Why Women Should Never Play Mind Games With Men... Especially If She Likes Him! 

Honestly if anyone has to do all of that then y'all were not meant for one another❗

I am introvert and don't have a lot of friends so I rarely go out but if I am dating someone I don't pretend I am doing anything, I just say not today I am not feeling it. Because sometimes I have my own stuff to do, like cleaning, grooming, spa days etc. Just because I have nothing to do doesn't mean I want to see you.I want to have a lazy day of reading, exercise or binging on shows etc. It's simple as this.

She is childish. I'm not making up a lie to cancel a date etc. If I decide to cancel, you'll know exactly why. We're grown. I'm not playing silly games w/ ppl. It is what it is. SMH

Why can't women just center theirselves and let the right man find them. Playing games can also win you stupid prizes.

If she doing all this, I don’t want her. I’m a boring dude. I got to work, and I go to school. I just need a regular girl…

Don’t do this…it sounds like a full time job and exhausting. You should already be too busy enjoying life to lie about it. Just be honest and let the relationship flow🤍

Men and women give and take bad advice. My ex pulled this stunt and I completely lost interest. He said he was just trying to see if I would miss him. I missed him alright. Right out of my life. Who has TIME or ENERGY for these games?! Way to grown. I also agree with having strong men. My daddy was in the house with me and I have a solid example to follow.

If a woman cancels a date with me 2-3 times in a row, I would either think she isn't that interested in me, or I would simply just get bored of waiting. People are busy, so nobody has time to play games.

In my opinion, the only man that would be interested in this type of woman is a psychotic man that likes drama and chaos! She is going to mess around and get just what she looking for! This type of behavior takes a lot of energy and methodical thinking to do!

I’m so tired of people staging. I need a man that’s just as into me as I am into him. Transparency and like mindedness is vital. This era is so fake

I may be boring but dammit, I'm consistent! Lol.

I really don’t understand these stupid immature toxic games

Men should never play mind games with a woman

I’m 33 and I’m not going to lie, I use to be that girl who played mind games and I ended up attracting toxic and almost cost me my life

I know your goal is to set an example, but what she said was correct in terms of what men respond to. You have to realize that the man doesn't know he's being played with when this is happening. You're just hearing what the game is because she's explaining it. She is not talking about creating a rollercoaster experience. She's saying to not be available all the time. Pretty much 99 percent of women know this is true. The gag is, you should not play games and lie about being unavailable. You should be living the type of life where you truly aren't available all the time. You should have a life for real, not one you have to lie about.

Positive Toxic…. An Oxymoron, if I ever heard one ! Straight up foolery 💞✌🏽

True, it's the men who start playing mind games first... If you find yourself with a person who plays games... WALK AWAY! NOT WORTH THE PAIN...

She said “positive toxic” like the two could even go together 😂😂…there’s no such thing sis! Mind games get old and guess what…dare I say it?? “Boringgggg” too. At some point it’s time to grow up.

Boring men don’t like boring women. They like the excitement she brings & vice Versa. I used to consider myself the boring girl until I met a man more boring than me …now I was the “fun girl”. It switches like that. Also, I don’t think the girl meant to literally be toxic. She’s just saying to not be so available and have a life, which is good for ANY relationship to thrive. Being predictable & available all the time takes from the mystery. Yes, it’s boring when there’s nothing left to explore 🤷🏽‍♀️

Man... Bro as an introverted God fearing, Family, business minded focused Man you hit the Nail on the Head with your commentary. We don't have time for all those extra games because we have a purpose to work on and anyone or anything distracting us from that mission have to go Thanks!

You know it's sad because a lot of us were put on game at a very young age. Some of the elderly women that we sought for advice would often say y'all way to willing and available, make him chase you, don't answer every time he calls, etc. Unfortunately these are/were women we look or looked up to and are very much married decadeslong. I just decided a couple year's ago that I'm tired of playing. If I need all these rules to be taken seriously, then I'm seriously no longer interested. I took myself off the market and nearly 8 year's later I'm still single. I've done a lot of personal work to be the best version I can be and am now considering getting back out there. The truth is with the amount of foolery happening in the world now, I'm borderline terrified of the thought of being vulnerable with someone that's use to women playing games 🙏🏾.

I used to watch her content but she advised playing too many games I’m like I don’t wanna do this to get a guy to like me if I gotta play meaningless tricks like this either I don’t need to be with him or he just doesn’t like me … like no

I disagree From what I've seen with my own eyes, men will get hooked on the women who play mind games. Men say they don't like mind games but their actions says otherwise.

She is one of the worse ones on Instagram. Teaching nothing but game and nothing of substance. But I was raised by a God fearing father so what do I know.

