10 Ways Narcissistic Abuse Changes You

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Blamed yourself for the ways you changed with your narcissist partner? Think again. The traits you now criticize are natural effects of abuse no one warns you about. This video unveils the 10 personality shifts survivors unjustly self-blame for. There is no shame in how you adapted.
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** *In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

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@martiwalsh4308 3 месяца назад

"Training you to be the type of person that is convenient for them." Wow. Hit me like a ton of bricks.

@dragonflymagictarot Месяц назад

They train with the silent treatment, circular arguments (with no solutions), rage, and them dangling the relationship by a thread if you don’t take the fault. It’s insane

@jannlewandowski5540 7 месяцев назад

I was with a narcissist for 5 years and never knew what a narc was. After i left him, i didn't realize how deathly sick i became and ended up in the Hospital with severe stomach problems. I went into Therapy and she was a PhD narc survivor, and she really helped me. I began reading self-help books, going out with my friends and it takes TIME. IT'S BEEN 12.8 YRS. I'm doing fine. Give yourself TIME and take care of yourself. ❤❤

@northpole4592 6 месяцев назад

48 years here. I will never recover.

@sodonewithit4370 6 месяцев назад

@northpole4592 I'm so sorry Northpole. 38 years here but there's hope. We can and will recover. Don't lose hope. Put one foot in front of the other. Yeah, there we go. Much love to you ❤️

@northpole4592 6 месяцев назад

@@sodonewithit4370 thanks u R a wonderful person. I will do so.

@RajeshKankavlikar 6 месяцев назад

Thats great. Which self help books did you read ?

@audreynicoletti7329 5 месяцев назад

Read the bible for wisdom. Pray for Jesus help protection and healing.

@user-qv9nw1dq2f 7 месяцев назад

Yes. I totally agree. The narcissist is nice at the beginning to trap you and once you are trauma bonded by the hot and cold they begin a slow destruction of your emotional, mental , physical and spiritual life. Thank you Christina❤

@lillygardens1 7 месяцев назад

Jr. High and High schools must have required classes about Narcissists. Many are so unaware of these evil souls, until it's too late.

@brown_recidivist 7 месяцев назад

You're right they break you down slowly over all time to the point where you lose all confidence in yourself and you have to rely on them just to survive. That's how I felt around my narcissist mother lol

@mightymouse1005 7 месяцев назад

They're parasites. At first you don't know you have a parasite. You feel fine and don't see danger. Soon enough you notice a slow decline in your physical and mental health. Your tired and have stomach and headache. Your hair and skin started looking bad....fatigue and emotional pain is mire severe. Before you realize it, the parasites have completely eaten everything inside of you, body, heart and mind.

@joesorrenti6598 3 месяца назад

It's just like a book she ghosted me. Then she took me back but not on the same level that I was before. Then I got to worry about what I say or what I do. What might be implied? Did I offend her? Did I say something wrong? What? I can't even imagine the ends of this and I just said to myself trusting myself here, I had to break it off.

@piotrdubiel7214 7 месяцев назад

Yes! One of the most pronounced lingering effects of my relationship with a covert narcissist is the lack of trust in myself. My ability to make decisions has plummeted and it's taking a long time to rebuild... far longer than everything else.

@tiffany.h04 7 месяцев назад

Isn't it crazy how indecisive you become? I can even make simple decisions without second guessing everything

@stevenkovler5133 7 месяцев назад

@@tiffany.h04I find it hard to do work tasks that I have been doing with ease for the 25 years before my second marriage which was to the Queen Narcissist!

@rachelunderhill3120 5 месяцев назад

@@tiffany.h04anyone else ever had a full blown panic attack at the hardware store because you had to pick a color of paint ? Suddenly not trusting yourself to make any right decisions about literally ANYTHING!

@faithfulheartsheal 7 месяцев назад

Yes! A NARC will have you feeling like the whole essence of is worthless! I pray that all who are going through it eyes will be open to who these narcissist really are.

@jannlewandowski5540 7 месяцев назад

faithful, you are 100% right! ❤

@brandylee6030 6 месяцев назад

Thank you!!♥️🙏🏽🫶🏽

@zennomad258 6 месяцев назад

that “This is your problem” comment really resonated with me. mine said to me “from where I’m standing you’re the problem”

@timothydekoster4846 5 месяцев назад

Number one thing I notice narcissist say to outgoing people is that they talk too much. Like being outgoing is a negative attribute. They say it because the outgoing person steals the attention from the narcissist, and the narcissist can't compete when having a authentic conversation with other people.

