Demonstration: The Right & Wrong Way To Talk To Women 

Hey Alex, Would you like a productive picnic with me? 😄😄😄😄 I'll bring the sandwiches.

Hey Alex, I really appreciate this video. This helps me a lot because my biggest struggle right now is the "first phase" of approaching women. Lately your focus was more centered on relationships instead of "flirting" or pick up. I would really appreciate if you continue to do content like this that helps creating new relationships. Cheers!

By Chad, you meant the cameraman. Take him away and you get their uninhibited, natural responses. Saving face is all a woman cares about when she's on camera for the world to see, and even then, in the right environment (clubs, bars, or just TikTok in general), she will speak her mind completely. Female shame has disappeared from the West. At least the silver-lining is the women not worth approaching with all of the red flags in the world are more visible than a neon sign in a pitch black night sky. Social media has done a better job of vetting women for relationship material than any dating coach ever has. They tell on themselves all the time now. All you have to do is be awake to the truth of female nature.

@@jkfd97 If you're seeing this from a Christian perspective, everyone's a sinner, technically

Chad who?

Seems that you never approached a girl in your life.

I agree with @@ApexAL. I know a handsome (good) player and 9/10 the group accepts him no matter how big it is

And if she does l the talking abd doesn't ask you any questions, it's because she just likes the attention, not you.

Wrong. Women should do the majority of talking in every interaction with a man. The balance should be about 70%-30% in favour of the woman. Speaking is a woman's realm. If she feels assured enough to speak her mind and heart away in your presence, she is 100% interested in you. That is how women express solid interest in a person, not just romantically. But, of course, romantic interest is clearly visible by the content of said conversations along with things such as the obvious body language cues (hair-touching, body turned in the man's direction etc.) as well as other variables such as a higher-pitched voice. It is pretty simple to understand when a woman is interested in you when you understand female nature. It is even easier to know whether she is using you for attention and validation which is what the majority of women do for men. If she is not enthusiastically-engaged with you through her entire body's expression, she is not interested and it is time to move on. You do not negotiate desire at any time. It's either a hell-yes or a hell-no.

@@jkfd97 yea I agree, that's why all those videos about "how to tell if a girl likes you" are kind of pointless. Unless your very socially inept it's very obvious if a girl likes you

the problem is that they never have anything to actually talk about. men don't care about gossip or beauty advice or celebrities

@@jkfd97 look at my previous comment, they never have anything to say that interests men. men always have to pretend and keep listening to their drivel

Thank you 🤣🤣🤣🤣. This video is so cringe by alex

depending on your age range, communication is going to be extremely difficult. Women under 30 who have grown up with smartphones and social media tend to be more socially awkward in face to face encounters.

Totally. Way too much work.

thankfully, you dont need to have a PhD. Doing it a few dozen times and practicing and seeing what works, is fine enough^^

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I think she was just nervous, I doubt she was attracted to him

I also laugh when I’m nervous and uncomfortable and don’t know what to do, and I’m a girl so you are actually not right…

nope, if women don't know you they raraly laugh because of attraction or because they find something you said funny. Women use laughing as an ice breaker, mostly to defuse a somewhat awakward situation.

cope

@@XGoldenPhoenixX it's usually pretty easy to tell the difference between a nervous laugh and a flirtatious one. One will have a lot of smiling and eye contact, and the other will not

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Lol

And use tactical soap. And maintain frame

Yeah. Alexander is positivity-hustling in this video, sadly.

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there's a dwarf you should see

Yeah you're right want to see an average guy

@@teammj2855 I would like to see below average to be honest.

@@teammj2855 no, I want to see a less than average guy do it. If these techniques have been "proven" to work, then shouldn't they work even for guys who need to overcome the huddle of their undesirable appearance?

@@obviouslyasockpuppet 👌

Boyfriends are like trains. There'll always be another one along in a minute.

Never truly single, rarely truly in a relationship. You can eject that way, you could also respond with "hes not invited", "I have one too, let's not tell them", "if you were my girlfriend, you wouldnt talking to me, youd be with your boyfriend, so you would be talking to me", et cetera. "I have a boyfriend" could be genuinely true, it can be a rejection, and it can be a test. If you have thick skin, you have the social freedom to find out. A reinforcement from her is your opportunity to shrug your shoulders and say "meh, cant win em all, nice meeting you"

Thank you. That's the difference. Alex's is take Is ridiculous. Guys who look too deep at what was said are so low iq tbh. Truth is most interactions go well depending on the girls mood and how attractive you are.

