Women… no sex before marriage or at least engagement When you have a ring and an engagement date Why? Bc men fall in love slllllllowly through pursuit…… NOT SEX !!!!! Sex actually blocks men from falling in love Well….. until he is in love with you And when a man is biochemically in love….. he commits and doesn’t want you dating / speaking to other men And if no sex Commitment means engagement / marriage
I have been called cold hearted , BECAUSE i maintain my energy, know my worth and just walk away. Men hate that about me. My mentality, No man can love me more than I love myself.
We gotta throw away the word “narcissism” because most people aren’t. It is a mental health condition that should only be diagnosed by a mental health professional. Men do this simply because women allow them to do it. There may be some emotional defects there as well but for the most part, this is American male culture. It won’t end until women start stopping this behavior at the door. Otherwise, why would a man stop at just you when he can have multiple and you continue to put up with it? Why would he commit and he doesn’t have to? Why would he be monogamous with you when he doesn’t have to? Why pay full price for something when he can get the prize at bargain basement prices? Finding a good woman that doesn’t have standards is like finding a brand new Louis Vuitton bag at the thrift store for $10 dollars, ain’t no way someone is passing that up lol!!! Raise the price, raise the standards ladies. ❤️✨
The problem is there are too many narcissistic boys out there. Weaves, wigs, and eyelashes are one of many excuses. But you can be a woman without any of that, but you scare little boys away. They like drama, confusion, inconsistency and control. And there's no need to let them be your project.
If only women would put their energy into self love and stop fixating on if a man wants them or not. Pay attention. Watch his behavior!! They always show you.
This man is absolutely right. My husband refused all the women he was introduced to but when he got me he engaged me within 2weeks. I’ve never spent my money for 22yrs since being with him.
Men are very simple and the way he treats you is the way he feels about you..don’t get in your emotions ladies, don’t be telling yourself stories and being delusional..just let him be and move on..no need to beg anyone to be with you..there’s plenty of fish on the sea ❤
But what if i am sexually attracted to this man and at this point in my life just want to have sex and nothing else?? Dont i have to make my own desicion? At 44 years old i would like to make my own desicions who to sleep with...
If you were to die today, are you a 100% sure you will go to heaven? If no, here is what the bible says, (1) Romans 3:23 KJV [23] For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. Q1. Do you know what Sin is? Sin is anything bad that we have done. Q2. Have you sinned before? Yes or No? (2) Revelation 21:8 KJV [8] But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. Because we have sinned, and God does not allow Sin into Heaven, the punishment is burning hell. What is the way to reconcile our peace and relationship with God? Q3. Do you know the Story of Jesus? (3) Romans 5:8 KJV [8] But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Jesus = God who lived up in Heaven, but he came down on earth and became a man like us, he lived for 33.5 years without committing any sin. Then there were certain people who were jealous and therefore framed him on phony charges, and crucified him. Then he was buried and resurrected on the third day; Now he lives in HEAVEN. Q4. Do you know why Jesus went through all this bloody mess for us? A4. As mentioned, our sin is the reason why we can’t go to heaven, and the only thing that can wash away our sin is the Blood of Jesus. (4) Romans 5:9 KJV [9] Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. According to the bible, the only way for us to reconcile with God is through Christ Jesus’s blood, and not through any works that we do or merits we accumulate, such as water baptism, attending church, or any good thing that we do. The following verses clearly support this. (5) Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV [8] For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: [9] Not of works, lest any man should boast. (6) 2 Corinthians 7:10 KJV [10] For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death. In order to get saved, repentance of one’s sin is needed to get saved, we need to be sorry, and repent, with conviction, that we are a wretched sinner. (7) Romans 10:9 KJV [9] That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. If you truly do believe in everything you have heard in the gospel, ,I strongly suggest you to make a proclamation to GOD! You can say it to God in less than 15 seconds !Repeat after this simple prayer, to make sure you truly get saved. Remember repeating this prayer doesn't save you, it's you telling God you BELIEVE THE GOSPEL. Ok, here is the prayer : ‘Dear GOD, I know I am a sinner, as I repent, I put my faith, that Jesus is GOD, and that he died, buried and resurrected, so that his blood, can wash away my Sins. I put my faith in that alone to save me, not my good works. In Jesus’s holy name, I pray. Amen! Congratulations ! Now you are a child of God. Download /Buy a KJV bible (I highly suggest getting a hard copy bible , as one day, it will be illegal to buy, own or even have an online version of the bible) and search for youtube channel like REAL Bible Believers , Spencer Smith to help you grow , study dispensationalism to understand the bible ( How do we reconcile the verses in the New Testament that tell us that we need works to show our faith, and another that tells us that nothing that can take our salvation away? That's why we need to study biblical dispensationalism to rightly divide the word of God.( study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth, 2 Timothy 2:15) (I recommend the dispensationalism video from Genesis to Revelations by Dr. Gene Kim, ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GI4CteEFxOk.html) , Jesus in Genesis (ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-RmnUkNT55gU.html) join a bible believing church. God bless you brother/ sister ☺. See you in heaven one day!
