@Jdonaleshen well if I was her, and he wants to sell *MY* car before that question even comes up then I wouldn't even CARE about that question. (lol).🤣🤣🤣🤣
Back in my day a boyfriend was a guy you were going with and dating - not a guy you are shacking up with, setting yourself up for financial and emotional ruin.
Sounds like the boyfriend was paying for everything. She owes 13k, but will be making 40k. The car will be a third of her income. Now they are all quiet. But yet the complain when a guy wants to buy a 50k car, when he makes 200k. If it was a man, they' be telling him to sell it.
Would love to hear the convo of any Ramsey personality who said that. And fyi, their guidelines for total amount you should have in cars is half your income.
@@I_like_turtles_67 they’re getting money from both. They aren’t married so she’s just a single unemployed mother getting full welfare but her life is merged with his in all ways but on paper. They’re abusing the system together.
A Rolls Royce would be the best option with a full time chauffeur. When you pull up next to someone the kid could roll down the window and pass the Grey Poupon mustard.
"Stay at home mom" ... So the boyfriend is making payments on both vehicles? He absolutely gets a say in the matter. These two hosts weren't asking the right questions on this take.
Have a little attitude? What kind of advice is that? Trying to cause conflict in a relationship? I understand that it’s a stupid decision but to give advice to cause more conflict 🤦♂️
Wish they would Sh*t on crazy girlfriends the way the do crazy boyfriends. Not saying this BF is in the right here all I’m saying is when the roles are reversed they sugar coat it for the girlfriend/wife.
Her boyfriend is clearly paying for the lives of his children and girlfriend. She said she was a “stay at home mom”. You don’t get to play house by picking and choosing. I like how all of this was simply glossed over. Men bad!!! REEEEEE
@@FrankS111 The kids weren't his. She said she has them most of the time, that seemed to imply that there was another male besides her boyfriend involved.
my guess is they are his kids also . They choose to remain unmarried to receive many gov hand outs ie. food stamps, rent assist, free health care for kids.. etc
If they keep the their finances separated having children with him would not void any rights. Also, if he love her that much and “his” children he would get them a truck or for himself and not be telling her to do it. But her language gives it out that these children isn’t HIS. It’s from a prior relationship.
If you want to ruin a relationship or marriage, start telling the other person what to do and how to do it all the time. Only a true submissive would not be affected by the dominant person.
Actually, I think they are her kids from a previous relationship. At least, that's what I gathered. That said, if he's bringing home all or most of the income, they might as well be.
@@thaisrutman8994 wow if he’s supporting her and children that aren’t even his then … she gets even less of a say here. But hey strong and independent am I right?! 🤪
"WhY dOeS yOuR bOyFrIeNd wAnT tO SeLl YOUR CAR!?" Sir Simpsalot asks. Hmmmm, maybe because she is a stay at home mom and he PAYS for EVERYTHING? Trucks aren't what puts a man in debt, women put a man in debt. Nice telling on yourself by saying they are HER kids and not THEIRS.
He try to take advantage of her that’s sad he don’t have enough money to buy his truck so he try to get her to sell her car and whatever is left over he wanted that money to put down on his truck
I think there is a mentoring opportunity that could be presented to the hosts for this episode. I think Dave should make sure they are asking the right questions because they are missing a little too much in this episode
Sounds like boyfriend is making payments on her car, since she's a stay at home mom and the car is going to be paid off this year. That gives boyfriend a say in the car situation.
There were alot of unasked questions. Possibly the notion of a truck being considered more safe was because they live in an area with extreme winters and limited road clearing? Either way, there were too many holes in this scenario to give sound advise.
I have learned to not ever sell anything you owned because of a boyfriend or girlfriend said you don’t need it anymore. You will probably most likely end up needing it.🤓
Hello, As many other people have commented......why are you offering solutions before you have all the facts? There are so many variables in this call, find out the basics first. George, you know from Dave the basic questions to ask. You are the more senior personality here, use your knowledge and training to direct the conversation towards finding out what's really going on.Then offer your advice. You know this.
If she did not have a job, who was making her car payment, paying the rent, utilities, car insurance, groceries, gas, loan payments etc ??? If it was the boyfriend, then they are combining finances.
Lol. If this man has any balls he would ditch her. From my understanding they are not his kids, and she is stay at home.. he has every right to have a say in her finances if he is supporting her. If she doesn’t like it, she can find another idiot to pay the bill. Now the truck is a bit of a stretch..
Yes, he has no say in what she owns but what is this mocking of the guy wanting a truck? They didn't even ask why he wanted a truck nor if the kids are his too. I just did the landscaping with a yard of wood chips that I had put in the back of mine, I would like to know how to do that in a 4 seater car.
First signs of a controlling partner. He was always the "boyfriend" never mentioned as the father of the kids. He has no say on her finance, children or her car.
She calls the SUV a car. Are we sure he's not calling an SUV a truck? Maybe he is saying they should sell and buy an SUV for cash eliminating the debt. It sounds clear to me anyway that they are living together.
The word boyfriend and my finances should never go together ever. Boyfriends/girlfriends don’t get a say in your finances. Also, if you’re a stay at home mom and you’re not married…very confusing.
They are good, but they do not ask the proper questions. "Are you planning on getting married?" "How long are you going to play house?" Those kind of questions.
TRUCKS AND SUVs are not safer. Why do people keep claiming this? I drive a truck for towing and hauling, but never once have I made the claim that it’s safer than a car, because it’s not.
