Woman Makes Fun of Friend for Being POOR?!? 

The nerve of the parents to say “we didn’t steal anything” like, you took something that didn’t belong to you without the owner’s permission and gave it away. That is stealing,

Story #2 - I also collect legos, and they get expensive, and they sell for a lot too. It makes sense why op was upset that someone gave it to a kid without asking. They could’ve costed op hundreds of dollars if they didn’t replace. The dad deserved to realize just how expensive the set they ruined was - Op is good apple

Marching band one: It's punishing the entire band if he can't participate. They need his part musically and to create the formations.

For #3, I have celiac disease and for a really long time, couldn’t eat ANY gluten. If parents couldn’t or wouldn’t accommodate me, I just didn’t go, so I feel like the mom is just being safe.

Informing people about allergies is like asking: "Please don't poison my child."

I MET HER TODAY!!!!! I had just left a restaurant after work and I see this very familiar face. I couldn’t help myself and before I realized, I softly and respectfully screamed “EXCUSE MEE?” (I had a couple drinks so I wasn’t all the way there. Bear with me) and this person, whom at the moment I thought was my high school teacher, stopped and with a very welcoming smile said “yes?” I asked if she taught at this high school I attended and whether she remembered me. She calmly and comforting said “I’m not from here.” I insisted that I knew who she is and that I believe she was my teacher LOL this exchange went on for about 3 minutes until she mentioned RU-vid. Then I finally caught on that she’s part of a podcast and THAT’S where I know her from. I even apologized for (what I thought) wasting her time due to the couple extra drinks I had. Anyway, I say all that to say, SHE IS SWEETER IN PERSON! Such a nurturing and helping soul. My train ride home was so nice and she most definitely had a part in that. ❤️ “You’re doing the Lord’s work”

Story #3 - This one is weird. The other girl's mom was definitely having a Karen moment and her rudeness is unacceptable. But I feel bad that the kids were the ones who had to suffer for their moms' argument, and I'm afraid the kids' friendship is what will really end up being hurt in the long-run.

The more I think about Story #4, the more I realize that OP wasn't really asking "Am I the bad apple?" OP made that post to say "Heck yeah, I was the bad apple, and I just want to brag about it!"

For #3, I'm the daughter of a strict mom. I had a similar experience to Amy in the story but I figured out why my mom said no. The family wanted to take me to a place where there was no cell service, the brother had spied on me while I was changing and grabbed my upper area without permission, and the girl I was friends with was not the coolest person. My mom declined and didn't tell me the reasons, but instead took me to do something fun. I understand where the mom is coming from and explaining it to Amy when she's older will put things into perspective. The mom had good intentions and was protecting her daughter, I can't fault her for that.

Another episode, another time that Rebeca has to remind full grown adults and teens to not throw a fit because people they don’t know not agreeing with them

Story 2: Something similar but opposite happened to me. I'm on the autism spectrum and my special interest is barbie dolls. It's to the point where my family and friends have a joke that I should work at Mattel and be the 'barbie expert'. My dad doesn't really understand the special interest part, but he knows that it's really important to him in a similar way to how his fossil collection that he had spent years on is important to him. When my younger cousin wanted to play with my Barbies, my dad put an end to that because he respected my things. which was really good because the barbies she wanted to play with were particularly important because they were in a diorama. TLDR: OP is the good apple and even if I thought they were a crab apple I can't really judge them for it since I probably would have done the same.

Story 3: definitely not the bad apple. I would tell the daughter: This woman disrespected you and disrespected your mother. She cursed me out on the phone and she belittled your allergies and your health. You won't be attending her party or her after party.

#3 is where you leverage social pressure. In full hearing of the other parents, loudly apologize that your daughter can't stay for the after party sleep-over because you can't risk her staying in a house where the supervising parent has stated she refuses to ensure the kids' safety, and prefers to actively endanger them for her own convenience.

Story #4 - Awful apple. Yes, I understand why OP was annoyed and the guest has no right to complain, but they went straight for the personal attack. It feels like that escalated unnecessarily quickly. Also, to then later apologize and accept the friend's apology but then continue making little snide comments about it is just petty.

Story #1: Sounds like another case of two parents still figuring out how to co-parent and not being on the same page. Honestly, I applaud the kid for being so driven.