The rate we going I’m waiting till marriage . Even abstinent for 4 years nobody getting this cookie😂 and it’s been a breeze. No fear,shame,condemnation or usery❤❤❤
Im right here with you . I feel im diluted when im wrapped up with a man .'@@chrissysconvosI feel I'm a better more rounded person when I'm just ' doing me ' It'll take one special man for me to give that up . I've got some work to do on myself and I'm excited and feeling positive about that .
Women… no sex before marriage or at least engagement When you have a ring and an engagement date Why? Bc men fall in love slllllllowly through pursuit…… NOT SEX !!!!! Sex actually blocks men from falling in love Well….. until he is in love with you And when a man is biochemically in love….. he commits and doesn’t want you dating / speaking to other men And if no sex Commitment means engagement / marriage
Some of these men will never be ready because they are not husband material. Time will reveal. If they do get married, they will be the worst husbands.
I experienced this being married just six months, he discarded me and threatened me out the marital space. I am divorcing due to DV and he was not over his ex, old supply who got married after leaving him and left him behind, he married me to race to beat her to the altar to show me as a trophy wife. Shattered me💔 when I discovered it. He hasn't deleted her presence on social media. I moved to have a fresh start from a bad southern state where I lost everything to a new state on the West Coast. I am doing better as a DV survivor. What you said is true in my case.
@Freespiritedqueen this is why I won't marry a man unless he's financially providing fully. We are better off without men unless they provide and make our lives easier. Hes probably just trying to make you jealous about the ex. Its called triangulation. He doesn't love her or you or himself...
@@FreespiritedqueenI’m very sorry I know how difficult that is. I pray for your safety & wellbeing. Be patient & compassionate on yourself. You will rise above this ❤
BAM! 💥 Whether he loves you at that point or not, walking away will make him respect you, which will definitely spark interest in love. A man can’t love what he don’t respect. 🤷🏽♀️
I was ready to be mad at this video. But this man is just speaking what I have told women for many years now. If a man really wants you and loves you, YOU WILL NEVER BE CONFUSED. Understand this ONE truth, ladies, and it will save you years of heartache. If you're asking your friends, "What does this mean?" That's a major RED FLAG. Also, please deeply understand that ONE man's rejection says ZERO about you and your worth. People can look at the ugliest or prettiest vase, hate it, and not even know it's PRICELESS. ONE human being not seeing your worth, does NOT equal unworthiness. They just can't SEE you. That's it. That's all. Don't make it more complicated than that one fact. How someone else feels is about them, not you. #KeepItMovin
Great Add On! 👏👏 If you travel with Genuine Love in yourself (not needing to be validated by ANYONE else), It will be easy to see what's going on, and not get played like that. Easy to walk without losing your joy. Easy to see Truth without coming apart at the seams.
I don't mean no harm but it has to be more than just throwing money at you. It's been seen just because a man spends money on you doesn't mean he loves you..heck he can have a wife or another woman on the side and drop you like chicken in hot grease even if spent money on you and go on or back to the next like it's nothing. It has to be way deeper than that
@@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520 I never said it was ALL about money. You need to go back and watch the video. A man will spend money on whatever his heart loves.
My bf drove 1500 miles one way,to go on dates with me.He pursued me hard.Gifts,flowers sent to me while he was away during the week.He listened to everything I said about what I liked and,he would find gifts to give me when he dtravel to see me.8 yrs later,he takes care of me like I always wanted.
I am so happy to hear something positive about a man. It's refreshing. As women, we are nutureers. We have to learn to pull back and let a man be a man.