@TonyRichards93 7 месяцев назад

I only dated a narc for 4 months. But in those 4 months she managed to get me to fall for her, devalue me, make fun of my hobbies, lie to me, keep me secret from her family, see someone else at the same time, and discard me. Then hoover and breadcrumb me. When I finally deleted her off all social media she said that wasn’t a very nice thing for me to do. I realised I was too boring and normal for her who had boundaries and would stand my ground. Whereas her now bf took her on holiday abroad within their first 6 months. I’m happy to be at peace now but my family say I’m not the same person as I used to be. I used to be mischievous and laugh a lot and play pranks/tell silly jokes. Now I often sit alone and quiet and enjoy being by myself and I don’t know if I’ll ever be again the person I used to be

@CatharineCummings 7 месяцев назад

🙏🏾💚🙏🏾

@michaelvarcoe8310 7 месяцев назад

That is intense. I understand because I'm just learning who I am again. I was with a narcissistic wife for 30 years. Today was the final judgment for my marriage. I left 18 weeks ago. It is crazy how that narcissistic can break you down and the receiver doesn't even know!!! The worst thing for me was the isolation, for years!! I stayed and thought I would "turn the needle" and save my marriage. Boy was I wrong, and I am lucky enough to be out after 30 years. I feel for all the survivors out there. Striking similarities for all of us!!!

@VioletFallen 7 месяцев назад

I fell for mine really hard and he cheated and gaslighted me constantly . We were only together 7 months but im still heartbroken and don't feel like dating at all . I feel like I will never be the same again

@oceanelf2512 4 месяца назад

I'm not the same person I used to be either, but that's mostly because of my Mom's death. The narc who was in my life when that happened, kept trying to push herself and her silly crap into my life, and pushing Mom's memory out. I really got to dislike her during that past year, she kept trying to change me back into the "spunky" "upbeat" person I used to be. When she couldn't hack reality, she split. But she still smears and bullies me and my friends. She is the most heartless person I ever knew. Yet at the start, she presented herself as a very sweet caring person. That mask faded gradually as her true selfish childish colours showed more and more.

@priyanshuranjan3047 2 месяца назад

I can totally relate to you brother I also dated for only 3 months , in which she love bomb me , gave me false hope of future, fake plannings of future , marriage, kids. While the same time she was looking another guy , and discarded me saying things will not work between us .As same you I too have strong boundaries , so she was unable to manipulate me , but that relationship changed me totally. I used be person who loves making friends , but now barely talk to anyone , just feel comfortable with myself. Now that person is happily enjoying life with the new partner, and I am healing from the damage . Hopes so I will get back better to who I used to be.🙏

@stillpril8942 7 месяцев назад

I can't even remember what I loved about him..

@parapapiux 6 месяцев назад

Lol same! Why did I want to be with her?? My body would go into anxiety overdrive whenever she was next to me

@samsquanch1996 5 месяцев назад

I feel that way about my narcissistic ex girlfriend.

@julieelizabethnichols 5 месяцев назад

I cannot wait to feel this way!!🙏🏼 so happy for you and thank you for the hope🩷 I know I will get there. People like you give me hope and that is desperately needed while breaking the trauma bond😥

@julieelizabethnichols 5 месяцев назад

@@parapapiux same! I couldn't eat because of the anxiety. Lost 20 pounds and had bones sticking out. Never experienced anything like it. Looking forward to being on the other side of this🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@parapapiux 5 месяцев назад

@@julieelizabethnicholsgood thing you are aware now. Listening to these channels have helped me so much, I felt like I was crazy and doubted myself (I still do sometimes) that I was the one in the wrong. But your body language and health do not lie, these channels really help un packaging the “why”. Best wishes to you 🙏🏻

@samuelpeirce7878 7 месяцев назад

OMG thank you for this video, I am male recovering from all of this from what I thought was the love of my life, she changed so suddenly. I was gas lit so much, I lost myself, I stopped trusting myself, myself esteem dropped to zero, I felt so duped and like a fool, I began wondering if I was a narcissist. I felt so alone and because I felt so alone, I isolated I Didn't feel like I could trust anyone. luckily, I found a therapist and am working through it. (will be for a while) had a few friends that saw it and believed in me and are there for me. thank you so much.