#2: My Guy! You are not in the wrong! Lego can be resold for so much! It is yours!

Story 2: As a Lego collector myself, that stuff is freaking EXPENSIVE. And OP didn't embarrass the dad. The dad knew OP wanted the exact Lego set, unopened. They specified that before he left, and after he left. Dad embarrassed himself, by seeing the price and thinking "maybe sorry will be enough, and I'll go get it back". These parents are so childish.

I totally agree with you on the apples, but story 3 I would definitely change to good apple if we found out the mom had explained to the daughter. I would love to see updates from the posters with more information, or updates on the situations.

Number 3, allergies are so serious! I had a friend in college who was so allergic to fish and shellfish that we had to have a student meeting (small performing arts college) so she could tell everyone and ask that they not eat fish in the shared student lounge and where her epipen was, how to use it, and how habits around carrying them. Like if we didn't respect these rules she could die. One of the new students our second year forgot and microwaved fish, and my friend had to practically run out of the room 💜

1st story - teacher and parent here. A big part that's missing is WHY kid is failing? No work completion? Trying but not understanding? Behavior bad and not completing work? If the kid just doesn't understand classwork why punish him? What have the parents done to help him pass so far? If the kid has ADHD he could need help with the executive functioning required to pass the classes. Maybe he can't do it on his own and his parents aren't supporting him just expecting him to do it? Too many unanswered questions. Kid should not lose the only part of school he likes bc of failure in some classes. It will kill his remaining motivation to do well. Story 4 - OP seems to have been harboring resentment towards her dinner guests for a while. If you are truly friends you would have had an open line of communication and told them how you felt about their lack of contributions before it came this far.

#1: My boyfriend and I have different parenting styles. We hardly ever start put agreeing on what to do in a given situation, but we talk about it before we take it to the children. At least she didn't contradict him in front of the kid. Now, as far as the question, I don't really think it's rewarding bad behavior, but they do need to get to the bottom of the problem before handing out punishments anyway. If marching band is too much of a time commitment for him to do his schoolwork, that might be the problem, but that's not necessarily it. Get to bottom of it and go from there. I'll say Good Apple. #2: First thing is, they inserted themselves into the moving process. Of course they're not good with boundaries. Secondly, any responsible parent knows that bringing a child to do something boring will not end great without distractions. The parent should have brought toys and snacks for the kid. Lastly, replacing the Legos that they stole is the right thing to do, and making the request is also the right thing. I don't care if they don't respect it, it wasn't their place to offer something that wasn't theirs to the kid they dragged into the situation. Good Apple for OP. #3: I can't go Crab Apple on this. I'm not gonna say she didn't bring it up to her daughter just because she didn't say it in the post. She may have assumed it was implied. I'm gonna go with Good Apple. #4: As someone who is always broke, I would NEVER complain if someone cooked for me. It made me insanely mad when you read out what the friend said. I'm not saying I back OP, but I'm not gonna say I wouldn't have a similar response. Maybe that makes me a Bad Apple, too, but she just returned fire. I am gonna go Crab Apple. I'm not saying she was right, but I can see where it came from.

Completely agree with you on story 4. Also the boyfriend catching strays was just straight up disgusting of OP. It sounds like her issue was with Leila. Why in the heck did she have to drag his name into it too? Also her overall snobbish attitude of "I'm better than you because I'm more well off than you" is horrible.

Story 1- good apple. Story 2- good apple story 3- crab apple story 4- bad apple

Story 2 The dad handed him $70, and the son asked if it was a down-payment. How dumb do you have to be to not realize the item might be very expensive? The son didn't make his father a fool; his father did that on his own.

I completely agree with your verdicts! Especially number 2, if someone did that with a piece of my collection I'd do the same! Except my collector's items aren't made anymore and can only be found online and rarely in the same condition as I keep mine so it would be even more devastating!

Story 2: Lego can be a life style and prized possessions...ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! It's NOT childish....it's also a collection item and should NOT be messed with!!! Good job and put your foot down.

Story 2, I don't think it was bad for her to let her dad go to the store without a full understanding of the Lego set. He and her mom weren't very open to listening at the time and he needed a wake up call to get his senses straightened.

Apple 3 good apple. Protecting her daughter.

