+t t Girl my mama either! She does nothing to fix herself up outwardly except for lipstick every blue moon, but she has a very doting new husband LMAO. Life is strange, but I had to learn beauty tips on my own.
I have to unlearn a lot of bad examples that I got from my (belated) mom. I hate that I have to reprogram myself in my 30s and learn about makeup, clothes, flirting, etc. But better late than never.
This woman is in her 30s & dropping so much knowledge on us with the wisdom of a 70yrs old. Things our pick me moms didn't teach us & values our dad didn't teach us
Girl the time wasters will never stop, they literally never get enough, you have to pick them up and toss them out like Uncle Phil thats the ONLY way! And slam the door closed or they will still come crawling back 😂
Valerie W yes and make sure the windows and back door is boarded down too oh and don’t forget the chimney because they will try to slide down that lol make sure every area is secured because these leeches and blood suckers will try anyway to slither back into your life and steal your time.
I realized this too. I never sent paragraphs but I learned that men always want what they can’t have! When you seem uninterested they’ll chase you and go to no lengths to have you.
I had relationship without sex. But i had a lot of nice things. He sure had side chick but after all he still searching for me telling me im the best one and it's 2 years now lol. So ladies...be smart and play dumb.
@@azucenakennedy4850 no!! Stop all contact right now! Guys ask to be friends after a breakup so that they can make sure you still have feelings for them. If you still have feelings for them then they can convince you into having casual sex with no commitment.
@@kya7566 yup... Even if there isn't sex involved, an "open door policy" (as in you don't cut him off completely) means he can yank your chain anytime he wants to. Even now, all he has to do is invite her for coffee and she'll be jumping for joy. That's what they love, a girl just waiting to be validated
Shera speaks so much truth here. Some women think that just because they had amazing sex with a guy, that's going to bond him to her. It's a lie. Women will never win the sex game. If you keep having sex with the guy who has not invested in you in any way, you will eventually start having feelings for him that he will not reciprocate. Even if a guy is a great catch, you need to abstain from sex until you're sure he's emotionally bonded to you. Also, with so many STD's going around, you have to look out for #1.
Yeah I got bonded and it was so difficult to let go off him. I'm sure he has slept with other women, but I give up with this guy. Honestly I do not ever want to text or talk or anything with him since he made me feel like a piece of craft, after I'm such a lovely creature
I divorced a dusty I was so blind. Now I know my worth. I met an amazing man 11 years older than me. He fully take care of me he just bought me a large house 🏠😁😁we travel and enjoy nice dinners. Dusty WHO 😂 Lmao
CactusBB Vegas my boyfriend just plans everything vacations and dinners so he pays. I guess it just in his nature. He is from the south. He believes that men pay for everything.
To the guy that says you are teaching women how to be devious, well then men should stop being devious to women. Women that are nice and give up sex early usually finish last.
This woman is always dropping gems so listen up ladies! I was ghosted by a doctor who wined and dined me although I never slept with him. He was divorced for a year, dating now and told me he had slept with two other women who paid for their dinner dates. He recently texted me out of the blue after 2 months like nothing ever happened to ask me out. I told him I am busy and then ghosted his ass in return and feel so empowered because I'm obviously still on his mind (just like SheraRa said)
kola kane .. I am trying But my emotions won’t let me whew Chile I have a lot of pride though ! My pride makes me look like I don’t care too much but deep down inside I be suffering with my emotions 😩😩 I need help .
Dated a man for two years, traveled tgt, gave me money, we were committed,. It was wonderful. I brought up marriage and he ghosted me after 2 yrs, I couldnt believe it. I was devastated. Never say I love you or bring up marriage first. Ive learned my lesson.
How to get him to propose: if things are going well and you have been in a commitment for a while, slowly pull away and if he asks why you became distant, tell him you’re not sure about the relationship anymore. Pull away first and become more and more distant and they’ll lose their shit and propose if they really love you. It’s a gamble but it can work.
I was with an 'easy woman' for 3 years. No ghosting just lots of good sex with an insatiable woman. Her friends got jealous of her looking so good and happy. She got paranoid that I would leave her as has happened in her past so she left me. No regrets wish her well. But I was also with easy women that bored me after a couple of weeks, something they had come to expect. My advice to 'easy women'...make space for yourself and be at times unavailable...being too available will make you be taken for granted and disrespected by most men.
That's it. She wasn't the one no matter how much she did for you. You don't even sound like you miss her. 😂 Shera doesn't want us overworked on the wrong guy.