Not all men are the same. Both me and my man are boring so I tried to add the"spice"by doing what some of the female RU-vid influencers inspired us to do and I almost lost him😅

She sounds chaotic and devious. What’s up with that laugh🙄. Ok don’t make yourself too available in the dating stage but always be honest and truthful. Don’t be Childish. It doesn’t amount to anything. Ppl seem to confuse boring with normal and organized . Just foolish

That’s why I love my husband of 17 years bc he played no games and I wasn’t about to either

Glad to hear that serious men don't need all of that

I agree with the not being so available. Women should have things going for themselves other than your man, but not intentionally canceling dates or doing petty stuff. You should have self-care. Times you workout and go for walks in nature. So you’re not only focused on him. The message was wrong cause she was intentionally being petty, but don’t be too available

Brother in Christ, I PRAISE THE LORD JESUS CHRIST for my wife. I'm so glad to not be single and be married to a real woman of God. These dating streets are horrific. Let my "boring", stable self enjoy the married life...and stay FAR from the toxic.

I have family members and friends that tell me me “I need to stop being so vulnerable” and that mentally F’s me up. I’m considered “boring” but I do activities that are not that common and my family tells me everything this girl is saying in the video. I’m 33 I don’t have time for mine games. The sad thing is when you have family tel you this, you think it’s the right thing because it comes from them.

Chile, all that sounds like a whole lot of work I'm just not willing to do 😩😂 it's a difference between ACTUALLY being unavailable at times and INTENTIONALLY doing things and making stuff up to seem like your unavailable. Because if the tables were turned and a man was doing that to me, I'mma end up uninterested and moving on.

I don't understand mind games like that 😕 why do I have to think about all of this with somebody who's supposed to love me? It's just weird 😭

I love men that know what he wants. I am the same way as a woman.

I speak for myself when I say mind games messed me up in the head mentally and I'm still trynna get over the girls from high school who acted interested and then made a joke of me. what human being would want to keep trying to date or mess with women but my mom and dad were like av you ain't messing with women you messing with immature girls but I'm 20 now and honesty in my perspective ain't shit changing dog so honestly to protect my mind and peace and health Ima opt out. and fr fr I'm an introvert and Ima be honest I was lead astray by the Red Pill shit I thought that it was the key but man so many dudes I know are on that shit vs when I was 14 vs now im 20 and I look back I go damm that shit is mad corny crazy how the good dude is looked at as corny but the toxic dude is cool society and ppl morals are so gone well not really but majority ppl are gone so guys and ladies, if somebody is playing games with you, keep in mind your time mental and health isn't worth it I used to mess with this girl in high school bro was my type looked like a girl outta the 90s so after a while we talk and talk vibe laugh bro next thing you know once she knew she had me the toxic stuff came and it's crazy cuz my parents warned me about manipulative women like her whole time I'm like Nah some girls ain't like that bro 🤦🏿‍♂️aint no worst feeling to think somebody likes you connects with you then to find out they were playing you the whole time or to the be the backup plan just so they can save their own ass I speak for the ppl who've been hurt like this man and women I pray y'all find some peace cuz I know how traumatic that can be makes you get to a certain point in life where the hope is just gone.

“Boring” men make the best husbands. Dedicated to their family, loyal and supportive to their wife and kids. These men have no desire for Chicken Heads, Thots, and 304’s. Good for him….

It’s interesting a lot Women in the comment section feel men love toxic Women. I must be in the minority then 🤔. I don’t like women who play mind games it’s a massive turn off for me. I don’t like chasing women either and value reciprocity.

You can the type of guys that got scarred by women like this… you can’t even tell them when you’re really at work and have them believe you.

Harmony, peace and order is boring for people who loves chaos. There is peace and harmony if everything is in order.

Everybody wants to be the toxic one. It makes them feel like they are powerful and important when they have control over your life and emotions. A lot and the majority of pll are like that. It’s like a tit for tat or get back game it’s sick.

I say this all the time. Nobody wants to play mind games just to secure a man. Be yourself, stop listening to snakes. If he doesn’t like you for who you are then its not meant to be.

I never played these games with men when i was single because i never wanted men playing games with me. To me that stupid

She was on a dating show a few years back called READY TO LOVE on OWN.

In reality she's not really doing any of those things so then what happens when he realizes that you really have nothing going for yourself? I just think it's funny how y'all think men are stupid. They know you. One day you'll have to be your real self everyday.

Many people who have accumulated lots of wealth have taken risks. They were smart and thought about the risks, but still had enough confidence and faith in themselves to take the risks. Don't confuse peace and safety with boring. No one wants to be bored by their partner. But they do want to have someone who will be their safe place, who they can rely on, who they can trust. That's not boring.

