Why Women Date Older Men | Why Women Are Attracted To Older Men 

Love this video. I'm 51 YO too and seeing someone 20 years younger. I can truly relate. Thank you and more power. 👍👍

another 💎video. awesome!

Great video as always. By the way my wife she is. 25 Years younger and a bit jealou, take care John,

How about a video about why men like older women? This would be interesting to see the similarities and/or the differences in this kind of match-up.

11 year difference is not that much bro....

Don't ever lose your confidence! I'm 56, married, and thank God, healthy. If I were in the still in the game, I think it would be easier than it's ever been. We not only have experience, but lots of life stories. Dress well, pick the right fragrances, and BE YOURSELF! Remember trying to hard?? Don't do that. Stay on your wardrobe game!! We dress WAAAAY better than the younger dudes...they often copy us. These are the best years of my life. Just dress your age...this guy can also guide you that way. Great video!! Keep paying it forward and blessing others!

I am now 60 and my girlfriend 29. Never been happier! When I divorced I even didn't have the courage to date a woman younger than 50! Now, with this new experience with great compatibility, great companion and last but not list, great sex, I would say guys that, indeed, the sky is the limit! Enjoy your everyday life like being the last one, because one day IT WILL BE THE LAST ONE!

I am 51 my girlfriend is 38; we are happy, very compatible and we could care less what people think about us.

Great video! I'm in my early 50s too and physical fitness and keeping your body in shape has benefits for you and gets attention from women too!

Yep, it happens. My old gf was 27 and I was 49. It happens more than people think. She made advances with me and I say that with the utmost humility.

Great video as always. I date a lady who is 18 years younger then myself and this is the best relationship I have had. We have been together for a few years now, as she says you can’t help who you fall for. Please keep this great channel going.

I have been dating younger girls my whole life. Im 51 and all my gfs for the past 30 years have all been 20-23. My current gf is 21. I am broke but i know how to talk and treat younger girls. The one thing 90% of all these girls have in common is No father figure. 10% have a terrible father.

Older Men have more money. Young women have "Daddy Issues". Older guy marries a younger woman, men die at an earlier age. Younger woman gets it all AND can date younger guys. It's a win/win for a woman.

I'm not wealthy but I eat healthy, workout and dress appropriately, put in the work (EXERCISE) because there are younger men with better bods...but for 49 I think I'm not too bad, "always be a better a version of yourself" and John has seen my pic.

I have had relationships with women averaging about 30 years younger than me since my mid-fifties. This was never a plan - it just happened as do my string of divorce$$. All those things you said were true as far as our dynamic and the reasons why I was picked by them. No money chasers among them. One noteworthy thread was that all these young women had fathers much older than their mothers and they were very close to their father. Daddy issues- maybe. They all had such a high need for sex, for hours daily, and while great fun it does wear your energy down. Pills definitely help because in my case ED was simply Energy Depleted. It is a good way to die. My take on dating anymore is that as an older man I don't want to cross the line into being a steady boyfriend. It is like being a grandparent, you get to visit the kids, and have fun with them and go home to peace and quiet on my own.

So, I’m 51 and my fiancé is 35. And she is gorgeous. We both make 6 figures and she actually make 5k more a year than I do. We have a great relationship. I used to worry a little bit about what other people thought a little, but honestly, it’s a non-issue

I’ve never had a wife, girlfriend or relationship with anyone over 30. How far can you push it? As long as you have your life together it works!

Older guys are a great catch for younger women. They both benefit in the relationship.

I’ve never been attracted to men in my age group. Older men tend to be much more mature and respectful than other men. They can hold a meaningful conversation, and have more life experiences which lends to them being well rounded.

I actually managed to go the other way; I'm 51, and my better half is 4 years older than me. Mind you, she looks early 40s, is in great shape, and has a figure women half her age would kill for.

I'm only 40 (but technically over 40 since that was nearly a year ago) but it really helps if you look their age. I tend to avoid mentioning my age but when I tell them about myself (like for example I bring up over 20 years of work history as I tell them about myself) they figure out something is amiss. Either that or I started working when I was a wee boy. Take really good care of yourself and live a stress free life. Then dress your age and you will pique their attention like nobody's business

For women in their 20's one big advantage older men have is that they know how to approach them in person. Guys their age have no clue and hide behind texting, Facebook or an app. Spot on regarding money. Yes there are certainly gold diggers, but in the end, if an older man takes care of himself, has style, is responsible, then almost always he will be self sufficient. That is really what she wants to know.

