Carrie Asks Mr. Big Why He Didn't Pick Her | Sex and the City | HBO 

Sorry They were never The Way We Were

Absolutely no! These women are complete hypocrites ! Thank God Samantha said no.

@@garnwalkerstables Prove it.

What I can't understand is no one has ever noticed these women have no family.

Zerty

Lol😂😂

😂😂😂 so good and true

Or the one who he’s glad got away. It wreaked of desperation.

This is great! Well said! You should write advice columns - not Carrie Bradshaw!

I love this comment!Precious!

Yes and I hope Carrie was not so forgiving towards him . So many chances .. in a way I lost respect for her. And I wonder always is it Big she loved or his status?

Agreed! He seemed like a child in a man's body lol ...Aidan was sooo the one I wanted her to end up with

The mystery of life and relationships not always rationnal

no..

it did not happen because Carrie is dumb

This

So true

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It’s how us women are

Want to marry, and want you physically is different

HE invited her?????

He clearly does want her if he’s leaving his fiancé to go talk to her

😂😂😂😂 it really is

Yes! Carrie was definitely a “pick-me”🤦‍♀️

Literally exactly what it is

and the HAIR STREAK!!!! the audacity

People show you who they are though. If that was Mr. Big’s priority, it’s good Natasha saw it. And it will be clearer onward that he may not have his priorities aligned with her.

Both women knew full well what kind of guy they were getting involved with.

@@TrueWalker88 Carrie, yes, but Natasha, I'm not so sure. We didn't really see their relationship.

When it came to dating and relationships Carrie's morals weren't the best. She did what she wanted without regard to how it would affect others. This the same Carrie that cheated on Aiden and began an affair with that woman's husband. So rude is an understatement.

You’re speaking the truth. Seen this happen in real life with people who complain about crazy ex but then never realize it’s them that likes drama

Literally

If you'd seen the movie The Way We Were you would have got it.

Well said! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@@jessethepersiankitty2377I know that’s the reference but I feel like even if you haven’t seen it, this analysis isn’t wrong, right?

Well it wouldn’t be the first time she stalked him.

It’s always got to be about Carrie or she just ain’t interested

Then why she walking the other way when she finished talking to him 🤔

Yep. It was a low class thing to do showing up there.

The way she made eye contact with Natasha and then touched his face, she totally did it on purpose.

100%

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I KNOW RIGHT

Why? He didn’t do anything.

That part 😂💯

@@susanparsons9365 then go marry someone who accepts that and doesnt do anything to stop a woman from touching him. You have low standards

Period. ❤

She looks ok.

@@joanie3452 your opinion

That girl is more beautiful

A healthy horse

Yes, she does

That is because she had no respect to herself she should have left him the first time he disrespected her. Women should never run after men.

@@veganrunner5634 no one should run after anyone who doesn't show them respect.

🙂 Mmmm. Not sure you think about that, when crazily obsessed with the MrB who flits through your life. In hindsight comes into play here..

I don’t think he disrespected here. She wanted more and pushed.

Well said

Beautifully said

I agree! Carrie is such a well-written character. She’s completely rooted in reality.

Spot on!

Well Carrie's dad abandoned her when she was a child so it's understandable that she dealt with insecurity etc.

@universal Oh yes..I forgot🤭 Same sentiment though. Thank-you

@universal Corrected 🙂

This just shows how toxic and selfish Carrie is. She shows up (in a white dress, no less) to his engagement party and demands to know why he didn't choose her? UGH

Speak now or forever hold your peace

Actually it was Natasha who didn't act right. She saw that Big and Carry had loooooooots of unfinished business between them. Carry was abused by Big for a long time. And got discarded after years of stringing on. She felt hurt, and naturally had a surge to find out why he did it. Big didn't cut their cord either. He damaged both Carrie and Natasha. Typical narcissistic triangulation.

But Carrie didn’t love Aidan. She settled for him because she could not have Big at that moment. Would you rather the message was women should settle for the nice guy and hope to cheat with the guy they actually love and want to be with when they can but stick with the nice guy for security?

@@barboralitvanova5111 I would have preferred the message be that healthy relationships can be beautiful and romantic versus a codependent relationship filled with narcissistic abuse.

So true. I agree.

@@DarlingEbony Dear god people need to stop overusing the term narcissist. Just because someone doesn’t do what you want from them doesn’t mean they are abusive.

@@barboralitvanova5111 If you looked up the traits of a narcissist, you would see that Big fit the bill.

