When a Man Is Not Pursuing, the Bible Says a Woman Should . . . 

Rejection is God’s protection! I don’t even care anymore. I use to be this way but I’m so done chasing a ghost. I’m going to remain content and enjoy my single season as I have been single all of my life until one day I will meet the man God ordains to be part of my life 🙏🏾💕

Never let a guy say no to you more than once

ALL of my experiences with this dynamic ended very badly. If your infatuation with a man is becoming overwhelming, exit stage left. Yes, I mean excuse yourself from that job or that class, or wherever you are around this person on a regular basis. No, I am not talking about a crush. You know when you are falling in love. These situations do not end well. Take everything he says and does literally (because it is literal) and get away.

I'm twice divorced in my younger years. I married at 19 and divorced at 24, then married again at 25. I was divorced by 33. I have not remarried, and I am now in my late 50's. I am single and celibate and very content this way for years. The Lord has given me a great friend and I don't miss the married life nor seek a husband. I have over 550 Facebook friends requests, all from men. I do not care, nor do I trust online relationships. Like a friend of mine says, "God always keeps you happy". That about sums it up.

I had a very deep connecrion with someone and I was waiting for him for some months. Once I let go I have been much happier. If he really wants me, he will pursue me, I've been more than attentive. Now I'm doing something different. We will see. Loved this video.

He's not pursuing because He's waiting for God to shine the light for the next step. It's been 9 months of dinner out every weekend and church together. In the meantime, I am allowing God to work on my insecurities and negative thought life. As God chisels away on me, I realize God's making me a better person. I think God is doing this for him. I'm glad he's waiting.

Mind your Business, Do life and keep moving until a Man wants you

God has called me to wait for a specific man of God. It’s been several weeks with no response from him, and it feels like my mind is fighting a battle. God has led me into a time of fasting for breakthrough.

In these days it is really hard to date. When you are dating in dating apps it is common that after few days of talking someone despair and stop responding. When you are open, you open your heart in front of a person, you are available for him, showing him interest, responding quickly, men are thinking you are desperate. I do not know what is happening in these days, it is really sad. God is good and I still believe, despite what I have learned by my experience, there are men who respect God and will provide 💛

It’s difficult. Especially when you think you found someone you can be friends with and then maybe even more but he doesn’t respond how you think. He admits later that he didn’t ask you out because of a health issue only telling you this later. Also in the same vein it’s also the reason he doesn’t spend time with you. You continue to try and be patient and sometimes you text and you think you’re getting somewhere. But still..slowly it’s hard because you’re desperate for a connection with someone similar to you who shares experiences. Right now I am waiting for him to reach out. It’s becoming easier to not dwell on why he hasn’t texted.

When it’s right it’s right. That’s all.

Why can't we simply say that when a man does not pursue you, he's unsure. If he's unsure, that's a big fat no. If it's no, let it go. Sorry for the hard logic.

Proverbs 2:6 "For the Lord gives wisdom;from his mouth come knowledge and understanding;"🙏 Let God’s Peace and Grace be with you (To The Reader). Praise God always. Amen🙏🙌

Been following your channel since last year and I've been blessed so much with your wisdom and insights into man-woman Godly relationship. Still a single woman, but with clearer head and heart to do my part while keep praying for my future husband 😊❤ Thank you and God bless you, Mark!

Learn his love language and show him(husband) appreciation. Awesome video. Preparation.

Thank you, Mark. You’re the best! ❤

I am in love with an unbeliever.... A person who is an atheist. I fell in love with him and even dated him and it didn't go well... The worst part is that I have to see him everyday in the class because he is my classmate. I always wish he pursues me but i am not allowing that to happen because he doesn't love Jesus and i know it will become an unequally yolked relationship. I wish to move on someday ❤

Thank you for your wisdom! 🙌

This channel gives the best advice

very good advice and very practical

Hey Mark, it's been a minute, my brother! Pray that all is well. I totally agree with this message definitely an on time message.

When it's the right time , God will do it. Timing is Everything.

