell someone victim of abuse of ANY kind that it "happened for a reason". "the is always an upside to a downside".... what a empty series of words.... no, there isn't always in real life. Sometimes a rapist get away and the victim dies, sometimes millions of jews are gazed cause of some lunatic on Meth who wanna pin all the evils of the worlds on them. thinking the world is a place who always rewards those who deserve it is a nice feeling, but a lie... Unless you think it was worth it for them to die so we could learn a lesson? witch would be even more twisted... I won't keep going cause I think I made my point, but your fortune cookie phrases might make you feel better, but they aren't the reality nor are they helping anyone. I am doing better and building myself up, but i almost offed myself before that... You did say something true in all that though, there are still a lot of good women out there and I hope i can be so lucky as to find one.

We all want strong, principled loyal partners.

It's not your problem. Just walk away. Walk away from the situation. Let it be someone else's problem.

I think there's some truth in that.

They are getting better grades without quotas. Truth is they are better achedemic learners than men on average and that is what is demanded by society these days.

For example, “work-life balance.” It entirely comes from women in the workplace. And what it means is LESS WORK. It does not mean balance. I’ve seen the concept evolve from its inception to where it is today, which now entire generations have adopted as not only meaning less work, it means less loyalty to work, less teamwork, less group cohesion. In sum, a crappier workplace.

@tommyrq180 I think you'll find the opposite to be true. The truth is, childcare and household are often the responsibilities of 2 working parents. If men never had a taste of rearing children and having to do a job simultaneously, then they would not have had the insight to consider work-life balance. This is especially true since the managers in decision-making realms tend to be men. While the government requires tax paying females too, maternity leave was adopted. Childcare costs often offset professionals to take jobs with lesser hours and poorer pay. This avoids giving away money they earned for someone else to spend time with their kids. Take the financial deficit and the priceless time. Wasted minds in dead-end jobs.

@@katiemcdonald5988 This is all unsupported assertions, essentially propaganda. There has always been excuses to work less, to be mediocre, even in male-dominated workplaces. But men won’t put up with it. And the PURPOSE of work is to benefit the company-for them to make money. You get rewarded for that or the company generally does not thrive. Work-life balance has gone well beyond “I have to do childcare too.” It’s a feminist “we want to work less and be paid the same” concept. In today’s companies, policies are NOT made mostly by men-they are utterly dominated by female-dominated HRs and female-dominated policies. And do ALL women in the workplace have children? No! But they ALL want “work-life balance” and are willing to lobby for it and gain policies that reward it-ALWAYS, and I mean always, at a cost to mission accomplishment. What is missing here is MISSION ACCOMPLISHMENT. Getting the job done, and done right! When you see yourself as entitled, you could care less about whether the company thrives. That’s what work-life balance means-it means not competing, not thriving, not advancing, not profiting. And not just feminists, but today’s feminized generations, not only could care less about profitability or mission accomplishment, they take it as a badge of iconoclasm to work against it. That is what work-life balance means. Doing less, complaining more, being more self-centered, and not work or group-centered. That has been my experience being in the workplace for over 40 years. That is my “lived experience…”

I'm not sure most people know what they want.

This was said by a female that does not let the male lead. As usual. And even if you're right, it's you paying the price for the other 10 women he tried to lead and wouldn't let him lead before he met you. And women are not showing any signs of changing, but to maybe become more masc.

@@grantwithers I bet the moment the man starts to lead this little "lady" the battle starts.

you aren't worth protecting anymore.

What is toxic masculinity?

@@Art-is-craft Lying, cheating, manipulating, taking advantage of, scaring, self-righteousness, bossing, etc with an air of having the right to do it all, because of traditional masculine roles of domineering unreflectingly. If a woman does these things with an air of that she is entitled to it because she is one of the so called weaker sex - that is toxic femininity. There is positive masculinity and positive femininity, too, in opposite to the negative traits above. These are more dependent on subjective taste - stick to your variety.

I would advise reading and studying Machiavelli. It may help you to temper your self so that others do not react in a negative way.

Agree !!!

Different strokes for different folks.

I agree to some degree. You'll never be happy if you aren't content with who you are as an individual, period. However, to say friendships are overrated is misguided. Building a true community, not just a network of people, is one of the best things you can have to enhance your life. I didn't know the difference between those two things until I reached my 30's. People are depressed these days because there's less and less genuine community out there.

Not Marxism, its all a result of Christianity

It's simple Marxism, which leads to Communism indeed. It's that simple. You're completely right.

Calling every problem Marxism isn't really an argument.

Vulnerability with women doesn’t mean using them as your therapist. Vulnerability with women means stating and living by your principles, letting the chips fall, and being willing to let her go if she can’t live with them.

You are 100% correct?