This Is Why You Won't Regret Your Childfree Life

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Childfree are constantly told that they will REGRET THEIR CHOICE one day. So, will we?
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@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

00:00 intro 00:34 you might actually know what you want 01:30 it looks different for everyone 02:30 think about it 03:25 this is false 04:05 but what if... 05:18 snack hunt

@JT0007 Год назад

You’re not a real adult if you’ve never raised a kid. So much you don’t understand until you’re raising a kid. 🇺🇸

@hotpotato4023 Год назад

@@JT0007sooo what do you understand?

@JT0007 Год назад

@@hotpotato4023 why didn’t you have kids? 🇺🇸

@bobmarker6812 Год назад

I was 17 when I decided kids weren't for me. I like kids, just didn't want the responsibility or cost. Now at 62, I've NEVER had a regret.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

Love hearing older childfree people share their perspective. Thank you!

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

Beat you by one year Bob. My 16 year old drinking buddies and I were having beers one night during a 2 feet snowstorm and began talking about who would get married first, who would have kids, etc. I said "I will NEVER have kids" and got laughed at. Oh well, 58 years young now and have zero regret. One of the guys married at age 24, had a child, wife began playing around, drained his bank account, they divorced. In the meantime, I was playing drums in a rock band and partying like a wild man in my 20's. Planning to retire at 62 with more than enough to be comfortable. Kids are for other people. Not my problem.

@abigailmills2603 10 месяцев назад

that’s actually so relieving to read as a child free 19 year old!!

@AntonetteStols-hu5jv 4 месяца назад

As a 17 year old now feeling the same,this comment really helps😊

@queerstudbroalex Год назад

Regretting being childfree is far, far better than regretting having kids because you still have to deal with the kids!

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

So true.

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

What could I regret?

@queerstudbroalex Год назад

@@CordeliaWagner I am childfree, and I was mainly referring to, IF people regret being childfree because of the video title. I don't personally regret being childfree.

@birdieculture Год назад

@@CordeliaWagner You could regret not making a human thats under social obligation to obey you i guess? especially in Asia where offsprings are expected to listen to commands of parents lmao

@natural3362 Год назад

@@birdieculture ew that's selfish. Creating life to obey them. Poor kids

@robynr3130 Год назад

I am a 62 year old Black woman and no matter how many children I interact with, *I do not regret my childfree life!* And I encourage young women who are considering the childfree life to really sit with themselves and work out *their feelings and desires* about being a mother *apart from the wishes and desires of others* because that decision affects her the most. Also, whatever difficulties she will encounter as a mother, *she* will experience it the most and many times have to deal with it *by herself,* even if she is married. So *be sure of your own mind and desires* on whichever the side of the fence you decide to land.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

This is such good advice. Thank you.

@robynr3130 Год назад

@@WifeWithoutKids Happy New Year to you and yours and *CONGRATULATIONS ON REACHING 10K SUBSCRIBERS!*

@larissabewick6310 Год назад

Thank you!

@witzelasper2821 Год назад

I told a young friend of mine if Theresa any doubts that come up when pondering whether or not to have a baby...don't ..unless you're 1000% absolutely sure you want one

@koala6607 Год назад

I am 56 and I am very happy I do not have kids!

@Mari-sq6cx Год назад

This society has people terrified of being single, unmarried and/or being childfree, it's ridiculous. It's in TV, in casual conversations, movies, magazines, etc. Everyone should ask themselves "who decided that being single and childfree was bad?" and "who benefits from that fear or regret?"

@larissabewick6310 Год назад

I'm not terrified of being childfree and I don't think it's a bad aspect at all.

@BuffaloJenny79 Год назад

Being single is definitely underrated 😊 it took me many years to discover that! But, I knew at 15 (maybe earlier) I would be childfree 🎉 The only pressure I got about having kids was from creepy guys that are no longer relevant to my life! 😅

@carolinecherry2423 Год назад

It can be difficult being a single woman with a low income, because at some point you're going to have to stop working whether you want to or not and get by on what you can. I hate that society pushes women to get married and have kids even when they don't want to, but many women really do struggle with the question of who's going to care for them when they're old, but that question never seems to get addressed on these vlogs. Not all single and child-free women earn a high or even a moderate income.

