Win the Argument AND Win Them Over - 4 Techniques

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Look, anyone can “win” an argument. Hurl enough insults at a person and eventually they’re going to give up. But when you care about someone, isn’t the goal actually to influence them to see your perspective and come to a meeting of the minds?
Today I’m handing you 4 elegantly effective techniques to get your point of view across in a way that is certain, passionate and compassionate at the same time. Not only will you win, but you’ll win people over.
So grab your BBQ and beer and let’s get ready for a healthy debate…
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@DjDiLaRa 4 года назад

1 - seperate subject from person 2 - start with the part you agree with 3 - posing humble/genuine questions only, not manipuılative 4 - show concern

@stephanievulcheva8125 6 лет назад

" The true doesn't have to be heard, it has to be understood."

@elky360 9 лет назад

He's slowly becoming more and more American. I swear to God Mathew if I here even the slightest change in your accent that is it !

@artikagunathasan4040 9 лет назад

elky360 He lives there now, he can't really help it unless he becomes super determined to stick to his original acsent. Accents are shown to be fluid and ever-changing, depending on who we talk to, where we live, etc. Don't you think that's kinda cool?

@mrslampard6820 9 лет назад

Hahah my thoughts exactly! It's not like British women have mastered dating, I'm sure he would have a huge audience back home as well!

@joannachimonides3644 3 года назад

he reminds of a movie American Pie😊

@pennywenny812 9 лет назад

I'm just so stubborn when I argue and I can't prevent my emotions from flowing. And also anyone have any tips on how to not cry during arguments? Literally 1 min into arguing, tears start 😂😂

@christina4413 Год назад

Seven years later... I too have this "problem". It's not really a problem but it sure feels like one. My guess is tears come due to the rapid emotional flood one feels when they find themselves suddenly vulnerable as well as (possibly) confronted or put on the spot. I find it's more effective when I stick it out, I do my best to reign in the water-works and say what I feel I need to say and push through the tears. Whether you and I are the only ones blubbering does not matter much so long as we are being true to our self and speaking our side of the matter at hand.

@meredithjoy2 8 лет назад

I have 17 pages of notes from listening to your videos! Thank you for all of these helpful tips to live a better life and have healthier relationships!

@MrMedmechanic 2 года назад

Have you read it back ever

@ValahFitness 5 лет назад

Matthew, you are gold ! I believe it needed a lot of hard work , studying , passion and maybe sacrifice to get to this level of wisdom , knowledge and charisma ! You are an inspiration !

@elli1491 8 лет назад

I love this topic! I love that you are talking about it! And also, Matt, you are so gifted in putting such an ideas in words!

@rashisonal6080 4 года назад

Thanks for your amazing words, Matthew. I have been watching your videos for a couple of years and your words/advice have had a very positive impact in my life 😊❤️

@rutibso5225 8 лет назад

one of my fav videos of yours. Thanks for putting it together in a simple beautiful way as always

@natpositive 9 лет назад

It's so amazing to learn more and more from you! You topped yourself off once again! I have to stay that it has been one of the most valuable lessons concerning arguing and doing that for the right reasons! Thanks!

@liliane1240 7 лет назад

I think you're the BEST guide ever - inspiring reason, common sense and wisdom.. This video was really enlightening. I enjoyed it immensely. Thank you so much.

@carlasferdian9447 9 лет назад

Matthew , you are honestly a genius and an excellent person . Keep it up , I love your way of thinking .

@tubetubefun123 9 лет назад

This was honestly such great advice! At times there are many videos and self help books that teach you how to win an arguments but with a haughty and puffed up with pride attitude....Matt you couldn't have said it better!! Love you so much just because u are fabulous! xoxo

@marwa.emad1991 5 лет назад

What us written as a title of the video is perfectly matching with the fact that these techniques are amazing and convincing ❤

@riversamso5871 3 года назад

I love the way that Matthew showed the way that he processed through the idea with us "using the word creates friction." I am working through perfectionist and what barriers it creates with others.

