I think that's like me when I observe collected enough information about some stuff. Learned enough, and more is only repeating the same. For me it points it s time to move on. To subjects teaching about the item as well, but a stap further. Me, I developed and learned much. Also which direction I should go for more healing.
What you are saying is absolutely true, you describe it very accurately. I met someone who had woken all my wounds from childhood, started therapy, and found the cause, but I still had to work on myself and return even stronger and even closer to my true self. There is always a lesson in everything. The pain of change is tremendous, but I am grateful for everything. Was he a nasc? It doesn't matter. I matter, and I am important. I love myself.
Richard! thank you!! for your time and attending you provide 🙏 I was introduced to you 3yrs ago, (via YT) to be sure, to be sure, to be certain!! Twas a pivotal moment indeed!!! My gratitude and appreciation for your hard work, humility, honesty and kindness, soars high and hits deeply 🙏🙏🙏 in the most sincerest light 🕊️🌱
I have nwver heard it. Broken . Down and explained so absolutely perfect without it being ruined by unnecessarily over complicated. Thank you thank you thank you!!!!! Ivebeen riding the rollercoaster of progress and relapse for five years, the progress has been more than the relapse. But recently anxiety has developed because i have a friend i can trust. So of course i waffle between the two extremes: deeply in love and sure hes betrayed me. anxiety, fear and doubt have grown monstrous and I know i will ruin things if i continue to aimlessly walk through life witbout clear, specific goals. You have done more by giving me a roadmap with notes. The idea of skills specific for each goal is profound, a no brainer, however a necessity for a muttled brain!
Timely video. In 15 days it is one year NO CONTACT with the parasite. Have traveled through hell. Coming out on the other side and still alive. Richard, your work has been a guiding light for me throughout this arduous journey. Immensely grateful for your wisdom.
I do study psychopathy and narcissism..and I understand trauma form childhood or you are born this way..but I also understand you can control it and you are aware what you are doing...on my birthday every year since this started my ex manager was laughing and smirking on her facebook, on instagram..going on my favourit park. and I did not understand then..as I was in utter shock...crying at home...for 5 years manipulated, coercive manipulation is HELL...you can really kill yourself in that environment. I feel sad...that this exists..that the ultimate goal of them is for your you to comit suicide..I feel sad for people going through this, the number of years LOST is astonishing..I hear 15 years, 20 years, 50 years.
The mask she put on..making me believe is a wonderful person in the company...and people around me warned me: please, be careful she is dangerous. I did not know this exists. So information is power. If I knew, no contact would have been first option.
I am GRATEFUL to GOD FOREVER that HE made me HUMAN, that I could never bring sooooo much PAIN to others (not even them) and that I can still feel good feelings and keep my heart good after the amount of pain and humiliation my heart endured. Immense pain...I literally had moments when I said this is it. I will kiil myself. I cant endure anything like this its too much, too bad too sadistic. Only God can save us.
Why it will feel good to get through the end of court. Sentencing and I have under a week to write something called a victim impact statement that is supposed to be the only way to try to get justice for the 3 years not just 2 night where he is charged with yelling making me afraid enough to call 911. He was arrested instantly for interfering with a 911 call yet they are not charging him with that anymore. My neighbor thinks the reason the prosecutor is doing nothing when he broke the no contact order is he charmed the women and played victim. Like he did when we met. Poor him. I defended him. Now he is charming others. The prosecutor, the public defender and the victim witness specialist. He had a male at first but no idea why only females on all now. He has some secret trick. I wish I knew what it was so no one can do that to me again. But after sentencing, I do not want to think about him, talk about him. I want to shut the door on the past, close the book. And move on. Have a future. Not die alone at 46. I feel being disabled with health that went downhill with him, I feel no one would want me. Very overweight, finally found hypothyroidism on top of adrenal insufficiency. I lost a few pounds since the hypothyroidism diagnosis, that came the day of the first hearing date...less than 3 months ago.
