Why transgender women belong in womens sports 

wait it says the vid came out 6 hours ago but this comment was written 9 hours ago?

Thank you so much for these kinds of videos, as a 18 year old gay kid it means a whole lot! To hear from people who I look up to for other reasons (like getting me into riding) it’s really great, thanks again and stay safe out there 😁.

@@TheJasperEffect Video was privated before releasing it publicly, thats how the comment is older than video release.

@@mofik26 okay thanks

Neither of Saras channels are available. Is she okay?

Thanks for your incredible courage and bravery in sharing your story. You seem to be a sweet and caring person who wants the best for people. I hope tour life forward is meaningful and happy. As can be of course 😊

@Charisma Hornum-Fries life is an amazing adventure ✨️ never a dull moment lol 😆

I can feel your pain and hurt throughout the years even though I'm a transmasc non-binary person. I'm glad that you shared your story with the world even though it might have been hard to do. You're an incredibly inspiring person and I wish your family and yourself the very best in life. You deserve a lot of love for everything that you do❤

Thank you for proving that while there is pain in our experiences we are more than that, you're an inspiration to me and likely a lot of other trans people!

Hey, as a regular ass white guy, I've obviously never had to deal with such feelings and hardship. I try my best to extrapolate, to recognize "hey yeah they all say this shit sucks, so it truly must be awful and a thing worth fighting for. But hearing it described in such a personal way, it really makes me more tangible in my mind. It puts a true understanding to the feelings, even if I've never felt them myself, and how in how much being an ally in any way, shape, or form really does help people who have such feelings. So for that, I wanna thank you for sharing this very personal story. (I'm sorry if this comes of in anyway poorly written or just bad, I'm a lil high and I just wanted to show my appreciation, fellow Canadian so weed being legal n all lol)

I'd assume it feels out of the blue and off putting because from what is seen a lot of the time is that trans people are either hated, or fetishized, not really much genuine support. It is always odd seeing someone go against the status quo. So not only seeing an ally, but one as open as AJ is can feel a little odd. I do hope this brought some clarity and validation to how you feel as it is perfectly normal.

Right now, when everything is so dark and when even nominally supportive news outlets aren't actively calling out what is going on? Stumbling into this channel has been a deeply uplifting surprise.

@@sirbilliam3455 That's how I feel, part of me is waiting for "a catch" or when I first saw one of his videos waiting for a joke or a "but", but none of those came so it's definitely surprising but a pleasant surprise and I also appreciate it so so much

It just feels like something's wrong, like there has to be a catch when a cis person is actually genuinely supportive. I was genuinely confused when he said he was cis. We're just trained to expect hate, or at the very least a lack of understanding and sincerity.

He actually has a whole video about his journey into an ally, it's great if recommend giving it a watch, have a great day!

pre-transition, i felt like a clown stuck in a costume. i figured while i was stuck i may as we’ll play the part. even when i didn’t, i was surprised by how easy it was to fool people into thinking i was a girl (i’m ftx/ftm)

Amen! So worth it 🙏🏻❤

I'm pretty sure a lot of trans women "pretended" to be "real men" before accepting themselves and transitioning I remember big leather boots, a leather jacket two sizes too large, and beer - but now It's all wine and cider, cute tops and skirts, and being ME instead of what I thought I should have tried to be. It feels good being myself and learning so much about the world...

Yooooo we picked the same name!!!

@@babs_babs I know a Trans Woman who also describes her pre time as being in costume, and that her best dreams had always started with taking the costume off before they really got going.

Can I offer a life suggestion. Maybe your life wouldn't be so shitty if you didn't hate society and didn't have a picture of a middle finger as your profile pic. Here's a hint. Maybe it's not society, it's you who making society shitty. 🤡

gay

@@AhmedPlays_ so?

Love the profile pic!!

@@Transcreations_ Wow so do a vast majority of trans people just gravitate towards being total as*holes of society. Why are trans people some of the meanest bullies in society. Just curious?

@@BubbaMaraj7241 that's only somewhat correct. the remaining advantages you talk about are caused by transgender teenagers forced to go through a puberty they don't want. allowing trans youth to take puberty blockers to delay those affects until the educated, informed decision can be made to start hormone therapy would prevent all of those advantages - and puberty blockers cause no permanent issues, either. it just delays puberty, there's nothing dangerous or permanent about it. so like, the best way to solve this problem is to help kids learn to be themselves to the fullest extent. and on the rare chance that one of those kids is a transgender kid, then help them through the process so they can play sports and have fun with everyone else who plays those sports.

this. i benched 160 pre-hrt. i can barely do 3 push-ups now

@@BubbaMaraj7241 well when you pass legislation that bans minors from receiving gender affirming care it tends to increase the number of trans athletes who have been through puberty

@@BubbaMaraj7241 okay, but they aren't advantages unique to transgender women that aren't also seen in cisgender women with particular genetic markers. i've met women who play basketball who are a full foot taller than i am, but i had the "advantage of a male puberty." even if i never started my hormone treatments they'd still be better than me at basketball, just because they're tall. is it unfair that they're taller than me? yes it is. but athletic sports will never be "fair" anyways until we're all capable of operating the EXACT same bodies with the EXACT same genes and the EXACT same capabilities of performance. sports were never designed to be universally fair on every count. they were designed for fun.

