Bride Who Eloped Tries To Appease Her Mum By Picking A Dress She Likes | Say Yes To The Dress 

My mother was crushingly hurt when i eloped & im sorry about that. We just had my 2 brothers there. But i could not see a way to invite her where it would have been a happy day (she just spreads strife) - and i really wanted it to be a happy day. It was my wedding & i think i had a right to that.

There’s usually a reason for eloping. Usually it’s to avoid drama.

@@user-hx7mi7ml8u I know it is tough but listen up, who is the one to care if the other didn’t help? I mean sure she is your daughter if you possibly want then start thinking of different scenarios that don’t involve you of hurting her or get along but don’t get along with money it’s the worst solution, try to talk to her ask her why she did that and if she refuses then don’t start with the topic right away just have a normal convo maybe irl or maybe on phone but best of wishes to you! I bet you were a great parent!

@@user-hx7mi7ml8u I’m sorry for your hurt. 26 years ago, I too left my mother out of my wedding because of problems she refused to address when I asked my brother to give me away instead of her husband, who I did not like. Her husband threw his toys out of the pram, declaring that he wouldn’t attend the wedding unless he was giving me away and if he didn’t come, she wouldn’t be there either. Her silence was deafening, there was no demurral from her at any stage, so the wedding went ahead without her or her husband. If I was to ever marry again, I would not invite her…there’d be no second chances. To be clear, they didn’t contribute in any way to the wedding.

@@kitty62862 my 3rd husband and I eloped, but it wasn't about drama his mom didn't actually like me. She and I get alone a lot better because we've been together 12 1/2 years and married 8 1/2 years.

If the bride really loved it and was strong in her authentic self, she would have stuck to her guns. How many episodes of SYTTD have we seen where family has talked a bride out of a dress to later have the bride find the "perfect" dress a few gowns later that they are ecstatic about and they are so grateful that they kept trying on dresses. Sometimes family IS right.

Agree what the bride wants is the most important

@@kp4911 I do agree with you! If they loved it SO much and it was the absolute perfect dress then likely they wouldn't care what anyone else thought. The MAJORITY of the time, anyways. HOWEVER, we do know that some brides are very passive, shy, and can be easily coerced into agreeing with family members or just going with what they think of them instead of what they truly think themselves. In fact I'd say the majority of brides are at least heavily swayed by family opinions, especially their mother's. I think a lot of times they'll find something THEY love and would choose themselves, but if family hates it then they keep going until they find something else they love that family also loves. Then when their family loves it, it just makes it easier for the bride to see it too.

It's because the store takes 6-8 months or even a year to deliver the dresses and if the bride chooses something without putting too much thoughts into it, after so many months they might not like the dress. Sometimes they even end up wanting a new dress in a rush and spend lots of money to make that happen. That's why brides bring so many people with them to make the best decision and I'm sure most of the time the entourage oppose the bride out of the best intentions in their hearts, even if it may sound insensitive

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Well she did say she wanted sexy & skanky 🤷‍♀️

I not real fond of any pnina dress there not that pretty.

Totally agree.....they just say how can i be the closest to naked as possible so that its not illegal

lmaoooo i was about to comment this😂😂😂

I don’t think she actually loved any of them really. She never seemed that enthused by any of them

True. She looks like a model.

So is her mom she is her mothers twin

She has the greenest eyes I've ever seen

She would not be happy with those dresses. She wants high end designer, and Lancashire doesn't have those. She also wants Pnina, and Lancashire does not carry those. I really don't understand why you and other people think that Gok actually works at that store. He doesn't. He was there for the filming of SYTTD. Therefore, he is not in charge of which dresses the store has in stock. Then I don't understand why you would think that this bride would be comfortable in an Essence of Australia dress. Show me one EofA dress with a sheer corset, feathers, and bling that this bride liked. You get comaught up in the production of STTTD. Gok plays mental health counselor, and you expect all brides to need that. They don't. It is a reality TV show where women apply and the producers decide who gets on. Every show tells a story, and Lancashire (like Curvy Brides) almost always has to have some problem that he fixes. Sometimes you don't see budgets, because that is not related to the story. Also notice that Lancashire is a newer production. The lighting is different. The style of dresses are closer to today's fashion. You don't know what Lancashire would have had during this episode, since this episode is very old (look at Randy's hair - no grey). Randy stopped working there in 2014. Lancashire wasn't even a twinkle in a producer's eye then. Gok is a great stylist. But there are many great stylists around, and this bride seems to have gotten what she asked for in NYC. So why on earth would you suggest she make these women fly across the pond for a dress she wouldn't even like? (Remember that she bought a Pnina).

