Why I Don’t Want Kids | Child-free Beyond 30 

43 childfree and happeeeeeeeeeee. Don't regret a single minute. Love the sleeping in, travelling, financial freedom and not being bound to school holidays only. Oh gosh, I think I'm gonna take a nap..

I don't want kids either, and it's nobody's business but mine. Ahhhh, the freedom to travel whenever I want...

I so agree, Rose! I am 51 now and I do not regret not having kids. You really raise important points,

My wife and I are in our mid 30's and never wanted kids. We've been married for over 12yrs and after seeing the stuff parents have to put up with makes us so incredibly grateful we don't/won't have kids.

Awesome video. I used to want children, but then I realized that was just what society told me to want. I’m currently ok with my decision.

I knew at young age I didn’t want be a mom. Raising a child is so expensive some people don’t think about it and pop out a baby. Being pregnant doesn’t sound pleasant to me. I do have a disability can pass it on. It’s of my one reasons I choice to be childfree. I’m a dog person rather adopt two dog and be married someday.

I have had a child but absolutely respect people who chose to be child-free. For me the biggest shock has not been how expensive having a child is in fact even with not being financially very well off thats made its way to the bottom of the pile. It’s the loss of freedom, sleep etc the cost in terms of energy physically and mentally and putting yourself last, the constant worrying etc i could go on 😅

I think being child free is a great choice for so many reasons.

I am 55 and married--no children here and no regrets! We love traveling, sleeping in going out. We are debt free as well! Every night is date night!

Hi, I'm also a school teacher in Colombia and I enjoy my time with children but as you said I want to go back home and take a rest without any responsibility with children so I decided not to have children. To be parents is okay but freedom is much better. That's my opinion. (Sorry for my english)

I don't want a bunch of unemployed people eating all my food and then I also have to clean up after them. no thabks

I have raised the same points to people. People still look at me like I'm crazy. I don't really care. I'm 43. No natural children. Only adoption. No regrets!

Some of the most happiest women on earth are those who are single and childless or childfree and I happen to be both a single woman and without any children at the age of 41.

The crazy thing is whenever I see people with kids they're always complaining about something regarding parenting. Whether it be not being able to go out, not getting a good night's sleep, all the things they have to buy or just being overwhelmed in general. And don't get me started on the ones that jump at any opportunity to pawn their kids off on someone else for a night. But then will be confused as to why I don't want children. Like dude, you don't exactly make it sound like a picnic.

I’m childfree and really happy it’s my life

Great video! It’s such a personal choice whether or not to have kids and deciding not to have them is 100% ok:)

I'm 35 and have a health condition but my husband and I are actually content now with the fact that we won't have kids. I like videos like this to know we are not alone.

SO SO TRUE. Im gonna be child free by choice!

Actually a lot of guys do feel like their decisions are being judged as well as I see men who talk about their experiences. It's just that women are more harshly judged on their choices. 30 and childfree. I can't imagine having my life permanently impacted with a child I don't want. I don't want to lose my sleep or my solitude. I'm extremely introverted and I need alone time significantly especially after work (when I used to work) and I'd come back home grumpy whenever I was nagged after step-in into my threshold and I only live with family members. I get angry when I can't be alone, doing my hobbies and being able to sleep. I don't handle loud noises and temper tantrums well from children. I also like spending time with my boyfriend. I don't want the child to be competing with him for attention, nor do I want to sacrifice adult time or feel trapped in my own home. I know for a fact I'd be extremely resentful if I had children and I would not make a good parent at all which is why I opt out of having them. I don't care if that makes me "selfish" for some but I am also responsible and empathetic towards children and the planet for not having them.

I'm 27 and been married for 1 year now and opt to be child-free... I and my husband simply don't care about what people might think about our choice. Our life, our rule...Aha! xoxo

I knew when I was young, that I didn't want to be a mom. I'm now 55 and have 0 regrets that I never had a child. I like my freedom to much. I'm getting together with friends at the end of the month for a concert. When I got the tickets, I didnt have to worry about if I could afford it or if my kid needed something for school. And when I go to the concert, I don't have to worry about getting a baby sitter. I'm off work tomorrow and I'm sleeping in late and going for a first day hike. I just can't honestly think of a reason to have them. And I recently had a very long discussion with my nephew about being childfree since he has decided that he doesn't want them.