@meetthemasters754 7 лет назад

Absolutely Beautiful Breakdown Matt!! Loved it! Keep em' coming

@ViolindEva 5 лет назад

A very well tuned message 👍 You are a brilliant life strategist, Matthew! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Keep shining and never stop ( I know you won't 😉 )

@santiagoscho5693 4 года назад

You're gifted in making a powerful yet entertaining speech! I learned a lot from this vid!

@mermaidguitarist 7 лет назад

Awesome video Matthew! A profound message that rings very true. Thank you for sharing!

@HugDealer 7 лет назад

FANTASTIC video. Absolutely priceless!

@fearlesskezy9443 6 лет назад

hey matthew i watched this took your advice and it worked me and my partner understod each other in a calm way without an argument thank you!

@maudcoutherez4590 8 лет назад

There is this french saying that says 'only fools don't change their minds'...😀.

@JoyceKPulickal 9 лет назад

Thank You so much Matthew! I could relate these instances discussed to my actual life when the only aim of an argument was to win the argument without being practical about the consequences and influence that I could make on others. Great Tips and Really useful !!!

@meh-hair-Vaughn 9 лет назад

Excellent video! Very thought provoking...

@ivaspasovska1 7 лет назад

Just found this gem!!! Thank you Matthew, very useful

@Crochetwithcassie 8 лет назад

So very helpful! Taking notes !

@crystallanderos9315 9 лет назад

Awesome! Loved it..will be watching all of your videos and looking i to your book!

@jincychacko5440 6 лет назад

Thank you for this video. I feel that this was a special session that was speaking just to me. Very insightful.

@yuliannarafailova 7 лет назад

Well done, and very important lesson that takes a combination of hindsight and introspection to learn. Or, just a good attention span for this 25-minute, in-depth analysis. Well worth a listen. Thank you.

@juliedujardinSuccessQuoteMe 9 лет назад

Matthew that was incredible! I just used a snipett from what you were saying while listening to you. It turned a hate debate on facebook into shaking hands. 😆

@calliecutsinger5222 6 лет назад

I read something that stuck with me and it fits perfectly with this video. "We listen to respond, we've stopped listening to understand"

@sheheartsthat 9 лет назад

I laughed hard because instead of celebrating, I'm watching his video. It was very informative. Thanks Matt + Jamison's!

@joymckenziewendt4013 7 лет назад

Thank yoou for your invaluable advice. So clear and doable. Thanks Matthew!

@authorgreene4938 8 лет назад

This video just made me subscribe. I've got a fantastic man, but this was delicious food for thought. My mum does a lot of these "naturally" and everyone says she is a fantastic orator. She's definitely stumped me more than once lol. Lovely work, Matthew!

@21georgianna 9 лет назад

I alway fight or better yet argue like this. I always ask questions, make sure I do not offend them, act as a neutral party. I even say, I have an issue with that idea. I guess I have always been doing this right. Even though I alway feel as if my brother who goes for more of the aggressive approach, wins more arguments.

@stefiTHC 6 лет назад

Lovely video. Sharing your knowledge on other social fields than just dating showing the cornerstones of your way of thinking in general makest you and your conclusions more easily to trust.

@veganvocalist4782 5 лет назад

Really enjoy your channel, thank you for sharing everything you have learned so far , I value this

@jenniferanncervantes363 7 лет назад

i use no.1 and 3 always in an argument as a manager. works all the time,, Thank you for the additional no. 2 and 4 perspective.

@ginapartida462 7 лет назад

Matthew I just listened to you for a week and I love it you are n Amazing intellectual, intelligent Man, your advices help a lot to me n I'm sure many people, I really love your personality and your accent. Gina...

@thewhiterumor 9 лет назад

I think this is one of your best videos ever!!

@tmyoshimura621 9 лет назад

Thank you, thank you, thank you, THANK YOUUUUU!!!!!

@googleone9209 9 лет назад

Appealing to empathy after a good argument even if not leading them through what appears to be self enlightenment will almost always attract them.