@jannlewandowski5540 7 месяцев назад

Samuel, you will be fine. I went thru hell, but I made it. 12.8 years ago I left that demon, and it took time, but TIME helped me heal. Good luck to you..❤🙏💕

@samuelpeirce7878 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for the support

@mightymouse1005 7 месяцев назад

Look at a picture of yourself before the narc...while with the narc and now....then one next year

@michaelvarcoe8310 7 месяцев назад

@mightymouse1005 that is a great suggestion. A picture is worth 1,000 words as they say. My recent pictures are seen by my family mostly. They say that I never looked so good and so happy!!! My past images are strewn with the look of stress and sickness. I finally have confidence in the new me. My experience has taught me I am an empath, that I like life, that everyday is a day of healing.

@thevaporshoppe 6 месяцев назад

Same here brother. Discarded after 16yrs without a single tear in the eye. 3rd and final cycle. Not going back again.

@zengreen7 7 месяцев назад

Spot them early... My way: When someone often makes you feel like you are in the TWILIGHT ZONE they are likely a narcissist.--------->RUN!

@godzillamanstreb524 7 месяцев назад

It really does feel like this

@stillpril8942 7 месяцев назад

I've just gotten to the point t where I can pick up on it. Even with strangers. It really is a weird feeling.

@staceyingram9643 2 месяца назад

Far out, I can't imagine how awful it must be having a parent like this and spending your entire childhood in that confusion. My heart goes out to those people 😢

@dragonflymagictarot Месяц назад

It happens gradually! (very slowly they start blaming you, shaming you and guilt tripping you).

@dinab7852 7 месяцев назад

I can't say it enough: "Your channel & extremely soothing voice are a life saviour!" 🙏 I suffer from generalized anxiety, panick attacks & depression and my 10 year relationship with my ex-husband made all these 10X worse. I agree 100% with narcissists' "jekyll and hyde" personality & unpredictable outbursts and anger issues. That's what destroyed me the most.

@debragibbs9347 2 месяца назад

Set boundaries...don't build a wall over every boundary...you'll wall yourself in (isolation)!

@mightymouse1005 7 месяцев назад

I had a HEART ATTACK I was told to get off the pity wagon on the alter to martyrdom

@dragonflymagictarot Месяц назад

I don’t think people realize that being with a person who’s never taking accountability when bad things happen or don’t find solutions that work for the relationship can be exhausting and detrimental to your mental health. Literally, your brain will change (physically), if you don’t get out of these relationships…. Like it’s bad… really bad to be with someone like this. It can get really hard to overcome this. It’s taken me 2 months now and this is the 2nd time I get into a relationship with a narcissist. Boundaries. Non negotiables. Trust your instincts and intuition. Do not allow people to shame you or guilt trip you or SHIFT the blame on you.

@matthewwozniak9138 3 месяца назад

It's not a sin to put yourself first after being second to everyone else.

@a.d.b535 7 месяцев назад

The latest sign is the eye rolling. He got angry recently and I let him cuss me out for 2 hours straight. I goaded him to 'get it all out'. Partly to let him kill my desire. I didnt respond in kind, and now have little desire to see him because its hard to unsee the lack of love..

@1Marflowa 6 месяцев назад

As a very young chil, I knew that the things my mom said and did (to me, ) where not oké. As there was no escape from it, all i did was trying to make her happy. When i had the age to go against it, i end up As the scapegoat, and atracted other narcissist. And now Im done. If you dont treat me right, then there will be no contact.

@VioletFallen 7 месяцев назад

Am i the only person who wishes nothing bad on their ex narc and still loves them but has to try and stay broken up because i know he wont stop cheating. I just made the break two days ago and i feel awful . He goes between trying to hoover me and then blocking me when I dont respond . I am trying to remain steady but my heart is crushed and ik everyone says its a trauma bond but i really love him . I dont have the desire for revenge or want him to get karma,i just want to get over him but in reading the comments, i feel really alone

@pranavjagdish Месяц назад

You question yourself constantly. You feel you are on the same page and next thing you know you are discarded and blamed for it with zero empathy for your situation.