@alisonb5921 Год назад

I'm in my 60s, childfree, single & happy, with a few childfree friends & I have pets. I don't regret not having kids. Former friends have had kids, these people are miserable & regret having kids. They were also jealous of me, because I had no kids. We grew apart, because of their jealousy & their cheeky, rude & rotten kids. I'm living my best life. Men, my age, have kids, grandkids & exes. I don't need a man with baggage. I'll be happy to stay single, forever, rather than have man & his baggage!😄

@wheatstonebridge 11 месяцев назад

Im childfree and have an extremely strong community. It doesn't matter whether you have kids or not.

@Sarina460 Год назад

I just had another one of those nightmares about being pregnant last night. I was so horrified and stressed in this dream, I was crying all the time saying that this is going to ruin my life. When I woke up I still felt shaken but at the same time very happy and grateful that this is not my reality.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

The relief after waking up from one of those dreams is so welcome!

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

Have you considered sterilisation? That made my tocophobia much better, I feel finally safe. You can find lists of body autonomy doctors online..

@Sarina460 Год назад

@@WifeWithoutKids It is! I think I was actually somehow processing with this dream the story of the girl you talked about in another recent video who was talked into kids by her husband. I thought a lot about how I would feel exactly like her in the following days.

@Sarina460 Год назад

@@CordeliaWagner Thanks for sharing your experience and this information, I'm so happy it worked out for you :) Actually, for myself I don't feel ready to make this definite decision yet. And happily, I don't have to be too worried about getting pregnant because a) I'm currently single, and b) I need to take birth control for medical reasons, so I'm pretty safe. It was just a random dream I had the other night and eventhough it does reflect the way I would feel if I got pregnant now, my actual chances of getting pregant are so low, it's not something that actually haunts me day and night.

@natural3362 Год назад

@No Name omg! Finding doctors who would have performed it would have been incredible

@shirlebryant9427 Год назад

Just left the gym, solo workout this morning. Stay free in 2023.......... heading home 🏡for a nap

@k-sama9963 Год назад

I don’t understand why I would regret something I never wanted. I would regret never skydiving, or visiting Japan. Because I imagined and want to do those things. I imagine what it would feel like new and exciting and amazing. I never wanted, imagined, desired, planned for, daydreamed, etc about having kids. If I think about it because someone brings it up I’m washed over with some negative emotions every time. 💀

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

It seems like people who say we'll have regrets assume all childfree people will suddenly have completely different desires later in life. It just doesn't make sense.

@robynr3130 Год назад

@@WifeWithoutKids I would rather *regret not having children* than to *regret having children.*

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

Having kids is a LOT like skydiving; two risks one does not have to take.

@sburris65 Год назад

I have quite a few child free friends, and none of them regret it. But I have quite a few friends who have regrets when it comes to their children. None of them out and out regret their kids. But they regret having them in general, or they wish they had them later or had fewer kids. And like you said, if you change your mind, there is fostering or adoption. But I'm 58, and every day, I find another reason that makes me glad I didn't have kids.

@etherealdeal1792 Год назад

Two lawyers I know, my aunt and a best girl friend, say they regret having kids

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

I remember when my siblings and I got rambunctious our mother would say "I wish I never had you kids!" Sorry lady. Not my problem!

@JD-de5mq Год назад

Honestly, I think the majority of people lack self awareness of their own lives to be parents. Broken people and trauma is why we have major problems in our society. The constant shame of not reproducing is an added layer of how dissasociated and in denial the human Race is. Our focus should be spent on making our world better not to continue these destructive patterns. If more people took responsibility of their own lives, trauma and the lives of who they have relations with, maybe then they should be allowed to have children.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

There is so much brokenness in people's lives. Having a baby doesn't fix that even though I hear people say they think it will.

@samyuktaashokkrishnan Год назад

People are more likely to regret not going after things that they wanted, rather than not doing something they never desired. That just doesn't make sense to me.

@lbarnx Год назад

Sometimes you just have to say no to repeating generational patterns of abuse by saying no to having children.

@pastelmoon9118 20 дней назад

THIS!

@niftydom Год назад

At 47 I have zero regret about not having children. MY entire life I struggled with relationships and childhood trauma. Not everyone comes from a loving family and has supportive friends. Sometimes when I go to bed at night I wish to never wake up. It is what it is.

@larissabewick6310 Год назад

The good Lord woke you up this morning for a reason; it doesn't matter what happened in your past because Christ can forgive your past with a promising future.