@smithsmith6214 5 лет назад

Matthew!! You are AMAZING!! Your advice helps in all areas of my life and I have learnt so much from you! As a fan I would LOVE to see you and Daniel Euan Henderson get together to do a video. He is an uplifting public figure, whos energy would be very complimentary to yours.

@Brianabees 9 лет назад

I love you, Matthew! Happy fourth!

@maramal-aghbari5913 8 лет назад

wow! i immediately subscribed after the video you have certianely delivered the information effectively .

@meganschwartzbauer282 9 лет назад

Thanks for your thoughts. Often our real motive is that we want someone to see our point of view. The challenge does come into play when we feel that we know we are right. But that certainty needs to be conveyed in the right way. Thanks Matt, good advice. : ) --Megan

@elkeautenrieth1046 7 лет назад

Love the honesty in this video Matthew - apart from the useful advice!

@JulieLorraine1 9 лет назад

I'm Canadian, so I'm watching :). This was a very profound video. Thank you for sharing!!

@susandavies3532 5 лет назад

So nice to understand the psychology of an argument strategy.

@day_dreamer_ 7 лет назад

really helpful, you are such a great teacher, thank you!

@julietfrankland4450 9 лет назад

Fantastic video , helped me out! Also cant help but notice your eyebrows are on fleek

@barbaracosta7733 9 лет назад

Amazing video! I just loved it!

@AhhhSukeSuke 8 лет назад

Excellent video, I found it very useful!!!! I'll try to use your techniques :)

@AmaraFilo 9 лет назад

Please make a video on how to be more charismatic. Or about how people have a "way" that attracts people to them. I would love your take on that.

@ClaudiaSanchezQuintero 4 года назад

Amara Filo Jist be more positive, honest, respectful, and generous. But most importantly find ways to feel good like genuinely feel good and you will radiate positive energy. Love yourself and show others love, no judgement, not criticism and no confrontation. Be kind and also follow everything in this video. You will definitely attract more wonderful people into your life and the ones who may not be so good, will show you their good side too.

@spellywelly 3 года назад

@@ClaudiaSanchezQuintero Echo all of that. The ‘recipe’ for charisma according to I-don’t-remember-the-author is personal power, presence and warmth. Which essentially encapsulates everything you wrote above!

@FreeaQySariSin 9 лет назад

Oh Matt you're such an intellectual person, it's so hot to listen to you at the same time!!!

@triwid286 3 года назад

OMG it's soo useful...thank you Matt, stay safe!

@mermaidlives 9 лет назад

Terrific video, thank you!

@TSHEKHAN 6 лет назад

ahhh. although older, this vid is way better than the first two vids i just watched. ty.

@meganschwartzbauer282 6 лет назад

Great video! what an important topic. Definitely comes up in a marriage. We must keep the overall objective in mind with someone. If we want to keep a loving relationship & communicate more effectively, then we should hear them, & be respectful. For me, I think a lot like my twin sister, but if we have a real difference in thinking, we try to hear each other (well, most of the time) & move on if needed, to preserve our relationship. Two people will not always agree on everything, but it is best to keep the COMMUNICATION LINES OPEN so the relationship can be saved. Tell the other person you love them (unless they are a stranger). A KEY is remembering this in the moment. To stop, breathe, and remember the overall goal. To think & respond, and not just react. : ) Megan

@dylanbuchman8128 9 лет назад

Yesssss this one is so good!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

@BreeRieffelTotally 9 лет назад

This is amazing, thank you so much

@adamusina9264 5 лет назад

Thanks Matt, you truly are a gift to the world 😉

@jessicathomas4541 7 лет назад

You're videos are life changing.

@susannorman4483 2 года назад

Excellent, thank you!

@sarenisuncokreti6981 2 года назад

I listen to you all day!

@AstridPerellon 4 года назад

My favourite video so far!

@ilisilva88 9 лет назад

To be honest I stopped watching your videos for a while and decided to watch this one and loved this video I like videos like this that challenge me. Thank you for this video.

