WWK REACTS: What's It Like To Be Pressured To Have Kids?

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Have you experienced what it's like to be pressured to have kids? Many families can put pressure on women to have babies and become Mom's because that's the tradition. Lizbeth and Ann Marie talk about their experience with family and cultural expectations with regards to having kids.
PS: I say the words "I think" WAY too many times in this video. My apologies. I don't know what I was thinking. LOL
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Most of the childfree community knows what it's like to be under pressure to have kids. Being pressured to become a parent goes with the childfree lifestyle, unfortunately. As soon as you say you don't want kids, family pressure for kids usually begins to escalate. In this reaction video Lizbeth and Ann Marie discuss their experiences with family and cultural expectations when it comes to having kids.
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@kamalelwa3505 3 года назад

I agree with this one statement my mom made....when u have a baby it is Your baby!! She was right. ..while it would be great to have family support that is not always the case. You should never have kids expecting ur parents or CF siblings to be keeping them. Often on short notice or no notice. Emergencies are understandable. I always thought it was just the way it was, u got married had kids and was miserable the rest of ur life!!! I have not regretted my decision and I encourage other women to give it serious thought...it is a lifetime commitment and sometimes quite heartbreaking. Great video as usual!!!

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I totally agree with your Mom's statement as well.

@Shadowkitty360 3 года назад

I always thought having kids was just what happened after you got married too! And I had always wanted to be married. So glad I found out that having kids can be a choice 🙌

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

Yes I agree, as miserable as it was, I still did the majority of taking care of my own. I would've loved to dump it on someone else, since I hated doing it, unlike my daughter, who insisted on having a kid right after getting married against my better judgement, and I instinctively knew that she probably wouldn't be able to handle it, and I was right, constantly having the kid dumped on us right off the bat, until she couldn't breast feed anymore cause she wasn't using it, so she ended up losing it.

@fiveandtwoball 2 года назад

For those that say "be fruitful and multiply", I would also encourage them to read 1 Corinthians 7. People without a family have more freedom to serve the Lord in other ways.

@vickij892 2 года назад

The amount of stress I felt when she said "don't overthink it". The problem is that most people don't think enough about having kids and that you actually creating a whole new human being that you will be solely responsible for. Please do overthink it before you decide if you wanna have kids or not.

@thesims3girlie 7 месяцев назад

thank you!!! people don't think enough about the decision to have kids and the reality of it. I hated when she said that because the woman said she was anxious and that doesn't help at all

@Ashley-ku7is 3 года назад

My favourite is my drunken brother in law telling me that I should have kids because it's the 21st century and men do as much childrearing as women.....NO. Come talk to me when men have a uterus and can breastfeed.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

It's a nice idea, but honestly I don't know that I've ever had a Mom tell me the duties are split 50/50.

@Ashley-ku7is 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids Me neither. He says that, but I've seen it with my own eyes that he does WAY less when taking care of his kids than his wife does. It's simply not a reality.

@vdg5346 3 года назад

LOL! This was funny but joke aside, with what Hanna just commented, it is so easy for woman to fall into the "helicopter parent" role that I don't think it is ever 50/50. In In general, women become super possessive and enjoy the dependency they transmit to their children.

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

@@vdg5346 Not all of us do 😬

@yumiko0017 Год назад

Not only that but when he has a period lol I agree.

@rach3511 3 года назад

There's more to a woman than a womb. 😡 I feel lucky my partner feels as strongly as I do about not having children. Unfortunately his family still pushes us 😭

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

There absolutely is a lot more to a woman.

@amberhhh6056 3 года назад

My mom expects me to have children but honestly I'm too selfish for a baby. She wants grandkids so bad. But I value my freedom more than that.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

At the end of the day it's your choice. 😀

@dresser6135 2 года назад

Pleeeeease don''t define yourself as being selfish. It's just a choice. If you don't want to have kids then it's really only your decision. There are plenty of people who have kids who are selfish as heck.