Yasss Shera! 🙌🙌🙌 Ladies, don't be afraid to 'lose' a man if you require more from him! Don't be afraid to lose em because of your standards. Men are in abundance! There are plenty chances/opportunities to hone your feminine/goddess skills. 😘😘😍😍
So what you have is small minority of top men f# @kn the majority of young prime women. These women, get pumped and dumped, the top men don't return their phone calls or texts in timely manner. The top men will make plans then flake out because he found a hotter girl to f# @k that night. Funny enough this is something women do to the men not in the top 20 percent of males. So these 80 percent of women can get casual sex, but can't get commitment from these top men with options. At the same time these women want the bottom 80 percent of men, who their not giving sexual access to, as emotional tampons, men to do favors for them, give attention and validation, while these women wait for one of these top men to call for f# @k session. The only female friends that you should have are ones that your f# @kn, anything else in 9 out of 10 cases your being played.
It took me wasting a lot of time hanging around pick me's who married dusties, and kept pushing me to get with dusties, to truly appreciate and understand what Shera is teaching us. I will not even engage in any discussion with pick me's about men including my mother who has been the proud breadwinner for her dusty. When you are around women with the same mentality, different energy. Ladies we are the prize and listen to everything Shera is saying
Same. They would brag how they cook for their men and get them gifts while they didn't receive anything on Christmas or have the bills paid... so lame! Or some would tell how they have free sex with men they met on Tinder... disgusting! Also, the pickmes would always have smth to say about me wearing makeup and heels coz real men prefer "natural women" lol while their dusties would be in my dm 😂
My used to be friend does this all the time and stays crying on the phone to me when she gets ghosted. Insanity, you do the same thing over and over and expect a different result.
Why did stop calling or texting back is because there wasn't anything built in the first place. It was all lust and desire and hornyness nothing else. The problem wasn't me alone but mostly my fault bc i allowed this person in my life bc i was desperate to have a boyfriend. Desperate to be love to be inlove. Not only desperate but i loved the idea of love so much. MY BIGGEST mistakes were putting some stranger on a pedestal and trying to convince them with my love to choose me.
Great video. You instruct women on how to be strong, strategic and set theirselves up and even their legacy. I think some people lose sight of the fact you are telling woman to value theirselves more. You have said that if a woman doesn’t want to stay home she doesn’t have to, she can still work and save her money while her husband spoils her. Woman want security and men want sex, that’s fine. It is what it is. To all of the positive women who comment; you guys are awesome and I wish you all the best 😀
My best female friend slept with a (rich and handsome) man on the night they met and they’re happily married now! Me - I’m forever single... she’s sooo bloody lucky. Always have been.
One small thing I see when I'm grocery shopping is that women will throw things down hard into their cart instead of setting them down. Small things like this make you seem angry.
You reminded me of something. I went grocery shopping and was loading my grocery bags from the cart into my trunk, placing them in there lightly and taking my time. I didn't realize there was an older man parked on the next aisle (drove a Range Rover) watching me and he complemented me (said I'm a beautiful lady). I smiled and said thank you and we went about our separate business. Made me remember to watch how I do things, even something as simple as placing grocery items away.👍🏽
My mother told me I wasn’t a woman, she was right! She didn’t teach me any of the things taught on this channel! Look at me being empowered to be grown and in a very evolved manner! Blessed!
"You owe him NOTHING!" Exactly SheRA! So sad so many women and young ladies fall into this trap despite being warned, NEVER let a man pressure you into sex! EVEN IF YOU WANT IT! BAD! We have sexual urges just as bad as men and it sucks big time...but WE have to play societies games invented by guess what? MEN! You don't have to be a Gold Digger but protect YOURSELF! Because trust and believe HE WILL take care of himSELF. And the men that say they will GHOST you if you don't have sex with them but date or meeting 3, DO NOT listen to them because they hate women (his problem) and are just trying to trip you up. Protect your womanhood, Dusties are worst then Catty Women and they don't want you to get ahead & will say one second they hate when women play hard to get BUT THEN will say you are easy after you give them EXACTLY what they have been begging for, FOR SEVERAL months! Basically DON'T believe what a man says until you REALLY know him and that takes a while, easy clue is if he is trying to have sex with you on DAY ONE or in less then week or even TWO, treat him like he would treat you and GHOST him MAYBE even trash his name to people lol... Tell them how bad his breath smelled 😂
You are so fknig right!!!! This "free spirit bullshit" will work against you all the time. Let's thank this new wave of feminism that is selling us this crap of " being the same as men." We are psychologically different. We want different things from the relationship and we go about it in two different ways. Period!
Exactly 💯💯 I almost fell into that lifestyle but it stopped quickly. I believe alot of women wanted/want to behave that way because they got played or ghosted and think that acting like a man and moving like one, will change the results. But that's not the case and it only works for a select few of women.
Don’t let ppls actions control your emotions. And then yes attack. Lol it works trust me I got thru divorce and got my way bc I stopped being emotional and he felt dumb. Fighting someone who isn’t fighting but I was plotting for sure! Lol
Recettes et conseils beauté pratiques Your welcome and I swear if I could do it anyone can. I was very emotional and defensive but when I let it go I was much more relaxed. And life has been way easier.
