You are not alone in your loneliness | Jonny Sun 

Virtual hugs, everyone!

The good part of these online spaces: Sometimes you’re lucky and you meet another alien.

When you read comments, you realize you are not alone.

This... This touched me so much. I've forgotten how it is like to connect with people, be it online or in real life. I am lonely and it is my fault for being so anxious. I know I should do better, but I hardly ever found people with whom I connected and helped me through my loneliness. The end made me cry, really. It hit so deep within...

In my experience, talking to people online just serves as a temporary solution to loneliness-- once I switch off my device, it's just me and it makes me feel lonelier than ever. Fun times.

"I've been with friends and I've been on my own, but I'm never lonely when I'm alone. But some people need it, someone to call home, but I'm never lonely, I'm just alone"

"Yes, they're sharing a drink they call loneliness But it's better than drinkin' alone" - Billy Joel

Never have i ever found something so relatable!! Edit: guys,these are the most no of likes i have ever gotten. Tysm!

Look at the bottom-left corner of the video starting at 6:40, you'll find a heartwarming thing.

I am obsessed with sun’s little sketches now

Jonny Sun • Intimidated, Isolated, Alone • The Internet, Social Media, Meeting Friends 2:20 Mental Health conversation 3:13 Sharing your imperfection A communal thing 4:08 Short Story, jokes I’m trying my best 5:12 Enter, Lol, leave 5:30 How many people have you had your last conversation with? A growing microcommunity 7:26 The Internet also feels like a yelley, shouty place 8:50 These little moments are “tiny temporary sanctuaries” Gives a intangible hug

I don't think I've ever cried after watching a TED talk until now...

Abuse and harrasment is a major cause of loneliness, when people experience lot of hostility and agression, they withdraw.

A very warm true virtual hug to you all

The most sincere talk I have ever seen in TED. Sad and beautiful. Thank you.

This made me feel emotional and in a great way. I’ve been a huge fan of Jomny for years and to hear things that I identify with from the creator, was amazing.

I love this! really struggling with loneliness lately, people just don’t like me, it’s always been that way but it just feels awful right now. I have no friends, all ‘real’ people just reject me, thank-you for this uplifting talk Jonny 😊

The dog-walking service actually could be a brilliant idea for someone like me who suffer from debilitating clinical depression because we usually go into isolation, no close friends around, and need a lot of motivation to even brush our teeth

this was such a deep, sweet, authentic and relatable talk...when we allow ourselves to be open and vulnerable and wholeheartedly real, we can connect to those that are in that same space...I am profoundly touched by Jonny Sun's sensitivity and depth and will go look up his wonderful drawings/story... I have a similar experience with the internet, at times it has been my only lifeline, other times, yet another void, I feel it is a reflection of the embodied life and of our own state of mind...sending all of us who feel the loneliness healing thoughts...we are not alone and need to nurture ways to connect...

Wow, what an unbelievably beautiful TED Talk, delivered so poignantly. Thank you Jonny Sun.

The Day will be what you make it, so rise, like the sun, and burn. When The Sun is shining I can do anything: no mountain is too high, no trouble too difficult to overcome. No sun outlasts its sunset, but will rise again And bring the dawn. Never be afraid to shine. Remember, the sun doesn't care a bit if it blinds you. You Be The Sun, I'll be the moon- Just let your light come shining through; and when night comes, just like the moon. I'll shine the light right back to you.

No one is really alone, it's just a perception of the mind. *A mindset.* Humans are symbiotic creatures. If you want company - create VALUE for others.

I've never fitted in,found one real friend in 46yrs but life took us to opposite sides of the planet. My advice would be to try and find a routine for yourself, that doesn't need others, that's as positive as possible. You can build from there if needed.

I watched 15 seconds and pressed pause, i looked around in my car because i'm homeless and live in my car and said," Yes, i am ALONE in my lonelinss." There maybe other lonely people who are lonely, but i am Alone in MY loneliness. Now lets see what this TED talk is about. Could not finish, being alone in cambridge uni is scarey and daunting, but being alone with depressiom, anxiety and being a social out cast because an ex felon and have no family. Well, that's an aloneness that death can only cure. Till then ytube keeps me busy, cuz it is what it is. Loneliness Zen is what i practice.🙏

I gratefull found this video.