@ianbuick8946 2 года назад

It's your choice. But your mom shouldn't have high expectation. Have you ever talked to her why did she give birth to you? A lot of parents don't teach or talk to their children about having kids but always have high expectation about being a grandparents show they can show off with other Jones.

@jacquelineess1141 2 года назад

Selfish?!?! Quite the contrary!! Live your life the way you want, I'm 41 and never regretted my decision because it came from a real place. If your mom wants a kid, she can adopt one.

@soniaayala1564 2 года назад

Good...you should have kids if you really want....a human is a lot of responsibility.....

@xidena166 3 года назад

Ironically enough (as a Christian), the term of be fruitful and multiply applied to what-only two people on earth to have children. I think with over millions of people, we’re good

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Yes, we are a bit more populated now!

@evelynabrahamwesley2809 3 года назад

I also feel, God meant to work hard and multiply your riches.

@candy11401 2 года назад

It could mean to multiply other things, it could mean to grow loads of food for example

@Lily_of_the_Forest 2 года назад

Adoption is also a way to multiply. I got into an argument w/ a Christian woman undergoing IVF. She mentioned “growing the kingdom of God.” I said you can also grow it (1) through adoption (I’m very pro-adoption for people wanting children) and (2) telling others about Jesus so they believe and are born again into the family of God. The woman was angry at my response. Deep down she cared more about her DNA living on (which I think is very selfish) and using scripture to justify her desires.

@idotgotitme3280 Год назад

Yeah, like billions actually; 8 billion now.

@Shadowkitty360 3 года назад

I hate the "when they look at you and tell you they love you it's all worth it" argument. Because when kids say this, it really means that THEY depend on you loving THEM. Not the other way around. This gives me so much anxiety and stress. I prefer the love of adults because it actually means something other than dependency.

@TAYBUNBUN 3 года назад

Its cute yes but yeah I agree with you.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

My nieces and nephews tell me they love me, but it doesn't change my mind about having kids. It is sweet though.

@Jebusbach223 3 года назад

I believe those people truly believe what they are saying when they tell me that it’s all worth it. But, worth is subjective. Things that they place value on aren’t necessarily something I place high value on and probably vice versa.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

@@Jebusbach223 Great point.

@Shadowkitty360 3 года назад

Great points all around =)

@rachelsheppard7232 3 года назад

AnnMarie seems like a nice lady so I this is not to be judgmental of her or her choices. But it bothered me when she said that LizBeth and her husband were "overthinking" the children decision. I personally think people don't think ENOUGH over the question of children. I've seen people think over a new car purchase more than the having kids question. This is a human being you're potentially bringing into the world, so personally I think that should require a lot of thought. If a person has any doubts of whether or not they want children then they shouldn't have them.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I've been told the exact same thing and I do tend to be a bit of a worrier in life, so I can understand where the comment comes from. Even if you really want kids, you'd never be ready and prepared for every situation that might happen no matter how much you think about it. I totally agree with you that people don't think enough about the decision to have a kid. It's a HUGE decision and people should be allowed to think about it all they want. 😃

@meiimacca4054 3 года назад

Sometimes they really can't help pushing their way on others.

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

It's true about losing your identity after becoming a parent, I feel like I just faded into the background most of the time. Also, I liked my body way better before pregnancy. Yes, the mom gets stuck with the majority of the work with kids, while dad gets to keep his career and whatnot. We don't automatically know what we're doing when we have our own kids, even with previous babysitting experience. Finally, no I'm not enjoying life at all (what life) and this nonsense of experiencing everything in life by having kids is crap, since I haven't experienced the things in life I wanted while being trapped as a parent. I've lost all the f's in life, fun, friends, finances, freedom, you name it.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Thanks for your honestly. Several of my Mom friends have said they really struggle with identify outside of being a Mom as well.

@andreaedwards7314 2 года назад

I remember over hearing someone talking about children in work. I heard him say "You're life is over when you have children". I believe that can be true but how can it be if you wanted the child?