I found this to be an interesting video as I am more attracted to younger women but feel somewhat awkward because I am older. On the topic of style, can you do a video on appropriate denim for older men? I sometimes feel like I should be wearing a different style of denim because of my age. Thank you!

Difference between a MAN and a BOY BOY (Burden on you) MAN (meets all needs) Know the difference

My dearly departed fiancée and I met randomly on a Facebook comment thread. We were local to each other and after a couple of weeks we met in real life. Turns out I knew her mother. We were clowns together for an entertainment company. Anyway, while we were out, she asked me how old I was. I replied that I lost track when I ran out of fingers, toes and nipples to count on, so older than twenty-three. She could see that I had ten fingers and assumed ten toes. So she asked if I was kidding. I said yes I was. I know how old I am. About two months later she found out the truth. I really do have three nipples!

I can’t comment on the dating scene these days as I’ve been married for 28 years now. Projecting confidence, taking care of myself and looking good keeps my marriage going strong so I imagine that it must help in attracting women. My wife enjoys telling me when I am being flirted with by some young ladies, I on the other hand am completely oblivious to the flirtation. Happy that I married the right woman for me as I don’t think I could handle dating again at 57 lol. Have a great day John .

I’m 53, she’s 36... one month with great sex and no arguments until one day. She asked if I would ever get married again...I said yes but with a prenuptial agreement. She texted me when I drove home that night: it was fun, don’t call me anymore

If she said "You my dad's age. I would reply" You can call Me Daddy".

I’m 96 and my girlfriend is 22. She just gets me. Pound fist boys! Let’s go!

Interesting video. Isn't it amazing that it's the small things in life that make us happy. I'm not saying that personal relationships aren't important because they certainly are but consider your list: a picture, a watch, a pillow, a window shade etc are the things that bring you great joy. Live well

My age? Old enough to know better. What if I were 67 and she was 25 when we met and now I’m 70, she’s 28, and we’re closer than ever?

I'm 57, and have also found that having my s**t together in my 50s.. dating is much easier than it ever was in my 20s - I suppose a lot comes from the confidence of being comfortable in my own skin at this age - and the fact I look more like mid 40s than mid 50s does help a lot. The long-ish term women in my life since being in my 50s have been 38 to my 50, 44 to my 53, and currently 42 to my 57, so yeah... I get all that you're saying John.

I've been with women as much as 13 years younger than me and 14 years older than me. In all cases, age wasn't the key factor.

Great information for those older guys like us john, will put. Myself being 54 next month. 😉 Well for me i don't have to worry about that, i been married for going on 33years next month, and my wife is only a year younger, i believe that as long as the two individuals should have great chemistry and also great conversations Is a plus all that other stuff can always comes later. By the the way John i like what you're wearing. Thumbs up my friend.

I know of a tech billionaire who was in his late fifties and had never had a girl friend ever.Painfully shy around women and male friends did not exist.At fifty eight he fell for his beloved and now 62 years old is the happy father of five little boys.He has never been happier with the changes . n

Great vid John and I'm so glad you covered this topic!! As an older black guy I've already experienced the humiliating turn off from a few younger women because of my age in the past, but since the recent death of my 86 year old father just 3 months ago, it has matured me to the point of becoming more calm, more centered, more stoic and not caring too much anymore. Now at 46, I've allowed my goatee to go naturally salt & pepper/white instead of coloring it black like I normally do and I've actually gotten compliments at work from both older guys and older ladies about how handsome and distinguished I look as well as being in great shape and healthy for my age. In fact, there is a very beautiful petite 28 year old black woman at work who has been attracted to me for some time now!! The mutual attraction to each other was instant the moment we were first introduced to each other on her first day in the office 7 months ago. We actually really started conversing with each other since my father's death as she was the very first to know about it when we bumped into each other on the street while both on our way into the office the morning of his passing. Since that time, I invited her out for coffee after work on a Friday and she eagerly accepted!! She never ghosted me last minute or made lame excuses like so many younger women her age have done to me in the past. She actually followed through on our coffee date, even taking the initiative on an alternative place to go when the originally planned place temporarily closed on that evening and we had a great couple of hours getting to know one another!! I plan on asking her out again soon! Her attraction for me is still there....I don't know for how much longer so I'm trying to remain stoic, but as long as she is still interested, I will continue with subtle, but direct gentlemanly pursuit! Your vid has given me hope!! Thanks again!!