@dragonflymagictarot Месяц назад

Exactly. Next thing you know (this happened to me), we argued about his cat being an introvert and then boom 💥 he was like “I don’t see a future with you,” and I said ok… and then that was my fault that we broke up. 🤯 Gaslighting to the fullest

@kimhumiston2686 7 месяцев назад

Odd story here. While having lab work done at clinic, an older man was like playing Santa asking women if they had been good this year. There were a lot of funny responses. Just so happened, we were both in getting our labs done at the same time, and he asked me if I had been good. I replied that I had been good most of the time. Everyone laughed. I then said "the guestion now is have you been good". He started getting all flustered and didn't even answer. In his nervousness, he said nobody had ever asked him that before. Really kind of odd. He liked putting others on the spot, but he couldn't handle it. Hmmm.

@jkevinparker 7 месяцев назад

I learned from my panic attacks from getting discarded and experiencing the silent treatment that mine were more than panic attacks-they were autistic meltdowns. I guess if one good thing came from this decades long relationship (besides my amazing kids) it’s finally understanding that I’m AuDHD. Now I’m growing through therapy and renewed self-improvement. I’m determined to become my best self, despite my circumstances.

@gem5679 18 часов назад

If only I found you a long time ago. I could have saved myself. I completely lost my old fun-loving, always happy self. I could make friends anywhere I went. Now I am anxious, depressed, exhausted daily, my health went down hill fast. I am glad this information is out now. When I was 16, 20s this information was out. The last few years it has. I can't regret the relationship because I have 2 perfect children. Hopefully I'll learn how to co-parent successfully, once I stop listening to the threats & just do ir. Then, maybe I can get myself back for my 40s.

@alien61544 3 месяца назад

Wow suffered for 21 years? 😢 me just a year and i was devastated... Going through no contact, feeling great once again. Thank you so much❤🥳😊

@lindavincent678 3 месяца назад

I was told 2 1/2 three years ago by his ex-wife. She said Linda just get out. She said she wasn’t gonna stay around to reap any benefits.

@staceyingram9643 2 месяца назад

It is so hard to explain these relationships to loved ones, so thank you for your videos, I just wish I had this information before meeting my ex. I can't believe this isn't taught in school, considering how dangerous they can be. I found it incredibly confusing to suddenly realise I was miserable every day and to believe I was to blame. Any happiness I felt was always overshadowed by a knot of dread knowing tomorrow will be miserable again no matter what I do or how hard I try. Very, very, confusing, lonely, exhausting & valuable lesson! I spent 2yrs feeling increasingly ashamed and worthless before I started Googling things like 'Extreme / unpredictable mood swings / tantrums in adults' in the hope of understanding and supporting him better... but of course he didn't need help, how could he improve on perfection. Silly me. He truly thinks everyone is beneath him. Yuck. What an immature, pathetic, sad waste of a life. Not that i'm still holding onto anger or anything lol

@mstorwall 7 месяцев назад

Unless you have all the knowledge and then you still find yourself with another narsscist years later again.

@omgyeaXD 7 месяцев назад

I used to be more laughing and joking. I didnt even go out with them yet. It still gave me crazy c-ptsd. She was using flying monkeys to get at me as well.

@maw-zs1vr 6 месяцев назад

I was there. EMDR helps me overcome cptsd. All the best.

@dsmusicbird 6 месяцев назад

EMDR?

@oceanelf2512 4 месяца назад

The narc ex-friend I had, could really put on a people-pleaser act. She was submissive to other narcs, but in the end, she was absolutely atrocious toward me and a couple others who actually cared about her. Even though she really irritated the heck out of us a lot of the time.

@ImmuneCollections 6 месяцев назад

I figured it (something?) out years ago and stood strong! But failed to leave because I didn't want to be know as a two time looser with marriage. Absolutely got broken down over the years, including the destruction of my career. I'm a strong man and not realizing what she was doing to me or I should say, what a narcissist can do to another person, I just thought we couldn't get along, which was true. I felt like everything I thought, felt, said, or did was wrong. The damage is deep. I don't feel like I"m worthy of much and yet I know I'm a good man. To all who are searching for an answer or a path, get out while you have some semblance of your old self.

@ClaireGraceMarshall-jr5mm 6 месяцев назад

I grew up with mine and felt like she really didn't care, then it was being used constantly as I was growing up until I got married and had kids. Our three children have special needs as it turns out and she was destroying my family from the inside out, it was a nightmare. Mum is 73 now and blaming me for everything by the sounds of it, I am so tired and very sick. I don't want anything more to do with her and if I could get my kids further away from her I would.