@Lily_of_the_Forest 2 года назад

I’m so sorry

@Lily_of_the_Forest 2 года назад

@@andreaedwards7314 I literally thought “your life is over when you have children” too at around age 9-11. Weird to think that way as a kid.

@idotgotitme3280 2 года назад

@@andreaedwards7314 Who said it was wanted? Remember, this is about being pressured to have kids, like it or not.

@Jebusbach223 3 года назад

I was raised Catholic and come from an ethnically Mexican family (3+ generation American). I was fortunate enough to have close family members who were childfree and happy so I knew that parenthood was optionional. My Mom was progressive and never told me that I had to have kids or that I would change my mind.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

That is so good to hear. Not every religious family pressures people to have babies although sometimes it may seem like that.

@kathykay9920 3 года назад

Great video. The overthinking comment was really interesting. Personally I think the problem is some people don't think about it enough.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Well said!

@drsalka Год назад

100% share that opinion

@snehachakrabarty6738 3 года назад

I just need this type vds on RU-vid cz I am from India and here if you are a girl and married you should have kids it's necessary here just for what people think 🙄🙄 .. I don't know why it's my body it's my choice.. seriously I don't want baby's (nvr) and some times I think am I selfish cz every person told me that it's a wrong decision .. but seriously my mindset was never change for having baby's , seriously when I saw your vds I am sooooo happy that it's not just me many girls have . Tnku soo much you are really gave me motivation ❤️ 🙏 .

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

There is nothing wrong with making a choice to not have kids. You have lots of support from this community. 👏😀

@giftcards9111 3 года назад

I'm Indian childfree girl. We have childfree Indians groups on Facebook, whatsapp , telegram. Do join us ❤️❤️❤️

@snehachakrabarty6738 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids tnkuu soo much ❤️

@vdg5346 3 года назад

@@snehachakrabarty6738 Hey Sneha, I heard India has adopted a two child policy recently which was not received too well.How have things changed now with the two-children policy? Has the concerns on overpopulation open the conversation about being child-free?

@bellamia8867 3 года назад

Saying that everyone has the personality to be a successful and happy parent is like saying everyone has the personality to be successful and happy in a certain career. I like to think I’m a good nurse and it’s a job I’m happy and successful in. I wouldn’t feel the same way as an accountant. I hate math, I don’t like it and wouldn’t enjoy it. I wouldn’t expect an accountant to be a great nurse. They may be squeamish, they may not be good at biology. Neither job is bad, they are just paths that suit different people.

@amber354 3 года назад

“I don’t see how we could create a positive situation out of having a child other than just having to.” Wow. This is the perfect sentence to describe how I’ve been feeling my entire life.

@housewifingit410 3 года назад

I love the openness from these ladies.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Me too!

@pastelclouds7939 2 года назад

I don’t want to have kids unless I can be 110% sure they would never feel uncomfortable or any pain at all 😬 I wouldn’t be able to stand not giving them a perfect life. And I definitely can’t afford that.

@WifeWithoutKids 2 года назад

It would be so difficult to watch your child suffer....I can't imagine.

@chiqui3216 3 года назад

Family support is key and definitely will help but you're right, you shouldn't expect it even if they're around. This one of the million reasons why we decided not to have children haha

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

So true!

@TAYBUNBUN 3 года назад

Yes!

@alexsauerbach105 3 года назад

Parenthood is a LIFETIME commitment. If you are already aware of the fact that you will need support (which means that you won't be able/ready to take care of the child 24/7) by the time the child reaches adulthood, you shouldn't have it.