You do not have to keep clarifying that you don’t have children. Your thoughts of these situations are spot on.just because you don’t have them doesn’t mean that your opinions are wrong. If people disagree that’s ok. As a former teacher you have seen how kids react when placed in similar situations. I enjoy you feedback. Keep up the good work.

Story 2: NTA NTA NTA. I grew up with my mom making the decision for me that I was "too old" for my toys. I get nauseous thinking about how much some of those toys are worth now. Original JP, Lion King, Digimon...

Story #1 - this story was troubling for me to decipher. I am a teen going into high school and it will be my first year of marching band, having 3 years prior experience of concert band. I go to a very academically focused school, with most of my courses being accelerated. Music is one of my favorite things in the world. It can convey so many feelings and honestly can evoke so many changes in a person. I am not trying to appear to be facetious, but during this academic year I gained all A’s excluding one 89 in english. I also have ADHD. I am pretty popular at school too and have lots of friends that I talk to. I believe that this kid does not know how to balance his social life and academic life. Regarding this, marching band takes up so much of a students time. We will stay hours after school for two days a week and then have football games an additional night after school. I understand that every school is different, but we will be absent many days from school for field trips. I believe that he does not need to be in the band if he cannot stabilize his grades. However, I don’t think it should be nonnegotiable and just taken from him. I think it would be beneficial to get him a structured schedule and a planner. This has been LOADS of help for me and I could see it being very helpful for him too. Band is an extra, and if it ends up dragging him down and creating a situation where he fails and repeats a grade, it needs to be taken away so he can get the basic education he needs.

Story 2: good apple. It was OPs property in mint condition. Sounds like dad understands, at least in part, and is trying to fix the situation. Mum is unreasonable and sounds like maybe she’s lashing out because she knows she messed up.

Apple #3: I personally think she just didn’t include the part about talking to her kid in the story, so I would say good apple. But I can understand why you would take the story as it’s written and form the opinion that way. If I saw an update and she said she didn’t tell her kid the reason, I would absolutely say crab apple as well.

To add on to story 2, even if it WAS just a toy, you still replace it if you mess it up! I don't understand why it's that big a deal to replace something that they messed up! Good apple!

17:02 It isn’t just the _older_ siblings that you have to worry about. When I was in fourth or fifth grade, my friend’s younger brother tried to force himself on me. He was a year younger, but his whole family was tall, so he had at least a foot on me. I had been sent to their Aunt’s classroom to go get something. He followed me and backed me into a corner. He told me that he loved me and that he wouldn’t let me go unless I kissed him. I tried to leave, but he had me blocked in. The only reason nothing happened was because my friend came into the classroom to see what was taking me so long, and she caught her brother. I never went to that friend’s house ever again because I was scared of her little brother.

5:48 it can also be literally traumatic ✌️😀

Story 3: that’s so sad for the kid. I don’t know what I’d do in OP’s position. I might have paused after the call and tried a conversation at a more reasonable time of day and see if other mum is in a better space to discuss. If other mum is still raging I probably wouldn’t let my kid go. Although I might have done something differently I think good apple. I also assumed OP probably would have talked to the kid about it but just didn’t think to mention it: now I’m reminded not to read more detail into the story. Thanks Rebecca

My similar story like #2. Although the items weren't that expensive. My family was having a yard sale (or garage sale or...). I had a package of wooden clothes pins that were unopened. Someone commented on them saying they couldn't find wood ones. So, my sister gave them to her. When I confronted my sister later, she said "they're just clothes pins, what's the big deal?" The big deal was they were MY clothes pins and she took it upon herself to give them away, without asking. Yes, petty I know, but still.... Another sale we had, she did the same thing with about 10-12 hardcover books I was trying to sell. She gave those away without consulting me. Again, petty but they were mine to chose to give, not hers. Oh well.

With the second story, someone once took my Christmas gift which was brand new and cut all the felt and stickers and stuff, to be clear it’s a craft box but they just cut stuff and took a bunch of things, and did not replace it

Im sorry but 24:29 "Oh? Are we too poor for you now?" "Yea" IS FUCKING HILARIOUS (IMO)

Story #3: I completely agree! As a mom of 3 kids: 6, almost 5, and 9 months, I even explain reasons to my older kids when they ask "why" because I hate the phrase "because I said so!" So in that mom's situation, as a listener, I'm wondering why she didn't explain the issues to her daughter instead of just leaving her hanging as to why she couldn't join the sleepover.

