What's An Unpopular Opinion That You Have About Parenting That Might Make A lot Of Parents Mad? 

Unpopular opinion: YOUR 👏KID 👏IS 👏NOT 👏YOUR 👏BEST 👏FRIEND. Stop venting to them you are literally traumatizing them for life.

THANK YOU US OLDER CHILDEREN ARE NOT BABYSITTERS WE CANT JUST WATCH THEM WHENEVER!! (0:33)

The last one is true. I had a boy that all through early elementary school would shove me to the ground or throw basketballs at my head . He knew what he was doing because he would yell catch or tag before he hit me. Teachers would tell me he just played rough or he had a crush on me. Then one day he hit my head against a brick wall. Turns out that there was violence in the home and since (in his words) I was a small girl he knew he could hurt me and he wanted to feel big and strong for once. He found me on Facebook just to apologize for hurting me all those years ago and formally asked for forgiveness. Parents, resolve your own issues or trauma because you will pass it on whether you realize or not.

Yes, eating everything on plate is ridiculous. Just put the food out on the table and allow them to get the amount of food they want to eat. This is why there is so much obesity now. Push away from the table. Eat as little or as much as you like.

I agree about the food thing. She’s completely right.

these opinions would only upset bad parents 😂

Completely agree with the mum of all boys...3 strikes and you're out regardless of gender

I have 5 children and none of these upset me I totally agree, kids are humans if you just talk to them they will usually understand or try

Keep the same energy when you have a a kid. Remember it's not your parents job to watch your kid.

1. You don’t know your kid better than they know themselves. 2. Strict parents don’t teach kids to behave, they teach them to lie and be secretive. 3. Kids don’t owe you anything because they were born. 4. There are no instances where hitting should be an acceptable punishment. 5. You signed up for a kid, not a mini me. They’re gonna develop their own personality and beliefs, and you might not agree with them, but that’s what you signed up for. 6. Don’t have more than one kid if you can’t handle siblings fighting. Siblings will fight no matter what. (I have 3 siblings) 7. Phones are a privilege, but privacy is a right. Distrusting your kids without reason is never a good idea.

Unpopular opinions I have about parents: 1. Non wealthy people shouldn't have kids. 2. Don't feed your kids food they dislike 3. No exposing secrets out loud as a punishment. 4. Parents shouldn't embarrass their children. 5. You shouldn't invade your children's privacy, and go through their history.

Letting me eat all types of veggies despite my protests of not liking them made me now a person who can adjust and eat without making a fuss. Thankfully, no harsh actions were taken by parents, a simple and strict voicing as asian parents are, I would eat. Dont make it an issue out of not eating vegetables and give trauma, you just dont want your child grow up as bear child and become too accustomed that any point of life,they would not be able to adjust.

I agree with the forcing your kids to finish food or punishing them when they don’t…. It’s traumatic for them and can be a huge contribution to any issues they may develop in their adultlife

I am a mother of two, my kids are 6 years apart. I agree wholeheartedly with all of the statements in this video. Kids need to be loved and encouraged not scared into submission. They are as unique as any other person and need to be treated as such.

That one time my mom forced me to finish my food and stop complaining it turned out I was allergic lmao she was so scared when my lips started to swell. Never forced ever again

Even though I’m a middle child I still need to look after my younger and older brother

I’m keeping all of these things in mind for when I’m a parent

The food one is extremely relatable for me. When I was young, I was never allowed to be full, and I had to eat the same amount the adults ate. As you can imagine, as a tiny child, an adult portion was WAY too much for me, and if I got half way through a meal and complained of being too full to eat more, I was told "you don't leave the table until your plate is clear, there are children starving in the world, don't be so ungrateful". Now, as an adult, I still struggle with pacing myself while eating and knowing when to stop. I frequently eat too much and make myself ill because by the time I start to actually feel full, I've already overeaten to the point of an upset stomach. At this point, I'm having to eat meals out of small serving bowls just to make sure I don't overeat and get sick. Stop force feeding your kids, it creates either bingers, or they go the other way and become terrified of food.

1:40 I didn't realize this was a problem for me until this year though. I will eat something I don't even like in its entirety as a 27 year old adult, but I'm quick to tell my 7 year old ill make him something else like a sandwich if he doesn't like what I've made. Becoming a parent has made me face some trauma I didn't know I had.. yeeeee

I feel there are exceptions to some of these opinions. First, how many of them are given by actual parent and not former kids who hold beef from their parents parenting styles? Cos you realise that over time, you actually be appreciate those hard lessons. I'm glad my parents made me watch my young ones. Not all the time but especially when the alternative was just to have a good time and watch tv. As a parent now, it's easy for me. I don't get easily flustered especially when it comes to handling my kids and spending time with them. It thought me responsibility. To choose what is needed over what I want. It also taught me to live with consequences not live my life with out caring how it affects others. All these may seem harsh but you bring up responsible adults who do not run at the first hint of stress in jobs and relationships. Now, some parents take things too far and I do not condone that. Not a popular opinion but hey, you know why your spouse let after years of marriage cos he or she had some mid life crisis? Cos their parents did not teach them to stick through things for the greater good. They let them do what they pleased as long as they were happy. Being happy is good but when you always think of your happiness alone irrespective of who you hurt, that's a problem. We are raising a generation that feels they owe no one anything, not even basic courtesy but feels the world owes them everything on a gold plate. All these trainings begin at home. Do your chores even if you don't want to, help around the house, yes, respect your parents even when they seen agitating. It's called self control. You have kids some day, and see that you'll not always be the perfect parent and will not always have the perfect kids. But you keep working on yourself. And you know how people learn to work on themselves even when it's tough? By having parents who taught them to do so through encouraging them to clean, do chores, study, take that extra class, work on a talent. Like I said, some parents take it way too far, true. But when you have the other extreme of parents who just let you do what you want when you want, that's also a problem.