She: You are almost my dad's age. You: Yes... You can call me daddy ;-).

Good advice, but you should get a much younger woman. When it comes to women, it will cost you the same to buy used and damaged or newer and youthful.

Am 57, having gf of 33, Good adjustment,

I live in Japan......yeah .. all you can eat top grade A selection....mine is 8 years younger I'm 51 she looks 25.....

Hi John, Outstanding information and production as usual! Love that dinner jacket you had on in that pic with your lady! Where did you get it? Cheers!🇨🇦

27? DANGER ZONE!!! ⚠️

Spot on video buddy, thanks for the pointers and reassurance of men’s dress and confidence!!

I'm 51 and have absolutely no style, non, nada. Lol.. I'm now a widower ready to go out in the dating world and figured I better start with dressing style.

I'm convinced I was better in bed in my 20's than I am now! In my 20's I cared more what people thought of me and that extended to the bedroom. I used to put a great deal of effort into pleasing a woman simply to be thought of as good in bed. Now I don't care as much about pleasing others in any aspect of life and that extends to the bedroom too. Mind you, haven't had any complaints as yet!

I met my wife when I was 44, she was ,27. I'm sixty five and a half now and we're still going. She had a year and a half beautiful girl when I met them, I raised her like my own, or as my other two kids say, better. I wasn't rich, just hard working. I knew what I wanted, be happy, and them both had made me a better man. Every woman wants to be treated like she's the only woman in the world, and as long as you do that, you'll be OK.

At 49 I dated a 33 year old beautiful woman for 2 years. She was so great but it didn't work for long term. I think neither of us regret the time we spent together.

John! Thank you for addressing this topic! With your guidance I have been able to approach and date women that my friends think are out of my league. I have dated some wonderful people that turn heads when we are out. Admittedly, I look older than I am and they look younger than they are, but the sense of fashion, carrying yourself with confidence and smelling good has given me better results than I ever expected! I have turned away relationships with people 10-15 years younger, but seem to get along better with women 5-8 years younger. Thank you!

Hello John, how are you? I'm digging the video. Thank you for that informative message. I had a date with a 20 year old after I got divorce. We had nothing in common but Sex... She loved the experience I had especially the patience. I was 42 at the time. Stay safe brother

They're lots of side effects taking testosterone injections and not all of them are good.

I agree I’m 40, and attracting women is a lot easier now oppose to my 20s

John, Thank You For The Content!

Hi John, first thing... my parents were 10y in difference.. so pretty normal for me I'm 59 and a female coworker (33) once said a cute thing... "men getting better with the years like a good wine" ... we date and will see where we go... these are nearly 30y, but when we talk and met no one feels a great gap... (but to say, i'm in relatively good shape.. AND DON'T BE RICH, just a normal job ;-D...)

Another great video John, and so much truth in it. My girlfriend is 11 years younger than me, and she loves being with a older man 🙂

One word... Money!!! I dont stress I kick them to the street.

Being an older guy, I`m flattered

Great video John. My wife is only two years younger than me but I dated women as much as 12 years younger than me after my divorce. It was definitely fun but not much more than that, no deep conversations.

Older men like younger women or younger women like older men, is common. Older women like younger men is also common.. What I don't understand is WHY young successful/established men, want to be with older women.. Now that's a riddle. Seriously. It's no joke.. I can never understand this.. Women age faster, ESPECIALLY when you're already old..but what's up with these young gentleman?

...age is just a number...

coz we can use our tongues better..had plenty 18 and 19yo old..im 39 =)...women love a man who can please them

I am 51 too.Hi from Norway.

Yesterday I turned 70 and by the way in great shape and people say look like I am mid fifties just God’s blessing. I am married to a 47 year old which if you do the math correctly is 23 years difference. We have been happily married for 16 years this past February. Oh we also have a 14 year old daughter who will be 15 in about 30 days and looks like her mom and both are beautiful and I am not just saying they are beautiful they are. I could go into length and tell you how we met but just let me say had nothing to do with her age but literally was love at first site for me and by the way she made the first move. It was strictly about her not age as a matter of fact we became great friends long before we got together. Like you said it is not anyone’s business and I frankly have never cared about there opinions. It was and still is strictly about love!