#3 I agree that "because I said so" should be avoided but maybe the op was trying to avoid possible drama with the other mom and the teens to help preserve their friendship. I feel like the op's teenager would have told the friend and then the friend would have gotten defensive. And her mom might have called the op back angry or something. There's no telling because she came off very unhinged. I wouldn't want my child there even if the friend's mother came around at that point.

Story 3- I got a transplant as an infant and am on lifelong medication. My mom would have done the same thing as OP by giving the host a heads-up. If ANYONE gave my mother issues, she would have done the same thing and probably called the mom back and told her off. I know it doesn’t say that she explained that to the daughter, but I think the daughter is old enough to understand why the mom is protective. I feel like the daughter is probably just annoyed at the situation (which I would have been as well). My mom’s name is Karen and would have definitely earned the current interpretation. 100% good apple!!

On Story #2: it sounds like the father at that point needed the reality check at the store because I doubt he would have believed the son even if he told him. Also, if Father embarrassed himself going to a store and asking for a price, I think that says more about the father than anything the son could have warned about.

00:00 intro 01:10 apple #1 07:35 apple #2 14:35 apple #3 21:45 apple #4 28:15 outro i hope yall have a good day!!

i agree with rebecca, getting punished for having certain symptoms and effects of disabilities like adhd and autism just fking sucks. it really does. and me personally, as someone who was and still am punished for these things: it taught me to hate myself and beat myself up for these things. it taught me that having a disability is my fault, even though i know it isn't.

Legos are actually more expensive than people think and they are all limited runs. Any given set of Legos from the store is only available for a few months to a year. The company stops making the exact set after that. The grandparents in this scenario likely didn't know any of that but they still need to replace the collector's item they destroyed. They are actually lucky enough that the set is still available to replace the one they gave away. I definitely agree with Good Apple.

For Story #2, for any adults that don't understand. An example is fine china. It's a collector's item. It has no function other than to be looked at and admired. There's some that never open their fine china. Taking a person's Legos and opening it without permission is equivalent to taking someone's fine china and just scratching it with utensils and food.

As someone who isn’t exactly well off, if I was complaining like that all night about free food and I got that as a response I would’ve laughed because lol why am I telling you your being stingy if there is the same amount, I probably would’ve been joking but even if I wasn’t I would have apologized profusely about upsetting my friend with the joke and/or having upset the so much, and I would never say something as awful as “are we too poor for you now?” Because that’s a guilt trip of its self. I think OP in story #4 is a good apple, because if I said something like that then honestly I would completely understand both of those reactions and see it as completely fair.

For apple 4, having been in the circumstance that food was a hot commodity. I can never imagine saying anything about how someone else was cooking for me, unless I was allergic

I agree with ur choice for story 1, 2, 3 but I slightly disagree with story 4 cause I'm going crab apple cause calling Layla out for being poor wasn't right but I'm giving her benefit of the doubt cause I feel like she got mad and snapped

0:12 I like ur shirt it’s a nice shade of blue it reminds me of the sky

Story 1: I don't disagree with the Mom and still think she's coming from a good place. However, as a former marching band kid myself, the school might have already made the decision for the kid if he still had failing grades. At least at my school, if you were failing classes, you could not go with the marching band to competitions or play at football games. The band would then just simply march with a hole in the formation, and yes there was even one year where the band couldn't go to a competition because half the band was failing their classes, electives and core classes alike. The worst case scenario was my senior year when a large portion of the band was failing classes right before the final competition of the year, and a bunch of us seniors were calling members of our respective sections to get their grades in order so the band could go to the competition without any holes. With quite a bit of luck, we actually succeeded and the entire band could go because everyone had a C or higher in all of their classes. It takes work, but grades for marching band members are not just a problem for the individual, but also a problem for the entire ensemble, and the work needs to be put in for attendance. This helped me personally learn values in team building and for me to learn the group is only as strong as its weakest member, so it's up to the rest of the group to help those who are struggling rather than punish them for something that might not be their own fault. I still think the wife is a good apple for her reasoning, and considering the kid paid for his own marching band entry without his parents help, he should be allowed by his parents to continue to participate in marching band. It ishould be up to the school / teachers at that point to decide whether his grades would keep him out of the band or not, not the parents that didn't pay for his time in marching band this year. As a side note as someone with ADHD, I wasn't on medication and was still able to succeed in school. It's different for everyone, we shouldn't be punished for having it, and it also shouldn't be used as a crutch. Apologies for the long rambling comment, this story just hit close to home for me.

