Women Are Blind To Their Own Dark Motives For Doing This 

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It reminds me of when Emily King said "men were taught their entire lives how to treat a woman but not what to expect from a woman, women were taught what to expect from a man but not how to treat a man.

its ironic how she talks about not "coddling male fragility" when she is posting about how emotional fragile she is and needs to insult everyone online as a way of coping and expecting people to coddle her.

“Stop making it about you” - she says, because she wants it all to be about her. There’s no conversation available here, this woman is a tyrant and wants to be the only voice in the room, and when any guy dares to share his perspective, she gets full of rage. This is nothing but extreme narcissism.

I've heard about the "fragile male ego" my entire life, yet all one has to do is comment on a woman's weight, big feet/nose/butt/stomach, et cetera or her vile personality, and her day/week/life is ruined.

Social Media is rubbish. And all the people that slided into her DMs agreeing with her are the reason why we derail more and more into this insane reality.

Treat this woman EXACTLY as she deserves. Laugh at her and then ignore her.

"Women never appreciate mens' sacrifices" absolutely spot on!!!!

"I get pissed off when I'm dealing with incompetence!" Which is why she's angry 100% of the time, because no matter where you go, there you are.

Shouting at men to "don't make everything about you" while making everything about you... You cannot make this sh*t up.

Women: "Men don't share their emotions!" Women when men share our emotions: this video

I was assigned a female divorce judge and ended up losing 70% of my money, assets, and home equity in my UK divorce, despite us only having 1 kid and her earning more than me. This video helps to explain a lot of what happened. Men are see as sacrificial or expendable.

Well explained, Alexander. Women are truly their own worst enemies, and they don't even realize it.

When a man acts like a woman, it's seen as a weakness/insult. When a woman acts like a man, it's seen as a strength. This tells you everything you need to know as to which sex needs to lead and which needs to follow.

"Most women do not want to deal with male pain if it interferes with the satisfaction of female desire." - bell hooks

"I posted 'Men Are Garbage' on my friends Instagram because I had a sexist experience happen to me that night.." "Men need to stop derailing the conversation when women say 'Men Are Garbage', and stop making it about their feelings.." The fact that these statements can be made openly in this manner is a testament to which group of people in this country are truly discriminated against the most. Forget race..forget ethnicity and nationalty..it's MEN. It's Men in general, regardless of our race, ethnicity, nationalty, it's Men who are openly and publicly being discriminated against in the most disrespectful ways, and it's just accepted as normal. No one bats an eye at the above statements she made. Could you imagine the outrage if the statement she made was: "Black people need to stop derailing the conversation when we say 'Black People Are Garbage'..." Imagine the outrage and backlash that it would create if she made a video to complain, and started it off with that statement. And then continued with: "I posted 'Black People Are Garbage' on my friend's Instagram because I had a really bad experience with a black person that night.." The nerve it would take to make a video like that would be astronomical! The outrage in response to it would be absolutely savage. She'd probably have to go into hiding. It simply would not be tolerated. But since her video is about Men, no one bats an eye. I can't help that I'm a man anymore than I can help that I'm black. And the same goes for white men, Latino men, Asian men, etc. We can't help that we are Men anymore than we can help what race we are. So why in the hell do we tolerate statements like hers being made?? Why aren't those statements getting the same kind of energy that openly disrespectful statements about our race would get? This is an extremely disturbing and disgusting thing that we as Men are so tolerant of the disrespect, discrimination, and open and boldface blatant misandrist sexism that is leveled against us that we don't even bat an eye at anymore. We just take it, and it's just a normal thing now that we can be treated with such disrespect by the very people who actually depend on us for their protection and all of the comforts of society that they have. No one reaps the benefits of civilized society more than women, and civilized society would not function and thrive without Men. But Men Are Garbage.

The whole gratitude thing makes sense. I have to give my wife a lot of credit here. She does express gratitude a lot. Whenever I do the yard, any kind of project, smoke/grill something for dinner, help with anything else, she'll always make a point of thanking me for it. But I think a lot of this comes from her upbringing.

"No one is coming to rescue you" - Always remember that gentlemen, ALWAYS remember that.

'It's not my job to coddle your male fragility' okay what if we called all women trash? If women went through what the average man goes through then the suicide rates would go through the roof. Just ask Norah Vincent.

