Bride, Marissa, tells Jo and Al about her ongoing battle with depression and how it has held her back from being confident and outgoing. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
This struck a cord with me. Though I have never been a big girl, I have suffered with depression and not believing people when they tell me I look good or that I'm beautiful. To see her actually say she feels beautiful and that she's worth it makes me believe that there IS hope of getting through something as awful as depression
I'm in that battle right now too. I hope you're doing okay these days, my friend. Depression can be totally debilitating...i wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy
All my teens I never believed. I brushed it off in the EXACT same way. But we don't brush off when people say you're fat in the same way. We don't brush off mean comments in the same way, although we should.
Crazy K Butler I was just about to write this same thing. That I felt this on a deep level, as I have major depression and anxiety. I am so glad she found her dress. Yes, honey, you’re absolutely worth it!
Depression... "It's not something that can be cured by putting a dress on.." 1000% this, a smile won't fix it. A partner won't. Not will a job or house. The only thing that will is a change in mindset and chemicals. Don't think you can do it alone when your in that dark place. Get help. Your wanted and loved and deserve the best in the world so get the help you deserve so you can live the life you deserve you beautiful wonderful human *Edit- when I say chemical I mean the natural brain chemicals, if caught early enough they can be balanced back out, of not you may need medical help but neither is lesser than another, and always talk to your doctor. Antidepressants don't have to be a forever thing*
Wow I actually teared up a bit... I didn’t think i was worth being loved for who I am but those words really spoke to me! I hope you hear those words and believe yourself them as well!! God bless you and thanks for those words of encouragement I and others really need to hear that every once in a while!!!
Thank you for writing this. I cried while reading it. I have struggled with depression for almost 15 years. I have known about it since around 10 years. The first 5 years were during puberty and therefore were kind of burried under the general confusion and mood changes. Around 8 years ago I went into therapy for the first time, but I still believed I would kind of grow out of it and ditched it immediately after feeling better when I changed jobs and moved to a different city. Obviously it returned after around half a year. My whole life I have felt stuck, because the depression is holding me down. I am not able to use my abilities at all and constantly feel disappointed in myself. I am back to therapy now and even though I do not feel necessarily better yet I still feel how much it helps me. Just to be able to recognize things and being able to describe to people what I am feeling (in general it is actually a scary lack of emotions at all, I kind of shut them off during the last 10 years) helps me immensely. I will most definitely see it through this time! Also I always ask people to please understand that every depression is different. Every human is different and therefore everybody will experience depression differently. I never thought about suicide, but there were and are times I am not even able to get out of bed, and NO this is not a thing about will. Also suffering from depression does not automatically mean you had an awful childhood or you experienced something traumatic. Sometimes it is just there, sometimes it comes from within you. I am really sorry for that rant. I guess I really needed to express myself. If you read this far: thank you! And please remember when you struggle with something like this: you are NOT the only one and it is NOT your fault! Please get professional help! (Sorry again for that long message, also please note that English is a foreign language for me)
When my son was killed right before Thanksgiving, 2007, I went into such a black depression, I had no idea what was going on around me for ten months. I still today, March, 2020, have no idea how I worked, drove, did everyday things, during that time, but I did. I was told repeatedly by others, starting only 3 days after his death, that I needed to "snap out of it," and "He's dead, but you need to get on with your life," and other incredibly stupid, cruel things. I understand to some degree about depression, but mine was situational (it lasted almost exactly seven years before I finally did "come out of it"); I don't have any idea what it's like to be in it endlessly, but I know nobody has the right to tell a sufferer that he or she "should be out of it by now," or what to do for themselves....yes, changing one's activity level is a good start, and for some, medication (I have such severe allergies, no meds could be prescribed or used). But no matter what, Marissa, NOBODY should ever, ever walk by you and make a vile, hideous, mean comment such as "that looks absolutely terrible ("on you" usually ending the nasty, snarky remark)"!!! I'm not a physical person--I hate touching and being touched, that is--but that kind of thing would trigger me to "reach out and touch someone" by slapping them as hard as I could across the face!
I so love Jo and Al! Hands down ladies you two have taken "Say Yes to the Dress" from being cold and all about skinny brides to a show with a loving heart and beautiful ladies! I have watched as many episodes as I can find, and those I have watched over and over and over again! I love you girls! Bravo❣🤟👏
The dress she chose looks beautiful on her! Also, very brave to speak openly about depression as it affects more people than is spoken about. There is no shame. When she said she was, "Worth it." I replied, "Yes, you are!" to my screen! Society needs to stop guising insults in a veil of supposed concern for people's well-being. It is not helpful nor anyone's place to judge another. Your tribe will love you- no matter what. It is so easy to only believe the negative but the positive is more important!! Especially with Jo and Al- they truly want the best for their brides and give genuine opinions.