@rekaszabo2912 3 года назад

It's something that is expected from women regardless of the culture unfortunately. I've had a very liberal, open minded upbringing. My parents are much more modern and cool than all the other people their age or even younger, that I know. Still, they're having a hard time understanding my choice not to have kids. They're saying that my bother and me are their whole life and all the happiness, they can't imagine not having us as that is the whole point of living to have children. I said to them that now that we're all grown up, we both are well over 30, (I am 40 this year actually) they should find another meaning to their life. We're not there every day for them to nurture us and to watch what we're doing proudly. I also said that actually it's very sad in a way that they can't find any other pleasure in life and that they put all this pressure on my brother and me to make them happy. Of course, they got upset. But I feel like this is the truth. You got to have other things to make you feel happy and fulfilled besides your kids. No wonder why they're so disappointed that I don't have children, because grandchildren are the second best thing apparently.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I was recently talking to someone about this very topic. They were a a parent and their kids are all young adults now. They actually said there's a kind of mourning or feeling of loss that they have gone through now that their kids have moved out and are independent. When their kids don't call and keep in touch regularly, they tend to get upset and feel rejected. The parents were telling me that although the whole point of raising kids is for them to be independent, when that time comes it can be hard to let go b/c your kids were your whole life for so many years. I imagine it probably takes time for parents to find new passions to focus on. However, I don't think kids should ever feel pressured to provide grandchildren for their parents.

@autobotrock4789 3 года назад

That is sad and I agree. Even if kids are the best thing that ever happened to you you can contribute so much more to the world around you and yourself as well. Parenthood is not an identity trait nor the only purpose for existing.

@candy11401 2 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids maybe we could help our parents or adult family by spending time with them, its all they need really, just the same as alot of childfree people, we want to spend time with family aswell as our hobbies or adventures I actually feel like people who have kids don't spend time with their parents as they should do, I would say alot of parents just use their own parents to dump their kids on them or when they go to visit to spend time with parents they bring their kids and the kids take the attention and they don't get to spend that quality time with their own parents or other family members if they are always taking the kids with them

@danielladavis8705 2 года назад

@@autobotrock4789 I wish I could love your last sentence times a million!

@lockmonster05 Год назад

I have two younger brothers. The youngest was born when I was 14. Mom handed him off to me almost immediately. I picked him up from daycare. Fed, changed, and baby sat him. I couldn't go out on the weekends because I had to watch him or take him with me. I didn't want kids before, but that solidified it for me. My mom and women in my family insist that I'll want kids someday and it's fucking annoying. Kids are work. They're a lifetime commitment. Not to mention the horrors of pregnancy that I've witnessed. We have over 8 billion people. We don't need more.

@automnejoy5308 3 года назад

Even if you can be extremely confident that there are people around you to help, that alone is still not a good reason to have a child. That's like saying that it's okay if you don't want to be a teacher, because there will be TA's there to help you. The kid is still going to be yours. You're still going to be the primary caregiver and role model. You're still going to be doing the lion's share of work -- unless you want to be a dead beat parent and dump the kid on family members most or all of the time, which a lot of parents do end up doing. (Obviously the kid looking up at those parents and saying "I love you" was not enough in those cases, was it?) So many parents neglect and abandon their kids. She's wrong to say people don't want kids because of a lack of a support system. There are plenty of people with no support system but they still choose to have kids. There are others with a great support system, but they choose not to have kids. Personally that's not something that even factored into it for me. I don't want kids because... I don't want kids. The experience of raising a child is completely uninteresting and distasteful to me; whether or not there are some family members around to help occasionally doesn't fix that core issue. When you're thinking about having a child, you shouldn't be looking forward to all of the people you can dump the child on. That tells me your heart isn't really in it.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

You bring up some very good points. 👏

@IncandescentLightbulb 3 года назад

Absolutely!

@PotatoChicken-gg1ju 2 года назад

YES! I've thought for a long time now that, for women in heterosexual relationships, being married with kids is just being a single mom with extra steps...

@Lily_of_the_Forest 2 года назад

Where are my fellow stubborn folks at? I did not want children so I didn’t have any, period. Never let other people pressure me into obeying. Sure, I was nagged and got disapproving looks, but those people weren’t going to be the one raising my children so their opinion was zero. My mother was a people-pleasing-doormat. She had a sad life. I refused to follow in her footsteps of bending to society and keeping the peace. You have to be at peace w/ your decisions. Regretting having children is way worse than regretting not having them. The 1st option hurts 2+ people while the 2nd option hurts 1.