2024 and she's still single and angrily clapping, yelling and being ignored.

I am a woman and am glad you put this video out there.

"why cant men just accept that they are garbage like i say they are?" unbelievable

Men have given up on expecting gratitude, which is why many settle for just being left alone by going their own way.

I see a lot of women on social media constantly posting things downing men or about their toxicity and when someone doesn't agree they get enraged then block them

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her..

I dated a girl, like this... She thought I was blindly supposed to support, her dumb ideas.. Just cuz we dated?!?

pure, unadulterated narcissism

In all honesty whenever I tell my wife these things she fights tooth and nail to deny, distract and destroy the conversation. She knows exactly what I'm saying and exactly what she's doing. The only thing that helped was to disengage on certain fronts. I don't do things anymore unless I want to do them. I hold my ground if that upsets her and she learns she can't force me to do things her way

My last GF was an anxious wreck at times and she would dump all her problems on me in a realy ranting, animated way. Even though it wasn't directed at me, having that negative emotion erupt everytime we saw each other really effected me to the point i didn't want to talk to her some days. The problem was, i knew that sharing that with her, would only make her way more anxious and neurotic. I wanted to be there for her and loved that i made her feel calm and safe but she made me less happy. In the end i broke it off and it was a compkete surprise to her. Kind of a shitty thing to do but i knew that once i shared that i was unhappy being the outlet for all her emotional negativity that the fuse would be lit on our relationship.

“Better to live on the corner of a roof than a house shared with a contentious woman.” The absolute best thing to do if a woman (or child) behaves like that dangerously imbalanced woman is to ignore. She has the crazy eyes of a person who is throwing a temper tantrum to an imaginary audience. If she acted this way in real life around actual friends or acquaintances, she would absolutely be shunned for her bad behavior. She is looking to strangers on the internet to validate her feelings, probably because she doesn’t have good friends grounding her in real life. She’s still pretty enough that she’s getting preferential treatment by strangers, but the wall is going to slap this woman hard if she doesn’t learn how to make and keep friends. The internet is not your friends.

"I'm mad I got called out for my sexism" I translated her babble for everyone

Wow, that woman is literally insane. Nothing more to be said.

The duty to hold the relationship together doesn't just "Fall on us" I actively get shammed or ridiculed by my partner if it doesn't happen. Probably why I am going to be single soon. When one side carries all the responsibilities it just doesn't seem to be worth it any more.

Just reverse the genders and see how utterly insane all claims are she‘s making. Imagine a man saying: „When I‘m saying all women are trash, you must validate my experience and not make it about your feelings, you fragile woman! Also, try not to make points that prove me wrong about what I said about all women!! Just be my doormat and shut up!!!“

My late wife was a rare gem. She showed gratitude & appreciation all the time through her actions. For example, as a stay-at-home wife anytime she wanted to spend a bit of money on herself (ie some clothing, going out to lunch with a friend etc) she would always ring me at work & ask if it was ok. That wasn't something I expected of her, nor was it something I ever asked her to do, & despite how many times I said to her she didn't need my permission, she would still always ask. To her it was a gesture of respect & appreciation. & let me tell you, having a wife who didn't have to do something but still chooses to do it for no other reason than to show her respect & appreciation made me feel more valued, more respected, more appreciated & more loved than you could imagine.

You are spot one. It physically hurts women to say thanks. When they do say it, it is never sincere. But, LOL, tell them how you are feeling. Bull. They don't want to hear it. Then you are accused of making everything about you. They simply do not care, end of story.

Important topic here guys! Take heed at the first signs of her feeling entitled, as this is NOT going to improve! If she has a hard time showing any genuine interest in your problems or achievements, do NOT fall into the trap of trying harder to please her. Do NOT start to believe that basic respect is the same as the absence of obvious contempt.

I still have no idea, why some individuals beleive that their feelings and "experiences" are the absolute representation of reality. And usually these people get offended the most when you call them out for it.

A few weeks ago I had a female in a YT comment actually tell me that there's "no such thing as misandry"

What a piece of work. That body language is spot on to what my 15 year old granddaughter looks like.

I heard someone (Rollo?) say women are Solipsistic. Had to look it up. Once I did a lot of stuff starting making sense. They live in their own world where they are the star of the movie and everyone else is a supporting role. No other emotions or hardships matter except their own. Everything they do wrong is someone else's fault.