Praise God for protection..,

Thank you Lord. You are my protector. Amen

Very well said brother...Amen

Wow. I believe God just answered my doubts. Amen

Most young women I observe give too much encouragement after the man has, by his actions, expressed he is not interested and they don't back off

Best advice, since I'm an introverted extrovert, it's been hard, but I have been praying, and God showed me the person, but I don't know and am at times confused, but am having peace of God, and it will come to pass whatever He said to me. I am in the situation of not being able to position myself in that place of being available now....but God is always good and will work it out eventually, He already has and will do it. My God is soooo Good..❤

praying for your channel--thank you and God bless you :)

Amen 🙏🏼 Thank you for your message. God bless you greatly 💜✝️🙏🏼

Great RU-vid. Thank you

I pray for the one God has for me and trusting His timing and His ways.❤ no chasing although he knows I am interested but I could see that he liked me first.

Lord, guide me as I struggle with this work ... I trust you are working in me and I am willing to follow your way.

So helpful 😊

I totally agree.

Thankyou so much for this.. God bless

Needed this today 🙏 thankyou Mark

Thanks for the message Mark!

So good!

Anen, I agree. Woman shouldn't pursue men. 1 Corinthians 11 verse 8 "For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; 9 neither was man created for woman, but woman for man" That's very telling in itself. We were created 4 man, not other way around. If it was the other way around we as women would do the pursuing. I've been stuck on reading 1 Corinthians, because Father God led me there because he kept dropping scripture 4 me. I hadn't read it beforehand, so kept getting a few and that was my que to read all of Corinthians, because I believe Father God has a message. Funny enough I had a few dreams and a vision. It's been like a source of information going hard in hand with scripture from Corinthians. 13 July Father God told me in a dream "my son is coming (men are the sons of God) read 1 Corinthians 11 verse 3 "Now I want you to realise that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, abd the head of Christ is God" After the dream I just happened to read 1 Corinthians 4 verse 17 For this reason I am sending to you Timothy, my son whom I love, who is faithful in the Lord" Dreamt about the guy 15 July and her a south african song *I'm from there", living in UK. The song is 4 rugby players and says "hier kom die bokke" aka roughly translated "here come the buck". So I know the man I'm supposed to be marrying is on his way. I had 3 dreams in a row earlier this year. Keot seeing the guy abd I prayed to Father God on the 3rd night asking why I kept on seeing him. Early the next morning around 4 am or something I had a vision of going up Jacob's ladder. All I saw was a beautiful staircase I walked up on and the brightest, clearest light I had ever seen. I didn't see anything else just the light and I hear "the both of you love each other. Prophetess you may marry Isaiah" (the guy hasn't been talking to me, he actually ghosted me and caused me 2 have a spiritual awakening. Father God has been working on me. I've always known him. Truth be told, the day I met him when I was a little girl. As soon as I saw him Father God told me "husband". I was totally shocked because I was 5, 6, 7 years old. 1 of those ages. And yes, I hear Father God's voice. I have repented of my sins and a confessed all my sins 2 a deliverance minister. She prayed over everything. We need to dig in deep to our Bible. I believe everyone can hear from Father God. Daily prayers, scripture and worshipping I believe is required. I believe that's how Father God started talking to me again. Yeshua is the most beautiful

I appreciate the clarification because I’m already shy and passive and I do think men Don’t think I’m interested and it’s interesting to try a bit and see if they start to lead

Thanks 🙏🏽

i wish i know your channel when am still on my 20-30s... but yes i believe everything is good in His time.. so, if i know this just now, its align with His time for me...

I’ll give some very practical, politically incorrect advice as well… Get in the best shape you possibly can, look your absolute best, and stop being hyper career focused. Be what a man wants to be with.

My man was pursuing me. He was intentional and consistent. He had strong feelings and I gradually fell in love, too. I had a dream we were walking down a path together. His face was gold. We're in harmony. Suddenly he's lifted up over me. He's looking down on me with a menacing, evil countenance. Dream ends. I was certain he'd propose. He told me Jesus brought us together. Next day after dream he tells me he's struggling with anxiety & fear and he leaves me! I've been doing intercession for him. Looks like warfare. He told me an old girlfriend put a curse on him. Any thoughts?

