Why you NEED to pay attention to how a NARCISSIST talks 

Bro. The part where you said, “I think everyone around me is a narcissist, except for me” that hit hard. I believe everyone is a narcissist 😂 Coworkers, bosses, family, friends, ex lovers, etc

Well, if someone insults you, I think it's pretty normal to feel angry with them

I once heard a psychiatrist say something about ego being a natural copying mechanism to low self esteem and how we protect ourselves from feeling down by "it's other people's fault, not mine, or, it's [insert situation or environmental context here] fault, therefore I can't control it" and that changed my life, and now that I'm learning more about narcissistic personality disorder it just makes absolute sense, npd is the perfect example for that statement, feeling guilty and bad all the time makes the brain increases ego so it doesn't impact that much your quality of life

what you said about replacing shame with anger makes so much sense. Once someone who at this point I'm pretty sure is a narcissist, wronged me in some stupid way and framed it as if I had wronged her. Then after I pointed out the facts of what actually happened (in a pleasant, eloquent way, wanting to patch things up), she literally said "I wish you were dead", which would be a massive overreaction even if I had done something bad (which I didn't).

What you said about being average.....I'm just a bit older than you (63) but I LOVE being average. My mother put so much pressure on me to be "great." I didn't even realize it; I thought it was normal to aspire to be great. I think that's why so many people are attracted to fame. They want to be the most beautiful, the most talented, etc. etc. And yes, the smartest. But I reached a point in my life where I realized I was probably pretty average (in most areas) and it takes so much pressure off. I'll just be little old me, thank you.

After being raised by a narc who kidnapped me from my mom and being married for 22+yrs to a covert narc turned psychopath, I’m finally awakening to the truth. It’s taken me 6 years to get where I am. I’m so close to escaping and living the life I deserve. The one thing I know I’ll never get from my husband is closure. Thank you SO much for sharing your inner world with us!! YOU are helping so many people!!! YOU are giving me the answers; the closure I desperately need. Thank you so much for sharing with us!!

Damn, that video hit like a ton of brick. The relation i have with my own intelligence and competence, and perception of it. Seeing narcissists everywhere, especially at work, the self-deprecation. I realized that i viewed "being normal" with the utmost contempt, and i feared it. I am starting to feel more at ease with the idea of being normal / average, even below in some aspect, i think i'm not trying as much to "prove myself" to others, especially at work, and hopefully i am less of a pain to be around. The book "The courage to be disliked" actually planted the seed

There is so much nuance to narcissism.... I'm endlessly curious and appreciate your videos. You, spiritnarc and cluster b milkshake are helping me understand my partner and get out of victim mentality. He has recently taken accountability for his toxic behavior after a year and half and that's been really eye opening.... You're so right about how it all gets covered up by anger. He is in a cycle of depression now, low self worth and fear of rejection. He's got both NPD and BPD traits....

"OMG... this is going to prove I'm stupid, or even worse AVERAGE." This, too, is one of my greatest fears! Not sure I was aware of it until I heard you say it.

I can relate to fearing that I’m not as smart as people think. I can’t say that I think I’m smart, because if I believed that I wouldn’t fear being less intelligent. It helps framing statements about yourself as opinions, and not using more extreme descriptors. ‘I’m an idiot’ becomes ‘sometimes I feel like I’m not the sharpest tool in the shed.’ Joking around helps me as well.

This is awesome and you are channeling new material, I know that was a concern you posed which is totally normal, but you are doing spiritual work and you will always be guided to channel a topic, so trust that!

I respect you so much! Keep it up if able. You have given me insight.

I literally bought a book called "The New Personality Self-Portrait" written by John Oldham (Autor), Lois B. Morris (Autor). It has a test for different personality disorders. Me not being a narcissist, but scored high af in AvPD... I feel some of your struggles, though. I also just need to feel my bodys trauma response to see, if the person im with is cluster B. It helps to be hypervigilant and to have obsessively and compulsivly consumed hundreds of hours of material on cluster B. Now I alienate people with knowledge. Please send advice, I don't want to use a persona to be liked.