@gangGreenthumb 4 месяца назад

12:10 My heart rate soared to 170 beats per minute.. I was not exerting myself. I thought I was having a heart attack. (I later found out it was a panic attack.) I asked the narcissist to sit beside me in case we needed to call the ambulance. She did... for less than 5 minutes. Without saying a word, she got up, left the room, and I heard the television resume playing. I called my ex-wife, who is a registered nurse. She came took my vitals while the narcissist watched with daggers in her eyes. My ex ran out to the store, brought me electrolyte drinks, etc. This was the day I realized with certainty the narcissist did not love me. When the narcissist later threw this in my face, that I called my ex-wife... I told her, "I called you first. You chose to watch TV instead." It wasn't long after I asked the narcissist to leave my home... she didn't work, she had no money of her own, she only had what I provided her. She did this to herself. She never thought I'd have the strength to end the relationship. She misjudged. She showed me who she is and I could no longer deny it.

@wendybowman5305 5 месяцев назад

I have been away from this person for 3 years and I feel like me again. I now trust myself implicitly. thanks to watching your videos daily for a few years and researching all of this I love myself again. A narcissist tried to enter my life over a year ago and I got rid of this person so quickly.thanks Christina for all of your videos. I just cannot tell you how great this channel is.

@priyanshuranjan3047 2 месяца назад

@Gettingback997 5 месяцев назад

How about 30 years of living with an emotional absent wife as in my case ? Being immigrants into America and having four wonderful children I worked hard and felt I had to stick it out for the children. Now separated since four years I’m living the true promise of freedom in this country . Better late than never. Now with the positive energy wafting over me my business , health and social contacts have improved.

@tariqzodat4037 3 месяца назад

So proud of you ❤

@BXLrules 7 месяцев назад

When I tried to explain to my ex that trying to deal with her having an eating disorder while refusing to get help was making me feel, carefully using 'me' Statements since I knew the topic was fragile, she immediately countered: "the only thing I hear from you is ME, ME, ME!" Ive set myself and my desire for a healthy relationship aside during that time, which was the majority of the relationship. When she finally decided to go into treatment, she discarded me not to long after. Ice cold, no feelings, no explanation other then saying she has no feelings for me. Ive been suffering for over a year after that.

@Idontwanttoleavemyname. 2 месяца назад

Thank you very much for this. Every part of it applies to me. It's been incredibly helpful and validating.

@Brainin4malin 3 месяца назад

As I watch your videos, it has such an effect on me that I almost relive the abuse and feel terribly exhausted and sleepy.

@fearlessone212 6 месяцев назад

I initially was going through your videos for my daughter, but I found that a lot of it is helping me. Thank you.

@user-iv2xv5kc5b 7 месяцев назад

My ex wife is a narcissist she didn't show when we was dating as soon as we got married she could go out to the bars and stay out all and come home in the morning and would start accusing me of cheating on her then she started having her boyfriend coming over all the time as soon as I left for work I could see him coming over and telling my girls that he was going to be there daddy and then her boyfriend was going to wipe my 3 year old daughter and her big sister and to.stop it and she told me as soon as I got home from work I second shift and every night I came home from work she started accusing me of cheating on her she treated are daughters like shit to this day the girls don't even see our talk to there mother one is 39 and my other daughter is 36

@xiaco8309 6 месяцев назад

I’m so lost right now. My ex broke up with me in September. But we talked everyday still. One day she said how much she loved me and one day, how we’re never getting back together. She never wanted pictures together. We were together for 8 months and I literally have none. Sometimes I miss social cues and she always made me feel awful for it and said that my mistimed humor wasn’t masculine. We were supposed to talk in person the other day about things and she bailed again. She never wanted to talk things out and always insisted on arguing over text. I let out my feelings to her via text and how I felt like I’ve been pushed away for months, even after trying to get the point across that I wasn’t going to abandon her. Anytime i call her out on things, I’m “cruel” but she would say things that hurt all the time. Her words and actions never aligned. I’m so confused and just feel lost. Am I a narcissist? I don’t even know anymore.

@svenkonig453 6 месяцев назад

Christina, I did see it, but I didn't know what it was. It was like observing a UFO. I thought it was Borderline Personality Disorder. I have friends who are aware BPD and handle themselves VERY well and do not pose any problems in my life. I suspected the woman I was dating was the same simply due to the idealizing behavior, and past traumas. I did not know I was signing up for NPD. It was perhaps the worst mistake I ever made.