@@HOOTwheelz cis women can be taller, stronger, have higher bone density, etc. statistically, some of them have higher concentration of these features than most trans women do. so you're absolutely right. not to mention, this woman plays pickleball. height, strength and bone density wouldn't really seem to be a factor here. it's a game that's almost entirely skill based. she won because she has honed her skill. she also has a clear passion for playing the game. her being trans has nothing to do with her being a champion pickleball player.

sadly

Yeah. That is what struck me and got my Respect. I didn't expect that! After twenty years post transition, it's not something I'm used to. Sure, you get the 'I know that you know that I know ' look along with the forced smile and 'tolerance' of my existence. So big of you to tolerate me! But empathy! Fuck, that's rare!

@@SusannaSaunders it shouldn't be as rare as it is to see someone with empathy because there are lots of people with it but it feels like its been harder to find them lately

@@BugsyBugYT You might be right and I can't speak for the Gen-Zs and Millennials who might have a different experience to me - Shrug. But personally, the number of (cis)men that I have known that accept trans women as being 'women' I can count on 1 finger. Alex may well be another to make two fingers (I haven't asked him whether he would knowingly date a trans woman so I don't know whether that is actually true) but either way, certainly among the cis-male-(white) population that I know of, the percentages are as close to zero as makes no difference! True Empathy is indeed a rare quality.

@@SusannaSaunders fair

Thank you ❤ so do you 😘

@@MickeyMouse-lm6zjas someone once said: shut the fuck up

@@MickeyMouse-lm6zj lol shut up troll

@@Amazonkiller65 ^doesn't know what trans man means

@@Echo-tl7wh what a pathetic moron lol

Hey girl you should join my discord

I'm glad that you've found friends who believe in you, support you, and know you for who you really are. Having parents with their heads in their asses makes support like that even more important, and I really hope you're able to power through despite their bullshit. I'm not American so I don't have the full scope of what's going on there regarding trans healthcare and such, but I very much hope things work in your favour in the future with HRT and more people in your life who uplift you.

@@SlamDunkPyro it's gotten so bad in some places that people who had been taking hormones for yeard had their prescriptions canceled.

I send you love and support. I'm sorry people are ugly but know there is a world out there where people love you not despite who you are but because of who you are.❤

@LordLaureate womp womp

My condolences. Its just a shame how much nature can fuck you over in so many ways. I hope things go well for you my dude

The "male" category IS ALREADY AN OPEN CATEGORY. The reason you don't see females competing there is because they are unable to perform at the same level as elite male athletes. Every single MALE "trans woman" HAS EVERY RIGHT TO CONTINUE COMPETING AGAINST OTHER MALES - NO ONE IS LIMITING THEM FROM DOING SO - the ONLY issue is that these MALE "trans women" DON'T LIKE LOSING AGAINST OTHER MALES, they literally think they are entitled to "do better " in sports even after their personal choice to go on HRT and make themselves weaker, and being "validated" is more important to them than actually participating in sports - if it weren't the case they'd just continue competing in the open male category instead of LYING that they are being "excluded" etc.

Skill issue

Man here. I was on the high school track team and my times would've put me second in the female category in the Olympics with hardly any training. Also my Triple Jump would've broken the Olympic record for females and I would've placed first at the most recent Olympics in Triple and Long jump. How on earth would it be fair to change my gender which has a Larger heart, greater lung capacity, greater muscle mass, more red blood cells and less body fat. Those things can't be changed and give biological men an unfair advantage over actual females which strips them of their records, sponsorships, and scholarships. I'm not opposed to them having a separate category or competing against their biological sex though.

Man here. I'd probably lose against trained women when it comes to speed. However, I'm 1,65m (roughly 5ft6") and particularly slow. A guy virtually "born for" running would probably outrun most women without even training much.

Be happy that there are more and more trans guys out there in the world. Us short kings (I'm 5'5") make all you middling height cis guys look taller!

@@CorwinFound who are you calling cis?? no way you mean me 😂😂😂

@@babs_babs Sorry! Cis-normativity strikes even the best of transes sometimes.

@@CorwinFound lmao no worries man happy pride 🩷🩵🤍🩵🩷

@@CorwinFound But you're also subtracted from available females, so that balances out.

Thank you I wish you the very same ❤❤❤

dont be afraid to start living your truth...as hard as it gets, i and every other trans person ive run into has zero regrets...good luck :) today is day 1001 since my first E pill and day 795 of actual HRT...