Do not fall drunken to the "sweet elixer" of a woman's gratitude. She may briefly appreciate what you bring her. Find that dopamine hit from every other thing you do. Womens' manipulations include sweet words, gentle touch, a pleading face. They get what they want, no matter what. Don't get caught paying for it.

Literally just had a girl that I was dating for 3 months block me on all social media because I told her a video she posted was toxic. Which was some broad going off on men in some smart ass, insulting rant. This happened all last night 😂 Abundance mindset. Saved me a whole heap of trouble.

It took me 30 years of marriage to a high quality woman who insists on educating her men (me and our sons) about women's foibles - and here you understand all this at half my age!!! I thank God for you and your willingness (and obvious DESIRE) to be TRULY HELPFUL, which makes you a "bona fide" mental health resource in my book. :-) Please let me know if I can be helpful to your mission in any way (behind the scenes) (gather/curate/generate data, etc.)

I find it kinda unfair how a man has to work hard to be attractive to a woman and yet a man also has to love a woman unconditionally.

Im a homosexual man and I absolutely love your content. You're the only other person apart from myself who's ever voiced what I've also noticed about gender relations between men and women - specifically that women don't ever consider that each individual man has a unique inner world and interior subjectivity, and that like all people they desire to be known and connected with and valued for their interior lives. For the longest time I thought that I as a gay man was the only 'type' of person likely to actually notice this, given how abused and subjugated men are within heterosexual gender relations, I thought that my fellow gays were the only people ever likely to really come to appreciate the inner lives of men! Needless to say Im so glad that Ive found a genuinely conscious person talk about these subjects, its a pleasure listening to you talk. I also love that you said that men also self-abnegate! This particularly dynamic needs way more attention!

The average woman wants a man who is taller than her, stronger than her, smarter than her, richer than her, funnier than her, have a more stable temperament than her despite being shorter than him, weaker than him, dumber than him, poorer than him, more boring than him, and more psychotic than him. And she's worth it because she' thinks she's _the prize_

Her behavior perfectly mirrors the media

Everytime i brought up intimacy, it was always on me, that i didn't do the right stuff to get her in the mood, and i was shut down. But everytime she needed something, anything, if i said no or will see, i was again shut down. So she wanted all the benefits without doing anything or bare minimum. She actually said more than one occasion something like : isn't my presence enough ? I should've gave the same question back to her when she asked me to do or buy something. It's all about equality, right ? only if they gain from it.

Such women who take to social media sites and start mouthing off and being disrespectful tend to be the most narcissistic and toxic women. Avoid them at all cost because they are showing us their true colours and they don’t deserve a relationship with us genuine men. I’ve noticed the genuine women are starting to criticise these narcissistic women too and sticking up for us genuine men, which is a good thing.

What a sweet lovely woman in her soft feminine energy, it is just magical to witness.... lol!

We buried things deep deep down when we as men could no longer speak our minds with regards to women in the workplace, which began in the late 80s. With the onset of Oprah, then Hillary, men started getting punished in the workplace for making “offensive” comments that weren’t offensive. If a man made a constructive comment or criticism of a woman’s work performance, he was called out, humiliated and punished for being offensive. I saw and experienced the before, and then the onset, and then watched as men turned inwards distant and complacent. There was a major attack, and it became cross the board in the mid-90s which you were lectured about over whenever you started a job.

Once more, this video is a true masterpiece. Your ability to purposely repeat the core information throughout the video is so valuable. Amazing work 🙌

This is why I have long stopped being polite. Politeness just puts you at a disadvantage with insane people. That doesn't mean being rude. That simply means others have no *right* to respect from me, they must show they are worth it. Strangers do NOT deserve respect just for existing.