Bless her. Depression is such a hard thing to over come, I know first hand what it's like. She looked stunning in every dress and her husband to be is a lucky man. She was 100% right when she said "I'm worth it" .. because she is, and so is everyone regardless of shape, size, gender, nationality, anything.. everyone deserves to feel special and everyone is worth it xx Shan (australia) xx
I feel the pain she is feeling. People call u ugly without knowing your inner beauty. Hope one day i feel the same as she is experiencing. Feeling happy for her
She doesn't believe people calling her beautiful, but she easily believes that she's ugly.. We should never forget that there's only those people matter who love us, because they love us for what we are. You can't make everyone accept you and appreciate you anyway, so make yourself happy first. Aaand..haters can do one..😎 keep smiling, life is a bitch but you can do it💪☺️
Mehrish Saleem I know . I haven’t been out of my house except maybe to do the food shopping once a month, for six years. I haven’t got any friends. Im totally socially isolated. I feel so ugly and fat, it’s exhausting. I have no idea how to change my life🥺
@@malina1239 start step by step, day by day. Even if you feel lonely, there's professional help out there, who actually can help you. Give them a ring - like Samaritans, or Mind, but there's plenty local helps as well. And no, you're not ugly and not fat. You're just having a difficult time. But I know all of us can get up and go. We are good enough to move forward. It would be awesome to hear about you again. Let us know how's things going. Please seek out for help. You only fail if you stop trying.
@@malina1239 I was suffering with depression so much... And the only medicine I found within me is God! I pray so much to have something that keeps me moving forward... And day I woke up happy, with a peaceful mind and soul. I started listening to music, reading books, and with energy to exercise... Just don't give up, you'll find a solution just trust in yourself!!! 🙌🌺
can't come up with just one name Hi Can’t, ITA what kind of message do we send as a society that would make a beautiful young woman like this suffer from depression because she’s not a size 5?
@@barbarafischbach8480 depression is a problem within the brain, it isn't to do with how she looks. I have lived with anxiety for over 15 years, I am 29 so over half of my life. I am a size 10 but that has nothing to do with my anxiety, it is mostly under control now.
Stacey Kenny absolutely! Depression doesn’t always have a concrete reason. In this girl’s case it seems like it stems from what she considers excess weight. I totally understand. My lifelong battle too.
@can't come up with just one name Sometimes it has nothing to do with society, depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, hence anti depressants medication, those medications add to the extra component that the brain is missing, generally it's serotonin (the happy part). Yes society doesn't help the situation at all, but it would still be there regardless if she was a super model or 600kgs. Depression doesn't discriminate against anyone, it affects so many people.
@@shanniileah Antidepressants do nothing except in severe situations. The chemical imbalance that comes with depression happens as your body's natural defense mechanism to negative stimuli. Your mind is protecting you from further exposure to what caused the depression in the first place by making you not want to be around anyone or do anything. Because it's a naturally occurring element, it can be changed by changing your thought patterns and giving you better coping tools. There is always, 100%, a reason why depression happens. Doctors may not fully understand what's happening inside the brain, but getting to the core reason as to why the depression began can be found with some heavy duty investigating by a trained therapist who cares. The affects are all in the head, but usually the negative thoughts are brought on because of outside instigators. Most stemming from childhood trauma. In the video, for example, Marissa said she's been feeling depressed for around 2 years and it seems to mainly involve the opinions of others. If I were her therapist, I would have her talk about what happened in her life two years ago that might have triggered those thoughts and emotions. Did someone close to her -- or even a stranger -- tell her she looked ugly or said other demeaning things? Did a group of people chime in with similar negative opinions about her? Was the situation so overwhelming that she shut down completely? As someone who's been on antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds, I can tell you firsthand that the affects only last for a day or two, then stop, because your body has no idea what to do with it. It's all synthetic, which your body isn't familiar with. That's why, even with pain medicine like Tylenol or Advil, they come with horrible side effects that make taking them hardly worth it. Over 95% of people with depression can be cured without drugs. Doctors just tend to be lazy and prescribing drugs is the easiest way to get the patient out of their hair. Even my own therapist believes that medication should always be the very last resort.
I love how Jo can say such simpler things and make these beautiful young women feel confident. She just knows exactly what to say to make them look at themselves differently. The other lady lends the ear, and Jo changes the mindset
I love how in all of these episodes, you can see instantly when the brides found the right dress for her. They start glowing and you can tell that something just fall into place with the dress on. The look on their faces is amazing.