No answer y’all lol to the marriage question but she did say she got what she wanted lol lol go figure that. Sounds sketchy to me too but then again she don’t require too much lol
I am in my 50s. It's so tiresome and boring to see the games people play nowadays when it comes to "relationships". There are a lot of jerks and narcissists out there. Ladies, here is my advice: keep your eyes open and your legs closed. DO NOT ever give a man husband privileges if he is not your husband. Become a classy lady with a full life. Focus on yourself, build your life, get an education, connect with your family and friends, take care of yourself, dress modestly, and decentralize men. Get that man off the pedestal. Learn your value and keep working on your value. The right man will show up, but you have to respect yourself if you want him to respect you. Women have made it way too easy for low value men to play games and drag you around and keep stringing you along. Don't let him treat you like you are an option. You are the prize. Never ever be easy, instead get busy.
SO WHAT YOU’RE saying is that a dude don’t want nothing but to waste your time. Ladies your TIME is the most valuable thing you possess …. let nobody play with your power.
He is speaking truth, I have a man now I pay him no mind, not reaching out to him and he won't leave. Know your WORTH and keep your legs closed. Let him invest in your mind not your body. RESPECT your space and set boundaries. It's not easy but I rest at night knowing my crown is still on my head and Jesus gets the glory
Some men are not ready for a relationship because they are not over or letting go of his ex... then, he becomes unemotionally unavailable, toxic, and easily triggered when you ask where this is going. He shouldn't be getting involved if he knows he's not ready. That's what causes confusion because he thought he was ready and Not... Heal first 🙏
True. I called my power back and matched his energy. That’s when he began stalking me 😅 then I started seeing all the red flags clearly and realized he was not right for me. Rejection is protection 🙏
If a man wants you he most definetly will show you. He won't let you go, not that easily. Just follow ur guts ladies. If u feel something is off that becoz something IS off. Trust yourself ❤❤❤
For almost 12 yrs I chased an unavailable man until I finally had enough, worked on myself and met a WONDERFUL, giving man who makes me feel secure--he calls or texts consistently and often, makes plans in advance, complements me and makes me feel cherished. in other words, I stopped chasing and was chased and I like it. You also deserve to be chased. ❤❤❤ peace, and God bless.
This is common sense. Women allow men to do this type of mess because they don’t think that they can get someone better. When a woman gets fixated on a certain man, we are attached to the story we have made up about him in our heads, not who he really is. We don’t even really be in love with who they are, we are in love with the person we made them to be in our fantasies. If you gotta question if he like you and it’s been longer than 3-6 months of dating, throw up the deuces and move on. It’s simple.
I so agree with this. Around 6 years ago, a friend of mine was dating a guy they were engaged about to be married. She was rushing around getting things ready for the big day he couldn't care less & wasn't interested in going to the wedding venues with her or anything to do with the wedding she complained of his reluctance. Anyway 4 weeks before the wedding day they found out he didn't have the correct papers from his divorce & would take time to get as he had to apply for them from another country in the end to my friends embaressment she had to cancel the wedding and tell all her guests she had invited. Now 6 years later she still isn't married to him but relocated to his town & moved in with him. She doesn't realise he never truly wanted her but just wants to have a live In lover & for her to do wife duties without marrying her. A man can waste years of your life read the signs & take notice and believe him when he is showing you or telling you that he doesn't want you.
@@_elommusk Mine doesn’t. Why would she start planning a wedding with man that wasn’t officially divorced? That means she was cheating and committing adultery with him. On top of that, if you have to cancel a wedding with someone, there should be no more communication with him after the wedding party and guests have been notified. After that, ACCESS DENIED!!! What other relationship or conversation do we need to have after you basically left me stagged at the “upcoming” alter. THEN she uproots her life and still moves in with him to fornicate opposed to being married. No sympathy from me. She chose all of that.
Added her to his harem garage of past flames, exes, wife, one night stand he still sees time to time. Don’t do it ladies. Will keep you like that for years
He told me after the first date that he’s not in a rush. I never had sex with him, kiss him , held his hand or anything. He’s been very quiet lately because he didn’t get what he wanted from me. I’m happy God reveal his true intentions to me. Some men are disingenuous. He put on a show I thought he was a nice guy but very quickly I realized that he’s looking for a quickie so I’m not going to talk to him again, when he reaches out I’m ignoring him. He’s clearly a serial dater and is use to getting what he wants on the first date. I’m not interested in sexually reckless men. He also had white discharge coming out of his eye on the date but I kept quiet while in disgust, that told me everything I needed to know. He’s not a healthy man and I want no parts of him.
The whole time this gentleman was talking, I was going yep, yep, yep, etc. He was speaking facts, ladies. Be willing to walk away if you're not getting anything out of this "relationship." Dont be a slave to your emotional attachment to him.