I always dated and have been with older guys. The two or three I ever dated my age LOOKED A MORE MATURE than they were. I was a serious girl even at 16...an introovert, a reader, not a social butterfly. Guys like my more laid back personanity. I didnt hang out with teen girls in groups. I didnt care if other girls liked me. I grew up with boys older than me, my Dad was a boy scout leader. So the boys were at my house so I always could relate to guys, always, and I liked them just as guys. I liked serious conversation even as a teen. Guys thought I was good looking by about 14 I am short 5ft 4in with a curvy body...I LOOK really girly but actually I am sporty swimming, sailing, snorkeling, diving, deep sea fishing, tennis, individual sports. My first man was four years older than me the traditional age difference according to psychological research. My second was 16 yrs older! We were married for 8 yrs before he dies of a heart attack. My current mate is five years older than me. You are so right that older men are better in bed! #1- They last longer....waaaay longer. And they ENJOY tsming their time. As a woman you dont feel anynpressure to hurry up and get it over with! That was an issue for me when young. Before 40 I rarely was multiorgasmic and it took me time to get there even the one time. My first mate was in his 20s and always in a hurry. He wanted sex waaaay too often for me. He was big and I was small...5ft 4in doesnt give me alot of space. I was sore quite often. I enjoyed pleasing him but it wasnt the great passion for me it was for him. My second husband was always premature I didnt even have time to get warmed up. My third mate was great... he took his time. But after 40 for ke things got even better he started lasting significantly longer, taking even more time and I started having multiple orgasms. Now MUCH older he is even BETTER. He is a tremendous lover. So yes...to older men.

It is true thank you

I truly believe that I am blessed. I am 65, have great genetics (the average lifespan for both sides of my family is mid 90s!), I have excellent health with no health problems, trim, athletic body, a full head of silver hair. I don't smoke, only drink socially, I am energetic, have rock solid, long lasting erections (no viagra needed) and I always make my woman's sexual pleasure top priority. I'm financially stable (my home is paid in full), highly valuable skills, (computer science degree, working on a psychology degree and I am a writer). I have a lot to offer, and I know this. Quick witted with a very playful sense of humor. If anyone says that I am old enough to be her father, my response is, "yes, but the important fact is...I'm not her father." What more could a woman want? The critical key is, don't act young, rather, have a youthful outlook and attitude.

Well sir all bcz of money.......

All is tru ...i have a wife 22 years younger and im not rich ...and loads are interrested ... About ed it will hit a lot of guys . Change your diet go whole food plant based and visit a gym and get enough sleep ...willy will be as if yr 25 ..........when.it fails dont make problems about it make a joke

This is the most incredible topic and facts that you’re trying to explain here thank you for the tip. For my perspective is that I find age has nothing to do with romantic relationship therefore it is about your personality or who you really are. I’m 19 years old and I love beautiful tall friendly women regardless of age and as long as she is over 18 years old.

Most woman do want money because of hypergamy and even if your not driving a $300k car, money is freedom. Especially if you have fuck you money meaning ( we can fly where we want, stay as long as we want ) you don't have to be at a job by 8am Monday morning. It's not everything but if you take her home in a vehicle older and more beat up than hers it won't last long.

maybe daddy issues

Hey John! I don't know if I'm your biggest fan but let's just say that I am a huge fan of your videos. That said, this was a difficult one for me as a gay man. I totally understand that this video was specifically for your target audience into which I just don't fit but I watched anyway and tried to learn. I really tried to draw parallels. I have witnessed numerous gay relationships where there is an age disparity and it is not uncommon. The attraction can range from wisdom, stability, commitment, experience, maturity to gold digger or trophy boy; not unlike the relationships being conveyed to your audience. With two men who are psychologically wired the same, there tends to be less game playing and more getting to the point. The questions sometimes asked is whether the relationship is one of romance/love or is there a father figure issue. I decided to take a nervous leap here because I felt it might be OK/safe to write this to you but I don't know how it will be received by you target audience and that is a bit of concern for me. Whew! And I just now realized something because of this particular video. I have been reluctant to participate in live chats or even submit photos because I, most likely, will be the odd one who may not be able to connect with your target viewers or I risk not feeling fully welcome or part of the club and the last thing I want to do is cause anyone to feel uncomfortable. Maybe I'm overreacting and prejudging the men who benefit from your videos and that is a form of prejudice and sincerely apologize. I hope it is OK for me to submit this where it is so public but I decided to take a chance and see what happens. Thanks John!