“I guarantee it!” YEP! Lol 💯

I have experienced that state of mind where I thought everyone else is nuts except me lol 😂

This was so helpful. It's easy to only be angry with a narcissist that has hurt me over and over. And this video doesn't change that, but it also helps me to feel something other than that toward him after I saw this. I don't feel enough compassion to think I should stay and put up with the ugliness, but at least it keeps me from feeling only anger toward another person. Now I'm angry but I can also feel some sorrow for the fact that this person can't regulate the emptiness and feels driven to defend himself all the time. How exhausting. For both of us.

Best narcissism channel out there! Thanks a lot for the insights

Also dude your channel is growing! I have been keeping tabs! Don’t stop!!!

This makes sense. The grinding gears of judgment turn and cannibalize the narcissists own ego behind the scenes Until they are empty inside. Kind of like realizing someone’s pride is all they have and your frustration turns to compassion. This is helpful frame of reference and appreciate your channel and discussions.

Thanks these videos are valuable. You are making a big difference. Feel good about that!

People tell me I'm the smartest person they know but I'm so dumb. I don't know if they are telling me what they think I want to hear or if it's imposter syndrome. I don't think I'm cluster B, but I do have attachment problems, occasional narc tendencies, and the upbringing that seems to make a cluster B. I'm here because listening to you is helping me with attachment to a narc ex, and helping me get my self esteem back. I use to have what was referred to as "big dick energy" but this relationship brought that to zero. Understanding that he thinks different and isn't hurting me on purpose, that he is ill and can't help it, has really helped.

wow, your videos are really transformative. they help me understand a lot

Everyone at some point can get down on themselves especially if they have depression or ADHD or autism etc., but the only malignant abuser that I’ve ever known definitely vacillated between hating himself and thinking he was better than everyone else in the world. He also claimed to have zero narcissistic traits, at a moment in our relationship when I begged him to self analyze and stop abusing me, which is actually impossible because we need a little bit of narcissism to survive. He could not face himself so he couldn’t see the bad or the good- now I know perhaps there was no self to face at all. But then again Buddhists say none of us really have a self anyway so idk. Idk what’s real anymore 😂

Props to you, Mr. Narcissist… you’ re fascinating to listen to 😊

This is a blast from the past. Best

5:46 So relatable. At least you make videos and had the courage to take the test 🎉

My ex narc never did that. It took me a long time to realize what it was. I knew something was wrong but couldnt put my finger on it until we had broke up and he would never let me go..he always came back. After a few times and after a bit of research I figured it out. But after I left him and the cognitive dissonance wore off I could see it for exactly what it was. And he still hoovered me back after 3 months no contact by giving me everything I had asked for during the relationship. Lol needless to say it still didnt work out

Thanks very much for your videos, they're extremely helpful in understanding npd. How have you been working on anger managment? In therapy? It's so important for victims to understand that stunded emotional growth leads to narcissist not being able to process positive emotions, which then explains why negative emotions and anger are so easy to process. Are you also working on learning how to be mindful or anything else? I watched your video about your childhood, which obviously has you triggered and going through various negative emotions, normal, after everything you experienced, of course. But I saw you correct yourself every time you'd give into anger and switch to calming yourself down, gaining more contraol over your words and your anger. It's so great to see you, Lee Hammock or Sara, Cluster B do that because ultimately it helps spouses imagine how useful therapy could be to work on thes aspects that could change the lives of so many families with some therapy and effort. Congratulations, your therapist and you've been working really well!

I think it’s interesting you talked about how you see others as narcissists. I see cluster b activity everywhere. Especially on tic toc

Bro I love you, thanks for these videos, it’s not the fake you speaking in these videos it’s the real you, who actually is awesome, I know it’s hard but as soon as you realise how wonderful the real you is the sooner you will heal.

I found this helpful today So thanks for that.