"What is it with men and trucks?" Indeed! Nice little scam the BF thought he had going on there. The BF is the red flag here. Hopefully not his kids, she should sell the boyfriend - they had it right the first time.
Nothing wrong with wanting to get a truck and even bringing up selling the vehicles to do BUT trying to pass it off as "safety" is a huge red flag... I'd definitely be considering whether to continue in a relationship with someone either very ignorant or very manipulative as that.
Big car [truck] does not mean a safer car. It is not logical like Jade pointed out. Ofcourse accidents sucks, there are plenty of smaller cars which are also safer.
I bought a Tacoma because, and I have no shame in saying this, I wanted a pick-up truck around that size and I absolutely love it. Do I haul stuff around regularly? Not really. Have I moved stuff with it that I wouldn't have been able to move with a car? Definitely. All that being said, I wanted a truck because I wanted a truck and I didn't make up any BS excuses about it!
@@khrisstake2210 no, but using kids as an excuse is lame, if that's what he is saying. A friend bought a truck for his wife & she hated driving it, it was too big. Now they longer have that truck. Mama got what she wanted
That is why women stay single. The lady just said girrrlll they are your kids and is your car. Mean while the guy is taking care of two kids that are not his and paying for her car. But wait he has no say so on the economics of the household because giirrrrlll they are your kids and your car.
While I agree with their advice, their attitude sticks. Yeah, tell the women to have an attitude... If I was that guy, I'd leave if she did that. Especially if she has kids that aren't my own. You don't have to be rude because you're correct.
@@reese85 She said "my kids" instead of "our kids" Also if they where his kids, he'd already addressed the safety concerns durning the pregnancy phase. He also never called him the father. Also notice that I said "if" in my original comment. It's possible that she misspoke Guys are talking a huge risk dealing with single mothers
@@reese85 I relistened to it heard "my kids" however I can see how some could hear our because she sounded nervous. This doesn't address the other flags that indicates she's a mother with others children, but I'm more bothers by the host toxic attitude. What I mean when talking about kids safety was in reference to her vehicle, not in general. Could you please try to act good faith?
Her boyfriend is full of Bullcrap. He's using the "Safety" issue as an excuse to get what HE wants. He's using the kids to fullfill his WANTS. Selfish. How many people are out here driving cars on the road, and safety has not been an issue? (lol). He's selfish. I agree...SELL THE BOYFRIEND Rose and keep your car...that's right *YOUR* car! 🤣🤣🤣
If she's a stay at home mom, then he should have a say considering he's the one paying the bills. He's already taking a massive risk dating a single mother. If she takes their good advice of keeping her car with the terrible attitude the lady said, then he should leave as soon as possible.
If this couple is religious, they need to go to a biblical counselor for pre-marriage counseling. These two trying to give her advice other than financial is messed up!💯
I think half of the people that call the show really don't watch or listen because what?!?! Why is she even calling this show? Dave would have definitely stopped at "why are we talking about what your boyfriend wants?"
It’s not his money if they are together, it’s their money. Yet, he needs to put himself in a step dad place or shut up. Boyfriend to the mother living with her but not caring as daddy he doesn’t say anything to how she handles her children.
So, if she's been a stay at home mom, then most likely he's the one that has been making the payments on the car, right? If they are living together, have kids together, and he's paying most her living expenses, then he absolutely does get a say in "her" finances. Sounds like she's the immature one.
I thought Rose said that her husband had another van that was paid off other than is daily driver. Maybe he was going to sell his and her daily driver and get a debt free truck and have no vehicle debt. Would’ve liked more questions asked.
Pickups, not trucks, have become the status symbol of success. They're a luxury vehicle. For me, drive what you want as long as you can afford it. I'm a fan of station wagons.
The trucks are also under the guise of "looking professional for work", or "I need it for work". I see so many of these massive jacked-up trucks on the road in my area pulling trailers. I call them Chuck in a Truck or Taylor with a Trailer - some one-man tradesman / business doing plumbing, electrical, drywall, whatever. I have nothing against these guys because they work hard and hustle, but I often wonder what their truck payments are (if they have any). These are new or newer trucks that I know are at least 50, 60, or even 80k. Makes me wonder what they charge for their work and if they are charging enough. The truck doesn't impress me, and I'm sure most customers don't think much about them either. However, some people do wonder when they see a VERY nice, big truck from a tradesman pull into their driveway how many zeros are going to be at the end of their bill.
Real talk Florida!!! Girl don't u dare say u ever lived down south an ain't use to seeing no big trucks we dont drive no electric cars 🤣🤣 we drive trucks an if it's cars u best believe they got v8s an they run dam strait!!💪longlivethesouth!!!
Basically because he is a man, they are against him. Basically the boyfriend was paying for everything and he trying to save money. But they going to ignore the she was a stay at home mother part
I thought no college saving until your past step 3. I would throw the kids money toward paying off debt. They’re kids. The money belongs to the mother who is trying to take care of them
A Ford Escape does have a high roll over rate. However!!! If she wants, she can get a better vehicle for herself. He just wants her home with no vehicle and wants to take her car and use it for a down payment on his own toy. He's literally saying, gimme! Now, if she isn't working and using him to pay off her loan...she needs to stop that if they aren't married. These two are an abusive mess of using each other.
So he wants to sell her car and reduce them down to one car, leaving her dependent upon him to let her “borrow “ his truck to go anywhere. Eventually he walks away, with the truck, and she’s back to square one.