@@loverofhumanity Agreed. The difference between approaching a single female vs a group of females is gigantic - the size of Mount Everest (the first metaphor that came to my mind)! Yes, the man in the video does say a few things wrong, the worst one being the assumption "you girls look like you know about the flea market", but the truth is he was facing an uphill struggle the second he approached the group. Anyone who has been out there "in the field" even for a day, or has even basic knowledge of male/female psychological differences, is well aware that a female alone often acts in a manner completely opposite vs being in a pack.

Can't say I've ever had a bad experience with a group of women. But I never approached them to get something from it, other than fun interaction. And when it's fun, things often turn out great. Because a group of women has got not one... Not two, but like... A whole group of those things. So it can set a great stage for getting into contact with a potentially interesting lady.

What a defeatist mentality

Yes if she likes your look then of course she's gonna be happy and willing to interact 😂💔

@@Takashii85 Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?

@@jkfd97 I'd rather be HAPPY! All about the mindset. It can make you do powerful things

@@Takashii85 Fine. But don't complain when truth comes calling and takes what it wants from you, regardless of whether it makes you happy or not. As long as you are prepared and satisfied with that, I can have no issue. That would make you a huge minority in that class of people however.

I was born in 1980, and my generation considers this mentally ill behaviour.

When they have a boyfriend they're the friendliest most outgoing people in the world, aren't they? Because they have a "safety net" in the interaction.

Two most common default answers used by a women to turn a man down: #1 - "I'm Busy" #2 "I have a boyfriend"

@@alexbrisbane3050 translation: "I'm full of s***"

Not really an interaction but I know what you mean xd

Best way to dodge a bullet - or more.

@@MightyElemental rethoric 🤣

It's also the best way to not meet anyone.

@@Youttubeuser20932 meeting randos in big W.E.I.R.D cities you have no real connections to is FKIN LAME!

The best relationships begin from organic interactions in public between men and women that _already_ confirm physical attractiveness in each other, not through cold approach or online dating apps. Example A: man sitting on a bench, waiting for his friend to arrive in town to go and hang out. Woman man finds attractive comes and sits on the same bench, they share some short eye-contact and a smile (revealing both find each other attractive) before she sits down. Woman pulls out a book. Man notices after a few seconds: "Lord of the Rings". Man's brain: "Wow, she's gorgeous _and_ likes my favourite book?!" Man: Wow, you have great taste in reading material. Woman: Oh, thanks! (nice smile). Man and woman proceed to have a great conversation and exchange contact info. Example B: Woman working at Starbucks on a quiet day, man is the only person in line waiting behind the current customer, both share eye contact and a little smile (again, mutual attraction) as she puts through the customer's payment. Man approaches the counter where woman eagerly greets him. Man: "Hey, how's your day going?" Woman: "It's going great, thanks. What can I get you today?" Man: "Hmm... how about you decide for me? I want the richest, most flavoursome coffee on the menu. I'm sure your opinion isn't the worst to ask for." Man and woman laugh playfully and share some more flirtatious exchanges and exchange contact info. Without the previous clear-and-obvious choosing signals/signs of attractiveness (the eye contact and smiles) between the two in both scenarios, the foundation of the interaction changes completely. Establishing an interaction with the _certainty_ that both participants like what they see in the other does half the work, the other half is just making the interaction fun, playful and flirtatious enough that sealing the contact info is all but a guarantee.

@@jkfd97 Nobody is gonna read all that. What are you, a scientist? 😂 Spend less time studying the science of engineering "natural" connections with potential partners and more time just living your life and taking the opportunities that arise.

random approaches almost never work.

@@icewallowkum1566 its a bit harder than when you got your first 3 boyfriends bud

@@Blox117this your attempt at banter?

Bro you keep posting the same comment over and over again. We get it man

That could be a good opinion opener. Do you think it's ok for a guy with multiple restraining orders to date underage women or is it better to wait for the orders to expire?

i think you are in denial since you are posting this comment over and over.

@@dwdwone wat

Why should they speak to people they don't want to talk to?

@@icewallowkum1566 probably so society doesn't degrade into anti social behavior and so that a generation of men don't grow up hating ♀

Yup you're correct and Alex is super annoying in this video trying to actually act as if it's some legitimate thing. It happens but I'd so rare. The reality is women use it as a cover as you said to reject unattractive men and keep them from talking to them. As smart as Alex is he sometimes has unusually low iq takes such as this one.

The media has an agenda and making our society friendlier and more cohesive isnt part of it. They prefer people isolated and fearful for some reason.

@@icewallowkum1566 because it's polite? If a stranger comes up to you in public and asks a question do you just ignore them?

What's a good response, then? "You're not just saying that to get rid of me, are you?"

