Be More Confident And Attractive : Secure Attachment Style 

Yup we all here man, its sad in a way that we have to go through that to open our eyes, but the great thing is that we opened our eyes and now we are all improving ourselves. Stay strong my brother we will get there 💪

Honestly, it's all perspective. You could see the breakup as negative... OR... you could see it at positive, in the facet that you gained so much more value from it than you would have had you stayed in the relationship.

Now that we can see, lets move forward

when you said i make wise decisions that are healthy for me... loooove i am writing down that affirmation. I am struggling with that one! To believe in myself

@@sxyteesa0890 awesome 👍

Someones bragging, I am the opposite😂

@@mikkey246 lol

Alexander I wish you good luck. I hope you get her back. I'm holding on to hope for my ex also. When she dumped me in February, I did everything wrong, crying, begging, writing letters, etc. After I found Coach Craig's channel I was able to pull myself together and become more confident. Although we are still not back together yet, I have faith and confidence that some time in the future she will give me another chance. I will continue to work on myself so that I will be ready. Stay focus, and keep on doing what you're doing.

Sta Process thanks man goodluck to you as well. Stay hopeful, took mine 4-5 months to reach out.

Alexander Yaaasss!! Wonderful words!

Alexander this is excellent - thanks for sharing your story!

Hope everything worked out for you for the best :)

I feel the same way...i understand where your coming from.its better to serve your purpose and not your spouse.

Smart...

better mountain then her wimp mate

Exactly guys I like it 😉

Big hug to you...had gone through similar feelings with my breakup. Keep the faith...things will get better...

@@hamptongal62 Thankyou Terry! Can't believe what a slump I was in when I wrote this a year ago. Life is completely different now. New people and new situations. For anyone reading this and going through this... Keep your head up, I know it seems like darkness without end, but It will get better. As for that ex, I dont even think about her anymore lol. In fact, I forgive her and wish her well.

Going through a breakup after 7 years together right now man it’s only been a month and only 2 weeks of no contact. It’s beyond rough but we have to stay strong. Don’t do something you can’t take back stay strong brother.

@@WeAreReFormSniping any updates on your situation?

@@WeAreReFormSniping hows the situation now? Its been 8 months.

thats awful. hugs i cant imagine. 😒😲

Some people shouldnt be parents

❤

Believe me this kept alive I did not even know about it back then. I had notes in my mirror so I could get my thoughts straight, it truly worked for me. I got to get back to do it again.

Yes!

I will start doing this

You're back! Haven't seen your comments lately. Hehe. Fellow coach craig's fan 😆

Hey Clara! :) Funny :) Indeed I have not commented in a while... I was acting avoidant towards youtube :p :D

Same here, brother..... This material really helps in understanding where the root of all my issues are coming from !!! All this has helped in my own personal growth

wolverin style i am loved protected guided by the universe

It's been raining in Orlando for about a week!

