Avoidant Partner Says They Love Me But Won't Take Action 

In the end, what matters is whether someone else shows up. A person can feel whatever is inside them, what reaches you are the actions. We have contact with each other through actions. It's no use just feeling, It is necessary to move according to your own desire. What Briana gives us here and I think is the most important thing is: don't allow the other person to drag you into their personal drama -- especially if they are lost and lack self-awareness.

Words and actions must match, if they don’t, believe the less committed. Not as a punishment… but for your own self care. You can’t make someone act like they love you.

I needed this! After surviving narcissistic abuse and being an empath who is a recovering codependent, it's easy to have your time wasted by these types of people. Thanks to content like yours, I am able to see it for what it is and 🏃‍♀️before my self-esteem and mental health gets destroyed.

Yes! There is an untrustworthiness about aligning what they say and acting on what they feel. Everything you’re saying is 1000% true!

It's is wise to establish why a partner is incongruent and if it connects to one's own conduct. Always try fathom cause vs efffect I'm a secure attached but my ex partner kept allowing family involvement (she was FA becoming BA, with silent BPD traits and co dependent re family) causing me to develop a bit of anxiety and especially frustration. Constant exposive sabotage of love (lovely moments) caused me to pre empt the cycle and withdraw (not exit) until there was balance again. But in essence I began to have to hold back and this hurt me quite a bit ... Entrained me? Ironically I was perceived in end as the avoidant and discarded by a short text - lovely - when I was actually dealing with a severe avoidant person - in most sustainable way possible. Insidious. Fascinated because I truly ticked all the boxes for them - this person loved me like crazy, taken by my presence (I made sure to fulfill all love languages at least in beginning) (BPD special person?) but yet could not commit herself to herself? to her own feelings? It seemed... Curious as to the effect of time as the bias wears of and the memories return... Really enjoying my own space & fascinated

Great perspective! Grief n safety vs. hope and anxiety. Broke up 3 months ago w a DA after almost 3 years living in uncertainty n lack of intention. Still hurting but making progress. Huge thank you for your approach. ❤

I love it❤Exactly truthful!! That’s exactly how I acted, connected with my inner self and trust my guts feelings!!🙏

I loved the end of the story, I'll take that advice! 😊

Great perspective, thank you

It's _exhausting_ to be dragged along like this. I was willing to walk with her as she started to open up and whitnessed her first fragile attempts to act on it, but she always, always pulled back and ran off into the distance time and time again. I do believe her, whispering that she wants but can't! It's not her fault, but after 3 years i'm fine with moving on.

Nice! Flick it away! 🙏💜🌀

Great video. Thank you ❤ I will flick flick flick away unworthy thoughts!

Nice! I like it!

Amen sister