Story 4: I agree with the bad apple but I dont trust OP about what the friend said.

Legos are expensive even for the “cheap” child play sets lol

I love your show so much Rebecca!!

I think this is the earliest I’ve watch😂😅

As a mom whenever my kids have friends just come over to hang out and I don’t know them beforehand I ask if they have any allergies or health issues I should know about and do everything that I can to be accommodating it and depending on the age of the kid depends on how you explain it but I agree I think crab apple because she should have explained it.

My nephew was in marching band and track. And has ADHD. Arts and sports can do a kid good with their brain function. And mental health. I did musicals, choir, etc myself when I was younger.

My parents never let me sleep over at anyone’s house unless they were close friends with the parents . We mostly had friends stay at our house.

Had this same issue with my special needs son and family would go behind my back and try and team up against me on how I discipline him and would tell me that I should take away literally the only thing that was helping him stay in school and that just restricting his play time so he could do his homework wasn't the right thing to do.

story 4 were some shady frienemies😂😂😂

4 days to watch 30 episodes! I love these!

My son is not allowed to sleep out, it’s a rule in our home and it’s not negotiable, especially if the mom verbally assaults me 😂

27:00 My Nan does this with shrimp and pasta, and overall it makes it so that you get more shrimp in every bite not that you’re gonna get a piece of shrimp in every single bite but you get more shrimp when you take a bite then you would if the shrimp wasn’t cut up, so I really don’t understand why Layla was complaining😂

OP does not go into why he let his dad go. What is clear is that his dad found out from a non-family member just how much these Lego kits can be. That is a lesson that might just stick with him. If the dad didn't have a habit of not listening though then OP should have at least told him

On the other hand, there's no way Avery would fit in that bed even diagonally.

Study #4, this person says it didn't bother them but it obviously did. Those feelings and thoughts didn't just come out of nowhere. I can almost guarantee you that this resentment came across in their own behavior, they just finally said the Quiet part out Loud.

The thing I’m most confused about in story 1 is the fact that the kid is still in marching band. I don’t know if it works differently in other places, but where I live, if you fail two classes you become ineligible for extracurriculars the following year. If he’s failing all his core classes - math, science, social studies, English - how is he still able to DO marching band? Something just smells fishy here

#4-bad bunch. Layla 100% should not have said something like that. But OP was very rude too. But it doesn’t seem like they ask if they can bring something to dinner. My husband and I host friends over for dinner every so often, and we always ask them to bring something. Usually we ask them to bring something specific (a side (specify not potato, veggie, or other), dessert, drinks, etc. And we don’t judge them if they bring something store bought. We really don’t care about their financial situation at all. We just like having them over and hosting.

Love your vids so much

12:47 for this when I’m completely on op side, I collect Shliech model horses if someone gave them to a child to play with, I would be extremely upset

WHY WAS OP SO RUDE AND GOING STRAIGHT FOR THE JUGLUAR ON THE LAST ONE😭

Story two: it doesn't matter if it was a toy IT WAS THEIR BELONGING THE PARENTS HAD NO RIGHT TO GIVE IT TO THE NEPHEW personally i'm with op bc if a child stole one of my squishmallows or one of my slimes THERE WOULD BE WORDS op is good apple

My son is allergic to celery seed. Which is in a lot of things. I always let ppl know and inform them I will send my son with lunch just to be safe. So if the parent is being weird about it I would not let him go.

Story 1 - How is he still...IN marching band if he's failing that badly? I think I remember that your GPA had to stay at a certain level or you were not allowed to participate in events and stuff. I guess they changed that? It wasn't a punishment, it was that your focus in school needs to be learning and performing at a basic acceptable level - and extracurriculars were...well...extra.