Coach Craig Kenneth oh no hope you guys are t getting flooded

Coach Craig Kenneth I love your vids Craig, they are helping me a bit... but I hope you make a video about my story. Gosh my story is really hard... So, I met this guy through a dating site while I was an international flight attendant so it was easy for me to fly to were he was (long and tiring but not that expensive) and so after a week and a half of texting and videocalling I decided to go meet him in person (he’s in the states I’m based in SouthAmerica) He was the sweetest, most adorable man I’ve ever met and everything I have ever wanted... we kissed the first night, he told me he loved me the first night (which scared me a bit), he said he had never told that before even though he had ex gfs. Btw he’s a pastor, and we spent the weekend together it was like a movie... I was there for 4 days and the night before I left, he told me he knew it was crazy fast but he really wanted to ask me to be his gf and I said yes. Everything felt perfect, I flew there every time I could ( 12 hours away) and spent there even if a couple of days. In December I had the opportunity to take a leave of absence from my job and I discussed with him the possibility of being together all December and seeing if what we felt was just because of our short term times or if we truly were good LIVING together. I met his parents that came from another state, and we spent Christmas together but I had to fly back on New Year’s Eve to be able to work, then I had 2 weeks off in January and he asked me to come to Mn where he was visiting his grandma for me to meet her and I did, also meeting the rest of his moms family. Our birthdays are in February 13th and 14th (I’m 31 he’s 32) and we celebrated together and spent them together, after that I had to fly some more, but just being apart from each other was TOO painful for both of us so we started planing for me to quit my job and move in with him. I have to add that during this time he would ask me to get married for papers (so I could stay there with him) but I refused it every time because I think of marriage as an important step even if just on paper and didn’t want to do that for another purpose, so I was looking into getting a student visa. In March I had another opportunity for a leave of absence and we lived together all March. During all these trips I kept leaving stuff in his house, so to be able to move little by little. He kept talking of making things more serious and kept telling he wanted me to move in ASAP so even though we had first agreed on August, I went back to my base to quit my job in the beginning of April and he bought tickets to come to South America and meet my family at the end of April. I quit my job on a Tuesday, and I was under a lot of stress just feeling nervous and scared and when I felt this way before, he always reassured me and made me feel better except that Friday. That Friday he had told me he had a very busy day, and that he was going to try to text me but to keep that in mind. Again... this was a very stressful week for me and when I knew that later that night the reason why he wasn’t texting me back or calling me was that he was playing board games I got extremely mad at him because I felt lonely and doing everything over here on my own, I really needed to feel he was with me. And so when he called me later that night... I was awful to him and told him I wanted to break up (not really meaning it). He tried to reason with me and tell me to talk on another moment but I was fuming and wouldn’t accept even telling him I was going to block him. We hanged up and the second afterwards I knew I had made a TERRIBLE mistake, and tried calling back but he was already asleep with his phone on silence. We talked the next day and as much as I apologized he wouldn’t have it and he broke up with me saying he was giving up... I couldn’t believe it... then he wouldn’t talk to me for days and 5 days later sent me a picture of my things in boxes and bags in his basement... then he blocked me from everywhere except emails). I am desperate, jobless and don’t know what to do. I know I ROYALLY fucked up, but... I know he is the love of my life I am sure of this. I just wasn’t ready for all of the pressure so fast and then panicked... it’s been over a month, during which we have just communicated to coordinate how or where he could mail my stuff back (he already did) and he was super cold and at times mean to me. After my stuff was mailed out and we really didn’t have any other “reason” to talk i tried to go no contact (because at the beginning of the break up I had spammed him with apology emails, texts, etc begging and pleading to him). I went one week of no contact successfully but last night I got tipsy in my house while watching mamma Mia and after crying my eyes out with the song “The winner takes it all” I emailed him just saying that “watching mamma Mia, singing along to the winner takes it all” and crying so much. He hasn’t shown any emotion since the breakup, but in some emails he has told me he is hurting and extremely sad but he stands by his decision and thinks the break up was for the best. Can’t afford to pay for your coaching right now but I will for sure try to in the future, if you could help me in any way Craig.... how could he want to marry me, told me I was the love of his life, make me quit my job and move and then breakup and be so radical about it???

Margaret is so good!!! Great video!!! Thanks again!

Coach Margaret and Coach Craig I really admire your work. Longterm sub. Short and sweet. I am a 31 year old female. I looked in the mirror into my eyes when Margaret said to say I love you and I immediately started crying and looked away. It's at this point I realised I must not love myself. I love others very much (although have quite an avoidant attachment) but how on earth do I learn to love myself when my very core being shuns away when I try to help it? Thankyou for all you do ❤

@12:23 - You talked about your Skype that whistled your theme song... No joke here, Craig. I've been watching these vids for several months now and I saw my ex drive by me awhile ago. I was walking on the sidewalk. When I saw her go by, I got so nervous and petrified that I started whistling your theme song, and just repeated that for awhile until I got to work. Meanwhile in my brain, I was remembering many things you said in the videos and our Skype sessions...about confidence, appearing unaffected by the breakup, etc. Your theme song would soothe the most stubborn Pavlovian dog out there! Don't ever change it! Thanks for everything, Craig & Margaret. :) Andrew (in Japan)

Craig.. I met a girl last night from Bumble, and she was super cute, and visibly into me all night... Doing the hair twirling, looking me directly in the eyes at all times, and going to the bathroom several times (likely to just "break the seal" haha, but I felt like she kept trying to make sure she was looking her best for me.).. Anyway, she begged me to come over her place after 3 hours at the bar, and we had sex. I played my cards right, but I felt like AGAIN, things are going so fast. She wanted me to sleep over. Why do I always attract these types that wanna go super fast? Most guys would be congratulating me for hooking up with a cutie, but it kinda feels empty in a way. At first I denied her the sex, but she looked like she was really upset about it, so then I just made my move and it happened. Should I just have walked away?