@@eeyoregirl622 navigate the process. Do what you’ve been instructed to do by the court. Now that you know what you are dealing with, you are responsible for your own future, your health, and your peace of mind. You will get there but it takes patience. Don’t worry about anyone else wanting you - you need to heal first. That also means letting go.
After a narcissist abuse we need to grieve. After that you may change the perspective. We need time to grieve. The pain and the damage are really huge.
@user-if9lf7uc9w it comes in waves ...I was also numb but an argument triggered everything he is so ignorant to reality and has turned me into something I am not
You are the ONLY therapist I hear talking about specifically what to do to heal and move on! Thank you! I have seen 3 “trauma” counselors, ended up none were certified in trauma therapy and it was all CBT. I’ve been watching you since spring 2022 and youve helped me tremendously! Thank you ❤!!!
He is a wonderful counselor. I think because he knows how to overcome it because he did. It’s different when someone reads about abuse in a book & when someone can share all the little things that are actually very important. Experience provides a greater understanding & relatability than just an education. It’s like an alcoholic going to a food addicts anonymous meeting. Richard knows it all first hand.
Yep. Cbt is the trend and it does nothing to acknowledge the abuse and pain, or allow you to grieve gain acceptance of what happened, then only after go through that process can CBT help with some skills going forward.. but hereis the video for that anyway. Its been ten years since for my disrupting the partnership that sucked me dry then found out there was someone else on top! Richard has been the most helpful for me practically (thank you ❤richard). Im also the kind of person that needs to know the whys and so i also found Priff Sam Vankin at same time for the academic background of the why a person becomes so lacking in compassion and so machiavelian. Then low about 4 or 5 years later bothe of them started to do videos together too! I still come back to Richhard , when I feel unsure when i meet a new person, as i realised i was always the guver in all my friendships and was actually getting taken advantage of, lol even the Narc ex husband used to tell me this!, which i would think, he is just trying to just get me to focus all my life kn him, but he had a point i realise. And as a consequence of this occurance of a marriage breakdown and realisations, i started studying psychology and listen to Proff Sam Vankin weekly, he is a vain character, but jokes about it. I do hope he doesnt abuse his partner though!!! He is a self confessed Narcissist and apparently diagnosed with NPD, but his growth awareness juxtaposes that diagnoses in my opinion. Or perhaps he just got a better mask? He academic knowledge is vast and he loves to share it so i just listen and learn as much as possible. But Richard , imo is the best, the most realistic and most encompassing counsellor _coach regairding Narc abuse, not just personal but also his awarenes of the qordly societal Narcissistic abuse ! ❤❤
When it comes to narcissistic abuse, it's crucial to focus on understanding the dynamics of the abusive relationship and the impact it has on the victim, rather than making assumptions or generalizations about their behavior. Narcissistic abuse can have a profound and complex effect on victims, often leading to emotional trauma, low self-esteem, and a distorted sense of self-worth. It can erode trust, create feelings of isolation, and manipulate the victim's perception of reality. Some victims of narcissistic abuse may struggle with maintaining healthy boundaries, trusting others, or recognizing their own value. In some cases, individuals who have experienced narcissistic abuse may engage in behaviors that are out of character, including cheating or seeking validation outside the relationship. These behaviors can be a response to the emotional turmoil and manipulation they have endured. It's important to approach this with compassion and understand that these actions may stem from a desire for validation, escape, or a misguided attempt to regain a sense of control or self-worth. However, it's essential to note that not all victims of narcissistic abuse engage in infidelity or seek external validation. Each individual responds to abuse differently, and their actions may vary depending on their coping mechanisms, personal values, and circumstances. If you or someone you know has experienced narcissistic abuse, it is crucial to seek support from professionals such as therapists or counselors who specialize in trauma and relationship dynamics. They can provide guidance, healing strategies, and help rebuild a healthy sense of self-worth and trust. Remember, the effects of narcissistic abuse are complex, and the healing process is unique to each individual. Judgment and assumptions can hinder the understanding and support that victims need. Providing empathy, compassion, and access to appropriate resources can contribute to the healing journey and empower survivors to rebuild their lives. Additionally, If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: Metaspyhub@gmail. com
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What the.. this literally helped me so much! Thanks
When I describe my mother now, I say "she had untreated mental illness". It helps me to not take her words about me as truth. Almost like she had a head injury, so can be disregarded.