I'd love to be childless forever.

Have pets instead.

Being childfree is the best lifestyle choice for me. Happy to see a lot of us doing the same 💜 love from Poland

Financial reasons are just one type of reason. Time is more precious than finances. If a person has no time enough to properly take care of oneself after work, then do chores, cleaning, budgeting and have proper rest and quality 8 hour sleep and barely make it for next day to work - add another person (disabled for the first few years) - and you'll screw up your schedule, and thereby screw up your health. If you have bunch of extra time left (like 8 extra free hours) every day after work,then after cooking and cleaning at home, then resting, and then still have time to sleep full 8 hours AND if you have a positive net worth at the end of every month big enough to support two adult quality lives for the next 18+ years AND if you have stable living place , then it's ok to just make ONE baby and still under one more condition - you have to want it. I treasure QUALITY of life over QUANTITY of lives. It's just a matter of quality over quantity, and the only people who think like that are the ones who live their lives consciously.

There's never been a choice for me to have kids. I just never had the urge for my own children. Now that's not saying I hate kids. I actually LOVE children/teens and have TONS of patience for kids. But the urge and desire has never clicked in my head to reproduce. I never got hit with baby fever and I'm 37. I have lots of people assume I have kids and there's always that surprised Pikachu face when discovering me and my husband don't want any. Then the second surprise comes up when they say we'll change our mind later and ask how long we been married. 18 years. At that point, I see their expressions just trying to come with another comeback, but they can't handle it. I just never had the urge for having any of my own.

I'm in my mid 20's, the youngest of 4 girls and after my older sisters had their kids in their teens as young as 13, I don't want kids. I have a plan for myself after college and I don't want to mess it up for myself and give up my dreams. Nobody has the right to judge our own decisions. Agree with this video!

I and my girlfriend decided not to have kids for many reasons. One of them is our age: she's 45 and I'm 49. Cheers from Brazil.

Great video. From a male perspective it's interesting how many of my male relatives, friends and co workers feel so open about not wanting kids. But their female counterparts are vilified, humiliated, described as crazy or selfish by everyone especially other females if they openly confess to not wanting kids. We really have to change that ignorant mindset within our culture. Watching from London UK.

I’ve just turned 30, single, and not sure if I want kids myself or if that’s just what I’ve always assumed I would do and what’s been expected of me. The thought of pregnancy makes me feel extremely anxious and terrified, I’ve had nightmares about it for years, and I very rarely feel maternal toward children - I usually don’t want to hold other people’s babies or get excited around kids. I’m ok when I’m around them but I don’t seek it out. I’m not even sure I want to get married at this point either - I think that being single basically my whole life has gotten me too used to my own company. Maybe if I met the ‘right person’ my thoughts on both things will change, but it seems like in this day and age I really have to put my back out to meet someone and I feel like it’s just trying way too hard when it shouldn’t be (dating apps are not the same as meeting people out in the wild). I’ve just been thinking about all this a lot lately.

Why do all these mothers start off with the financial burden of children 😩 makes us all seem selfish. Many of us can in fact afford a child but have many deeper reasons why we don’t want one.

I decided when I was a kid, that I never wanted to have kids. My reasoning was, I didnt want to bring someone into a world where they would just have to die one day anyway. I'm 53 now. In my life I have had unprotected sex, and was on the pill for a few years. Never got pregnant (thank God) .. got lucky I guess.

I am finding a growing number of people agree with you! And as others mentioned, the financial freedom, traveling, emotional freedom, and all the reasons you stated, can make a difference! I know I will find the right person out there that meets that view, too. Your video gives us all hope!