@@trucid2 No that's just as bad, it screams of insecure and possessive. It's likely going to make her very uncomfortable. If you play it right, cool and charming, you can still get some taken girls if you just want a fun time with her lol, but tread lightly and slowly because if she really does have a bf and is loyal you'll probably just agitate her. A lot of guys won't care about that because they only want one thing from her anyway. All depends on who you are and who she is.

@@trucid2 The correct response is to be a man that women would enthusiastically cheat on their boyfriend/break their rules for. Simple as that.

@@KenshinPhoenix Every Western woman will cheat on her boyfriend/husband if he is not her hypergamous best.

And every woman has a "boyfriend" until you're attractive enough to her.

These days a lot of uploads are staged...uploaders are career yootoobers and there are a lot of them competing for audience and $$$.

@Salt Meister even them....

Check out social animal channel, he has authentic interactions, very cool channel

I don't intend any disrespect but you don't sound like you have a lot of experience approaching. The variability of outcome between interactions is much higher than the variability between optimising individual aspects of an interaction like the direction of approach. Which is to say that, yes, making yourself visible before you start talking to the girl is preferable, but that's not possible in all situations and if you don't manage it it's not necessarily the end of the world. The chances of her speeding up and running away are increased, sure, but it's nothing like 100%. Not approaching because you couldn't get a good angle on the other hand, that's a much bigger mistake.

@@shugyosha7924 The thing is, how you approach, if you get her think it is in her interest like if she lost things or hshe feels that you just want make a complement but you go directly on distance to give her room, than iyour irght. If you come very close after you approached her from behind, than you make her urn away for sure...so its all about how you play it.

@@ApexAL Playfulness is so essential in all romantic/sexual interactions between men and women. Good job for reminding us of that.

to interrupt a planned social gathering and have it go smoothly you have to be a bit manipulative actually beforehand otherwise it can only be an in the moment accidental thing that you make the most of. Say have a friend you play frisbee with or ball catch with and just have your friend do a bad throw giving you a reason to interrupt them as you walk past and grab the ball and say excuse me ladies. Or it could be anything else, essentially you need to find a reason to be in their damn area that is not about imposing on them in order to impose on them while in the area of doing your own thing if they seem receptive once you do your greeting in passing. Maybe remark like jeeze he needs more practice huh?

Any man that thinks loyalty is a quality that any woman possesses in the West is in for a rude awakening sooner or later (usually the former).

Agree on the height. I would like to see a 5"6 guy like me doing the same thing

believe it or not, there's a difference between "bald" and "shaved head". Women (at least a significant portion of them) love guys with shaved heads. But if you're bald-ing and have the whole receding hairline thing going, it's a different story.

@@shaunsteele8244 True that. Im shaved myself actually :)

Wut? Nah bruv. Facts matter. She wants the day, she can have it. But grounded in reality. Being overbearing can be bad, yes. But being passionate and unwavering is generally seen as good, even if many don't like it.

Groups are way harder to approach, for sure.

He should've stuffed one of their sandwiches in his mouth.

Yes, never approach a group of females unless you are gigachad, and NEVER drool over the queen bee of the group, if posible ignore.

The guy was lame. He even said to the women he wanted to be elsewhere. Lol He wanted directions to a flea market so it wasn't as if he made any impression he wanted to be around the women. And a flea market? Just bizarre random nonsense. He could have said "I'm looking for the NASA rocket launch site. I heard it's nearby." That would have been just as dumb as a flea market. 😄 It's so incongruous.

@@bobsmithy9024 if you watch the whole video on his channel intact it was a vlog to the flee market

He actually failed on the psychology, "you look like you know where the flea market is" sounds like "nice clothes, where did you get them, the trash can?" Which was just ignored entirely by the guy giving fake advice on dating. His help could hinder your chances, people are different, be yourself, keep calm and go in with the frame of reference of the feeling when an ugly(by your personal standards) chick was trying to seduce you, try not to be her, fluency in social interactions(being able to read the room) and knowing how your words sound("you are cute" or pretty can sound as an insult if the other person is in that "mean girls"(the movie) mood) is advisable, men and women want the same thing, a happy life with someone to do the dishes and cook, with some fun on the side, that is why men prefer a trad wife, and women, wealthy (and fateful) people who can afford a maid. Be the others missing piece and everyone gets happy, expect to receive as much as you give or be disappointed when you want much more, flee when recieving much less.

It means you should leave her alone, she is either taken or not interested, move on!

yeah I agree, I’ve seen way worse than this

You should have become his understudy. Probably the only useful thing you would have learned in college, nowadays.

