🗣IF THE SHOE DON’T FIT DON’T WEAR IT. This ain’t about your family dynamic if it played out right. But now we are in different times, step kids aren’t what they use to be and also they’re mothers aren’t either.
I married a single mother. She had 2 children. We had 1 child between us. I raised them as my own. Never had issues with any of that. They are all grown and I am their father not their donor. It doesn't always work out the way you discribed. My oldest was a girl. We had no problems. Treat them with respect and just love them. Becareful who you pick though.
He is telling young men things that they need to hear to avoid heartache later in life and prepare for what may happen, yes there are success stories but there are far more failures
But then wait.. and then they do call you dad. Kids say that because they can. To their biological parents, they say “I wish I was never born to you!” Immature brains lash out when they are not skilled at managing emotions.
It’s rare if you added value to a child’s life, that when they are a mature adult they will disown you. That only happens if you are not a man of character and they watched you send their Mother through hell.
You are right 100% on this. I’m 59 years old. I married a woman with four kids when I was 38. They were all grown up and out of the house except a 15-year-old teenager. We got divorced 4 1/2 years later. Everything you said Is true and correct. I wish this kind of content was around 21 years ago. I would never have made that mistake. All you younger men who read this comment, listen to what this man is saying.
After my father died, my mom had 3 of us when she met my stepdad. My stepdad raised, loved, and disciplined us as if we were his own. He put all of us through college without complaints. He is a older man now, and doesn't get around like he use to. All of us take care of him gratefully as he invested his money and heart into taking care of us. Your advice is solely contingent on the type of parents, kids, and environment that has been structured. It doesn't apply to most situations.
Yea your experience doesn’t apply to most situations because most today are horrible along with it was a different time when you grew up to now. Not worth it today
No, it does apply to most situations. Yours is the exception, if it's to even be believed. Also you listed how you all and your mother benefitted but not how the stepdad benefitted. Typical. 👎🏿 No way you can tell me he wouldn't have had a better life, finding a young, nubile woman for himself, who could give him his own children. Something doesn't add up. You're obviously hiding something and not telling the whole story. He sounds like a doormat.
When my dad married my mother she had one child from a previous marriage and he had five children from a previous marriage. I was the only child between the two of them. It was a strong family where he treated her son as his own as she did with his children. She took care of him until the day he passed and I took care of her until the day she passed. And we are still a strong family so... It's all in your maturity level and how you handle situations. Why tell others not to marry a woman who has children based on your own negative experience and outlook? Marry who you want to marry.
One key word you used is “maturity”. Unfortunately everybody don’t have that. When the wife don’t have it and she can be just as immature as the children you got problems!!!
J what about the woman your dad was previously married to? He abandoned that home and the integrity of being the man of that household. Or did another man assume that responsibility?
Well your situation ain't nothing like what he's talking about dude. Your parents didn't have other adults involved that were able to interfere with the other kid's decisions and the taking of sides. So it's a very different situation pal. Sorry for your loss.
@@JeremysRantsis the reasons for you the same that was presented in the video? I’m dating a single mom of two and I’m probably going to break things off with her, just need some encouragement to do so
Does he have kids to her own now? I hope they don't cuz it's not good he resent his marriage and unhappy married and continue to get her pregnant on his own dna with her.
I agree with him totally. I dropped a guy who had a baby by another woman. No baby drama for me. I want a life of romance, not a life where the man is is fighting with the child's mother about one thing or another.
things goes both ways. but I seen women married a guy with 3 kids with different women and expected he is different. month later they are pregnant and single hoping to find a good man to love them!!
I hear what OG is saying. Myself, I met my wife 30 years ago and we are still together. Our kids were 3 and 4 when we met. We have a third 18 year old together now in college. The older ones are now 35 and 34. Both married and successful. Of the 8 issues he spelled out I myself only had to deal with one of them and that one thing wasn't enough to break us up. Choose wisely and let your intentions and limits known before you commit. Show all of them love equally.