I never wanted kids. I gave my parents plenty warning, and at this point they would be shocked if I changed my mind. Instead, I want own a lot of animals, read a ton of books, and become an author. This world does not need me to have babies, its fine that others do. One things that is dumb is people tell me I'm selfish. Like they say I will die alone and when I'm old and need help, no one will be there. But then I clap back with, well isn't it selfish to have a child to only have them take care of me when I'm old? That is if they even want to be with me anyway. Plus, when I'm old, I'm going take care of myself and live in this world independently and with spirit. I am not going to go through the horror (as an asexual with sex repulsion) of having sex, getting pregnant, then through the trauma of birth, to then have a small human scream and through fits, just because someone else told me "I have to have a baby". Nope! I'm good! Having children is not for everyone, and it's fine if you do or don't want kids. People need to just be themselves. :)

At 54 I am finally past the point of people asking me if i am going to have kids now they just ask if i have any and seemed shocked when i say no and then ask "why not" which is uncomfortable. Sometimes i say because i have mental health issues in my family and sometimes i say because i never wanted any which seems to offend them and sometimes if i am feeling mean i would say because i cant have any which would make them feel bad for asking in the first place 🤣 Having kids does not necessarily make you feel less lonely in these days when everyone lives their life on social media and cant be bothered to pick up the phone and actually communicate!

You talked a lot of deep stuff in having kids which I don't get why parents never talk about. Parents seems only talks about how happy they are having the kid but ignoring all the issues. I just don't get it. I guess people thinks having kids is the norm and everyone have to do it and that's just nuts.

I am 63 and have 3 children and 2 Grandchildren and one on the way. Having children is wonderful to me but exhausting too. I never expect them to take care of me. Great for you. I think Childfree adults should be happy with their choice. You have one life and are able to make you own choices.

I had one daughter when I was 17. Her father and I got married and a few years down the track, we tried for a second child. Due to severe health complications, it didn’t end well. We had the choice to pursue IVF, but after a long time, we chose not to. I am now a grandmother. The doctors told me that my daughter was a miracle, by all means, I should have never conceived her. I am at peace with my decision. I returned to the workforce and raised one daughter. Many people questioned our decision but we stuck to it.

Its interesting that many don't even consider these things before having children. I have always been one to over analyse things so when I seriously thought about having kids every single one of your points came to my mind. we must think alike :) I too am also a vegan. I have talked about these points with my husband and at this point have both decided to not have children. I am 34 and my husband 38. We don't want our relationship to change or be strained by having them and also we love travelling. we want to pay off the mortgage before we are 50 and without having children this is completely achievable. thanks for sharing its nice to know others out there think like this too. I am never apologetic or guilty about sharing my truth about not wanting to have kids. There is nothing wrong with making that choice. Whats weird is that 3 different strangers who are supposed mediums/claivoyants have told me without me asking that I am to have twins??!! so who knows what my future holds.

Thank you for bringing that topic up. I don't ever want childern regardless of what other people think or say. I generally don't like children and i don't feel comfortable being around them. I started disliking children even more because the new RU-vid policy that's happening from the FTC Coppa (Children's Online Privacy Protection Action) law is going to be problematic for alot of adults on RU-vid for the sake of the children. The whole life cycle thing of living things being born to procreate to past on their genes to next generation and die is so lame to me. I much rather be single forever than ever have a girlfriend who even in the slightest eventually wants kids. It seems that every biological fact about the female body such as females having more body fat than males, females naturally being more flexible than males, females mature faster than males, females having stronger lower body strength than males , and females having a higher tolerance for pain than males is all for childbearing and preparing for motherhood. It sucks that a lot of couples are too stubborn to realize the consequences of the planet being so overpopulated by keep making them babies and since the Earth's population is it going to continue to grow then Humanity better become a multi Planet species before 30 years despite the difficulties of finding a planet that's habitable for us humans to inhabit without the need for space suits.

58. Childfree. Loving every peaceful moment.

People around throw me pathetic looks when they know i m single,unmarried and childless. (They think i'm weird) I saw how my parents(immature,financially unstable)struggle with raising a family. Lesson learnt, Don't repeat. My mom used to babysit alot of babies,toddlers to supplement income. We the children helped took care of many babies and toddlers. Now i am all grown up,i just wanna make up lost time not bother anyone and just enjoy my solitude. I m 42,never regretted not getting married and having children.