This is heartbreaking, and that girl’s tantrum is embarrassing and pathetic. She insults men and then tells a man it’s not about him… Really sucks how bad these women are making us all look. I’ve adored men my whole life and live as an advocate for divine masculine. I actually had no idea about any of this until my brother started sharing this type of content, including this video. To love a man is to know deeply what he wants and needs, the journey of the relationship is learning how to deliver. One thing that men do is make it look easy so we don’t realize how hard it really is. Love you guys

I think you should do a video on the tendency of women to hold men responsible and often directly accountable for their physical inadequacies(when compared to men in general). Often using contexts stemming entirely from biological differences as direct evidence of the patriarchy. For instance when asked something like "in what ways are men above women in this western society?" Common answers can include that women may feel scared when outside in the dark, especially alone, or that theres a wage gap based entirely on gender, or even that women are more likely to be sexually assaulted by men than men will be by women. All of those effects are caused by entirely biological circumstance and speak little toward the actual systematic oppression of women more so than common men. I dont think there's any evidence to suggest women systematically are oppressed more so than men. Saying women being scared to walk out alone at night is a form of their systematic oppression, is like a man saying him being scared to get married to a woman is a form of their systematic oppression. Or even abortions, since most women hardly seem to know what the term selective service even refers to.

That is one of the biggest deficits in relationships for men, the simple gratitude for the things we do for women. Often times that is all we want. We dont want a big deal, just a simple and real thank you for what you do for me. That will keep us going through some hard times in life with work and family stresses. When we know that the woman we love appreciates us and loves us we can go through hell and make it through the other side

I have listened to enough of these laydees to understand that 95% of them are simply not capable of Love. They can really only love a child that comes out of them (not another woman's child.) They see men as disposable, replacable ATMs. She values you about out as much as her iPhone.

I don't think she thinks you want less sex or prefer her over your friends. She is following a pattern she learned with her father, manipulation to get what she wants. It's about her needs taking precedence over yours. They smile, or pout, or gaslight as necessary. It's ingrained in their culture. Women either treat men as something to be worshiped and followed (i.e. Chad), or as an employee without emotions who derives all satisfaction from service (i.e. Mr. Beta Bucks).

Indifference can often be the worst form of hate

The reason she was so upset that about what that one guy said is that the people in the comment section were more interested in what he was saying than what she said in the original video.

Outstanding analysis and explanation! I'm 63 and only now am able to understand the underpinnings of my relationships with any woman, from my mother to girlfriends to ex-wives, thanks to your insight. I wish I would have learned this in my 20's... it might have circumvented a lot of grief in my life. Please keep up your excellent work!

Wow. *One man* got her this fired up? Pathetic.

What is WRONG with wanting MEN to behave like MEN precisely so WOMEN can behave like WOMEN and be the ones with feelings!? Female here, as much as I agree with a lot of your viewpoints because I have TRAINED myself to THINK and behave like a man because of my job, sometimes I wonder, why FIGHT instead of just ACCEPTING that this is female nature and that is how mother nature intended it to be!? Why fight the feminine urge to have feelings validated, to be heard, to be cherished? Men throughout history have had to PROVE they can be rational and can provide. If I wanted a partner that discussed feelings, I would MARRY A WOMAN.

My ex once agreed to make a motorcycle tour with me, i felt really lucky, checked the oil, and happily took her for a ride, when we passed the first town she told me that she wanted to go to a museum. *i facepalmed*. But i swear, she was not aware how she manipulated me into bringing her to a museum lol. In the end we argued so much that i got fed up and dropped her at the train station and continued the tour alone.

I had to shut her down. Her voice while screaming is unbearable... I am weak..

Before being separated I tried to debate and even everything out in a fair way that both could agree on. I admit I learned to do a lot of useful stuff that I decided to take on to share burdens. I never really felt appreciated but I always thought (still do...) that whining isn't acceptable. Now I still have to deal with her because of my son but I just don't care. I say what I want, what I like and don't like, when It can happen and it can't and amazingly (or not) dealing with her is a lot straightforward and pleasant than before. She is even more reasonable than ever. It's almost mind boggling, when I wanted to please I got nothing, now I don't care and things are better.

My wife told me very boldly one day, after we were married. Although I am not a whinger in any way, she told me that she never expected to hear another thing about my day. She would tell me about hers and I would listen. Fortunately, my 60~80 work weeks limited any possibility of either. I am just so sorry my children did not have more time with me, they told me latter how much it hurt them. I'm also glad she did not overhear them, women are very vengeful creatures.

I'm at a point in life when this hits me pretty hard. Actually I suffered the exact thing from yesterday to today. Thank you for your work.