It's all on your terms, your transition. No matter if you do hormone therapy, surgery or nothing, you are a woman. Even if you decide to not dress feminine, grow your hair out or shave your body hair. You are still valid, deserve to be treated with respect and be loved. How ever you decide to continue your journey, please know, you will never be alone. We are here. There's a second family for you out here, that welcomes you with open arms and supports you. You are loved. ❤

As a trans guy, I can assure you it’s worth it. Even if worse case scenario a lot of people reject you, you’ll finally be able to be yourself. As cliche as it sounds, you only have one life. Don’t waste the one chance to be who you are. “The blood of the covenant runs thicker than the water of the womb,” I believe the saying is. I was worried it wouldn’t be worth it, but I’m almost a year on T and working on changing my legal, and it’s the best choice I’ve ever made. Every time you’re brave enough to be who you actually are, you inspire others to do the same. Good luck with becoming the woman on the outside that you are on the inside :)

I'm somewhat similar, but currently find genderqueer fits me better. I know people in my life aren't supportive, some are, but I'm Christian and still go to same church as a few family members, and there are some great allies in the church, but not my family. It's hard to balance what feels best, vs what feels safe, but I have hope that one day people will see me as I am, not for the ideals they project onto me. I've started dressing more androgynously, making my own clothes, and letting myself do things I feel better with, and slowly, over 5 years of questioning, I'm at a point where I'm mostly okay with how I present, even though I haven't come out. But I know not everyone can do that, and it tends to be easier for AFAB people as dressing more masculinely is typically safer (women's suits, wearing unisex jeans, sweaters, etc) where it seems like any femininity shown in someone who isn't seen as a woman, is seen as suspicious or harmful, which is not fair.

wtf, im sorry but there are only 2 genders and 4 sexualitys. you are just labeling yourself at this point

If u don't care about sports...stfu

@@marviwilson1853 How does using an adjective declassify the meaning of something? If I described someone as “a weak man” does that make him any less of a man?

@@marviwilson1853 What? You’re just spewing gibberish.

@@lankthedank6931 A transman is describing a female who became male, a transman cannot be everything that a man can, such as not having a functional male reproductive system. A weak man is a man who is everything a man can be. Just as you say artificial flavoring is fake, a transman is a fake man, a man achieved by unnatural ways.

@@lankthedank6931 Gibberish is about all they got to go on.

It breaks my heart as a cis-straight-man to see so much hate and vitriol towards trans people every single day. I can't begin to imagine how painful it is for you. Things will get better.

Exactly. Trans people shouldn’t have to suffer because some women have irrational, ignorant, bigoted feelings about them

@@SquidTips So cis women should suffer so a transwomen doesn't? Most cis women don't hate trans, including me. I don't hate men either but I don't want to have them in my dressing room or be in a physical competition with them.

Someone who has been s'x'ually assualted by males should not be called t*ansphobic - many males in a dress pretend to be women for all the wrong reasons. Just bc you are not like that does not mean everyone is. My daughter should not be faced with a p=nis in her space just because a minority wants inclusion. Some trans ppl say "hey, I feel like a whomb-man" and dont have the slightest clue what that feels like to fear unwanted pregnancy, monthly bleeding, breast-cancer appointments, recurring migraines on a regular due to magnesium shortage due to menstruating etc. Transphobic or REAL female challenges? You are not the only one suffering. Most people have it hard, just in other areas/curcumstances etc. ​@@SquidTips

Glad to hear it!

​@@SquidTipsmake new rules plz or ur gay

I think this is a really intelligent nuanced take and that is coming from someone that does not think that trans women should participate in women's sports because of the effect of male puberty on the body. While there are some other interesting metrics that seem to be influenced by biological sex like reaction time and motion tracking in space and movement, I do not know if those are influenced by puberty or some other biological factor. The point about trans-women that transitioned prior to puberty is interesting because there really would be no actual advantage in leverage, bone structure, and density past some meaningless bone structure differences (in the context of sport). It would not be logically consistent to oppose it on the merit of puberty and then just make an issue with this point so I feel convinced that there's not a logically consistent reason for me to think trans-women that began transitioning prior to puberty should be excluded from women's sports.

@@skylervelez6877 not that I want to discredit you but what does bone density contribute to performance in sports? Sure muscle strength makes intuitive sense but surely higher bone density just makes you weigh more and break your bones less often?

​@@skylervelez6877the bone structure is assumed AT puberty, so those who get blockers have an average female bine structure. As for the difference in motion tracking and spacial reasoning, that has been determined to be a result of the fact that boys are typically encouraged to play with Lego blocks and video games that train those regions of the brain. When including a control group of girls raised with Lego and video games, that patterns disappears.