Thank you so much for this comment because for some reason, I've never thought of it like this. The wording is so perfect. I know my mum is damaged, that's why she damaged me & repeated the hate she had from her parents. But mental illness is so true. Disregarding what they say is so important. Thank you
This message was really lovely because it doesn't blame people for being in pain,it just gently helps encourage them to do more than fixate on when the pain happened.It's important to remember your past & when bad things happened so you can emotionally process & learn from it...But it's equally important to live in the present & focus on doing things to build a brighter future.Also the part about wanting to know people who are STRONG enough to share their own vulnerability & humanity in order to create real intimacy...That was pure poetry because it takes a lot of strength to show that side of ourselves to another person🙂.
My Narc Ex passed away. In truth that was a double edged swords. It's a very odd situation to deal with. But months later what was a very painful past, is simply the past now.
I’m in the same boat! 33 years married, and then he died…. It’s been 7 years and I’m just starting to heal physically, emotionally, and financially…. ❤️
How to heal realistically : 🐛 1. Change your perspective of what happened away from the therapeutic modality that's past focussed and look with new eyes towards building and patterning in new skills, talents, habits and strengths that you love and enjoy engaging in and that keep you in a state of proactive higher vibration. 2. In order to create a new reality you need new skills that bring you joy and peaceful purpose that breathes life vigorously and abundantly into your heart-mind, soul and set your spirit afire! Engage in consistent self aware disciplines, robust, healthy, honest and authentic self definition, daily efforts and actions that create an empowering lifeforce that has a good yin-yang balance of self efficacy that embraces and accepts pain as a positive stretch forwards that makes you laugh through any discomfort and pain you confront with joy and enthusiasm as you convert it to purposeful pleasure. 3. Pain brings your full focus and attention back into the present moment as clariyifing incentive to identify what needs doing now as essential so we can act with self compassion and ask "now what?" as we keep moving forwards. The past is history and leads to depression, the future a mystery that provokes anxiety, the only time and space we can act within to create positive change is the present moment. Get real, honest, open, accountable, vulnerable and sincere about who you are, where you're at and what you do want, be here now just as you are, be open to giving and receiving, being seen, heard and understood, our bodies and brains need to bend, bounce, adapt and stay flexible, use it or lose it. 4. Deliberately and consciously build the future that you do want now. Redirect all those misdirected resources and super powers we have into repeated and consistent effortful actions that create what we do want in a way that provides healthy emotional outlets that consistently and incrementally build empowering momentum and joyful enthusiasm that take form and function as your new, optimal reality. We reap as we've sown, nurture and tend the gardens of our minds and bodies well to enjoy a positively plentiful harvest every day in every way for the benefit of all concerned! 🌾🦋💞😘✌️
@@gabrielleaumont3971 You're welcome Gabrielle, it was a 3am attempt on my part so I'd watch the video as Richard packed it full of awesome info. I'll add a summary : 4 things to do to fully heal from narcissistic abuse : 1 Change your perspective. 2 Skills and specificity. Detail what happened, what you learned, define yourself, your skills, strengths amd I'd add weaknesses too so you can shore them up with stronger boundaries. 3 The mind, body and pain, discomfort. 4 Consciously rebuild your future by taking action in the present moment. Avagooday! xx 🇦🇺🏋️♀️☀💞🤗👋
Respectfully, you seem to get Freud and the essence of psychotherapy wrong IMO. Psychotherapy IS about the future, and only focuses on past traumas in order to find the roots of the bad patterns in your personality that prevent you from operating in a healthy and happy way moving forward. My therapist, for instance, keeps on empahizing that no matter what happened in the past, it's history, I can do nothing about it anymore, and it has only relevance as regards to how much I can learn from it and develop. "The only thing you can do anything about is your present and your future" - that's the narrative.