Thanks for this advice. The one I care for has a dismissive avoidant personality, and I’ve known him a few years. We are both senior citizens now. He’s been a bachelor all his life and living for the Lord. I’m not looking for anyone else. I’ll be patient and just pray for my friend and live for Jesus and focus on Him.

I wish you would’ve added in that if the woman isn’t comfortable with it how to tell him no and not to be afraid of saying absolutely not. Girls could take this as let the guy do whatever he wants but he could abuse that power and I’ve seen it many times. Hopefully the guys are getting taught how to be respectful back.

And in the process of waitin u learn more thing about yourself...things like getting t9 know the person from gods view and not just a shallow ..i like him..and most of the time god does things like this because there are issues in your life and character than needs to be disiplined before u can be a godly wife..if u cant even wait 2 weeks how are u going to handle things in a marriage..or wil you just push a agenda...anyways these are things he taught me while waiting..he taight me im a problem to

righton time

Thanx

Never wait for ever.... 👀... I'll love this man til one of us dies. Even if he doesn't love me back. I'll find ways to be a blessing to him without being weird about it . Its like that old song from years ago.. I cant see me loving nobody but you ... for all my life.... Lol.. we are both seniors so I'll be good with that...

What to do when an old boyfriend calls up saying his wife passed away and he's always loved you but now is free to pursue the relationship. He's on the west coast and you're in central mid America. How can you date someone that far away and have a relationship?

Amen 🙏✝️🙏💛

🙏💝🙏 AWSOME 💃🥰🥰🥰

Hey Mark, I'm not sure you'll see this or respond, but as a recent newborn in Christ female, I've been having this "dance" of a relationship with a man that although he hasn't yet converted to Christ to my knowledge, ever since I met him, we've always been equally yoked in whatever we have believed in, and since I've been growing closer to God, he seems to be doing the same. So I have a suspicion that as I evolve, there's a good chance he'll evolve with me too.. but here's the thing. We both committed grave mistakes in our relationship prior to growing closer to God... He used to drive me insane, and so I accidentally insulted him all the time, and even became a little violent when that was not the real me, he then was so scared of me apparently, that even though he had given me many chances to change my excessively aggressive nature, yet I failed every time and would get triggered over the littlest things, he ended up entertaining a woman (a jezebel type if you will) who started talking to him, pursuing him relentlessly, and getting in between us. She said lies to him about me, because I tried to seek her help to see if I could fix things with my person thinking that she was an honest new coworking friend of his, and I cried out to her asking for help with him, and she betrayed me, lied to him about her supposedly feeling scared of me and my "aggressive nature" when I couldn't have been more humble and humiliated to her, and she used what she knew about me and us, against us to finally separate us. Long story short, we fully separated, he didn't want to even give me a proper chance anymore after that and kept entertaining this jezebel. Unfortunately he got her pregnant and they had the baby. But he's been MISERABLE ever since. She has been trying to claim him as her man, by posting endless pictures with him, when he hasn't done the same with her AT ALL. And when he was with me, he basically wanted the whole world to know about us, he wanted us to do RU-vid videos and we did, and his profiles were public with tons of pictures with me. He is not like this with her at all. So he's had this profile with an anonymous name but that I know is him, and he's been sharing and pouring his heart out anonymously for me to learn what he's been going through for almost 2 years now.. For a little bit of time towards the end of 2022 I entertained this "game" of his with his secret messages because #1. I had no idea he was still with her, #2. I had NO IDEA whatsoever they had had a baby, and #3. I thought I was encouraging him to pursue me. But this all ended up backfiring because he and I constantly needed more and more and more reassurance about each other, and nothing ever moved forward. Until I learned that he was still with her, and that the reason was because they had a baby! Suddenly all the posts he was making about not being sure if to stay in a marriage because of the children, started to make sense.. since I had no idea why he was making posts about that... So I decided to stop encouraging his online "games", and went completely silent on him... I kept posting stuff not directed to him anymore, until I ended just closing my profiles and becoming fully inactive in social media, because I thought this would be the only way he'd understand that if he still loves me, he has to approach me directly and stop with the online nonsense... But recently before I closed my Facebook, I had a random discussion with someone and I know my person saw it. I was really hurt by what the other person said, and I was feeling very low and insecure for a few days, and suddenly my person started posting things to reassure me of his love and saying things like why he will always return to his true love and he doesn't say things like these often at all. It felt major and it gave me a lot of reassurance. However I've been getting deep feelings that he's feeling a little bit insecure lately, since I closed my Facebook, and he may need some type of reassurance that I'm still interested, but even though I appreciated his reassurance towards me the other day, I don't think is appropriate for me to validate him back if he is still with that other woman, and hasn't taken proper action to approach me directly in person face to face like he should. I feel it would be ignorant of me to keep entertaining any games of this kind. But due to many reasons, although this man and I have committed TONS of mistakes with the other, I've had an overpowering and supernatural feeling that this man might be the one God wants for me, and he has felt the same towards me in the past. I'm really sorry for such a long story, but if you have any words of encouragement or suggestions I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much Mark 🙏♥