I used to think something was wrong with me because I never had the instinctual longing for children. I am 36, happily married, and child free

I've spent most of my life neglecting myself because of mental health reasons. Now I'm 32 and barely getting better, I really feel I begin to live a life worth living, so honestly I do want to enjoy the rest of it taking care of myself. Guilt free! Free at last! Among other reasons indeed, the most important being that I just don't feel like having kid(s). Sending love to all of you! 💕

35yo guy here. For as long as I can remember I’ve been told I’ll want kids eventually. Hmmmmm no, I don’t and never will but why am I looked at like a monster for not wanting any. Yes we are consuming natural resources at a discussing rate. A rate that we can’t keep up with and there’s people out there have 3+ kids on purpose.

I'm only 25. However, I'm in a loop about having children. My biggest worry is passing down health issues and regretting my decision once they are here. I'm afraid to say "I'll never have children" because accidents happen. Unless my future husband decides to get snipped.

I love and enjoy my current title Auntie i have two handsome nephews. People look at me like i have 4 heads when I say i don't have children and I don't want children. My brother is the youngest and he looks older than me. Thank you for making this video

I’m 30 , I’m married and I don’t want to have kids... how do you handle the judgement ... honestly sometimes I feel guilty because I know my husbands mom wants grandchildren... but i won’t change my mind ... but i do feel really guilty .

When People with kids ask me when im going to have kids? i answer. So misery wants company?

I am terrified of babies, young children and pregnancy sooo no thanks I don't want to be a mom ever

I can relate to those patronizing questions a LOT Except it includes the fact that I'm a lesbian, my mom keeps treating it like a bad habit I'll eventually grow out of so I can pop out more grandchildren for her. It's been 8 years mother, I'm pretty sure it's not a habit lol

Choice and Respect. I think that is what this issue comes down to for me. I agree with you on the population issue, however that being said it still comes down to personal choice and respect on others choice. I am 42 years old and decided when I was a teenager not to have children. I don’t know if there was one pressing reason why. I don’t dislike children or any one reason you mentioned. I just don’t have that pressing desire in me that a lot of people do to procreate. I have met a few people in my life that have that need that haven’t been able to have children and I feel so badly for them. I know someone now that has been trying to get pregnant for years and has been unable. She wants to have a child of her own. For some reason adoption isn’t the same for her. It is something innate in her, this need to have a child. I just don’t have that need to have a child or even raise a child. I think those that do - good for you. But I also feel the respect part is so important. I remember when I was in my 20’s and 30’s people telling me “you’ll change your mind,” as if I didn’t know my own mind. I wouldn’t do that to someone. And now it’s another form now that I’m in my 40’s. Just a few weeks ago someone told me “you don’t know what it’s like since you don’t have children”. So for me it comes down to those two things - Choice and respect.

I totally agree with you Rose! That's why I am happy remaining single! Happy single life :)

Thanks for this video. Me having mental health issues is really a valid reason to not have children.Why even go through the process and possibly pass along your issues to a innocent person. Student debt also isn't helping either. Lets not forget the process of being pregnant and a black woman in this sick care system. I'm good. Not every experience is for everyone

I'm 56 and not a mother. I had a hysterectomy in 2007 after fibroids. I have no regrets whatsoever because of what you're saying. No one should ever question a woman's right not to have kids.

35 and childfree! Never had any regrets. I have a disability and a bunch of health issues. Also there is schizophrenia and bipolar and a bunch of other mental health stuff in our family. We even have a couple of low scoring psychopaths. I would NEVER risk passing any of that on to kids, so if I ever change my mind, (which I doubt I will) I will try to adopt or foster. I believe in taking care of the kids already on the planet before we make any more. Also I prefer animals and if I’m honest, I don’t like kids. They annoy me. Hence why I don’t think I’ll ever change my mind. I feel it’s better to know your limits and not reproduce if you don’t 100% desperately want to be a parent. And I don’t. I’d rather rescue unwanted parrots.

Great video! I love that we as a child free community are taking more time to talk about the option of living life without kids. It is such an important life decision and needs more exposure. 😀

All of this! My fiancé and I are now constantly dealing with family and friends asking “when are you having kids” even though I’ve told them I don’t want any and have known this since I was young. My family doesn’t understand and either tells me I will change my mind or that I’m making a terrible choice. It’s so annoying. It’s so rude to even ask IMO. It’s like asking someone about their sex life or medical problems. It’s invasive and shouldn’t be a normal point of conversation.

I’m 34, was married 12yrs and during my marriage and now still, have never desired to have children.