I wonder how her game playing is working out for her….??? 🤔

Have a life. Problem solved. You don’t have manufacture busy, when you actually are. Some men will like that and understand it, and some men won’t. Go with the men that do.

Why I understand not wanting to make yourself too available to any man, I do not see the need for these games. Make time for yourself, simple. You do not have to do everything with a man or woman, personal time and space is essential to a healthy you

A good man is Godly and so he walks in truth and wants those around him to do the same 💪🏽

Smart! Most people don't know what a good man is or what a good relationship is.

The thing about social media is that anybody can use their platform to advise others on anything. I would love to know if this works for her 😏

This is so sad I pray for her healing and deliverance

Emotionally mature people aren't into mind games and will notice that kind of childish behavior. You're right. When you're busy or just want time for yourself, that's one thing and that's fine. But there's no need to play the whole "unavailable" game, i've seen a lot of both men and women teaching this message and it's unhealthy if you are someone who's looking for a serious relationship or marriage.

I play mind games but not on purpose I just get bored of men and start drifting off.

She sounds like she got that advice from that guy from the RU-vid channel mindful attraction

SMH. Good Grief. Judging by her behavior and the things she’s saying, she looks as if she’s not dealing with a full deck. Even her laughter creeps me out. It’s never ever a good idea to be playing mind games with anyone. Especially in a relationship. That never ends well. You have to be specific and concrete when it comes to communication, behavior, and decisions. Things like mind games are what destroy relationships, marriages, and people’s lives. It’s not worth it and it’s not right to be doing something so asinine as playing mind games just to supposedly stroke your ego and get a rise out of someone. That’s just WICKED. I’d rather be a boring woman than a woman who purposefully causes chaos through nefarious acts such as mind games.

😂 im sorry but that sounds exhausting.

Definitely wish I had found his videos years ago. I was so brain washed as a teen listening to bull crap like this and not having any male role models in my life to begin with. I realize how ridiculous of a fool I was being. I lost the love of my life that way and I still regret it till this day that he treats me like a stranger. I dont know if Ill ever win him back because of how immature I was being and I want to get back with him I miss him so much and I know our connection is not lost spiritually. Recently I have started to put God first my heavenly father by casting all my problems and worries to him in prayer. Instead of always complaining about them in my head and feeling sorry for myself. I learned to not trust in people but always trust in God 🙏

That advice is good for only psychopath women...and those are the dream girls in my high school (quite literally, if a good looking girl is not crazy and soulless, she's dismissed just like me, while the psycho women are always desired). It has always been that way and cruel soulless women are especially desirable to the boys in my high school. That has always been my experience throughout my teens and 20s, and continues in my 30s, and is the reason why I never dated. I refuse to date some guy who settled for me while his dream girl is a psychopath socialite who sleeps around with the entire city. Hence why I would rather not have a guy who has too much dating experience. If he does, then that's a red flag, because that means he is the kind of guy who goes for that kind of woman.

If being yourself and a decent human being ain't enough to hold him, he ain't worth holding. Life is too d*mn short. We got travelin to do, money to make, and lives to live.

💯%Real Facts Shumake thanks 4 that great advice.

A good man to me is a guy who's Smart, Well- groomed, Respect himself, Ambitious, knows how to Control his anger & has strong values. Great video..!! Your videos are teachable 🙂🙂

Men absolutely Don't like boring women. Single and celibate more than 2.5 years...and dating is crap. But this shawty jumping through too much hoops like cirque de soleil.

Great video as always.

Bc of this kind of mindset being spread online, I think a lot of people can’t distinguish between legit reasons for cancelling or not texting/calling back & game playing. It’s hard to tell the difference now bc so many people play these games. If I cancel or don’t call/text back, it’s for a real reason but with content like this out there that men see, I wouldn’t be surprised if they thought I was bs’ing. I’m not gonna lie I can’t tell the difference sometimes but when it’s a pattern, it’s obvious.

11:38 Thanks for being my big brother and for your brotherly advice and love. We are brother and sister in Christ. May God continue to bless you with wisdom and knowledge. ❤

Its the simple things a man does for me that makes me feel secure in the relationship. I wouldn't take her advice. I need certain things to be routine from the man I am doing life with. JS

God bless you brother I needed to hear that awesome video 🩷

Yup, I agree with what you said. Real talk 💯💯💯

Regardless of what gender you are, playing mindgames is wildly childish and being petty is not a flex. It's never acceptable to play with a person's mental health.EVER.It's cowardly and self- sabotaging. All in a bid to not get hurt. Meanwhile, you may have just lost a real one🤷🏾‍♀️

Love what you doing brother in Christ👊🏽

Thank you for this video.