They always seem anxious and douchey. They are missing parts that make a human a human

I've restrained calling a few people that were in my life a narcissist, because I knew they wouldn't believe me and I would have to deal with the rage and emotional abuse haha. the last one I dealt with ended up threatening to stab me, burn my flat down, told me to kill myself a lot, and once facetimed me sitting from a window saying he will jump and die and it's my fault lmao. before all this he called me a sociopath, I think deep down he knew what he is, and was trying to beat me to it, in case I ever said anything. It worked, and I was convinced everything he did was because I'm a bad person and I deserved it etc. I think the emotional abuse stops a lot of people from saying anything, because we know it's not worth it. Better to distance. Although he kept making fake accounts and showing up to my place when I did. He got into my flat using a hairclip to open the door and wrote on my wall. when I come back my place smelt like weed and my amp settings were changed. I'm still a bit impacted by it. I have a lovely boyfriend, and I do have moments where I'm worried I am a horrible person manipulating him each time I open up with some dumb story like this. but yeah, your video struck a chord man hahaha.

Can you do a video on the reason they lie? Or lying about things they don’t have to lie about?

IQ tests are outdated. They can give a vague estimation if someone is extremely far behind or extremely good at the tasks but average people vary a lot on different days, moods etc. A general rule of thumb by a neuro prof I know is: Intelligence is pretty equally distributed. It's mainly how you train, grow up etc. what makes the difference. Some people who seem dumb are pretty smart when it comes to certain things. So they just have a different focus compared to others. If someone focuses on language and maths, they are seen as smart by the general public but someone who never went to school can be extremely intelligent when it comes to, for example, repairing things or social interactions. Just sharing what the prof told me, I'm not one myself :D

Just so you know, in my opinion, (listing to you talk), it ois obvious you are an extremely intelligent person

What i find to be very interesting, is that there are some reocuring traits that cross well over with mastery as a whole. But because the mental processes cannot be completed, it stops rather abruptly. Very strange to see, fascination. This absolute thinking, quite the experience to observe.

Spread your message ❤ speak from your heart and experience

I asked my ex and he just stayed quiet then weeks later called me one 😂

I laughed when you said “ Take your fucking meds .” Thx for the reminder 😏

Why you NEED to pay attention to what a PARTNER doesn't talk about 😄: You know, partners not calling you narcissists does not mean they do not know or understand that. Since virtually every psychologist that speaks about this says "Don't call them out! No use, only makes it worse.", chances are at least some of them took that advice. I knew and my ex-partner's former partner knew too, or at least we both knew we'd been in cluster b territory. (Not that it really matters though. It is what it is and putting a label on somebody is just an abbreviated way of saying the same thing. So what it's really about is how you're being treated and that, of course, varies a lot even for people with the same diagnosis - and NT:s too.) Thanks!

Thanks!

My ex got giddy and would laugh after removing some customers order at work, or pissing in a friend’s closet at a party, or how bad he treated an ex. That showed me he loved getting back at people. FYI it’s me Jacki I’m on my old account lol.

I find the part quite fascinating where he says he sees people as being superior or 'the worst ever'. There was another video of his I recently watched where he was talking about his exes, and stated that they would always be like subordinates to him, that he would rather prefer a partner who could be viewed as an equal. I think thats a bunch of horse 💩, since you'd think that if the partner was equal, then naturally that would imply that the narcissist in question has met someone who is not less than the narcissist; wouldn't this be a threat to their ego, since they like being high up above the person they are dealing with? And now they'd have to start putting the person down to pump themselves up and to lower the partner because there's no way they'd be comfortable being equals (knowing the envious nature even if it would 'work' it would probably be shortlived; these people are far too insecure and threatened to live alongside someone they view as equal..), right?? My two cents

Thank you so much for your videos. I discover your channel through your interview with Wendy Behary. I dated someone who I now recognize has NPD for about three years. I still love him and am wondering how you got diagnosed? Also, what do you feel is an effective way to get through to someone with NPD? I know the disorder is shame-based, therefore narcs tend to reject those who truly love them. “How could you possibly love someone like me?” I am unwilling to give up on this person, though. Narcs deserve love as much as the next person, if not more.

It’s crazy to me bc I know am a narcissist but am always trying to proof that am to myself and hide it to others

I think this is called a covert narcissist.