I think one of the best aha moments I had was when I started remembering me. Feeling me. It felt like I’d never feel normal again. Everything triggered me and I sobbed gutterly daily uncontrollably for an extremely long time. I had no idea I had so much trauma in my body. I’d relax after a while and when I was quiet a. Memory would come right in front of my face and I’d see it as clear as when it happened. Very interesting and I realized it all needed to come out and I just witnessed one of them. When I acknowledged and saw it and accepted it it vanished. Like lifted out of my body. It’s all a massively deep process
Hi, can you tell me how you moved on? I have tried therapy but it doesnt help me at all, i am a huge mess after these 3 years of abuse and I feel like I am going to die in my own body because of how much trauma I have, its terrible and I dont know how I will get throughy this, any advice would help me a lor
My awakening began with Richie‘s video of 20 signs you’re with a “covert” narcissist. My ex is a pathological liar and would not be emotionally vulnerable so love and intimacy was not possible. This current video is pure gold as well. No words can express my gratitude for these videos.
For anyone that is in a situation where you can't cut the person(s) out entirely, because trust me, it can be impossible for a myriad of reasons, just try your best to focus on yourself, be kind to them, or at the very least, diplomatic with them when interactions must take place, but don't let them or their wants be relevant to you and your wants as a person. Say NO more and be you to the best of your ability! God bless!
I should have run when, before meeting his mother, my hubs told me “don’t volunteer information”. I had no “map” for comprehending what that meant. I had never had to use Ninja thinking to interact with my mom so I was lost. After 21 years, I understand now that family is your safe place is not a universal truth. I now know that some mothers are so broken that they only want domination and control so that their children become pawns and human dolls. These mothers use any means necessary to break their children’s spirit into submission and control them for the rest of their lives. Then continue with the next generation. It took me far too long to come to terms with the irreversible damage this did to her son.
Thank you for an amazing video! I’m often consumed by the “emotional damage”. I keep thinking about it and telling others about it! F-in let it go, shake it off. Move on! It’s the Narcs baggage that they gave you. “Please hold this big bag of crap life”? No thanks! That belongs to you. It’s yours, you keep it. And, free yourself 🕊️
I finally went no contact with my narcissistic parents. It’s been 2 months, and I feel this sense of peace yet emptiness and loneliness almost as if I’m combating an addiction
I understand- the fear of the emptiness makes it hard to do when youve been in connection your entire life. It feels like dying to be reborn...the part that feels the most tricky is the belief that there is nothing there and that is what can take the most courage to get through.
the other night, I had to focus on PAIN… in a freak accident, a sprinter went all the way down to my cuticle in my middle finger on my right hand… and for almost 3 hours I dug and cut and cried - trying to get the f_____ker out… and when- finally- I was able to pull the last part of the splinter out… I cried… and I cried… because the Pain subsided.. and in that moment… the light was pouring forth… the relationship with the narcissist was in the form of a splinter… pain and more pain until its pulled out, with much effort. I must wear a bandage and I am healing… so , here I am, listening to your message , which is completely synchronistic …. complete intention to not have pain… from a splinter or from the cruelest man I ever met.
@@bewarefalsenonprofits Thank you for these analogies comparing healing from Narcs to removing a splinter or cancer from your body. These words have helped me a lot today.
It had been 10 months since leaving the narcissist. I’m learning, observing, healing. Trying to regulate my self and trying to stay conscious every moment of my life. It has been hard at times. It’s the foggy mind and acting on impulse that is hard to control.