Me too !

They are the worst 😂😅

She had massive daddy issues and he called her ‘kid’

So were all of her relationships

@@AnnaSpatarwe all have mammy or daddy issues

I permed my hair because of her. Boy, did I get the praise! People still talk about my curly hair.

@@neshwhat702 I did too! 🤣🤣 I have really long black hair and it costed me 200 to perm it. But I loved every second of my big curly hair. I miss it alot haha

@@amandabre me too.

Didn't everyone

Then go do it

yes.. usually it's Natasha who is in white (on purpose), but this time, it's Carrie..

@@KishBish never thought of that, despite watching the series many times

@@KishBish I noticed that too. Also Natasha appears to be wearing black when she always wore white.

@@bettyrivers5503 yes!

@@chriscyjimflores2326 I hadn't noticed either until I heard MPK's commentary on the DVD set.. I was like ahhhh okay.. they wanted her to appear "beige", like Big said..

So disrespectful

Such a (lame) power play.

its a reference to a movie from the 70s lighten up ppl

Carrie is a bad mind gal

​@@townsendagency6780it's from the way we were with Barbra Streisand and Robert Redford, she called him Hubble

they are not from the same class, dating is fine, but never a marriage.

Jennifer, I had the exact same comment. Great minds think alike.

same ❤

I agree 💯💢💥!

That's exactly what a lot of people do. They either lie to themselves making the other the bad guy, wallow and read into everything to make themselves the bad guy, or have a healthy grieving process.

This is literally the only episode I've watched of the show. (I was surfing channels and stayed because of the movie references) Yesterday I saw posts on how Carrie was upset about Big leaving his ex-wife a million dollars and my thoughts went back to this episode along with a rather scathing sentiment: Carrie Bradshaw must have been full of herself to believe that she was in the same league as Katie Morosky. Or course, perhaps it's an unfair feeling to have, I don't watch the show after all.

She has a point though. He dated Carrie, even when he had access to a thousand young hot women, so he had to be attracted to her. That was never the issue. It was more about conflicting personalities and goals. Carrie is saying that if she was more complacent and "easier" for him to deal with, he might have chosen her. Sounds plausible to me.

@@fayepatrice1672 she was also needy and created drama all the time. They were a mess. He was distant, she pushed too hard and wouldn’t never let the little things go. This is just her convincing herself that she wasn’t the problem. “It wasn’t that Big couldn’t handle my bs anymore. It’s that I was too free and independent and cool for him to handle so he ran off to someone who was way more boring than me. I’m amazing and better and everyone knows it.”

And she’s right

I' wouldn't be caught dead crashing his engagement party to another woman. Makes her look desperate and needy.

It must've taken some guts though and strong will to even go there, couldn't have been easy, sometimes just keeping away would have been the easier choice, maybe My problem is that she ends up forgiving him later, that should've never happened

Why bother changing city or planet ?? Just living my life would've been enough .

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I do agree! 🤯😩

if you think this is toxic you have been living in a bubble

It was such a great line!

@@DuckyB Similar scenery too. The marquee looks very similar to the one behind Hubble in the Way We Were. I wonder if they actually shot this scene from the same location!

@@Pacifica74 My favorite line was “He was like the country he lived in, everything came too easy for him. But at least he knew it”. Also “I’ve got pie”. Great movie!!!!

I never knew Hubble had another girl. Need to watch TWWW again

@Psychology major yeah, also she became successful with books and Vogue so he wasn't embarassed anymore

they are both terrible people, they deserve each other

@Psychology major Considering she had left the country with another man...You're wrong.

he definitely loved her years before.. he just didn't know how to show it.. and she wasn't ready to receive it back then anyway.. they both had to separate to grow..

@@c4rmen. I’m glad other people see this too

It's a phantasie! An entertaining show for ladies, get a grip!

@user-os2gm6hv9lwell said. Very dismissive and if tables were turned, they would have cried FOUL… incessantly 😂

No, that's desperation.

YES! I just noticed that she did that right in front of her!

RIGHT!

Big was always disrespectful to carrie but nobody talks about that. People only blame her.

Yup

Well that is mostly his mistake for being confused and complicated with all his choices. And mainly confusing Carrie.

omg yes that's the truth. big was just not into carrie.

@@qvdohaus7531 He was so not into her that he traveled to Paris to get her. Yep. That's not being into someone. Lol!