@saraaguayo-aponte9014 3 года назад

That comment about expecting help from family really resonates with me. My mom asks me for kids all the time. On the same note, she always talks to me about how people around her abuse their parents for free child care. I don't want my mom to take on taking care of my child every day. Unfortunately, if I WERE to have a child tomorrow she would end up with that burden because I don't have the financial resources to hire help or afford day care. I don't want to do that to her.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I never knew how expensive child care was until my cousin told me and it was shocking how expensive it was. 😯

@saraaguayo-aponte9014 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids SO EXPENSIVE ! It's more than half my teacher's salary in my city. 😢

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

@@saraaguayo-aponte9014 That's ridiculous!

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

Wish my daughter had that attitude, instead of burdening me with her kid constantly, while I was already burdened with her special needs sister.

@vulpixelful 3 года назад

No offense to moms, but in the ideal situation they would be leaving this world before you or your child. So eventually, that child is yours longer than they are grandkids

@racpatrice 3 года назад

It infuriates me that people think pressuring other people to have kids is ok. Mind your own business!!😠😡 ...Let people do what is right for them. I have experienced this myself and it was unpleasant. I'm an only child with no first cousins. So you guessed it....I'm the only one available to continue the bloodline. I always have to hear quetions about if I have a boyfriend, when I am going to get one and statements from family voicing their desires for a grandchild/great niece/great grandchild...As of now...no I still don't have the desire for children, no I don't want the expense or responsibility 😩

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Yikes, that is a lot of pressure. I'm sorry. Hang in there and make the choice that's right for you!

@lenzcliff6298 3 года назад

I am an only child too (f, 21) and the closest relatives are like 4-grade cousins. I simply try to not give a fuck about that any more. My responsibility will be to take care of my aging parents, but nobody can force me to have children. You just need to relax. Now, this will sound weird but it is probably true. And I don't mean it as an offence at all (cuz I apply it to myself too). Our "Bloodline" is probably not so special, right? Do you have some genius in your family? I don't have any, so tbh, even if it sounds evil, I don't really see the drama if my own genes don't make it for the future. My bloodline is not special at all and the world will continue just fine without my own genetic input. So, maybe you can ask this question as well, especially being an only child : is it really so important to pass on the genes? For me, I know my answer.

@automnejoy5308 3 года назад

If your grandparents, parents, aunts or uncles are giving you a hard time because you're not "continuing the bloodline", just tell them that if they really cared so much, they should have had more kids themselves. Just turn it back on them. That will shut them up. It sounds like most of your family members didn't want kids, so it's hypocritical that they are expecting this from you.

@racpatrice 3 года назад

@@automnejoy5308 No it's not that my family didn't want more kids...my Mom had a really difficult experience with child birth so she settled with having one child and my Aunt and Uncle were unable to have children...so it's just me..

@gbrieannful 3 года назад

You’re not alone, I have one sibling, a sister who has mental health issues so she doesn’t get the pressure of having children. So you guessed it, the pressure is on me especially since I’m married. I do want children just wanted to wait 2-3 years into the marriage.