What I found difficult was identifying my triggers… and when I’d notice the triggers, I’d pull myself away from the situation and not speak in order to not hurt others with them. The other thing was the pull-back…. Perhaps due to triggers, I’d feel sadness, guilt and pain. Once I recognized the pull- back, I’d stop and realize what it was, just that, a pull- back, and I’d focuse instead on positive things I now had in my life. This helped me a lot. Focusing, on a conscious daily basis, that every choice that I made felt right and it eventually rebuilt my confidence in myself, trust in myself, love for myself . It’s really hard to leave because you’re left with no confidence and fear that you can’t make it on your own, but you have to be fearless and “rip it off like a bandaid”. Life is better once you’ve gone no contact at all…. There’s finally peace and you’ll start seeing the beauty of flowers and the things you live and have. They’ll be all yours. ❤
Do you all ever feel weird when you are happy? I sometimes feel joy and gratitude when things are going well then other times I feel strange. Not anxious necessarily but just kinda weird?
I believe THIS is the most important thing I have ever seen. I have been searching for years for a way out of the "stuckness" I felt and watching this I actively felt my parasympathetic response open in a visceral way that I haven't felt in a very long time. I'm thoroughly _sick_ of the way I've felt since escaping. I'm so tired of the anger and searching. This is the way forward. Thank you.
Powerful video. Resolve the past….healing is necessary…. Learn to be vulnerable with healthy people - become strong but gentle, in ways that build versus pulling you down…. Then train your-self to thrive…. If you grew up in an unhealthy environment you may not have been given the training wheels…. or you may have simply forgotten from being in a toxic relationship…. I did the 30 Day Forward Focused Challenge…. It’s great…. It’s motivating and supportive.. I’m going to do it again :) I’m also motivated NOW - I’m going to do xyz….today 🙂🧘
Thank you so much Richard for this talk. It’s exactly what I needed to hear at the moment, a year into trying to process and deal with a severe and horrific traumatic event. I’m ready to stop being passive by constantly focusing on the past, and begin to move forward to a stronger mind set and building resilience, in order to attain the balance in my life that I so crave for. Thank you once again for sharing your wisdom and insight 🙏💖🌹🌿🌸🌷🍃
But make sure u process pain u went or going thru and then move on otherwise ur accumulating trauma and pain and will stop u from achieving personal goals
After watching your videos for 3 months I've turned by back on the 2 narcs in my life. I am moving on enjoying my life and not letting the slugs hold me back 😊❤thankyou
Loved the Jordan Peterson impression! Yes, we have to address the pain and understand what we ougth from it and then focus on the future and the positive things there are in our life and those we want for our future.
"There are, then, two ways of understanding an experience. The first is to compare it with the memories of other experiences, and so to name and define it. This is to interpret it in accordance with the dead and the past. ☠️ The second is to be aware of it as it is, as when, in the intensity of joy, we forget past and future, let the present be all, and thus do not even stop to think, “I am happy." You'll know it! 😊 ~ Alan Wilson Watts, 'The Wisdom of Insecurity.'
Feb 23 (2020) was the day I realized I need to ditch my ex and stop using. It would take 14 months to finally accept that truth and truly door slam the ex
I started my first day of escape with $20.00 and two credit cards.Ten years later,I moved as far away as I could.I took my time to find, and understand what I even wanted.I just didn’t know.I began getting physically healthy,as I worked on my mental.I now have a safe space where I find peace,and joy.I now have begun making friends,rather than the narcissist personalities of the past, I now pay close attention to what the person is saying,because a narcissist’s energy is very off putting if you listen.
I love this- I know you are a trainer and have spoken about working out at the gym- I’d be curious for you to do a video on the body connected to narcissistic abuse. After I started healing I notice myself much more connected to my body and craving movement. I am pretty physically active & started dancing again. Your courses have been immensely helpful. I think I own almost all of them. Thanks
I left my husband, now ex-husband (after a 2 1/2 year high conflict divorce) to protect our daughter, not realizing that she would end up being with him without me there. I had no idea how much mental abuse I had sustained. I left him Oct 2014, and got my daughter into therapy not long after, and took my lawyers advice to do the same. Though therapy I learned what we were dealing with and ways to work through it as much as possible. Our relationship has no relevance and hasn't for many years, however he has now aliened our child against me. I feel stuck on what to do next. I'm done talking!!! Therapy will not help me. Her behavior had noticeably changed towards me and I was working with her therapist before "she" decided that she no longer wanted to spend time with me. Her therapist is clueless and convinced that she has an actual reason to not want to spend time with me? There is so much more...