I'm 43, and my sons baby's mother asked me at what age does a woman gets it right. I told her there's no age limit because we can't control what the other person does. We live, and we learn, and learning never stops. The only way we get it right is by loving ourselves and knowing our own worth😊
I'm 43 and going thru this mess and it hurts so bad worse thing is I have kids by him 🤦 but GOD gave me sign not to mess with him but hey when your disobedience comes thru GOD move out the way and let you whoop your very own butt and that's what I did and now paying dearly for my bad disobedience 😢 I lost one child five years old not long ago and this boy has not comfort me help me get thru this at all I have nobody littery. Now I'm trying to relocate some where els (town , state ) and pray to never look back . But it gets worse I'ma leave it short . Keep me and my kids in your prayers please Jesus Christ is real and I will pay attention next time .cause you just don't know what I been thru with this boy .
When a man wants you, he will make it clear. You will not have to question yourself and others. Men think they ponder, they know. Trust your instincts and move on accordingly or just flow and live. Do not sit around hoping, praying, and waiting. Live your best life go out, flirt, enjoy the atmosphere and presence of other men. people watch. enjoy your single life. But do not hope. pray, and wait on a man who has not secured you as time ticks on by. Breathe deeply and find ways to enjoy your single life.
Yep! Been there before. Never gave me what I wanted/needed unless I asked, didn’t really want me but would get fighting mad if he saw me with someone else. Like bruh I’m not your property! I hate it here.
It doesn't take a man a long time to make up his mind. This is far from the truth. When a man wants you, he secures you on the front end, not years later on the back end. I've experienced BOTH.
@rumbarumba1 when men meet you they know within the first few minutes if they want you or not. They put women into categories as soon as they see them. Either your just for fun or they see you as a wife material!
@@suziesmith8288 I’d say that they know from jump if they really want to get to know you. I’ve known some brothers who admitted to me that they were really interested in a female until they had a real conversation. 😂
Walk away. Move on. Go no contact. All of this will call his bluff. If he does reach out, dont take him back unless he meets all of your standards and a marriage proposal. The woman sets the standards because the man needs the woman.
Yeah go for a timeline though -have an amount of time mapped --and set that in stone- and if he has still got some excuse again- cos trust me they can have you in the same position again -years later and just going in circles for years and years
This is true. If women would keep the gold standard on their personal boundaries, you would see men having a whole new attitude on respecting women. They need us, but they act like bums and users because they have not been held accountable or responsible as men. Deny access to anything less than you are willing to live with. Men need a major re-education on love and marriage.
Yup. I was dealing with someone for about two weeks. He was pretty consistent. He didn’t wish me happy birthday & I let it be known but he “claimed “ he did. About 4 days later, he had an event & I didn’t show up on purpose. He never said a word about it 🤷🏽♀️. I gave him the same energy he gave me & of course we don’t talk anymore..
AND it finally took a man to break this down because too many females just do not grasp this. Peace Brothet and thank you for dropping this wisdom bomb!
Ladies PLEASE know that a man who doesn’t want or doesn’t like you will physically harm you if YOU decided to end the situationship. The mindset is that they can leave you but you can’t leave them. Their acting out and threats are not endearing. PLEASE don’t take it lightly. Everything Mr. Kirk said is true talk. Be safe in all ways.
That's a stretch hun. I think u meant to add more to that or something because most men who don't like u will NOT physically harm anyone for breaking things off.
In my experiences only dangerous narcissist men i know would harm u for breaking up. Those demons inside them torment them for not destroying you before the discard. Thats why they stalk u endlessly
@@ebonyeverything2751 Definitely not a stretch. I’ve seen it and I have lived it many years ago. Men are territorial by nature. Did you see the statistics on black women femicide? Every 4.5 hours a black woman is killed…you can even watch the news and you’ll see there was no stretch. I’d rather eat my words instead of this mess trending.
Whew have I learned this! My dumbass more than once! But I finally learned it! A man wants you to wait for him an save yourself for him meanwhile he moving through females!
The sad part about this is I am married to a man that complains about helping me and the children. I definitely understand what's happening here. Thanks for the advice!
Yes women need to take accountability and responsibility. Sometimes we lie to ourselves or don't honor our intuition. Also stop being nice. Use your heart for yourself and kids, not grown men who are trying to sleep with you.
Yep so glad i saw the red flags sooner than later. When I told him he only wanted me when he didn’t have anything better to do and I was moving on…he said I’m sad that you don’t care about this . But in the meantime he’s going on vacation with other woman “ So glad I didn’t give in to his charm and literally walked away with my dignity ❤so proud of myself.