@@joshuanorman2 for many sports being stronger is an advantage because a stronger person can train harder, run faster,hit harder, jump higher, etc. People think that because large muscular physiques are not needed for many sports that strength isn't an advantage, but there's very few sports if any where a stronger version of you (with respect to sport specific movements ) is not a better version for the sport. Larger bone density allows for larger muscles as the total frame is larger therefore there is more space to pack the same amount of muscle like wrapping fabric around a larger diameter tube. The larger diameter, the larger the circumference and surface area which means more possible muscle can be physically packed on. The ability to build muscle is dependent on so other factors but larger bone density is beneficial for muscle hypertrophy and therefore strength can be improved. Larger bones (and height) also improve leverages as well making it so the athlete has to expend less energy to do the same work which is a benefit in every sport that exists. Plenty of research has been done into world class powerlifters that show that pound for pound, elite cis women are not weaker than elite cis men. The discrepancy in weight moved is largely influenced by the discrepancy in body weight, bone density and leverages and height. If estrogen was the major driving factor then why would females show the same % increases in strength and size as compared to the same level of males at the same competitive level? I know this long, but the tldr is larger bones means more total space for muscle and improved leverages. There isn't a sport I can think of that would not benefit from an increase in power output

@@skylervelez6877 You're conflating larger bones with higher bone density. Bone density is the density of bone mineral in your bone tissue. Having a high bone density does not give you larger or longer bones. The only thing I can find online about bone density in reference to sports is the risk of breaking bones or developing osteoporosis. I am well aware having longer bones is a benefit. Just look at how much taller professional athletes are than normal people, both men and women. Also, I CAN think of many sports that would not benefit from increased power output. Archery, horse riding, skiing, gymnastics, skating, sailing, shooting, most winter sports really, curling and diving to name a few. Even then, plenty of sports that theoretically could benefit from an extra bit of power really wouldn't. Take tennis for example. If doing good at tennis scaled with strength, high level tennis players would be incredibly stacked, when actually they tend to be really lean so they can be more agile. Having more muscle may actually be a disadvantage as it would take longer to accelerate in split moment dashes for the ball. Although trans women lose a lot of their strength when they take HRT, they do remain very slightly above the average woman. Despite this, if both parties agree to participate, there is absolutely no reason they should not be allowed to play. If someone doesn't want to play sports, just don't. In competitive settings, if it's something purely strength related, like power lifting or wrestling or swimming or something equally boring, maybe there should be a requirement for like a year of HRT maybe? But do remember that sports has never been fair. Plenty of genetic factors give athletes insane advantages, I mean have you seen Michael Phelps? He's half man half fish. Guy has so many genetic abnormalities it's insane he's categorised as a mammal.

Believe me about what? Watch the video before commenting

I can name you one, me

I like Mia!

i saw that one too

Now that I'm watching, it's legit platforming Sara instead of just giving your own opinion. Which is perfect. It's so much more real to hear the affected parties themselves. Thanks.

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You are a walking miracle and we are all blessed that you are here ❤

⁠@@sarasassboss4130 Thank you and likewise!🥹 I also wanna say you and your family are beautiful! So happy to see them having such a strong(& kind) mama guide them:)

@@trinityabrego Thank you they are my everything ❤

@@UseYourBrain-bh5zn Why do you say that?

Yeah cause biological men are at an advanatge. Since transmen are biological women with a boost from testoterone, they would be at an advantage aginst women but disadvantaged aginst men. So, since you went through with procedure you are the one who has to take on the burdon of being at a disadvantage, not everyone else. So transmen have to compete aginst men. Nobody had a problem with that. It's about transwomen being at an advatage

@@C.J.T49 so it isn’t about it being fair. It’s just exclusion. You’re half way there, I believe in you!

No they don't mention transmen because your not affecting mens sport at all. Your not endangering men, your not taking places from men and your not breaking mens records. Also transmen don't want to be in womens sports anyway

They only focus on trans women in general, they don’t seem to even think trans men exist. The big tell is that they always refer to transitioning as “castration out of weakness” or some bs but it begs the question, how do biological women get castrated?

@@brumtownmiller6130 trans women really are not affecting womens sport in any significant way at all, after hrt for a long time and so many tests to ensure fairness, it really is fair. Read studies, don't blindly trust twitter. Also transwomen don't want to be in mens sports anyway

Facts? You do realize that it is impossible for a biological male to become a biological female? Hence, why the statement "transwomen are woman" is false.

@@jaws392 lmfao gender and sex are different dumbass

@@jaws392 shut up dude

​@@jaws392what's the difference between gender and sex ?

@@aaronaaronsen3360 Sex is biological. Gender is societal stereotypes.

‘Sports in its purest form is not about socializing’ is your opinion, not objective fact.

@@SquidTips well it wasn't originally about socialising .. rather its roots are in combat and military gaming, and then the ancient greeks were pitting themselves physically against each other with rules as a benchmark ...this wasn't a meet and greet exercise although i am sure there were a few flamboyants in the crowd who wish it was.

​@SquidTips its about competition not acceptance

​@@SquidTips wouldnt that also apply to this comment?

@@bepitan i don’t think it is really that important to uphold Greek values

same here. I am a trans man and saw that video and at first was skeptical but he was legit the real deal. I wish more people would open their minds and eyes and do their own research instead of fanatically believe these radical insane ideals that clearly make zero sense.

I have empathy for trans people. But I also have empathy for female athletes who want to compete in leagues that have always existed as protected spaces for female athletes. I'm sure it sucks for the approximately 1% of the population who is trans, but it's pretty hard to justify making things suck for the approximately 50% of the population who is female instead.