I hated my narcissism out of control control and manipulation.

A breed,no,come on my friend,you guys are everywhere.

5:15 this applies to me as well with cPTSD. I know I'm above average intelligence but I just cannot get my shit together. It seems like cPTSD and narcissistic traits go hand in hand a lot. The shame, the low self esteem, never feeling good enough. Having to rely on external measures of worth because I feel worthless. I do have a lot of empathy for people though. That's where I think we differ. I don't want people to feel like I do because this shit is terrible. I hate seeing people hurting because I know pain. I believe it takes a lot of intelligence, emotionally and logically to be able to navigate your disorder and be open about it. I know it's SO hard to be vulnerable on the Internet because people can be mean.

But once you know you know. I dealt with one for too long. I wish I would’ve known sooner than later. I knew his dad was one but my ex was quite charming so I just thought he had deep seeded issues stemming from his dad. My ex once said on of his old girlfriends called him a narcissist. I fed him into his argument not knowing them he is a narcissist. Smh

I picked ya one word ... We narrissit.... Great listen tho 10 with one yeah no meds for me mate 😎 I healed from this Demonic behaviour myself took me 4 yreas but I'm back 🤣😂 everything is ok ☮️☮️☮️☮️☮️☮️☮️☮️

What led you to a diagnosis?

TYM ! (TYf'nM) 😁 If they help.

I have never heard a narcissist say that they did something wrong much less call themselves stupid. They never self deprecate.

Well in all retrospect we all have a dosage of Narcissism in us it’s the spectrum we are all exhibiting that causes the problem.

My do worker got discarded so quick

I must be chronic no one is better than me. Lol😂😂😂😂

Do you feel you could ever have a functional relationship that will last?

I have always called myself a comillion even before I knew what narcissism was...I'm I a narcissist?

They give you clues on what their next move is against you. But they blame someone else. What their partner did to them is actually projection what they did to their partner . "Now I'm going to do this to you". That's no excuse to do the same thing to the new partner what happened in the last relationship That's in the past .

10:53 can you elaborate more on why narcissist use self deprecation? I’ve noticed some people use it so much that it really is annoying it’s almost as if they’re fishing for you to defend them. It’s like quiet humbleness meant to provoke the listener to jump in and say “but you are smart.” LoL On a similar note I have also noticed that narcissist who talk a lot will interrupt themselves and say “ I’m probably talking too much” when what they really are looking for is for you to say “no you’re not.” it’s a very odd behavior. Are you opposed to talking more about those types of behaviors?

The ONLY time I’ve ever heard her talk down about herself or openly regret an action, is when the action is very minuscule. For example she will say…”you are not gonna believe what I did I am such an idiot. You are going to hate me” blah blah blah….she will continue to butter me up as if she going to blow me away with her confession. But what follows is always something so insignificant like forgetting to get something at the grocery store. Or forgetting to turn off vehicle dome light and now her car is dead. I always think, so the terrible things you say and do are no biggie…but this is??? Then down the road she will often say….”well, you got mad at me about my car dying”….which will then make me mad that she remembered it that way.

How would you have felt if one of your exes told you that she thinks you might have NPD?