@CatswithGuns1 3 года назад

There are plenty of unwanted children out there and terrible mothers who literally use their kids as weapons against their dads and are highly abusive. It’s very sick. I’ve dealt with a m e n t a l ill bio mom who is nothing more than an Acquaintance to me now, and I’ve cared for children who were also abused and not cared for. I hate how society does not actually think about both sides. Having children is not just some thing you should do because you have to.. you’re literally responsible for another life for years and then some! It’s a decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Some like to “play house,” but they don’t like the responsibility that comes with it. I’ve seen that first hand and have had to pick up the slack and be a mom when the actual bio mother decides she’s not interested in being a mother for 3 months at a time. It’s a hard and stressful situation for myself and the child. We end up with children who grow up to become anxious adults who don’t function like normal children who got the love and care all children deserve. I wish they would think more about that instead of pressuring women to just have kids because like it’s your duty! Women aren’t just used for breeding!! Ffs.. I get a Mother’s Day for being a step mom and at times it bothers me cause I don’t have a mom in my eyes cause of her being ill my whole life. I also don’t feel I need to be recognized for doing something that should already be obvious. All children deserve love and even though there are days in which I feel I miss having my own, I know that road would’ve been just as difficult because of my own upbringing and the ptsd I have from it. I can’t honestly say that I would’ve been the best mom at 20 or 30 maybe now but especially don’t want to have any with all this messed up stuff going on! What kind of future would they have in this mess. It’s really scary! People should think before they bring more children into the world. Anyway that’s my rant! Take care ! 💕

@mumbai1119 3 года назад

Few moments of pleasure and a lifetime of Regret । Lifetime of misery Parenthood especially motherhood is a full-time job man

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Parenthood is most definitely a full time deal.

@jollycakes9881 3 года назад

Me being childfree: being childfree is a choice. And to have kids is a choice also. Choice what u want not anyone else choice only u can make that decision that makes you happy to be childfree, or to have kids. Also me: * drops the microphone* 🖐️🎤 ❤️ your videos Hannah 😁

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Well said. So glad you enjoy the content. 😃

@purpleviolet207 3 года назад

I know people who have the familial support system and I also know people who don't have it. I know there's grandparents who will watch their grandkids at the drop of a hat. I also know the ones who won't babysit their grandchildren because they aren't well, have no patience or they live too far away. Or else they're retired and want to be free to roam now that their own children are grown but will watch them when there's a family emergency.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Yes, I guess it really depends how involved the extended family wants to be or what they feel they can give.

@nataliefontane 2 года назад

I feel so bad for the woman who doesn't have kids. This whole interview just feels like someone is recording her being bingoed. She gets visibly uncomfortable when the mom tells her the same crap everyone else likely did about being a parent.

@mylene_b Год назад

Yes, especially the overthinking it. 🙄

@meiimacca4054 2 года назад

The lady telling her not to overthink is stupid. That's is THE ONE thing you SHOULD "over think". You are bringing a whole other life into this world, that's not someone you should do unless you are 110% over the moon enthusiastic about the idea before you get pregnant. Sounds like she looks down on the other girl for her choice.

@andreaedwards7314 2 года назад

I feel that people are very dubious and distrustful of child free, like we are not capable of loving someone else. I have been treated harshly, left out of things, called weird, does anyone else feel judged by choosing to be child free. I moved out of my community and now I feel more comfortable.

@jesuschild07able 3 года назад

I don’t think my husband would do good with having more responsibility. I’m going to school now and working and he had trouble being in charge of housework. I don’t think this would be smart to add that load on him

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

It's good to know what we can handle and have boundaries for ourselves. Life can be really busy, but we want to enjoy it as well. 😀

@lindseye2750 3 года назад

Yes it is, but God told that to Adam n Eve and Noah and his family so when the world had 2 and 8 people in it. Let’s all be honest n realize the worlds already full, God didn’t say overfill and ruin the world

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

The world is in a bit of a different place now, that's for sure.

@daisiesandpandas1218 3 года назад

haha, i chuckled at that, "overfill and ruin the world" XD

@JamesSmith-xp9ix 2 года назад

The Bible also says that humanity started with 2 people... let that sink In

@cameroncorinthian9814 3 года назад

Thanks for another great video Hannah

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Glad you enjoyed it.