@@kearaxo Why did you feel the need to call someone a dumbass? I mean, they clearly communicated that they believed the budget is discussed off screen, perhaps the original commenter didn't know that? Why bother being rude for absolutely no reason?
there have been some episodes where they have and actually one dress was a bit over budget and they knocked it down so the bride could afford it T-T they're so great
been binge watching this series in particular. the two ladies working are the best -- they actually seem genuinely into each bride. also, the lady with the white hair has amazing taste. she knocks it out of the park every time!
I have to say, this girl is absolutely GORGEOUS and I hope she is doing better! She seems to be such a sweetheart and her smile is amazing and her face lights up when she smiles.
She could have been, but there's something special about this line of work. So many people go to a therapist to be told the same things, get medicine, and leave feeling just as bad as when they went in. Al has a gift for connecting with others on a very human level that shines better in a bridal salon than it ever would in an office.
She looks so beautiful honestly, I hope she’s reading all of these beautiful comments you guys are sending out there for her cuz sometimes hearing it from strangers can be a factor in really changing your perspective because she is honestly so pretty
this made me cry. it was so touching. she reminds me of myself-- ive never been able to see myself as beautiful. as long as i can remember, ive thought i wasnt pretty enough for a variety of reasons. this woman gives me hope that i will feel okay again
The same thing happened to me. My mom picked out a wedding dress for me to try, and I wrinkled my nose in disgust. Then I tried it on and fell in love. Didn’t even try another dress-it was the perfect one. It’s funny how different a dress can look on a hanger.
somehow ended up bawling my eyes out on this one. She's 100% worth it and I hope she can continue to feel that way. Never give up the fight, m'lady, you're amazing
Totally agree! I hate depression it's always weighing you down slowly from day by day to torture you...People always think it's just normal sadness but it's worst than that actually! But always,always know that you have a reason to live by Him and He knows that you're worth to enjoy life and deserves love and happiness so keep believing and stay strong always belive in yourself because no one knows that you're strong in both outside and within! I love you all even though you think I'm a stranger to you but to me you're my family and friend!❤️❤️❤️ Don't forget to smile okay?😄😘
I bust into tears when Marisa said I’m worth it 😭😭😭 your so beautiful 🥰 ... I too suffer with depression & been married 3 times, but Iv never worn a wedding dress iv never even tried 1 on, I think that’s why I binge watch these shows 🤷♀️ these 2 ladies are very special ❤️ Marisa your going to look stunning on your special day ❤️
I despise weddings and wedding dresses are the thing that interest me the least in fashion (wich i love) but this show is so wholesome i love it, i love how they take care of those women and try to boost their confidence.
I'm crying too 😭... So many young women are going thru depression ... Get counseling , all of our lives matter !! I pray this young woman , good health an Happiness !!✝️❤️
These two ladies! They're what everyone needs, big girls or even hour glass so called voluptuous normal ones too. Everyone needs them for a bit of self esteem, they sell. Love these consultants. The best EVER.
What I love about the bridal shop especially the loving lady with the white hair , has such love and knows how to make these beautiful heavy set women have confident and realize that beauty comes in different size and color. And they look gorgeous.
This is my FAVORITE Say Yes To The Dress! Al and Jo are amazing. They are truly experts at their crafts and truly care about their clients. I love the rapport in the relationship between them. Jo seems to be such a free spirit which reminds me of myself. I get a warm feeling with each episode I watch.
Really great to have a supportive family. I really relate to Marisa but just want anyone living with mental health issues to know, it can and will get better. You learn to live with it, CBT really helped me and exercise helps massively too, it has given me so much confidence.
“Quite a bit breathtaking actually”. Understatement of the year, love. GORGEOUS. I know depression is a jerk (there’s other words I can’t use on YT), but try not to listen to the lies it tells you. You’re stunning and smart and all of the things. ❤️
Two amazing women that are using their experience and expertise .....both professionally and personally.......and are in turn helping other along their journey as well........this is not just a bridal dress shop.........this is a haven......a respite.....and a place to feel restored and prepare for one of the most important days of their lives. Be blessed always.......Robb in the USA!!!
I can relate. If I think the worst of myself, then whatever awful things people think or say abt me would have no effect anymore. That's a tough mindset to get out of...
Of course your are worth it ! You are gorgeous ! Hope your wedding was as beautiful as you are and that you have many years of happiness with your other half . Gentle hugs .
I know how she feels about herself because I feel the same way about myself. I hope she can fight through the depression and start really feeling confident in herself someday. She's a very beautiful person inside and out.
Although I watch your channel all the time because I'm a curvy lady myself! I've seen a few bride's who just can't see they're beautiful! But when Marissa's whole face lite up! I cried cause after all she's been thru, she finally saw how absolutely stunning she was! I was so overcome with joy for her!! She's beautiful!!