I neeed.. thats Bob !!! he was calling the therapist from the general store (with his comfort fish "Gil" hanging around his neck) when he took the bus to try to find the location of where the vacation home of his therapist was.....

Most of avoidant think their childhood was "good enough" but it wasn't.

Very easy to sign up for a coaching. She’s amazing!

@@CoachCraigKenneth only if you can afford craig. Being a student and fighting anxiety is hard.

Mariella Rodriguez. First thing you need you do is find work...throw yourself into that..next make a routine for yourself and don't get off of it. Get up and do all those things the same as much as possible everyday...I find that order is some control...especially when you feel out of control...jog or yoga or something to release energy...listen to motivational speakers...Coach, Les Brown, Tony Robbins...I can't believe the transformation I have made by doing this...keep trying...its ok to feel the way you feel. If you have a bad day...there is a new one tomorrow...Good luck on your journey!

Cynthia Davison I found a job, it pays a lot less than my previous one but it’s something... and have been listening to Prince EA and Jay Shetty... but can’t get my ex out of my head and heart... and I don’t know what to do next about him

Mariella Rodriguez don't do anything. Do you...step away...think about what he is feeling. I'm sure he's hurting. By doing anything anxious you are essentially making them try to solve or sooth your anxiety. It's too much weight to carry, when they are hurting too. It sux...but I have come to realize I must be quiet to him. It has to be his decision to do something or not. You will be ok. I can tell you there is no time limit that this will actually make sense. I have been anxiety riddled for 3 yrs. This channel has opened my eyes. Keep watching. Cry if you need to. You must work on yourself! Tell yourself its gonna be ok. If the job is not what you want now...keep looking still. Do not give up on yourself! Just remember this...a human can do anything they want. Start wanting better for yourself!! It will be better...self actualization and affirmations will help. Investigate yourself and your issues....make the bad good!!! That's what I have doing...I'm better...not perfectly better...I still miss him. But I can't do anything about it. Talk to a friend you trust...

Cynthia Davison you have been missing him for 3 years? Have you had a coaching session with Craig? Gosh.... I know he can do whatever he wants, but so then... my therapist keeps telling me he never ACTUALLY loved me... and that makes me feel stupid and depressed

Mariella Rodriguez yes, I had 3 coachings. But my anxiety was out of control. We were engaged. I was blindsided. I won't go into it, but there was some trauma in the middle of our relationship. It was never resolved and just avoided by both of us. I'm sure it lead to our breakup. I acted so anxious after. He did some too. We both goofed it up. I've been in nc for months. Last month he did a indirect direct contact and we met for lunch....boy did I look like a brand new woman. I lost 30 pounds changed my hair style and smiled the whole time...he told me I looked fantastic and happy. I'm back in nc. I never said a word after that. Coach told me its not a sprint...its a marathon. Let it be...if he wants you, go slow...all the stuff you said about your relationship says he has some issue himself. That's his burden to resolve. I'm not a therapist...but this channel is the for real...listen to all of the videos..it helped. I listen to them while I sleep too. Just know you are a good person. Don't rely on someone to make you feel good. I did that and I have had to work hard to stop it. Its childhood trauma. Look for your weaknesses...make those strong. I have issues with anxiety and tend make everything worse in my head..its the story you are telling yourself..stop self blame...stop the what ifs...that is fantasy...its gonna be ok...but you have to make it ok. Even if he didn't love you....there are so many people in the world...I recently started dating again...you wont match with everyone...but you will meet nice people.

if you re looking for validation you are on the wrong channel. they are therapists