@tareeqbrown6724 2 года назад

I had realized that I am not the parenting type cause like even though I wanted kids before as I got older I realize how hard it is to raise kids

@VIEWS8297 3 года назад

Really feeling hard My mother in law admitted in hospital for knee pain and I am taking care of her in hospital She's not talking about her illness, telling that I'm childless since 4years after marriage All the nurses doctors started sympathy and advice... what the helllllllll🙄

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I'm sorry, that sounds like a tough situation to be in. 🌸

@abeach5420 3 года назад

Great conversation to share Hannah. I am soooo glad grew up with zerrro pressure nor culture/expectations of any kind surrounding any and all things related to being required to have kids. Soooo glad every time I see/'hear' these whining and usually screaming kids about. Plus choose places to live without them in every yard surrounding the area.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

That's a great position to be in. No pressure! 🙌

@emorytraylor 3 года назад

Todays fathers day and i kinda feel left out because im a 38 year old man who is childless.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I imagine that can be difficult.

@professorrosenstock5026 Год назад

If it helps, there is a reason Father's day is not as celebrated as Mother's day. Moms are viewed more as parents than fathers. Personally, I only know two people past 15 who don't hate their fathers. The only true plus of Father's day is the sales.

@junewilliams4752 Год назад

NOT MISSING OUT!!!!!!

@AvidAbstractions 3 года назад

Great share! Cheers!

@veekay6142 3 года назад

You always come up with good content, keep on uploading more videos like this, I love watching your videos.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I appreciate that! I'm always open to content suggestions as well. 😀

@NiinaSKlove 3 года назад

- The Mexican woman, - oh, my, god, her hair! Long, thick, and curly - wow...!😍😍😍😍 I mean, if I'd have half her hair...😅😅😅

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

Yes, her hair is gorgeous!

@peremptorypachyderm5884 2 года назад

I think if you grew up with a village and then still have a village around you then you will certainly have that expectation for what raising a child will look like within that framework.

@s82827user 3 года назад

God bless, thank you for making this video! Much love ♥️

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

You are so welcome! Glad it was helpful. 😀

@vdg5346 3 года назад

8:24 well, I have never heard one woman say they enjoy what pregnancy did to their bodies. Not one. I am sure that if I ever get to hear that, it might be because what's done, is done! and when you can't change it, then you accept it and find a way to cherish it. That's just normal human behaviour. Same with when parents say "I don't regret having children!" 🙄 ...Well, it is not like they can change that now, might as well stand their ground. It's nothing but a phrase to fill their ego.

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

That's why it's so important for people to really take the time to think about having children. It's a serious decision.

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

Ah, some of us do regret it, and we're tired of hiding it.

@vdg5346 3 года назад

@@idotgotitme3280 speak up! You are not the only one and your experience can be of use to other women out there :)

@idotgotitme3280 3 года назад

@@vdg5346 I have, all over this platform, and others. If you look, one of the first comments early on this platform is mine.

@vdg5346 3 года назад

@@idotgotitme3280 yeah.. I don't think that many people read comments. There is a community on Reddit that is very active and always looking for personal stories on the being child free and all topics alike. I think it would be great if Hanna made a compilation of stories on a video!

@ola171 3 года назад

She said it simply Don't overthink it If you want kids have kids If you don't want kids, don't have kids Those who decide not to, don't need to explain their reasons for not having kids, the same way those who do, don't have to explain why they did have kids But what you're doing with your channel is really great❤❤❤ I'm still sorta small (21) to be thinking about these things but your videos are really reassuring caz I've never wanted something like this. Plus I already have a beautiful family with my parents and sister so what more could I want 😆❤

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

You are right about the fact we shouldn't have to explain why we don't want kids, but that doesn't happen very often. People seem to be very curious about those who decide on childfree.

@toicarter5525 Год назад

everyone misses out on something, what it really boils down to is is she Ok with what decision that she ,personally made on her own behalf is what she should be sure of. but no matter what side of the fence is picked, she is going to miss out on something.

@kstayblessed 2 года назад

I don't think I could've gone through a abortion either. That had to be really hard. Being a mother for the rest of your life is hard too.