A guy that was "into" would have NEVER taken so many chances at losing her to 1, 2, 3 other eligible men. Lets not count the flings between Aiden, Aiden, Berger, and The Russian.

Are you a therapist? You probably should be

@@jacquiew.9165 lol he wasn’t into her he was just trynna get his working mule back, the only woman who would stand his bull for years.

and yet her rationality is floppin

In the real story, it did end like this.

and that's what you get from treating people good, perfect example

Carrie was awful to Aiden.

Aiden just doesn't have that spark

upper tier 9’s and 10’s dont want nice guys. Once I learned that, my dating life went from zero to hero status.

The heart wants what the heart wants

Can we talking sweetheart

I always thought the same. To Big, Carrie was a "good-time girl" but not wife material. I remember that episode where he didn't even want to introduce her to his friends

@@vegasgirl3538 or his mother. She had to stalk him at her church

@@Honeybees1005 Oh, wow, I'd forgotten about that one. And didn't he introduce her as a "friend" or something like that? He gave no indication that they were dating.

I agree with you

This is really the truth. The series rewrote the ending to make it otherwise, but he even hesitated on their wedding day.

I agree full on! I think some mistakes I made had to do with watching SITC.

@@Natalia-pc7fm who takes advice from a fictional show?

@@rebelraccoon9018 Oh, we've all been young and foolish at one point or another...

Big was the love of her life .

​@@rebelraccoon9018 why be rude??

😂😂😂

They married

@@MissTia777 Their marriage is a pure fantasy. That is why their relationship is criticized by the critics as it shows an unrealistic scenario and projects unrealistic expectations for viewers. It is that women will think that a man, who does not value them, will magically change their behavior and marry them. They just need to wait long enough (actually for years) and forgive a man everything. In real life, Carrie and Big would have never ended up together.

@@grgn7786 The whole show is fantasy. But it with all the roller coaster episodes between them, they still got married!

@@MissTia777 I understand your point. The thing is that in the first seasons the writers showed quite realistic character dynamics and struggles in their relationship, while the happy ending was forced and unnatural. There were no back story or character development done to make their marriage look less unrealistic and believable.

Can you tell me where I can watch the remastered version? 😊

@@marvinlagamia4046 hbo max

Where can you watch it?

On hbo I think

Women too... I just realized how much Carrie is like my ex..... And nooo that's not an attractive thing..... 😅

You know that the character doesn’t choose the symbolism but the writers? They chose to portray her as the jilted bride, to drive the message home to the viewer. It was subtle enough, she didn’t show up in a long gown and a veil lol.

@@mystaminacantakethis No 💩😒. Your comment doesn’t change anything.

More like ridiculous

​@@champagnexoxo1198 yep, ridiculous

more like weird and gross

Not savage, more like desperate and stalkerish.

No, it just showed how crazy and desperate she was. It achieved nothing. Fiancee went on and lived her life and din't give a hoot.

Can you elaborate further please

@@CC-2020 Men will tell you they want women who are "trouble free," but they tend to keep returning to women who are "trouble." "The trouble with trouble is that it starts out as fun." Men keep remembering the "fun" and not the "trouble," so they stick out the relationship, living for the fun moments no matter how brief they are.

@user-os2gm6hv9l Yes, I have been through therapy and even dated a therapist who was a big help, but he had his own issues. Don't we all? My music (on RU-vid) is therapy for me. Best I've ever had. Take care!

That's wrong. They marry the good ones and cheat on those poor women with the dramatic ones . And that stems from not truly accepting themselves , and their troubled past . They need therapy.😊😊

Me too!! Masterful and seem less metaphor!

Like a horse?

Please don’t. Get over it. Wish you all the best.

That’s it I was reading the comments yes that’s it!

you should write a book

I agree- this is the saddest thing about the whole scene by a long shot!!! 😞

That horse is already dead

@@EB-tr2ly I think we would have heard if Sarah Jessica Parker had died.

@@cabooseabs6864 just wanted to say that this comment made me laugh out loud after a horrible day. thanks stranger

Comment is rude

He had plenty of issues too not just her

tamed doesnt always mean monogomy or straighten up...carrie is crazy and he couldnt keep up with her thats all so he married someone more tame is what shes trying to say

I mean that’s someone who needs to be tamed. She was “too much”

@@townsendagency6780 Yeah they didn’t mean tamed as in settling down, but tamed in her needy, desperate and crazy ways

Always control ✍🏻🍷👑🤑

Lol, maybe in India... Good luck gold digging you two 😂

He was fond of her, but he wasn’t in love with her at this point

So is your spelling

And women like Carrie are toxic.

