Ways of self sabatoge -talk down about self -not being able to accept compliments -Not having standards -believing words over actions. -Talking self out of wanting and doing better -Moving backwards. -Talking with self defeating words. -Reacting instead of thinking calm and thinking. Not controlling your emotions. -Investing emotionally before the man is invested in you and giving you what you want. -Overthinking too much. -Always finding a reason to argue with a man. Mistaking that as emotional investment. -Listening to men or pick me chicks who cant do anything for you. -Changing for a man. Unless it benefits you not him. -Being too critical of yourself. -Rejecting yourself first so that the man does not reject you.
Getting rid of friends that are pickme, stagnant, downtalk you, etc. is one of the most important moves during your journey. Cleaned up my friendships and feel like a weight lifted.
I start to think that a lot of the popular relationship psychology is written to turn women into pick mes. All of this "talk to him about the problem" stupid advice. If I need to explain to a grown man why he needs to be able to provide, then he is not a man, he is a little boy and I am doing what his pick me mom should have done years ago. Nowadays, if someone fails to understand basic concepts in any area of life, I just move on. No explanation needed. Great video as always!
I agree completely! You have to have the same values and beliefs. If a man doesn’t feel he should have to provide for a women he’s in a relationship with....that is his belief! People only change their beliefs when they cause them enough pain that they realize that must change them.
The amount of time that happened to me id be millionaire. It's all the fault of pickmeshas and Bob the builder that make men so FUCKING weakkkkkk and pathetic
I think we women naturally are used to self sabotage and putting everyone else’s needs before our own. It’s time for us to love ourselves more than anyone else ever could. We only live once, live your best life. Thank you Shera for reminding us every day that we are worth it. Have a happy Thanksgiving 🦃🍁🍽♥️
Learn RESILIENCE from this boss right here. Take notes. Study. Do EVERYTHING she says. Even if you don’t want to. She will raise your consciousness and your vibration, she is activating your divine feminine. This is priceless thank you Shera 🙏🏻
Shera this is one of your best videos, you really brought it.. especially about controlling one's emotions and also how a man with money is useless if they're not spending it on you! Wow, so much truth! I love how you tell it like it is but you're also caring like a big sis. Much love! 💙
There are too many ads in this video, but I agree that this is one of the best videos.We as women do talk sometimes talk about too much stuff with men.I tried a sugar daddy website, and had to get off because so many of them want to brag about their money,but don't want yo give you much of it,unless you are willing to put yourself in the dangerous situations of going to their homes etc.I have met guys too who want yo show off their house,car etc,yet they are so stingy with women,so I judge ignore those types.
Stop levelling up for Dusties. Too many women are being so amazing, especially in this city and then stick with Dusties. Most don't change, you're just entertaining the dusty.
It seems that ex's come back to see if your level up is really real. They want to see if you are still stupid. We all need to level up mentally and emotionally always. these men and society will try to test you. It will try to bring you down. Case in point-- my ex is a real estate broker. We are working on getting me a tenant. I feel I need his help because he can do a great background check. He keeps trying to get sex and since I am now more secure I do not let him. I limit him to his job. I plan to ghost him after I get the tenant because he is still an emotionally unavailable player. When a pick me thought comes I remember these videos. Today the pearl of wisdom is see what I can get out of him even though I may not know if he really likes me to give me what I want.
So true, my emotions were getting the best of me. I figured out that I had a hormonal imbalance, which made it very clear as to why certain times of the month I was losing control of myself and letting my boyfriend get to me completely sabotage the entire relationship just by that thing.
I had a friend who constantly put herself down, saying the most self-deprecating things and I avoided her like she was the plague and still do! Shera is so on point, I can't stand people who say negative things about themselves.
I have 2watch this video numerous times everytime i meet some1 new n feel myself getting negative & insecure!!! Best video ever bc im a Queen of Self Sabotaging
user name I’ve always been good on the outside but needed to get my mental right. I was wayyy too nice! I remember I asked Shera to join the Level up group and she told me I needed to be in the gold digging one instead 😅☺️....thanks for the compliment dear 😘
Seems like ladies are listening to you more these days Ashera👂🏽👂🏽👂🏽 Sad part is if your videos were on how to love others more than yourself there'd be less objection. However I am pleased to see ladies taking care of themselves 1st💫💫💫 Keep it up and endless thanks Goddess 😚
B you can’t love others until you fall in love yourself...Eartha Kitts told m interview that she love herself so much thy it will be an honor for any one to have her to share in her greatness but not the other way around
I love Shera!! You really just conditioned my brain into a new person. I’ve always believed in all of this but no one was reminding me and giving me the advice and since I’m addicted to your videos. I’m watching you all day long and only taking a little break here and there but back watching and listening until I go to sleep. I am so grateful that you exist! And I love your Goddess channel too! I just found out about that last night and hooked on that now! I’m so happy I will be busy and enjoying and learning for a while because you have lots of videos! Also I just got into the spiritual stuff yesterday and bought some oils and will eventually have a collection of all the supplies I need.