Right! As if it will be any different for single parent dads. Im not comin in from being a single lady to boom a new relationship and a kid. I wanna get to know my man more before kids are introduced. What if i somehow don’t find out he would make a terrible parent, legit until year four of marriage? Im just sayin, we won’t be turnin that oven on on honey moon night. We gon fry some shet up top and move along. Lol
Here's what happened to me once when i was dating a single mother. We had plans to go to a special event. I made all the reservations and spent the money to buy the tickets and have my suit cleaned and pressed and my car washed and polished. I took the day off of work and offered to pay the babysitter. We'll the night arrived and I drove to her house and just as we were about to leave, her 6 year old daughter suddenly says "Mommy I don't feel good" and was acting sick. The mother automatically believed her and she said we couldn't go and sent the babysitter home after I paid her. So there I was. Out $200, pissed off as hell, and feeling like a fool being dressed to the hilt just to sit on her couch and watch TV. Of course, an hour later, the little shit is up running around and playing. We broke up a week or so later and I've been sworn off single mothers ever since.
@@peloleoj691 my husband married me with six kids whose father is deceased, he helped to raise my kids as his own, my kids loved and respected him as their father, he is now deceased, he was a husband and father that is hard to find in this day and time of selfish evil people. No kids ask to come here and all kids should be loved and protected by adults.
As an older man I co-sign this message . He is telling young men things that they need to hear to avoid heartache later in life and prepare for what may happen, yes there are success stories but there are far more failures. I personally know a young lady sweet divorced but the daughter doesn't want the mom seeing anyone and fabricated two incidences against me. Our friends of 30 years had to check the mom because they know I would have never and they know of the daughters manipulation. I really like the mom but at the end of the day is the juice worth the squeeze? moms always side with the kids
I call bs. These same reasons don’t apply to most men with children because most men don’t have primary custody of the children. Obviously the preference for most women would be without, but the overwhelming majority of women will not exclude getting involved with a man with children as long as he has the situation under control meaning he’s financially resourceful, he displays good character, and he doesn’t allow the mother of the child or children to create drama.
I married a single mother for 10 years, had 3 more with her. we divorced now, and the children live with me, including her first one. But you are definitely right. Wont ever try that again.
He forgot to mention the BIGGEST PROBLEM with dating a single mother: if you separate, you could be on the hook paying CHILD SUPPORT, even though you're not the biological father 😡😡😡
Please explain to me how do you pay child support to a child who is not your biological child and your name is not on their birth certificate. I don’t know which country you are based but this doesn’t make any sense in the UK
All fact's.i raised my step daughter from 2 to 16 all the effort ,finances, sick days, school, bonding, dance practices etc . Divorce and at 16 yrs old her mom told her "he is not your real father it's me or him" "I'm the only blood you have make your choice". Haven't heard from her since.. she is 24 now and still don't hear from her.. fellas it's not worth it
Hey Bruh, I'm very sorry...I know it hurt you, still does I'm sure. But PLEASE move on and live YOUR life WITHOUT that burden. Again, sorry that happened to you.
@@Anitadamjanic you think thats messed up , i recently seen a situation where a guy was engaged to a woman and he adopted the kid since they were gonna get married and be a happy little family and a few months later she ended the engagement and took him to court for child support cuz legally he was now the kids father.
To the young guys, take this advice from an old guy. Find a traditional modest woman without children and be a traditional protective man. Start your own family from scratch and teach them traditional values. This advice will assist you greatly in the next step. Don’t get into debt.
I just tuned 20 I think imma die alone or gonna be a passport bro cause it ain't working I'm pretty buff I can bench 140KG workout 5 6 times a week but I feel invisable to woman
Why are you looking for women? That should be the least of your concerns. Women will come in due time. I'll tell you what worked for me: working out and always staying fit, you're already doing that so that's a good start. Have a job that allows you to save and get a car (as in own it , don't be making payments to someone else), read (books, not random stuff on the internet) so you'll have knowledge and a good vocabulary. At 20 I was invisible, couldn't get a date, in my mid 20s I started being with dozens of women every year. At 30 I'm in a great long term relationship, we're talking about marriage and children. It's so easy when you've done something with yourself, you just see women being interested. They're not as subtle as they think. But if you keep this "gonna die alone" mentality you won't get anywhere. Most guys have that so they stop even trying to go out there. So that's a bonus, there's very little competition when you mark every checkbox.
He's speaking wisdom. It is infuriating that people act like they don't understand principles of 'generally true,' and 'more likely than not.' It doesn't need to be true of every single mother. You may meet a tiger at an animal exhibit that you get to pet and touch without harm. Is that going to change your general disposition about loose tigers?!?!? NO!!! Generally speaking, it's not advisable.
if you are reasonable and sensible enough to see it youll probably find someone. i wish you luck. men are reasonable people, most of us dont operate in absolutes, if you have your life together and your lifestyle is that of a proper adult woman someone will notice.