@TNothingFree 5 месяцев назад

It's not just they are training them to be the person for them. They are actually leeching on them.

@aflack1000 7 месяцев назад

Excellent!!

@stillpril8942 7 месяцев назад

After years of being married I have a very bad social anxiety which my husband blamed me for my social anxiety he said it was my fault because I don't go anywhere (because i have anxiety) o actually go out alot cause i have a daughter and she needs to socialize. He was just being a jerk cause i wouldn't go to a new years eve party and o wouldn't let him take her cause we didn't know anyone and everyone would be drunk and that made me nervous and uncomfortable and i dont like to drive on new years eve

@spirulina3924 6 месяцев назад

It's completely reasonable that you don't want to drive on New Years Eve, I get it

@gracegarce8026 7 месяцев назад

Everything is so precise. I couldn't agree more. Thank you for this very extensive insight. So helpful.

@misty7897 7 месяцев назад

Very helpful! It makes me feel such compassion for all of us. We have to keep going, keep growing! 💚

@frederickhartray8364 5 месяцев назад

You really give the information on controlling people with narcissistic traits at a fever pace. Good for you.

@alanzamora6504 7 месяцев назад

From South Miami Florida * in the heart of Kendall _ thank you for all of your help in every counsel 👋

@paulsuttie4080 6 месяцев назад

They should be happy, if only in that it makes you happy. When your happy, it becomes harmonious. Isn’t that what we need to strive for?

@dschefers9700 4 месяца назад

Have had a long lasting relationship which took me for a ride. Cheating, which was always my fault. Poor behavior which she would lye about and the constant verbal threats of divorce unless I change. I kept changing and would excuse and for give her behavior only to be accused of being a narcissist. Meanwhile she never has entertained change any of inappropriate behaviors. I told her I could take it anymore but I still want her back. Time is helping, but I do feel it’s my fault for not trying harder. The ending is always tough.

@isaiahking1007 6 месяцев назад

What about empathy shutting down because it was taken advantage of so often and for such a long period of time by more then that special person and don’t actually mean to be none empathetic. What about having so much anxiety and being hyper vigilant so much so you just stop caring and just let them be them until you’re just ready to leave or avoid them. I know it sounds like a question but it’s just an expression and for me personally I think it broke me down so much so idc anymore and all I can focus on is finding me and being the best me for the people who do love me. Basically finding a reason to not feel depressed or feel like a fool for losing myself thinking it could never happen to me because I can usually see it a mile away and missed it until I felt stuck.

@isaiahking1007 6 месяцев назад

I’m not the type to need to please people but want to and some times I’d set my boundaries to the side if it was something small but in some instance people find a way to cross your boundaries even the strongly stood by one which I never believed people did until it happened to me the education your handing out is amazing because the world would be so much easier if we had a better understanding of this… being put through all this neurologically changes you and building yourself back up is so much harder then people understand it took me 3 years to feel normal it took me a year to find confidence to be willing to find me.. it also took something like seeing my kids needing me to begin my journey… honestly hate it but love it because it shouldn’t be like this my kids saved me… this is why I educate myself about more then just narcissism.. I wanna do it for me so I don’t put too much on my children who deserve to have parents… smh I honestly went all this time not even thinking it could be this but with all the research I’ve done it’s extremely accurate

@FARMGIRL736 7 месяцев назад

😕After dealing with my father and then with two of them and finally finding myself again I met the second one and have no hope of having enough time for getting myself back ever again. It's just time to quit.

@davidpaul7623 5 месяцев назад

My ex embraced my hobbies in the love bomb phase(looking back, some crazy mirroring), then she devalued them after we were married for a couple of years.

@Crave88evarC 7 месяцев назад

Thank you sweet lady. I am long no contact recovering and these videos helps a ton. ❤

@jannlewandowski5540 7 месяцев назад

Crave88, Good to hear you’re doing well. I have 12.8 years without that monster! 👍

@Crave88evarC 7 месяцев назад

@@jannlewandowski5540 happy for you

@audreynicoletti7329 5 месяцев назад

Ignore them .leave him alone.

@megatronthakilla 25 дней назад

My narc ex wife took advantage of my special needs son who had stage 1 autism by drugging his water bottles and having her way with him while he was half out of it he has since talked to the police about these 4 separate incidents and always said if he moves back in she is moving out if he even comes over she is moving out. I shit you not! She didn’t want me to find out her gross actions.