The reason people do not like narcissists has nothing to do with the narcissist's intelligence at all. Someone could be the actual stupidest independent adult man on the entire planet, and he could also be the most compassionate man on the entire planet. Everyone will say honestly say that they are very happy that that man exists. A "70s small town" will do lots of extra work to protect him if he is falsely accused of something by feds that doesn't affect the other people at all. Hundreds of people will cry at his funeral (if he knows hundreds of people). The reason why people do not like narcissists is because narcissists literally claim that IQ or appearance or degree is "proof that one person is better then another". Everyone knows that some people are better then other people, because everyone who is given the name of a male baby-rapist will say honestly that everyone they know is a better man then the baby-rapist is. Everyone who is not a narcissist also knows that "whether you deserve to exist or not" and "whether you are worthy of being that person's girlfriend or not" has nothing to do with appearance, intelligence, amount of regular recurring wages, degrees or "official awards" in ang category, haircut, weight, or any other sorry of thing that are all completely 100% irrelevant to whether you "are worthy of existence" or "are a good and decent man" or not. Everyone who is not a narcissist knows that the only way that it is possible to be better then other people is by treating everyone in your personal life well, never being abusive no matter what, never having a wife unless you fully and totally love your wife, and then also being 100% honest to your wife most of the time (unless you are planning a surprise or agreed that you both prefer lying about one and only one topic and you were telling the truth during the entire conversation in which you made the agreement), etc. If you are extremely ugly and you do all of these things and also do everything else that makes someone a good/decent human beings then everyone will like you except for bullies. If you have an extremely high IQ and you do the opposite of everything I just listed, then there are zero people on Earth who will truly and fully like you. The reason people do not like narcissists is because they claim that having a high IQ proves they are worthy as a human being, or having a higher IQ then you do proves that they are better then you. And that is false and man who believes that indicates a man who is abusive and that is why everyone else does not like that man.

Hey Bro, to help you too, Since you care about rectifying your behavior and becoming a better person for yourself and others, I see that you notice when you say something that signals your NPD, for example when you say "you feel dumb" for not being able to recognize someone else with NPD, you react to that as a bad thing for saying that. But actually in that case, that's fine to say and I'd say you should react more to the fact you reacted. If you see what I mean. See because insecurity can become a negative spiral in the sense that you can be insecure about being insecure and maybe that's how NPD even manifests, I don't know. But what I'm saying is Confidence is about the way you feel saying something, not what you say. At least that's the way I see it. If you are confident, You don't mind being "insecure" for example, If I'm bad at football, which I somewhat am. Is it insecure that I say "I'm bad at football"? or is it confident because I have the confidence to admit that to myself and others and not be particularly bothered. So really I guess we define what confident is. And this somewhat links to what matters to you and setting what's important. And this is why I think morality is the key to living a happy life. Because morals and respect for humans means that everyone want's other peoples desires to be fulfilled as best as possible as well as your own. And then having this as a goal, You can attach to that and realize you shouldn't feel insecure for not being able to figure out if someone else is a narcissist because you realise it doesn't really matter. And you then only feel insecure when you're hurting someone else. It's about your subconscious orientation. You're great btw. That's why I've put so much time into this comment. :). My mum has NPD and you're really helping me and I'm sure many others too.

I'm starting to wonder why now so many people are seeing the characteristics of Narcissism in so many people. I think that the age of the internet has increased Narcissism drastically and it may not always come from childhood but I wonder if this is some type of "Secondary Narcissism". If you're over 40, and you think about who your grandparents and senior aunts and uncles were and their mannerisms, it would take some work to figure out if Narcissism was as prominent back in the adults of the 1960s - 1990s. There was no immediate self gratification of "scrolling" or "back buttons". People were not able to satisfy their need for "likes" at will, because there were no "likes." The internet has become a plethora of immediate gratification for the Narcissist. There's still though that strange element to this. A lot of Narcissists present themselves as normal, but the more "popular" they become, the more outspoken and bold their Narcissism becomes. I bet some of the most Narcissistic youtubers start out appearing very nice, wanting to be liked, etc. but once they hit a larger number of people, they start calling themselves "celebrities" and go into what would seem like full blown Narcissism. Jealousy over other RU-vidrs can make the traits come out a lot worse too, as people try starting to outrank competition. It's my opinion that it can change people's personalities the more they get "sucked into" the feedback of viewers. If they create a sh!#$torm of negative feedback or insults, I imagine it could lead to a "collapse". Interesting stuff to think on.

I know we are not supposed to diagnose others, but I am in the middle of a rather nasty divorce that was precipitated by my ex's complete inability to accept criticism (I was able to criticize his behavior once without spending the rest of the week being yelled at and blamed for every problem in his life, and it required a 10 minute preamble where I described how much worse i was.) In addition to his explosive responses to criticism, our relationship started with me on a pedestal to a point that made me uncomfortable and ended with me being the worst, most manipulative person he ever met. At any rate, he wants to have children and I am worried that he and his next partner might wind up with a pregnant surrogate before that relationship blows up. Is there any way someone could have brought this up to you in a way that would not make you feel judged or attacked? Even if a child doesn't become an issue, I am kind of worried about his future if he doesn't get his shit sorted out.