*A season of loneliness and isolation is when the caterpillar gets its wings. Remember that next time you feel alone. - Mandy Hale*

This is the cruel iron of the situation. 🤦 Hanging out online is okay, but it's not a real substitute for companionship in real life. We need more/better (online) resources for people to find each other in real life, but unfortunately even then, it's not always going to work because not everyone lives in a large metropolis with lots of options, finding companions in small towns is much harder. :-\

This speech just made it on my top 5. Love it!

The world needs more people like Jonny Sun!!!

I have never had a place to call home. Be it a family or a place. This hurts a lot

What a wonderful presentation Mr. Sun shares which confirms this point: The greatest cure to loneliness, is to reach out and do something for others.

It was a heartwarming talk, but if you're lonely and shouting into the void of the internet, you usually attract INCELS and TROLLS. The internet takes away the fundamental aspect of human connection, and that is body language. Under the veil of anonymity and digital information, misunderstandings are bound to happen, hostile feelings are bound to be triggered, and ALL you need is one troll, one person who derives joy out of other people's suffering (schadenfreude), to ruin it all. Jonny is optimistic because he's more charming than he knows, especially with his cartoons. That's his 'body language' on the internet, thus, he may have had more success than other lonely people. Yet, not everybody knows how to be charming like him. If you're lonely and yelling into the void, do your best to convey your 'body language' so you don't attract the wrong crowd. That can be in the form of art, storytelling, music, or anything you feel you can give to others as a gift. DO NOT just tell your story and leave it at that, remember the INCELS and TROLLS. You are already starting from a vulnerable position and there are hate groups out there who would love a piece of you. Take care.

What a commendable sentiment. And Jonny you're quite talented.

Imaginary hug to everyone

Why does this not have more views? This is wonderful

I want to give someone a hug.

Man, that was nice. It explains what he was going through when writing his book. Also, for those who didn't know he has a book titled ”everyone’s an Aliebn when ur a Aliebn too”. It's has a lot more relatable things that everyone feels or thinks

Internet = Emotional distance...

I saw this talk in 2020 and I could relate to it. i just didn't think i'd still relate in 2022.

If I was capable of reaching out to someone I already would have.

I’m so alone, staying in this gigantic world.

if y'all enjoy this ted talk I recommend his book of essays, reflections and sketches - "Goodbye, Again". so good.

This speech comforted me a lot.

Someone told me how many friends they had on a well known social media platform. It was several hundred. I asked how many of them could you call at 3 am and say "My car has broken down 25 miles away, will you come and pick me up." He didn't answer and I didn't press him.

The small little moments that make us feel connect are the ones that affirm our lives (Jonny Sun said something like that)

I'm not sure if this will help anyone, but I've made a playlist of comforting background sounds of a woman humming as she does daily things (vacuuming, blow drying her hair, cooking, etc.) I hope it helps!

To you reading this right now: you are beautiful and loved. You’re not alone in this. Many others right now are thinking the same things you are. But, we all have something to offer each other. Stay connected in this chat and help others who need your insight and experience. One day, all this will make sense and you will be called to use what you have gathered and learned from all this and use it to help someone who will truly need you. Meanwhile, know that you have the support and love of all of us in this chat. We can be here for each other, as I need you to be there for me as well. I promise you, this upcoming day will be wonderful and you will sleep well and with great peace.

Online community makes it easy to connect with people, on the other hand, it’s also easy to disperse. We gather for mere reasons, so do we leave. In reality we don’t do this often, since the reason to join/leave always triggers another. We tend to be stable in real life, also find it unstable online. That’s called lonely, since we trust something perfect could work, however the more we get into both, the more limitations we find. Which is why we should cherish every time we gather, since we don’t know so much, and we are likely to go onto our own futures alone.

Idk why but for me its the other way around, when im feeling sad or down in general, i get out of social media cause cant actually know how the person is feeling if you're not seeing their faces

Im lonely so I watched this vid about loneliness.

the only thing this talk did was make me feel even lonelier than ever. lol.

Loneliness seems like a bigger issue in rich first-world countries that promote individualism than in poorer countries where people have to rely on everyone else to survive.

loneliness is a weapon and it can be a source of my happines. thats my ultimate mantra

I’m not sure if this’ll be seen, but if you are reading this....I hope you are having a good day, and if you aren’t...then try to have a better one tomorrow. You are important to the people in your life, and you are loved.

It’s a sad sad time for humanity! I feel very fortunate to have been (here) before internet!!

"They give us life!" I stan a professional adult using internet speak in a professional setting! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

This touched me so much....

Very insightful, particularly the inflatable castle metaphor was really good imo. Kinda describes some thoughts that I didn't have words for. Thanks.