@megatronthakilla 25 дней назад

Further more our 12 year old son has been diagnosed with ptsd because of her deplorable treatment

@Dolphelecat 7 месяцев назад

Wow! I am in this video, and I'm not sure how I feel about it! Thanks for making it. Really important truth in here.

@CommonEgo 7 месяцев назад

That’s why I never add usernames. Only you know unless you claim your comment 🙏❤️

@Dolphelecat 7 месяцев назад

@@CommonEgo Sorry! Phrased that badly. None of my comments are in the video. It just described my experiences very well.

@AnthonyManzio 7 месяцев назад

@@CommonEgo I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start gaslighting, smearing and bullying me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Just don't react and not try to defend yourself which will only go back and forth making me look even more guilty. Action always speaks louder than words. Just best ignore them and find another easier target. Never let these low life lazy coward bums ever win.

@sagenerd419 7 месяцев назад

Losing myself was literally my worst nightmare I lost the one person I always had to turn to 😢 0/10 do not recommend

@paulsuttie4080 6 месяцев назад

Behavioural modification. PTSD

@lindavincent678 3 месяца назад

8 fucking waisted years of phical, emotional, and psychological abuse. I never thought in 1 million years that anybody could do those to a human being arrested twice for domestic violence, and they let it go because of lack of evidence and I had it all right there and pink.

@marcusdupree3517 5 месяцев назад

You Need to be mindful and understand that relationships in the lgbt community also experience narcissistic people...I'm 37 and never experienced someone so dark in my life until recently.

@sebsebseb1905 7 месяцев назад

Let me tell you this, it's not that you are so wonderful and deserve stuff, you are normal, it's the narcissist the one who is so bad that you don't deserve this.

@HighEnd-S 7 месяцев назад

"Could it be that individuals with Histrionic traits, like the female I've been in a relationship with for the past 8 years, occasionally have moments of clarity where they express truthful sentiments, such as when she recently told me that I am not suitable for any man and suggested I should leave to improve my life?"

@MrSon-3 2 месяца назад

The one i met had me a round her family constantly ntly it felt good in the begin but iwasnt knowledgeable about narcs but i gave her a nickname i calked her tricky .i knew sonethin just wasnt right so we hung for 6 +years she still comes by my house and irs ciol but im not the same with her i dont really and truly care i dont giv a funk anymore my thing is dis respect or lying not allowing thst but if i have to play that type of game shes not worth it

@marcusxsara8896 7 месяцев назад

🙏🏾💗☮️💡

@johnmaus4408 7 месяцев назад

The thing you skipped over was that often self worth and attachment style is developed from Birth to about 7 years old. A person will be an avoident and will act like a avoident. The new person has nothing to do with previous trauma.

@jannlewandowski5540 7 месяцев назад

John, I understand avoidants also, and I know what you mean by it not being mentioned. She may have that planned for another time (video)...

@khalybford5173 2 месяца назад

I really need help. Thinking of suicide. I feel like everything was my fault. I've separated from family and friends. Honestly never really been able to make friends since my mom died. I have trouble communicating with people about how I feel and when I find the right words I'm ridiculed for expressing how I felt. She cheated on me through most of our relationship and unfortunately I don't want to leave. I believed in the future we could've had together. I don't know what to do.. please someone help me. I'm not ok

@CommonEgo Месяц назад

If you’re in the US, call 988 or 1-800-273-8255. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but you can get through this! If you’re in a different country try using Google to find local help lines.

@Jess-wk5jo 7 месяцев назад

I have questions for you over affairs and cheating. If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating

@stillpril8942 7 месяцев назад

How would you feel if Morgan had someone else they were thinking about and spending time alone watching movies and not telling you? I think that would be your answer.

@LaDonnasheltered-kc7zm 7 месяцев назад

Along with loyalty cheating and dishonesty. Wow.

@Jess-wk5jo 7 месяцев назад

@@stillpril8942I don't care it just question not real

@Jess-wk5jo 7 месяцев назад

@@stillpril8942is it emotional cheating or not all i what know morgan and i have autism so he doesn't understand things like friendships and relationships and infidelity doesn't make a different

@anyamiranda9452 7 месяцев назад

Would really appreciate if you wouldn't inserate other people's experiences (especially so many) in the video. They interrupt your speech and they're nowhere near as useful as the information about how to avoid the narcs.