That is exactly what I did with my ex girlfriend. She wanted to be friends which I found to be impossible, considering she said she couldn't be friends with me the first time we broke up (this is now our second and final). But this time she just wanted that closure and reaped all the benefits of having a familiar face around so she could heal and eventually find a partner. No explanation, nothing. She reached out to my boy to ask him if I could reach out because she thought we were "friends". No, honey, it does not work like that. You want boundaries? Well, here you go....
Ex treied putting me in the friendzone one month into no contact i told her no a month and a half later into nc she calls and says were friends right and i straight up said im not your friend
@@greekrida he did.. we seen each other a few times.. however he stated he don’t want to be committed.. which I fine I respect that.. so I blocked him.. I’m not being a friend.. I’m a prize not him
Absolutely not 💯 don’t ever downgrade to a friend esp one where they think they can still get benefits . I can be amicable but I don’t want to be friends with him. I never chased him or begged him Now after 8 months 🤦🏽♀️ he meet up with me told me he always thinks of me worries aboit me, took accountability for all that he said and did. Said sorry he told me he was scared to tell me that he still loves me and missed me but doesn’t know if I feel the same. A part of him wanted to come back but he knew I did not feel the same He said he isn’t dating anyone he’s an attractive so I’m sure women would of approached him. He never prioritised me the way I wanted but now he’s showing up, giving me the time Even wanted to catch up this week as he has offered to do some maintenance around the house. I think he wants me to notice him and just wants me to validate him He’s a good guy. but if he is not sure what he wants then he needs to leave me to it
And that's exactly why I knew being his friend was never gonna happen. I felt like him just wanting to be friends was his way of pacifying hurting me & like he was throwing me a little scrap. Like, yeah i don't want you romantically, so heres a fake friendship to help soothe your hurt & stroke my ego
I wish I could be friends with my ex 😢 I have a soft place in my heart for him. He saved my life when I was 16 yrs old. I can't forget that. I just hope he knows that I will always love him, but I'm not in love with him. We never broke up just drifted apart because many women were chasing him and he loved the attention. He regrets it and wants to be with me but at 43 yrs old now I have my own family and life. I only wish the very best for him. In a different world we would've been together forever. That's what I wanted from a young age 😢 I've moved on but still recognize how much he still means to me.
My husband of 20 years left me 4 yrs ago. Now he's been trying to come back into my life. He wants to be friends and maybe get back together. I blocked him so there's no contact. I'm happy now 😊
@@miss4330 Yes it definitely does. I have him blocked online and off line . He is not welcome back into my life. I'm over joyed that I am single for the first time in a long time. ❤️😂
To all brothers stay in No Contact, don't look back i fall for this trap at the end of the day she will always choose that new guy she met just for a weeks
Soooo true! You articulated this way better than I could. My ex-fiance once asked if we could still be friends if we ever broke up. I told her no because I would eventually hope it would lead to a reunion and get my heart broken again either through frustration or learning that she found someone else and I was just the band-aid meeting her emotional needs until she finds someone else. Either way, it's like getting demoted at work but having the same duties for less pay and benefits.
Once a women sleeps with another guy. She has no more value. Has zero attraction and you will always become second choice. Never thought I would be repulsed by someone I used to love.
I feel that, I never understood feeling disgusted at an ex especially if they're hot but once they cheated all my love went out the window, I did leave a path open for them to one day come back but that as time goes on that path will close and I made thay clear and declined the friendzone offer.
Even though our relationship was perfectly healthy and ended on a good note, I made the decision to not be friends with my ex-girlfriend. She was the one who dumped me, so I shouldn't feel too guilty. I don't know if I'll ever see her again willingly. I do absolutely miss her though but I know that the sooner we cut ties the better. My future girlfriend will thank me- she wouldn't want me speaking with my ex.
Thank you! This helps! He apologized, but still only wanted to be friends. Even though it doesn’t feel right because I wanted a relationship. He ended up unfollowing me on Facebook and Instagram. But is still friends on Snapchat which I’m surprised about. So I don’t know if he’ll come around or not.
If you really want to then do it. That’s a decision that only you can make. Is it hard yes…I’m trying and it’s difficult but only you can decide if it’s worth it
Yea that's what my ex wanted... He wanted to be friends with me and when I was in the call he was telling... Me to be friends and he was being flirty with me and I... Felt sick to my stomach he contact me with no contact zone for 6 weeks and he invited me in his drama with his friends and he shouldn't have brought me in it because it's non of my business I got to worry about my own problems so... I blocked him from everywhere making sure he doesn't contact me a again... I'm free again no sickness😊
Im ready to let go and pack his belongings then got a text today saying he wants to stop over for a tea 🍵☕ and talk Should i ask him to bring my things i left to his apartment. Im tired of babysitting emotion😢.
I was in a relationship for 2 month.. due to her ex boyfriend pressure and blackmail she had to came again in relationship with him...she wanted me as a friend with benefits but i didn't...she emotionally called me that she needs my friendship, i accepted and became friends . She secretly talked to me most of the time...but when her boyfriend came to met her i feel very depressed. She didn't know what i feel when i know that she had to met her ex... after that i took a descion to disconnect from her life...its hard but i feel more satisfied after that....she tried to contact with me again but i didn't accept it
He asked me to be friends after he broke up with me saying I betrayed his trust from a surprise I planned for him, told me specifically in messages that he didn’t like me as a person and my character just turned him off. I respectfully declined. If u don’t trust and like me enough to be your gf then why would u want to be my friend??? Especially after telling me I’m forcing myself on him and he didn’t feel respected when I asked for us to meet In person to talk things over. Then blocked me on the second attempt of trying to convince me to be his friend.
People these days say it’s okay to be friends with someone who is not suppose to be in their life. They move into marriage with their ex’s and new supply (sidechicks) and there goes what you was trying to build out the window…people who are strong willed will not stay for foolishness that is not a marriage but a play ground to drag you through the mud and be a punching bag.
When they reach out after weeks NC and its just small talk, hows the cats, how's work etc, how do you not become friendzoned and still respond to them? He reached out once so far and it was just small talk, i was polite, i didn't try to keep the conversation going etc. But what now? If he reaches out again doing the same thing, isnt that being friends? I don't want to keep responding to chats about cats and the weather. What do i do? Because you say don't ignore them.
Different situation as you are co-parents then, your priority then is raising your kids with your ex. You don't need to be "friends" and hanging out in your free-time or talking about romantic relationships, but you should be friendly and cooperative dealing with the kids even if you have zero intention on getting back together.