@lynngray3017 7 лет назад

great video and I love that you read to us!

@LizzyC-nf1sv 7 лет назад

I love this video! very intellectual!

@roxanne83 2 года назад

Oh, I already do this automatically 😀. Years ago I read D'ale Carnegie books ( "How to win friends and influence people" is one that I especially like).

@medicineofnow 4 года назад

Well said. Thanks!

@jennypapa86 6 лет назад

You gave me homework to do! Thank you!!!

@TheInevitableSloth 9 лет назад

you're the best "in other words" i love you

@sillybeeful 9 лет назад

Wise words Mr Hussey, thank you🌹

@PrairieDawnC 9 лет назад

I'm Canadian, eh, and I thank you for this reminder that there is often something to learn from an opponent.

@monacharleston593 6 лет назад

More of THESE kinds of videos PLEASE! :D

@steph3694 9 лет назад

this video was so great i watched it 3 times straight! Matthew, you are like the wisest hot guy ever!

@googleone9209 9 лет назад

Very perceptive! Theres another vid w/the same name, almost didn't watch it but recognized the background was diff than the other vid. Please do make more about your thoughts and observations :)

@cristinamagee613 9 лет назад

I want to say that I have watched a lot of dating advice videos from different coaches and you by far stand out the most to me because not only do you give the advice but you also give an example. A lot of coaches will say do this but then don't give an example. I then question myself and say ok well how am I suppose to do that?

@viviantam9138 7 лет назад

I'm watching this on exactly the day of 4th of July in 2017. Great video

@Dizzaton 9 лет назад

Very good video! Honestly if everyone argued like this, there would be less hurt feelings and everyone would be happier. Sometimes keeping impersonal is really hard because the other person mocks you or tries to hit soft spots! A guy I was talking to said he noticed I share feminist articles on social media and asked if I was feminist. I said yes, and he LAUGHED at me! He's said so many sexist things before which I've tried discussing with him but that was the last straw and I felt really hurt. After he stopped laughing he said "explain yourself" and giggled the moment I opened my mouth. Well, I just shut up. There is no use wasting breath on someone who clearly isn't listening.

@Nika-yx7mi 8 лет назад

He's a condescending ass. You're right to step back and realize some people just aren't worthy of your time.

@TimTamSlam7 4 года назад

What a dick

@jessicae2222 5 лет назад

I really hit the goldmine with you, gorgeous Matthew Hussey. I’m talking about your RU-vid channel, I mean 😉

@Ingridamoramor 9 лет назад

excelent! happy argument day!!! thank you!

@Lilysnflwr 6 лет назад

I needed this

@nora22000 5 лет назад

Oh. My. God. Ben Franklin is my favorite person in the world! I cannot believe Matthew is using our man Ben to make his point!!! And he 'gets' Ben! Love this.

@michalkaufman5915 9 лет назад

Love your videos!

@katechan451 6 лет назад

Great video!

@MoonMoonJas 7 лет назад

Your best video in my opinion!

@alchemyofshape 8 лет назад

I for one get more value out of these types of videos guys .... keep them coming .... nothing sexier than having the tools to become a pragmatic person and hold a intelligent constructive conversation :)

@JoseEllen1 6 лет назад

This is great!

@sherylcastro5688 8 лет назад

Nice points!

@m.l.stevens1835 7 лет назад

Good advice for attorneys and pols...well done..

@camellasuerte2595 7 лет назад

much i love people open minded......means we have doors and windows in the heart.😘😘😘

@shab619 7 лет назад

This information is gold. :)

@lindakitten2481 4 года назад

Great video

@vaibhavblayer 7 лет назад

thanks.....great one !

@operationada 4 года назад

I love how intellectual you are!

@Manders3900 7 лет назад

What are you talking about Matthew? I loved this video (although I watched it after you posted) and I would love to watch your channel all day while eating bbq chicken wings and a beer. That sounds like a great idea!