That's kind of what I found it's been for me. Once I learned to see things from other people's perspective, the world got a hell of a lot more complicated, but I'd say it's worth it.

@@akisatsuki8444 - Yes, I watched the video. I just don't fold on my beliefs because I see someone crying. "Women's" divisions exist so that people born female don't have to compete against people born male. Just because the semantics around the word "woman" have changed doesn't change that purpose... If you don't think people born female need to be protected from competing in sport against people born male, then let's just eliminate "Women's" leagues entirely, and let everyone compete in an open league. That's the problem here. Either people born female, which is what "woman" always referred to in common parlance until maybe 10 years ago, need a separate league or they don't. So either leave them the one's they have if they do, or eliminate them, and accept that almost no one born female will ever get to play high level sports after puberty kicks in. The lady the video is about literally said, "I'll play in the men's league. Because I just love the sport.", and either that, or a league for trans people is the correct answer. It sucks that being trans is hard, and playing in the Men's/Open league will put them at a disadvantage. But that makes a lot more sense (50x more you might say) than putting 50x more people who were born female at a disadvantage by letting them compete in the "Women's" league... Ultimately, this type of thing always boils down to moral calculus. This is just a trolley problem, with 50x more people on one track. The when the individual suffering is equivalent, you make the smaller number of people suffer.

@@JCPRuckus Most of the time this "advantage" doesn't make a difference, but there are cases when it does. AJ actually does suggest segregating sports in ways that pertain to the sports themselves, not merely by sex - this ensures that not only are trans women not exercising their "advantage" over cis women, but tall women aren't exercising an advantage over shorter women and stronger women aren't exercising an advantage over women who might not be built the same way, etc. Who knows, maybe this will encourage further equality between the genders. :)

@@akisatsuki8444 - That's a terrible idea. If the choices are no separate leagues and essentially infinite separate leagues (because there is no limiting principle to the ways you can subdivide physical traits) then the answer is one open league (not literally one, but rather *only* open leagues). I know what you're trying to do. You're trying to get me to endorse some arbitrary division so that you can say, "Well if you're okay with that arbitrary division, then you should accept an arbitrary division that let's trans women compete against athletes who were born female". But here's the thing, just because two things are both to some extent arbitrary, doesn't mean that they are equally arbitrary. And the reality is that there is generally some supporting logic behind the separate divisions that already exist, because consideration has been given to how to balance physical variation vs "fairness". On the other hand, there is no logic to sorting by gender, because the very recognition of trans athletes is a recognition that gender and physical traits are not indicative of each other. So gender is an irrelevant consideration in terms of sport, which is why I keep putting "Women's" in quotes and referring to athletes who were born female. Because there is a logic to a male/female split in sport (in most cases), but not a gender split (in most cases). I mean, of course, private citizens can create sports leagues with whatever divisions they like, based on whatever logic (or lack thereof) they wish. But I imagine you'll find that in the vast majority of situations people will reject any league that pits similarly sized male and female athletes against one another in a bid for the brand of "fairness" you suggest. Because almost nobody wants that except people who what to see females get rolled over out of morbid curiosity, and people who don't care if females get rolled over in the name of trans inclusion. You basically only share your position with people who want to enjoy watching female athletes "get put in their place" and embarrassed by male athletes. And that's not an unproblematic place to be, even if you get there by trying to be unproblematic in a different way.

You deserve happiness 🙏🏻❤

yep same, i always juggle in my brain how to make it fair vs not hurting anyone

Same here!

@@ObjectivelyCorrect The main issue with this conversation is that "not hurting people" is impossible. Either transwomen get hurt or ciswomen get hurt, but even so, both groups will also inevitably get hurt because that's kinda the thing about sports in general. A lot of athletes never even become pros, or they face a lot of losses. Frankly, I can never worry about who's hurt in sports because then I'd be worrying about literally everyone in sports all the time. However, what I can do is worry about accessibility to opportunities. For transpeople, that means being able to compete in the category that offers closest to the opportunities that most people are granted, which usually means letting them participate with their gender identity if they want to. Most of the time, ciswomen don't actually miss any opportunities, unlike transwomen who would lose them if they participated with their sex assigned at birth. However, that's just me. Unfortunately I can't make everyone desire that transpeople have the best opportunities.

@@ObjectivelyCorrect the hrt requirement generally would keep things fair as muscle mass and even bone density change on hrt.

@@xangelmoonx Very well said, especially in smaller leagues like pickle ball or highschool soccer etc the small differences in statistical physical advantage don't matter as much as the purpose of sports to build community and health. We should have a human first approach that allows as many people as much opportunity as possible to be a part of their community. Those small statistical advantages can also be filtered out on a case by case basis, even for cis/intersex people. Even at the highest possible level though hormones also affect cis people. For example, the story of the athlete Caster Semenya who is a cis woman that was born with a sex mutation that caused her to produce high levels of testosterone and thus gave her an advantage in her specific field (running). This is why the Olympic board committees are putting forth hormone brackets for the top level of athletics, none of shit really matters for sports that aren't Olympic level or aren't specifically things like track and field or football where larger frames and lung capacity matter (side-effects of high testosterone male puberty). Pro-longed use of estrogen severely affects your muscle mass and gain; and there is noone on this planet that would transition simply to participate in local sports lol and at a base level everyone deserves to be treated with respect and humanity.