However u can stay in communication pls find a way , its like breaking free of abuse but leaving a child behind. She will need someone to make sense of the confusion & trauma hes putting her emotions through. My dad left us behind with our mom & I wish he would have saw that our bad attitudes were a result of her emotional & mental abuse & nothing 2 do with him...
Leaving town now would be a wonderful start in the healing process! I'm getting badgered every day at work with relentless Flying Monkeys everywhere! That in itself is enough to cause depression!
The phrase that jolted me out of my own self pity and pathetic expectations was when he said "no-one is coming to save you, you are going to have to do the work for yourself"... Therapy requires you come back to truth and what is and to drop the denial. Richard Grannon, quite literally pulled me back from suicide. ❤🙏🏻
Meaning and purpose. I think all humans are completely miserable with out it. I think they WILL find genuine love, “happiness” and “contentment” “peace of mind”…. if they can find “meaning and daily purpose” in their life.
I hope you read comments. Can you talk about how to help your son not become a narcissist when he’s been raised with a narcissistic father? He’s 10 so I think I still have time but I need to know the best ways to go about it. I’m terrified of him ending up like this father.
This!!! 👏👏👏👏👏☯️ THANK YOU!! As some one who ignored pain all my life, and have been forced to face it because it triggered fibromyalgia..I feel what you are saying 👏👏👏 I’m very excited about the new course. It’s been only three days of practicing and doing the prep work you released so far, and I can already feel the forward pull of my thoughts, ideas, and over all mood. Thank you…I am very much looking forward to how this course is going to help me grown and heal….even this small shift so far…feels awesome!!! ❤️ Thank you for your time and thoughts Richard. ❤️👏👏👏👏☯️☮️🖖🦋
Excellent points. I know I spend a lot of time focused on the past and fearing that something like it will occur again. It really does keep me from fully experiencing things and pushes away those who are wanting to be close to me.
Thank you Richard..you have been a beacon of reason on the path to seeing clearly, creating greater boundaries and taking charge of my life. Some days are hard but hey that's life. Now I see what people are up to and I can say no thanks! I feel my feelings and listen to them, if it doesn't feel right...I sit with it, and follow my own moral compass...bless bless bless you 🙏
Create new neuro pathways for positive changes. New ways to live, new ideas, challenges, exercise, meditation- I do in Gods promises, try hobbies or language. Etc that’s how I’m thinking, letting go and asking God to help me with my painful thoughts of the experience. Listening to music and caring for me. Remembering the pain but as a learning experience…. I choose to be happy!!
I truly love this message. I think you are absolutely spot on . I also love your impersonation of jp ( you got to give your self some meaning bucko!) 😂😂😂😂😂
CBD and DBT both teach skills. Mindfulness reminds us that the past is gone, the future is unwritten. The now is the only point of time that exist, and now is what you make it.
Richard, this is so ideal. I understand what you meant. I enjoyed this video. In reality, as we get older, it is harder and harder to find people who are not really on their guard. Our brain is to protect us and not get hurt again. After healing from narcissistic abuse, we can protect ourselves and detach more easily.
Strikingly profound advice!! Just as we have the choice to stay stuck in the pain from our pasts, we have the freedom to choose the opposing path of living our lives in the present moment!! Happy, healthy, fulfilled, loved and productive. After eight months of listening to everything there is to know about narcissism, love bombing, degrading, control, gaslighting, manipulation, pathological lying, cheated, lack of empathy, discarding, etc etc etc., listening to this one video, has made me realize what I’ve been missing all along!! I have the choice to stay stuck in a past that no longer serves as anything positive for me now, or I simply choose to live in the present and begin to live my life in the ways that bring me peace, calmness, joy, happiness and love. Done!!!! Time to release myself from the chains of my past, that I placed upon myself and get busy living MY LIFE!! Thank you so very much for taking all of the confusion out of the picture, so that I could see the true reality of what “I NEED TO DO FOR MYSELF AND MY LIFE MOVING FORWARD!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️♥️♥️🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋
I needed this perspective soooo much!!!! Just leaving a 7.5 year relationship, literally lost everything but I dont want to dwell in that victim, 24/7 trauma, therapy mode... So glad I found you!