Thanks for this content. It clear and logical, and helped me a lot to explain my choices to others. I'm 32 and since I was a child, I know I didn't want to have a child of my own. My past is complicated and really dramatic. Have been raised by an alcoholic shisophrenic father that never wanted to have any kids. And now when I'm on my path to self actualisation I'm trying to clear every topic aqnd trauma in my head by working through it. This video made me feel a little understaning to my father. He never wanted kids, he was not happy, and couldn't escape from this.

I'm so happy to be childfree by choice. I literally thank God everyday. lol

I’m 23 and told my mom I didn’t want kids in fifth grade. She told me I’d change my mind but I still don’t want them. Too damn expensive and I just don’t want them

Im glad I have no children even more during Covid ...I would not like to home school 😩

Point no 2 is my reason not to have kids. I have an hereditary mental disorder and sometimes I can't even take care of my self, let alone a child. I think it would be selfish of me to pass it on someone else.

You know what? You've just earned yourself a subscriber!!!!

I turn 30 in a few weeks and have no desire . I like my life and don't want to change it.

Awesome video 💯 You have explained everything regarding this topic perfectly & smoothly 👏🏻 Also, I liked how you ended it with "don't judge others" 👍🏻 Have a great week💕😊

I feel all that you've said. I have one child and I am glad I had him, love him with all my heart but I knew immediately into parenting that I had no interest in giving him a sibling. It may sound horrible but when he grows up I'm done done, I will, of course, still be his amazing mom but when the holidays and homework and major responsibility are over I won't miss it. My son is 13 and people ask crazy things like "Give him a sibling, he's 13"...Exactly, fool, he is 13, hell do I like starting over?! He is my baby, my pal and I've enjoyed watching all that I've loved and cultivated blossom but I don't need to try again. When I'm 40, he will be 20 and I will be without having to worry worry about him.Also, I find folks that have more that 2 bored, lol, hell are you trying to prove? I guess, try for a boy and girl or give kid a companion and after that that's enough...oooooooooor, if I never had my little mistake I would not have ever consciously conceived.

Thank you for making this video and going through all these details... ALL the details. People say your selfish, but they never think of a persons background or even try to understand why a person made the choice to not have children. We all have to do what is the best of all scenarios and parties involved.

I have heard quite a few moms be wistful about their childfree days. I dont think every mom is like that..but i think alot more people have had kids because they don't realize that they have the option not too.

I'm a 29 yr old man soon to be 30 and I don't want kids at all because I have a visually impairment disability ( as an infant to adulthood) I am currently in the transitioning of going back to class for a business degree and starting a business. I don't want kids period, just want to be me and my spouse for the rest of our lives.

You can always sponsor through World Vision. One of the best moves for the cause of children.

So happy to find a Childfree youtuber! ❤️

I'm 39 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I have a bunch of reasons why I choose not to have children but I will only share my top 3 reasons.... 1. Children are too expensive. 2. Parenthood is a lot of responsibility. 3. I don't wanna bring a child into this disgusting world. Being single/unmarried and childfree was the the best favour I have done for the government and law. Best decision I have made for myself and I have zero regrets.

Love your energie, your honesty, straight forwardness, you are a good person, you shine and are confident. I am 29 and worried about my desicion, like I feel that I dont want kids but maybe that will be the biggest misstake of my life. In this video you uplift all women stressing over to have or not to have kids. I feel relaxed thanx to you, you are great at what you do

Great video! Thank you for sharing❤ I’m 35 and childfree. I love this life.

i am so glad I watched this video to reassure myself that my decision to be childfree is satisfying and seems like a blessing. hey, can you please help out in finding a partner who too wants to go childfree?

Nothing about parenting has ever been remotely desirable or attractive to me. From being pregnant for 9 mths to the pain of childbirth, to years of dealing with children and everything that goes with it. The loss of freedom, time and resources. The chronic stress and anxiety and worry. NO thanks.