@NadaAlawadhi Год назад

If I ever have kids which I’m not planning to, I would be a control freak mommy who wraps her kids in bubble wrap and doesn’t want them to get hurt and panics and freaks out over the tiniest things and would rush them to hospitals over minor scratches and bumps.

@professorrosenstock5026 Год назад

Who says the kid would like you? I barely know anyone with anything good to say about their parents and I'm talking about people in their 20s,30s, and 40s.

@tokixanimation9214 2 года назад

Yeah I know God said be fruitful and multiply but he didn't say overpopulate and make your resources almost go extinct

@briannamorrison380 3 года назад

I think what the bible means is go out and make more disciples, I think that's what it means by go forth and multiply. It says that you may have to leave your family to spread the gospel. I think it even says it may be easier to never marry because it frees you up more to be of service to God. He cares more about your motives for not having kids more than rather you have kids or not. No I'm not super religious, and I'm not preaching. But I have read parts of the bible and was raised a christian. I'm just stating what I learned . I could be mistaken so feel free to jump in and say what you think.

@dylanpringle4314 Год назад

I keeped meeting mean guys , narcissistic men , so I keeped on dating , Catholic family is well, my father was super controlling so I promised myself for my adulthood I would never put up with anybody's crap I wanted to hv kids but I just kept taking the same type of person with a different 😈 face , I'm at that age that it would be too much now I would be irresponsible at 43 years old, the day comes yes I know everybody looks at me like that as well I'm so glad you have this channel

@MLFreese 3 года назад

Miss, I know that I'm being off topic with this question, but: have you ever typed yourself based on the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator)? You seem to me to be either an INFP or INFJ type which are both types that I like. In fact, all types have their place in this world, yet, the world isn't always fair about our choices. You need not answer this question, as it is your own business, but I am be very curious to know what it is. I will not hold it against you to not want to give an answer as it is a very personal question, nor would I hold it against you If your type is a certain type. I am an INTP/J, so INTX basically. Thanks if you read this 😋

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I'm not sure where I am on the MBTI. I just know that I'm very introverted. 🙂

@maxsharp1110 2 года назад

Is it typically the mom staying home because men tend to make more money and have better benifits? I guess not having recovery time after a baby has an impact.

@spectator6964 3 года назад

With the drirection the world is going....why would you want kids?

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

It's been a pretty crazy place lately.

@wduprevil 2 года назад

Be fruitful and multiply worked before there was a thing called antibiotics and modern medicine.

@wv9459 3 года назад

‘Be fruitful and multiply’ is talking about multiplying God’s kingdom by using our spiritual gifts to ‘grow fruit’ (lead others to Christ). One the most misinterpreted part of the Bible ever

@WifeWithoutKids 3 года назад

I've never heard that before!

@wv9459 3 года назад

@@WifeWithoutKids yeah! It’s a great way to shut down those comments. Explain how they are very misinformed

@georgesand1160 2 года назад

The world is overpopulated! Pleeeaaase don't make so many children!!! If you really want to do something meaningfull then help the poor people, adopt an orphan, give money for animalshelters, protect nature...honestly, right now it seems to me that bringing another human into this deeply destroyed world is actually more selfish than not having children.

@nicluc3720 Год назад

For Christians out there and for the people who believe in the Bible, please READ, RESEARCH and STUDY the Bible. Don't just throw around Bible verses without even trying to understand the full context of it. God did say to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28) but that was before sin entered the world. Yes, it should not have been a problem to be fruitful and multiply, if only Adam and Eve didn't disobey God. We were not suppose to worry about anything to fend for ourselves, because God has already got us covered for everything that we needed. When we did disobey Him, that's when everything went downhill. Sin had (and still is) separated us from Him and His grace. Genesis 1:28 is not difficult to do for most people. Come on, there are 8 billion of us now and counting. What's difficult is taking responsibility for doing so.

@lizbignell7813 2 года назад

Given all the talk about climate change, not having children is the most environmentally friendly thing you can do. Say that when someone says how selfish you are.