@nycsp Год назад

@zum zum childless is when u wanted kids and for some reason couldn't, childfree you NEVER wanted kids

@akyelus7626 Год назад

hope u feel better

@amberbrehaut7045 Год назад

I'm 36, no kids. It wasn't until recently I realized the feeling I had that I needed to have kids was more because of outside pressures than potential regret in the future. I love kids! I'm a pretty nurturing person but I really don't envision kids in my future anymore. I have a wonderful man in my life now who has 2 grown kids and is snipped (so he can't have more) but we have amazing future goals and plans and I know I'll have a super fulfilling life without kids. Plus I have nieces/nephews to spoil!

@cutietae247 Год назад

Even if you have regret it doesn’t matter that much. I regret not trying to play sports in middle school. I regret being too scared to take chances and skipping prom. Well not like “regret” that’s deep . More like “what if I did ?” .. but we don’t get to live out all the alternate realities that we could have been . You gotta move on.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

Very true. We'll never be able to have every experience life has to offer, so we pick the ones that seem most appealing and fit us best. We'll always miss out on something.

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

I don't regret not going to my college graduation. That is just another money grab anyway.

@theMermaidRhonda Год назад

55 here..not one regret at all. Chad and I were at the flea market last weekend and a child was screaming and I actually held my hands over my ears until we got away from it. How can anyone stand that noise? No thanks!

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

Peace and quiet for me. 😄

@jadeddragon8972 Год назад

Every time I go out to the grocery store there is always one kid throwing a huge tantrum, I see the drained tired parent trying to calm down the screeching banshee but to no avail, I definitely have no regrets choosing the child free life!

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

My aunt is 52, childfree by the way, and she says this ape-like screaming is becoming normal. I can't remember a time when there was no child screaming when children are around. At least not here in Germany where I live. It's mostly children from islamic families, maybe it's a cultural thing.

@heyikindalikeyou Год назад

Thats not what your mom thought when she was raising you.

@jayf1547 Год назад

Lol. You wouldn't be posting this dumb comment if your mother felt the same way. My kids are my world..I couldn't imagine my life without them. They are the reason I wake up with a smile on my face.

@keyhimself3542 Год назад

To live is to regret. For example, I remember I decided to take a trip to Dubai and when I got there I saw photos of my friends who were in the Bahamas. Although I was having a good time in Dubai, I was somewhat regretting not taking that troop with my friends to the Bahamas. I've had this happen when I go out to eat. There's times when I go out to eat and have an amazing time period, but on the way, driving home, I see another restaurant that looks cool, and I kinda regret not eating at that restaurant. So you can imagine how much I laugh when I meet people who try to live a life with 0 regret; which is literally impossible. "Biological clock" is a phenomenon where you see with you have a limited time to obtain something most of your friends have. You don't know if it'll make you happy. You just know others your age have one ( offspring(s) ), and you don't.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

My regret surfaces most when I see what other people ordered at the restaurant and compare it to what I decided to get. 😆

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

Dubai like that slavery emirat?

@Mari-sq6cx Год назад

If anyone is scared of regret, you have to realize that parents have no idea what a cf life is like. They just assume people regret being childfree bc they literally cannot imagine life without kids. They also don't acknowledge and even silence those who regret having children, to keep up the illusion that having kids is the one way to live life.

@anonymousandcool Год назад

One sad aspect if you live in America like I do, or any country that doesn't have a proper safety net for the elderly or disabled, is people act like you need to have kids so they can one day take care of you. And news flash--- that's not their job. They will be stretched thin enough with lives of their own as an adult. AND this comment comes from someone who is disabled and childfree and will likely die with strangers around me. But, it's not a reason to have kids.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

Definitely not a reason to have kids!

@bobmarker6812 Год назад

And don't forget the older people financially helping their adult kids or raising grand kids. A lot of older people I know are in this situation.

@automnejoy5308 Год назад

@@bobmarker6812 That's a great point. First you have to spend a fortune on raising them (money you could have just saved for your retirement) and then when they're adults, well... you have no idea what will happen. They may end up in jail and like you said, you have to raise your grandkids. Best case scenario, you'll be expected to buy lots of gifts and donate to the grandkids' college fund -- even if your adult kid makes more than you do! So yeah, I've never understood this argument about how having kids will set you up for retirement. I think it just drains you and increases your risk of health problems and living in poverty. Maybe your adult kid will run some errands for you and take you to doctors' appointments, but they're not likely to be your 24/7 caregiver anyway. They'll have responsibilities of their own. Plus you'll get to the point where you need professional care and supervision. Whether we have children or not, we all tend to end up in the same place, which is the nursing home.