Females primarily pursue male resources and are willing to overlook most male attributes to get them. Only some top guys are able to date much younger and should not be discouraged from doing so. For males, 50 is the new 40. For females, 50 is still 60

Now that I am working out and dressing like a guy like you, women are coming to me and I am meeting 2 girls 13 year younger, they joke about my age sometimes and I keep my cool but I joke about they being so immature. But you are right women are looking for older guys because with us there will be no drama and conflict and we can basically can tell them to fuck them selves if the become toxic and we will not simp.

Hi John i,m 67 and wanna remain single and alone, i really like your videos, some have even got me into a system with my housework, and take pride in dressing sharp, with Christian Dior Sauvage cologne and Raoul Mertin shoes, keep up the great work John, its a great thing what you do here for the older guys here, keep it up mate!

I'm 48. My girlfriend is 33. She's into women also. We have a rotation of age 22 to 30 Unicorns (4 of them). Life is good!😎

You are not older you are Bolder man...

Age does not necessarily equate to "experience", or the other things you discussed.

I date 30 yr olds 👈 women at this age still active however not too much 😜. They are fun still have decent looks

Hey John, have you seen the negative reviews about Roman?

I’m seen as an elegant young lady in my early 20s and this gentleman is speaking nothing but facts! Most young ladies don’t want Lamborghinis lol! Just be family oriented and ambitious, striving for excellence! Also, I and most young ladies go for older men because of how chivalrous they are...

To quote Kevin Spacey... The idle rich are hard to entertain....

I am 58 years old is it okay to date a 45 year old woman. She is a grown woman after all 🤷‍♂️

Don't ever think of James Bond. You are not James Bond. James Bond isn't even James bond.

This video doesn’t really apply to me. I’ve been married for 31 years. However, I will say that I get more attention from women 10-15 years younger than me at the gym or the supermarket. I agree that if you take care of yourself, have confidence and dress well, you will attract younger women.

As psychologist Jordan Peterson points out, the research shows that (most) women go for competency in a man, rather than money, looks etc. And older men are more likely to be more competent - or at least to appear so. Great video again thanks John!

I’m 53, she’s 29 and it just works.

I'm 47. I'm not currently "dating" anyone. But I do have a "friend" they I go out with every couple of weeks or so. We used to work together. I know she isn't after money. Because we do the same thing and I only make slightly more than her. She also owns a house and I do not. But at 27 years old, I'm older than her mom. And she can't get enough of me AFTER our dates. She has today out told me that she's been on tinder and a few other dating sites for a while. But all of the guys around her she only care about themselves in the bedroom. And that she loves that I enjoy making sure SHE is taken care of. And since we both have the same job (not working together anymore though) we are both extremely busy. We both also have younger kids. I got started late and she got started early. But neither of us have much time for a full on relationship at the moment. So it every 2 to 3 weeks dates work great for both of us right now.

john, "piece of the pie", really? LMAO!

Great video John. My wife and I have same age....25 years together....going great and great!!! 😏

My grandpa used to say “ if you want to stay young and motivated date a younger woman”. I did not get it at first 👈

40 isn't young what about mid 20s that's what men want

I’m like Goldilocks and the three bears. I’m on my third marriage. My first wife was the same age as me. We just got married too young. My second wife was one year older than me. She turned out to be crazy. My third and current spouse is nine years younger than me and she is just right. We have been together for ten years and married for almost five. We had similar paths, as this is her third marriage also. We both learned the same lessons. Sometimes we wish we had found each other sooner. But, our lives would have been different. Once I said, “ You know if I took you to my senior prom, you would have been nine years old!” She said, “Yeah, you would have got locked up!”

Love the quality of your videos and all the knowledge behind them amazing work thank you so much

because it s natural the intended patrichial system

Great content thank you.

im a youn women and i enjoy watching these videos

I'm 35 and I can attest to losing my style. Damn I used to look so good. I'm not overweight by any means but I should probably get some tailoring done. Great video, thank you sir! You look dapper af with that silver hair!

Whoa John, she's a beauty. Great video, been a long subscriber👍👍👍

Hey John Great Topic May and December relationships all the way brother

Good vid and good points. Maturity, in a lot of ways, is something that we have going for us, because a 'man child' just isn't a catch for woman who's realised what she wants. I am already married though, and she's older...still a good vid however.