So you are saying I should try pickleball

I say go for it it is scary and you should take your time but like all big events in your life you'll have the courage to go thru with it. I hope your able to find a good time and place to embrace yourself as who you are and to transition and be happy. Hoping for the best, thoughts and prayers. 🙏🏽 👍🏽 ❤

yeah . . . it's terrifying, and a lot of it sucks, but for me it's been so incredibly worth it. I don't know your life, and i certainly can't say "do it" or "don't do it", but if that's what you want i hope you can someday myself, i reached a point where i just couldn't **not** come out any more. No matter the consequences, i knew i wanted it so badly i'd risk everything in return. All in all things weren't so bad for me - i lost a few friends, but gained a lot more. My life has gotten so much more challenging, but it's easier to handle than hiding, and i wouldn't trade my transition for the world but everyone's life is different, and you know better than anyone what you need to do to get by. Take care of yourself, stay safe, and good luck friend 🏳‍⚧

Your happiness is the only thing that matters. If you lose friends due to being honest and living authentically, they weren't ever your friends to begin with. Find people who can actually understand and listen to you: friends, family, therapists, lgbt groups/clubs, and especially other trans people. I'm not going to tell you what to do. People will always make our lives harder just because they can. And it isn't easy, especially not now. But if it's something you want to fight for know that it's worth it.

anti-trans love to point to detransitioning as proof it's a bad idea, completely failing to acknowledge that THEY are the reason for it. i hope you find your happiness, whatever that ends up being ❤️

The mountains are worth the climb 🙌🏻

Thank you 🙏🏻❤

A woman, is an adult human female, it is not an "identity" or a feeling, dress, attitude etc., that whole line of thinking is regressive in the extreme. Claiming there is some "essence" to "womanhood" that also males can access, but the reality is that women do not have to look or act any certain way, or act out some ludicrously sexist idea of the “social role of a woman”, all females who reach adulthood are women regardless of how they feel or look, and the one thing they ALL have in common, the one experience they ALL share, is that they are FEMALE, they do not have to "identify" as anything, they physically ARE women because they are female. Why should MALES be allowed access to SINGLE-SEX spaces reserved for FEMALES based on their "gender identity"? If sex and gender are separate, then a male announcing his "gender identity" is "trans woman" does nothing to change their sex, they are still MALE - so why should they be afforded rights reserved for the opposite SEX? The movement is regressively sexist, and misogynistic. Why do you believe females do not deserve any spaces free of males? What is hateful about upholding female sex-based rights that were fought long and hard for? Believing sexist stereotypes define men and women, instead of their biological sex, is unquestionably sexist to the core, because you are saying men and women are not actually free to behave however they want but need to conform to these sexist stereotypes in order to be men or women - if you say no they don't have to act any sort of way as a man or woman, and being a man or woman has nothing to do with biology - then what are you describing by calling someone a man or woman? If you think it doesn't describe biology, and doesn't describe anything about their looks or behaviour, then what on earth are you basing defining anyone as a man or woman on??? Why would a man need to become a "trans woman" in order to be their "authentic selves", why can't they just be a very feminine man and dress/act however they want? If trans ideology isn't sexist, then why would a man ever need to "transition" if either sex is completely free to act however they want? How can you claim to be opposing sexism when the whole basis for anyone feeling the need to transition, literally is sexism?

@ambientjohnny I appreciate your perspective, but I disagree with many of the assumptions and conclusions you have expressed. Firstly, while it is true that the definition of "woman" can be rooted in biology and reproductive ability, it is reductive to suggest that this is the only factor that determines gender identity and expression. Many individuals may feel that their gender identity does not align with their biological sex, and this experience should be respected and validated. Regarding the access to single-sex spaces, I believe there are valid concerns for the safety and comfort of both women and transgender individuals. While the physical characteristics and biology of an individual cannot be changed, gender identity is a deeply personal experience that can impact every aspect of a person's life. To deny someone the right to access a space based on their gender identity can be harmful and discriminatory. Furthermore, the idea that transgender individuals need to conform to sexist stereotypes in order to "transition" is a harmful and inaccurate assumption. Gender expression is not the same as gender identity, and individuals should be free to express themselves however they feel most comfortable, regardless of societal expectations. At its core, the issue of gender identity and expression is complex and multifaceted, and I believe that it's important to approach these conversations with empathy and an openness to learning from the experiences and perspectives of others.

So where is the argument for transmen to compete in men’s sports? I don’t see it. You know why? Because there are clear advantages between men n women

​@@JBurnz001No, It's most likely because there aren't enough trans men interested in sports, to remove them based on GAB

@JohnDoe-ly6bt Well, that depends on if they took HRT. Boxing is actually very skill based (more than many other sports), so they wouldn't have any form of unfair advantage.