Funny how you call it "anger", sounds so harmless like everybody gets angry sometimes. For the narc it's nothing short of pathological RAGE over the tiniest shit

Just venturing my two cents as a person on the autistic spectrum… 1.) For some reason, I can smell a cluster B within a few minutes. I put it down to being close "relatives" psychologically to them. Let me give an example: Word salad is a giveaway. They use many many words to go around a central idea that is never arrived at with in conversation. 2.) In their speech many of them insert an abnormal number of "like" for each few minutes. 3.) To make sure one way or another, I may locate within the surrounding some random item and comment that the item is "unclean" rather than describing it as just "dirty." Half of the cluster Bs will fly into a disturbed state and say something to justify that item is pristine. Just my two cents, from somebody who feel very little need for emotional connection with others generally.

What meds do they have narcissists take?????

Question? Is everyone who has low self esteem a narcissist?

Have u ever heard the term "Double Speak" before? I think it's where they say one thing and it's suppose to mean one thing, but it actually means another. Was hearing narcissists do this a lot some how...any thoughts ?

IDEA: What if you created courses that focused on teaching narcissistic communication tactics

The IQ thing. You know? Why you have such a low esteem despite you're quite smart? It's because you never build something from scratch. For example, if you learn piano, you need to learn from the beginning, novice, intermediate, to advanced. Or if you learn karate, you start from white belt, to black belt. Or if you build a house, you need to build a foundation, before you build the house from the top. It takes time and patience. It's a step by step process. And you don't do that because you don't enjoy the process of being a novice, white belt ,build house foundation. You just want the final reward, the short cut. But if you just e.g. enjoy learn piano, no matter at what stages, as oppose to enjoy the accolade or praise from public of you playing piano, then automatically your confidence will build up, and the final results (accolade, praises, etc.) less matter.

Narcissists are very clever at hiding behind their masks. There’s no way to avoid getting burned but there is a way to get out of a relationship with one. Run!

WOW you remind me of a guy I know. I guess I’ll always attract narcs I’ve accepted it 🤷🏽‍♀️

My brother has NPD

I'm very critical of myself And I can get into black and white thinking because of the autism But I'm pretty sure I'm not a narcissist

interesting, empaths (the real ones not the people pleasers) are also social chameleons 🤣 but for empaths it's automatic mirroring of others, not having some secret intentions to boost your ego by sucking up to people.

How can one consider oneself smart based on the results of a IQ test? Or be so obsessed with a “diagnosis” that’s made up?

In my experience, Catholic narcissists are way easier to spot. There are some common and very tell-tale signs, and there are signs of the pathology that can be spotted in their spirituality even before they show up anywhere else. I think NPD is both extremely easy to spot and extremely difficult to spot. Difficult because they somewhat believe they have a pretty consistent false version of themselves, but easy because the red flags are still there. It’s not that people don’t notice the red flags, it’s that the persona is so convincing that it makes them forget about or second-guess the red flags.

How would you think everbody else is a narcissist. Thats not logical. That'd be a red flag to me that there's something up with me

I wonder the emotional depth of narcissist are considering there is very low to no empathy. I’d love to know you’re view on projection .

your mannerisims and the way you present looks exactly like my ex its scary....

Flash news! Having an average IQ is not the end of the world. We ALL have a superpower. This superpower is a pair of cognitive preferences, that are in 1st and 2nd place in your cognitive stack (I'm talking from the MBTI standpoint). Those 2 cognitive preferences are your savior functions, and you will certainly be better in those, than a genius with 140 IQ, not having them is his/her stack (first four preferences out of 8 preferences). So, you will have a world of possibilities for success in your life, even if you are average (IQ). You want an example? Construction-Jo, very industrious, having a successful life financially, compared to a day-dreaming genius, solving life mysteries in his basement, but not achieving anything. Of course, that day-dreaming genius can also have his chances.. he just needs to get moving... Another example? Okay... Someone with dominant Extraverted Feelings (Fe) and secondary introverted intuition (Ni). That person is super freakinly good at sizing up people!! Pick up your career accordingly! You also have a good chance of raising mentally healthy children!! Success is in front of you, even with an average IQ!! Albert Einstein is clueless compared to you in this matter!! Go darling go!! Use it!!!