I was wondering too-eloping can be for several reasons but I wonder if they wanted to avoid this to begin with from the family

Exactly!!!!!

It's nothing but an episode of "See How Rich I Am" theater. I've known a few seriously wealthy people, and I'm here to tell you that they like a deal better than any crew I've ever seen. It's how they *keep* the money they've got.

it also kind of excludes dresses that might have looked better at lesser $. to me it’s all about the design not millions of bucks.

It seems that her desire to show off that she could afford any dress she liked, overrode her losing the leverage you mentioned.

They don’t necessarily see all the inventory though. There are still a lot of dresses they wouldn’t know about if they don’t reveal their budget.

That is a good idea but mom probably missed that whole wedding prep experience.

I have friends that had a Judge marry them at a courthouse on a Wednesday. Six months later they threw a reception and she wore a seafoam green ball gown and the theme was "under the sea". It was so much fun because there was no ceremony only the reception and everyone was so comfortable and the bride and groom were able to visit with all their guests. So much fun

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Sorry my accidentally hit the . Button I think their were more issues , she is not a 20 year old Bride I think the Mom felt left out the neighbors were alot more supportive yet the daughter wanted to please the Mom .It was sad that the Bride had every dress torn down including the one she picked until Randy got to her real issue . Moms are there to support .As a mother you can't control everything especially adults . I'm glad they were open to a compromise and the She liked the final dress. Hopefully Mom will see her in the original also

So agree.. .. most brides can wear a 100$ dress and be GORGOEUS~!~!!!

I wish I had $13000 to waste on a dress I don't need.

As we say where I come from "More money than sense"!!

Mom and daughter have ISSUES! That money would have been better spent on counseling for the two of them.

it is her reception dress. for the party to tell everyone she got married.

​@@TxJanna If it is a reception dress, why the veil.

Yes, while there might be a very good reason the daughter eloped, that we don't know about, her mother looks devastated that her daughter excluded her from the wedding.

Yes and if they are on good terms then why did she have to elope?

That is her daughter and mom can say that a dress is not flattering. I agree with mom. That dress was not flattering.

No, I had to agree with the mom. That dress did not look the best on that bride. It was not flattering.

That's fair. I must ask, though, what is classy? I can find pictures of aristocrats and royalty from centuries past showing off their cleavage, for example. Meanwhile many people judge a woman for showing off her leg or even her damn shoulders. My definition of classy isn't related to how garish a dress is, but how a person behaves instead. You can wear the most dignified and modest gown while acting like a street walking whore. You can have the most revealing and dramatic dress while behaving like a cultured and polite princess.

They are so tacky

Agreed. Super hoochie

Only people with money and lack of taste will buy them dresses

Not a fan of her dresses. Don't get it!

my question exactly! she should have had a ceremony here with her mom involved with the original dress and bought a party dress, not a wedding gown for the big reception afterwards. Her mom was clearly heartbroken at not being involved in her wedding that is something moms dream of and some dads too from the time their daughter is born so i understand the mom's feelings but why spend all that money when you dont need to!

Or why not just get an actual party dress? Silly and wasteful, both in money and resources.

When the rich can look beyond their own self soothing needs, the world will be a better place.

When one person has a beautiful figure, there is always something else someone can focus on. I personally agree with the mom in that the one silky dress wasn't very flattering in that the bling was overly heavy on top and it gave her no shape. Maybe the mother was looking for a dress that enhanced her figure, not cover it up. Just like a big princess dress may not be as flattering either on her than the fitted ones. IDK, I am just guessing.

I know, all that money for another dress that is soon to be relegated to the back of the closet. What a waste.

@@dresser6135 I mean, isn't what you said true of every wedding dress? If I was a chick, I would use my wedding dress for at least a couple Halloween costumes over the years.