@@vp2718 theres what people say, and theres what people do/respond to. i dont want to marry a single mom, but there is a part of me that responds positively to sensible, cooperative and wholesome women, fortunately and unfortunately im captive to it, and a lot of men out there are like that. the good thing is that in our time especially cooperative, sensible and wholesome single moms are super rare, so i can just make a blanket statement that i dont like single moms because ill never meet one, at least not in real life,--online in another continent or country is only where its possible. its a bit like women saying they dont like bad boys, but guess who they give free s3x giveaways to? or us sensible men saying we dont like sl*ts, but our worst nightmare is an honest sl*t who really likes us, then we just find ourselves saying yes.
Please watch my explanation of why I say these things 😏 3 Types of Single Mothers Men Should Avoid: And the 2 Other Types You Can Consider Marrying ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-AAiFQQOvQz8.html
I lucked out been married to a single mother for 9yrs Good kids I lead by example And I'm not looking to be first I understand her roll psychologically Furthermore You don't worry about it And if you love the woman and kids Don't sweat the small things Namastè
My dad (step-up father) married my mom with 3 children. He bought us 3 homes built from the ground. He just liked new stuff!! He is a great man who taught his boys how to be great men and his daughter wisdom and respect!! It's not always a bad narrative!!
I made this very clear to my son. He doesn’t have any kids. Do NOT bring any single moms around me whatsoever. My husband and his uncles already know so if they don’t get pass them, they are completely done. Don’t bring any foolishness to my doorstep. I will shut it down immediately. He met a girl who was homeschooled so she’s loud and out of control. She hasn’t been tainted by the world. My son says she’s still feeling her out so my husband will meet her 1st.
Thanks for the comment 😁👊🏾 But I think it would be more fair if you watch a more detail explanation on my thoughts ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dImWy3VCvc8.html Let me know what you think 🤔 😁👊🏾
Maybe 50 to 60 years ago it was noble to be a step father but absolutely not look at how men are losing everything and being used and cheated on and let's not talk about the false accusations not worth it at all for a used up woman
There was a time when I may have been willing to date a single mother. But since then I've researched marriage statistics, divorce court laws, and just generally opened my eyes as to how the majority of single mothers treat the men they get involved with. The men are often used at nothing more than a utility. I'm not talking about every individual case, I go my the norm, not the exception. And with that, I no longer have an interest in dating a single mother.
I think women can use this advice as well. I wish I knew you before I got married. I would have heeded this advice. Too many problems when the other person has a child and you don't. Preach on.
@@tringuyen7519 white knight!!! Knightly knight!! That’s right buster, you defend those those those sweeeeet loving single moms.. maybe someday you’ll get a kiss 🤣
My friend married a man with 8 children, she came.with 1 and they have 1 between both of them. She raised all the children , they went through all the stages go through. They all have decent careers. Took it from my friend who is an academic and an entrepreneur. Her husband worked a normal steady job,, never finished high school. Now she tells those who criticized her for marrying an uneducated man, with 8 children, that she has lawyers, accountants, mechanical and civil engineers for her business and Doctors on call. All her children. Never listen to other people when its comes to matters of love, follow your heart.
That is awesome, I love to hear these type of stories. But todays modern women don’t act like this. They have kids for monetary reasons. That is why we have the problems I described 😉
They watched the video because it s intelligent and mature to form an opinion and comment after you've heard the other side to the story, instead of jumping to conclusions. Smh.
My parents are still happy together after 45yrs, my mom had 3 children before marrying my dad and they had 3 of us together... We are 6 and couldn't have asked for better older siblings (my sister and 2 brothers), I'm 43 n now married to a man who has a son before marriage and we have 3 more kids together... And they love their big brother.
I feel for the children. Obviously, there are people who have a negative experiences and others who don’t. I’m sure my brother is wholeheartedly grateful for becoming a step father as he later on adopted his wife’s children and he views them as his children because they are. Those children deserve more and better and if the biological father isn’t going to step up or is unable to and provide that I am joyful another man who is well-equipped will. The children deserve more and better outside of the parents drama or situations.
all these sappy stories don't make up for the fact he would be better to start his own family. if the biological father doesn't step up that's single mommies problem. I feel for the suckers out here picking up the scraps from baby daddies.
With you own child, if you raise them right at least you have a fighting chance to get things straighten out. I have a sister she was difficult witness mom & dad growing up. She finally come more around to dad better when she got in her mid twenties and with mom ebb & flowed. To me my observation, she wished mom to an early death.