The thing about being berated from the pulpit hits home. At a previous church I attended, the pastor made it seem like us men could never do anything right. He was a cool dude though but hearing from the pulpit how it seemed like we as men always were wrong somehow really messed with my mind

My question is this. Why does a woman who loves God enough to worry about what the Bible says about the situation. “Love” a man who isn’t even pursuing her? ❤ Love?

God showed me this man almost 4 yrs ago, he's also proved it to me that he's got the same message from God cuz he keeps looking at me from a far off but literally runs if he senses me walking his way or vice versa. At first, I ignored it but now it's starting to get to me. I used to have his number but I had to get rid of it since we reached a time and he wasn't comfy talking to me anymore As much as I enjoy his gaze, I'm not comfortable around him anymore either, I keep wondering what it is that's making him avoid me to that extent. I've prayed and given up and prayed some more though I never feel like I can ever pray enough. At this rate, I'm praying only because if he's really my destined man, I shouldnt be the one to blame for not making an effort

Lol In our group work , I actually did asked my ex opinions if he had anything to add to it , but yeah-- he said "Nothing" 😑. I start to doubt what the lord expect me to deal with my ex , because he's way too passive. I even doubt if he is even worth "the waiting". Oh God, just randomly spawn some handsome guys passing by , I would forget my ex immediately hahaha (I'm joking don't angry at me). I obey the lord our God , ofc. The relationship has ended , what is he trying to acheive by keeping my ex in my circle? I did asked him tho , I did everything ppl do after post break up. And-- none of them work only gotten worse , so I decided to keep my ex in my life. I think I take your #2 and #3rd advice for now "Response accordingly , and never expect much of him" for a period of time. If he doesn't make any moves then I'd better forget him. He ain't worth the waiting.

Thanks Mark but I feel irritated right now. I can't be bothered and am not praying. Am tired . The love is gone.

Master still waiting for you.

I have been seeing this amazing woman for a few months now, and i feel she is amazing. How and when do i know to attempt to take ot to the next level? We can talk for hours on end, and i just dont want to mess things up

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I wish to add a thing or two to this: There are some men, me for example, that have become sick and tired of so called "godly women" that approach men openly stating that their ultimate goal is a relationship and marriage. Nothing wrong with that part, but... These same women are not godly at all, but they specifically seek out a man of God, knowing that they are very open with their hearts and lives, and will treat the woman they love to the best of their ability, including financially. These "women" know enough phrases and scripture to come off as legitimate and sincere, and try to suck their target into believing that he's found the right one. Then almost immediately she's demanding that he proves his love and ability to provide for his bride to be with gifts of hundreds to thousands of dollars. In time they, like myself burns out on the seemingly endless onslaught of artificial women of God, that makes endless promises, meanwhile demanding that he is going to be an endless source of income for her... So if a true woman of God enters his life, she has her work cut out for herself, she has to convince him that she's not one more of those treasure hunters masquerading as a spiritual woman. This may very well be why some men aren't as interested in a woman's pursuits as she may wish. Not that he's not interested, but may be thinking to himself that one more of those kind of women has found him.

