Another week, another video! Today's topic clears the confusion over the statement "you make being childfree your whole personality". Let's get this straight, a personality and lifestyle are two very different things.
At 40 years old, I think that my choice to be both single/unmarried and childfree was the best decision I have ever made. The thought of getting married and having children isn't suitable for me.
I just came back from an overseas trip, enjoying incredible museums, natural beauty, and with the person I love. When I got back to the airport, I was waiting for a rideshare, and a parent next to me had an autistic child who ran right out from her arms into traffic at the airport. Imagine me, being stressed out for 5 seconds, and this mom, being stressed out constantly, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year. Having to always worry about that child doing something ridiculously self-harmful. I'll pick my personal freedom over a genetic legacy, in 5 seconds.
Great video! People love to share until it’s a lifestyle that is different than the norm or something they don’t agree with. I don’t see that same energy or criticism for mommy bloggers who overshare about their children, invade their privacy, & potentially put them in danger by posting so much online. Yet people who are childfree & just want to create a community online since we are in the minority in society get the brunt of the criticism.
No one is trying to minimise the child free part of themselves. The point is that doesn’t encompass or define child free people. The decision to have children or not is a personal decision that we don’t want to be talking about or explaining to people who don’t understand all the time. The reason we have to keep talking about this is because of people who suffocate others by pushing societies expectations of them down their throats. So if anyone doesn’t want to hear about it then they shouldn’t click on this and let people make their own decisions in their personal lives.
I found that the desire to be child-free was a larger part of my consciousness in my early 30s when I was having to defend it all the time. Now in my late 30s I've stopped getting so much pressure because I've already entered that age where if I wanted to bear multiple children I'd be risking recessive genetic disorders, and the people who might pressure me know that. So that social pressure has eased, and now it's a different journey of navigating friendships. It's important to feel like we can talk about this without stigmatization because our friends who become mothers are understandably unavailable to their friends, especially during those early years before the kids go to school. Finding fellow child-free friends allows for us to give our friends who become mothers that space, and to go on with our lives enjoying the things that being child-free brings us.
I don’t know if I want to or if I’m ready to have children,I’m going through a lot of emotional trauma and I don’t want in inflict that on my children when I haven’t healed myself, I just don’t know.
I guess for me being childfree is a personality trait. I'm able to show empathy for the living and the unborn, and I refuse to bring a child into this world for no good reason other than to feed my own selfish ego.
'The few secluded spaces housed a population Calhoun called, "the beautiful ones." Generally guarded by one male, the females-and few males-inside the space didn't breed or fight or do anything but eat and groom and sleep. When the population started declining the beautiful ones were spared from violence and death, but had completely lost touch with social behaviors, including having sex or caring for their young.' ......... Society is dying 😑😑😑
Why do people who choose not to have children have to tell us they are happy. No one cares. Do what you like. It is like single women having to tell us they are happy, which they probably aren’t. No one cares.
I find this 100x more genuine than an exhausted, worn down parent desperately trying to compensate how much they love their kids when you can clearly see the regret written on their face.