All women need to watch this video. It is brilliant and extremely useful for your entire wellbeing and life. Also correcting yourself straight away if you say something unintentionally mean to your target so as to lure with honey not vinegar. Otherwise that is self sabotage too.
Excellent guidance - only that a woman is her own woman, just as a man is his own man. Women and girls should never compare themselves to one another (i.e. "compete"/"competition") or fight each other over a man.
Hi Shera, just wanna update you that a man had insisted on proposing to me. Yes, as in marriage proposal. He is not filthy rich, just comfortable. I turned him down because I asked myself: how will he benefit my life? A: he can't. So I said no. And it feels so easy thanks to the confidence I learned from you and Ms. Mikki; simply by constantly striving to be my best self, putting my best foot forward when I step out of the house everyday. It may seem unrelated, but I have so much confidence because my face was beat and I was like (inwardly) "Boy, GTFOHWTBS. I am too good for you." Love and kisses. P.S. he proposed though I nvr gave him the p. Lol
Re-listen to the beginning, 9:00 +, be proactive instead of reactive, the person who angers you control you, 12:00 +, 15:00, 21:30, 35:00, 44:00, 51:00, 53:00,
Hi Shera, Could you please make a video on your channel about etiquette living with your boyfriend before become his wife? I recently moved in with my boyfriend and of course he’s paying the bills. I want to maintain my mystery and myself without getting too comfortable. Thanks! Loyal Subbie
Have a pamper or beauty regimen day while he’s out and about/at work or sleep that is secret to him. Take a class to upgrade your skills to keep bettering you and your home life.
Shera plz do a video on pastor john gray n his wife. He said his wife did more "birthing" with him than she did birthing their 2 children. They are promoting struggle love and raising grown man boys. Then derrick jackson did a video telling women they dont have to be rehab centers for me. The pastors wife did a video response to DJ rolling her neck talking bout "dont come for my man". And the pastor sat quietly while his "mom-wife" defended him against another man's opinion. They looked and sounded like a mom at a parent teacher conference. It was ridiculous. Would love to know your thoughts
You favor Nicki Minaj😊💕 really pretty. Appreciate your content & refreshing to hear relationship & female advice from an actual married, mature & classy woman who apply to be doing well for herself 🙏🏽. Happy thanksgiving 🍁🍽🦃 in advance
I wear makeup 💄 because it’s fun , glam , and makes hold on to my femininity. Not because I thought 💭 I needed it. I will wear it because I it’s my passion.
I really needed this. I'm a beautiful exotic woman who delt with alot of physical and emotional abuse at 2 years old till 15. I'm trying to rebuild myself thru your channel. I know you speak of leveling up your appearance. I have very delicate feminine gold/ruby and gold/diamond jewelry that is on my face.. is this something I need to remove?
Love your channel!!! can you make a video on sexless relationships/marriages and what women should do. I have some friends that need to hear your message, as me being a friend all I can do is give my advice and listen to them vent but at this point they need to hear it from someone else.
I think that we shouldn't discuss her negatively regardless of how we may feel about her choices and lifestyle. Her children may somehow see the negativity and that would not allow them the chance to grieve and heal.
I sabotage myself in dating everyday. I tell myself I am not beauty or good enough to attract a soulmate. Based on past experiences I don't want a man close to me. I feel history of abuse will repeat itself.
I'm 22 and I would love your advice about how to be 100% confident, dating in your 20's, etc. I found your channel yesterday and it's one of my favourites already! Also can you please give tips on how you can attract a successful man at my age? I don't mind dating older but older guys tell me I look too young lol. I would really appreciate your advice and thanks for your other advice videos, they are GOLD. ❤❤❤👏👏👏
So in summary shera, you dont tell him the L word unless he declares it to you and it doesnt have to be true?! Hmm. You have given me something to think about. 🙀🤔🤔🤔
