What Would You Do If A Man Asks You To Split The Bill On The First Date? 

@Ayanna Rodgers you know that you can say no lol?????

yeah, i never understood why it was ever a problem

@@egguyu maybe it’s a western thing? Idk man it’s kinda normal to always split bills in Asia unless it’s family

@@eggyolk7245 well idk, I'm from latin america and I've never have a problem with paying for my own things or splitting bills while being on a date (luckily I haven't go out with toxic people, so it was never a big deal on the first place). I want to believe that there's just a tiny bunch of entitled people hidden in different countries rather than them all being here in the western XD In any case, people who actually thing that their date owns them something merely because they said yes to an invitation go out are kinda weird... it feels like they're expecting the other people to literally _pay_ for their company... And I'm like: if you feel like you should be getting a reward for going out with someone, maybe you shouldn't go out with them in the first place, save both of you time 😅 (Also (and kinda unrelated) I couldn't help laughing after seeing egg and egg yolk have a conversation, what where the odds XD)

It's not about entitlement. When I plan a date with my fiancee I pay. When he plans the date he pays. The same goes for parties if I'm planning let's say an Anniversary party for my aunt and uncle I'm not gonna turn around and ask them to split the bill I'm paying because I planned the event. If you want to take a girl out have the money or do something that's fee like a picnic or the museum.

Forget wt he thinks. It'll show his true self, insecure or self sustaining.

They will think it regardless

Let him show that side of himself early on so you don’t suffer later on

I love how you still managed to make this about men bad women good. If anything it’s men who get used for free food.

Women owe men a lot considering you use the world we built.

Same, it would be the easiest way to end the date in a disaster lol

well said!

This isn’t “how all girls think” 🤣 you can still be a girl 💀 there’s many women who think the way that you do

YES

It's sad you Females really think in them slow minds of yours. Feminism really Played you 304's

You should be able to expect that the person who asked you out pays, no matter the gender.

​@@lemonlime257that's weird , you definitely should pay for the food you eat

Agreed. In Brazil opinions are still divergent, specially when it comes to age (the younger ones prefer to split and the older ones don’t).

In India ,it is very common to split the bill.

In Germany, splitting the bill is also very common. Why would I let a guy pay for me when I'm an adult and earn my own money?

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@@c.m.8972 you said everything girl

You are a pick me girl

@@purpdist2355 ok.🙃 Why? Because I feel bad for some other person paying the random shit I eat and drink the first time I ever see them? In my country, it's a pretty normal thing to do.

@@purpdist2355 how

@@purpdist2355 That’s wack. Assuming a woman thinks this way for the sake of male attention and not because she has a mind of her own? Sounds a little sexist to me.

@@noonebossesthegarnet2890 It's just to say oh I'm not like the other girls I am different, unique and special. That's a pick me girl and she will spend money to impress a man when she got invited in the first place

thats why you're married, most women don't do that.

Another route is to pay for the date you ask the other on and vice versa. But I suppose that is just down to personal preference and whatever you can agree upon.

I usually pay for myself anyways because I have my own budget and I don’t expect anyone else to pay. This is good information too. 😊

@@jazzyj6640 There's nothing wrong with negotiating who's gonna pay before hand, or generously offering to cover your share even if you didn't make the date. Communication and respect is more important than blindly following a rule, imho.

Well that's a dumb rule

@@keifer7813 it's common courtesy. If you invite someone out, then you pay. If you both go out a friends, then split. Dating, or not

Yes, it's the same as business meals ethics.

​@@Hunter225It's common courtesy in you're b******* country lol

True. I would get offended by it.

You girls are such pick me girls

@@purpdist2355 some men expect sex if they pay for food. He gave off a vibe and I was uncomfortable. Am I not allowed to share my experiences?

@@rebeccakoch1890 be honest he did it more so he would like you. I have never felt like a own sx wtf

@@purpdist2355 I didn't go back to his dorm with him, and he never replied to me, not even a "no thanks". Not all men are good, just like some women are shitty too. (My problem is not that he paid, it's that I said that I wanted to split it and he literally did not let me.)

True. People should always expect to pay for themselves unless the person asking them out clearly says he/she will pay for it.

There are 3 types of women in 2022: traditionalists, feminists and femceIs

This depends on the culture as well, so idk if I can judge. But I wouldn’t wait more than 3 years.

I was thinking the same 🤔

I was thinking this too, like YIKES! Tell me he's not committed to you without telling me he's not.

Man I'm saying 😂 she said that all proud like girl he barely has any commitment to you. You should have left cause you only think MAYBE y'all might get married?!? He got the whole cow for almost 6 years he not finna propose 😂

@@DeeRio9546 Exactly this! He's not about to finally pay for something he's been enjoying free for the last six years.

Societal norms have bred the belief that the man pays for everything. I mentioned once to my gran that I paid for the snacks at a movie my bf and I went to see, and she went off about how that was him disrespecting me by making me pay for anything, and he doesn't care about me, and blah blah blah. But really, if he bought the tickets, I see nothing wrong with me picking up the rest. He didn't expect me to, just like I didn't expect him to buy my ticket. I did it because it was fair and it didn't hurt anything.

Exactly they make it seem like they were forced to go. They're childish and entitled

As a lady, same! Something I just remembered I've agreed to food dates where the man's showed up and said he's already ate and I'm like "well I haven't and I'm hungry af but feel weird about being the only one eating so fuck you"

2:47 we’ll that escalated quickly

Its not about the amount of money,is the attitude

"had me not asked me out" you act like you were forced to accept the date. You chose to go, and not only that, you chose to order whatever you order so you can't complain if it costs a lot. Grow up

Whilst that’s a good point - splitting the bill allows us to climb out of toxic gender roles that contribute to the pink tax. This idea of men paying came from a time where women rarely had money of their own and the men were paid enough to support families of up to 5.

Lol you are femceI

You're not forced to go on a date though. If you don't want to go, just don't. If you do, then be ready to pay for whatever you got. It's only a first date, no one should invest more than the other cause no one knows how it's gonna go.

Thank you!

Well no one is entitled to meals or sex

Idk what's men thought process in general but from girls side I can tell you that it's never about the money but the safety and protection that a woman expects from a man she is interested in. It's evolutionary thing for us to desire for providers and protecters of our children. I am sure men have different expectations from women but I said what I and many of my female friends feel.

@@ScorpionsStation20 since we are equal dont look for anything you cannot provide for yourself. want safety and protection - police and self defense, pay your dues and be ready to support yourself and your children may you need to raise them alone. Be ready to pay your way through 'cause we are not interested in smooches. When you demand equality be ready to be treated equal. You want protectors and providers ? be ready to be treated as someone in need, a vulnerable person. So for me and for a lot of others, we are not intrested in people like you and/or your friends. We want strong independent women who pay their dues and ready to be in a realtionship as equals not as someone who need protection and provisions. I am sorry but I could never respect a person like you but i am certain there are plenty of men aout there for people who thinks like you, just remember that providers and protectors sometimes think of themselves as masters and owners or the person in charge and in power. do not reply pls.

@@user-lj9wr3ff9q so in conclusion you wants the equality ..equality..and I don't believe in equality. Just a small doubt? Are you guys also planning to have some sex change surgery to produce babies do that EQUALITY can be implemented better?