Or maybe ,they are the real heroes,who Stay and take care of their children! Men always talks about some are from the streets ,but are the same man that belong to the streets as well
Facts, I feel parents should date parents. If you aren't a parent don't settle for a single mother or a dude with kids already. You deserve to be first with a clean slate!
It’s not about deserve. It’s about if you can. It’s about who you meet and whether you want to give him or her up. Deserve implies that it is something inherently bad.
I know a woman who is well into her 40’s who is raising her husband’s little girl because the mother had passed. She take her role as a step-mother seriously. In this case, it seems like she could adopt if she wanted to. When the child is really young it can sometimes be easier.
Where are all the good men to step up, marry all these single moms, adopt all her children, work 3 full-time jobs, and give her all your money so she can be happy again?
Thanks for this great advice, as men mature and cultivate their worth, noticeable shifts occur in how women perceive and interact with them. It's crucial to remain steadfast in our purpose, dedicated to building a family guided by our faith. While love is a powerful force, it's essential to maintain a vigilant stance. We are, at our core, a spiritual family before a physical one. Prioritizing the well-being of our loved ones includes assessing their mental state, though it's important to recognize that it isn't our duty to solve all their problems or assume a parental role. Life is meant to be lived authentically, maximizing experiences for personal growth, fulfillment, and freedom. May God bless our journeys, amen."
I want to applaud this man for telling it like it is. Single mothers can be mad and stay mad! I married a single mother with two kids in my mid 20's and it was true hell! It's not worth it in my book. Like the guy in the video said, "you're on the bottom of the list concerning everything". When she got mad, she would tell her kids "don't speak to him" Of course they listened to their mother. Bottom line up front: Fellas, LEAVE THEM ALONE!!!!!!!!
Joseph and Mary had other children after Jesus. Mary not having other children is a Catholic Church false doctrine like the same as Mary ascended to heaven which is another lie. 😊 There is proof in the Bible of Jesus having siblings
To the 7 dudes this worked out for..great & congratulations 👏🏽! The Man STARTS with “I would not ADVISE”. Wish i had considered all this before i ONCE did it. No truer words spoken. PS, if your relationship with a single mother turned out so great, why would you even click on the video?? 🧐☝️
That goes both ways it's worse when you're dealing with baby mama drama. My sister has no children dated a guy with children it was a catastrophe. I truly believe it's a case by case basis every blended family don't go through that. I'm married to a wonderful man and he's not the father of any of my children but all of my children respect him because I've raised them with The WORD of God, morals, values, and how to be self-responsible Oh and by the way older doesn't always mean wiser, I know some young wise men and I also know some old fools
I can definitely see many of your points being true. Just know there is always the exception. I being one of them. My husband died 7 years ago and I just got remarried this year. My current husband has my full respect and should he feel the need to discipline my children I wouldn’t even think twice because of the man he is and my children were raised to have respect. There would be no back talk. As a married couple raising children we stand together and whatever disagreement we may have it’s for us to communicate away from the children. I would never give my child a reason to think it is ok to disrespect my husband.
You, my dear, is a welcome exception. You did not become a single mother out of POOR decision, it was because of life circumstances. That makes you, someone that is worth consideration for sure. I wish you and your family a happy health life. Thanks so much for sharing your story👍🏾👍🏾😁
You are a rarity among many former and present single mother's. You got to know and recognize in your new husband something most women don't recognize, or accept in a man? He's real role in this relationship with you and your children. Your comfort with your husband tells me that you two have a special bond, and you have each other's back! That's the key right there, that many single mother's just can't grasp? Congratulations to you and your husband on seeing what most don't!!! 🙏🙏🙏
Majority of comments here are men who raised another's child, not women who raised another woman's child. Males are falsely expected to raise another's, yet majority of single women without children prefer not 🚫 to date men with children, and are not expected to. I prefer no children, less drama.
@@atthismoment3006 *Moot, not mute. Perhaps don't try to be clever with your words if you don't even know how to construct a proper sentence in the first place.
SPREAD THE WORD to WEAR SOME DAMN CONDOMS & stop squirting yall seeds everywhere. It starts with yall, but too narrow minded to see it. Don't want 2b fathers, but too stupid to prevent it. No, don't ask a woman to get an abortion . . .THATS AZZ BACKWARDS!!!!