Regarding the party/sleepover, I think a 14yo who knows she's allergic to that stuff should be the one to decide if she's cool with staying over, IF the food thing was the only drawback. She could pack her own snacks 🤷‍♀️ Yes she's still a minor, but that doesn't make her incompetent. Unless she just eats anything and everything that's given to her I don't think she'd be dumb enough to straight up eat the food that will kill her.

Apple 1-3: good Apple 4: bad just dont invite them over anymore. They all should find different friends.

Apple number is good apple. Not rewarding bad behavior because son is paying for it himself.

Thanks Rebecca

Story 1: this kid sounds really committed to band. Agree that she did right by discussing with dad in private and agree a conversation beforehand would have helped but sometimes that’s just not practical in the busyness of family life. Parenting is about balancing priorities and here they do need to teach good behaviour around school stuff and I don’t think taking away the thing he likes about school isn’t likely to support that message. NTBA

I’m doing the chicken dance while eating a buttermilk biscuit today

I think mom is good apple on the 3rd story as well like what kinda parent freaks out bc they're told to be aware of a kid's allergy??😭

Apple 3: when my kid has a new friend and they come over I like to talk to the parents to see if they have any allergies or conditions and meds I should be aware of

For story 4. As a used to be broke person. If you getting free stuff every day you shut up and take it or leave. At my case I think my friend would had punch my jaw off. No joke, so being told what is true just for them to know how good they had it I see no wrong with that. Again still bad apple for what she said but good that she said it. Just pure ungratefulness and when they realize they were cut off from free food we saw their real colors.

See in Germany we have this thing called "Haftpflichtversicherung", which is basically an insurance that pays for the stuff you accidentally break that belong to other people. Might have been helpful in the Lego situation :)

Story 1. Yeah it's the next year. Not the current year. So they're not taking away what he already worked for. It's great he's passionate about a subject and school really does kill creativity. But he needs to pass with the minimum of 70 ( or whatever it is). But punishment is meant to be a consequence to negative action/ reaction. I don't know if school policy has changed but when i went through school it was like the movie coach Carter. You could be on the team/ band ECT, but you had to pass to play.

17:16 this reminded me of how my mum doesn’t let my brother go to one of his friends house So basically, one time he had a sleepover there and he was staying until 4pm the next day. So when we go get him he gets in car and says “mum I’m starvinggg” and mum was like “what why, haven’t you had lunch?” AND I KID YOU NOT, HE SAYS “I haven’t even had breakfast”. FOUR PM. FOUR DANG PM AND THIS CHILD HASNT EATEN. WHATTT

How’d the dad even make a fool of himself? I’m highly confused, like did he show up and realize he couldn’t afford it? Is that why he tried to go get the legos back from his grand kid? Why the heck is the dad upset with OP? It’s literally his and his wife’s fault.

I once had a friend who left my birthday sleep over because we asked her to help clean up after the party was over. She called her mom to come and get her.

The curse is two crabs a good and a bad

I think someone's embarrassment as a consequence of their own actions is nobody's responsibility.

Story 4: OP and friend were both wrong . They both need to grow up

I feel i need more context on the first story like does the kid have accomodations for his adhd? have they tried talking to his teachers or having an open conversation on what his struggles are with those core classes? i just feel there could be so many solutions and ways to address and fix him failing those core classes but the dad wants to go straight away to "IF YOU FAIL I WILL TAKE AWAY WHAT YOU LOVE😡" typical ignorant parent, not wanting to understand their neurodivergent kid with that being said i do think op aka the mom is a good apple and i do feel she understands him a bit more considering she also has adhd i do hope mom does do those things i listed like openly talking to him, or having conversations with his teachers, making sure he has accomodations bc mom seems to be a really upstanding parent DAD ON THE OTHERHAND he's very much a bad apple

Marching band is equivalent to basketball, football it is an extracurricular activity and most schools have grade requirements for participation. Why should marching band be any different.

Story 3 you do get it -so spot on!! Great video and reaction’s!!

Story 4: WILD! Holy! Rotten apple. The stingy comment is not ok but OP is still the bad apple. That’s just disgusting

She should be crab apple on the last one. Because it is the way she was sticking up for herself. But 2 wrongs don't make a right. So I would do crab apple

That’s wild yo

Story 2: Good Apple. The father 💯 needed to go to the store to be humbled or he would never accept that OP’s collection was worth anything.