Brandy Keller LOL!

😂🙃😉 Dangerous yes but exciting

@@mybarcelona95 im dead

I agree.

Big wasn’t some 20 year old kid in the dating scene. He was a 40+ successful businessman who had been married before. He knew exactly what he wanted and didn’t want.

@@msmilano7091 so by that logic fears and personal issues only apply to 20 year olds and once you hit 30 they evaporate?

I felt the same way.

@mystaminacantakethis If you've been working on personal growth and development in your 20s and 30s, then yeah, in your 40s and beyond, you know who you are and what you want. You've already "found yourself," resolved the majority of your personal hurts, corrected most of your destructive beliefs and behaviors, and moved from dramatic navel-gazing onto higher-level and more selfless problems. Big should be in that phase of life.

I’ve been the “Carrie” in this situation too….but for me, it was easier to just accept that I wasn’t “the one” & that he was in love with someone else. I mentally wished him well and left it there. He’s such a good guy so I figured his fiancé must be really special and I want that for him. He was always too good for me. He and I are still friends. We don’t hang out because that wouldn’t feel right, but when I run into him from time to time, we always laugh a lot, so it’s all good. It’s ok to not be the one for someone. It’s ok for them to love somebody else ….just as somebody else (the right person) will love you.

@@msmilano7091 it's not that easy for people. Heartbreak hurts. Not everyone can just say "oh well ".

@@rebelraccoon9018 Absolutely, I agree. That isn’t how I meant it to come across. My break up with my ex broke me ….it took a long time for me to move on from what happened. I will adore that man for the rest of my days. My point didn’t mean harm. In reference to the show, I was just trying to say that sometimes it’s not so complex…..It’s ok to accept that sometimes you just aren’t right for each other ….but you are right for somebody, even if it isn’t the person you want the most at the time

@@msmilano7091 so you did recover? please tell me yes. Im struggling a lot to accept that im not the one

@@danaesquilin-rosario3485 Yes. I’m really happy now. It has taken a long time, but I’m starting to find myself again. It wasn’t just slowly slowly feeling better, It was learning many lessons, & the kindness of other people who made me feel better and worthy as a person again. Obviously, I know I can’t rely on other people’s opinion of me for that, but it’s forced me to think about the way I look at the world and trust and accepting good things again. I learned that if I didn’t accept other people and other situations into my life, I would forever be in a place of sadness because I wasn’t moving on. Lockdown was a huge savour also, because I didn’t need to worry about bumping into him in the street, and that made me think about him a lot less. It was a really nice freedom. I realised how much happier I was when I didn’t think about him. Ironically, he was the first person I did bump into after comple quarantine ended, & we had a really nice chat. Holding on to bad things always seems like a waste of time and energy. When I was talking to him, I realised that my heart wasn’t racing & my head wasn’t spinning. The whole situation was just calm. I still see him around now, and we get along so well. I’ll always love him in a way, but I don’t want him back. I’m not that person anymore & neither is he. It does get better, you don’t need to put a timeline on it, or force yourself to feel or not feel anything that isn’t the truth to you….but don’t let yourself believe that you will always feel this way because you won’t. Life moves on and you go with it ( as corny as that sounds) Don’t let heartbreak become so familiar that it stays longer than it needs to. I wish you all the best, and If you need to chat, you can find me back here ❤️

Did she mean now he was married his fun was over? And what does the Hubble thing mean?

@@susanparsons9365 more like THEIR fun together was over lol. And I would tell you what it meant... But I'd rather just encourage you to go watch my favorite comfort show 😁😁

But she doesn't mean it.

Yes. Ultimately, Carrie was no better than Mr. Big. Both were childish and superficial and fed off or relationship dysfunction.

I hated her when she needed money for her apartment and came at Charlotte for not offering her any. Especially when she realized she spent tens of thousands of dollars on shoes. She could have owned her apartment for that. She likes to imagine that she's free spirited and unique, but she's a total conformist drama queen. I still like the show though, lol.

@@anwyn9846 wow... SO TRUE

Who wouldn't yell? Are you serious. That would make her more likable.

For me, it was the clothes, the way they talked about men and their friendship.

It was fun to watch. It was entertaining. That’s why.

Cause you were younger. The idiocy and self-absorbed behavior of Carrie is only relatable and tolerable when you're immature and dumb.