@liamodonovan6610 Год назад

You are the type of person i know won't regret you decision to be childfree you know you didn't want kids sometimes you just know that don't want kids love you as you are you are loving lovable person

@scorpionqueen66 Год назад

I'm a 56 year old single and childfree Black woman who doesn't have any regrets or apologies whatsoever about my PERSONAL choices to be childfree and single!!! My life is peaceful, quiet and amazingly content the way that it is and always has been without worrying about taking care of somebody else for the rest of my life!!! I never wanted to have children or get married in the first place, and I'm happy and satisfied with my decision!!! And I don't see myself having regrets about my choices EVER!!!

@Metonymy1979 Год назад

43 and never ever wanted kids. Never ever regretted or thought "do I regret not having kids?". I love kids. But, I love my solitude more.

@noahbianchi1920 Год назад

Wisdom. It’s surprising to me how hateful people can be when they tell me that I’m making a mistake. I’m not hateful by pointing out how dysfunctional their children all are. 🤷🏻‍♂️

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

People with kids want other people to have kids because misery loves company.

@darcy5761 3 месяца назад

I have never met a childfree woman or couple who regreted not having kids.

@jazmineshay2537 Год назад

When people tell me what if I regret it? I tell them I'd rather regret not having a child than to regret having one. It's a simple way to get people to think about it differently.

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

I am 21 and had my Tubal Ligation last year february. I will celebrate this day like my birthday, I feel like I escaped an evil threat. I don't like children and I can't imagine putting a person I don't like first. And I love my body too much to ruin it with pregnancy. And this f*cked up world is totally overpopulated, I don't want to be part of that Problem that is killing our Planet.

@ekaterinanekrasova9630 Год назад

29, married and me and husband want to remain childfree! I've given it so much thought over the past several years, did my research, spoke with other parents, spent time with other parents' kids, took surveys, I can go on lol The only time I felt bad about our decision is when speaking with my parents or other family members for whom having kids was a default. If anything it takes so much thought process to not have kids, so I feel like most people who can but choose not to have kids know that it was the best decision for them.

@meowmeow1stgen668 Год назад

I wish airlines would make child free flights and there could be child free hotels

@cutie146 2 месяца назад

I've never felt part of a "group" and as I get older I absolutely LOVE not being part of a group. I love being a unique individual!!

@nicholamc2629 Год назад

I was 11 when I decided I wasn’t going to have kids, which is kind of different to not wanting them but the outcome is the same. I’m 46 now and I stand by my choice.

@ragingrn8342 Год назад

I am going to be 55 years old soon; I do not regret that I did not have kids. I am fine with the idea that I could end up with regret though. Which is more ethical: an adult regretting that she or he did not have children or a child regretting that you were his or her parent?

@larissabewick6310 Год назад

Good point

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

The irony is that people who do not want to have kids would make better parents than those who do want to have kids.

@abigailmills2603 10 месяцев назад

5:22 and here’s the thing, if ur like 50 and u realize u actually DO want kids, then just adopt!!

@HaleyMary Год назад

I used to feel sad about not meeting the right guy when I was younger because I used to dream of a big family. But, considering the way the climate change is going, the world as we know it might not have a future. It would seem cruel to me to bring a child into this world to deal with a dying planet.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

It's crazy how much the world has changed in just the last 10 years never mind since I was a kid.

@HaleyMary Год назад

@@WifeWithoutKids Yeah, no kidding! I grew up in the '90s and early 2000s and while I never dated when I was a teen or in my early twenties like a lot of my peers, I always thought a family would happen eventually. I did have a boyfriend in my mid to late twenties, but it didn't work out because I was more spiritual than he was and we just had different values. I haven't dated since, but I hope to meet someone I can grow old with.

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

I am 21 and I only see a horrible dystopia when I think about the future. I am very happy that my boyfriend doesn't like children too and that he paid for my Tubal Ligation. We enjoy life as long as possible but are already preparing for the worst case.

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

How about the school shootings? That alone is reason not to bring a human life here.

@tc-tm1my 7 месяцев назад

Look how many people in nursing homes have kids and grandkids who don't visit.