I don’t know I am not going to pursue any girl or chase any girl. I’m not giving them my strength to do stuff like that she hast to chase me as she really really wants me. That’s how I’m gonna go from things if somebody really wants to be with me then I’m gonna pursue her because she’s pursuing me

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Got dumped after a 3yrs. 9mo. He left after thinking about it since November of last year. Dropped the bomb last month on his b-day. Took him a whole month to follow through cuz I guess he wanted to let me down easy. I've been no contact since Sat. 06/18. Background: We have broken up before, twice, and it was because of me. I was young (19/20yrs.) And a little petty, and wanted things too quickly. Both times I reached out and apologized. I even tried to let him down with the "we should stay friends" since we still worked together. I couldn't handle seeing him be up 1st time - after 2 months I broke it off because he "wasn't acting like were close friends", he was more reserved in the beginning. As well as some other things. More background - we have been classmates since elementary school and in high school eneded up working at the same place. He moved to another state for a couple months then came back. And that's when I became interested in him. But we still weren't friends. He invited me out 1 time and I declined, later on I invited him out to hang out. We talked steady for 5 months before becoming official. And even them we still weren't "best friends", which is pretty much what I wanted off the bat. *also we don't work together anymore, he quit a while back. 2nd- was a couple months after the first. my mom told me she didn't want me dating till I was 22. And in the beginning he wasnt really a Christian (I was but not that serious, and he was carrying the title. Were both doing much better now) which was kind of a deal breaker for me but not that much as I went back. * limerinse Even more background- yes we are both Christian but he's now Baptist and I was raised charismatic/pentecostal. Some of what we believe is a deal breaker for him. Problem - if I could rate our relationship of 3 years on a scale from 1 -10, I would rate it a 9.99 (cuz no relationship is perfect). That 1% is what caused him to let go. (Marriage? We agree. (He was even ready to propose, I told him to wait till I finished school. He brought up his issue a couple days before my final.) Communication? Has inproved much more than in the past. Fun? Its always fun when hes aound (at least for me) Careers/jobs? It's compromisable as we're both still young and the fiture isnt set. Children? We almost agree. We agree on how they should be raised but not what they should believe. I said the future kids can go to his church, he pretty much said that's not good enough. If my parents and i don't drop some of our beliefs then he's ending it.) His personality - Is pretty much described in Ken's video ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4NmeRI40YjU.html Pretty much to the T. My problem - as much as I love him and want to get back together, on some level I want to let him go. It's been a week since the break up. He also told me during the break up that he "wanted to stay friends" and that he still loved me. I told him during the break up that if he wanted me as a friend he would have to wait at least 3-6 months. We both said our "I'm sorry and I wish I had done better" at the end. Since he also said " I love you" I said it back. I also need to give him back something but I'm thinking of sending it back through mail. Should do that or find another way?

In Jesus’ name amen!

Does this apply to being cheated on?

Let him go. Let him go. Let him go.

In the Same regard for Yeshua Ha Mashiach that He wants us to pursue Him and accept His proposal to us to become Married in Spirit, Trust, and Truth through Surrendering to His Will and to become like Him and become one with Him

a man should pursue a woman, in a hetero dynamics, shame i cannot understand this, but the advices are noted, thank you.

ONE VALUABLE THING SHE SHOULD DO IS RUN!! 🏃🏽‍♀️ run for her LIFE!! Chase after God and don’t look back. This message is a trick of the enemy! Thirst trap!