OMG...everyone said/s " to me you will understand when you have children"..."NO! " I say " I understand what it is like to have children, that's why I don't want nor have them." I think a large proportion of people who chose to have children don't really know what it is like to have children, until they do... I was lucky I guess, my mother had my brother when I was 14yo, I saw what it really meant to have children. Decided then that children were not for me. Then I became even luckier and found out that I am unable to have children. I cheered when I found out. Doctor was very concerned with my reaction and asked if I needed counselling. I laughed and said no do you? This is the best thing that could have happened to me. Makes me frustrated when people don't understand that not being able to have children is the best thing that has ever happened to my husband and me. I have friends and other family members that don't want children and they can't get an operation to stop having children because they are women. Grrr, the injustice of it, do people think that they have not thought about it, especially if you have to go against societies norms. Luckly childless and loving it!!!

Women feel pressured by their families to “give grandparents grandchildren.” Hot f&cking mess.

I consider this decision a very mature and responsible one. Mental health issues amongst children are at an all-time high nowadays (with Covid adding fuel to the fire). There are obviously A LOT of people out there doing a shitty job when it comes to parenthood. Financial stability is definitely important but by no means enough to raise someone with a decent personality. So many humans never got their childhood trauma worked out and merely pass it down to their offspring. Moreover, the Ukrainian war shows how volatile our economic system really is (I'm German, petrol and gas/energy prices have been shooting through the roof since the war started) and how much we depend on certain agreements...until they're not agreed upon any more. Not exactly my idea of an environment I wanted a child to live in. I'm 36 now and realized years ago that I'm simply not interested in raising a child. I prefer to invest in myself. Already lost so much time due to mental health issues, I'm not willing to sacrifice any more of it to something I don't personally deem important.

Very true. I totally agree. We should be mentally, physically, financially, emotionally ready for kids otherwise we should not take the risk.

I’m 38 Never kids!

Im 36 and child free. I absolutely love the children in ny life (my nieces, nephews, little cousins and the kids I train) and kids in general. I am VERY protective around children and I do enjoy the energy of children. With that said, I DO NOT want children of my own and I appreciate and I am grateful not to handle that responsibility. Theres times where I think of being a parent and it seems cool but I just do NOT have a burning desire or deep passion to want to be a father/parent. I enjoy my freedom to do the things I enjoy without much sacrifice. And I also don't really have the ideal financial situation and establishments (That I hold myself to) to want to even have children.

You are a beautiful person. Thank you so much for this video! ❤

Thank you so much for this list. It was useful.

No kids = more money for myself, more freedom, less heartache and generally more fun. Kid = expensive, less money for yourself, less freedom, more heartache, and generally less fun. I will take the first option coz its a no brainer!

41 no children and no regrets.

Thank you. I'm 31 and childfree.

Love this video it’s very informative

These are great conversations to have:) As we keep talking about this, hopefully it will become more normalized and people will see that not having children is a viable option as well.

Excellent video. I agree 100%

Hey Rose I just want to say thank you for making this video it it really helped help a lot and I completely understand now but I rather be a aunt so I can spoil my nieces and nephews and send them home and I rather be a dog mom 🙏💜

I could not agree more with you, subscribed.

I agree with each and every point you mentioned. Thank you for this.

girl you got on this video and PREACHED!!

63M, lifelong childfree, retired and loving it (though the COVID thing has some travel plans on hold) A few predicted that life would be lonely and unfulfilled without grandchildren but nothing is further from the truth. Your points pretty much covered it. The loss of intimacy between couples after they have a child is one big thing that turned me off and the fact that life is all about the kids and revolves around them, well--no thanks. I can remember at least a half dozen of my classmates were already divorced by age 25 and kid related issues (& the lack of money due to that) were a huge part of it. They got into something that they weren't ready for.

I’m a 28 year old single man, no wife no kids. I would like to get married but not really sure about having kids. I honestly don’t know if I see myself as a father. I don’t have the means to support a child to begin with. I like my free and easy lifestyle. When I get married I want my wife and I to be one of those couples where we travel and go wherever we want whenever we want. I’m more focused on putting my life together and growing as a person.

The other factor is if you can mentally handle it. Mentally I already know I can’t do it since I’m already going through a lot of anxiety and depression and I’m thankful that I have a way of dealing with it through Djing and producing music which I’m thankful for everyday of my life and I cannot complain.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

I’m a Childfree guy and I don’t get judged the way women are. IT IS WHAT IT IS. Sadly. Happy New Year 👍