Welcome back to this weeks video! Today will be talking about and debunking this proposed idea that being childfree is just some passing trend. You know it and I know it...childfree is a lifelong decision.
When people call being childfree a trend, they seem to be forgetting that for generations, being childfree wasn't a choice. Women had to get married for financial reasons and birth control didn't exist. Even after birth control was invented, it wasn't widely accessible to women. Women had to get their husband's permission to get it. My sister got married in 1995. She and her husband had 3 children and she still had to get his written consent to get her tubes tied. Now that we as women have choices, we are choosing to opt out of the baby brigade. Being childfree is a much more deliberate choice than motherhood. Most children were not planned. People have sex and get pregnant. When a woman says that she doesn't want children, she has put a lot of thought into that decision.
As my years go on, I am happier that I am child-free. I would not want to harm my children by bringing them into this world. I wanted children when I was younger. Never happened. Here we are almost 8 billion people. Wars everywhere due to lack of resources...yes resources. I am barely surviving myself...I don't want to bring a child into poverty.
if I may add: I believe there is no lack of resources, just a lack of interest to distribute those resources so that everyone is provided for (food being one of those, for example).
@@sunshine8556 Yeah, because everyone in the west is rich. You clearly know nothing about our country. Childcare costs are astronomical. The only people who get help are those whose income is at the poverty level and even then they don't pay the entire bill.
The future bc being cf isnt a trend its a conscious life decision that had yrs of thought put into it. Being a parent is FOREVER and we dont take it lightly!
Soon-to-be 40 years old and I'm both single/unmarried and childfree. Dating and relationships are expensive ($200 a month). Getting married is expensive ($25 000) and having children is even more expensive ($500 000 form birth to 18). I work too hard for my money and I like having my extra money to myself and nobody else. I'm too selfish to spend my money on other people and I am not a giving person.
It's all good man! If YOU want that kind of life, have it. Spend your money only on yourself, don't give it to anyone. Be selfish and happy, you have my full support. YOU, your money, your life, your pleasure and your happiness are the most important.
Lovr you're video's kelsey li wll always support the childfree community it is one ofthe healthy fast growing community you are a great advocate for the childfree community
I said it before I will say it again you are teaching new information about being child free. In this day and age it makes so much sense to being child free by choice because of the amount of hatred, destruction and fascism. Keep up the good work Kelsey love the videos!
It is not a trend, it is an awakening. Yesterday I saw yet another presentation on climate crisis and yet again had an 'thankfully I do not have children who'll have to try to stay alive' moment. This awakening is obviously much faster in richer countries, all other countries are ... well, very problematic. These countries are also the ones that will be affected the most by climate change, economic inequality, pandemics etc, Economies in many countries are built in such a way that families, the large the better, are a must. You have kids, those kids often work within your business or not, contribute to the country=economy from a young age (what the rich countries would call, child labor), when someone becomes disabled/old/sick, family takes care of them financially and physically so the country doesn't have to think about the weak because family takes care of the weak. I live in Turkiye, I'm less-abled, my disability would be 200 dollars (they don't pay it because my sister makes enough to provide for me!!!)- I couldn't even live in the street for 200 a month and now I'm dependent on my poor sister for the rest of my life. If I had no sister, I'd be dead. State's argument? Get married and have kids. Husband = money, provider, kids = care taker.
Watching my older brother and older sister in their families struggle for childcare costs when they and their partners are way above the average wage income is crazy. Then I imagine myself on slightly above average income struggling even more. Why would I put my self through financial stress and constant worry. I always thought I wanted kids. I'm 31 now and I know clock is running, but I really do not care, not as much as I used to when I was late 20s. I feel really happy in my life and hope to find someone with a similar outlook to me 😊
The future. Raising a family isn't going to get an easier. It's only going to be more expensive, the world is going h3ll in regards to climate change, political divisions (just to name a few). Why would you bring a child into all this?
I wouldn't call it a trend , but it's definitely something that will never become the norm. The reason I say this is because it is my belief that most people don't have offspring consciously. Most offspring make it to earth through two undisciplined people "falling" for each other.
I agree. Most children are not planned. People just get pregnant and don't get abortions for various reasons. Of course, considering how many children are neglected, abused, and abandoned, we know that a vast number of people don't actually want to be parents and certainly aren't suitable to be parents.
I love how your a Christian and being childfree, because the stigma, assumptions we get isn't easy. Christians I think are getting used to us choosing to want to be a parent. Arguments are always go forth and multiply, procreation. 😢❤❤ Can be hard I really don't want kids, or even a child. 36 years old still single, praying for a husband who loves Jesus , he will be childfree, not want kids. Jessy typing ❤❤❤
Kids are beautiful, they are precious, but once being with them for 2 hrs I want to leave, noise, mess. You can't fully talk to the parent, you can always ask if there free without there kids, I wont hang out with children with adult, church I just put up with it, I know it's not long hr half at most. But yeah I love freedom to choose to go out, go to bed, not have to get babysitter, I don't have to choose kids over husband. Mental health can be an isuue. 😊
Exercise is very good for your body, so is not having kids because not having kids is very good for your body and mental health ,, find call it a trend ,, it's a healthy trend SO WHAT
Hey, I have been watching a few of your videos and can't help but come to like you greatly. I feel compelled to tell you this. Please dont take it the wrong way. There is great blessing in letting go of the control, of the need to know exactly the outcome of your life. But letting go and allowing nature or God, whatever you believe in, to bless you. There is great joy with being at peace with what your body is capable of doing and allowing it to do it, instead of fighting with it and doing everything to stop it functioning the way it was supposed to. There is no great joy without sacrifice, and being a mother is the greatest sacrifice of them all. The strongest bond we can experience is with our mothers and our children. There is nothing greater in this world than looking into your childs eyes for the first time. There is no greatest happiness without the greatest sacrifice. And you deserve in every way to experience that, the way your mother did when she first laid her eyes on you❤