No point pursuing unless you have a certain mold they wont accept you. As a man we should fast pray practice SR the right woman if there is one will be attracted to our lives God will open the heart of both individuals it wont be forced and neither would have to try that hard or play games. If its not meant to be so be it

Mark, is it OK for a Christian single man to marry a single mom who is born again? Any consequences of doing it between the couple especially when ex may be involved? Advice please.

Right now he's a mess but the Holy Spirit has said "wait" numerous times so i'm not sure if it's me or Him speaking but yeah

Mark I don’t think you know how funny you are, and that’s what makes it so funny “never wait forever for a man to pursue you” that really tickled me 😂

Follow Ruth's example.

I think woman not supposed to chase man, we can make a hint, but Godly man will initiate and clearly mentioned what is his intention.

He’s out here getting tattoos, I’m sitting here feeling disappointed/concerned

I lost a guy I famcied from University because I spoke to much and he was not interested at all in speaking about himself but he said he enjoys listening to me and he listened to me for hours and he leaned in close to me to hear me speak. I told him that attractive guys like him scare me no offence and he said no offence but another girl came along later on and he courted and married her

There is no mention of this “pursuing “ business on the scriptures. Furthermore, the notion that a man should be in the never ending pursuit of his wife is absurd. The wedding is a statement that they each may take each other for granted - literally. That’s not the same thing as not appreciating each other. A man cannot lead if he is behind his wife/girlfriend pursuing her. That is the opposite of leadership.

Why does he call everyone else brother or sister but not me? Does he see me as something else?

What if the man is a godly man and knows that you love him but still not pursuit

What if god is telling u not to pursue. But wait to for them to pursue u. And u know what their names are

It's is biblical for a woman to love a man? It's the other way round, if u read Genesis 2:18, the Bible said it's not good for a man to be alone n therefore He will make him a helped*woman* and on verse 24 it says Therefore a man shall leave his father n mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh, the bible never said the woman should persue a man, *NO* she can like someone due to their physic or kindness or other ; we have turn alot of God's words that's why we experienced alot of broken heart n homes, may Jesus Christ help us all🙏Amen

When it's your husband who stopped pursuing?

I have someone special. We talk personally, which is better, but I get so worried when he doesn't text for a day. He is a Godly man. He loves Jesus very much. Should I text him if he doesn't text for a day?

Is this about married or unmarried? I am confused Those are two totally DIFFERENT scenarios. I heard wife and I hear him talking about single people in a group. PRAY! I promise GOD gets thru to your husband way better than a nagger or a wife being his Holy Spirit!!! I speak with so many women that try to be their husbands Holy Spirit!

I will never fall for any man who will not pursue me bcos I never fall for a man until he show up and step up. Problem is some men are good to show up but soon show that that's all they are good at

The man is actually the pursuer scripturally, scriptures says he who finds a wife, has found a good thing, and has obtained favour from God. You found because you looked for. The job of a man is actually to find while that of a woman is to keep. So if a woman is not finding, it is because she is not structured to do so, and when a man can't keep is because he doesn't have the capacity to do so. So please let's understand this difference in gender and stop mincing word... Thank you

When speaking with a guy keep good eye contact. Dating apps have blunted our ability to hold eye contact, therefore it’s notable when we do.

the soul is gender neutral term

Sometimes it seems to me that being available makes the man uninterested.

women can pursue men as well , plz like

But - I like being single…

Feminism has damaged the process of the pursuit of a woman by a man.

Idk I’m torn between looking at my singleness is God’s protection for me or he just doesn’t want to give me a spouse. When I literally have a burning passion to have a wife. I’m mature funny I’m bold confident idk man. Idk anymore and another thing is women these days are so easy to give up like oh he didn’t do this on the date I’m not going to go further like it takes two people to make it work you can’t put it all in the man’s hands you know. I want a wife and I’m patiently waiting and building myself. I also hate texting much rather talk in person.

I don't understand the whole pursuing thing , chasing someone is not in Eastern Orthodox , we have groups of people, people take an interest in someone , man or woman , woman can ask , why can't Evangelical women? Leadership ? is a woman a child?