She childish bruh😂😂

I am genuine, at times may do "boring" stuff, but my fiancee loves and likes ME. He's right, good men who are serious are looking for the real you, no games, they want good communication. I am learning to communicate better ..be an adult not a kid. Don't lie. Men are looking for the real YOU.

And vice versa

The thing is she has a point. Ironically, I am usually busy with not a lot of time for dating and the men who like me still constantly try to pursue me. It gets annoying sometimes. But it’s like they have a mission to get me regardless if I’m available or not.

This is called dark psychology for a reason. It's manipulation through deceit. It will likely not end well. Especially if the man is of quality and is a continual learner. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I see women do this alot and end up losing the good man and pairing up in a toxic relationship they regret for a number of reasons. Abuse, cheating and lost years. Karma is real. One of my favorite recent sayings, "the seeds we plant grow into the consequences we have to face." But they all think they are the exception to the rule and they can flip a switch and have what they want whenever they want. Sad reality is that isn't the case. You don't get many swings at bat for a good man. Worst even is that when they reject a man of God, they are directly rejecting God Himself. You don't reject God, wave your hand and have it your way when you're ready. He will remind you that you rejected His gift in foolishness.

Great Commentary!😊

Great advice

This is reassuring.

🛑! Her daddy could be there physically, but his psyche is absent.

All factual I just cut off a potential for playing mental games. Warned him twice third time I’m 👻

You are the best! a joy to my day wishing you and your family love and prosperity ! You help me be a better woman to myself and my boyfriend. Thank you.

My cousin and uncles are like that. They are family oriented and love God .❤❤❤

positive toxic. It's over. I quit. Positive toxic. All of these rules that were created by women are hurting men.

I’m five minutes into the video… I’m not sure if Shumake or someone below already said it, but the problem with her logic is while you’re being “unavailable“ The only type of men that would be attracted to that foolishness will be going around trying to talk to other girls, probably get what he want out of you eventually *ahem ahem* and then move on from you. He said it best you’re not gonna attract a good guy with that kind of shenanigans. She has the most backwards logic I’ve ever heard of in my life. Not to mention, it’s an old tactic/mindset, it’s not unheard of.

Yes we do need a good well grounded man.

Whats wild is that you will cancel one of the dates, you will be too busy to call sometimes. You dont have to do this stuff intentionally. if you have stuff going on with you outside of the relationship, you wont have to lie

I'm so glad I serve a big God so when I do meet my future husband I don't have to play "positive toxic" games. 😂 Yes, have a life that's fulfilling so you're not draining to your man, but games are for people whose intentions are to play. When you are dating the person who is potentially your kingdom spouse, you should want to show up as the highest version of yourself, show respect and add peace to their life, not turmoil. If that's the one, you should endeavor to treat them in a way that shows God you can be trusted with such a sacred relationship. And if they're not the one, why would you wanna potentially cause lingering trauma to your brother/sister in Christ? Ask God for wisdom and you won't have to play childish games.

I agree with you, and it’s always a pleasure listening to your perspective. I really appreciate what you are doing on this platform. I personally feel like a lot of the advice that is given on social media is contrary to God’s word. One of a plethora of things that I noticed in this video is that she is promoting lying when this is one of the seven things that God hates. And what's sad, and I agree with you, is that the foundation of these types of relationships is being sown upon lies, deception, and manipulation that will only reap sadness, hurt, anger, and frustration. The math doesn't add up when someone says they desire something real, but they exhibit this type of behavior out of the pain, hurt, and unhealed traumas they haven't yet addressed, which is only projecting further pain onto the person who didn't put it there in the first place. That's not fair.

Can you do a video on sherasevem the sprinkle sprinkle lady

This doesn't work on me i will just move on

"A great man knows how to give love and receive love" that's optimal in a relationship.

This one is talking about men without focus or are confused . Do that shit with men that have something going on for them that dont want some unneccesary stress and you would be surprised by what you would be left with .

So we are just supposed to lie and keep lying???? This is horrible advise for any and every relationship.

It sounds tiring doing all this.

Lmfao. The games they play. Then when that man gets ghost on you, you'll blame him

It would have been better if she had said "you should have a life, don't depend on spending all your time with him".

if i can sit with anyone on this planet and just be quiet i would be happy.

I’ll be honest. Both of you are correct and saying the right thing. Her message is to attract a certain type of man. Not the type that any woman should want but this is the real world and one thing I’d say is if it weren’t for ppl like her explaining how certain men in the world operate I would have no clue because no one in real life is saying these types of things about men- which is very much true. Once again it definitely a toxic man she’s talking about or an insecure man and not the men women should entertain at least. But when you’re young and have a lot of maturing to do, and have feelings you just don’t know how to deal with you don’t know better.