Mind blowing and heart warming at the same time 😯 It's not only for narcissistic abuse It's for nearly everything 😍 Thank you Richard form all of my heart ❤ 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Yes yes - it means I have had to let go of a husband and two sons that have I believe they have generational sin . I won’t heal and go forward until I move forward and let go . And it’s very difficult for along with that are 6 grandchildren. Grief comes with the truth and reality but it must stop so I can take back my identity. Now it’s my plan to help other women recover from trauma / abuse and come home to themselves within .🙏❤️
I think good therapists don’t have us only focus on pain. Anyone in denial like myself LOVE to think about the future, that’s where WE escape to. My therapist helps me focus on the present, for many of us that’s the most painful place to be.
You're brilliant Richard... even tho you still use spiritual language to some of what you say, you have helped me so much. I feel very grateful that you've done these videos and ALL the damn work/effort, time, careful thought, and so much more into your life's purpose to help those of us who are so determined to fully heal and make our own lives worthwhile and genuinely as well as generally happy.
I think a lot of people who have had issues with codependent relationships actually have skill sets. What they do not have b/c of the abuse, work, systems or family narcissus energy zapped them down, is a team around them with money to utaluse their skills. People might be good kind people but no £ people. Had similar treatment. B/c of that the skills and strengths that people actually have languish. And that throws them into the system and that's narc city. You try to progress they will literally hold you back. To hold you there over therapying people, or paychecking themselves for some faux I'll just poor people have haha... Seen it, Happening Pain wrong bad Present tense No ending. It's fked. Opportunities and pleasure keep people sane but they will crush those. Art creativity love Laughing with duping delight. It's opportunity we need in our own community, it's all already there man. On the ground, the layer above isn't better, just well adapted to a screwed up system. B/c they rule. Joy often languishes. It's joy that should rule. When she meets hope, she feeds people. Thanks for trying to feed people.
Moving on from narcissistic abuse you have to absolutely break yourself into nothing unfortunately..😢😢😢 but there in lies the beauty of strength and grace that is within survivors of narcissistic abuse..
Welcome aboard. Learning covert gf tactics twisted my mind into serious fubar. Then hearing you speak to the dial mothership had me enraged with thoughts that were unbearable. I never needed to know that much. Now with a belly of YT psych most people are so unsatisfying. My therapists says just be positive. I’ve already overcome. I hated him when he kept on about being such a simplistic moron in his perfect bliss of ignorance. Then it clicked. He was always right. The stumbling block is all the analysis my brain keeps processsing whenever I interact with others. Dual mothership. What a mind fork. To make things worse my Asperger’s takes things literally, like covert invoked mothership on me. Lol. Those narc bpd are so basic. Basing an entire life on selfishness and ego with a backdrop of trauma just results in all those traits. It’s not only inevitable. It is essential.
It’s been almost two months, two months since I realized within 6 DAYS without him, that he’s RUINING me and my body entirely. I was horrified, at the thought of losing him. I hid the things he said and done to me. But everyone saw how I changed, how I isolated myself, cried day and night because of the abuse. After leaving him, I only wished the worst for him. I then saw he got new supply. I found myself wondering, what if he changed, he’s making her happier? But it took me a moment to realize, I also felt like that. I also felt, happy and in love with him and was treated like a queen. But then it started slipping, the mask. I did confront him on his BS, but he pointed it to me. This girl, will most likely go through this too. I hope she is strong enough, and won’t let his bs fool her too. I want to move on, I need to breathe.