@mb2292 Год назад

I never had the feeling of wanting kids. When I was in my 20s, I thought "well, you'll want to have kids later". I met my boyfriend when I was 22 and he was 33. We said "not now, but maybe later". I think for a long time, I wanted to want to have kids, so that I would "fit in" because "this is what you do", "this is how it is meant to be". And as time went by, he and then me realized that we don't want kids. We are 35 and 46 now, not married and have 2 bengal cats (like yours in the video I guess). I play the piano since I am 7 and I write a book in my spare time. I would not give that up for anything in my life. By the way, regretting parenthood is way more often than regretting childfreedom (except when being childfree is not a choice). I am happy my boyfriend and I share the same view on that and that we spoil our cats instead of having crying screaming kids running throw the house ❤️

@DocTrower1980 Год назад

Having no regrets about not having children means not missing what you've never had. I'm about to turn 43 next week, and have no desire to regret my decision to be childfree.

@tatianaa6833 Год назад

People assume that you'll regret not having them, because reproduce is the norm, so by not having them you're taking another road in life, you're breaking the norm, so it must be bad and you'll regret. Now how can i regret something that i don't want? How can i miss out something that i don't care? I'm 24 and since i was a teen, i knew motherhood wasn't for me. I don't even like children. I love playing electric guitar and the emotions it gives me learning to play it. Someone who doesn't like playing it, doesn't miss out anything, because they don't like playing it. Having kids because you might regret not having them, is one of worst things you can do in your life. You must be secure and knowing what you're doing and if you can afford it. Reproducing is not like buying a new pair of shoes. These people probably will become miserable as parents and regret their choice. We are different and that's how society move fowards. If we were all the same, society will implode and it already is. One of reason why society sucks, it's because of all these rules we must follow or else we are strange, different and incomplete. We aren't, we are simply oursleves and we are all unique.

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

We are allowed to think outside the box. 😃

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

I was told that a man is incomplete until he got married. Then, when he did get married, he was FINISHED! A little joke there...

@doingjustfine9401 Год назад

Thank you for all the effort you put into your videos. They are informative and entertaining. Also you speak in a way that keeps people engaged.

@ArthurKain Год назад

My cat will paw at me, and stare at me, if I've slept longer than two hours. It's annoying sometimes, but endearing because, cats are cats.

@MS-km4xp Год назад

I've always known that i don't want to be a parent. Even when i used to fantasize about my happy dream adult like as kid, i never saw a traditional family…and when i was very young(7-12) i always tried to somehow squeeze that image of a husband and children into my perfect picture, but i never could! At first i thought that it was just due to my super young age, but then i understood that i just really don't want it. And it was a very cool feeling for me as a teen to cone to terms with myself and to realize what i really want. Feels like ultimate freedom! 🤩 And yes! Family is not only people with children! It can be just a couple of spouses, an LGBT couple, sometimes two siblings, that are very bonded spend a big part of life living together, and they are also a family

@erickwonder6239 Год назад

Thats a great video Hannah, extremely well articulated points! What a cute cat as well :) I'm 37 years old, childfree and absolutely no regrets, nor do I have any concern about having regrets about it one day. Using a weight scale analogy, the pros of having children weigh ounces (barely moves the scale) and the cons weigh tons. I've put A LOT of thought into this and made extensive pro/con lists and looked at lots of others perspectives on both sides of the fence before I came to that conclusion. Having children is such a monumental life-altering decision, and yet most people put more thought into what food they'll order from a restaurant than they do for deciding to have children!

@WifeWithoutKids Год назад

It is shocking to me how little time some people spend thinking about having kids and all that comes with it before actually having them.

@samyuktaashokkrishnan Год назад

That's so true. People don't tend to put in much thought into the idea of having kids and then once they have them, they're like," parenting turned out to be much harder than I thought." Like, what did they expect?

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

With the saved $230,000 by not having a child I can live for 6.3 years on that money alone in South America. And I mean, like a total KING!

@larissabewick6310 Год назад

Thank you, this makes me feel so much better about my current and future regrets of being childfree. 😊🤗

@jadeddragon8972 Год назад

I still get the typical lines 'You'll make a great mother' and 'Why not? Children are so wonderful and any you would make would be a beautiful child' I've just learnt to change the subject as the majority of these comments come from people who have kids and they are always so tired and just seem to view my life of freedom as selfish. I was 14 when I said I didn't want kids, I value my quiet time, love my sleep ins and freedom to go wherever I want without having to worry about what to pack for a baby/kid for even a simple a grocery store shop. While I'm not against people having kids it just should be normalised that people who choose to be child free aren't selfish or immature, we have made a choice for whatever reason to not have kids the same reason others choose to have them, I'd never go up to a family member and demand to know why they wanted kids so why give child free people a hard time about it?