Fantastic comment. Every standard interaction with a woman is naturally going to be feelings-based, it's up to you to be able to navigate those feelings with her and create an environment where her words _feel_ validated and justified in being said to you. Keep in mind, this is _not_ an approach you take with Western women. This is an approach you reserve for women of genuine relationship quality, in a culture that allows monogamy to exist. Do not disgrace such natural fantastic harmony between the sexes by wasting time on trying it with less woman and more man-with-tits. Only truly feminine and pure women should have the luxury of feeling truly listened to and themselves valued enough by a man to have their emotions validated and navigated with care and attention with him. Do not hand out this special, exclusive behaviour for free, because it is priceless.

Another thing. 1% of the world might like you. Maybe less. Don't take it personal. Take care of the ones that do.

I feel that 😔

Hate to say it but, I’d have to agree. Women are starting to catch on to this and are actually coming up to guys. (Happened to me a few times)

@@P9rkour90 but that is a passive way that leaves you no choice what woman you will be interacting with

I’ve always done that and now I’m a 33 years old virgin…

Great comment wise man.

Exactly. Already approaching a woman in a 1 vs 1 is tough as F. But 4-5 of them. You will in 99.99% of the case be the fool they will laugh about. And what's worst is that you are an annoyance to their eyes and they are waiting only for you to gtfo. Like you could tell they were stopping what they were doing and resuming it when he left ... I think these pickup artists pour vitriol on this by showing videos on RU-vid how they nail it ...

Yeah, women now a days put dating last, friends are usually first, sometimes family is first but those two are close.

@@sethaldrich6902 women have always put friends and family first. Why wouldn’t they?

You don't interrupt somebody's picnic, I'd have thought common sense would have told you that. Shook my head as soon as I saw the thumbnail

@@Englishsea24 Nah, pickup is pickup. You take your shot and move on if needed. But a group of 4 is tough, but doable.

@Brandon Letzco Small dog - or even a small child!

Nope. I've done many approaches myself and this one looked very real. You can see she was fully in the moment. When you are honest and say what you are about, girls will pretty much always stop and talk to you. Out of the maybe 300 approaches (roughly) that I have done, I can only remember 2 girls that did not stop and/or ignored me

Maybe there's something you're doing wrong bro because it's definitely possible to get a warm convo. And just like dude above me said, a lot of these warm convos don't really go anywhere but it was a very plesant and stimulating chat

@@simontmn Evan a ferrett.

Nah, there are women who are polite and will stop and respond.

Your comment is very accurate. The only thing going through the minds of those women on an instinctual level is "this guy is nowhere near attractive enough for me". It's a subconscious process that dictates the entire future of a relationship or whether one even occurs in the first place. Briffault's Law. If the women doesn't benefit, no association takes place, and women only benefit when a man is superior to them, which nowadays means physically/alpha-fucks side of sexual strategy because they are their own providers/beta-bucks side of sexual strategy.

How do you know another man is a 5 outta 10 in sexual attractiveness bro?

@@icewallowkum1566 Because he is secure in his masculinity and can evaluate a man rationally and objectively without feeling like a closet homosexual. If that makes you feel uncomfortable, that's far more telling of you than it is about other men. Face your demon.

@@icewallowkum1566 maybe he watches Wheat Waffles.

If they are 6 or 7/10 then chances are they get a lot of attention from men. A girl doesn't need to look like a super model to be physically attractive.

but he's tall... and he's got a camera guy following him around. At least a few women's interest would be piqued

I agree but I still don't know how you would escalate after the opener, or even what would be a good opener because I still don't think his was optimal. Four girls sitting down having a picnic in a closed position, that's difficult to work with.

@@soulextinguisher You didn’t read my whole comment above, it’s an easy transition. Most attractive women are out with the friends, so approaching them while with friends is necessary generally.

You sound like such a hero...so much that it's sickening. The cold approach doesn't always fail.

The part you said i wasnt interested got you prob. To me that feels like some form of anger, or trying to be masculine. Or whatever, not tryna to attack you

Underrated comment 😆

Attractive as in good looking, rich and socially calibrated, not just about looks

@@TheSchemer1 Looks are your resume, money and personality/social skills are the job. If you don't have good looks the other 2 won't matter.

@@EdmontonRails stealing this comment, good analogy

True to a degree, fine. Constantly commenting and thinking this will not help you, though. Majority of normal women care more about your personality. So, if you're ugly, yes, you have to actually work hard to make yourself likeable. Big boo hoo. Get out of that victim mindset.

Agree completley. Neither joke was funny and came off as sarcastic and judgemental. The whole interaction was cringy and awkward.

It kind of gives off an impression of a guy who is done with investing in the act and is focused on subtly venting his frustrations and indifference out during it instead. Wouldn't be surprised if he stopped doing these in the near-future, and I've never even watched him before.

@@williammkydde True

You me both