Dad: *glares at me for eating 1 piece of cake* Also dad: gets mad when I talk about feeling like I shouldn’t even eat anymore. BECAUSE OF HIM

My mom had a rule about food: you have to at least try it before you say you dont like it. If you dont like it, fine you dont have eat it. Theres no point in having it on the plate if its not going to be eaten. However, you have to try it again later when it's made differently because you might like that flavor better. We grew up really poor so wasting food wasn't an option but mom always tried her best to make an alternative.

Everyone has a nose piercing!

This video is full of awesome, caring people and of really good advices.

Therapy won't always work for everyone.

3:12 how i got to have multiple personalities, cptsd and other disorders due to trauma :)

I pretty much agree with all of this.. but especially the food thing.. my dad was raised by parents who were raised by parents who went through the great depression and was instilled in him to never waste food. I had to finish everything on my plate. I even remember eating a TV dinner and I was full and threw it away but my dad dug it out and made me finish it.

Ouuu spill this tea!!! I hope there have more of this!! A thread!!!

I am sending this to my mom right now

This is all so true!

Aaand I agree with them all

When your parent done all these things to you growing up .... 👁👃👁 👄

That last girl gets it!

Vid # 3 ...black-eyed peas...as a adult I love black-eyed peas with hamhock.nom nom nomm.... lol @ rock your daughters cht...

wait... wtf was she on about equating forcing your kids to finish their food to trauma??? do you even know what trauma means?? istg people are just throwing this word about now like it's nothing. almost everything is 'traumatic'. you think forcing a child to eat their food is traumatic? then what about beating them up? how can you put those two on the same pedestal? sure if the former involved beating and punishment then it can be traumatic, and I agree that it's wrong either way but if we make everything out to be 'traumatic' then we're focusing on the wrong areas. just my opinion. also the second girl about babysitting, that's just selfish. and bitch, who said anything about "living in their house rent free?" you kidding right? your parents ask _you_ to look after your younger siblings because they fucking _trust you_ over some stranger, you obviously dont deserve that trust nor your baby siblings to be honest if you continue on with this mindeset. they're _your_ siblings for gods sake, so yeah, it's god damn well YOUR responsibility to take care of them when your parents aren't around or busy. jeez.

now i realize my parents are awsome.

5:44 Yess1!!!!!! Thats what Ive been saying!! Its the environment and sometimes includes the nurture!! To heal and go soft in a rough environment is not good for you. To heal the environment and let it rebuild from the foundation. Can have a drastic change on the kids, its people!! This is my life's purpose. Its the system. Its the parents. Hence why kids should unlearn bad habits and relearn better habits, when they are safe. Especially before having kids --- Hence why society constantly rushes/pressures adults to have kids. Its hard to heal from your childhood when raising a kid. Hard but not impossible. But made harder when the environment/surroundings youre in also condone this bad behaviour and suppress your good intentions. You have to acclimate to your environment one way or another for survival!!! Yes Yes Yes !!! This!!! Sometimes everybody knows and they just passs the bucket and its like we need to heal that. "Get to the root of the understanding" "due diligence" while "not leaning on our own understanding" And not everyone wants to heal, some people just want to act. Your Quarter Life Crisis (at and around 25) is for healing from childhood trauma. Unlearning and relearning new and better habits. In your early 20's youre like a kid in a candy store, because you have to obey only like your rules. You have freedom, you feel like your in charge, its to go out there and try stuff. Lead with your best foot forward. But 25 you have some of that experience plus living in your own environment. 25 You can reflect with experience on how you wanna go forward. Yes Yes Yes Yes, To all of this!! It feels nice to have it confirmed. It feel likes to feel validated. Even though she never heard me say it. It feels nice to know I'm not the only one; who thinks this way!!!!! Yes Yes Yes Yes!!! Right on Sis. XOXOXOXOXOXOOXOXOXOXOXO

0:30 I actually think this could be good if the older siblings got paid. It could help teach them about jobs and responsibility.

My husband pisses me off because I feel as long as the chores are done I don't care if it takes her all day. She's wasting her own free time dragging her chores out, she can fix that with time management.

1:43 yeah I thought this was full of shit because she use the word trauma But you know what? I do have a binge eating disorder and yeah it does like specially route from being told that I must always finish everything on my plate. And so now I literally struggle with trying to finish *everything* Even if I cook enough for *multiple meals* Because I made it that means I must eat everything in this pot, right now all in one sitting.

It is not your oldest kids responsibly to watch your kids!!!

My only goal in life is to be nothing like my parents.

Listen. If a kid says “I’m full.” And then asks for dessert they are clearly NOT full and only said that to get sweets. Tv is a privilege and sweets are privileges they are not a necessity in life being taken away, it’s not gonna give them trauma. If I beat my kid for talking, something that they need to do, then that is trauma. You, lady, are a grown baby.

The older siblings should watch the younger siblings if the parents want them to since they live in the parents house and it's a lesson in responsibility. You should eat all the food on your plate, that's just wastful if you don't. The move should be to learn portion control for the next time but you suck it up and eat what's on your plate and paid for.

Don't take child rearing advice from people without children.

Just discipline your children and none of these will be a problem.

The one about food...from a non parent. It's ALWAYS the people without kids who think they know best. Every child is different. Some may be underweight or going through a phase or denying food. Kids need to eat to grow properly and healthily. Trauma!? Guuuuurl please 🤣 She's one of these new age "holistics will cure the world" people. Generation snowflake. This clip was traumatic

As a parent I do not owe you squat. I am obligated to provide a corner to sleep, basic sustenance, and a change of clothes. That's it. Everything else is love or a desire to see you do better. Respect THAT!