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

Our Planet is dying from global warming, caused by overpopulation. I think people who breed are stupid, shortsighted and totally selfish.

@larissabewick6310 Год назад

Yes exactly

@renek2913 Год назад

Misery loves company. They just want you to have kids so u will join them in their misery

@natural3362 Год назад

@Rene K never contact miserable people. They'll try to make you miserable as well

@randymillhouse791 Год назад

Oh, I'd go to family members and ask them what the Hell they were thinking....

@Maydenne Год назад

Your note on regret goes both ways too! SO many parents exclaim they regret having kids and if they could go back they wouldn't. No one talks about that though, or warns young people they could regret having kids.

@dylanjohnson3346 Год назад

Slay queen

@victoriakochanek7931 7 месяцев назад

I'm childfree too. Honestly if I ever regret my choice to be child free, I can make a new journey and adopt. Even in my 60s or 70s, I could adopt a teenager who needs a parent.... I worked in a state hospital pediatric wing for 7 years. There were so many kids in foster care that were unloved or the product of an unwanted pregnancy. I really hate it whenever someone decides to reproduce instead of adopting. If you want a kid so badly, go get one of the thousands that are currently in foster care!!!

@JudelovesRiver12 Год назад

I’m a mom of 2 who wants 1 more baby, and I really enjoy your videos 😊 they are very insightful! I always had this assumption that childfree people are bitter and hate kids but your videos have helped me open up my mind and not be so judgmental of other people’s life choices.

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

#overpopulation

@sunshine-ek9pk Год назад

I want to experience being a mother but i am very scared. How do you feel about being a mom?

@JudelovesRiver12 Год назад

@@sunshine-ek9pk I personally love it and it’s not as difficult as I thought it would be. My kids are 7 years apart so that helps 😅 whatever decision you make will be right for you, just think long and hard about it first. Best wishes!

@sunshine-ek9pk Год назад

@@JudelovesRiver12 thank you!🤍

@Rainjojo Год назад

If childfree people are bitter for being logical and using our knowledge to conclude that parenthood isn’t what it’s cracked up to be, then what are most narcissistic, envying and abusive parents? 🫤

@lisalamphier1410 Год назад

I actually wanted children when I was young. I was sure that I would regret not having them, but I still chose not to. Now that I'm 66, I'm thankful that I didn't. The thought of grown children and grandchildren horrifies me. I don't want someone looking over my shoulder, getting in my business, trying to make decisions for me, needing my help, moving in with me, or God forbid, putting me in a home.

@PowerOfAIandMotivation Год назад

Exactly ~ exactly💯💯 Wonderful video you stated all the perfectly thoughtful reasons👍🏻👍🏻 & love the scenes with the cat, hilarious & made me smile😂

@dogdonut Год назад

OMG! Loving the new highlights! They look great!

@nadiacassandra4557 Год назад

Thank you for this inspirational video!

@Antman-cy8ch Год назад

57 year old male. Chose never to have children and have not regretted it for a second.

@LadyNikitaShark Год назад

When i was in my late 20's i had a team at work that were mostly ladies in their 50's, all with 2 or 3 kids. They all advised me that " if you aren't sure you want kids, dont have them." They all had gotten married at 18/20 and had the first kid right away ant it was normal and expected back then. One of them told me that if she was my age in today's time, although she loves her kids, she would't have gotten married or had kids bc she was unable to persue her dreams. For what i have seen, is often those that actually have kids that regreat them.

@rubysparkhomes 8 месяцев назад

I really love your videos! As a person who grew up in Asian county with tens of pressure in school, work place and etc, I felt really struggling for most time. I felt that I was born to compete rather than enjoy this world. I don’t want my ‘kid’to repeat the pattern so I chose to be child free. And also there are lots of family trauma from my childhood. My mom had hysteria and NPD and I don’t think she even enjoys being a mom, I choose to not continue the tragedy. I am 32 female, no regrets for my decision.

@Maddie-uv6rz Год назад

I’d love for you to make a video discussing dating when childfree. Super interested in how you and your husband navigated it in early dating and your thoughts on how easy/hard it is to find a long term partner who is also childfree.