@@askanolderman you won't get cancelled as I see your advice is genuine and it is the truth. There are exceptions but the majority of these situations are difficult. It goes both ways too. The man's children can never really respect his wife and even if they did , there is always that enmity lurking. Some men and women get into such relationships without knowing the consequences so it is good that you are educating them. Atleast if anyone is willing to be a step father or mother they know what to most likely expect.
My brother has been married close to 30 years with a woman who had 5 kids before him. 3 of them were still minors when they got married. It depends on the woman if she's willing to work with him and vice versa.
Amen amen amen. They damn sho have some issues bruh. Not all but damn near all of them do. Secretly they'll b thinking of the kids father and n some cases they'll b wishing he hadn't dumped them and moved onto another woman. Real talk. Sho nuff sho nuff
It can work, there are current channels of married families whereby the mother or father has a child before and they all fit in well. Total respect and admiration for the other parent and siblings. All treated equally because their respect the marriage unity, have family values and standards, and happily fund ALL children. Even amicably and respectfully communicate with the child(ren) biological parent. True love and respect always wins. Your points stated sadly does happen, but it takes a certain maturity to achieve a rooted and grounded family unit!! ✌️
I agree with you 100% Sheena, it does take a large degree of maturity from ALL PARTIES involved. I see it work with many families, but unfortunately not the MAJORITY. My message is two folds, 1. First to men, to pick women who have made GOOD LIFE DECISIONS, Relationships are hard without extra baggage. Same advice to women. And 2. Message to women, STOP HAVING KIDS OUT OF WEDLOCK, it is a very serious and poor life decision, it benefits no one.
He makes valid points. It's amazing how people hear something they don't like and instead of accepting it doesn't apply to them, move on, and understand generalities, they pull out their Anecdotal instance or personal situation as a dispute to the fact the world is more than just your tiny piece of it.
This is a wise man. I am 48 when I was a young man my father and grandfather told me the same thing. Invest in the seed you planted so it becomes a tree full of fruit. Don’t wasting your resources on something you didn’t plant.
It is a male advisory channel as he says and that’s solid advice. Take your emotions out of it and listen to the logic in his argument. It’s a bad deal for most men especially for a man with no children. I had to talk my best friend out of moving out of state with a single mom who had 4 young kids and he had none. I wasn’t going to idly stand by and let him destroy his life by jumping out the window like that. He thanked me for it later.
Even with the bio dad dead a stepdad can run into some of these same problems especially not coming before the kid(s). I know there are some exceptions but I wouldn't advise this for any man whether father is dead or alive.
Still a no go. You’re still going to have the same problems. You’re still going to be spending your time energy and resources raising another mans child. Under no circumstances date a single mother.
To watch his own! Every son needs to hear these words regardless so they can meet the right decision without wasting years to figure it out like I did! Well said sir!!!
@@Sarah-Tordjman, No I would not delete it if you didn’t agree. I only delete personal attacks based on someone’s emotional triggers. I am very much open to all opinions. 😀
@@freddiestranger9783 And what about the old Caribbean women? Do you know how many of the men are raising children that are not their’s? Yeah, it goes both ways.
Great video. I'm trying to find more ways to avoid single mothers and not interact with them. I contemplated it and concluded a single mother's child would likely develop latent mental issues from an unsteady, spontaneous life. Also, single mothers have nothing to offer me a 18 year old virgin can't.
Idk bro. I was a single dad with two kids. My wife had one. We linked up and while tuff we made this work. Now we raise our teen we made and our other kids are grown now. No mans words should dictate your choices or path. You have the wheel.
@@willgridahmahiaini which means she doesn't know how to vet a man in the first place which usually means a lack of both situational awareness and social awareness and should be avoided at all cost.
Umm damn straight. Even if you're that said child's father you're no longer #1 because that's called being a good nurturing mother. If the man respects the woman for this he in turn will never see anyone in the family being rated #1 or #2.. because she will make kids and man #1 in a sense. But just remember this takes the man doing his part. More times than not that's where the problems come into a couples relationships... the supposable man acting like a child and showing a slight sign of Jealousy of a woman's children even if the man is the ACTUAL father of the children. No man would ever make a woman feel like she needs to pick between her man and her babies. It's not rocket science. Simple common sense.
I was a single mom of two when i get remarried, and i have no kids of him, but he loves them both and treat them well, and they too do the same. He proposed to know their father and to be in touch with him in order to confort him about the girl...never got real big prb, we're just happy family
Had a guy that on a second date showed up at my apartment door with his son. I don't have kids, never had kids and never wanted kids. I told him I'm not his mother, take him home and never come back. As a single woman with no kids, why do single father's think we want to be bothered with their kids??!!