Valerie W Yes he did and everyone around felt like they knew how I would react to everything. I just kept hearing ‘I know you’ too much so I had to do some self evaluation. And I realized I wasn’t a pick me for men but just for those I loved and they took advantage. I had to be the person I knew I was and I don’t regret it and I have more respect from them.
This thread is infinite. lot's of good advice. SheRa, thank you for your advices, I was raised in a nice family but I have realized this world is full of devious evil men. I have always been good and I had to become masculine being a single mom, divorced. Femininity is so important, that is why I love going dancing because in the dance, I am very feminine. Thank you for all your advice, I am taking notes. Honestly I feel sad I have to get to this point where I cannot trust men. They have been really ugly to me. But thank you because I agree that we have to get a gain somehow. And they are okay with that. If a man is not okay with being responsible, bye bye dusty.
D Starr Gardener D Starr Gardener You’re weeding out the users, the manipulators, & the men who wanted you for 1 thing! Dont take this as a bad thing 👌🏼 if a man has good intentions & wants you, then he will still pursue You no matter what!!
As a Muslim and from the Middle East we have the same rules. Everything you said in this video is part of our religion, culture and morals, and most our families teach us this but of course a lot of women don’t listen and they just give it easily thinking if they do, the man will bond and attach to them! Islam value women, she should be treated and taken care of like a diamond 💎
I don't think men ghost easy women simply because they are easy. A man ghosts a woman because he can find another woman. He is able to replace because other women will take sloppy seconds or a bitten apple or they are simply naive and they fall for the "he likes me" or "he cares about me"
Right. It can be different reasons though because all situations will vary and some will have similarities. I remember when I thought a guy ghosted me, didn't hear from him for two weeks. Come to find out, he had a live in girlfriend that seen out messages and broke his phone 😐 such a mess but then I've seen women get ghosted because the guy just wasn't feeling them.
If this woman can benefit him in other ways, financially, or providing him with connections to a better life, then he might hold on to her until he gets what he wants. But other than that, what she said is 100% true. It’s even true if all you did was sexting, or phone sex, or talk about sexual topics in your conversations. I had a guy come onto me via text message exchange. I was dumb and decided to play along that time, thinking that because it’s virtual, it won’t ruin anything. He hasn’t looked at me the same since. Moral of the story: if he’s sexting you, ignore, or ask him if he had a bit too much to drink and maybe it’s best if you speak to him some other time. Don’t respond to his bait. It’s a slut test. If you even entertain the idea of it in your communications, he’ll orgasm, and think of you as less than nothing.
@@notsonice7633 you are so correct with what you said. Allowing men to talk about sex or hint at something sexual gives them the impression that you are just someone to sleep with and then discard. Nip it in the bud and check them the first time around. I had a guy that even told me “I was gonna say something, but it wasn’t kosher.” He was implying that it wasn’t appropriate to talk about sex, he really did respect me. It’s also very true that men treat you based on how you treat yourself. If you are bending over in your pics, wearing scantily clad clothes, having a potty mouth etc, they are going to treat you exactly that way. Many women don’t like this, however this is the truth. Be a feminine woman of dignity, grace and respect and you will always win. Men open doors for me, they don’t curse around me. Good luck ladies ❤
You are absolutely right. One thing I discovered in observing different situations is that most men that really value women will slow a woman down if she is moving too fast, especially if he wants to respect her and has long-term intentions. Some women may need to be educated that men sometimes play games. I grew up listening to my teacher read books like Cinderella, which shows absolute perfection in her relationship with Prince Charming.
I love you shera❤️❤️ .. wheneva m emotional, I jus see one of ya vids n I get my power back!!! Thank you. Each n evry word comin out from ya mouth is jus a life lesson to many.. keep doing ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Shera you are the most real comedian i've ever listened to. the funniest but most valuable info no one else will tell you, absolutely invaluable. Thank you!!!
Thank you Shera, I just found you yesterday and still watching your channels. You have taught me ALOT. Your my big sis in my head, lol. Thank you Queen 🥰
Exactly! That’s it right there. Figure out from the get go what you want with this man before you get freaky, freak. I say the same if you are a young woman lookin to have fun then protect yourself and do you. However, gotta move with a diff strategy if the end goal is marriage or commitment
We need your skin care routine Mrs. "I'm almost 40" lol. You barley even look 30! I don't see any aging on your face. Please enlighten us with your youthful skin secrets!
Your point is right on top!!! I got discarded by my hubby after 25 yrs of marriage after I build the family and him. Well, i hope he is happy. I’m free and in peace. It’s my time🎉🎉🎉
Damn i WISH my parents taught me game!! It would've saved me an entire life of BS from all aspects- me, work etc school doesn't teach u real life stuff & to have ur mom back you up like this is incredible. never play by the rules bc that is 100% how you stay at the bottom. period!!
I was supposed to hang out with my new friend tonight. I ended up not going out I had drinks w my cousin n didn’t answer the phone I’m happy inside because Guys like to chase