@meowmeow1stgen668 Год назад

Personally, knowing what I know now and being so solid in not wanting kids and even having dated people who have them, if anyone gave me any inkling that they were going to try to coerce me to “change my mind”, or they already had kids, I’m so gone. Plus, men are just as bad at coercing women to have kids as women are to coerce men to have them. I have an ex who put holes in the condoms without me knowing so he could try and get me preganant!

@MsBluebot Год назад

@@meowmeow1stgen668well that’s rather disgusting and disturbing that he would do that.

@stephrice7297 11 месяцев назад

Most people who have kids didn't actually think about it before

@ramjet5192 Год назад

I couldn't care less about what other people think because other people are mostly on auto pilot and taking the path of least resistance. Never wanted to do that, never wanted kids (a trap) and probably why most zombies can't understand.

@freedommatters7677 11 месяцев назад

Shame on people telling me with hereditary aspergers that I should have kids

@user-do2ev2hr7h Год назад

There's always at least some possibility that you'll regret any decision you make, especially major ones, but you can't live your life always attempting to hedge against any possibility of future regret. We have to make choices based on how we feel at the time and hope for the best.

@rjp8212 9 дней назад

Childfree life is the best 😊

@phillyfan-182 6 месяцев назад

Like Adam Sandler in the movie big daddy when he adopts a kid to prove to his girlfriend how responsible he is

@natural3362 Год назад

I was 13 when i decided to not have kids

@michaelfreydberg4619 11 дней назад

Adorable cat. Fur babies.

@tiab4697 Год назад

On a free day, just peruse the obituaries. Everyone has a 'survived by' list. We need people and support and love. If everyday you have these blessings in your life because you were fortunate to be born into a family then yes, you have your 'survive by' list. However for those of us who do not, the wisest action possible to take is to create relationships by having a child.

@pamelagunn234 Год назад

Grateful i don't have them now. I went through a grieving process now I'm happy. Did you grieve at all ?

@dorelia88 Год назад

Ohh god , all of us with cats have the same facial expression and gestures when interacting wih the cats:)) i feel so seen:))

@christopherjeffery8691 2 месяца назад

I Cannot Regret It Anyway. I Can't Have Children and It Ain't My Fault

@birkenlichtung Год назад

I'm sure I'm not the only one who does want kids, but just cannot handle all that comes with it. If I had a better support system and wasn't poor and disabled, I'd really love to. But I'm trying to face reality here and I cannot provide kids with the life they deserve, so I feel like I'm being the best mom I could ever be, by not having kids. But the pain is A LOT. I really wish I was like other people who just never wanted kids. Do you have any advise on how to deal with this enourmous pain? Like I tell myself of all the upsides of childfree living and the downsides of having them, but it just doesn't adress the core of my pain. It's eating me up alive. Grateful for any thoughts.

@larissabewick6310 Год назад

I agree because I'm disabled too but you should talk to God about the childfree decision just to get clarification.

@Stay_calm2505 Год назад

Just enjoy what you can in life! Cause the way things are going in the world right now might not leave us have much time for ANY regrets.... Also, people always regret smth, they regret picking one hairstyle over the other one, buying a car, a house, talking/not talking to friends/relatives etc.

@kailakatsaidthat9130 Год назад

It really baffles me so much how someone can not understand the childfree perspective. A child is a 24/7 responsibility. It feels self explanatory why some people wouldn't desire this. It's hard, and there are NO guarantees. It's such a roll of the dice, and most people actively doing it seem exhausted. I dont think they are all miserable, but they definitely seem spread thin.

@jasminhacker5543 9 месяцев назад

I knew I won’t have kids when I was 16. now I am 36 and still no Kids. And I won’t regret it because the guys I met including me would have been horrible parents 😅

@geeknupthenight7417 Год назад

Woot

@elyas457 Год назад

I am so confused. I split it up with my wife cause i don’t think i can be able to live a life that financially can support kids. I can do great with myself and a cat or two. But carry a family on my shoulder, and with no desire for kids what so ever, never had it. I only imagined it and became curious about it because after i got married the pressure started from my social circle.then i started to calculate the expenses and i am like i feel a heavy load on my chest. I feel if i live like that id be living a lie, and fake life. I just feel terrible that my wife is hurt. Even that she knows that i was not sure about kids, and we never discussed it in deep because we married on a rush for personal reasons, but the love was there and the attachment, but she wants full in for family kids even to sacrifice money time age, and for me i cant see myself there

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

One child means one lifespan of consumption of ressources. Trash. Electric Energy. I am not that selfish.