That's why you get a colored dress. You can wear it for a while, there is no good reason to wear white (Queen Victoria started the trend of wearing white), most women wore their best dress for a,wedding, usually a red, blue or green, no one had a white dress made specifically for a wedding. I say, party down, dress as you please for the party. Mom's right it's not a wedding, it's the reception.

I don’t get it either. Why not wear the dress she actually got married in to the reception?

Agreed

I'm sorry you lost your mom, but not everyone has a fantastic relationship. My guess is the family brought in drama and they wanted a moment that was just them. It's about the couple. You're doing it wrong if you make it about anything BUT the couple. She doesn't owe her mom another ceremony. I have a feeling the celebration they're throwing is because mom and family were upset. I lost my dad. It sucks.

@@melissagroce2660 they did elope but were having a reception to tell everyone they eloped.

@@melissagroce2660 ofcourse nobody honestly owes anything to anyone but still there is something know as feelings and love. Wedding is a big day and parents do dream about it specially daughter's.

Exactly. I have a feeling she didn’t buy any of them & this was one of the fake yes’s. She was just so unexcited by them all, although she seemed to have the most desire for the 2nd last one. I think she just wanted a beautiful party dress but was trying to involve her very hurt Mum so was trying to make it a wedding dress too.

The world would be a better place if the rich made more charitable contributions to the needy, instead of always thinking about making themselves happy.

@@bettetetreault1029 100% right . I daily work around 9 to 10 hours except traveling. Doing hard work to run life smoothly but I always spare some money for needy which give me satisfaction, inner peace and happiness.

Most sensible comment

Yes, she made the worst ones look good

100% agree! I hope that was a fake yes like so many seem to be. The second last dress was the best for her by far, but even that she didn’t seem that excited by

Agreed

I would not say it is ugly but is not the best one I have seen.

That's simply how shops work. A car dealer doesn't sell a Volvo to a client with an unlimited budget either. When people state that, they want the world to SEE how affluent they are. Just plain old Pride.

You really don't though. Keep in mind, people are chosen for this show for specific reasons and asked to bring in family members and stories with drama, then the show is edited to ramp up the drama and create a "bad guy." There was one bride who left comments on a youtube video asking people not to judge her mother harshly because SYTTD had manipulated her comments so badly and made her out to be such a raging b*tch that everyone hated the mom. The bride said her mother was absolutely not that way in real life and that is was all fake, created for drama and ratings.

When you see how this young woman just squanders away almost 13000 dollars on a Second wedding dress, even way after the wedding, I think it's safe to say something good is missing in her personality. She comes across as more than selfish. The USA has done a fine job in creating a whole generation full of respectless little brats, for whom everything is about me, myself and I.

i would like the dress she chose much better if the bodice had a liner so you can't see the boning. but that's pnina's style, take a lingerie corset from frederick's of hollywood, add a skirt and run it through the bedazzler, call it a wedding dress and sell it for the price of a secondhand luxury sedan.

Pnina probably paid them to show their dresses on the TV show. Can't be mad at them for that.

I honestly hated the second dress. I prefer more structure in the bodice. I didn’t find the second one flattering on her.

@@SuperUsername147 i think she meant 2nd *to last* dress, the one with the lacy bits on the shoulders.

Why would anyone want to look sexy and skanky at their wedding as a source of pride? It's a wedding not a streetwalker's convention.

@@dietotaku 🤦‍♀️ Read her comment completely wrong. Thanks!

His designs beat out Pnina on class and elegance. Too bad they always push her designs instead of his.

Both of them are designers and in the business so no matter whose dress is selling, both of them are winning

With unlimited budget they could easily find a dress they both like, even detachable ones..mum was really sad because probably she had always dreamt of her daughter's wedding. And she actually loved the original dress her daughter wore.

There was a weird vibe, wasn’t there?

She should have just eloped and been done with it. Instead, she's going through the hassle and espense of a wedding after she already got married. WHYYYYY??? Braincells have been lost here.

Would you please tell me what eloped means? English is not my first language

@@glacessadry9988 Run away to have a private wedding with just the two of them instead of having a big wedding with all the drama, family & loads of guests

@@allisonjames2923 thank you !! ♥️

I don't think that greyish fluted skirt dress was anywhere near being worth $18,000 though. For that price you would expect something less plain than the top of it was.

I felt so bad for her mom💔😭