Everything yo are saying is truth. I am my own issue because he is showing me exactly what he feels. I need to control myself and pull back my energy and stop being so foolish. IT IS WHAT IT IS. Thank you!
If a man really wants you, you will be in doubt whatsoever. Sit back and let him work for it, because the ones who don't make any effort, don't care, and aren't worth your time - it's that simple. You will save yourself so much time, energy, and heartache knowing this fact. I have seen this truth play out time and again.
You're absolutely right! Men often say that men are simple. I realized that after healing. I see things for what they are and not how I want them to be. Men are simple and show you exactly how they feel about you. Once you see it, you'll know whether to stay or go
This guy is dropping real game of common sense for the most part. Real man won’t argue about who’s paying for what ever, he wants to cove it even when he knows you can and he does in more ways than one! They know exactly what they want when they see it. They may be a lot of things but THEM being confused is not one of those things when it comes to you.
Us women are creatures of love and affection. We are mothers and nurturers. This is why many women play the waiting game, but it doesn't work in our favor. When men have a tendency to take advantage and use a woman's nature against her. Men are behind the curve on how to love a woman, and women could slow down on masculine traits, being a woman who is heterosexual.
Yep! This just recently happened. Doing everything under the sun for a week. Then went right back to the b s. I told him it was unnecessary to come back around. Close that door and got back to business. Move on and keep pushing ladies.
Absolutely the best advice to women on the Internet. ALL women should hear this and hear it again once a week for a year...then they (women) will wake up and correct their behavior. So glad to hear some men with character and integrity telling the truth to women.
When through this once and learned HOW MUCH GOD LOVES ME MY WORTH AND VALUE AND WHAT I CARRY ONCE WAS ENOUGH LET THAT BOYS GO GOD WILL FIND UR MATE HE IS YOUR MATCH MAKER
Thank you kirk, now I truly understand, why, I got done this way by a man. He wasn't worth it, but I'm better than him, cause I've moved on an not settling anymore. ❤😊
WITH LOVE....I think you're still putting it on the man, and not yourself. ACCOUNTABLILITY. He or they just didn't like you like that! And sometimes that's a hard pill to swallow. Being s woman being rejected by a man is extremely hard for us/women to deal with and or handle. It has happen to me several times and it was hard to deal with, but I worked thru it and repeated to myself, "He just don't like me like that!", "He don't want me like that," "I'm not someone he see's himself with! Period". And from there, I was able move on and Accept things for what it was. REJECTECTION is hard for a woman! Kirk has helped me tremendously in my dating experience. I'm not going to cry and pout or complain about what a man isn't doing, he's not doing it for a reason. And if I don't like it, or if I don't like how he's treating me, I just simply move on, there's nothing to complain about, unless I just feel like complaining to others about it. Which is pointless once you can see the full picture. God Bless you!
Remember ladies, if you see someone playing childish games like what was described here, leave that immature "man" alone. It's sad how some of these "men" can't even be honest about what they want. I see why so many women have decided to stay single these days.
Everything youre saying happened to me Just recently..And it's true everything what you're saying. BUT I CHOSE TO MOVE ON, Because I don't want nobody who doesn't want me, PERIOD! GOOD RIDDEN! I love me even if he didn't love me. I loved me enough to let go and move on. Plus, I KNOW MY WORTH!
At one point, this used to be me but only because I know what I want. I liked these men so much and the fact that I was ready for a relationship and got my feelings involved, it crushed my heart. I was left feeling confused, trying to get an understanding of where we stood, and both of those guys acted as if they had a hard time answering that. I soon opened my eyes and came to my senses. I pulled myself away, went into NO CONTACT MODE, took time out for myself, and got back in order. They come texting/calling talking about they miss me, I'm like 'yea only for what you want from me' and they be like nah but I don't ever fall for it cause I know what be up already. And these guys at the time were 2 and 4 years younger than me. Gotta talk to a MAN my age or a lil older.
Well it's been 4 years, he keeps telling me I am his woman and he is my man, however his actions were inconsustent at best. He never took me out, did not introduce me to anyone in his circle. I kept complaining after a while,he kept saying I was cmplaining. I kept saying I was done, but I allowed him to reel me back in, until I really stopped. He kept telling me to hold on, nothing ever changed. I stopped. He had four years. When I stopped of course he is calling and texting. I refuse to answer. Life is short. There is a goid man out there for me. No confusion,no anxiety. Thank you so much for your videos.❤ oh yeah he also said he is not marriage material. He was married 3 times, i guess he was right.