@kstayblessed Год назад

I notice everyone be trying to place their beliefs on individuals. People need to learn how to educate and let others make their own choices. It is their life.

@Star-vg7ix Год назад

I have a b*tch cousin who said the same thing to my sister, "gee, we belong to a different group now since we have kids". I have no kids and was sitting there. I left the conversation out of disgust. If an individual is not a biological child, why does she go to find their own mother or father then? It's to FIND THEIR OWN.

@phishlipsable Год назад

the ONLY possible regret regarding having children is this: If I had a child and their genetic chance looked even 1/1000th of mine, I would regret my inability to provide INFORMED CONSENT about their avoidable heartaches, social barriers, lack of medical expertise, etc.. it would be a guilt and shame so deep to pass that onto another.

@a-b0t633 Год назад

You can only pick one. Have kids or don't. Children aren't an insurance policy for your lifetime satisfaction. You can't reverse or cancel when you decide you don't want it. Maybe you will regret being CF someday but odds are if you waited until it's too late to experience that you can't have wanted it that badly to begin with. And honestly, that regret might be less about kids and more about where you ended up. "I wish I had kids now that I'm widowed/bored/sickly etc." If it hits you then, you don't want kids. You want a different outcome than what you got.

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

What should I regret? An intact body? Enough money to travel and my hobbies? Looking young because I didn't torture myself with sleepless nights? I don't see what I could regret about a childfree lifestyle.

@a-b0t633 Год назад

@@CordeliaWagner I don't see the appeal either. It would only complicate my life.

@mcc5295 Год назад

why bring children to this world ....i love your video . i am an antinatalist

@jimbob9799 7 месяцев назад

Seems like cope to revolve a channel around not having kids

@JT0007 Год назад

You’re not a real adult if you’ve never raised a kid. So much you don’t understand until you’re raising a kid. 🇺🇸

@roaringwithexcitement1329 Год назад

Some of us are infertile dude.

@freedommatters7677 11 месяцев назад

Then I don't want to be an "adult"

@Kattlarv Год назад

A decent comparison can also be trans people. Less than 1 % regret it. And it's similar with other things. So: Statistically, you have a ~99 % chance to not regret it.

@queerstudbroalex Год назад

Well, associating trans people with transition like that is not the best idea - not everyone wants to transition. And yeah, hormonal transition is an incredible miracle.

@Kattlarv Год назад

@@queerstudbroalex As said: Decent, not great comparison. It was just to reference that VERY few people regret things they feel strongly about.

@Ssookawai Год назад

you do realise that you're basically screwing yourself when you say that being trans is a "choice" similar to not having kids, right?

@IndiBex86 Год назад

What sort of scientific paper are you obtaining this 99% from? I'd like to read it.

@i.dont.read.replies Год назад

That's not true at all considering that most people who regret transitioning are not aloud to talk about it and are bullied into oblivion if they do. So be honest... there is no accurate statistics on apostates from the gender cult.

@juziajuzia1234 Год назад

Wtf another 50+ speak about childfree 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ If you dont want kids dont do that. But if you have kids at 20 years... at 23-25 you dont feel even that you have kids and honestly very fast you feel like 50+ childfree BUT you have your souls with you! They grown and you have friends for live with kids 😍 im happy mum (never wanted kids) im really very happy. Im tired about speaking that parentchood is so hard. Maybe for 2 or 3 years (no all tge time) but later it beautiful 😀 i think nobody want kids. But when you have you dont regret! Sometime its hard but also childfree people got hard time.

@honeyfungus4774 Год назад

Unnatural.

@Ssookawai Год назад

natural or not, better than having kids and regretting them, having another generation grow up with traumas and in some cases, being mistreated. So let's just let people be.

@CordeliaWagner Год назад

Natural doesn't automatically mean better, that's a very naive attitude.

@slimetank394 Год назад

ya know what's natural? Cancer. Hope you love it as much as your children

@godofdeath8785 Год назад

@@Ssookawai exactly like as i was reading somewhere in this world now millions of ruined lives because of reproduction. Its really sucks. And as well we should learn care less about people expectations

@renek2913 Год назад

And so is seeing a doctor when you are sick. You thought you did something 😂