Girl shut yo lying ass up. No men or single father behave this way. Your story would be more believable if you was the one tht brought your child over.
@@beats-by-skrill8925 I'm not a girl. And he did bring his kid to my home. I'm a baby boomer and men of my generation still kinda did things with their kids, not just make them and leave them to their mother's to raise and take care of and do things with.
I saw it happen with a friend of mine, he worked so hard and gave them the life they could only dream of before and he was kind, loyal, and an amazing father to those children and the only father they ever knew, she had a sister in rehab and she went to visit her and it turned out her ex-bf was there as well and she cheated on him for that ex, a 10-year relationship gone within the span of a couple of hours, after that she took whatever she could from him and left and NEVER let him see those kids, they were his sons and daughter in every way that truly mattered, it’s appalling to see step-parents that are more of a parent than their biological parents get their heart ripped out of their chest because their ex-SO is angry with them, don’t do it to yourself.
These are some of the hard, necessary, enlightening conversations that older and younger men ought to have continually. Single mothers generally give into sex easier, and use such as "unrestrained attractive bait", and this lures and subsequently clouds the judgement of many males. Keep up the enlightenment; for many young men don't have older/wiser males in their lives from which to receive advice and guidance.
I agree, and thanks for the comment 😁 but watch my other 2 short video to see what I am talking about in more detail. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dImWy3VCvc8.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EIlZeViX-7g.html
Although most of what he is saying is absolutely true I am thankful for my DAD. He wasn't my biological father but my DAD is my hero. When my mother left my Dad, I stayed with him and he became my guardian AND I was a teenage girl at the time.
To me, the 4th point is very dangerous! If the child is troublesome and does not like you because she's bitter about her father's absence, you can easily end up in jail on trumped up charges or she'll destroy the marriage one way or another. A female friend of mine introduced a single mother friend of hers to me (her child is now grown up and in her early 30s - a teacher by profession, single herself, very emotionally attached to her mom and staying with the mom!) Eventually, I had to back out of the idea. The woman's daughter is a stunner - too beautiful for my comfort. In fact, I fell in love with the daughter the very moment I set eyes on her picture on phone. I didn't even bother to meet her in person because I knew it would be difficult not to betray my admiration for her even in the presence of her mother. After meeting up with the said woman and exchanging phone numbers, I backed off. I hate scandals and couldn't stand the thought of going after the daughter instead of the mother. That was about 5years ago and I'm still single. Never called the woman on phone nor passed by her place though I ply her road everyday and not too far from my place.
Same applies to baby daddies. Women, dont marry babby daddies they are either sleeping with their X or baby mama drama will come through. Plus, he'll never be yours fully coz his heart will belong to his kid and a piece of it to his baby mama. Also, the child support will cut into both of your finances. So you'll have to worker extra hard to make up for it. Marry singles yall!
There's a distinction between baby daddy and single father. We don't get automatic custody. A man who has full custody of his children is a good guy. A baby daddy hardly sees their kids, so he has time to be in the streets.
@@geemai435 courts generally give kids to the mom. For the dad to get full custody she has to be down bad on paper and in real life. Guardian ad litems and judges don't just sever the mother child connection like that. The presiding presumption is tender years doctrine. If they weren't married the father has a long way to go to establish his custodial rights. And if the father wants 50 50 custody what's wrong with that? You want to just be an atm and an every other weekend dad?
I had a child when I married my exhusband. He’s remarried but when my son left for college his father dropped him off and my exhusband picked him up for Christmas break. There’s still a bond. My ex is a great dad to our daughter and his “son”. There’s always an outlier.
He's so correct. I married one with a daughter. When I was younger. She end up being a golddigger and thru me under the bus. Not good ordeal. Unless your older and the kids are out of the home then there is a possibility. Good video 😉😉
@@sunset2798 that’s one of the craziest things I’ve heard in a while. You can’t understand how a man who has raised a child, went to every basketball/soccer/football game, spent every Christmas, gave counsel to, possibly even walked her down the aisle, could develop an emotional connection to a child because they don’t happen to have his DNA?? That’s just crazy…
@@bcause8918 Me personally I couldn't do it knowing that they have a father especially if he's in their life, it always made me feel weird and uncomfortable. Why not find a great woman to have children with and do all of that with your own daughter. What real man that has no kids would even put his time and effort into someone else's offspring, that's insane if you ask me.