I've learned most women do not appreciate what you do for them. I asked for a little gratitude once and she turned it around on me and said it was my fault for being too good to her. After her I checked out of the relationship game.

If you can lose it that bad because one person disagreed with you maybe it's time for some introspection. Unless you genuinely believe that sort of reaction is somehow normal or healthy.

Diana Fleischman's book How to Train Your Boyfriend is a great resource on this topic. The premise is that women subconscious apply behaviourism to get what they want from the men in their lives. Women instinctively treat men as instruments. I only have a slight disagreement, man was not really expected to silently support his wife. In most Western faiths the husband was recognised as the head of the household and his wife and children owed him obedience and adoration. So if he wanted something he could have it. Gender roles have changed under the threat of no-fault divorce and alimony. Now men are expected to support their women as beta-providers and ersatz-homemakers while women go through phases of promiscuity, motherhood/nesting and careerism.

this is the REALEST message i've heard in a long time. i'm LIVING this out right now in a rather unfortunate way.

A side note, many women find it unattractive when a guy complains or shows vast emotional spectrum. Some will even leave you and lose all respect they had for you if you cry in front of them. So yea you should let them know of your struggles just not too much.

Do nothing for them. Simple.

You touched on it for a second. If a man thinks a GF, or even a wife, will love him as much as his own mother - he's lying to himself from the beginning.

I am a man and I guess I am somehow contaminated by all this society psychology issues. Since I was a teenager I say to myself that I don't wanna get married, or have kids or even pets, ever. I wanna live for myself, not as any kind of provider to others, and I think this is not selfish at all.

We know no one cares or is going to rescue us as men we have to do it ourselves and never show that level of vulnerability with women they find it disgusting

If a woman doesn’t naturally feel obligated to fulfill her husband’s rights, then she is in no position to complain about her problems, which are all mostly self-inflicted. Men have woken up and are no longer falling for this garbage.

This was so refreshing. So many of the things he spoke about are off-limits in this narrow-minded, sexist society. A great listen.

The more I understand them the more determined I become to give them nothing. Nothing good can come from dealing with these selfish creatures.

And that was a reaction triggered by only ONE MAN 😂… imagine an entire army

In a digital landscape where so many channels are set up to just shame and humiliate women this was way more balanced. Good advice.

Women experiances first their feelings, that starts in the teenage periode. And if they dont grow above their own feelings, they will not live in anything else than their feelings. I feel this and that is all you will ever hear.

The projection level is crazy. The lack of self awareness is on par with a psychopath explaining to a dead body why the dead guy made her do it.

Nope, they know it.

Jedno z najlepszych wyjaśnień tego co się obecnie dzieje. Dziękuję!!

Thank you, Alexander. I'm just about done with the old me. The blue-pilled me. The version of me who concerns himself solely with the needs of others. I am learning now to take care of myself. And I've been doing a lot better since.

Man o man. How are we ever gonna fix this? The aggression, the entitlement, the laziness, the complete lack of reciprocity, how are we ever gonna have a genuine connection?

I remember coming home from an Army deployment to Iraq and having my wife ask me how it was. I told her in graphic terms mainly because I needed to get it off my chest. Big mistake. She didn't like that the difficulties she faced while I was gone were not even remotely comparable to what I had been through. Then she started implying that my experiences had damaged me and made me prone to violence. If I was honest, all she succeeded in doing was to expose my previously latent misogyny.

Thank you for this. It’s refreshing to hear you speak logic to all of this.

She will end up in a small apartment full of cats.

I had a woman tell me, “All men have to worry about is if a woman looks pretty and if she will cheat in a relationship.” 🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️

This empathy hierarchy extends to fathers, grandfathers, brothers, nephews, cousins, co-workers, strangers . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Sounds a lot like Borderline (BPD) - Codependent abusive relationships

The sadness i feel for the ones that said yes, we are garbeage

There is so much truth here. I had to find out these truths the hard way. Wish I had a channel like this when I was younger.

This video expresses my experience with women, in general, and my marriage better than anything I have seen or read. I certainly recognize the kind man he is describing here. I did all of those things and I see it in every man I know who is still married.

Alexander keeps experimenting with video editing and I'm here for it. Awesome video.

I'm not sure what's worse. The fact that she says men are garbage and then gets upset about one guy having feelings or the fact that two or three other guys agreed with her.