I feel like you having conversations with people, especially younger men, could make a difference in a lot of people's lives. even if you don't have children, both your empathy and open mindedness combined with the loneliness, confusion, and frustration of a lot of young men these days could help make an impact, you don't need biological kids to help guide youth !!!

You're again missing the point entirely. No one says that males and females can't play sport together casually. The issue is whether there should be women's categories in competitions that are about biological sex. Everyone is already playing sports with everyone else outside of competitions.

Yep. Same with less obviously-femme cis women getting confronted in bathrooms.

well I mean if a man goes to a woman and wants to compete in sports, wouldn't they still have the testosterone and things that males alone have specifically but they would also have estrogen, maybe makihng them look and sound like a woman? Sorry if I sound rude. But I just like to realize theres differences between a woman born a woman and someone born a man who went to a woman, so even if they are similar there is going to be advantages.

If they're on HRT, then no. HRT includes antiandrogens, which kill off T well below the high levels for a cis woman, and you'd be surprised how fast that shears down whatever advantages we grew up with. Plus, trying to police testosterone in practice just ends up being used as an excuse to bully women of color.

@@TysonEdits Hormone Replacement Therapy is part of most (not all, but most) transgender women's treatment. That means decreasing the presence of testosterone in their system, and increasing the estrogen. When testosterone and estrogen levels are within expected ranges for females, transgender women will lose all the muscle mass, bone density and other advantages they'd otherwise have from testosterone. the remaining advantages are just simple biological advantages that cisgender women can also have - long legs, slender frame, etc. beyond that, if transgender youth are given puberty blockers to delay puberty until they can make an informed decision to start hormone therapy, all of those leftover advantages completely disappear. not only that, but puberty blockers are EXTREMELY low risk. they've been used to treat precocious puberty in toddlers as young as 5 years old to delay puberty for multiple years until they reach a typical pubertal age. basically, if we want absolutely no doubt in our minds about potential advantages, we should teach kids to be themselves honestly and outwardly and allow them the safety to do so, and on the rare chance that a child is transgender we can treat them with the above described methods so they can live the rest of their lives being exactly who they are, competing with their peers and having fun!

@@TysonEdits I would also point out (besides the fact that lots of trans women take testosterone blockers) that there are plenty of cis women with high testosterone.

Then why do men and women even compete seperately in the first place?

@thomme8539 Well because historically men got violent and rude to women who competed against them. I think gendered sports are dumb, to be fair, it shouldn't be that hard to respect someone who's better at a sport than you.

He's competing in the open division. He's not competing in the master's division with old people. Or in the children's division.

@@hilariousactually If you actually believe that, you're insane. You're totally out of touch with the real world. Men and women have always played sports together. And they are playing sports together now. But in competitions there is women's categories, because being biologically female is a handicap. Just like there is weight categories, age categories, etc.

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@@sarasassboss4130 I’m glad you feel that way! I hope we move in a direction as a world where your love of your sport and kindness of spirit is all that matters. Thank you for your advocacy and your story, I really do think it will help people understand. Trans Liberation Now! 🏳️‍⚧️ ❤

Sports is destroying athletes for profit. The profit motive is used as an excuse to discriminate. We should adjust our perspective on sports to be about healthy activities to build community.

⁠​⁠@@SquidTipsI agree, sports are meant to be fun and recreational activities that bring the community together. But competitive sports are meant to be competitive. It’s in the name, it’s a competition. The goal is to win. It’s not discrimination for the sake of discrimination, people compete in competitive sports for things like money or scholarships, and to have those opportunities be taken away from you by people are significantly stronger than you and have a huge advantage over you would honestly be quite upsetting I’d imagine. I understand your point here, but competitive sports and recreational sports are different.

You are just denying science if you say it doesn't give you an advantage, sure it does make you weaker than you were but that doesn't change the fact that you are just effectively a weaker man afterwards.

Then why are almost all sports world records held by men? Why are 15 year old boys sprint times faster than or as fast as grown womens Olympics records. Also why is it that a lot of trans women in sports are champions and world record holders even tho they make up such a small percentage of competitors and that no trans men are dominating mens sport?

@@brumtownmiller6130 name all the trans women who are champions in women’s sports.

@@th0tp0lice666 lia Thomas, swimmer, Austin killps, Austin bridges, Tara seplavy and Rachel mackintosh in cycling, anne andres, mart Gregory and laurel hubbad in weight lifting, hannah mouncey in handball. Thats just some and just at the semi and elite level, lower levels there's more

@@brumtownmiller6130 bet you anything there won’t be a response to that

This!

The main thing that highlighted to me how silly this "debate" has become was the UK snooker organisation banning trans women for having qn advantage in snooker fucking snooker and to top it off no trans woman was even playing snooker at a high level.