So true because looking back now I recall how my ex Narc said he early on one of our earlier dates that he was just a simple man and nothing really special but a simple man. I took it as him being humble about himself until later on I realized it was shame because he hadn’t accomplished much for his age. He also went on to say that his two children were more successful than he had ever been and is. He was proud of them but wished he had done things differently. Yet later he came up with this crazy fantastical stories about what he did in special forces and worked for the CIA protecting this country but nobody would ever find out about it because they can’t talk about what they did. So if they did so much to save and do for this country then why isn’t proud of himself. It was all lies of course the work he did. He invented that part of his life. Many times when he’d mess up he would all out say his name and then say why are you so stupid. He did that a lot. I would say don’t say that. It’s no biggy. Or when he was fixing something he’d say his name and say your stupid and can’t fix it. I wonder how if that’s what his super violent NArc father use to tell him and it stuck. Anyhow I was with him for five months and then I left. To many lies, anger crap and was to obsessed with me and possessive. When he would get stressed, frustrated or angry he would try to devalue me and lie about shit. Never was accountable for anything. Never his fault. Said he was sorry for everything but could never tell me why he did that he was sorry for. He needs help and I shared that with his sibling to get the family involved and get him to therapy and fast. He’s in his early 60’s and if they don’t get him to get help he will continue to live a very sad and unfulfilled life. Can’t hold down relationships and barely has any true connection friends.

What do you think of Andrew Tate ?

Keep in mind that narcissism is when empathy is replaced with entitlement. Some people have a 'distorted perception' of the Golden Rule. The most distorted form of the Golden Rule is when they distort everything to only give to themselves. The average distortion of the Golden Rule only gives to those who reciprocate the kindness. This distortion isn't bad. But it's not as good as the 'pure perception'' of the Golden Rule that gives out kindness freely without expecting reward. Reciprocal love is when we feel great freely giving our energy to each other. A narcissist will only communicate when they WANT to communicate. But true respect is when true heroes reciprocate the heroic virtues of everyone around them with everyone around them while enhancing everyone around them. ❤

The guy from drill what was his name?

Volume is always to low in your vids

That so sad, but also that sounds so humble at times ironically. By the way, iq test isn't reliable measure for intelligence.

"From my perspective, everyone is a narcissist except for me, effectively." It's so damn weird hearing my thoughts come from someone else's mouth. Most people seem like covert-vulnerable narcissists to me, which might actually be me. I was the 'truth-teller' in my family ("truth-seer" would be more accurate; nobody believed me when I told the truth, so I associate that term with pain, as in "the harsh reality" or "the bitter truth"), and I have that standoffish cowboy energy now. Reportedly though, truth-tellers end up reasonably successful as adults, so here's hoping I don't fall to absolute cynicism and O.D. on some kind of filthy street drug!

NPD ppl are easy to spot thing don't collaborate everything is just so off key.

What was your childhood like? Thats how you were shaped.

Has anyone ever said to you that you have a god-complex in a relationship?

Interesting. They say that even paranoiacs have enemies. What if the narcissist actually is extraordinary in intelligence and ability? Are they still narcissists? Why?

So Trump...

It's funny when the people are following you like a sheep. I know what you're trying to do and manipulating the situation... You show your good side by giving advice to the people how to protect themselves by those toxic individuals and while you get your free attention as well from the viewers and being in the spotlight as well, it's a win win situation for you. I can read you like a book what your motives are. You can fool your sheep empathic followers but you can't fool me mate.

How do you feel good when everyone treated you like shit growong up, no one is pn your side, and youre all alone? Do i have to resort to conartistry?