This is the vision for the net we should all be manifesting 💚💚💚🌍 thankyou! And yes, for the record, me too.

The tiny silver of light ... When you made up together, it would be something... The improtant thing is to hold on someone's hand and throw away the loneliness.. Good video.. 😇😇

At least when people like him are alone they can take solace in the fact that it’s circumstantial and not because they are unlikable. Not relatable to me.

I'm from a small town in the middle of nowhere, sitting alone in my bedroom, trying to improve my English to be able to get in touch with you in this communal space. I don't feel lonely because I know there are so many great people like you out there. You know, I'm going to become a dad soon and I'm a bit worried because I don't want my daughter (probably :) ) to think she'll be on thin ice when she's using the Internet. Technology and the Internet is the future but I just hope we can stop misusing them and start sharing love and friendship. I for one am trying to stifle my anger and to be more patient day after another and I hope the day comes when we all bounce on that inflatable castle with sheer bliss.

I just moved to a new country month ago. Hole video is about me, amazing!

i am with you bro

I really thank God for having a supportive and understanding parents that will never make you feel that you are alone. Believe me, it’s more relaxing and relieve telling your parents/family how your day went, even how broken you are or how lonely you are. Yes we may have this we call circle of friends yet sometimes their attention and connection with them is temporary and you may not also feel their emotional support, which is totally different story when sharing things with your family.

Posted 3hrs ago, sees 14k views stat... Yep. Perhaps a lot of people are not alone in watching the same video

Never related to anything as much as i related to this😢

Actually seeking about all mental health related stuff coz I'm a bit isolated in my society, what's more my best online friend ignores me, what makes me both mad, sad and alone at the same time. Time to listen to the wiser people, and work out all of it :)

Best advice I ever recieved... 'Stop feeling sorry for yourself, you pathetic worm.' I'm not being cruel... It worked for me.

This is such a sweet and touching speech ~😍

This is one of the best Ted talks that I have seen. Thank you Jonny. You blessed my life.

Why am I crying while hearing this.....

Externalizing the internal. Wow..... Me too alone in my room coz of work. But I too started to comment in RU-vid. I too got likes n replies. So am not alone too. Thanks for the wonderful sharing.

I had a sever depression and after I recovered i realize that i can't except my friends anymore, I knew it from the beginning that they're not the right people for me but that depression phase in-fronted me with my real feeling.. and now I'm stock I can't be with them and I can't leave them and if i dare to i feel so lonely :(

oh god.... that's a relief that i am not alone with my loneliness 🙂

This is just so beautiful

That's true Genevieve, it would be easier if we all had friends to talk to but as he had brought up therapy he clearly has the means to do so.

His book, "Goodbye, again" is so good! Highly, highly recommend if you loved his TED Talk.

thank you for this video

Finally found the Artist of TED ED

Thank you

I look forward to the end of my life; to see whether there is a beginning to my end, or an end to my beginning. Of course, I must admit that there's a lot of fear to that concept too. It's a very odd sensation, contemplating the beginning of my ending (or not).

I am alone at times but not lonely !!!

This is the most relatable video I have ever seen....

I needed this. Thank you, Jonny!!!

Exactly that was the reason why I created my new FB two days back. :) ☺️

Sometimes people forget that stars can’t shine without darkness.

Aloneness is different from being lonely.

The issue with asking for the internet to be monitored for hate speech is that it is so important to politics and idea expression that it could never be fairly monitored, and it would make less informed citizens

Well, I was alone, but not feeling loneliness.. after me seeing people have relationships and girlfriends I felt hated, alone, useless, nobody wants me. then It's all started, sadness will last forever.

This defines definition of Life

Theres a big difference between a real person in front of you saying they are alone too, and a name and picture online say the same thing.

This is my favorite ted talk ever

I found the answer after watching this. I feel alone because iam alone.

I am the only child in my family and I don't have any cousins ​​or peers near my living house...I had to grow up alone because of these reasons. But I lived happily until my girlfriend left me. Now I feel alone.. 😕

This was a great topic,the gentleman talking is a great speaker 💕🇦🇺🌈🦋x

We are not alone in the universe.

80% of my anxiety comes from the absence of a friend with whom I share authentic and stable bond. People, their presence or absence, is the cause of most social malaise.

The world is a bad place, but we have each other.

hearing someone else is dealing with things that i am does help , but i feel the online world is pretty lonley . 1600 friends on facebook but it is a generic connection ....does not do much for loneliness at all in my experience