AJ covered this near the first part of his video when he was criticising the motives of the hate group that outed Sara. They don't care about women's rights, they only care about hurting trans people. He said to think about the difference between the number of cis women that get prevented from playing sport because they have to compete with trans women versus the number of cis women whose sport career is harmed because they get pregnant. But this "women in sport" group doesn't give a damn about cis women having access to safe abortion.

Trans guy here. First point... most of the whole trans athletes crap is just that. Crap. People would far prefer to debate (either side) whether or not 0.01% of the population is allowed to compete in elite sport rather than discuss the real, growing, and daily physical, social, financial and political hardship that millions of trans people experience daily. (Made up statistic on how much of the general population is an elite level trans feminine athlete competing in women's sport. But it is a tiny tiny tiny number.) My other point is backing up your comment on how many trans women athletes are there anyways. Here is a thought. The Olympics has allowed trans feminine athletes since 2005 under pretty strict requirements. In almost 20 years literally thousands of Olympic medals have been handed out. Based purely on demographics, allowing that trans people make up about 1-2% of the population, we should have seen 20 to 50+ trans women with medals around their necks. Far more if trans women really do have a significant advantage over cis women. *There has not been even one.* Exactly zero trans women competing in women's events have won any medals. The question should now be, where are all the trans athletes? What is it about being trans that so greatly reduces your chance to succeed in sport? I could posit any number of hypotheses but it seems that few people are even asking the question, let alone trying to answer it.

This. It will always be about their trans identity, and never about their own achievements. It's not "this athelete achieved after training well", its "well obviously they won, they're trans so they have an advantage", even if that's not remotely true. There was a trans woman who placed something like 6000 in a marathon and transphobes lost their fucking minds because some women placed lower than 6000 and therefore, trans woman had BiOlOgIcAl AdVaNtAgEs, and yet no mention of the 6000 women who did better and achieved higher than this trans athlete. Plus transphoboes freaking out over a 'trans person' constantly winning their wrestling matches. What they fail to highlight is that this athlete is a trans man forced to compete in womens matches because they won't let him participate in the mens ones. Literally holding him back from mens sports then whining that he dare win in 'womens spaces'. Can't make up their fucking mind.

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Cue transphobes arguing that men have a biological advantage in table tennis lmao.

@@TheVibes101 you joke but they are arguing that trans people have an advantage in E sports right now no I am not joking ...

@@reform-revolution Oh no.

​@@reform-revolution i think they are saying men/boys have faster reflexes and more fast twitch muscle fibres that give them an advantage?!

Thanks for sharing in good faith. I can only speak for myself here, but the ladies I play against in pickleball all comment that they will gladly continue to compete against me. I'm not very strong at all which I'm experiencing now that I'm back at the gym to try and t least get some kind of strength. My advantage is playing smart and my height and reach. Ps I'm Sara from the video. So I do believe that case by case should be the way

@@sarasassboss4130 yeah I can agree 100% with case by case

sports are built on advantage, michael phelps has a triple jointed ankle that helped him become an insanely talented swimmer. what you care about isnt unfair advantages, what you care about is the fact that trans women are different. if you want to encourage fairness? advocate to get rid of gendered sports, replace them with weight classes, strength classes, height classes, etc.

@@delilah1377 Yes sports are built on advantages and individual cases of advantages happen all the time besides Phelps. That being said you have a straw man fallacy. I'm in no way arguing that I want sports to be 100% fair, however I am arguing trans women are biologically different yes. Also saying if I truly want fair sports we should get rid of sports entirely and have height classes ect is another leap in logic being a black and white fallacy. My true argument is that despite every sport having advantages and disadvantages based on genetics, women are biologically at a disadvantage in wrestling. I wrestled lots of women because I wrestled before women's wrestling was sanctioned. I watched women fight for women's wrestling not because they didn't want to wrestle men but because they wanted a greater opportunity to have success at things like state championships. Sports will never be 100% fair you're correct but that doesn't change that transitioning to female from male is a pretty big advantage offensively that none of them women can ever get based on genetics unless they are born as men. It won't be 100% fair but that doesn't mean we should abolish things we have it place to make it more even, if that were the case wrestling would have 295 pound people wrestling people who weigh 106 pounds. But like Sarah, she said case by case, I can get behind that, if the advantage isn't extreme then I say it's fine.

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Nice job cheering on a cheater. Your movement is dying.

@@jaws392 Sorry, what movement are we referring to?

@@CERELEN What I mean is how the trans community are acting like a bunch of bullies after realizing the vast majority of society disagrees with their beliefs. Know how I know that? Look at the comment section under any video (that does not have a bias) discussing trans sports and read some of the comments. The VAST majority of people think male to female trans athletes are cheaters. That's reality.

@@jaws392 Man I love it when my right to exist is a political ideology and not just a given fact of life. Stfu, learn empathy.

its always "its basic biology" but have you seen advanced biology??? lol

@@earth88_do you know basic biology or do you just think you do?😂

@@deadlan2424 google's your friend

A thousand word essay which aged like milk an hour in after Thomas teammates exposed the truth.

@@MV-oi5jl milk would easily last an hour

milking bulls again, is it, M V?

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